Maybe you haven't carved out your alpha male side but that's OK. It's still possible for her to perceive you as an alpha male. And perception is reality. Here's a few things you need to do to build this alpha male perception: 1. Be a Protector of Loved Ones: tell her a true story from your life about how you helped a friend or family member when they were in need (be sure that the story is a Demonstration of High Value, aka DHV). 2. Show Her Your Strong Ideals: don't be afraid to disagree with her if she says something you don't believe. 3. Don't Seek Approval: if you perform a DHV or tell a story to a woman don't fish for a compliment about it after, just move on to the next step. You should be approaching all of your pick up routines with the mindset of "Here's something I think is interesting!" and sharing that excitement. You should never seek to validate yourself based on the responses to your routines. What she really wants is a man that stands u p to her demands. She wants a man that can give it back as good as she can dish it out. If she says "Buy me a drink." He says "I don't buy women drinks." If she says, "You're too short for me." He says, "No, you're too tall for me." Most men never make it past these early ATTRACTION ATTRACTION TESTS because they don't view them as tests. They falsely believe that doing or saying what the woman wants will earn them attraction points. Now, here's where the BEING INTERESTING part comes in... When you pass a woman's attraction tests, she gets excited. With each test you pass she thinks, "This is intriguing, I wonder how far he'll get." And her attraction grows. So, she keeps testing your alpha male resolve until you pass her b ar for the type of man she's looking for. If you don't give in, if you don't break, and you've got the guts to be a man, you can pass any woman's attraction tests and make her want you. If you don't have the alpha male mindset yet then I hope today's email woke you u p to it. And next time you're in set I want you to watch for these attraction tests. Take note of how women react to you when you bend to their will and when you don't. Maybe your stories aren't bone-dry BORING but just need a little spice to be intriguing. Here's a few points to remember when telling a story to attract a woman: 1. Use Your Body: boom your voice deep and loud. Make eye contact with each listener by holding a listener's gaze for a few seconds, then scanning to the next listener's eyes, hold for a few seconds and repeat. Get yours arms and hands animated in rhythm with the excitement of your story.
2. Evoke With Your Words: buy a thesaurus, play scrabble, look up words in the dictionary you don't know, build up your vocabulary and use it! Appeal to the FIVE senses with your words whenever possible. Use this sample paragraph as a learning example: "As I pushed through the brush I could taste the sweaty salt on my lips (TASTE). The cool aired tickled my skin (TOUCH) and the sound of the rushing water was deafening (SOUND). When I finally broke through the jungle I saw a massive waterfall, pouring into a pitch black pool (SIGHT) surrounded by perfumed orchids (SMELL)." 3. Be Specific : flesh out the players in your story with vivid details. Don't just say, "Then my friend Justin punched the lead singer." Instead say, "Then my punk rock loving friend Justin who always wore an Ramones T-shirt punched the lead singer." 4. Employ a Story Arc: have a beginning, middle and end of your story. Don't waste time on setting the story up, just start from an active place as Style did in "The Game" with - "The house was a disaster." Have a plot in the middle with a conflict (man vs. man, man vs. nature, man vs. machine, etc). End strong with the conflict resolving. Close with a lesson, for example - "And that's why I'll never own another robotic toaster again." If you want more info on storytelling, Style has included a whole DVD in his new DVD bundle called "Generate Your Own Effective DHV Routines" that will show you how to create your own pick up artist stories for seduction. Within the first 10 minutes of meeting a woman, you can be your own worst enemy. Say the wrong thing and you'll KILL her attraction for you. Pick Up Artists call these mistakes demonstrating lower value (abbreviated DLV). The key is to be interesting and show value to attract women. Today you'll see how to eliminate low value verbal mistakes from your game to prevent you from torpedoing your own seduction success. You see women have mental attraction switches that a man can either flip ON or turn completely OFF, with just his words. Women want a man other women are attracted to, a man with an exciting life, a strong social network, ambitious life goals, and a man who takes care of his loved ones. Here's a list of LOW VALUE mistakes I often hear a man say to woman that TURN OFF these attraction switches: 1. "I never date." or "My last girlfriend was forever ago." She thinks: "No other women will touch this guy and neither should I." Instead you should demonstrate pre-selection (show her other women want you). Tell her a story of an interesting
