The Deadly Chode Sins of Attraction

The Deadly Chode Sins of Attraction        

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Check the boxes next to behaviors that apply to you Over-pursuing (calling too much and wanting a date more than she does)  Telegraphing  Telegraphing too much interest interest (more interest interest than than the woman is conveying) Rapport seeking too soon (ex.: Asking her name e!ore she"s hooked) #taring at women too much (a sign that you aren"t having sex) $acing her (seeking rapport) e!ore she"s earned it  Too  Too eager to pay pay attention such such as saying %&hat' i! you can"t can"t hear her prior to eing in rapport ecause you are too interested in what she is saying (instead stack openers to *avoid looking eager and to +appear more alpha since you are disinterested in what she is talking aout) Appearing more into her than your wingman with whom you"ve known longer and should value more (shows that you are too interested too soon) Attempting to win women over with vague compliments ,uali!ying onesel!  ermission seeking ehavior Reaction andor attention seeking /eing a people pleaser 0ot willing to lose someone"s approval 1oping or wishing that he is entertaining or !unny 2nds sentences seeking validation asking asking such things as %3s that ok' or %&hat do you think'  To  To weak and scared scared to say say %no %no Always asks !or permission Attention snaps when someone calls his name wanting his attention (eager to  4ump to someone when addressed) addressed)  Trying  Trying to act too sophisticated sophisticated (not laughing laughing or eing relaxed) relaxed) 5 overcompensating ecause o! sel!-dout #tanding with legs not 6 a meter apart at least ecause you are worried that you will in!ringe on other people"s personal space #peaking to so!tly ecause you are a!raid that you will impose yoursel! on people and their personal space #peaking to loudly ecause you are trying to seek attention or trying to e too alpha which is actually a eta-male 7uality that is considered considered overcompensating Overcompensating Overcompensating insecurities ecause o! a !ear o! not eing accepted (ex:  8anitor says %money %money is overrated overrated instead o! 4ust saying that they are are a 4anitor which was totally acceptale) O9ering too much aout yoursel! too soon or too early Revealing (veraliing) (veraliing) your accomplishments accomplishments high li!estyle assets or even  Revealing your name  2ntertaining (routines magic tricks canned 4okes etc.)

#eeking rapport y opening with such things as %0ice necklace or %&here did you get that' or %&hat"s your name' as i! you care aout this stu9 !rom a complete !ucking stranger   Talking without !eedack !rom the other person or people (a !orm o! 7uali!ying yoursel!)  Trying to act to alpha or macho #eeks signs o! attraction !rom women !or reassurance (a sign o! low sel!-esteem and insecurity) 3s apologetic (always apologiing or seeking approval !rom those he !eels he has o9ended) 1is insecurities cause him to wonder what others think o! him 0ever admits his mistakes #ensitivity to criticism Always makes excuses in li!e !or things he can"t do Adhering to the Tonight’s Entertainment  !rame y trying too hard to keep the laughs going (an approval seeking ehavior) ;hasing her when she walks away hoping she"ll listen (turn your ody away instead so that she will e drawn ack) $ailing to reak rapport (use takeaways such as ack turns) when she does something that you wouldn"t tolerate !rom an ugly girl another approval seeking ehavior)  Taking too many sentences to state an idea that could e stated in less (a sign o!  7uali!ying onesel!) $idgeting (a sign o! nervousness and anxiety) ;rossed arms (a sign o! de!ensiveness) #ti9 posture (a sign o! nervousness) ?ooking down (a sign o! weakness and shyness) 1ands over your genitals (a sign o! weakness do to this guarded stance) #louching shoulders (a sign o! low sel!-esteem) 1olding or placing o4ects in !ront o! you (a sign o! shyness or resistance) #hi!ting your weight (a sign o! mental or physical discom!ort) #itting at the edge o! your chair (a sign that you want to get up and leave)  Touching your !ace while speaking (a sign that you are indecisive shy and thinking too hard) /iting your lips licking your lips twitching your noise and other nervous !acial expressions #miling too much is needy and signals to other men that you aren"t a threat Avoiding eye contact (a sign o! insecurity or discom!ort)  Talking too !ast as i! you are used to eing interrupted @oesn"t look a!ter his appearance 

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@oesn"t exercise oor sense o! style 3sn"t well groomed 1as an unhealthy diet oving your hands around as you speak ecause you are trying to keep the attention o! the group (attention seeking) ?eaning in towards sets (pecking) ecause you are too eager to talk and thus seeking rapport umles and doesn"t speak with a monotone voice (a sign o! unassertiveness) Bses =ller words etween sentences such as %so %umm or %uh 0ever wanting to try anything new A!raid to take risks $ears making mistakes 0ever adventurous /eing perceived as oring andor predictale ?etting others or depending on others to lead them (not ale to make his own decisions) /eing indecisive ecause o! a !ear o! making mistakes so you look !or others (even women) to make the decisions 0ever makes suggestions 0ot having a personality or identity $ollows trends to try and =t in @oes everything he is asked to do 0ot persisting> eing too used to re4ection and not getting what you want (a sign o! low sel!-esteem) 0ot eing con=dent Acting creepy and unsure o! yoursel! when approaching women 2asily emotionally a9ected
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3s shy or a!raid to meet new people /eing old ecause you !eel as i! you can"t pick her up so you say such things as %3"m sexy right' or %/ay 3 want some o! that> which are sel!-de!eating actions that are overcompensated !or the true insecurity o! !acing re4ection and don"t destruct one"s ego ecause they are on %my terms meaning %3 got mysel! re4ected so it isn"t a ig deal (asically running low out lines ut instead o! doing so to kill ones ego it actually oosts or protects his ego)