1. Divorce in the Philippines is not legal but it looks like there are more couples getting an annulment. Isn’t this enough reason to legalize divorce?
The increasing numbers may be due to a greater awareness of this procedure than before. We get to know more about annulments annu lments or separations today especially if they involve movie or o r society personalities. The media loves to elaborate on the details but no one seems to be paying attention to the millions of good marriages around, which do not see print. 2. The Philippines is now the !"# countr$ %aside &rom the 'atican( where divorce is not legal. Isn’t that rather strange?
Even if all the countries in the world, except ours, have legalized divorce, d ivorce, this is not a forceful reason for us to have it. If our ou r onstitution is the only one in the world that guarantees the protection of the institution of marriage as a lasting lasting and permanent union, then this uni!ue and fundamental law must be something to be proud of" #$rticle %&, %&, 'ec. ( )*arriage, as an inviolable social institution, is the foundation of the family and shall be protected by the 'tate+. $ lasting lasting marriage stabilizes the family and society as a whole. -ivorce divides and destroys the family. *arriage is not a /0/ arrangement. -ivorce is. *arriage has to be 1//01//. )It ) It isn2t about dividing everything in half, but giving everything you2ve got.+ If one gives 3/, then the other must give a 1(/. ). I& the criteria &or granting a divorce are well thought o& and strict* those appl$ing &or divorce can be &orewarned that the$ must have a trul$ valid case to pursue its &iling. +ould this be another convincing reason &or legalizing divorce?
*ost countries where divorce is legal have now gone a step further down by b y accepting what is called a )no fault divorce+. This means that couples do not need a valid or compelling reason to separate4 only a simple agreement to end the marriage is enough. This paves the way wa y for flimsy excuses #or none to be legal grounds for ending a marriage. The petitioner for divorce could cite )irreconcilable differences+ without having to validate what he or she means. ,. Divorce advocates argue that it is a solution to &ailed* i& not oppressive and dehumanizing unions. -houldn’t divorce be a consideration to properl$ address this and other irreconcilable di&&erences between married couples?
If a spouse proves not only to be overbearing but also abusive and an d cruel, or if there are situations in which living together becomes practically impossible, there are sufficient provisions in the 5amily ode that provide for legal separation of the spouses. In some cases, there is even annulment of voidable marriages. There are also salutary provisions in 6epublic $ct 7o. 8(9( #$n $ct defining &iolence against Women Women and their hildren, providing for protective measures
for victims, prescribing penalties therefore, and for other purposes for the protection of women and their children. :egal 'eparation may ma y be the only recourse to ensure e nsure not only the legal rights and care of the children but also spousal support, visitation rights, etc. -ivorce must 7E&E6 be considered. There is no difficult situation situation that cannot be addressed in an ade!uate way. *any difficult situations are worsened by the stubborn and blind passions of hate or indecisions caused by infidelity or an unmentioned third party. ;ehind most divorces in the West West is an untold story of irretrievable loss and betrayal by one or the other. The marriage fails because one or the other party wanted it to fail. . Please e/plain the &ollowing terms &urther 0 "egal -eparation* nnulment* Declaration o& !ullit$
:egal separation allows the parties to live separately, but the marriage is not dissolved and neither party can contract marriage with a new partner. ivil $nnulment $nnulment recognizes the existence of a marriage until the time it is invalidated. The consent of one or both parties to the marriage must be proven to be faulty at the time of the exchange of vows. $fter an annulment, parties are restored to their single status. -eclaration of nullity means that there was no valid va lid marriage at all in the first place. The parties could remarry afterwards because they have, technically, never been married. . 3ut divorce advocates insist that ever$one deserves to have another chance to be happ$ or at least have the right to re4marr$. +h$ not?
This argument is incorrect. There is 7< =>$6$7TEE that the next union will be happy and successful. In fact, studies in the >. '. prove that first marriages are the ones that really last and remarriages ultimately fail. 'ee )The ?igh 5ailure 6ate of 'eco nd and Third *arriages+ #
[email protected] #https@AAwww .psychologytoday.comAblogAthe0intelli .comAblogAthe0intelligent0divorceA(/1(/(Athe0high0failure0rate0 gent0divorceA(/1(/(Athe0high0failure0rate0 second0and0third0marriages. second0and0third0marriages . If legal separation, annulment and declarations of nullity nu llity are Buridical options which are already available, why would one want wan t a divorce that will ultimately hurt the family and damage societyC -ifficult marriages can be repaired. There are programs that couples can attend to help them out. ;esides divorce being costly, it becomes an easy way out, a way to end a marriage in order to remarry or to start a new life without the burden of a family. 5. 6ow costl$ is divorce?
hurch laws are against divorce and ivil laws should not favor divorce. If we speak here of financial costs, yes, it is costly for not everyone will be able to afford it.