date you had or drop names of female friends into your stories. 2. "I just stay at home and play video games most nights." She thinks: "This guy is boring." You should be conveying to her that you're an adventurous risk-taker. Talk about when you did something dangerous (sky-diving, hang gliding, bungee jumping, etc). If you haven't done something like that, then talk about your desire to do so. 3. "I don't have any friends." or "My friends are all jerks." She thinks: "He has no friends (or bad ones) because he's bad at being social." Instead talk about your friends positively and let her know you have many. Or show h er you're good at socializing by meeting new people with her that night. 4. "My job sucks but it pays the bills, I guess." She thinks: "OK, this guy has no ambition, that's gross." If you do have a shitty job, you don't need to tell her all about it. Instead tell her your goals for the future. She doesn't care if you're rich but she does want you to be ambitious. 5. "I don't really talk to my family." She thinks: "This guy has intimacy issues because he's not even able to love his family!" Don't reveal negative personal baggage about yourself in the early stages of meeting a woman. Instead show her you love and take care of all of those close to you: family, friends, girlfriends, and even pets. Being a protector of your loved ones is very sexy to women. Learning Pick Up Artistry you're bound to commit one of these LOW VALUE verbal mistakes. If you've ever noticed a woman zoning out from your conversation, it meant you mistakenly DEMONSTRATED LOW VALUE and she lost attraction for you. The important thing is that you learn from these moments and eliminate any LOW VALUE unattractive DLVs from your Pick Up Artist stories a nd routines When attracting a woman if you try too hard it TURNS HER OFF. To a woman trying too hard means you're a needy guy who doesn't date often. Pick Up Artists call guys like this "Dancing Monkeys." A woman might enjoy the Dancing Monkey's show but she'll never go home with him, her friends would laugh at her. The true art of Pick Up Artistry is making attraction, a complex process, look effortless. I want you to successfully use everything you've learned about being interesting by using demonstration of higher vale routines (abbreviated DHV) successfully. I don't want you to ever be laughed a t as the Dancing Monkey. Here's three powerful tips to remember for delivering your PUA
routines so she always sees you as the cool, interesting guy, not the dancing monkey: 1. It’s Your Frame – you want to be amused - when you use a PUA routine never do it for a reaction or validation from the woman you're trying to attract. Instead adopt the attitude "It's my world and I'm doing these things because they interest or amuse me." 2. Don't Be Low Value - Never ever preface your routines by saying things like "Watch me do this!" A cool guy doesn't ask for attention, he already assumes it because of his personality. Never ever – and I mean EVER – look for a reaction (applause, smile, etc.) during or AFTER you are performing your routines. And when possible perform your DHVs for the woman in the group who isn't your target and just tell the target if she behaves she can watch. Eventually she'll beg for attention too and her jealousy of the attention you've g iven her friend will build attraction. 3. Manage Your Performance - don't perform obvious DHV routines directly after each other. For example don't read Tarot cards, do a magic trick, then throw the rune stones back to back. Limit your very obvious "performance" type routines by mixing them up with DHV stories and social games like the "Best Friends Test." And if someone says "Oh, do that again!" don't comply. You don't perform on command, only at your own will. If asked to repeat just say with a smile, "That's a one time only thing, but it reminds me of…" and change the subject. There's a lot to remember when building attraction. The more you practice the more it looks effortless. Use these tips, go out tonight and practice, p ractice, practice. Very few men can COLD APPROACH a woman without hesitation. Let me ask you this: When YOU see a beautiful woman, CAN YOU - no matter what – walk up to her and meet her? Do you want to be a man who can pull this off and have unstoppable self-confidence? The solution is to get rid of your fear of rejection and become a flirting machine and I will share with you how to do that in just a minute. (Also there's another surprise announcement I'll sha re.) First let me tell you a little trick successful pick up artists use: When you see a woman, approach her in the three seconds (some guys actually count to three in their head). Why three seconds? Because PUAs figured out if you wait longer than three seconds not only does your negative internal dialogue talk you out of approaching but you'll also LOWER your attractiveness in her eyes!
