Six Stupid Things People DoT Do To Mess Up Their Lives
Six Stupid Things People Do To Mess Up There Lives
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Brainless Table o Contents
Silly Introduction…….………... Introduction…….……….................. ................………………………………………………5 .………………………………………………5 Stupid Optomisum…………………….... Optomisum……………………................... .........................……………………… ..........…………………………..…8 …..…8 Crazy Success…….…………..…... Success…….…………..…................. ............................. .............................. ...............…………………..22 …………………..22 Screwball Dreams ……….............. ………............................ ............................. .............................. ............................…… .............………..39 …..39 Bonkers Imagination…………………………......... Imagination…………………………....................... ............................. .....................……..….53 ......……..….53 Ludicrious Goals.............. Goals............................. ............................. ............................. .............................. ............................. .........................64 ...........64 Idiotic Peace …………………………………....... …………………………………...................... ............................. ........................………80 ..........………80
Silly Introduction
A Phone Call rom rom Fear Operator: This is a collect call rom Fear. Fear. Would you like li ke to accept the charges? Jonathan: Yeah, why not? Fear: Hey buddy, how have you been? Jonathan: First o all, is this love or hate? Fear: It’s always love, baby! But why did you even have to ask? Have I ever steered you down the wrong path? Jonathan: …. (Face scrunches) Fear: You know or a act every time lie got too hard or you, I was there. Jonathan: Yeah, okay… Fear: I was the one with you in the back o the classroom saying, “This is all going to blow over, and soon you’ll graduate,” but what the (ll in the blank) do you do? You decide to drop out o college to pursue a “dream.” I’d rather have you selling drugs as a part-time job than actually risking it all on one play! Because i this doesn’t get you where you need to be, I can only imagine where you will end up or the rest o your lie. But I think I can wrestle up some images o “paper or plastic” or better yet “Freeze, dirtbag! I you move another inch, I’ll singe you with my rearm.”” Is that a clear enough depiction? rearm. Jonathan: You’re one supportive riend, Fear! Fear: Listen, I’m the voice o reason. Jonathan: Reason, aye!
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Fear: Yes, reason. I’m just trying to protect you rom the cold, cruel world we live in. Without a diploma or years o experience, I hate to say it, but you can’t win. Just look at the competition you have out there. Every author in your eld o work has more degrees than a burn victim. They are arsonists in the game o lie. You don’t even know how to light a single match yet! Jonathan: That’s pretty cold! Fear: You’re a no-name! Who still takes the 3 train and eats Subway sandwiches every weekday while trying to stay afoat nancially? Conned in this sad little story called “your lie,” you just can’t make a dierence. Just go back to school and get a degree, a house with a nice pool, a ew kids, and a wie who plays her role in the amily. Be more like your aunts, uncles, and cousins. They’re phenomenal examples o what people expect rom you. Jonathan: Umm… You You know a wise man once told me... Fear: Oh, not this again! Jonathan: To expect more rom mysel than what others expect rom me. And i i anyone tries to cut my wings, I should build mysel and fy in another direction. Fear: What (ll in the blank) are you trying to do, Jonathan? Are you trying to destroy what we had? Are you trying to push me away rom your lie orever? Because that’s what you’re doing; you’re ripping my soul apart. And i i you get deep enough, you won’t be able to mend the patches. I’m lying in a ditch between a rock and a hard place. You’re my way out. Jonathan: Your way out? Listen, what we had was alse. I believed your lies. I believed mediocrity was cool because everyone around me was living in the same conditions or worse. I believed stupidity was like requent fyer miles. Everyone has them, so why don’t I fy rst class? I believed in your words o wisdom, which were really words o hurt and solitude. You’re the one who betrayed me, not I. You cut out my heart and threw away every vessel. My heart is no longer beating, my riend. Goodbye. Fear: So what, you’re leaving me now? Jonathan: For good. It’s time or a change like the seasons. So long, my good riend. (Pause)
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Sometimes ear can keep you rom doing what you think is right. It can keep you out o sight and out o mind. Until you let go o it, ear can make you oblivious to seeing what you can really do. When you step outside the green zone into the desert storm, you begin to realize that all that you have is yoursel and a supporting cast o trustworthy riends or slovenly oes. Cast away the essence o obligation. Become obligated only to get what you want. Being scared is a natural inclination. We must look in the mirror and realize one thing: “I it’s to be, it’s up to me.” So today, I’ve taken my own advice and cut the wings o ear, and now I’m reealling. Where will I appear? Will I disappear orever? Who knows? All I know is I’ve let go o something that has taken me nineteen years to get rid o. So turn the page. Take hold o my vision. Judge me not, but listen and ask yoursel i you see yoursel in me. I bet you’ll eel a sense o camaraderie with the words I use to express my harsh reality. reality. But until we meet again, I wish you success in every way possible. - Peace
Chapter 1
Stupid Optimism
Carrie screams, “I hate mysel and I hate my lie. My husband is a jerk who couldn’t care less about me or his new baby boy. He struts around the house never showing aection and barely pays the bills. He certainly alls short o making me lust or him. Back when we rst started to date, he couldn’t keep his hands o me. But now, he keeps those hands in his pockets. Why is my lie this way? Why is this happening to me? What can I do?” With sincerity and poise, I glanced into her eyes and said, “It’s right there.” Thinking she had a fy on her shoulder, Carrie missed the point. “It’s your attitude,” I said. “The ‘my lie sucks and so does my husband persona is what’s killing you. Your anger and rage toward yoursel and others is what’s keeping you rom prosperity: physical and non-physical. You You need to take responsibility or your lie and move into the ranks o sel-suciency. No one is responsible or your happiness besides you.” Author and notable educator Charles Swindoll, once said, “Lie is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react react to it.” An attitude o distress distress leads to misortune while a heart set upon brilliant thinking refects those thoughts and ideas. Unortunately, most o us are usually too worried about making it through the day to keep up a positive attitude. Why is that? Why is one man sad, and another man happy? Why is one woman joyous and prosperous, and another woman poor and miserable? Why is one child earul and anxious, and another ull o aith and condence? Why is one man a great success, and another man a ailure? Why is one man living a lie o luxury, while another man barely gets by? Why is one woman relaxed and another gains rustration over petty annoyances such as trying to squeeze ketchup out o a bottle? The answer is attitude. A positive attitude speaks every orm o dialect on this big blue island in space. An attitude o optimism brings brings out positive results in all o our doings. With an attitude o pessimism, our minds blind us to love, happiness and success. Visually impaired to the causes and eects o our realities, we’ve turned into a society diagnosed with cancer o the mind, ear o the heart, and rustration o the anus.
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Attitude is a one o those small words that makes a big dierence. Your attitude is the gyrocompass o your universe. All you have to do is change your attitude to refect the lie you want to live, and you’ll have it. Your persona is one o the two things: Empowering or Disempowering. Empowering thoughts make you eel as i you’re on top o the world 24-7. It’s the ability to say yes to lie. Disempowering thoughts keep you eeling ar rom your best. They’re the “I hate my lie”, “Everything seems to be going wrong”, “What is wrong with my boyriend today?”, or “Maybe I need to light up a cigarette” kinds o thoughts. These thoughts cause you to eel mentally asleep, lying down in a pool o misery day in and day out till the casket lid drops. We’re surrounded by innite riches, yet we ail to see the great untapped potential within us. Inside each and every one o us is a gold mine, glazed with innite potential, unexplainable resources, and sugar-coated greatness. It may be hard to see now, but by the end o this book you’ll begin to believe in Never Never Land as i you were a young boy in green trunks with pointy ears. The rst thing you must do is change your thinking. As the saying goes, “The only thing which makes a man a man is his mind.” Realize that within your head is a vast amount o unlimited potential ready to be released once you unshackle ear rom its cage and cultivate a positive attitude.
Listen up: I have a Story to Tell A riend o mine who lived about two stories above my apartment in Brooklyn was at my ront door one crisp spring aternoon. Birds where chirping, and a siren blared down Carroll Street as my urgency urgency to enjoy the day was upon me. Up walked William, a 24-year-old janitor who worked late nights at the local SevenEleven. With sweat pouring rom his orehead, he said in a gentle voice, “I need your help.” I replied with an arctic demeanor, “How can I be o assistance, young man?” “I got girl problems!” he sighed. I immediately interjected, enthusiastically repeating, “I you having girl problems, I eel bad or you son, I got 99 problems but a chick ain’t one.” Dancing in cyclical rhythmic gyration, I could see William was not amused by my Sean Carter (amous entrepreneur and hip hop recording artist) rendition, so I ended the sketch abruptly.
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He continued, “I’m not condent enough to talk to these girls out here, man! Every time I approach a chick I eel light-headed, my stomach gets queasy, and I lose sight o what to say. I sometimes just end up standing there like a douche with my hands in my pockets looking or a miracle to take place.” I smiled, or I too was in his position posit ion quite some time ago, I replied in a sincere gesture: In order to reap the rewards o emale you have to become more than whom you are now. You have to be condent, assertive, and present in the moment. These three aspects are mandatory in order to reach your desired result. result. This is no dierent than a mathematical problem, or a video game you know you’ll conquer. How you come o is what matters most; it’s best to be yoursel. Beore bed and in the morning ater wake up, say… 1. I am great with women. women. 2. Women want want to be with me everywhere I go. 3. I can reach reach the goals I set or mysel. 4. Reuse, recycle, and repeat. Three weeks later he ound himsel a girlriend and I’m proud o him and his Johnson.
Why Did this Work? Work? Stupid Thought: You may not know this but your brain is divided into two parts: the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is like the captain o a ship. He directs the ship and signals orders to men in the engine room (the subconscious mind), who in turn control all the boilers, instruments, gauges, etc. The men in the engine room do not know where they are going; they just ollow orders. They would crash on a deserted island i the captain said so. These men do as they are told, no questions asked. Likewise, your conscious mind is the captain and master o your ship, which represents your environment, aairs, and body. Your Your subconscious mind takes the orders o what your conscious mind believes and accepts. William was able to attack his subconscious mind directly, directly, bypassing his current restrictions. restrictions. How? He armed his new ideas beore bed and right upon waking. The best time to penetrate your subconscious mind is within 30 minutes o waking and sleeping. Henry Ward Beecher, a prominent Congregationalist,
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clergyman, social reormer, abolitionist, and speaker in the mid to late 19th century stated “The rst hour is the rudder o the day.” William was heading down a path o sel-destruction beore I helped him. His past conditioning came rom the repetition o negative words such as: “I can’t,” “I suck”; “I can’t believe I didn’t talk to her,” etc. So his subconscious mind recorded these emotionalized events, turning his worst nightmare into a Mozart screenplay gone badly. By changing the message he armed to himsel on a daily basis, William conquered his ears practically overnight. You always have a choice in the words you use. You can either arm a positive liestyle or a negative escape escape pod. William has chosen to say, say, “I can” rather than “I can’t.”
You Y ou Can Do the Same Arm the phrase “I can conquer my ears” upon any dicultly in ront o you and you will. All great success starts with possibility. Commence planting seeds o positivity in the garden o your mind. Lie is meant to be enjoyed enjo yed and appreciated. Keep an A-Okay attitude, to live an A-Okay liestyle.
Flashbacks Ater separating rom my girlriend last year, I too had a abricated perception o the opposite sex. Assuming every girl I met was out to hurt me, I avoided love at all cost. I swapped unconditional appreciation or great sex ater every house party or bar hopping escapade, nally leading to Sunday morning conessions. I diluted my loss o love by any means necessary; sex diverted my ego rom thinking about the ex-girlriend, but not or too long. Ater knocking over a glass o vodka onto my laptop by accident -- Eureka! -- I realized I had to conront her one last time in order o rder to truly move on with my lie. Not a selsh sel sh rant on how hurt I elt, but a mature conversation which would lead to neutrality. But no way was I going to call! My ego kept me rom taking the rst step. I had way too much pride or that. But beore the idea o how how could could reach me, another bra strap was loosened and a condom would be congratulated as a lie saver. Yet, Yet, the determination to end my promiscuity or the time being was essential. With Liz Claiborne jeans at my bedside and hal a cigarette disintegrating rom the oxidation, my cell phone rang. Assuming it to be another lost soul or emale trapeze artist, I ignored the call. It was sent to voice mail.
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My body screamed in pain as I reached over to the phone. As my heart dropped, I recognized the area code more than the number. “Hey john it’s-------, I you want to, i you have time, I think we need to talk about some things. So i you want to, give me a call back.” The voice mail sounded like she wanted some hot loving. But this was my imagination going rampant as usual. “Why are you calling me up?” I said to mysel. Going on a sixty second tantrum beore realizing my one night stand was still sleeping by my side. I convinced mysel to deal with the situation later. Almost our hours ater receiving the voice mail, it was time to ace the past. The most nerve-wracking phone call I ever made in my lie was this very moment. My anger over her neglecting how I elt was never brought up. I surprisingly matured more than I expected. We laughed over the phone and I wished her the best ater she told me she’d ound a job. “I knew you would get back on your eet. Good luck on your new job. I wish you the best and I’ll call you back in twenty”. Those were the last phrases spoken between us beore I hung up the phone. Leaving her in the back o my lie, I’ve yet to redial her number. number. I realized ater hearing her voice or the last time, I was so ar gone rom she wanted me to be: A riend. I couldn’t play that position ater her love blitzed me with seven seconds on the clock and teen yards away rom the touchdown. I let the situation happy or her progress toward her goals. I have not heard rom her to this day, and I hope she’s she’s doing well. I live my lie expecting the best, and I hope she does the same. Some other guy will be lucky to have her, or I believe all women are born queens, yet ew realize it. I hope she does.
A Lesson Learned I’ve learned you must orgive and orget i you want to live a successully and be sane. Only stupid people hold grudges and cling to past mistakes, keeping them rom achieving greatness. They can’t seem to get rid o the bully rom ‘69 or ‘73, which keeps them stagnant and shackles right thinking, preventing success or happiness rom emerging into their lives.
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Attitude holds most o you back rom moving past irrelevant decisions made ten years ago. I you hold on to the past, it will aect your mood, keeping you rom reaching any goal you set orth or yoursel. The secret to a great great lie doesn’t lie within the mist o resentment or guilt, but through your maturity and growth as a human being. To be able to see the glory in leaving the past behind, you have to envision possibility. Ask yoursel this question: Do I want to be a replication o last year year,, or an improvement o this very moment? The moment? The act is, your attitude at this very moment is a recycled pattern o thought, positive or negative. Reinorced ideologies, belies, emotions, and expectations: this is what you are right now. What you say to yoursel, positive or negative, cultivates your character, chiseling away at the bone structure o your being. The words you say to yoursel, pictures you envision, attitudes held through association, and personal expectations shape you in every given moment. Be open to the possibility o growing smarter by the hour, not dumber by the second. Regrets hold millions rom bank account increases, birthday celebrations, and stock exchange advice Martha Stewart never passed up. Learn to grow up as you grow old. It’s all up to you.
Walk Wa lk With Me Last Christmas I met a young man, Jacob, who was traveling rom Toronto, Canada to New York City. The temperature was below 14 degrees as he took reuge inside a luxurious department store. An illustrious array o expensive athletic ootwear and apparel was arranged in size order. A pair o sneakers inspired by art master Piet Mondrian caught this young man’s attention with its visual magnicence. Simplistically styled with red, yellow, white, and black colors, these kicks stayed true to the early 20th century De Still Art Movement. They hit stores in limited supply and were priced very high, but he knew he was in the sights o a true gem. Attracted to this wonderul pair o sneakers, he said to himsel, “I can’t aord it.” He rubbed his nose, ghting a long winter cold he had caught rom a foozy down in Vegas last week. Jacob held in his possession The Power o Positive Thinking by Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. Having learned to arm only the positive, he reversed his verbal remark and armed, quoting loudly, “I CAN AFFORD IT!” He later recalled causing quite a disturbance: “A sales rep conronted me and asked me i everything was okay. I replied, ‘I was practicing my Warrior cry, I’ll keep it down.’” Jacob and I laughed hysterically upon stationing our glutinous maxim on the bus benches.
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“I made sure I overwhelmed my mind with what I can do- not what I can’t,” he said, and I agreed. Later that same day he entered his Brownstone apartment in Park Slope, Brooklyn. Turning the knob slightly sl ightly while holding up his backpack on his let shoulder, a package barricaded his entry. To To his surprise, su rprise, his girlriend o two years, Caroline, had purchased him the same sneakers he’d nearly dismissed. He said, “I will never say ‘I can’t do anything or get anything’ as long as I live. Even though I didn’t purchase the item mysel, my positive attitude kept me in alignment to receive what was naturally mine.” Ending our conversation, he stated, “I paid Caroline back with some midnight loving.” I told him to hold o on the details, stepping ste pping onto the B8 bus as I strapped on my North ace book bag. Jacob’s experience taught me several things. First, I need to get mysel a girl who will buy me sneakers then let me repay her with some late night loving. Second, the mind is more powerul than I ever could imagine. And third, Jacob has inspired i nspired me to keep my words, actions and mental pictures congruent with what I want to experience.
Fear and Conormity I don’t like to admit it, but ear held my hand or quite some time. Nothing elt better than what I was used to. I woke up every day like a slave going to a job I hated. I spent my day with people who produced massive hatred toward individuals who have made outcasts o themselves by gaining wealth (mainly rappers, music moguls, or just people who had more money money we did). I usually took my one hour break around 12pm, 12pm, and my options were limited. It was either McDonald’s or Subway. Ater lunch I was back at work; the slave whips started to leave marks on my skin. Working or another six hours let me yearning or a beer, sex, or my bed. Whichever opportunity came rst I grabbed with authority. authority. Right ater clocking out I was surrounded by people who elt the same way I did: terrible. Working in New York caused me to hate the subway system each and every time ti me I swiped my metro card. Why did I hate the train? It reinorced reinorced my lack o unds and inability to be nancially sel-sucient. sel-sucient. So rather than live the rest o my lie this way, I made a decision. And what decision was that?
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Attack the parts o my lie I was araid o. In order or me to reach the level o success I desired, I had to conquer the ears that kept me grounded or 21 years. I no longer wanted to have a boss. I wanted to be my own boss. I no longer wanted to take the train. I wanted a G4 airplane. I no longer wanted wages, I wanted prots. So I jumped o the ledge o ear and and grew my my wings on the way down. I soon realized that when you’re soaring 30,000 eet above ground, the all doesn’t creep into your mind as oten as you’d think. You You begin to enjoy the journey jo urney and the beautiul view, a view that can only be seen by those who leave their comort zone and appreciate ambiguity. So why are you still holding on to the ledge?
