THE TEXTING CHEAT SHEET
20 word-for-word texting scripts to get the date and get her wanting you… so you send the perfect message, every time M AT T A R T I S A N
T H E T E X T I N G C H E AT S H E E T
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Welcome 2 Ground Rules Of Texting 7 How to get the date 10 How to get her thinking about you all day 15 What to text if she doesn’t reply 18 Banter & Attraction Texts 21 How to get her thinking about sleeping with you before the date 27 How to get her so “turned on” she is begging for sex 30 Next Steps 38
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1 WELCOME
There it is right in front of you. The phone number from the kind of woman you’ve always wanted. The one that has the personality AND the looks. The kind of woman that most guys wish they could be with. You are looking at your phone ready to send her a message. 2
A message that you hope will turn into a date and lead to a night of fun. What do you say? How do you keep that connection going? As you may know, there is a lot riding on the first few messages you send her. This book includes 20 texts, with detailed notes on why they work. But first, I’m going to give you a few ground rules on texting (For more detailed texting strategies make sure you read my advanced texting course called, Turn Her On Through Text). When we’re done, you’re going to understand texting better than most guys out there. While most guys will continue to send text after pestering text, never getting her out; you’ll know how to easily get her on a date fast. I’ll show you cutting-edge texting strategies for sparking attraction and getting her “Turned On” so she will want you BAD. In short, I’ll give you the text messages I’ve used to land dates and even get women over to my place for a night of fun. And I’ll break each of them down so you can get the same results. This Book Is For… •
Guys that are struggling to get the date after they get the phone number.
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Guys that are not sure how to text women they like.
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Guys that are getting “friend zoned” in the texting interaction.
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Guys that are looking for that “ONE” special girl or guys that are looking to date around.
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Guys that WANT PROVEN TEXTS THAT WORK and don’t want to waste time trying to figure it out on their own.
Important! If you are constantly getting girls flaking on you or girls tend to not respond at all… Then the root of the problem lies in the initial interaction with her BEFORE you got her number. Sometimes women give out their number, but they have no intention of seeing you again. In this case, it sometimes doesn’t matter how good your texts are, because she has already disqualified you. During the first interaction with her, it is CRUCIAL that you build a connection and exude sexual confidence. We specialize in showing guys how to create an authentic sexual attraction in the first interaction with her, so that she WANTS YOU FROM THE BEGINNING. When you can do that, the rest of the interaction, including texting, becomes much easier. To learn exactly how to do that, check out THE ACADEMY. (www.TheAttractiveManAcademy.com)
Why I Do This… I have had many guys tell me after meeting me, “You seem like the guy that has always been good with women.” Well, that can’t be farther from the truth. Just like most guys, I wasn’t born a “Natural.” I wasn’t the guy in school who was dating the lead cheerleader or dating the prom queen. In fact, I didn’t know what to do when it came to women. 4
I will spare you the long embarrassing story but basically, after many years of a frustrating and non-existent dating life, I decided to change. I wanted the power to date the women that I wanted. I wanted to be able to see a woman I was attracted to and know exactly how to seduce her. Let’s clear up the word “Seduce” right now… Seducing women is not about tricking, lying, or deceiving them. It is about leading women on a romantic journey that they will appreciate. So I made a commitment to myself that I would get this dating “thing” handled. I read everything and took every course out there, but do you know what really made the difference? What really worked… Understanding Sexual Attraction and how women become sexually attracted at an UNCONSCIOUS LEVEL. I studied everything there was to know about triggering sexual attraction inside the female mind. I became a mad scientist about it. I approached thousands of women and tried just about every single way to go about it, so I could properly assess what works and what doesn’t work. I studied the best seducers in history, and specifically the ones that WERE NOT good looking, to figure out what they did and how they did it. I even studied female biology to find out what triggers the bonding hormones inside of woman’s body, so that she feels deeply connected to a man and has to have him on a primal genetic level I studied persuasive writing to learn how to get the date in as few words as possible. I studied seductive language so I could send texts that get her so “Turned On,” she is begging to see me ASAP (This is what Turn Her On Through Text is all about).
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I have sent thousands of text messages, gotten dates with hundreds of women and have tracked it all… for you. I went out and dated hundreds of women, just so I could test out my texting strategies. I tested every different type of text you can think of, aggressive ones, nice ones, flirtatious ones, sexual ones, indirect ones, witty ones. I even tested what days and times are the best for texting. Eventually I cracked the code… And well, this book is going to give you 20 of my best code cracking texts. So let’s get to it.