In addition, having another family will mean more expenses to support both families. The effects of divorce are not limited to the incremental financial expenses. 'tudies have shown the destructive conse!uences of divorce@ the devastating emotional e motional and psychological effects on the separating spouses and the children. The children of divorce will become the parents of tomorrow. They They may also fail to prioritize the strength of their families.
7. 3ut these are more o& an e/ception and it a&&ects onl$ certain cases. The granting o& divorce ma$ even be simpler and cheaper in the long run* isn’t it?
-ivorce also damages the stability and unity of the family, which is the most enduring human institution, honored and encouraged in all cultures and by every religious faith. If proponents of divorce claim that this will be cheaper cheap er than other legal options, they should instead encourage the =overnment to make the present options more affordable. ouples may try to convince themselves the mselves that it is a simple matter and that everything will end in a peaceful and amicable way. >nspoken and undefined, but clearly evident, are the layers of pain and hurt underneath that falsely )calm+ faDade of most of those undergoing divorce. ou ou can2t Bust commit your life to a person and then let it go. -ivorce causes trauma to the abandoned spouse and unspoken pain to the departing spouse, however indifferent he or she may pretend to be. ouples, who fail to patch up their differences, blame each other and then choose cho ose to separate. 'eparation and divorce adversely affect children2s values system as well as their emotional growth. When children were involved, social studies have shown that divorce was a life0 changing, negative experience that altered their childhood, adolescence and adulthood. In addition, divorce increased problems associated with a missing parent or parents F Buvenile delin!uency, lying, criminality, criminality, and school dropout. dropou t. 'ome effects can be staggering like drugs and even suicide" 8. recent surve$ showed 9 percent o& :ilipinos want divorce made legal. +h$ does the ;atholic ;hurch still insist on not legalizing what most :ilipinos %including their &lock( are urging them to do?
The atholic hurch cannot conform her teachings on preferences that are suggested by surveys, most of which are emotionally driven and difficult to translate to relevant actions. The sanctity of marriage is embodied in the moral code that is eternal and immutable. The hurch, in obBecting to legalize divorce, is reiterating a position she has held since the time of hrist. The hurch
doctrine on divorce is unchangeable unchangea ble because it is a -ivine :aw. Those in favor of divorce and re0 marriage are effectively claiming human laws are superior to =od2s laws. 19. +hat do $ou think are reasons wh$ marriages &ail to work?
There are many possible reasons, and foremost is the lack of preparation. *ost couples whose marriages failed have entered into it impulsively or for the wrong reasons. $n example is when the marriage begins because the girlfriend has become pregnant before marriage or when the couple makes a hasty decision based on physical attraction. While attraction may have resulted in dating, it must develop de velop into a commitment, a covenant, covenan t, something spiritual. Gleasure without commitment is not love at all. ?uman love should become conBugal love, the characteristic of which is complimentarity, a convergence of aspirations and dreams. -ivorce is a betrayal of love. This is precisely why it is important for children to learn fidelity and commitment from their own parents2 marriage. 11. Is this the onl$ reason &or what is termed as &ailure in marriage?
$ common reason for married couples who suddenly consider divorce is selfishness of one or the other. 'elfishness 'elfishness to appreciate that everyone changes ch anges through the years and to make allowances for it. 'elfishness to depreciate a spouse who has less education or a spouse whom one believes he or she has outgrown and is no longer )suitable+ for his or her professional or intellectual life. $nother reason is that many couples do not work to keep their marriage alive, engaging and worthwhile. $fter a time, they take each other for granted. They no longer ensure their best manners for their spouses. Indifference leads to lack of respect and eventually one or the other )falls out of love.+ While there is something stable in marriage and love, maybe those whose marriages )failed+ did not nurture and attend to this love every single day of their married life. 12. #ou must be talking o& eas$4to4mend marriages or minor problems that can easil$ be solved. +hat about marriages that &ailed because o& ma
*ost marriages go through situations that make the couple feel that the marriage is threatened or that love has gone. Instead of giving up, the couple must find a new way to make things work. If the issues appear irreconcilable from the viewpoint of the cou ple, they may need professional help or an external party to guide them. 1). +hat can be done to save a marriage?