Here’s why: once you see a woman you want to approach your body subconsciously shows signs you're attracted to her. The most obvious is looking at her every few minutes to see if she's looking at you. She notices these signs and sees you hesitating. This makes you less attractive to her in two ways: 1. SHOWING NO CONFIDENCE: she decides you must be a man who lacks confidence. By default all women are attracted to bold men so in her eyes you just lost a few attraction points by waiting. 2. LOSING YOUR PRE-SELECTION BONUS: women are attracted to men other women find attractive. Besides her seeing you with another woman there are signs she'll look for to tell if other women like you. Don’t approach quickly and she'll think you're a man who doesn’t know how to meet women. That means you're a man who doesn't date often. And it gets even worse... If you choose to wait to approach, maybe stalling to gain courage by drinking a few beers, you put your chances a t greater risk. Not only will you suffer the loss of attraction points but the longer you wait to approach gives other men a shot with the woman you desire. This is why waiting to approach almost always fails! For these reasons PUAs have the golden “3 Second Rule”: “To preserve your attraction levels when you see a woman you find attractive you MUST APPROACH within three seconds.” Understanding the "3 Second Rule" is EASY. Following it is NOT! It takes two things: unstoppable self confidence and an unwavering motivation to better yourself with women. This is your INNER GAME. Just like athletes who can turn on their championship "A-game", when your INNER GAME is solid, you will be an invincible APPROACHING and FLIRTING MACHINE. You can turn it ON as EASY as flipping a switch. So, how do you get SOLID inner game? By overcoming your limiting beliefs about yourself AND getting into the right head space to attract women. And to make it easy for you, Style has put together a system that worked for him. Here are 3 things you can do immediately to approach more consistently and confidently: 1. GET A WINGMAN: gift a friend " The Game," forward him my emails, or meet a wingman in a bar because a wing PUSHES you. When you see a woman his job is to encourage you to approach: "You got this! She's checking you out. Go! Go! Go!" And when it's his turn to approach you motivate him. All night, you approach then he approaches. Make it a game, have fun with it. 2. HAVE AN OPENER READY: Never use the excuse "I don't have anything to say to her." Always have an OPENER ready to go. If you need an opener, here's a new one from Stylelife Academy
Student Confucius: "My friends are debating and I want your female opinion: what's the difference between dating and going-out with someone?" Memorize an opener. Approach. Use it. No excuses. 3. MICRO-STEPPING: Does the thought "I have to go talk to that super hot girl." fill your mind with worry? Then don't think of it like that. Look at the small steps instead. Focus on Step 1, walking in her direction. Then Step 2, just think "I'll talk to someone in her group." Step 3, think " I'll say hello to her." Now take those small steps all the way to the p oint where you're in a conversation with her and then use your memorized opener to keep the conversation flowing. Baby steps to your goal! To learn to be a pick up artist you need to put yourself in some uncomfortable positions. We've talked much this month about approach anxiety, today we're going to cover the other areas where you need to PUSH YOUR COMFORT ZONE to become a pick up artist: 1. YOU MUST KEEP TALKING After you open a woman and talk for a bit there will be an awkward pause in the conversation. Your brain will shout "GET OUT OF HERE! This is uncomfortable." But it takes 20-30mins of talking for you to build enough attraction with a woman to go to the n ext phase of seduction. Fight the urge to leave and KEEP TALKING! To get past this pause you can recite another PUA opener (they work as conversation pieces too). Or use a DEMONSTRATION OF HIGHER VALUE routine. In my training days I kept a reserve routine typed in my cell phone memo to use ONLY for emergency pauses. By ejecting you'll certainly NOT GET THE GIRL. When you keep talking you increase your odds but more importantly you'll get experience at talking with women. The more experience you gain the less uncomfortable you feel. 2. GETTING THE GIRL ALONE You're talking to a group of women and you start getting attraction signals from the girl you like. Now you need to get her alone to kiss her or get her number because she's not going to do that right in front of her friends. Again you need to make yourself UNCOMFORTABLE... To isolate a woman with a very protective friend group once you've attracted her, you need to boldly say to the group "Your friend and I kinda of like each other. We're going to step right over there and talk in private for five minutes. Is that OK with you?"