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2 GROUND RULES OF TEXTING
In it’s basic form, texting should be used to get the date or a hangout. You should have only gotten her number because YOU AND HER understand that the two of you will be hanging out later. Therefore, the main purpose of the texting interaction is to get the date and not to mindlessly text her.
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There are advanced texting strategies of “turning her on”, skipping the date altogether, and giving her mini orgasms. Those texts and techniques are found in TURN HER ON THROUGH TEXT. This Texting Cheat Sheet is meant to provide you with the foundations of texting. Here are the ground rules… •
In general, keep your texts short and to the point.
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They should be emotionally stimulating – She should feel something from your text
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You should not be texting her all the time. You are a man who has important things to do, texting her constantly is not one of them.
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Every text should serve a purpose – to spark her emotions or to set up a date
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Send her the first text within 24 hours of getting her number
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Don’t ask boring questions
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Don’t try to impress her
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Don’t be mentally waiting for her to respond. Go about your busy day as you normally do and respond to her texts when you get a chance.
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Text like a MAN. Don’t ask her too many questions. Instead of asking questions, make statements and commands.
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“Words can be like X-rays if you use them properly -- they’ll go through anything. You read and you’re pierced.” ― Aldous Huxley, Brave New World
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3 HOW TO GET THE DATE
So you met this amazing woman and you got her number. Now what? I hope your plan is not to wait until she asks you out. Remember, as men it is our job to lead the entire dating interaction… from the approach, all the way to the bedroom.
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A woman wants a real man. Not a little boy who doesn’t know what to do. Now I am going to teach you how to text like a man. And the best part, it is very simple.
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If you met her on a Saturday night, text her the next day (unless of course, you want her to come over that night)
• If you met her in the afternoon or during the day, send her the first text within 3 hours.
The best first text… Your first text should reference something interesting that you spoke about earlier. This is called a Callback. For example, during the initial conversation you found out that she is a teacher and her students often drive her crazy. Your first text could be…
First Text Example “So random meeting you earlier… hope your kids are not acting like a bunch of wild circus monkeys. - Matt”
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Reference something about her or something you talked about 11
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Make it fun Sign your name so she knows exactly who it is
Get the Date… After she responds, send a few more texts back and forth and then go for the date. Here is a good text for going for the date...
Get The Date Text “Listen. I have Tuesday free. Let’s grab Ice Cream at Sweet Action. They have best exotic ice cream in Colorado. Cancel all plans. We are going.”
Let’s break it down… The word, “Listen,” is a command word and it snaps people to attention. It is very powerful. You are are not asking her if she wants to go out with you. You are COMMANDING IT like a real man who is powerful and dominant. Remember, we are texting like men now, not like little boys. When real men want something, they go after it. Being that we are real men, we speak with authority. We expect things to happen our way. We are telling her to cancel all plans. Women usually have lots of plans but a date will usually triumph all of those plans. Also, Tuesday nights are typically days when people are free. That is it. If you did it right, she will agree to the date.
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It is very simple and powerful. Lead and she will follow. Now, if for some reason she can’t cancel her plans, text her this…
Counter offer “Alright. Luckily for you Sweet Action is open throughout the week :) What does your schedule look like later this week...”
Then, she will proceed to tell you what day works best for her. Men tend to get weak when a woman “rejects” his request. But as a real man, you are TELLING HER that “you ARE hanging out with her.” Most guys start off with, “Want to go out sometime?” Women HATE this becuase it shows uncertainty and lack of confidence. Then the guy will send something like, “What are you up to this week?” Which annoys the woman because she knows it is going to lead to a long back and forth texting conversation about finding the right time to hang out. They would much rather have you tell them when and where (which is what our Get The Date Text did) Notice in the Counter Offer I didn’t use a question mark. All I am going to say for now is… don’t over use question marks. Furthermore, a better way to Counter Offer is to call her and avoid the texting back and forth. For powerful phone calling techniques, check out that chapter in Turn Her On Through Text. Next, I will share with you a text to getting her thinking about you…
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“I know nothing in the world that has as much power as a word. Sometimes I write one, and I look at it, until it begins to shine.” ― Emily Dickinson
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4 HOW TO GET HER THINKING ABOUT YOU ALL DAY
One way to utilize texting to your advantage is to make her think about you all day long...
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Open Loop You: “Marisa (mutual friend) just told me the funniest story about you...” Her: “What?! What story?!! You: “I will tell you all about it next time we hang out.”