Action Cures Fear Fear Ater being held down or so many years, Mr.Gelin nally tossed ear aside and took action. His desire to be a homeowner meant more to him than the nancial blunders o his past. Let’s see how he overcame this common predicament millions o people deal with every day… Mr. and Mrs. Gelin lived in a small Midwestern apartment. Both wanted a new home. They Mr. wanted the advantage o more space, cleaner surroundings, a place or the youngsters to play, and a chance to build up equity e quity in their own property property.. But there was a hitch to buying a new ne w home-- the down payment. Mr. Gelin only made a little over minimum wage. One day as Mr. Gelin was writing a new month’s rent check, he become very disgusted with himsel. He observed that the rent payment was as much a monthly payment on a new home. Mr. Gelin called his wie and said, “Listen here, it’s time or us to make the decision to buy a new home. We’ve been procrastinating or too long and I’m sick o it. Let’s go nd ourselves a new home so we can be happy with where we live.” The next week they ound a house they both liked, unpretentious but nice, or $12,000 down. Now the obstacle was to nd a way to raise the $12K. Mr. Mr. Gelin couldn›t borrow it through the usual channels, or this would encumber his credit so that he couldn›t get a mortgage or the sale price. But where there›s a will there’ there’ss always a way. And suddenly, suddenly, Mr. Mr. Gelin got a brain storm. Saying “I can do it”, the next day he went to see his boss. He explained to his employer what he was doing. His boss was glad to see he was going to buy a new home. Then Mr.. Gelin said, “Look, Mr. Samson, to work this deal out, I›ve got to earn at least $750 Mr more each month. Now, I know you’ll give me a raise when you eel I deserve it. What I want now is just a chance to earn more money. There are some things around here that could best be done on weekends. Will you make it possible or me to work then?”
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Mr. Samson was impressed with Mr. Mr. Mr. Gelin’s sincerity and ambition. He proposed a way or Mr. Mr. Gelin to work ten extra hours each weekend, and Mr. Mr. and Mrs. Gelin soon moved into their new home. Why? Because Mr. Mr. Gelin took action. Mr. Gelin didn’t allow his current circumstance to hold him back rom devising a plan to Mr. reach his goal. He thought about what to do and used action to cure his ears, just as William and Jacob did. These men used positive action to take their lives to a happier place. Happiness can only be achieved through progress toward a desire. You must start the change as I did, stepping out o depression and into euphoria.
The Moral o the Story? Step outside o conormity and embrace ambiguity. It will save your lie; li e; I guarantee it.
Circumstances Circumsta nces Don’t Make the Man Most people tend to blame their circumstances or their inability to succeed. Walking around like victims, victims, we turn harsh harsh based upon what lie has given us. Instead o using our environment as motivation, we blame it. Perhaps your mother did not hold you long enough, or your ather let the amily when you were just a toddler. Everything is going wrong because o the cards cards that were dealt to you. As playwright George George Bernard Shaw stated, “I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look or the circumstances they want, and i they can’t nd them, they make them.” Where you are now is solely based on the choices you have made. No one else thinks your thoughts, eels your emotions, or acts your actions. As the saying goes, “You “You cannot hire anyone to do your push-ups or you.” Where you go rom here is based on the choices you make today. Your attitude is the reason or all trials, tribulations, heartbreaks, lonely nights, addictions, abuse, discouragement, depression, and decisions to transcend. Your Your emotions guide your thoughts to certainty, creating your current climactic experience. Packing your thoughts with emotions is a wonderul way to sink change into your brain. A powerul tool is to wake up and say, “Today is going to be a wonderul day!” Repeating this armation with certainty sends out positive expectations to the world and yoursel. And what do we know about expectations? We may never get what we want, but we always get what we expect. Learn to expect the best. Win the game o lie by ruling over your attitude. You’re either a master o thought, or a servant.
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Who is David Lee? David was an average guy who lived l ived in Westchester. Westchester. With his world in shambles, he was quickly going nowhere. Never taking responsibility or his lie, he continually blamed his circumstances or his ailures. David was coming o o a devastating divorce, and he only had a job because his employer was his best riend, not because he was capable o doing excellent work. He hadn’t been to church in many years and was so broke he was writing a hot check on Friday just so he could get something to eat, and would pick it up early Sunday morning. David was mentally, physically, nancially, spiritually, and emotionally withering in the stardust stardust o lie’s lie’s harsh circumstances. circumstances. One bright Sunday morning, David’s lie changed orever ater his brother gave him a cassette on the Power o Intention by Wayne Dyer. Dyer. He listened to the audio tape or seven hours straight without leisure, and his thinking began to shit. He began to understand that the reason or his current circumstance was the pillar o his attitude. His attitude dened how people reacted to him, how ar he went in his career, how bright his relationship would blossom, how strong his aith with God could become, and how much money he could truly obtain. But the most important attribute was how he spoke to himsel. His attitude began to shit rom “I am a dumb, at, stupid, broke, broke, and an idiot savant” to “I am an articulate, ar ticulate, caring, successul human being who learns rom his mistakes.” No longer letting his negative thoughts or circumstances dene him, he took action. David began to create his own circumstances. Arming to himsel his top 10 goals, David began to transorm, consciously creating physical, mental, nancial, spiritual and emotional harmony. Ater listening to the cassette, he invested more time and money in personal development products. Knowing repetition is the ather o learning, David stayed optimistic as much as humanly possible. He went on to tell his boss that he no longer had a riend on the payroll, but a working employee. He joked, saying, “I may even start carrying my own weight.” At 416 lbs that represented a pretty substantial commitment. He went to Fordham University that aternoon and enrolled in a couple o college courses in philosophy because he wanted to learn more in regards to thought and interpretation o lie. Determined to shed those dinner rolls, he went down to the nearest health studio. He did what most people ail to do: take action. Listening every day to positive material became a ritual or David Lee as he pursued his own orm o happiness. No longer a victim o lie, he began to change his selimage, the starting point o all true success. Looking at himsel in the mirror one day, he grinned in amazement. Happy to be himsel or the rst time in his lie, David broke down in tears. Even though he weighed in at an incredible 360 lbs, he saw himsel as
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no longer obese. Teased as “Fat Ass, Fatty Mick, Fat Burger and The Milk Shake Man” since the age o 12, David no longer l onger saw himsel through the opinions o others, but as what he thought o himsel.
So where is David Lee Now? David graduated at the top o his class rom Fordham University with a degree in philosophy in 2007. He is presently on his way to earning his Masters, while teaching Sunday lessons at his local parish. He no longer works at his old job; instead, David is in business or himsel with his newound sweetheart. Word around town is she expects to deliver David the Second in Second in the next two months. Why did I tell this story in such great detail? I wanted to show you how deeated this young man was. He was physically, socially, and emotionally bankrupt, yet was able to turn his lie around. How? By developing a positive sel-image and setting goals, he was able to achieve incredible results.
Attitude We all want good results in our work, home, and social interactions. And the most important single actor to guarantee results day in and day out is a healthy attitude. Attitude is the position or bearing indicating action, eeling, or mood. It’s your actions, eelings, or moods that dictate the actions, eeling, or moods o the people around you. Your attitude tells others what you expect in lie. I your attitude is xated on alse conclusions mixed with gloomy anticipation, then others tend to perceive that negativity. But i your attitude is cheerul, positive, and expectant, then you will create a positive outcome or yoursel. You You see, we tend to live up to our own expectations and the expectations others place on us. Do people tend to smile, approaching you in a cheerul manner? Your answer to this question will tell you about your attitude. I the answer is no, then a dynamic shit in perspective is all you need.
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Cali-Forn-I-A Experience Long ago, my oldest riend, Khalani Saunders, moved to Caliornia or the winter. I accompanied him or a weekend in search or lust with the opposite sex. Still on my journey to nd mysel, I said, “Why not do it with some women?” women?” I was in need or some sexual healing and the enjoyment o the Caliornia rays. Across the street rom my riend’s house lived a couple who just moved there rom Bualo. The husband was an avid sherman and his wie loved the warm warm weather. weather. Ater just two months in Caliornia, the th e couple decided to leave. The husband said, “My wie hates it here, she hasn’t made any riends. The women o the community have let her strictly alone.” I asked him, “Has she let the other women know she is interested in participating in community activities?” He stopped what he was doing and looked at me, “No, she hasn’t! She has been waiting or the women to ask her.” She had been waiting or them to come to her. So they thought o her as a reclusive, as a person who was not interested in making riends and so they let her alone. He began nodding in agreement, ”That’s exactly what happened!” O course, the women should have come to her and invited her to tea, or lunch, but they were reacting to her. her. She didn’t know the community could only give her back a refection o her own attitude. attitu de. She was a woman in her 60’s who was never taught the rst principle o eective living: Your surroundings are oten a merciless mirror o your attitude. Stupid Thought: Poor Attitude, Poor Results. Good Attitude, Good Results. Great Attitude, Great Results. I let the scene with a glimmer o despair on my ace. Expecting people to approach you is like expecting to graduate rom college without paying tuition. It ain’t happening! This woman was asking or the impossible. I let Caliornia that aternoon dwelling on the narrow, darkened thinking I was exposed to. Seeing mysel in this woman, I came to grips with my past. Shyness in many ways was my sel-esteem shouting out, “SOMEBODY TALK TO ME!” Yet nobody ever truly did. I sought to be alone only because I was in ear. ear. Fear o being rejected by someone I didn’t even know. But I learned to step outside o mysel, to experience the joy o riendship, riendship, love, and excitement. Conquering this ear was never easy, but worth every ailure and stomach ache. I resolved resolved a long time ago to never n ever let
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ear keep me rom succeeding. O course this will be revealed in due time. But the point is you cannot live in ear i you want to have un and live lie. Learning this new habit takes time, but once it becomes a knit part your lie, you only have to cheer yoursel onward. American psychologist and philosopher William James classically stated, “ Human Human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitude o minds.” Most people don’t think about their attitude; instead, they are poised to react to any stimuli they encounter encounter.. There are so many human beings taking a narrow, darkened attitude toward lie, ullling the prophecy o their attitude. Your world can be bright with hope and passion, or dark and lonely. I you have an attitude o ailure, you’re whipped beore you start. Expect the best rom every situation you’re put into. The world will give you back exactly what you put out in attitude. You are responsible or keeping a smile on your ace and happy thoughts in your mind, no one else. A person with a poor attitude will become a magnet or unpleasant experiences, an example o doom-ullling prophecy. You paint your world with what you think in attitude. It’s hard to convince people that the world they experience is based on their attitude. They believe i people would act kindly to them, then so would they. But it has to start with you; let it begin today. No matter what a person does or a living, i you nd them doing an outstanding job it’s because o their attitude. As Reverend King wisely wrote, “I a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts o heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.” well .” Successul people take the attitude that they can accomplish what they set out to do. Intellect is not required; muscle and physique are not necessary. All you need is an attitude o “I can.” Focus on the reasons that you will reach your goals, rather than the ways you could ail. Keep your attitude positive, cheerul, cheer ul, and expectant and you will succeed. Nothing will change until you until you do. do. Changing your attitude is the rst step to changing your lie. One good way to develop a good attitude is though practice. Read positive material each day or 30 minutes, associate with positive riends, smile more, and remind yoursel that attitude directly impacts your environment as many times possible. Do this and you will place yoursel with the top ve percent o people who control their attitude, thereore controlling their lives. Place yoursel on the road to that which you seek. Don’t let the poor attitudes o other people inect you as strongly as the common cold. Stay away rom these people i you want to stay healthy. Don’t waste time talking about your problems. It won’t help you, and it cannot help others. Your thoughts are what are are most important. The only way
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you can reverse your troubling circumstances and elevate your mind is to keep your ideas lled with enthusiasm and excitement or lie. Your Your attitude is all you need to start star t moving in the right direction. I have already given you the road map. Which path will you take? “I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else.” - Winston Churchill
Learn rom my stupid mistakes. 1. Keep your attitude positive; there there is no point in being negative. 2. I you got 99 problems problems and a chick ain’t one. Tell Tell yoursel “they’re all solved.” 3. Learn rom your mistakes and orget orget the past. The present moment moment is all that counts. Learn to orgive and orget. Grownups are what we think we are. But when it comes down to it, we hold childish grudges or years beore we let them the m go. Some o us die with hate in our heart. I will never let hate keep me down, and neither should you. 4. Never use the terms, “I can’t aord aord it” or “I can’t do this.” Do the opposite and empower yoursel. Arm, “I can, I will, and I choose to.” 5. For 30 minutes each each day read something highly educational, motivational, and inspirational to ignite the fame o optimism under your gluteus maximus. 6. Each human always ullls his or her expectations: good or bad.
Chapter 2
Crazy Success
One o my conscious riends, Jason Ross, picked me up rom my home. He is a devoted high-school riend who believes in C.R.E.A.M “Cash Rules Everything Around Me.” His ideas enhanced my dream tremendously one day day.. But let me take you back a ew months earlier. Sitting in my older brother’s Nissan Maxima, I had picked up Nana (another high school riend), Jason, and James with the intention to head down to Manhattan. Still scrambling over my ailed business and positive mindset, I had to save gas, so we opted or the L train on Rockaway Parkway in Brooklyn. Seated on the subway benches o a train car packed with unconscious pedestrians, our conversation took new heights. Jason was expressing his anger toward ormal education. As a college dropout mysel, I elt pressed to interject. Luckily I resisted, hearing nine words which changed his lie orever.. Expressing his anger over traditional teaching, Jason said, “I eel like everyone orever in my classroom is programm programmed!” ed!” Already a conscious thinker mysel, with the veteran James on the wing and Nana listening closely, we looked at each other in non verbal agreement. James then began to unravel the truth about lie. He said, “Glance around you, Jason. We may be in a subway car lled with people, but in reality you are looking at materialized thoughts and ideas. The creative work o some human being. Whether it’s an ejaculation gone good or bad. Every human here was rst a thought. The automobiles, the sky scrapers, the great planes that sweep the stratosphere, the sewing machine, the tiny pin, a thousand and one things--yes, millions o objects--where did they come rom originally? Only one source: thought. Analyze your lie urther and you’ll realize all things resorted rom thought. You don’t eat, wear clothes, run or the bus, drive your automobile, go or a walk, or read a newspaper- -you don’t even raise your arm--without a preceding thought impulse. While you may consider the motions you make as more or less automatic, perhaps caused by some physical refexes, behind every single step you take in lie, regardless o its direction, is that ormidable and powerul orce: thought. The very way we walk and talk is a refection
o our thinking. You are a product o your own thought, what you believe yoursel to be, you are. Thought is the original source o all wealth, success, material gain, great discoveries, inventions and achievements. Without it there would be no great empires, Broadway plays, Clinton scandal, educational system, or Beatles musical collection. All matter rst is thought. This is the only thing thin g which controls your success or ailure.” I was pretty surprised how illustriously James put the ideas o consciousness together. I thought he was going to let eld with “ejaculation,” but he polished the spiel quite nicely in the end. Jason’s eyes glistened with understanding and acknowledgement, as i he’d been sleeping his whole lie away and today he’d nally woken up or the rst time. This scene reminded me o The Matrix. When Morpheus told Neo, “You take the blue pillthe story ends; you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill--you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.” I contemplated this scene at least ve times beore I snapped out o o my daydream. Jason began to see the truth. “Attitude” is all that truly matters. What you believe becomes true or you. No degree can place you ahead o the pack i you’re programmed or ailure with a negative attitude. Sadly most college graduates who take o their cap and gown ater the commencement celebration soon realize our years has passed with nothing but a GPA, a ew tattoos, memorable stories, and no goal in place or the next 10 years. The majority o people live lives o quiet desperation, never questioning the reason or their existence, actions, belies, or prejudices. Millions o people tend to listen to others rather than think or themselves, living out other oth er people’s dreams dreams rather than their own. Only a small group o people learn to think or themselves, not just accept the norms o society. They cultivate their own realties as they see t, stepping out o the crowd and no longer tting in by choosing to stand out. Jason said o James, “Coming to this awareness was as natural as yearning or his mother’s mother’s breast milk milk as a toddler.” toddler.” Again I was truly weirded weirded out by my riends’ riends’ ostentatious metaphors, but agreed despite my disgust over his choice o words. At that moment, Jason was no longer a conormist, but an individual thinker. His mind was as Frank Zappa stated: “Open like a parachute.” This is the only way our mind can truly unction. His mind opened to the world beneath, the world he never believed existed. His purpose in lie was getting clearer clearer.. He stated, “Lie is truly what I say it will be. I’m the cause and the eect. Why not create causes which will aect me in a positive way?”
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Hopping o o the L train, our conversation ranged rom random cynical humor to the consciousness o humanity. We trailed through the city, dining in Little Italy, walking in the midst o a parade, and picking up a ew girls on the way back. Today oday,, Jason is an entrepreneur entrepreneur who invests heavily in real estate. With his mentality on the almighty dollar, he works to serve millions o people. Rebuilding homes and owning properties all across the world while still acquiring as many emale companions as humanly possible, he’s doing what makes him happy. Reminiscing on this event caused me to appreciate the moment Jason started to question his own belies. The ability to step outside who you are are to nd who you must become is a breaking breaking point or all major successes. The act is, i we don’t question question ourselves at times, we can never experience something better than what we currently have. We will become complacent complacent and never think o a dierent dierent way to live our lives. I we continue to sit back and watch lie pass us by, our world will stay as it is and what could have been will cease to exist. Traveling back to the ront o my apartment, Jason and I futtered ideas or our Sinatra plan. The idea o a Sinatra plan is based on Frank Sinatra’s saying, “The best revenge is massive success.” Jason and I would spend hours at a time just discussing our revenge, as i the world owed us everything. It was a great way to keep us motivated in times o recent disappointment. Tonight, however, was dierent. A glow o bigger dreams seeped into the conversation, like water under a wooden door. door. Jason asked me a question that changed my lie orever: “What is your vision or the book you’re writing?” I had never actually contemplated my vision, so I responded with a meager nancial statement. Jason laughed in sadness over my adolescent vision o my dream. Grinning to keep together my pride, Jason went on to say, “Jonathan, How are you going to swim with the sharks i you’re still lying on the beach? Listen buddy, i you’re not going to think big, why think at all? I know you can move more than one million units o your book. Why not set a goal higher than that? Why not set a goal so high that you’d have to stretch every inch o your mind, body, and soul in order to make it happen? Why not set a goal o X-million copies sold worldwide, not just one?” I paused or a moment to absorb the magnitude o his suggestion. The rotisserie o my mind began to soak in every inch o the new idea brought brought to light. A voice yelled inside my head, “ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.” I decided that this book could touch the lives o X-million people. I would not settle or a crumb; I wanted the whole pie.
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Arriving home around 1 a.m. ater smoking some hookah, my ears started to take hold. I yelled into the th e bathroom mirror, mirror, “Selling one million copies would be a blessing; now I’m tackling X million. How am going to do that? Oh brother!” Negativity started to seep into my consciousness. I used an armative statement to keep mysel cool. Pessimism no longer had control o my thinking. As the saying goes, “I you argue or your alse belies, you deserve to keep them.” I decided to exchange thoughts about my limitations or empowering convictions. Jason’s words words kept repeating in my mind. I made the decision to dream dream as i I would live orever, and to live every day like it was my last. I took my dream seriously and began to pursue my passion with high aspiration. As I write these words, sometimes I think o my journey to this point. The word destiny comes to mind when my past gets plastered on paper. paper. I ask mysel, “Was it destiny that brought Jason, Nana, James, and me together togeth er that Saturday evening to release Jason rom the matrix o his mind?” In high school the only person I truly knew was James, and even then we were separated by popularity. He was higher on the social ladder than I was. I only got to truly know James, Nana, and Jason ater high school, which is bizarre. We don’t even live within walking distance o one another, but still keep connected. Jason lives in Flatbush; I live in Crown Heights; James James lives in Canarsie; and Nana lives in Long Island. I you’re rom rom Brooklyn, then you know these locations are not so close. I do believe deep down inside God sends us signals, slogans, mottos, quotes, or even people such as James and Jason to help us get back on the right path. My experiences have shown me that the road signs are clear -- you only have to pay attention to the signals. My academic ailure was a wakeup call rom the lie I was living. The advice I received rom my riends pushed me to think bigger and work harder, harder, and dig in deeper or the dicult path ahead o me.