There may be an urgent need for professional help with a marriage counselor to he lp them work it out. >nfortunately, there are spouses who may refuse to give counseling a try. Groblems are
part of life. The existence of marital difficulties difficulties can be a means for them to work on their love and respect for each other. They should not only resuscitate their affection, but also have to learn to forgive each other because mercy is the perfection of love. To save a marriage, it is most important that couples recognize their own failings first and secondly, to be willing to negotiate and work out a solution. $ failure failure of marriage does not mean an invalid marriage. It can mean that the parties involved should wake up and make up, rather than think their marriage has to end. There is no perfect marriage as there is no perfect love in this world. *arriage and love have to be worked on and developed in time, using whatever problems and difficulties the couple may meet, to learn virtues and thus strengthen their love and their life together. oung oung love should develop into a lasting love and, in old age, into devotion.
1,. 6ow must one prepare onesel& be&ore getting married?
ouples must know, before marriage, the necessary re!uirements to get married like consent, validity and the dispositions of those entering into marriage. They must primarily focus on the sacredness of marriage. >nity and the indissolubility of marriage are necessary for the pact of love to last. They must know that marriage is a life0long commitment of mutual, exclusive, total, irrevocable and sincere self0giving and sacrifice. It is entered into with o pen eyes, a lot of reflection and logical thinking, maturity and a lot of preparation knowing the other person extremely well and knowing that the union is not Bust based on mere passion or convenience. In other words, those contemplating marriage must make a sincere and diligent effort to know and understand the future partner2s character and background including that of hisAher family. *arriage fulfills natural law. It is not Bust a piece of paper signed in a ceremony. It is a promise, a vow, and there is a purpose to this vow. The vow keeps the bridegroom and his bride together for life in an unbreakable bond of love, respect, trust and safety needed to safeguard a very clear outcome of the union H a home, a family, children. Every baby deserves a family and every child has the right to have both a father and a mother together.
>&&ects o& Divorce on Parents Gosted by $:5I $:5I on on $pr 1, (/1 in -ivorce I have written on the devastating effects of divorce on children and on the !uality of the workforce of a country in the long run. If children coming from divorced parents are more prone to poor academic performances and mental and psychological disorders, legalising divorce in the Ghilippines can erase to a great extent our advantage of having a )young, growing and English0 speaking population.+ It is clear, therefore, that the issue of divorce is more than Bust a religious !uestion. It has a lot to do with the economic progress of the nation and the common good of society. The $merican ollege of Gediatricians, however, has more to say about the harmful effects of a culture of divorce. In a document authored primarily by Jane $nderson, *-, 5G, 5G, last *ay (/1K, it enumerated the deleterious effects of divorce on the parents themselves. It showed scientific evidences that parents who divorce also experience adverse effects on their physical, emotional and financial well0being, thus also directly rendering them dysfunctional in their professional work, trade, or occupation. $ccording $ccording to this study, married #whether male or female people are more likely to have better physical health. *arried people smoke and drink less. *arried men are less likely to commit suicide than men who are divorced or separated. *arried individuals have the lowest incidence of diabetes, hypertension, and heart disease. *arried men are more likely to live longer after a diagnosis of cancer, especially prostate cancer. *arried men live longer than men who never married. In the 5ramingham
*arried people are more likely to have higher incomes. Individuals who are married have greater wealth. The longer they stay married, the greater the wealth accumulation. *en especially benefit, as married men earn ((L more than single men. Women Women who experience divorce face a (L decrease in their standard of living. *arried women wo men are more likely to be physically ph ysically safer than divorced or separated women. *arried people have more civic responsibility, are more likely to volunteer in service proBects, and are more likely to be involved in schools and churches. -ivorce may have adverse long0term emotional effects on parents. In Wallersteins2 Wallersteins2 long0term long0term study, half of the women and one0third of the men were still very angry with their former spouses.
nited 'tates reaches about NMM.M billion per year, with adolescent pregnancy costing about N billion annually. With all these empirical evidences from what can be considered the -ivorce apital of the world, we would have a hole in our head if we overturn our centuries0old tradition of no divorce in the Ghilippines. We have to give full support to the statement of 'peaker 5eliciano ;elmonte that the Ghilippine ongress will never legalise divorce. 5or comments, my email add ress is bernardo.villegasOuap.asia
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