This is a classic Open Loop. Basically, you are leaving a cliff hanger. This is what Hollywood script writers do to keep you hooked until the end of the movie. When you can get her thinking about you it causes her to because more invested in you and raises her interest level. This is extremely powerful and a somewhat sneaky way to make her really want you. There are many generic (can be used on any girl) Open Loop texts that can work really well. For more Open Loop texts and strategies, check out Turn Her On Through Text.
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“Of all the weapons of destruction that man could invent, the most terrible-and the most powerful-was the word. Daggers and spears left traces of blood; arrows could be seen at a distance. Poisons were detected in the end and avoided. But the word managed to destroy without leaving clues.” ― Paulo Coelho
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5 WHAT TO TEXT IF SHE DOESN’T REPLY
There are many reasons why a woman doesn’t reply back. The most important rule is to keep cool and not get needy. When she doesn’t reply, the best thing to do is ignore it altogether and then start a completely new topic the next time you want to talk to her (usually a day or two later).
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Here is one you can use the day after she doesn’t respond that works really well.
You: “I was going to invite you out with us, but I didn’t hear back from you.” Her: “What? Where?” You: “To do X (X is something high value and fun)… anyways, this Wednesday. Beach Bar. 8pm. Cancel all plans. We are going. ”
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“It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction.” ― Picasso
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6 BANTER & ATTRACTION TEXTS
These are texts you can send at any time and are meant to spark attraction. They work because they are fun, playful, and show that YOU are the “prize.” Don’t text her all the time, because as a High Value Man, you are busy doing things and living your passion. When you do text, bring her into your world.
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These are sample tests you can use, however, if it is not true for you or congruent to your personality, then don’t send it. These are meant to give you an idea of how to flirt via text.
You: Just wanted to let you know that I woke up 232% more awesome! Her: that makes two of us! You: I bet when we hang out together everyone will stare jealously at our awesomeness! Her: OMG totally! when r we hanging out? :)
You: Can I ask you a very serious question… Her: sure You: what is your favorite ice cream... Her: lol that’s not serious … rocky road! You: Good choice....I know a great ice-cream shop down the road....meet me there in 1 hour.
You: Stop checking your phone to see if I've text you Her: how’d you know!? haha You: my psychic power ranger abilities Her: omg I love the pink one power ranger You: You would! lol
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You: Have you been spending my child support money on alcohol again… Please remember the kids! Her: Yeah sorry about that You: Just don’t let it happen again...you know I need that money for hookers! UGH!
You: This is (your name). The guy you wanted to go home with last night Her: Oh I did huh!? You: Yeah but I play hard to get
Great first text if you met her at a bar the previous night
“Out of all the [her name] I know... I think you’re my favorite.”
This one uses push-pull. A technique that shows your interest and then takes it away. Great for flirting
“You really are a deep person....I like that”
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By saying, “I like that,” it shows that you are qualifying her instead of seeking her approval. It demonstrates that you have standards.
You: I had a wet dream about you last night... Her: really? what happened? You:... you fell off a cliff and I pissed myself laughing Her: you’re such an ass!!!! ;) Another push pull.
You: Knock, knock! Her: Who's there? You: [Your Name] Her: ummm… ok [Your Name] who You: [Your Name], arguably the World’s Most Perfect Man.
You: I’m in New York and I seriously just saw a girl that looks EXACTLY like you. Her: Are you serious??? You: Alright, I’m going to hit on your stunt double. Want me to tell her to stop cramping your style?
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Artisan: “hey I’m bored…want to rob a bank?” Her: “haha ur crazy” Artisan: “seriously I need a partner” Her: “ok I’m in!” Artisan: “awesomeness, but we need disguises. whats urs… I’m thinking stilettos and a pink ski mask...” Her: “and a machine gun!” Artisan: “oh a badass huh? ok listen we’ll tie everyone up, take the cash and find a cheap hotel in the next town over so we can lay low” Her: “But what are we going do with all that cash?” Artisan: “We? after a night of passionate love making fueled by the adrenaline from the crimes we’ve just committed…you’ll wake up to a note that says “its been nice, had to run, took the cash!”’ Her: “haha your such an ass! Well at least there was some good sex haha”
Her: Are you on Facebook? You: Depends on who’s stalk...asking ;) Her: I’m not a stalker lol You: THAT’S WHAT THEY ALL SAY!
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“Words! What power they hold. Once they have rooted in your psyche, it is difficult to escape them. Words can shape the future of a child and destroy the existence of an adult. Words are powerful. Be careful how you use them because once you have pronounced them, you cannot remove the scar they leave behind.” ― Vashti Quiroz-Vega
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7 HOW TO GET HER THINKING ABOUT SLEEPING WITH YOU BEFORE THE DATE
Inception text “Make sure you wear heels.”