Words Wor ds o Advice I you believe it’s time to walk along a new path, guess what? You’re probably right. Preserve your right to be happy today today.. Isolate yoursel rom those who discourage you. Seek out people who acknowledge your struggles and help you reach another plateau o sel-advancement. sel-advancement. I all else ails, ollow your your heart. You can’t go wrong wrong with your intuition; it’s God whispering to you. you.
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DREAM Give yoursel the opportunity to dream dream big. For a moment, allow yoursel to antasize about the kind o lie you could live i you had no ears at all. How much money do you make? How many people are are you helping? How protable protable is your multi level marketing or network marketing business become? How many people do you have working or you? Where do you want to retire? retire? Does your home have a porch, or is it located on the sandy beaches o Miami, Florida? How many cars do you own? Do any o them exceed the speed o 200 mph? What tires are wrapped around your Giovanni rims? Are you being chaueured? How many airplanes airplanes are registered registered in your company’s company’s name? Are there any stewards or stewardesses on your private plane? Are there any cute ones? How many people are traveling with you? What is your destination? Do you know many people in that part o the world? What clothes are you wearing? What designer are you rocking on the red carpet? Is your mother retired? Are your kids in college and tuition paid up? Are you giving your boss the nger, and then driving o in your Mercedes Benz? Develop the ability to dream as vividly as possible. The only limitation you have is your sel-perception.
What Do You You Think Is Possible? Anything is possible. The only limit you have is the one you’ve placed upon yoursel time and time again. Remember William? The only thing holding him back rom talking to women was his sel-perception. Once that was removed, he succeeded immediately. No one can put a limit on how ar you can go in lie besides you. You’re the captain captain and co-pilot o your lie. I you want to fy rom Caliornia to New York, that’s great, but remember you can travel rom Australia to London, back to Las Vegas, and on to Dubai ater a quick stop in Tokyo. “We have arms, but don’t reach or the sky” - Common Sense
Stupid Thought: The law o belie states that whatever you believe with condence becomes true or you. No matter how unrealistic it may seem at the moment, i you
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continuously think this thought, it’ll happen. You right now are a product o what you believe to be true. For example: The terrible eud in the Middle East is solely based on a dierence o belies. Decrepit bodies, bodies, bombed homes, grie stricken children children and a generation o uneducated civilians are all products o belies. Belies are so powerul that they can create create a hundred year long war war in the name o GOD. Think about that next time you believe you can’t do something. Religious belies are no dierent than the ability to believe in yoursel. The oundation to success is based upon creative thinking and the ability to execute your ideas. The most successul people in society won the game o lie by empowering themselves, not by living a lie o shame and mental anguish.
The Extra Mile Successul men and women always go the extra mile. They stay ocused, sinking deeper into themselves or the answers and working harder on themselves than they do at their job. Successul people are always on top o their tasks, rather than their tasks on top o them. They realize that i they don’t take the road road least traveled, they’ll never reach reach their target. target. Knowing the top is never crowded, crowded, they put their best oot oot orward. They sow all they can in order to reap the benets o their hard work through dedication and positive expectancy. I you begin to sow a dream, persist when times are bleak, work with enthusiasm, and properly execute each task, you can only reap the grand benets o your desires. Never give any less than your best. Put excellence behind everything you do and you will receive excellent benets. The law o sowing so wing and reaping is impartial to race, acial imperections, culture, or location. No matter who or where you are, creative thinking, hard work, and persistence will create success. Imagine being a armer. Every year you plant a crop o potatoes, careully placed with love and care. You You go o and do something else whilst they germinate and sprout. You You can’t see them grow but you KNOW they are growing. While you are working away at other things, you have a great big patch o vegetation coming to lie l ie on your arm. They blossom as you stand aside, gazing at the beautiul results o your hard work. Enjoying the ruits o your labor, you can bask in the glory o the harvest. h arvest. Successul people have the same mindset toward success. Shining love over each task big or small, they work hard to make sure the task gets done. Doing more than they are paid or, they reap more than expected.
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Why? They’ve sown more. While other, unsuccessul armers cultivate ruits and veggies with distilled anger and uncertainty, working only hal days and going on regular smoke breaks, the successul armer puts long-term gain over short-term pleasure. It’s time to put aside petty activities in avor o necessary tasks. The unsuccessul person will always put partying over hard work, alcohol over a good read, or television above a business meeting. We all know these people. Are you one o them? I was! But it wasn’t the way to go. Make better choices and you you will live a more ullling liestyle.
A Story o Persistence Michelle Hoskins was a small manuacturer in Chicago who made her grandmother’s honey cream syrup. She distributed it locally to a ew ew restaurants and stores. Michelle’s dream was to see her grandmother’s syrup on every table at Denny’s restaurants nationwide. Denny’s had 1700 restaurants at at that time, so Michelle wasn’t remotely remotely prepared to distribute, much less manuacture, enough honey cream syrup to supply that many locations. However However,, she believed that she could do it once she got the contract. Michelle started calling Denny’s corporate oce every Monday morning at 10:30 a.m. She would talk to anyone who would listen: receptionists, secretaries, secretaries, procurement, procurement, and manuacturing. They all said, “Yeah, “Yeah, Michelle… sounds great. great. Send us some o your grandma’s syrup and we’ll get back with you.” Like so many people who say that, they never called called her back. Undaunted, Michelle continued to call every Monday morning or two years. Ater two years, Denny’s restructured and hired a new CEO who heard about Michelle and decided to give her an opportunity. They let her place a bid, and she won a three million dollar contract doing exactly what she believed she would do. Michelle’s persistence allowed her to achieve a worthy ideal. Being persistent has no barrier except those you those you place. place. No matter how hard hard it seems at the time, i you want it bad enough, giving up will be always be harder than rolling with lie’s sucker punches. The one trait necessary or successul living is the will to be persistent.
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Focus I’ve given up dozens o extracurricular activities in order to write this book. I struggled struggl ed nding ocus o cus on Microsot Microso t Word when Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube YouTube sat my ngertips. I also struggled with nding ocus on Microsot Word when Facebook, Twitter, Twitter, and YouT YouTube ube sat my ngertips. I learned le arned the hard way that success takes concentration and single-minded ocus. Every time I switched rom miscellaneous tasks to Microsot Word, Wor d, I’d lose my stream o consciousness, sometimes never regaining my composure. It’s easy to click on a YouTube YouTube music video, search or random entertainment, or envy liestyles o the rich and amous; mostly everyone does it. Well, that’s that’s why most people ail in lie. What’s hard is misplaced with what’s easy, and what’s goal-achieving is swapped with random entertainment. Keep your mind zoned into your current activity i you want to deeat procrastination.
Everybody is a Critic Sometimes asking or an opinion on my book would cause me to second guess my agenda. I remember when I rst started to write, I asked a kid around my age about my writing skills. His blog was pretty successul with a nice an base. So I wrote him an email, asking him to advise me on how I could improve my writing. Based on the response I got, I’m assuming his girlriend had recently dumped him because he wasn’t able to satisy her sexually. Though I may not have any evidence, my theory has yet to be corrected. I’ve copied and pasted his exact words, or all o you to see. Let’s listen in on my deeat: “First o, this Horrible! I would better i you handed me nothing at all. I would like to know i English your rst language l anguage because, you’re writing is demoralizing to my brain. There are a lot o typos and i you want to be a good, you have to write well. You may want give up (just a suggestion), but i not, here’s a ew sites which can help your inexplicably terrible writing. Here are some helpul websites to get you started: star ted: www.copyblogger.com www.problogger.net
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Objectives or you to consider 1. Kill yoursel (just kidding, well not entirely) 2. Get someone to prooread prooread them or you. (Not your 5 yr old cousin) 3. Read a lot o literature (Not Dr Dr.. Seuss) 4. Write. A lot (i you can read) read) These are just the basic tips. The content you have is pretty bad, so I doubt people will read your material. But don’t be oended because Burger king is hiring. Good Go od luck. I you have any more questions, eel ree NOT to email me.” Contemplating this email made me eel stupid. Imagines o ailure mixed with violent acts o revenge as my goal or that month. I mean, was I really that bad o a writer? I knew I was a “C” student when it came to all my academic papers, but Jesus! Was he right? Possibly. Maybe I did need help in my writing skills; no one’s perect. I can’t become Stephen King overnight, but I sure can persevere persevere when lie throws me diapers. So I gave his letter the nger next to the index and persevered like all great humans do. Success was my only option; ailure was o my radar radar.. His negative comments pushed me into an obsession to succeed. I began to perect my crat. Writing or hours at a time, day in and day out, I started to improve. Posting articles on websites, starting my own blog, and even writing material by hand heightened my skills. The more I wrote, the better I became. I didn’t need his approval to urther my dreams. Instead, I used his disapproval as motivation to do even better.
We All All Fail A championship bout is only won with scrapes and bruises. Getting hit with a surprise let hook can knock you down, but only you can decide i you’re down or the count. While the reeree is counting to 10, the decision you make is sel-imposed. Do I lay low rom this tyrant and let him have the glory o deeating me? Or will I stand up and go or what’s rightully mine? You have to decide.
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My ailure only motivated my desire to become successul. The critic’ critic’ss words may have struck a chord in my ego, but it wasn’t nearly strong enough to send me running or the hills. I was in or the long haul in the eld o dreams. Nothing was going to stop me rom plowing my own destiny, and nothing should ever stop you. Stupid Thought: Haters will continuously try to put you down whenever they get the chance. Smile at those cynical remarks, and use those words as motivation. When it comes to being the target o hate, this is how I see the world. Men who live their lives hating others tend to marry women who eel the same way. They orm a relationship and procreate, procreate, soon giving birth bir th to a child who continues the legacy o hatred toward toward all people. The cycle continues until the world is lled with with haters. This is the world we live in today. These individuals can be amily members, old high school riends, ex-girlriends, ex-boyriends, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, bodega cashiers, police ocers, your best riend who continues to act like he wants to make things happen but always cancels without giving you a call, the mailman, the 3 train conductor, or even your old English teacher at Nazareth Regional High School who said, “Jonathan, you’re a terrible writer.” You never know who is i s a hater at rst glance, but they can easily be identied once they open their mouths.
Here is a scenario: Susan: You know, Kevin rom accounting is doing very well. He just bought a house in a very nice part o town. Jane (hater): I he is doing so well why does he drive that ‹89 Taurus? Taurus? I you make comments like Jane, then th en you’re a hater. hater. Be a hater i that’s what you want; I know many people who enjoy the thrill o the hate. Just remember several things. You You don’t get paid or it. You won’t succeed i all you do is consume yoursel with hate. Lastly,, it’s a waste o time. Lastly Stupid Thought: What is a hater? A hater is dened as a person that simply cannot be happy or another person’s success. Rather than be happy, they make a point o exposing a faw in that person. Hating, the result o being a hater, is not exactly jealousy. The hater doesn’t really want to be the person he or she hates; rather, the hater wants to knock someone down a notch.
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Did Someone Say Master Mind? Uhu-hahahahaha “In all societies, it is advisable to associate i possible with the highest; not that highest are is always the best, but because, i disgusted there, we can descend at anytime; but i we begin with the lowest, ascending is impossible.” – Charles Colton
A master mind group is essentially a conjunction o two or more people working actively together in perect harmony towards a common, dened purpose. The most amous historical gures o the past possessed master mind groups, including Henry Ford, Dale Carnegie, and Henry Firestone. These meetings took place in secluded locations where perect harmony was created. Christ himsel, as described in the Scripture stated: “For where two or three are gathering together in my name, there am I in the midst o them.” Master mind groups bring orth positive intellectual and spiritual energy ocused upon reaching a common goal. The purpose behind all meetings is to build each other up, bring orth or th recent successes or adversities, devise plans to become stronger every day, brain storm on relevant topics, and advocate participation, sharing challenges and important business issues o any kind. Your group should meet once per month or every other week. Everyone is accountable or his or her presence unless there is an emer emergency. gency. You want to be around people who will make the most o their opportunities. Association is o vital importance to being happy, so be selective o who you invite into your master mind group. Here’s the criterion. Your members must be highly driven, hard-working dreamers who desire achievement. Camaraderie is also essential, or loyalty is above any other concern when you want to rise above and dominate your reality. My master mind group consists o a ew reliable riends who have been discussed in the previous paragraphs, so you know my crew crew already. already. Good riends are hard to come come by,, so i you have any, learn to keep them. During our meetings we discuss everything by including long-term agendas, short-term possibilities, lawyer appointments, nancial setbacks, and how much hate we believe we are getting rom those who used to make un o our aspirations. We tend to mix up a bit, but business is always the meal rst devoured. My team and I made a pact long ago to dominate every single industry we choose to impregnate with our drive. Personal development being the rst, we made a decision
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to win. Whether any o us have college diplomas is irrelevant. We decided during the summer o 2008 to live by three words: “Divide and Conquer.” Conquer.” Our lives are going to be nothing but triumphs and celebrations. That’s all. No matter how much the ticket price may cost. We all made a decision to pay the cost to be our own boss, live an amazing liestyle, and have un each and every day. Nothing more, nothing less. Your mastermind group can include any race, color, credo, or gender; it doesn’t matter. What matters is the determination you bring in the creation o a new empire. You can only benet rom establishing a master mind group. Its unction is to bring you and your peers closer to your goals. Support each other during hard times and network as i your lie depended on it.
Unsure About Whom to Partner Up With For starters, don’t look at your riends. Some o you may be associating with the wrong crowd, so look outside your social tribe unless you already have a goal-oriented team o people who want to live a better lie. It’s best to start associating with people who are smarter, smarter, richer, and more optimistic than you are. These individuals are the movers and shakers o lie. Associating with these individuals will lead you you down a path o sel progression. Where can you nd them? Business seminars where people have what you want is the best way to go, whether it’s the home, career, career, relationship, or car. car. Networking is the easiest way to nd what you’re seeking. The best thing to do is to go where success lingers; it always leaves a trail. Ask yoursel “Where do successul people hang out?” Brainstorm out?” Brainstorm a ew ideas and I bet you’ll nd a ew trails that will lead you to your own acres o diamonds. Last but not least, be very careul who you associate with rom here on. We all need riends, but make sure you’re making the right decision with who you hang out with. Work can’t get done i your riends like to party, drink, smoke, complain, and watch television all day long. You You won’t succeed i your team doesn’t have the same ambition you do. So change up your peers i you want your lie to change. “I you’re smarter than your riends, you need new riends.” – Jonathan Figaro
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Success is a Learned Behavior “I you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else. It will spread into your work and into your lie. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” – Bruce Lee
You can only succeed ater a series o ailures. You must see ailure as an event, not a person. I mean, what’s what’s the sense o crying over spilled milk, right? This reminds reminds me o a lesson in ailure I read about in a tabloid last month on my way to the Dentist in Midtown Manhattan: “A 7 year old boy had been trying to take a bottle o milk out the rerigerator when he lost his grip and spilled the entire contents on the kitchen foor. His ather, instead o scolding him, said, “What an exciting mess you’ve made! I’ve never seen such a huge puddle o milk. Well, the damage is already done. Would you like to get down and play in the milk beore we clean it up?” Indeed, he did. Ater a ew minutes, his ather continued, “You know, whenever you make a mess like this, eventually you have to clean it up. So, how would you like to do that? We could use a towel, sponge, or mop. Which do you preer?” Ater they were nished cleaning up the milk, he said, “What we have here is a ailed experiment in how to carry a big bottle o milk with two tiny hands. Let’s go out in the back yard, ll the bottle with water and see i you can discover a way to carry it without dropping it. And they did.” What did this experience do? This experience allowed this young man to see ailure as enticing as success. Truthully, Truthully, i I were this kid my mother would have whooped my butt or spilling milk. Not because she had anger issues, but because we were poor, and milk costs an arm and a leg. Luckily or this young man, his ather was dierent. Ater reading this article, I started to think o ailure dierently. I no longer saw my ailures as demoralizing events. I began to appreciate the all and anticipate my rise to victory ater every setback. Ater every ailure, ask yoursel, “What can I learn rom this?” The this?” The answers to that question will lead you down a path o enlightenment. The answer may not come immediately, but it will come. Use this insight to uel you toward maximum achievement.
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Success Takes Time Tim e Most people believe success is an overnight gig and believe you me, I learned this the hard way. way. There came a time when I was ready to get paid. Getting laid was no longer on my plate; I was hungry or dinero. Seeking riches let my pockets dryer than the Sahara desert. I ended up joining a couple scams and even a multi level marketing business. I was attracted to the “Make millions within 6 months with our program” headlines. So I swiped my credit card or almost every opportunity known to man. I went rom Amway Quixtar all the way down the 123 power system. I was out o school, desperate, and needed cash ast. Ater losing about eight thousand dollars on an internet business I built rom scratch. I was so depressed; I slept all day long and considered going emo, but didn’t have the heart to wear black nail polish, and I was too broke to buy black clothes. I even missed my uncle’s uneral because I was just so pissed over my attempt to become wealthy. I was a college dropout, with no job, and brokeer than a homeless man who sleeps on the 4 train rom Utica Avenue in Brooklyn all the way to the Bronx. I you’re reading this and you’re not rom Brooklyn, this is a depressing train ride. My website sold our products, and two o the customers wanted reunds. Plus I had creditors threatening to show up at my house i I didn’t pay back those college loans that are so easy to orget orget once you’re out o school. My dream was beginning to ade away,, as smoking weed to calm my nerves crept into my consciousness. By a stroke o away genius, I came up with a revolutionary idea that truly saved my lie. My intuition screeched, “write your own e-book and sell it, you baboon.” You see I bought a reseller’s e-book, which cost me about three bucks, and tried to sell it or 60 dollars on my site. Call me stupid stupid all all you want, but the idea seemed brilliant at the time. Contemplating writing my own book grew into excitement. Could I really do this? I thought. Am I truly capable o being an author? Am I truly about to write a book? Was I the chosen one? Going along with my instincts let me with only one choice: chase the dream o being wealthy by doing something I truly enjoy. That was it. I decided to throw up the nger next to the index yet again at my present ailure, and nd my own path to success. The diculty in writing this book didn’t come rom actually putting words together or even getting my editor to tell me I did a great job. The diculty came rom believing I was a good enough writer to share my words with others. You are not what people have said you are. It is hard to believe now, but with some positive infuences in your lie, things will change. You can see yoursel dierently and choose a dierent path.
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It all starts with belie. You have to believe it is possible. I you don’t, then nothing will change or you. Stupid Thought: Sacrice is the name o the game, people. Ask any mother whether the suering o childbirth was worth the pleasure o her newborn. While in labor she may call you every word in the dictionary rhyming with shmuck you, masscole, masscole, or go to shmell, but ater the baby comes out o her womb, her ace lights up like a puppy who has just ound a bone on the side o the street. Happiness overshadows the long hours o pain.