Her friends will be shocked at your boldness and she will be attracted to you more because of it. And the friends always say yes. I really want you to digest these two points in my next email I'll share points 3 and 4 with you: ASKING FOR HER NUMBER& MAKING YOUR MOVE FOR THE KISS... Stepping out of your comfort zone means digging deep to find the confidence in you to mold your dating life into what it should be --- GETTING HER PHONE NUMBER--Women rarely give out their numbers – even if they like the guy. The following routine will work on almost 1 00% of all girls. But you need to develop the confidence to say it. If you don't have the confidence to make these words come out of your mouth… they're useless. (more about how you can get confident practically overnight in a minute). Pick up artist use routines called "number closes" to ask for a woman's number. Here's one created by Style: "Casually mention to her the details of an upcoming party or event. After mentioning it let some time pass and say to her 'You should come along with my friends and I to *INSERT EVENT HERE*. Let's exchange numbers so I can give you the details.” Pull out a piece of paper and pen, rip the paper in two pieces, write your number on one piece, while still holding it hand her the pen and the other piece of paper. She'll automatically write her number down. Then exchange the papers. It never fails." Why does this work so well? Because one it seems fair to her that you are "exchanging numbers." Two you gave her a reason for why you need to get her number. And three it's an extremely confident way to get a woman's number. You aren't asking her, you are LEADING her to giving you her number. She is the woman and you're the man, it's your job to lead. 1. What you're going to say to get her to kiss you 2. The confidence to make that move to kiss her *WHAT YOU NEED TO SAY TO GET THE KISS* Pick up artists use routines called "kiss closes" to kiss women without being rejected. My favorite kiss close is from pick up artist guru Mystery. This is how it goes: You say to her "Would you like to kiss me?" Then 1 of 3 things happens, if she says, "Yes," you kiss her. If she says, "Maybe," or hesitates, you say, "Let's find out," and kiss her.
And if she says, "No," you say, "I didn't say you could. It just looked like you had something on your mind." This kiss close works because it shows you're confident about making this date sexual. Compare how smooth it is with fidgeting all night wishing you could kiss her. Or worse asking her "Can I kiss you?" This routine flips the script on her, implying she secretly wants to kiss you (plus it gives you a way out if she doesn't). ----YOUR PUA STRATEGY PART 1---STEP 1: OPEN THE GOAL - start a dialogue with THE SET (a group in a social setting, consisting of 1 or more women and may include men). ROUTINE STACK - examples are Brad P.'s "Horse Girl Opener" & Style's "Dental Floss Opener." These are statements, questions, or stories that start a conversation. REMEMBER TO - say why you approached and a time constraint ("I'm leaving shortly but first..."). SMILE when opening, it makes them more likely to respond to you. STEP 2: DEMONSTRATE HIGH VALUE THE GOAL - hit the HOOK POINT: that's when the set isn't wondering who you are or when you'll leave a nd wants you stay longer. ROUTINE STACK - examples are Style's: "Stephanie DHV Story" & Sean Stephenson's "Dance Party Routine." REMEMBER TO - not be the DANCING MONKEY. Never beg women to watch you do a DHV or repeat one at their request. STEP 3: DISQUALIFY THE GOAL - turn her on by making her WORK for your affection. Treat her like your bratty little sis; playfully tease her. ROUTINE STACK - examples are the "Fake Marriage Technique" by Adam Lyons or Style's "Give Yourself Monetary Value Routine." REMEMBER TO - SMILE when you DQ to show you're teasing. Never DQ for a reaction, move to the next topic before she reacts. PLUS this is an overview of how ROUTINES fit into PUA strategy. For the full routines STAY TUNED to my e mails this month. solid strategy + solid tactics = dating success, TEP 4: QUALIFY THE GOAL - show her you're attracted to her for a reason besides her looks.
ROUTINE STACK - some women won't easily give you a reason. You'll need to draw it out by QUALIFYING. Style's "EV Routine" is a great example. REMEMBER TO - get her talking; she should be sharing something about herself with you. Reward her for it. Don't disqualify to her after she qualifies, it might shut her down emotionally. STEP 5: BUILD COMFORT THE GOAL - make her feel SAFE to spend time with you alone at another venue by making emotional connections with her. ROUTINE STACK - examples are Sean Stephenson's "Get Present With Her Routine" or Style's "Cube Routine." REMEMBER TO - isolate her; you can step a few feet from her friends, but get her away from interruptions to build comfort. STEP 6: CLOSE THE GOAL - make your physical connection with her. ROUTINE STACK - examples are Steve P.'s "Left Eye Soul Gazing," Style's "Evolution Phase Shift Routine" and Stephen Nash's "Multiple Step Model" for pacing sexual escalation. REMEMBER TO - use kino escalation, move from n on-sexual touches (touching her on the shoulder, high 5's) to more meaningful touches (guiding her hips around a corner, holding hands) to connection touches (kissing and more).