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Send this the day of the date after you have arranged to hang out. It is subtle, but those five words say a lot. No matter what her response, I guarantee she will show up in heels. This shows you are assertive. Women only want to sleep with powerful men that lead. Plus, wearing heels makes a woman feel sexy, and she will associate her desire to feel sexy with you. Plus, it will make her wonder why she has to wear heals. This will make her think about looking nice and get her imagining where the night may lead (your place possibly). This is why it is called the Inception text. NOTE: If she doesn’t respond well to this, then you didn’t set a sexual vibe in the initial interaction… Most guys try to be “friendly” with girls at first and then later in the relationship, try to turn things “sexual.” What ends up happening is they get stuck in the friend zone! What we show our advanced students, is how to convey confidence and SEXUALITY before you even open your mouth. Women love a sexually confident man and when you can do this, she will feel a deep sexual attraction for you immediately. And when you get advanced, you can send very sexual texts like, “I want to bend you over, pull your hair, and have my way with you.”
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“I think a man's "wordplay" can be so fucking sexy!!! I love a good mind fuck!!” ― Junnita Jackson
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8 HOW TO GET HER SO “TURNED ON” SHE IS BEGGING FOR SEX
This text that I am about to show you is POWERFUL. It works almost too good. The most recent time I used it, I was sitting down with my marketing manager and he wanted to see it in action.
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So, I pulled out my phone and texted this girl I was seeing. Within minutes she called me, wanting me to take her right then and there. The problem was that we were busy working on a deadline and so I had to decline. She actually got kinda pissed because I had aroused her and wouldn’t “give it to her.” (I honestly didn’t think it would work that well) Anyway, I handled the situation and her and I are still cool. So warning: Only use when you are ready and able to see her momentarily. This text is just ONE text from the series of what I call, “text to get her sexually addicted to you.” This one should be used with a girl where you at least have a sexual vibe and chemistry present.
You: Let’s play a game… Her: ok… You: It’s called the word association game. I will say a random word, and then you tell me the first thing that comes to mind. Her: ok cool! You: Curly Her: hair You: horse Her: riding You: strong Her: arms You: lick Her: lips You: spank Her: me You: Hard Her: cock You: fuck Her: me now. Please! 31
This will get her turned on very quickly. Basically you start off with a couple normal words, and then escalate with more sexual words. Try it out and let me know how it goes. Remember to use the forum as a resource. Now, let me give you a few more pointers on using texts to TURN HER ON. First, you must understand this one main psychological truth about all women. Fact: Women crave sex just as much as men. Most people think that Men want more sex than women do, but that is actually false. Women deeply crave sex a LOT more than you think. A woman’s hormones make her deeply crave sex at certain times of the month. It is a biological response so she can reproduce. Take a look at these statistics…
This is showing the number of times men and women search for “dirty texts” each month. As you can see, women are searching for “dirty texts” 4 times more than guys. That is why you need to start sending dirty texts to women. They want it. In reality, women are highly sexual creatures and they want to be seduced, ravaged and desired by their man. You can see this by the sheer number of women that read and devour romance novels. 32
Romance novels are the number one selling book category. Have you ever read one? Well, I have and I can tell you they are pretty dirty. Here is an excerpt from a romance novel... “With a greedy glitter in his eye, he moved to the other breast sliding his tongue around her nipple before suckling it gently between his soft lips. Heat flooded between her legs and she ground against his hips. A moan escaped her and his eyes flared with desire at the sound.” And that is not even the really intense part. You see, women have elaborate intricate sexual fantasies beyond anything men can imagine. In romance novels, some of the women crave pleasing multiple men at a time, being harem girls, and being called “dirty little sluts.” I know… some of it sounds strange. But the reality is, women want a wild sexual adventure. Women may act innocent and seem like they “don’t want sex,” but they are really just better at hiding it than most guys. Here is the deal… society has told women that it is not acceptable to be a “slut”. It is not acceptable to be sexually forward. So then most women hide their sexual fantasies, which is why they love to read romance novels. It gives them a chance to fulfill their need for sexual adventure and desire because they are not getting that in their normal life. A woman wants to be perceived as “innocent” by most people. But with her man, she wants to be naughty. In reality, your average woman really is as ridiculously horny and sex obsessed as an 18 year old boy who just discovered porn on the internet.