Whatever You You Can Do, I Can Do Better The last lesson o the day is: Believe in yoursel. I know “believe in yoursel” is a cliché. Trust me, I thought I would be the last person telling anyone to believe in themselves, but I don’t have to meet you in order to give you the words o encouragement no one ever gave me. As a youngster I was never a math genius and am ar rom rom one now. I hated ractions, decimals, and calculus with a passion. Aternoon sessions in junior high were a nightmare with no end. I couldn’t get past problem one on the homework without my older brother brother Billy calling me a dumbass dumbass about six hundred hundred times. He usually got so rustrated that he did my homework or me, which was pretty cool until I funked all the math tests and went to summer school. I hate to admit this, but I even attended the Score Tutoring Learning Center on Futon Street in Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn to increase my mathematical whit. Sadly, this never worked. It was only during college that I decided to ace my ear and realize how important a role belie plays in our lives. During my days at Stoner Stony Brook University, my three closest pals were Dave Valvano, Charles Soterio, and Nitesh Singh. We all usually had the same classes together because we were all in the medical eld. Math was a course we all hated, but had to take. During our study sessions, rather than complain about how diculties it was, we encouraged each other to pass with fying colors no matter what. We swapped beer pong tournament time or mathematical conquest as much as we could. Soon, I began to understand the concepts rom our teacher; we called him “the hunter” because he dressed like a paratrooper and had a beard as long as an Orthodox Orth odox Jew. By the end o the semester, I got a B+ in the class while my riends trailed behind me. I must admit it elt good, but what elt better was the increased belie in mysel or what
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was possible. The grade may not have changed my GPA enough to stay on campus, but it increased my sel-worth. I began to believe I was good in math, and that it is possible to achieve that which I was told I couldn’t do. This was one o the most cathartic lessons I learned at Stony Brook, and it changed my lie orever orever..
Belie is the First Step to Stupid Success William, or example, had to believe he was capable o wooing the opposite sex beore he could actually do it. I had to believe I was mathematically literate to obtain a B+. Belie is the threshold threshold o all success, big or small. As Napoleon Hill, author o Think and Grow Rich stated, “Whatever the mind o man can conceive and believe it can achieve.” The premise o this message is: Believe rst, and when you walk towards your desire believing, you will achieve your goal. As Johann Wolgang Wolgang von Goethe said, “Man is made by his belie. As he believes, so is he.” No matter the objective, you can achieve what others believe is impossible. Who cares what they believe? The question you must ask yoursel is, “What do I believe?” We’ll discuss belie much more in the next chapter, so allow me to leave you with the classic story o Cli Young. Cli Young was a armer born and raised in South Beach on the southern part o Victoria, Australia. He grew up on a arm, spending his whole lie tending to cows, chickens, turkeys, and roosters. At 61 years old, Cli decided to enter one o the toughest races in the world, a six-and-hal-day run in Sydney, Australia. The race was lled with world-class athletes sponsored by big name companies. Cli Young showed up in overalls, galoshes, and work boots. People thought he would die trying to complete in this monstrous event without proper training or attire. Not knowing there was routine or running long distances, Cli ran nonstop or ve days straight as the rest o the runners slept or six hours each day and ran or 18. As dawn approached, Cli would shufe right along his competitors, who were sound asleep. He completed the race at a record-breaking record-breaking 12 hours. Cli has become a legendary tale or all those who believe in miracles. Why did he win over all o these legendary racers? His lack o training paid o o because his belie was not contaminated by ormer training. Cli’s ability to erase the lines between genius and insanity elected him numero uno in the death-deying race, shattering the mirrors o what is possible or others by raising limiting belies. Envision yoursel as the individual you want to become and soon your mind will match your vision. You will begin to walk the walk and talk to talk congruent with whom you
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want to become. Whatever you write on the inside, you will experience on the outside. Become something more than a statistic. Become who you believe you can be, and you will. All it takes is a bit o imagination and belie in the possibility that there is no impossibility.
Stupid Ideas to help you along the way. 1. Nothing beats action; just do it like the Nike commerc commercial. ial. 2. Your purpose can be dened through through a series o questions. 3. Focus on positivity; let go o devilish ways. 4. Learn to balance your lie. You You can work hard hard and still maintain a decent social lie. Anything is possible. I I can do it, so can you. 5. Extra eort equals extra rewar reward. d. As you sow, sow, so shall you reap. 6. Failure is a trampoline box string, just bounce back up. 7. Association breeds similarities. Associate with with people who will encourage you. 8. Spank yoursel silly with sel discipline. Do what you know you should do, no matter your emotional state. It pays o in the end.
Chapter 3
Screwball Dreams
Don’t Turn Turn O the Light. The Boogie Man Will Arrive! As i the revelations o my lie couldn’t get embarrassing enough, the scariest thing or me as a little kid was Chucky, a three-oot doll who had an ineriority complex and lust or world domination and cynically massacred everyone who stood in his way. His devilish laughter beore and ater each slay propelled me to sleep with a nightlight or the majority o my adolescent years. My brother, taking pleasure in my misery, would scream out, “Chucky is going to get you!” in my bedroom beore I went to bed. This usually sent me crying into my mother’s arms, leading her to disciplinary actions over Billy’s civil disobedience! But even though Chucky wasn’t real, why did I ear him? Was he really going to murk me or my amily? Was he going to pop up out o the movie screen screaming, “I got you sucker!”? (Keenen Ivory Wayans’ Wayans’ss smile) So why did I ear his demonic presence, which was truly just a abrication o a sinister screenwriter with one hell o an imagination? Even though Chucky wasn’t real, he was authentic to me. Everyone said, “He’s just a doll, Jonathan.” But I couldn’t believe the hype because I was too entranced by the reality o the situation. I chose to believe. Now how stupid was I to believe Chucky was going to gut me like a sh. From a scale o one o ne to ten, I’d say 2000. No longer earing Chucky, I’ve come to realize this ear has a similar hold on people. It’s like the mother who is too araid to ollow her passion because she thinks it’s too late or the ather who wants to build his own business, but is araid to step out on a limb. In reality, you can ollow your passion and achieve your desires. Many do and are extremely happy to have stepped out on that ledge. Like Chucky, all ear rhymes with you being a wussy! Fear should never hold you back rom achieving happiness, success, or peace o mind.
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Imagine how strange it would be i I, at 21 years old, still believed Chucky was ater me all this time! Wouldn’t you say, “Jonathan, bro… you need to grow up, man. Chucky is just a doll rom a movie. He isn’t real. There’ There’ss actually an actor who does his voice and everything. You You can see it on the credits ater the movie is over!”? What i my response was, “What do you mean? O course he’s real; he’s on television and on movie posters. He’s coming ater me… Ah!”? Wouldn’t you think I needed some psychological help? Well, I’m telling you this or your own good. All that ear you hold as true to yoursel is not real. Grow up! It’s only real because you have accepted it as act. No matter how strong you may believe in that ear, its only power is what you give it. So your ear o rejection, heights, or success only aects you due to the intensity o your belies. Without those belies, you would live earlessly. Isn’t that a goal worth aiming or?
Action PLEASE During the World War, the army wanted to make sure every recruiter was able to swim. One o the exercises required recruiters to jump into a six-oot deep indoor pool. One man stood at the edge, e dge, rightened o water. water. Scared out o his wits, he was araid o the mix between hydrogen and oxygen. The ear in this young man was real, as his ace expressed anguish and mortication. While his toes tapped the water or temperature, he slipped into the pool. At rst he was screaming at the top o his lungs, but quickly began to calm down. His body started to adjust to the new environment, and he began to naturally administer to his new eeling o being agile. He started to laugh and giggle, realizing rsthand that his ears were just in his mind, not proportional to reality reality.. To cure your ears o dream achievement, you have to take action. Nothing else will bring earul thoughts to their knees than the act o pursuit. Once you begin to take any kind o action toward your ears, whether stage perormance, public speaking, or working out, they will diminish. Ask yoursel, “What do I ear?” Then write down a list o activities you can do to end this hot mess. Start taking action today. Don’t wait until tomorrow.. Act now. Within a couple o weeks, you’ll conquer your ear with the ease o tomorrow a Samurai warrior.
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Hot Chocolate Mama Awaiting my second interview at the 34th Street Macy’s located in New York, New York, I was seated next to a wonderully luscious black woman. With an intention to practice my communication skills, I entered a room in dead silence. Warm bodies lled the most uncomortable seats known to man. Everyone’s eyes looked my way as i I were a rock star. With my mindset o ear-conquering, I immediately started to speak to this lovely lady. Almost convinced o my natural ability to speak to anyone, I started to interrogate her. As the olks around us consumed their minds with random thoughts, I worked her like a slave, whipping out question ater question with no end in sight. I was in no position to let my ears keep me down. So as our conversation grew, I started to get comortable. With the intention o growing not only nancially, I wanted to become as socially active as possible. So I initiated the rst toast as our peanut-butter conversation spread smoothly over her recent divorce, two children currently in college, and position to work in the cosmetic eld on the sales foor. She divulged her past bachelor’s degree experience at Brooklyn College. Taking up courses in criminal justice, she was captivated by the possibility to be a correctional ocer, but her boyriend at the time orbade it because he knew the possible dangers o her job. She ell head over heels or this gentleman whom she described as being a “6’5’’ milkchocolate devil!” But she seriously contemplated his authority over her God-given right to be ree and to choose the path she wanted or her own happiness. Diana nally broke o the relationship due to his lack o support. She said, “I wanted to be ree rom the negative baggage and live lie the way I wanted.” She continued, “Fear can make you strong or keep you weak. The outcome is based on your interpretation o this idea. I spent the next 20 years o my lie loving my job jo b and career. Nothing meant more to me than keeping the inmates peaceul and civil among each other. O course times got rough when I had to whip dat ass, but that was the exciting part. I had to spread my wings and fy toward the direction I elt would make me better. better. I’m happy to have ollowed ollo wed my heart.” As she walked out o the room when her name was called, we both had matched looks o non-verbal appreciation as her luscious body took a hold o her Prada shoes, only to leave a trail o wisdom behind. Reentering the room as i she had orgotten her house keys, she stood close to me and whispered, “I you let ear keep you down, you’ll never get up.” This was the day I realized success in lie was determined by two things:
what you ear and your willingness to conquer those ears. I you can’t conquer your ear, then you’ll never see the light o day even i the sun is out because you’ll be too consumed with anger to realize your beautiul dreams. At this moment, fashbacks to my college days brought me to a tough period in my past. I attended Stony Brook University at age 19, and I elt completely lost. Uneasy about midterms and nals, I was plagued with ailure over and over again. Being Bei ng a health science major meant nothing to me at the time and still doesn’t to this day. Partying like it was 1965, I recalled a conversation with my brother that had a proound eect on my lie. Sitting on my bed, we chatted about various aspects o my lie at that moment, rom girls to academia. I told him I was doing great while I had just recently gotten a D on my chemistry nal and been told by my advisor to retake the course. He got the nger next to the index when he uttered that statement and kicked me out o his oce. I guess he wasn’t too pleased with my reaction, but I had to be honest with how I elt. Speaking to my brother on this crispy Sunday aternoon led to a discussion about ashion. He suggested I start my own clothing line. Right then and there, I hopped o my bed and was enticed by the idea. It was one o the most thrilling experiences o my lie. Although I was heavily into ashion on a personal level, I never considered the idea o doing it on my own. I always knew I could add a little pizzazz to the industry o clothing, but hadn’t given a second thought to being an entrepreneur. entrepreneur. Almost immediately, I began to quickly discuss potential designs and sought out ideas or inspiration. Stupid Thought: I always had a passion or ashion. Writing just came rst. During the months o April and May o ‘08, I spent more time thinking o brilliant ideas or ashion designs than actually studying or any o my nals. For some reason, ashion motivated me more than any biology quiz ever could. I ound it quite miraculous to be able to create a symbol, design, or logo that people all across the world can love and appreciate even though they have never met me and wear my brand with pride as i they had drawn the designs themselves. I did not care much about academia. I was convinced that I wanted to become a ashion designer. I started my own company rom scratch and wanted to display my talents in ront o the masses. Talking with a ew people who enjoyed streetwear as much as I did increased my condence tremendously. With positive eedback rom a select group o people, I started to dedicate hours and hours into drawing up a whole collection o illustrated pieces.
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Stuck between the names o Tony Bananas and Timeless, I asked my riend Depot which one would work better. better. Depot and I sat on the benches o McDonald’s on Nichols Road in Long Island to talk about it, but the discussion o my idea turned into a living nightmare. Surrounded by the immense heat o the sun, Depot said, “You’re “You’re starting a clothing line!!! line !!! Haha, that will never work!” It was obvious that Depot was a hater rom the get-go. But at 19, I was too naive to see that he was just another kid who was a product o hatred. Being so ragile minded at the time, I began to eel my heart crumble like the last lea dried up rom the hot summer breeze right beore winter strikes. Holding my pride together, I tried to investigate the reasons or his lack o support. I spoke earlier to a ew college pals o mine like David Valvano, Charlie Soterio, and Nitesh Singh, and they all supported me one way or another. another. Dave, or example, always kept asking me about my clothing line, which showed me that he truly supported my vision. Walking into his dorm room in Benedict, he’d say, “How is Reign Supreme coming along?” (This was the brand’s initial name). Then we’d start conversing about my progress while he provided me with suggestions. suggestio ns. Depot, on the other hand, played a more Lucierian role in my lie at that time. As Depot’s logic and reasoning became harder to reute, reute, I started to doubt my capabilities as a ashion designer. He brought not only extreme negativity into the conversation, but also combined it with the incessant ear o ailure. Convinced by his argument, I went back that night to drink and smoke my dreams away. away. For the rst time in a while, I thought I was on the right path. But my encounter with Depot’s ego edged my dream into oblivion. Soaked in marijuana smoke, I ell asleep with shredded dreams o a hopeless plan. I’ve matured greatly since coming out o this hallucination. I realized his opinion was only as powerul as I made it. Was Depot right about my lack o intelligence or courage to create a brand bigger than Ralph Lauren or Guess? Only i I had accepted his belie would I have still been lost. But as aith would have it, God had better plans or me. His words became as utile as the Conederate resistance against the Union. I soon realized that even though Depot may not have supported my vision, his ear o my success could only harm me i I’d allow it to. His mind was in the sandbox, and I had the vision o an architect. It may have taken me quite some time to realize this ideology, but as the saying goes, “better late than never ne ver.” .”
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A Salute to My Soldiers on on the Front Line As a college dropout rom Brooklyn College, my riend Chris Stanley never let ear keeps him rom success. A hip-hop head at heart, Chris could never deny his love or music. Even in high school, he joined the band to display his musical talents. Ater attending two years o college, he realized that success to him was not in a diploma, but in the pursuit o his own passion. Chris elt happiest when mixing tunes rom rap to pop to rock and has dedicated himsel to being a proessional DJ and co-ounder o Hi Lo Entertainment. One o the greatest record record labels in existence. Advocating a stand or what he believes with his “Live Free Die Hard” tattoo, he let the comorts o the classroom to ollow his nature. Chris chose to dedicate his entire lie to music. He did what most people never attempt to do in their entire lives. He jumped o the ledge o comort, expecting to grow his wings on his way down. Soaring through the sky o possibilities, Chris put his dream into action. He took up DJ classes, worked two jobs (including (i ncluding mixing tunes at Pete Wentz’s bar, bar, Angels & Kings at th 500 East 11 Street), and developed the mentality necessary to achieve his goal while still making time to woo drunken women! I’m not sure how he did it! He exemplies a ree spirit who creates his own circumstances, never letting society dictate the pace at which he runs the marathon o his lie. I may not always agree with his liestyle, but his dedication to his crat lets me know his dreams mean more to him than lie itsel. The dierence between him and the majority o people in society is his willingness to take action. Knowing that his dream can only come rom sel accountability, he let ormal education or real-lie experience. I proudly salute Chris or his bravery and all my soldiers - Jimmy Gelin (CEO o Sako Media) Billy Figaro (CEO o Freightway Transportation) Custodio Castilio (uture MLB player), Saba Jenga, Don C, Blackway, Andre Grier (hip hop and R&B legends in the making), Chris Mc Cain (Master Photographer) Chris Harris (Journalist Connoisseur), and Jason Ross (Media, Music and Oil tycoon) - on the ront line o progress. Whether they are in school or already in the real world, these individuals have stepped up to the plate during lie diculties and deserve to be remembered and reprised.
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Lesson 1: Take 100% Responsibility or Your Lie But how? That’s a very good question, my ellow big dreamers, big thinkers, and uture go-getters. Do what Chris has done. Listen to the positive voice in your head. Eliminate blame; eliminate excuses. I the blame track or the excuse track plays repeatedly in your mind, say out loud, “I am responsible or my lie and everything that happens to me.” Repeat this statement until the eeling o anxiety subsides. Second, listen to yoursel when you speak. In your conversation, do you hear yoursel blame others or things that don’t go exactly as you want? Do you nd yoursel pointing ngers at your upbringing, your parents’ infuence, your amily members, your spouse, or the amount o money that you make? Are you making excuses or goals unmet or tasks missed their deadlines? I you can hear your blaming patterns, you can stop them. How? Interrupt yoursel when you’re speaking in a negative tone. Start adding positive connotations to your ideas. It’s hard hard to believe in our own ideas i we adopt a satanic persona to our sel concepts. “Optimists are right. So are pessimists. It’s up to you to choose which you will be.” - Harvey Mackay
Thomas Edison Temporary deeat should never keep you rom succeeding. Only when you call it quits does your dream shatter like glass thrown rom a car window. You can only reach your dream through continuous ailure. Edison ailed 10,000 times beore creating the carbon-impregnated lament, which lighted the rst incandescent light bulb in 1879. He ailed and ailed and ailed until he reached his goal. On his 5,000th ailure, he was interviewed by a young man rom the Chicago newspaper. newspaper. The young man asked Edison, “Why do you persist? Don’t you know man was born to light l ight himsel through lie with kerosene and lantern?”
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Mr. Edison said, “Young man, you do not know how the world works, but let me explain Mr. something to you. I have not ailed 5,000 times. I have just ound 5,000 ways that will not work.” People don’t realize Edison was the greatest inventor in American History, but also the greatest ailure in American history. His ailures led him to invent 1,093 dierent inventions patented at the U.S. Patent Oce, making him and all his ellow ello w royal colleges extremely wealthy. I’d now like to share with you a wonderul story o how a dream can still live on, no matter what age group you’re in: “The rst day o school, our proessor introduced himsel and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. shoulder. I turned around to nd a wrinkled, little littl e old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, “Hi, handsome. My name is Rose. I’m 87 years old. Can I give you a hug?” I laughed and enthusiastically responded, “O course you may!” and she gave me a giant squeeze. “Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?” I asked. She jokingly replied, “I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple o children, and then retire and travel.” “No seriously,” I said. I was curious as to what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age. “I always dreamed o having a college education, and now I’m getting one!” she told me. Ater class, we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant riends. Every day, or the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this “time machine” as she shared her wisdom and experience with me. Over the course o the year, Rose became a campus icon and easily made riends wherever she went. She loved to dress up, and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her rom the other students. She was living it up. At the end o the semester, we invited Rose to speak at our ootball banquet. I’ll never orget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three-by-ve cards on the foor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed, she leaned into the microphone and simply said, “I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer or Lent, and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order, order, so let me just j ust tell you what I know.” As we laughed, she cleared her throat and began, “We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only our secrets to staying young, being happy, happy, and achieving success.”
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“You have to laugh and nd humor every day.” “You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it!” “There is a huge dierence between growing older and growing up. I you are 19 years old and lie in bed or one ull year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn 20 years old. I I am 87 years old and stay in bed or a year and never do anything, I will turn 88. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always nding the opportunity in change.” “Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets or what they did, but rather or things they did not do. The only people who ear death are those with regr regrets.” ets.” She concluded her speech by courageously singing “The Rose.” She challenged each o us to study the lyrics and live them the m out in our daily lives. At the year’s end, Rose nished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week ater graduation, Rose died peaceully in her sleep. Over 2,000 college students attended her uneral in tribute to the wonderul woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.” Today oday,, I dare you to win. I dare you to persist beyond what others may expect rom you. I dare you to dream bigger than you’ve ever thought possible. I dare you to imagine the lie you’ve always wanted to live. Imagine a doctor telling you that your lie expectancy has just been dropped to the next 6 months due to a grueling disease. What would you do? Who would you orgive? Who would you speak to? Where would you go? What would you accomplish? Think honestly about all these powerul questions. Sit outside yoursel, and analyze your lie in third person. See where you are now, and envision where you want to be. Leave rustration and embarrassment behind. Don’t orget to laugh at your mistakes. Our blunders make us who we are. Guard your dreams with a st ull o dynamite, a 32-oot-long mineeld, three hungry gorillas, and a machine-gun post on the west wing o your mind. Never say anything contrary to your dreams. Reuse to accept plan B; it only distracts you rom plan A. The saying goes, “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.” I say, “Put them all in one basket, but watch it.” Break ree rom the shackles o doubt and ear, and embrace change. Without a dream, you can’t see the light at the end o the tunnel. You’ll only jog down the lonely road o lie without a map or exit sign. The key is to dream big, and then do whatever it takes to turn it into reality reality..
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Who are some o your role models? Just look lo ok at pioneers such as Rowland Hussey Macy (ounder o Macy’s retail store), Ray Kroc (ounder o McDonald’s), Thomas Watson (ounder o IBM), Shawn Carter (Rocawear CEO and rap artist), Peter Thiel (CEO o PayPal), Mark Zuckerberg Zuckerberg (ounder o Facebook), and J.K. Rowling (creator o the Harry Potter series). All these men and women have one thing in common: A BIG DREAM. Their current success refects their tenacity to think big. You too can be a causality o your positive thinking by inducing yoursel with courage, bravery, bravery, and sel-responsibility. Enter the dream-creation actory with condence. Leave your doubts on the doorstep, right next to ear o ailure and impossibility. Once you’ve done this, ollow the steps below or maximum achievement. You won’t be disappointed.
Dream-Creation Factory 1. What is your purpose? Think o what you truly want to become. Whether Whether you want to be a great entertainer in the music industry, a Broadway showgirl, or a successul online businesswoman, make your dream denite and specic. It’s quite alright i you’re unsure what your purpose is. Ask yoursel the ollowing questions or enlightenment: •
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What do I love to do? What would I do i I wasn’t being paid or it? (It’s the activity that you eel most comortable with and have un doing) What do I nd most value in doing?
Envision yoursel as already having what you want each and every day or 15 minutes at a time. Feel as i you’re already there, and you will reach your nal destination. 2. Package your idea into a solid belie system. Nothing will happen until you believe it’s possible. The second step to dream creation is to believe you can achieve. Stop trying to convince others o your ideas; convince yoursel. Seal your vision in a suitcase o possibility, enthusiasm, passion, and persistence. Allow others to see the ruits o your labor ater you’ve succeeded. Never say too much. Just take action. Results speak or themselves. 3. Git wrap your dream in a bright blue ribbon o daily objectives. Necessary Necessary action must be taken, or you’ll become delusional. Why? Thought without action equals delusion. Become a doer not a gonna doer. Let me ask you this question: how can you judge a man? Is it by what he says, what he believes, what time he
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sleeps, who he dates, what he wears, or what car he drives? No, you can only judge a man by what he does. It was said that “a thousand years o thought are nothing compared to one step in the right direction.” Make yoursel accountable or reaching the stars. Track your progress, progress, expect the best, and continue to push orward against possible resistance. The greatest ailures o today are going to be the greatest successes o tomorrow. Remember that! 4. The nal piece o the puzzle is purely purely simple. “Never give up. Never ever give up!”
What Is Your Your Purpose? A master martial artist asked Bruce to teach him everything he knew about martial arts. ar ts. Bruce held up two cups, both lled with liquid. “The rst cup,” said Bruce “represents “represents all o your knowledge about martial arts. The second cup represents all o my knowledge about martial arts. I you want to ll your cup with my knowledge, you must rst empty your cup o your knowledge.” I you want to discover your true purpose in lie, you must rst empty your mind o all previously conceived notions o abricated nature. Your dreams o nancial success, true love, eternal happiness, or a physique that will make Arnold blush are all nice ideas. i deas. But your purpose is not categorized as traits you choose to develop or bodies you want to obtain. Your purpose in lie is what you truly want and love to do. I you want to be successul and live your dreams, do one thing. You have to discover and uncover lie purpose. You have to realize you were put here to do more than drink up all the water and eat up all the ood. There is a signicant reason or why you were born. I don’t care how your mom and dad had you; you’re here. You’ve already already won the race or lie. You You stood a better chance at being struck by lightning than being born. So when you realize that your ngerprints are one o a kind on this planet, you understand how uniquely gited you are as a human being. You’ll also understand that your purpose in lie is not spending hours watching reality shows! You live in reality! Now become a person who lives lie on purpose and with purpose. “The dreamers are the saviors o the world.” - James Allen
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The Walkthrough Let me share with you a story o two BIG dreamers, who exempliy courage. These are individuals I personally admire, and maybe some o you are amiliar with their works. For thousands o years, fight was but a dream - the very denition o the word “impossible.” But two young men set impossible as their goal and orever changed the world. A fying toy, as a git rom their ather, sparked a lielong interest. They worked in a bicycle shop, but pursued fight as a hobby. Along the way, the hobby became a passion that relentlessly drove them to try new things, challenge conventional wisdom, continuously strive hard, and reach urther heights. With no more than a high school diploma, the Wright brothers put their curiosity into action. They built over seven fying machines and crashed each more than once. Frustration and disappointment seemed more overwhelming ater each attempt, yet they never stopped believing. Soon ater each ailure, they rebuilt and modied their eorts, continuously applying what they had learned. Like every great success, manned fight was the result o alse starts, detours, and dead ends. Through the disappointments and doubts, determined perseverance and unwavering belie led them on. On December 17th, 1903, in spite o dangerous gusts o wind and below-reezing temperatures, they took a desperate gamble. I they wanted to be home by Christmas, they had to put their belie in the impossible into action. At 10:35 A.M., in a fight o only 12 seconds covering 120 eet, they did what men and women only dreamed o doing or centuries… they few. On the ourth attempt, the plane landed 852 eet rom its starting point in 59 seconds, snapping a support line but otherwise undamaged. They did the impossible. They rose above all obstacles and achieved the unimaginable. “I birds can glide or long periods o time, then… why can’t I?” - Orville Wright Now it’s your turn! It’s time to dream the impossible, set goals and dauntless resolutions, and put unconquerable aith into action in order to achieve the impossible. When you do, you’ll discover that maybe God also intended or you to fy fy.. Trickling down the dream avenue, we come across the legendary story o Sylvester Stallone, most amously recognized or his sensational perormance in the movie Rocky. Maybe you’ve heard o his story, but Sylvester Stallone’s road rom rags to riches was harsher than most can imagine.
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Born with a paralyzed chin, tongue, and lip rom a birth-related accident, Stallone was the target o much ridicule or his slurred speech and drooping lower lip. Born into a poor amily in New York City, Stallone attended school in the suburban lie o Philadelphia, where he rst developed his acting skills. He spent two years in Geneva, Switzerland, honing his acting skills, beore heading back to Miami, Florida, and becoming a drama major at the University o Miami, Mi ami, where he began to write screenplays. He let the university beore graduation and moved back to NYC to audition or various parts with no success, much less a single call back. Failure ater ailure led him to star in a leading role in The Lords o Flatbush, in which he received his rst writing credit to urther support his acting career. Despite this small break, he struggled to build any momentum as he continued to audition with one rejection ater another. another. So he decided to cut acting or a while and instead concentrated on writing screenplays, but nothing changed. Stallone tried to sell his ideas, but was given the cold shoulder sho ulder by every possible agency. agency. He ran out o money and became conned in a desperate situation where his dreams interered with eeding his amily. Wandering the cold streets o NYC one night, Stallone strolled into the library as he normally did, seeking compassion rom authors such as Edgar Allen Poe and Tolstoy and motivation to help him keep going in pursuit o his dreams. At one point, Stallone sideswiped the average job, resorting to regrettable acts such as hocking his wie’s jewelry and even selling his poor old dog or $50 bucks. As he sat inside his home stricken with misery rom his actions, he began watching the WepnerAli ght. Inspired by Wepner’s heart to go blow or blow with Ali despite being the underdog, Stallone began writing the story o Rocky Balboa in a matter o 24 hours. He approached directors directors to shoot his vision and got them interested in the t he screenplay. screenplay. His only condition was to act in his own movie. Stallone’s desire to act in his own movie kept him rom taking oers o up to $300,000 even though he was dead broke. So ater countless negotiations, they nally allowed him to star in his movie, awarding him $25,000 only or his eorts. He accepted this deal without hesitation, went back to the guy to whom he sold his dog, and bought it back or a whopping $15,000 and a part in the movie Rocky. As Stallone’s desire and passion or success were plastered on screen, Rocky was nominated or ten academy awards, winning three including best lm. What more can be said? In the words o Russell Crowe as he accepted his long-awaited Oscar or Best Actor or Gladiator, “You know, when you grow up in the suburbs o Sydney, or Auckland, or Newcastle, like Ridley [Scott] or Jamie Bell, or the suburbs o anywhere, you know a dream like this seems kind o vaguely ludicrous and completely unattainable. But this moment is directly connected to those childhood imaginings. And or anybody who’s on the downside o advantage and relying purely on courage: It’s possible.”
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Plaster the word “Dreamer” on your orehead with superglue. Let the world know you’re related to John Lennon, and just imagine a world without war, poverty, or cynicism. Remember it’s not about how you start, but how you nish. So do as the wise Winston Churchill said, “Never, never, never, never give up”, and you will succeed. “Spoon Boy: Do not try and bend the spoon. That’s impossible. Instead... only try to realize the truth. Neo: What truth? Spoon Boy: There is no spoon.”
Stupid Ideas worth remem remembering. bering. 1. Take 100% responsibility responsibility or your lie. It’s It’s the only way to move move orward peaceully in the direction o your dreams. 2. Embrace ailure. ailu re. You You have to crawl beore you can walk. Take Take the process o goal achievement day by day. Walk patiently down the road o change. It’s not how many times you all, but how many times you get up. 3. Your purpose in lie is directly directly proportional to what you enjoy doing. I you love to talk, become a talk show host. I you love to write short stories, become an author. I you love to draw, become an artist. Whatever you love to do, just do it. As Shakespeare wrote, “To be or not to be, that is the question.” What’s your answer? 4. (Fill in the blank) ear! (sexy voice) It’s all in your head.
Chapter 4
Bonkers Imagination
“I closed my eyes to see my dreams. Seeing is believing,” said Dr. Seuss, as my eyes wandered o the page. As I tucked my baby cousin into her bed or the rst time, she asked me, “Can dreams really come true?” As innocent as a puppy dog lost on the side o the Brooklyn Bridge, the ve-year-old Jasmine looked deeply into my big brown eyes, wondering i dreams were real. I said, “O course, dreams are possible. You You can do anything you put your mind to, sweetie. I you can believe it, you can achieve it.” Looking long and hard at her own refection in my eyes, she pushed away her Dora the Explorer bed sheets, fung her arms around my neck with enthusiasm, enthusi asm, and asked, “You “You really mean I can be a ballerina on Broadway like Anna Pavlova or a talk show host like Oprah?” I wasn’t sure who Anna Pavlova was, but I agreed with conviction! I couldn’t deny the beauty o Jasmine’s innocence, as she started to jump up and down in her SpongeBob pajamas and drool over the possibility o possibility. Jasmine was never told that it was possible, and hearing that made her the happiest I had ever seen. When it was time or bed, she slid back with a large smile on her ace and red dots on both o her cheeks. Her eyes glowed with joy and excitement as I sang her R. Kelly’s “I Believe I Could Fly” beore she slipped into Alice’s Wonderland. Walking out o her room at 10 P.M., I reminisced about the time I believed in nothing but loose women and alcohol. That’s not to say I’m not into this now, but my primordial belies o what is possible have grown since then! I immersed mysel in books like Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain as consciousness continuously knocked on my door,, leaving letters on my ront porch. door My dream o being ree rom mediocrity became more certain every day day.. Deeply relaxed on my bed, I envisioned the lie I knew I wanted to live and experience. I closed my eyes, and scenarios o sandy beaches and sunrise on the balcony o my two-story palace in Brooklyn, where the grass would be cut by workers I hired last night, sent me into a blissul existence.
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Sliding into my choice o vehicle or the day, I’d decide to be chaueured in my spaceship on the way to a pressing business meeting. As rain began to all, I’d break an umbrella over my reshly cut Dark Caesar and Karen (my emale driver) would swing open my door with the resilience and speed o Wolverine rom Marvel Comics! As I’d enter my Manhattan oce, not too ar rom the Rocawear headquarters, my Nike SB shoes would dunk-tap the foor with elegance. Dark shades would cover my natural expression as i I was born with this accessory accessory.. I’d go into my oce with 3,000 hardworking employees, all determined to contribute to the whole world and happy to be o service to mankind. With a pay scale o 500 million dollars a year, I’d walk into my oce with a warm welcome and a large smile across my ace. My oce would be stockpiled with directors, executives, and mentors brushing up on next year’s nancial possibilities. My company would be rated the most democratic workplace on this planet or the past 10 consecutive years. With a company lled with bright aces and great personalities, I’d do my best to make company lie better than home lie. Ater my morning meetings, I’d speak to my new recruits personally. I’d tell my employees to treat work lie as they do their love lie: “Do it well, take your time, and reach the climax only ater your customer has had theirs!” Surrounded by ame and ortune, my amily would no longer eel the brunt o economic turmoil. Anyone within the amily name, who has been in my lie rom the get-go, would no longer work or a penny at the local Blockbuster. I’d do my best to make my amily sel-sucient on their own with my guidance. The motto goes, “Give a man a sh and you eed him or a day. Teach Teach a man to sh and you eed him or a lietime.” With the expansion o my music label and the rising popularity o my ashion brand, lie is all the sweeter. Awaking rom this wondrous mental experience, I was rejuvenated tenold. I got up more motivated and elt ready to take on the world. I worked more diligently, concentrated or longer hours, and limited external distractions. Tiresome shits at Macy’ Macy’ss may have drained my energy, but visualization always kept me aligned with my long-term goals. The process o the book was halway completed, and my Sinatra plan was coming to lie. I could soon vividly see a Citibank teller saying, “Sorry “Sorry,, Mr. Mr. Figaro. You’ve You’ve exceeded the amount o money we can hold in one account. We’re going to have to transer $112 million dollars rom your checking account back into your savings. Is that aright with you, Mr. Figaro?” Looking in playul disgust, I’d reply, “Well, i you have to. I don’t want it to be any inconvenience on your part.”
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She’d say, “O course not, we’re here to serve you. Would you like some more Grey Poupon?” I’d quickly say, “Well, o course my lady!” You see your imagination can take you anywhere you want to go. You must rst see yoursel where you want to be beore it could maniest. France, Germany, Germany, Amsterdam, Los Angeles, New York, Nashville, and Dubai are all locations to where your dreams can take you i you truly believe it. You can dictate where lie takes you by tapping into your imagination. Nothing is o limits. Why not travel rom Belgium to the Bronx or rom Harlem to Hong Kong this weekend? Why not sit on the baseline baseli ne between Shaq and Kobe at the basketball game? Why not see yoursel driving a Ferrari 550 or donating 1 billion dollars to building a conscious community in a country outside the USA? Why imagine the negative when you can envision the positive? Why be average when you can be great? I’ll tell you why. It all comes back to you being a wussy! You’ve become more araid o your own potential than a toddler on a rollercoaster rollercoaster.. You You hold up belies belie s that drain your energy ener gy rather than surge your body with a splash o Gatorade. G atorade. Disbelie in the power o achievement keeps you rom succeeding. That’s ne. Just remember your attitude is the reason you’ve experienced the unsatisying liestyle you’re currently engaged to. But know this: you can call o the wedding at any given moment. You You can rush down to your bride-to-be, give her the “it’s not you; it’s me” line, and be a ree man. You You can leave your intentions i ntentions on the pew and remain single and sel-sucient until you eel ready to walk down that isle.
Family Was Never First Every year, year, my cousins rom Florida would stay over my house during the holiday season. They went rom relative to relative, but my house was always home base. Even though I enjoyed their company, I was always upset at the act that Nasser and Sasha digested all the ood in my house! I mean did they really have to devour my Captain Crunch Cereal and drink all my Gatorade in less than three days? But what could I do? They’re amily. It’s a git and a curse! Separated by two years, Nasser and Sasha Douge grew up right beore my eyes. They rst lived in Brooklyn, New York, on the south side o Flatbush Avenue. Moving rom Brooklyn at age 4, Sasha had just been introduced to her new baby brother two years prior. From that point, my Aunt Frantzie was on a mission to keep the amily close no matter what. I admired her tenacity to keep the amily together. I wish I could have been as adamant about keeping my amily close as she was with hers.
As these words are being typed, my thoughts are pressed against my current reality. Family was the last thing on my mind while reaching or my dreams. I missed every celebration rom Baptism to Christmas dinners because o my obsession to succeed. Excuses such as “I’ve been busy” or “I had something important to do” only weakened the bond between me and my amily. amily. Whether they perceived me as a riend or oe is unknown to me. Labeled the rebel among the Gelin amily, I have always processed this world quite dierently. Leaving school, working in the real world or $8 an hour, and dreaming big caused people to make assumptions about me, day in and day out. How did you eel, Jonathan? Were you aware o this act? Did you get oended? These questions must be running through your mind right now. Well, I was aware o course, but not at all oended. I learned a long time ago to take nothing personally. Lie is too short to keep hatred buried in your heart. But their comments at times made me eel so misunderstood that praying was my only way out o insanity. My conversations with God went pretty well. He did what I do or my girlriend… just listened until I had nothing more to say and made me eel at ease with baring my soul in private. The theory I have on lie is that people ear what they don’t understand and hate what they cannot conquer. My amily eared the worst because they couldn’t understand what my idea o lie was or why I was so secluded in my own o wn world. Hopeully reaching this ar in my book, they know now. I didn’t just miss those precious events or Pete’s sake, but or a greater cause. I desperately needed to live the lie I truly desired. I had to do whatever it took to get to where I wanted to be, and my imagination helped me be absolutely ree in every sense o the word.
Imagination Please! A psychological study showed students who spent time vividly imagining the stresses o test exams, papers, and peer-group projects invariably ailed due to the maniestation o mental pressure. The more they gritted their teeth and tried to summon their will power,, the aster they ailed. The answers they already knew seemed to fee their minds power like a rodent in a subway station. Yet when they were relaxed, the answers fowed onto paper as water on a sandy beach. Try not to orce yoursel into a state o imagining. Let your positive expectations fow. Mental strain or pressure will lead to sel-deeat and psychological decapitation. Free yoursel rom trying to get it right the rst time. Let the pressure subside and doubt ade away by walking into the back o your mind and imagining the best o yoursel.