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What I am saying is, secretly, women are highly sexual beings, just waiting to be set loose by a man that knows how to flip her switch. And when you are the guy that knows how to draw out her sexual fantasies, she will become obsessed over you, have to have you, and do whatever she can to please you. So how do you turn women on through text? Through emotional texts. You see, the part of the brain that controls sex, is influenced by emotions, which explains why women are addicted to chick flicks and romance novels. Because they spike the emotions that turn them on. Women are genetically programmed to become sexually aroused by what she feels in her body and imagines in her mind. The reason most guys don’t get this is because Men are turned on and sexually attracted in a completely different way. To activate the sexual part of a man’s brain, all you need to do is show him a picture of a cute girl showing some skin....
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See what I mean? Because of this guys end up sending lame texts like “Hey, whats up?” or even worse they send pictures of their penis because they think that will turn a girl on. The problem is that most guys don’t evoke emotion inside of a woman.
“If I read a book and it makes my whole body so cold no fire can warm me, I know that is poetry. If I feel physically as if the top of my head were taken off, I know that is poetry. These are the only ways I know it. Is there any other way?” ― Emily Dickinson,
Now let’s go back to the romance novels and see what turns them on. This time, pay attention to the descriptive language, the story line, and the details... “His tongue flicked against the seam of my lips and I parted, eager for more of this blissfully sensual, erotic experience. He tasted of wine and spice, his tongue was talented but willing to yield to my own explorations, and somehow, without me realizing, we'd stepped into each other's arms. He plunged his hands through my hair, holding my head at the angle he wanted, and my arms circled his powerful 35
torso as I explored the muscular lines of his back. The fronts of our bodies were plastered together.” Here is the deal, to trigger sexual arousal you need to get her to feel emotions. The best way to do that is through stories, details, and key phrases. Here are 2 key words that you need to start using when texting or talking to women: “Imagine” and “feel.” For example, “Imagine how it is going to feel when I hold you close and slowly take off your dress as I kiss every part of your body.” Now that is an advanced text to use once she has opened up sexually to you but think about how she would react. Much better than, “hey, whats up? Wanna come over?” The magic words “imagine” and “feel” tell her to picture what is happening and feel those emotions in her body. So, to trigger attraction inside of a woman and get her sexually addicted to you, you need to turn up her emotions. But not just any emotions. You have to activate specific emotions in the right order if you want her drawn to you and willing to come over right away. For example, some guys are trying to give her good positive emotions and so they make her laugh. They try to come up with witty and funny texts just so she will like them. It is great to make her laugh and all, but think about it this way… Does the clown at the circus get all the girls? On the contrary, no one wants to sleep with the clown.
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Don’t be the clown. Being funny doesn’t mean women will want you. To help clarify this, let me tell share one concept that will drastically improve your results with women forever. This is the formula for triggering sexual attraction inside of a woman. If you want to get a woman crazy about you at a primal genetic level, she needs to feel the right combination of power, tenderness, and desire for her. And you can do it all through text. With the right texts, you go from stuck in the “friend-zone,” to the “she has to have you zone.” With the right texts, you can skip the date altogether and get her over to your place… And, you can actually guide her to an ORGASM. Seriously. Do you want me to show you exactly how to do this? And, do you want the exact texts that I use? I would love to give them to you. If you haven’t already, get your copy of TURN HER ON THROUGH TEXT. Turn Her On Through Text expands on the Texting Cheat Sheet. It contains over 200 copy-and-paste texts and walks you step-by-step through every texting situation imaginable. From the basic fundamentals of texting girls and getting the date - all the way to advanced attraction, seduction, and influential texting. You will never worry again whether or not you sent the right text or not. For more information on TURN HER ON THROUGH TEXT, Click Here or visit www.TurnHerOnThroughText.com
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CHAPTER 9
NEXT STEPS You’ve made it to the end of the Texting Cheat Sheet. Congratulations! You now know more about texting than most guys will ever know. This is not the end though. This is about a journey to Becoming The Best Version Of Yourself. If you want the woman of your dreams, then be the best man you can possibly be. So what do you do now… First, go to the forum and let everyone know how your texting is coming along. Then, continue with TURN HER ON THROUGH TEXT so you will always know what to text a girl. And make sure to check out our advanced training… For weekly virtual training and phone coaching, go to TheAttractiveManAcademy.com To learn exactly what to say to women in any situation to spark attraction and make them want you, go to http://thelanguageofattraction.com/ For live bootcamps, go to DaygameTraining.com For private coaching, go to 1On1DatingCoach.com
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I wish you much success and feel free to drop me a line to share your results!
Matt Artisan Founder of The Attractive Man LLC
[email protected] 1-888-992-8872
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