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Stand tall and envision your uture with the strength o ten men or women. You You will begin to fawlessly depict your uture exactly as you want it to be. Some people might say that they are not “visual.” I you’re having trouble visualizing, slowly eel the eelings o being great and you’ll be on your way. Lie down on your back in deep relaxation, inhale ve deep breaths, and begin to narrate your uture. Pictures will begin to pop up as your mind movie begins to play, showing you a clear visual o the world you desire to be a part o. Imagination tears down your limiting belies in what you thought was possible, helping you reach urther, jump higher, and go the distance. With visualization, anything can happen. English poet, painter and printmaker William Blake said, “What is now proved was once only imagined.”
R.I.P.. Jamal R.I.P Jam al Hinsburg Hi nsburg Running a lie o tyranny and crime was Jamal, a 5’9’’ student who ditched school with the intent to become great. But he was on lie support or two years ater a “drug deal gone bad” prevented his new dream rom coming to lie. A young man trying to move rom the drug game to the boardroom wasn’t given a second chance. Doctors told his mother that he wasn’t going to make it. With six bullets bul lets in his torso, arms, and neck, the chances or his survival seemed bleak. Turning over in his bed, he spoke to me as best he could. He said, “I imagined this beore. It’s sort o like my greatest nightmare coming into realization. I wanted the cream (money), but it was only a pipe dream. Now my lie is slipping into the bright light o day. Jonathan, I don’t think I’m going to live to see another day.” As I looked into his eyes and tried to hold back my tears, tragedy struck. Doctors rushed to the scene as the young black man was dying or the wrong dream. Breaking my heart to even speak o this matter, I only decided to discuss it ater my editor read the manuscript. I’ve come to terms that I must be honest. It breaks my heart to say that Jamal was a victim o the lie he led and an eect o the choices he made. His mother has lost her only child, chil d, and I have lost a riend, whom I vowed to bring with me as I climb the mountain o success. But how was I to know that Jamal was in too deep? Our association was more Pitty Pat than Double Dutch. We knew each other rom a past lie li e I no longer lead, and now Jamal was just a riend rom a past lie l ie that I’m writing about. Holding nothing but the git o consciousness in my hands, I made a vow to keep my riends above the ground or as long as I can. I’ve since tightened up my circle o riends like a balled-up st. I’m no reverend or preacher, preacher, ar rom it. But when death hits close
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to home, you begin to see things dierently dierently.. Sadly, Jamal died while I was still involved with my ex-girlriend, and maybe that was just another major actor in my emotional attachment to her. Was I vulnerable? Possibly, I mean I doubt that she understood how much pain I was eeling seeing her when my riend had recently died. She wanted me to talk about it. But I’m terrible with death. When it comes to someone dying, I shut mysel o rom the world until I “just get over it.” When my ather died, I shed minimal tears te ars or something I didn’t truly and completely understand. I have never spoken o it, and neither has my brother.. It’s like it never happened. Huh… strange it seems. How can one wound begin brother to open others just as painul? But I tend not to think about it or too long because the pain is too much to bear. I realized the choices Jamal made, though hard to say, let him six eet below mother earth. His devilish buoonery was something he paid or with his lie. l ie. It’s a mistake that we can all can learn rom and avoid. The sirens in my mind blared as the young man perished in Kings County Hospital. As I shed tears o grie, fashbacks o my ather’s hospitalization sprung into my consciousness again. Hearing Jamal’s last words sent me thinking about my ather lying on his deathbed and not recognizing his own children beore he passed away. All that was let in his name was a stockpile o memories and photographs. Although he barely made a dierence in my lie or my brother’s, I stopped wondering about his lack o ambition years ago. While my mom worked two jobs, got hersel a college degree, and put me and my brother through private school, my ather worked as a security guard, which barely paid the rent. Jamal’s Jamal’s death brought back bone-chilling memories I thought were buried deep within the sands o time. But apparently, I was wrong. Walking out o the hospital room, I hugged his tearul mother or the last time beore the uneral. While contemplating my ather’s previous worldly existence, I realized any question that I have cannot be answered until I levitate into the arms o my creator and embrace his spiritual essence. Maybe then we can talk about the past while I get a tour o heaven. Or maybe I’ll be so riled up by the thought o seeing him that I’ll orget to investigate, as we smoke up a storm and sip on some wine while foating above the clouds. With revved-up emotions, I chose to drown mysel in mood music. There was no positive attitude at that time in my lie. I had just lost a close riend, and I needed time to heal my wounds. Jamal was lost and never coming back. I have nothing more to say here except “live everyday like it’s your last.”
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The Three-Step Visualization Pr Process ocess 1. Identiy the problem. 2. Visualize the solution. 3. Calmly and condently expect the positive change to take place. place. One o the best examples o the power o imagination stems rom Jack Caneld’s Chicken Soup or the Athlete’s Soul, in which Olympic gold medalist Peter Vidmar describes his use o visualization in his successul pursuit o the gold. Read the ollowing powerul excerpt to truly understand the power o imagination. It’s a treat; just don’t get a toothache! “To keep us ocused on our Olympic goal, we began ending our workouts by visualizing “To our dreams. We visualized ourselves actually competing in the Olympics and achieving our dream by practicing what we thought would be the ultimate gymnastics scenario. I’d say, “Okay, Tim, let’s imagine it’s the men’s gymnastics team nals o the Olympic Games. The United States team is on its last event o the night, which just happens to be the high bar. The last two guys up or the United States are Tim Dagget and Peter Vidmar. Our team is neck-and-neck with the People’s Republic o China, the reigning world champions, and we have to perorm our routines perectly to win the Olympic team goal medal.” At that point, we’d each be thinking, “Yeah, “Yeah, right. We’re never going to be neck-and-neck with those guys. They were number one at the Budapest World Championships while our team didn’t even win a medal. It’s never going to happen.” But what i it did happen? How would we eel? We’d close our eyes and, in this empty gym at the end o our long day, we’d visualize an Olympic arena with 13,000 people in the seats and another 200 million watching live l ive on television. Then we’d practice our routines. First, I’d be the announcer announcer.. I’d cup my hands around my mouth and say, “Next up, rom the United States o America, Tim Daggett.” Then Tim would go through his routine as i it were the real thing. Then Tim would go over to the corner o the gym, cup his hands around his mouth, and in his best announcer voice say, “Next up, rom the United States o America, Peter Vidmar.” Then it was my turn. In my mind, I had one chance to perectly perorm my routine in order or our team to win the gold medal. I I didn’t, we’d lose. l ose.
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Tim would shout out, “Green light,” and I’d look at the superior judge, who was usually our coach Mako. I’d raise my hand, and he’d raise his right back. Then I’d turn, ace the bar,, grab hold, and begin my routine. bar Well, a unny thing happened on July 31st , 1984. It was the Olympic Games men’s gymnastics team nals in Pauley Pavilion on the UCLA campus. The 13,000 seats were all lled, and a television audience in excess o 200 million around the world tuned in. The United States team was on its last event o the night, the high bar. The last two guys up or the United States just j ust happened to be Tim Daggett and Peter Vidmar. Vidmar. And just as we visualized, our team was neck-and-neck with the People’s Republic o China. We had to perorm our high-bar routines perectly to win the gold medal. I looked at Coach Mako, my coach or the past 12 years. As ocused as ever, he simply said, “Okay, Peter, let’s go. You know what to do. You’ve done it a thousand times, just like every day back in i n the gym. Let’s just do it one more time, and let’s go home. You’re You’re prepared.” He was right. I had planned or this moment and visualized it hundreds o times. I was prepared to perorm my routine. Rather than seeing mysel actually standing in the Olympic arena with 13,000 people in the stands and 200 million watching on television, in my mind, I pictured mysel back in the UCLA gym at the end o the day with two people let in the gym. When the announcer said, “From the United States o America, Peter Vidmar Vi dmar,” ,” I imagined it was my buddy Tim Daggett saying it. When the green light came on, indicating i ndicating it was time or the routine, I imagined that it wasn’t really a green light, but that it was Tim shouting “Green light!” And when I raised my hand toward the superior judge rom East Germany,, in my mind, I was signaling my coach just like Germany li ke I had signaled him every day at the end o hundreds o workouts. In the gym, I always visualized I was at the Olympic nals. At the Olympic nals, I visualized I was back in the gym. I turned, aced the bar, jumped up, and grabbed on. I began the same routine I had visualized and practiced day ater day in the gym. I was in memory mode, going yet again where I’d already gone hundreds o times. I quickly made it past the risky double-release move that had harpooned my chances at the World Championships. I moved smoothly through the rest o my routine and landed a solid dismount, where I anxiously waited or my score rom the judges. With a deep voice, the announcement came though the speaker, “The score or Peter Vidmar is 9.95.” “Yes!” “Yes!” I shouted, “I did it!” The crowd cheered loudly as my teammates and I celebrated our victory.
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Thirty minutes later, we were standing on the Olympic medal platorm in the Olympic arena with 13,000 people in the stands and over 200 million watching on television, while the gold medals were ocially draped around our necks. Tim, me, and our teammates stood proudly wearing our gold medals as the national anthem played and the American fag was raised to the top o the arena. It was a moment we visualized and practiced hundreds o times in the gym. Only this time, it was or real.” Still not convinced? Russian scientists compared our groups o Olympic athletes in terms o their training schedules: Group 1 - 100% physical training Group 2 - 75% physical training and 25% mental training Group 3 - 50% physical training and 50% mental training Group 4 - 25% physical training and 75% mental training What were the results? Group 1 ailed miserably due to a lack o mental training. Groups 2 and 3 couldn’t cut the mustard. But group 4, even though physically trained less than the rest, perormed the best. Why? They didn’t change their potential. It was already there, and it had nothing to do with taking more action. Taking Taking action with limiting belies is not going to do anything. They had visualized the results in their the ir minds and went there believing everything had already happened. The same thing occurred with Peter Vidmar and Arnold Schwarzenegger. Ater his th Mr. Mr. Universe title at the age o 25, Arnold said to reporters, “I envisioned mysel as Mr. Mr. Universe in my mind all the time ti me beore it actually happened. It’s mind over matter!” You must see it in i n your mind until it becomes so real that doubt no longer harbors inside your spaceship. This way you can have the courage to fy aboard the Nebakanezer into the next galaxy. Your ultimate power lies in your ability to create through imagination. While knowledge denes all you currently know and understand, imagination points to all you can discover and create.
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Try the ollowing exercise or kicks, and you’ll see frsthand what I’m talking about. First, suspend your natural disbelie just or one minute while you do this “imagination” exercise. It’s It’s easy, and everyone can do it. Relax and take a deep breath. Now use your imagination, and try to picture this: You have a bright yellow, ripe lemon in the palm o your hand. Rub the skin o the ruit with your hands, eel the texture, and smell it. Now put it on a cutting board, pick up a sharp knie, and slice slowly through the lemon. Juice squirts and runs out o the lemon onto your hand. Put a drop o juice on your nger,, and touch it with nger wi th your tongue. Is it terribly sour? Now answer this: did your mouth water? I bet it did! This simple exercise is more likely to make your mouth water. How? Not only do your thoughts create your reality, reality, but they can also aect your body and make you eel as i what you desired was within your grasp. Using your imagination causes your body to react to what you desired as i it really happened. This is the supreme power o the human mind. Your mouth watering is due to an involuntary refex o the autonomic nervous system. Imagination can make you age aster or age slower. It can cause an ulcer or heal an ulcer. It’s how you use your imagination that determines the outcome and its eect on you. The choice is yours. You You can dream big or small and be slim or at, rich or poor, healthy or sick, smart or dumb. It’s all up to you. Imagination creates reality; dream up your new world.
Stupid Principles You Need To Follow 1. Imagination is your most powerul aculty. aculty. Imagine what is great, not what what is horric. 2. Stay away rom rom a lie o deciency deciency.. It never helps and only hinders you. 3. Avoid the mistakes I made, made, and put amily amily rst or at least second. It hurts in the long run… I’m speaking rom experience.
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“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him ree.” - Michelangelo
Chapter 5
Ludicrous Goals
“You don’t try to build “You bui ld a wall. You don’t set out and say ‘I’m gonna build the biggest, baddest, greatest wall that has ever been built’. You say ‘I’m going to lay this brick as perectly per ectly as a brick can be laid’. You You do this every single day, and soon you have a wall’. -Will Smith Next to believing in mysel, the idea o setting goals or mysel is a pretty oreign concept. Sixteen years o Catholic schooling and not once was I taught how to set and achieve goals. Not one teacher ever spoke o this our-letter bandit. Wasting thousands o dollars in institutions never kept me centered on this legitimate ocal point. The only goal I was given was to get a diploma; that’s it. The routine o the rat race became more prevalent ater every passing ailed exam. It was obvious my objective in school was not to think analytically, to grow mentally, to nd my own path to understanding, but to conorm without question. To obtain a degree that so many seek. My parents being rom the Caribbean desire or me to achieve a college diploma. The one thing I had objected and rejected with tenacity. The reality o American society as I see it revolves around the three steps process I like to call the 3 G’s. 1. Get a Get a degree 2. Get a Get a Job 3. Get a Get a casket These three G’s are are what I eared o being buttonholed into, what I did my best to avoid all my lie. I couldn’t bring mysel to live this liestyle even i Gina one o my best riend dragged me into a class room and chained me to the desk o the proessor and said,
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“sit boy! now learn or o r you get’s no treats,” barking would be useless. The only way out o this prison term was to set my optics on goal setting outside my natural state o euphoria. To set goals outside my comort zone. This allowed me to stretch my mind, open my eyes and stir my brain in the land o possibility. Working orever at the daily grind was not a destiny I could ever stride toward. College was down that same road.
Why isn’t goal-setting taught in school? I think it’s because the people who teach in the educational system don’t set loty goals themselves and instead live sae, complacent lives. How can a sheep teach you how to become a wol i they’re too scared to try on the costume? So while I was paying or a brighter uture, I was truly wasting my money and investing in the 401(k) plans o mindless teachers who taught rom a text book, telling me every chance they got, “I you ail this test, you’ll have to repeat the course.” Contrary course.” Contrary to motivating me, it actually increased my distaste or the classroom. I don’t know about anyone but I never got positive motivation while I was in school; only academic pressure. Exams which could never truly determine how intelligent I was or how ar I would excel in lie placed me in a space o hyperventilation. They say i a pit bull is backed into a corner long enough, it’s sure to bite o an arm, no matter what. Well, this story is my bite, and I think I’m sinking into the bone right about now.
Slacker In school, I was never an honor roll student except during my 1 st year o high school. Ater my ather passed away, I literally gave up. I was no longer motivated by grades; I needed a paycheck. When your mother is stricken with breast cancer and your uncles and aunts are the ones supporting you, it changes your mindset quite drastically. I began to see this place as a cold, cruel world, where nothing matters except or what’s let on the dinner table. I there’s no dinner, dinner, no one else cares at the end o the day. No one is going to go out o their way to put clothes on your back or ood in your digestive tract. The only individuals who truly care are the ones who stood next to you when the storm hit and helped you rebuild the house God tore down. Those are your true riends in lie. But as my mind began to slip into the reality o survival, I made an oath to do more than just tread the line. I made it i t a command to become more. It may have taken me a while to realize it, but the truth was beginning to settle in.
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So what is a kid supposed to do when he’s just lost his dad? Rebellion was my calling. Labeled the class clown, being a slacker became my M.O. Nothing mattered to me at this time in my lie. I could have ended up anywhere. I was shocked I even got accepted into college to be perectly honest. With all the rejection letters I received, I was surprised when St. John’s University in Jamaica, Queens, accepted me or my reshman year. year. But at about $42,000 a year in tuition, it was obvious I wasn’t going to be there long. So I transerred to Stony Brook University and partied parti ed like it was 1995. During college, I rarely made it to class, let alone al one attended schedule tests. I plagiarized because this mundane activity called hard work catapulted me into instantaneous boredom. Ater being caught plagiarizing my philosophy philo sophy paper at Stony Brook University, University, I was sent to a class called “How to Do Honest Work in College.” I was orced to add this course to my already hectic schedule o partying and sexing emale delicacies. But in the end, the only o nly way I could express my eelings or research papers was by buying this poster and hanging it on my wall.
Months ater, I still couldn’t tell you how this helped me. For I couldn’t understand the necessity o writing research papers when my mother couldn’t pay the rent or my uncle had just passed away as a result o surgical complications to remove a tumor tumor.. And let’s not orget textbook purchases. With all the money I was paying or text books, I might as well have been raising a child in my dormitory. dormitory. Textbook Textbook ater textbook on statistics, biology and, oh yes, math. With all the stresses rom my social and academia, this lead me to soak my animates in marijuana smoke and ESPN highlight reels. But with all the
test and quizzes being passed, not to mention midterms and nals, there was one key thing I wasn’t being taught: how to set and achieve goals.
What is a Goal? I’ll allow Earl Nightingale, pioneer o personal development, to illustrate the importance o this our-letter noun. “Think o a ship with the complete voyage mapped out and planned. The captain and crew know exactly where the ship is going and how long it will take — it has a denite goal. And 9,999 times out o 10,000, it will get there. Now let’s take another ship — just like the rst — only let’s not put a crew on it, or a captain at the helm. Let’s give it no aiming point, no goal, and no destination. We just start the engines and let it go. I think you’ll agree that i it gets out o the harbor at all, it will either sink or wind up on some deserted beach — a derelict. It can’t go anyplace because it has no destination and no guidance. It’s the same with a human being. Plain and simple: “People with goals succeed in lie because they know where they’re going.” My lie was headed downhill because I never set a goal or what I wanted to do, who I wanted to be or where I wanted to go. I just wandered, day in and day out, like a eral cat. You may say, “Hey, Jonathan, you were in school. Wasn’t your goal was to bring home that diploma by any means necessary?” I’ll reply, “You’re “You’re right. But I wasn’t motivated by this idea.” I didn’t enjoy waking up every day, listening to my proessor yap and yap about a subject which bored the heck out o me, then pretend to study so I can pass the test, hopeully moving onto the next level which is even more daunting, and increasingly dicult to conquer. I just couldn’t do it to mysel. I’m not sure how people do it, but being something I’m not is ar rom my character. No matter how much my mother wanted me to attend school ater my decision to stay out; I had to do what made me happy.. Since I only live one lie, I had to do what I wanted, not what others thought was happy best or me. I’m smart enough to make the right choices, even i it was unconventional. But don’t get me wrong, i you’ve graduated rom college or are still in school, good or you, and i you’re black, you get two thumbs up. I have a bunch o riends who brag about their diplomas and i you’re one o them, congratulations. That is one awesome achievement, no cynicism. Picking your credits or next semester, dealing with the same old caeteria ood, and typing up papers or classes you may not like when you’d
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probably want to relax on a beach somewhere is hard work. I can’t downplay any o you guys because I’ve been there; it’s a constant uphill battle. But my experiences in lie have shown me i I’m not passionate about the idea, I won’t work to my ullest potential. And i I’m not working at my best, my time is being wasted. When time is being wasted money is being thrown away and I can’t aord to do such childish things. I’m quite grown. Once you make the decision to grow up, you realize goals are essential to advance in any area o your lie. I you don’t set goals, you’ll be nothing more than miserable, impoverished, and share the characteristics o Jane, “the hater.” I you want to be happy, you need to have a goal in lie, some type o aiming point that will keep you eeling alive no matter how bad it may get. Take or instance, i you’ve decided to take a road trip to Florida. Your buddies are jammed in the back in a our-door sedan you’ve borrowed borrowed rom rom your mom. Three Three hours on the highway, you ask your best riend or the map and he replies, “Dude, I thought you had it.” Now you’re somewhere between Kansas and Nashville with no clear idea o how to get to Florida. Where do you go rom here? How do you get home? You’ve taken so many exits during the past ew pit stops; you can’t recall your last departure rom the main road. Now stuck next to a trucker’s diner which looks like a scene out o a horror ho rror fick, you’re you’re lost. Millions do the same with their lives. And guess what? They never have gotten home. Without a road map, how can you get to your next destination? You can’t. You need to have a goal to give you a sense o direction, an indication o where you want to be. Any goal is better than no goal, in my book. Be clear on where you want to go and who you want to become, or i you set your heart upon it, you’ll reach it.
Stupid Rebels I admire Here is a list o rebels who I have admired or quite some time, those who said, “No thanks,” to school and yes to everything else. Henry Ford - Founded Ford Motor Company and would be considered a billionaire
today, i he was alive. Even though his company is worth today, wor th several billion in today’s dollars, Ford received only a modest rural education. Let his home on the arm to work as an apprentice machinist in Detroit, Michigan. Later he ran a sawmill and became a chie engineer or Edison Illuminating Company beore starting the Ford Motor Company.
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Andrew Carnegie - Considered one o the richest men in the world at one point,
dropped out o elementary school, and started to work at the age o 13 as a bobbin boy in a textile mill. Will Smith - Grammy-winning rapper, actor. As the Fresh Prince, he and DJ Jazzy
Je released their rst album beore he nished high school. They received the rst Grammy or a hip-hop act. Due to the success o that rst album, Smith decided to dismiss college or show business. Multimillionaire insurance businessman, ounder o Success magazine, and author o a number o books on positive mental attitudes. At the age o six, he sold newspapers on the south side o Chicago. By the age o 13, he owned his own newsstand. He continued to work odd jobs until his mother bought a small insurance agency, where where he helped her by selling insurance. At the age o 21, with $100 in his pocket, he established the Combined Registry Company insurance business which he built into a multi-million dollar business. He dropped out o elementary school but later attended high school night courses and some college. W.
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creator, Marvel Comics (Spiderman, The Hulk, X-Men, The Fantastic Stan Lee - Comics creator, Four). Started working when he was still in high school. Never attended college. Ralph Lauren - Billionaire ashion designer, ounder o Polo. Let the City College o
New York York business school (Baruch College) to design ties or Beau Brummell. Steve Jobs – Billionaire co-ounder o Apple Computers and Pixar Animation; Disney’s
largest shareholder. Dropped out o Reed College ater six months and went to India beore returning returning to Silicon Valley. As he said, “I had no idea what I wanted to do with my lie and how college was going to help me gure it out.” actor. Dropped out o Cal State University ater a ew years Tom Hanks - Oscar-winning actor. to work as an intern at the Great Lakes Theater Festival Louise Hay - One o the bestselling authors in history and ounder o Hay House. O
other amous women authors, Levine Breaking News has noted, “They did not change the spiritual landscape o America and several o its Western allies. They were not pregnant at 15 and they did not lack l ack high school diplomas.” Louise Hay did. Ted Turner -
Billionaire ounder o CNN and TBS, owner o the Atlanta Braves, philanthropist, America’s largest landowner with 1.8 million acres. Was asked to leave Brown University during his ourth year. Got suspended twice, once or having a girl in his room and other activities. In an interview said, “I’m down to a little more than a billion. You can get by on that i you really economize and don’t buy a lot o planes and yachts and stu.”
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“You “Y ou got to love entrepr entrepreneurship” eneurship” - Jonathan Figaro Thought I’d share with you my personal list o people I look up to. You know, you’re never too old to have a role model, especially ones who reach billionaire status. People like this reek value, power, and exude the aroma o success. You know the scent. The heavy ragrance or cologne an individual wears that anyone can spot, especially a gold digger. So i you want to reek this type o power, all you need is a major denite purpose, and do whatever you can to achieve it. Stupid Thought: Your major denite purpose in lie is the one goal that is important to you at this moment. I you achieve this it will change your lie and help you complete all your other goals in a successul ashion. And just remember, ailure is the ertilization or success. So don’t expect to succeed your rst time around. That’s like saying you’ll become Michael Jordan overnight. Success takes time, but with consistency you can succeed. Some o you are setting goals as we speak but are unconscious o it. This is or all the emales in the audience who came out tonight
. Maybe you’re a woman who enjoys cooking wonderul ood or your amily or would rather eat out. Either way, your goal is to get ood into your stomach, sto mach, right? To To eel at ease with what you’ve created so you and your amily can sleep peaceully. Luckily, Luckily, I was one o those children who had a mother who made sure o that. She always made sure my brother and I had ood in our stomachs, and money in our pockets. She made everything rom macaroni to chicken soup. Her goal was to keep us eed, educated, and happy happy.. This may be your goal right now as a single mother, widowed or in love with your adoring husband. The point is, even something as common as cooking or your children or buying new clothes or your daughter is a goal. No matter how big or small, it’s an objective nonetheless. Just apply this same determination to keep your children in line towards a desire you most certainly want to achieve and you can reach it. And i you don’t have children, pretend you do and go clothe your dream with only the best lie has to oer o er.. Stupid Thought: With small steps you will be able to achieve what once seemed ambiguous at rst. Goals provide humans with purposeul direction, channeled energy, energy, and a road map to a nal destination. The successul person in society is not the person with the most money. Let me clariy this right up, because most people think i you have a lot o money then you’re successul. There are plenty o people who have billions o dollars but are piss-poor in happiness.
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Now I know you might say, “Negro, please, i you gave me a ve-million-dollar home, a ew exotic cars, a couple o million dollars, and decent social status, I’ll be happier than a kid in a candy store.” But, only the misguided believe this act. The act o the matter is you’re only going to be happy moving towards a worthy idea. You can have all the money in the world, but i you don’t a have a purpose, you’ll end up like those attention-seeking celebrities who we all laugh about during our hour break at work. You know what I’m talking about. The successul person knows it’s about the journey, not the destination. The work it takes to build an empire is much more enjoyable than the knowledge that you have 15,000 employees working or you in the end. I can tell you rsthand. Writing this book, building the website, and networking my ass o with tons o people while creditors threaten to beat me with a baseball bat i I don’t pay up, was much more enjoyable than seeing the success o my hard work in any shape or orm. It’s hard to believe or many, but the truth is a pathless land, why not walk hand and hand with reality?
It’ss a bird, It’ bi rd, it’s a plane…no it’ it’ss a GOAL. A goal gives a picture to the subconscious, and without a goal, man is much like the boat with nowhere to go. Goals give us the energy we need to remain remain on the track long enough or its accomplishment. Goals motivate us. Like a captain o a ship about to leave port, we should be able to tell anyone our next port o call. I you have ever travelled by boat, perhaps you were surprised by how slowly most large ships move through the water. In a time when it’s time common or us to drive at 60 to 70 mph across the San Francisco Bridge or fy at 600 miles mph over China, Bangladesh, Europe, Montana, Jersey or even New Mexico. A ship pulling away rom the dock and heading or a distant port at 20 knots may seem slow indeed. But the ship moves steadily 24 hour a day, always on course. And the cumulative eect o such relentless singleness o purpose has us at the next port o call in a surprisingly short time. People with goals reach what they’ve set their hearts and minds upon. Even while we sleep our subconscious minds are working on the project. That’s why we oten awake in the morning with a clear solution to a problem that oered resistance to our progress. We think about our goal as we have our morning coee or take a morning shower. It comes to us again and again during the day. We’re on course and moving toward the ulllment o our current goal. And it’s oten the last thing we think about beore heading o to bed. Goals are our aiming point. And people with aiming points tend to reach them. People with goals tend to live longer than people who don’t. It is as though they can extend
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their lives simply because they have something to do. It’s the interest which seems to lend vitality and energy to their lives. And when they do come to the end o their lives, they’re caught up in ull stride, ully alive, and still moving towards a new interesting point o call. So goals or such people tend to ascend in stair-like ashion, each one more demanding and ullling than the one beore. In a ew years, they nd themselves accomplishing things with surprising ease. They begin to achieve goals that would have been impossible when they began their gyred toward the uture. The journey toward a meaningul goal is more ullling than the destination itsel, leading you into new areas o interest in a surprising kind o synchronicity. Quite oten i we read a story with quite the coincidences, they are oten a natural part to a goal-oriented person’s active lie. We’d put it down while muttering, “Impossible,” but, as astonishing as it may seem, that kind o synchronicity becomes an active part par t o the goal-oriented person’s lie. The right people tend to show up at just the right time. Situations suddenly change, opening yawning chasms o opportunity when beore there were none. At a meeting we nd ourselves being introduced to the exact person we most need at that particular stage o our journey. A minor accident which we may have rst perceived as a setback turns out to be a blessing in disguise. For the people working towards goals it may seem as though the smiling ace o good ortune has joined us on our quest. And we should learn to be alert or such serendipitous occurrences; there apart rom being on the journey, rather than resting at the inn. We should not orce such happenings; as the Taoist reminds us, “not to push the river.” We need to go with the fow; the right things will happen at the right time, without orcing, without impatience. Keep steadily on course, our goal clearly in mind. And we nd ourselves with our goal realized one ne day, just as we raise the coast line o the port to where our ship is churning or our sailboat’s sailing. There it is and we shield our eyes and stand at the rail and imagine we can smell the land and hear the sounds o the busy harbor. harbor. Soon we are tied up at the pier; our latest journey is a success. Yes, to me that is the way to live. No matter your situation, set goals. Without it you’ll be lost at sea as the tides begin to overshadow the starboard. Stuck with the piercing power o Poseidon, you vanish to the bottom o the sea, lieless, and breathless. Be a champion and set a goal to be the best ghter in your division, you’ll be amazed at how ar you get.
Money Talks In the late eighties, Bunker Hunt, who rose rom being a bankrupted cotton armer at the age o thirty-ve to having a net worth o six to seven billion dollars at the time o
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his death, was once interviewed on television, tel evision, and asked, “What advice can you give to an individual who wants to be nancially successul nowadays?” He said, “Son, I have established hundreds o corporations in my lietime and made billions o dollars. I ound that it is not dicult to be successul, only two things are required. requir ed. First o all you must decide exactly what it is i s you want to accomplish.” Most people never sit and write down exactly what they truly want out o lie, whether physically,, mentally, nancially or spiritually. You ask a person today how much money physically they would like to earn this year, they say “enough to stay afoat.” Ask afoat.” Ask another person ater a workout regimen how much weight they want to lose and they say, “I just want to be thin.” People never get specic about their desires because they are too araid o ailing. Most people are so scared o ailing, attempts turn utile. Aiming low l ow or saety, millions never unlock their true potential. Fear keeps them rom growing their wings on their way down. Scared out o their wits, most people ail to live up to their potential. Aiming or the moon is contradictory to their desire, so they live lives o quiet desperation, as Thoreau observed. How low are you aiming? Are your goals challenging enough? Do you even have goals? What are some o your short-term goals? What are your long-terms goals? Wait, beore I get ahead o mysel: what are your goals or today? Do yoursel a avor and write down six objectives which, i acted upon every day, will enhance you nancially, physically, and/or mentally over the next ew years. Be detailed in description and work towards their attainment. In addition, write down your top ten goals or the next twelve months. Don’t place judgment on your desires; just write them down. I you place too big a goal in ront o yoursel, you may reluctant to try it out. Just ollow your heart and you’ll be surprised at how easy it is to complete such a task. Don’t base your uture possibilities on past events, and mishaps. Imagine i I had stayed trapped in my depression over my decision to leave school. I would have never been able to have un, write this book or get over some chick. Lesson rom the wise: get (ll in the blank) over it. Start a brand new chapter today. It’s It’s really never too late. Bunker then stated “Next, you must determine how much you are willing to pay to achieve it. And must resolve to pay that price, making the sacrices required to reach your goal; that’s all that is necessary”. He said determine the price and resolve to pay that price. People never make the decision to make sacrices in order to reach a common goal. I had a riend like this. I think she’ll know who she is when she reads this. This sultry young evanescence is what you consider a B.S (bull shiter). She eeds you a whole lot o bull and then shits her cell phone to ignore when it’s time to get things thi ngs done. We have
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all known those types o people, that one individual who talk a great game, but when it’s time to practice, shows up three hours late, airily gives an appointment excuse, and acting like she’s on time. Sometimes she wants to reschedule last minute or even better,, never shows. A ew days later you get call rom her, probably a text because she better is too much o a coward to admit weakness ace to ace. Then she ollows the same cycle again and again until they’re 60 years old, piss-poor, piss-poor, with nothing to show but hair extensions to where her knees. My advice is to stay away rom these kinds o people. Because your ve closest riends are refections refections o whom you are. And what their bank accounts look like will be the same as yours within the same timerame. So i your account is overdrawn $3,000, I bet your roommate is not too ar rom those digits as well. Sacrices as said beore are essential or goal achievement. Fear o ailure is what keeps you rom achieving success or obtaining, and maintaining happiness. Most o you race to the nish line but never jog a mile. Mentally pumping yoursel up or success, but ailing to take action. You can do more in a short shor t time with goals than a lie time without them. Your destination in lie is determined by the clarity to which you see your goals. A clear, denite purpose is necessary to a lietime o treasure. Golden coins, lavish liestyles, exotics cars, ne dining, ne women, or ne men or the ladies, can be bonuses, but not objectives. Your Your goals must be dissected into means and ends. Your end goals are the results you will receive rom attainment, such as a lovely home, luxury car or a new wardrobe. Your means goals are the necessary tactics you must do in order to reach the end. I you want to be happy and successul you must choose goals congruent to your lie’s plan, purpose and sense o value.
What are are your most important values? Let’s say we have a husband who is a businessman. He works long hours at the oce to provide or his children and his wie. She has just given birth to another baby boy, so now he must place his mind on nancial reedom, rather than security. While he creates a business plan, works night ater night at the oce, and networks with the best o them, his wie takes care o the children. She makes sure they are dressed, ed, happy, happy, and just plain adorable. One day this couple is o to the mall with their children. Holding hands, these olks are having a smashing good time. But each individual is ltering their highest values. As a businessman the husband is more ocused on suits, neckties, business portolios, por tolios, and G-Shock watches. His mind is gloried by the endless possibilities o creating more capital or his business and raising interest in his niche. His wie, bearing all our kids
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by her side, is absorbed in the accessories or toddlers crated by Disney, illustrated by Child crat, and displayed in The Children’s Place store. Even though these individuals are madly in love with each other, their values are dierent based on what’s most important to them. You must identiy what your values are and select goals congruent with these ideas. I you want to be a successul entrepreneur then the hierarchy o your values will be contacting, reading success literature, developing a sound vision and working towards to wards your goal each and every day. I you want to be a college proessor, then your goals would consist o getting your degree, conquering your ear o public speaking, networking with proessors in your eld o interest, etc. Think about what is most meaningul to you. Beauty, success, love, curiosity, selexpression, starting a amily, mending old riendships, accumulating wealth, weight loss, social welare, building condence, developing laser ocus, unstoppable determination, physical strength, sel-education, preservation o your dreams or accepting college admissions. Be honest with yoursel. I success and wealth are more important to you than amily, it’s okay. I’ve had this eeling beore. Only God can judge you, let people think as they may. Don’t let others dene you. Or you’ll denitely be a foor mat others walk on. Place down three o the most valuable aspects o o your lie on paper without judgment. Then i it may not be up to par, set your values into what it should be. Once completed, work on making this thi s desire a reality.
Wealth, Wea lth, Love and Success Let me share with you a story about love, wealth and success which can help you steer your way into the right direction. A woman came out o her house and saw three old men with long white beards sitting in her ront yard. She did not recognize them. She said “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.” “Is the man o the house home?” they asked. “No,” she replied. “He’s out.” “Then we cannot come in,” they replied. In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go tell them I am home and invite them in!” The woman went out and invited the men in.
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“We never enter a house together,” they replied. “Why is that?” she asked. One o the old men explained: “His name is Wealth,” he said, pointing to one o his riends. Pointing to another, he added, “He is Success. And I am Love.” Then he added, “Now go in and discuss with your husband which one o us you want in your home.” The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. “How nice!” he said. “Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and ll our home with wealth!” His wie disagreed. “My dear, why don’t we invite Success?” Their daughter was listening rom the other corner o the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: “Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be lled with love!” “Let us heed our daughter’s advice,” said the husband to his wie. “Go out and invite Love to be our guest.” The woman went out and asked the three old men, “Which one o you is Love? Please come in and be our guest.” Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other two also got up and ollowed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: “I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?” The old men replied together: “I you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two o us would’ve stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever he goes, we go with him. Wherever there there is Love, there is also al so Wealth and Success!” I all else ails, choose love. Love will lead to happiness, glory, and truthul expression. Finding love in work comes rom developing a love list. List at least three to ve things you love to do. Then write down all your strengths. Ask yoursel, what would I do i I knew I could not ail? Your answer to this question is your calling. Just ollow your beating heart. “Love and Work…Work and Love…that is all there is” – Sigmund Freud
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The Wisest Man in the World A young man asked Socrates how he could get wisdom. Socrates replied, “Come with me.” He took the lad to the river, pushed the boy’s head underwater, and held it there until the boy was gasping or air, then relaxed and released his head. When the boy regained his composure, he asked him, “What did you most desire when you were underwater?” “I wanted air,” said the boy. Socrates said to him, “When you want wisdom as much as you wanted air when you were underwater, underwater, then you will receive it.” Your desire to live a better lie must be in correlation with Socrates’ student. Indulge in activities that take your breath away. Strap your purpose around your shoulders like a parachute; open to a reason or living. It may be drawing, painting, sculpting, playing soccer, running, dancing, teaching, speaking, driving, talking, firting, lming, orecasting, seeing the unseen or eeling the invisible. Now listen, I Oprah can converse on television ve times a week or an hour talking about stories positive and negative while meeting celebrities and outright criminals rom dierent parts o the world so can you? While making more money than most can even contemplate let alone dream o. Do I hear the word “possibility?” Or are you still trembling at the ear o deeat. Your choice man, I’m just the messenger with words to change how you’ve been interrupting yoursel and this world. I believe i you put as much energy into something good as you do into the bad in your lie, l ie, you can prevail, with a bit o patience and tenacity.
How do you know you’re on purpose? You’re on purpose when happiness comes naturally rom your eorts, even though times may be rough and money may not be apparent. Happiness is moving towards your dreams and eliminating negativity rom your mind. I you’re happy to be moving towards your desires; you’re on purpose. Happiness is not ound in materialistic gadgets or the insatiable desire to spread hatred towards mankind. Happiness, i you’ve orgotten, is a state o mind. You might eel happy when your child is born, when you graduated rom college, when you got married to the husband you’re now divorced rom. Maybe you were happy when you got your rst puppy or when the orecaster said it was going to snow all day but it turned out to be
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sunny. However lovely these experiences may be, they do not give real, long-lasting happiness; they are transitory. Happiness comes rom eeling great about who you are, what you’re doing and where you’re going. It about how you eel right at this instant, not how you’ll eel ater you’ve applied all these principles or bought your new home. Happiness is a thought away. It’s based upon the decision you make here. Okay, enough Tony Robbins-style motivation or one aternoon. Let me share with you a story told by spiritual teacher, Dr. Wayne Dyer. It expresses the idea that happiness is truly in the minds o those who think rst and ask questions later. “This story is about a 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud lady. She is ully dressed each morning by eight, with her hair ashionably coied and makeup perectly applied, even though she is legally blind. She is moving to a nursing home today. Her husband o 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. Ater many hours o waiting patiently in the lobby o the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description o her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm o an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy. “Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room yet. Just wait.” “That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead o time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the urniture is arranged, it’s how I arrange my mind.” Start sliding some good thoughts into your memory bank.
Stupid Practice Makes Stupid Perect. 1. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t can’t do something. Decide specically what you want and go ater it, PERIOD! 2. Money and success are products products o love. Your Your love or any subject will bring wealth and success, guaranteed. 3. Work like a slave, eat like a king. Sacrices must must be made in order order to achieve your dream. Pay the price today rather than tomorrow tomorrow.. 4. Goals are the driving orce orce to success. You You must have a road map in order order to get to your destination. Your road map is your seven daily goals, which i completed will lead you to the lie you want.
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5. Choose happiness above all other things. Like Bob McFerrin said, “Don’t worry, worry, be happy, because everything little thing is gonna be alright.”
Chapter 6
Idiotic Peace
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things thi ngs I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the dierence. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, Taking, as He did, this sinul world as it is, not as I would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right i I surrender to His Will; That I may be reasonably happy in this lie and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next.” Amen. --Reinhold Niebuhr Ni ebuhr I gure, since you’re almost nished with this book, I’d open up the chapter with one o my avorite prayers. I’m not overly religious even e ven though my mother goes to church more times than an active pastor. But I eel the reality in these words. It connects to me somehow; maybe it does the same or you. These words helped me nd inner peace when times o insanity struck my soul, such as when I lost $8,000 on a ailed business. Well I recited these words every morning to get me through the day. It was sort o like a guiding orce in my lie at that time and still is. It has helped get through what some call “a harsh reality,” and it will to do the same or you, i you believe in a better days.
But what is peace? My denition o peace is being at ease with yoursel, no matter your circumstance, or outside environment. Knowing in the end everything will turn out in your avor, no matter how bleak the situation seems. Having aith that no matter what you will end up on top o the ood chain. “The sun will come out tomorrow, so bet your bottom dollar there’ll be sun,” says Annie. This is the best attitude to have. Most o you believe peace is diluting yoursel in Mary Jane on a Friday night, watching a ew HBO specials, or chucking down a six-pack o Miller Light during the All-Star game. Nothing wrong with that! I, too, nd it pleasurable to sit back with my riends and enjoy the NBA game rom time to time. Or even go bar-hopping with my buddies and you guys already know I have no problem pung the ganja. But those situations don’t dictate i I’m at peace or not. I’m ree rom mental
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anguish no matter i I’m at a lovely lounge with a beautiul emale or reading a book on my ront porch on a hot summer day. Peace is not a onetime event. It’s having an inner knowledge that no matter where you are right now, you’re you’re at ease with the circumstances, good or bad, because nothing in this world is permanent. Everything is changing and so will your circumstances. So let go o your worries so you can continue to grow and enjoy lie even when things seem horrendous. I had a hard time nding peace in the beginning. But as I grew wiser, my decisions were more mature. I chose to be happy with where I was and do what’s necessary to get where I needed to be. I couldn’t get things done while I was upset. I had to be content right then and there. I I wasn’t happy now, a ancy car wouldn’t be enough to make me smile. I’d probably complain about its excess gas usage, constant expenses to keep with maintenance, and my riends always bumming rides rom me. I had to change how I elt inside to receive a dierent outer circumstance. I had to change my reaction or perception in order to be at peace. So, “Thanks a lot, I really appreciate that,” became my new mantra. I chartered aboard the plane o appreciation and let my baggage at the gate. Though security was tight, when you fy private, you can’t tell the dierent. Gratitude is a cliché similar to the line “white men can’t jump.” You can’t disagree with a act, and gratitude is just the same. When you’re appreciative appreciative o what you have, you can’t complain about what’s bad in your lie. Why? Because you’re too busy admiring the struggle and the triumphs, the trials and tribulations, the highs and the lows, the good and the bad. These events create who you are, chiseling your character with an ice pick, with a determination to create a sculpture not too ar rom Michelangelo’s David. When you learn to appreciate, lie is seen as a blessing not a trac jam over the Brooklyn Bridge with your pregnant wie in the throes o labor pains screaming, “You did this to me.” It’s you soaking up all the good in your lie to get rid o the bad eeling you may have. Happiness begins to ollow you everywhere you go because you’re thankul or the clothes on your back, ood in your stomach, paycheck at the end o the week, the ability to hear, walk, and see. As I began learning to appreciate what I had, everything seemed to change or me. I started to see the lie I lived as a miracle because I could have been someone else. I could have been in jail, alsely accused or a crime, inside an eight by twelve cell in complete innocence. I could have been a cashier at the local Quick-Mart with three children and the rent past due. I could have been a hit with tuberculosis as a youngster and let wheelchair. I could have been a Navy Seal who lost his lie over some rich man’s greed. I could have been a prostitute who believes her only value comes rom
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establishing sexual avors or money. I could have been a plumber who has a racist boss, but can’t leave his job because he needs to pay his daughter’s college tuition. I could have been any o these people, but I’m not. And I thank God every day that I’m who I am. Start eeling the same. Everyone has a story. Everyone goes through pain, struggling every day, and living lives lled with regret is what most do. Lie is a harsh reality or millions. But i you begin to be grateul or what you have, you’ll become more at ease with your situation, and nd a rational way to solve your troubles with intelligence. Kick the habit o being miserable and close the door on company that came with it. I moved out o my habit patterns o cynicism and became more grateul or what I had. I lowered my anger towards mysel and raised the bar or what is possible. Doing this thi s was not easy, but with practice it was one o the best decisions I’ve ever made. Learn to be grateul or what you have now. Everything could be taken rom you in a millisecond. Just be happy with what you have and peace will ollow as the architect o your thoughts. Stupid Thought: When times look bleak, it’s always best to stay calm and think things through. Only the strong survive and the warriors o today never panic. Take it one step at a time. You can persevere through through the pain. As Fredrick Douglass who was a brilliant orator, abolitionist, editor, reormer, lecturer, statesman and women’s suragist said, “Without struggle, there is no progress.”
What’ss inside? What’ Let me share with you words rom Dr. Wayne Dyer who can help you see the vision o peace more clearly, clearly, now I’m paraphrasing, so hold nothing against me. “When you take this orange and you squeeze it as hard as you can squeeze it, what comes out? Orange juice! Never, no matter how many times you squeeze it, will apple juice come out, there’r there’ree no mistakes. Now we expand the metaphor and someone squeezes you. That is, someone says something about you that you don’t like. One behaves in a way towards you that is expensive. Somebody does or says something to you that hurts hurt s you. And out o you come anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, ear, anxiety, and stress and immediately you say the reason it comes out o me is because o how they said it. But the reality is that what comes out is what is i s inside. And i you don’t like what’s inside you can change it.” One character trait o the greatest players in sports is the ability to stay calm and resilient when the pressure is on. Whether there’s there’s 4.1 seconds on the shot clock, their
team is down two points and the championship on the line these individuals are calmer than a smooth summer breeze in Montana. When it’s the bottom o the ninth with bases loaded, and the greatest pitcher in the game since Tom Seaver is on the mound, the great players in the world are calm in pivotal, game-winning situations. Pressure does two things: Busts pipes or creates diamonds fawlessly crated as i God himsel placed his hands around this beautiul gem. I you want to enjoy the journey o success, let go o the pressure. Realize success is important, but not that important. As long as you put orth the eort, add creative thinking, and have a solid support system; no worries should consume your brain. Lie is too short not to be at peace. Jamal died at 19 years old, he never knew what peace was, until he was resting in peace. Take lie one day at a time; be grateul or what you have, and walk calm, and crisply toward your goals.
How can peace o mind be achieved? “Reaching a higher level o consciousness not avored by the average human, I stepped it up another level and meditated like a Buddhist,” I said to my cousin, Melissa. Just sixteen, she looked at me dumbounded and walked away. Her expression was reminiscent o the one my mother gave me when I told her I was going to be a billionaire. The greatest people on this planet are oten misunderstood. Certainly my riends couldn’t understand why I chose to begin to meditate. Meditation has an esoteric essence towards the masses. But in reality it’s used by millions o people across the planet. What meditation does is hold up. Let me allow multi-millionaire Russell Simmons explain the beauty o meditation. “Meditation is or anyone o us who wants the cycle o good to happen, wants to be optimistic, wants to be an inspiration.””. Meditation is another combination to open the lock o inner sanctity. When you sit down, breathe in deeply, and begin to silence your mind, something special happens. You go back to where we all originated rom: silence. I know this may be ar beyond the belie systems o many o you, but when you meditate, you connect back to rom whence you came. Everything on Planet Earth Ear th originated rom somewhere and meditation just brings us back to that essence. Silence can be used to solve your most pressing problems, problems, invoke inspiration, provide deep relaxation, build sel-condence, deeat allergies and chronic diseases, diminish anger and aggression, and give you more emotional control.
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Damsel in Distress Annulled and astonished about her place in society, a young woman approached me with a sense o unsettlement. She was out o harmony and wanted some solid advice on how to end her mental conusion. She said, “My thoughts are all over the place. I just need peace o mind. I need a babysitter or the children, my husband keeps nagging me or some alone time, and I need a new job. Man, I just want to escape it all! Can you help me?” Honestly, I just wanted to get her phone number, but ater hearing she had a husband I didn’t need the bad karma. So I advised her set aside 10 minutes each and every day in pure silence. Several weeks later I ran into her at a local bodega. She greeted me warmly with a hug and a kiss while her husband glared. She told me she’d completely changed her way o thinking. “Everything seems to just fow so much better now. I’m not as stressed as I used to be. I’m more organized and even my condence has risen. I’ve only been meditating or about three weeks now, but I can eel the dierence already. already. Thanks so very much, Jonathan.” It’s been months since I seen her, but I know she’s doing okay.
Steps to Silence 1. Find a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted. Sit where you eel comortable but not so comortable that you risk alling asleep. (This has happened to me many times ater work and I end up waking up the next morning, so don’t get too relaxed.) Keep your back straight, sit on the foor, couch or sot cushion in a lotus pose and place your hands in a comortable position. 2. Take deep breaths breaths while concentrating on your breath. breath. As you begin to slide into deep relaxation, your thoughts will begin to ade away. Don’t worry i you don’t silence your mind completely; it takes a lot o practice. But with persistence this new activity will become a habitual part o your lie.
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“The governor, in his travels, stepped in to pay homage to the Master. - Aairs o state leave me no time or lengthy dissertations. Could you put the essence o religion into a paragraph or two or a busy man like me? - I shall put into a single word or the benet o your highness. - Incredible! What is this most unusual word? - Silence. - And what is the way to Silence? - Meditation. - And what, may I ask, is meditation? - Silence.” - Lao Tzu Meditation provides an endless supply o joy and sel-acceptance. While writing this chapter, I read a line rom Dr. Dawna Markova, “No Enemies Within” which struck a chord in me. Allow me to pull the strings. “Nasty creature, angs dripping evil, open jaws revealing a dark, oul black throat, Milarepa stepped closer to this huge demon... “And said with quiet compassion, ‘I must understand your pain and what it is you need in order to be healed.’ Then he put his head in the mouth o this enemy. In that instant, the demon disappeared...”
Sel - Appr Appreciation eciation (For The Stupid Ladies) The healing o your heart starts with sel-appreciation. Just look in the mirror and start loving who you are. For example, some women look in the mirror and dismiss themselves as not being pretty or smart enough. They hope to see a refection o Victoria Secret’ Secret’ss latest cover girl or King Magazine’s top ten beauties o the week, but ail to meet society standards. The act is o the matter is these models are just alse perceptions o beauty. Who’s Who’s to say a thick lips, thick thighs and asting like li ke Ramadan is considered the equivalent work o art to, say, a Da Vinci painting? Those aspects are opinions o those who have the power to shove their opinion in your ace. Be yoursel; don’t try to be something you’re not. Lie becomes much easier this way way..
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Stupid Thought: I you don’t dene yoursel, others will dene you. You maybe a woman who thinks like this on an ongoing basis. And believes guys will all in love with you because you look l ook so attractive. But i the guy alls or how you look on the outside, which person will all in love with what’s on the inside? The real you, the woman who picks her children up rom daycare ater a long hard day o work. The woman who cooks a real meal and reuses to use Stovetop no matter the occasion. The woman who is spiritual only because she been through some things, God himsel put her through just to make her stronger. The woman who writes poetry in private to express how she truly eels inside because she thinks no man will ever understand her, so she’s orever misunderstood. Her past experiences have taught her to keep her love hidden, because the rst time she told a guy “I love you,” he smiled it i t o, and said “thanks I’ll call you back.” Knowing she never elt like this or another person beore. She now lives sheltered behind alcohol and cigarette butts until that wound ully heals, i it ever does. I bet you’ve been though something also. I’m not a counselor, or going to give you a 15-second technique to get over what lie has handed you over and over again. But even though the past is heart-wrenching and sometimes too painul too look at; you have one thing on your side, the present present moment. Today is a brand new day and things can change or you right now. As long as you’re ready to make the transition. You can learn to get over these sad events by looking lo oking yoursel in the mirror today and accepting who you are right now. It may take a while as you didn’t invent these patterns o thought overnight. But i you stand in ront o your mirror and start saying “it’s okay, okay, I can move on and I love who I am no matter what because I am great. I deserve great things and will achieve whatever will make me happy.” With belie and condence, yoursel image will begin to change rom negative to positive with patience. You You will begin to grow more mature as a woman quite rapidly. The premise is to, love thysel. No point in seeking what you desire in someone else, when you have it already already..
Let’s laugh yoursel silly Making people laugh has been a git I’ve had since the day I was born. I always love to see someone smile, especially a stranger. The distance between two strangers, I’ve read, is always a good laugh. I agree. One o the best ways to break the ice and still keep your composure is a good joke. People always tell me I should be a comedian. But it was never my calling. My girl thinks so, too, but she just likes the way I can turn any upset upside down when lie gets too hard or her. her. Reminiscing on our relationship now, it doesn’t seem that long ago when we would park up by the South Street Seaport, where she’d open up and talk about tough times in her lie, and I’d mend her heart, by putting a smile on her ace. Releasing the stress accompanied by a warm hug.
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As a youngster I used comedy as a way to stay relevant with the “cool” kids. But as I grew older, older, I just became the type o guy who could make anyone smile. It’s just who I am. Whenever my riends and I get together all we do is laugh and crack jokes. It makes lie un, exciting, and a truly a blessing. One o the things I want you to do is laugh. Let go o the misery in your lie today. Pop in a tape o your avorite movie and laugh until you cry. Then appreciate the moment, or these are the events which truly matter in lie. l ie. Do whatever you have to so you can spend more time laughing then crying. Take Take things in your reality lightly, or this is why all angels fy above the clouds. Laughter heals all wounds and places you in a position o joyous celebration. Even i today isn’t your birthday, laugh likes its 1975 or as i you just hit the Lotto. Find peace o mind in the simplicity si mplicity o laughter, (unless your asthmatic then you need Albuterol!)
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“And when I get that eeling I want sexual healing Sexual healing, oh baby Makes me eel so ne” – Marvin Gaye Sex in college or me was everything next to beer pong extravaganzas. And i you’re a guy, or a girl who doesn’t want to admit it, then you know what I’m talking about. The three-letter word which was shunned by our parents when we asked them, “Where do babies come rom?” I don’t know about you, but my mother gave me the most ridiculous answers known to man. Such as “the sky; they sprout rom the ground or even better, planet Mars”, she did her best to keep me rom nding out mysel. But that didn’t last too long. But this isn’t about me, this is about you, and how sex can benet your lie. I pretty much think I got your attention, so let’s get to the nitty gritty. When you’re in position, make sure you… — nah I’m kidding. One o the greatest benets o sex is it releases stress which establishes inner peace and relaxation. It’s one o the saest and greatest interactions which can bring peace to one’s souls soon ater. ater. This is why guys like me make you ladies all right asleep ater one is released; waking up the next day rejuvenated and cooking breakast ater you had such a long nap. The power o sex heals the mind rom disastrous ideas, concepts o a destructive nature. I was once told by a man, who was going to revolve his issue with his wie with verbal cadavers upon her arrival her home that sex saved him hi m rom over reaching.. reaching.. He said, “I’d had enough o her nagging and I elt it was time give her a piece o my mind.” I asked him “So what happened? I don’t see any rouses o mental anguish or disturbances; they were apparently holding hands rather tightly. For his wie was seated right next to him. He said “We started to have sex; I or orgot got all about it. She put it on me.” We all laughed hysterically. No matter how uncomortable you may be with this subject matter, I’m not sure why you may be but sex is how you were created. No one on this earth was born without their parents getting it on. Please do your best to remove that image. Sex reduces stress, relieves tension, raises your sel-esteem and ater, you eel calm, relaxed, and satised. Sex is a great way to slow down, relax and enjoy an experience probably not too keen in heaven. So i you’re eeling down and out don’t worry; sex can clear that right up. Enjoying ecstasy with the one you love. What else can you ask or? It’s ree, easy and there is no o switch.
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Learn rom my blunders. 1. Fear is man’s greatest enemy. enemy. It’s behind ailure, sickness, and bad human relations. Love is an emotional attachment to the good things o lie. Fall in love with honesty, integrity, love, justice, good will and success. Live in the joyous expectancy o the best, and invariably the best will come to you. 2. Happiness is the harvest o a quiet mind. Anchor Anchor your thoughts on peace, poise, poise, security and divine guidance and your mind will be productive o happiness. 3. Silencing your mind to eliminate ear, worry and sel pity; replacing your subconscious mind with peace, harmony and love. lo ve. 4. Sleep is essential or peace peace o mind and healthy body. body. Lack o sleep can cause irritation, depression, and mental disorders. You You need eight hours h ours o sleep. 5. You are spiritually rechar recharged ged during sleep. Adequate sleep is essential or joy and vitality in lie. 6. More sex equals less stress. stress. Climax yoursel into a state state o instant euphoria. Just remember to wear a condom. Hopeully that was obvious. 7. Gratitude brings peace.
Now go live lie stupidly.
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To my mother and brother Savenise Gelin and Billy Figaro
So much could be said about what you’ve done or me. All I can say is thank you.
Acknowledgements Acknowledgem ents Jason Ross, Khalani Saunders, Charlie Sotiriou, Chris Harris, Dave Valvano, Nitesh Singh, Bryan Deonarine, Hi Lo Entertainment, James Scott, Chris Stanley, Christopher, Harris, Father Rocco, Christopher Columbus beore he killed the Indians, Mrs. Mercanci, Mercedes aka Grandma and The entire Gelin amily. There are too many o you to name but i you know who I am, been in my lie or an early age and know where Uncle Ronald lives, that means you. (Shana, Edward, Jimmy, Jimmy, Andy, Ketsia, Melissa, Julie, Nina, Hudson, Huns etc.)
Works Cited:
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Earl Nightingale’s Lead the Field
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Psychology o Achievement Achievement by by Bryan Tracy
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http://verydemotivational.memebase.com
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