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At lastl A guide to the Japanese language of lovel Having trouble with your love life in Japan? Can 't get your point across? Worse yet, are there lots of things being said to you or about you that you simply don 't understand? What can you do? Learn to speak to your Japanese friends and lovers the way a Japanese wou ldusing the same colorful , colloqu ial language that Japanese actually speak. From " I want to know more about you " (Anatani-tsulte motto shiritai) to " Do you want to come to my place?" (Uchi-ni kuru?), here is all the language you need to start up a romance and keep it rolling. If things get serious, you'll be ready with the right proposal: "Will you make my mise soup for breakfast?" (Choshoku-no miso-shiru-o tsukuttekureru?) And if things don 't work out, there are plenty of fighting words" Two-tirnert" I"wo"'-nono!)-to help you let off stea \

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1. Kissing

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4. Fighting .

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5. Marriage .

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6. Health .

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So how's your Japanese coming along? Are you now conversing effortlessly? No? Still don't know what they're talking about sometimes? Sounds like you didn't read Making Out in Japanese . So go out and buy a copy-over 50,000 other people have. Read it, study it, live it, and love it. Making Out in Japanese will show you how the Japanese really speak. We use lots of shortcuts in our speech, and so do they. Our colloquial way of speaking is relaxed and informal , and so is theirs. OK, with that plug out of the way, let's move on to some new stuff. In Japanese there is a slang use of "A," " B," and "C" similar to the American English slang use of "first base," "second base," "third base," and "home ru n." These letters denote kissing, petting, and making love, respectively. The focus of this book is love, and the words and phrases in it are listed in "love groups" corresponding to these activities. In Chapter 1, "Kissing," you'll find all the words and phrases you'll need to string and fire Cupid's bow. Chapter 2, " Petting," will get you into a little more intimate action, but it's rather tame compared with Chapter 3, "Making Love." If your relationship should deteriorate before reaching Chapter 3, then Chapter 4, " Fighting," is the one for you. But if you hear wedding bells ringing, head for Chapter 5, "Marriage." Finally, don't forget Chapter 6, " Health." All those activities in Chapters 1 through 5 are more fun if you're in (or can get into) good shape.

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It's rather difficult to teach the proper pronunciation of a foreign language in a book, so we're not going to try. To help you out, though, we've joined two and sometimes three or four words together, to make compound words or phrases that are easier to pronounce. M ost of these compounds are hyphenated to highl ight merged words, to emphasize the slang suffixes and particles, and to facilitate pronunciation and memorization. Fuzakenai-deyo, for example, is a compound phrase meaning " Don't be stupidl" Its components are: fuzake (from fuzakeru), nai (arimasen), and the slang suffix -deyo. The compound phrase is rendered fuzakenai-deyo so that you will not pause while pronouncing it, but say it entirely in one breath ; a pause in the pronunciation will make the impact weaker. We 're sure that you're familiar with the interrogative sentence forms desu-ka and masu-ka . Forget them. Except for a few still employed when talking to strangers, requesting services, etc., the rest have been dismissed . In informal speech, rising intonation takes the place of these forms. Thus, the final syllables of all words and phrases in this book endi ng with a question mark should be pronounced with the kind of rising intonatio n we give to the question " Right?" The terms "boy" and " girl" are used throughout the '

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Okoranaide. " Okoruna-yo. a Atatamete.

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cause such words come and go too quickly. If you use old slang, the reaction of your Japanese date will likely be "He thinks he's being cool speaki ng like that, but nobody says that anymore. Hah, hahl " So avoid the hot slang-if it's out of date people will think that you're funny or square. The Japanese have been borrowing foreign words for so long that they've invented a special syllabary, katakana, just to spell them with. Many of these loanwords appear in this book. (To help you spot them, they're printed in bold.) For example, to tell a girl "I like your hairstyle," you could say Kimi-no heasutairu suki. The Japanese language has only one final consonant (n), so when Japanese pronounce English words with consonant endings, they often tack on a vowel. The word "back," for example, becomes bakku; "cute" becomes kyOto; "game" becomes gemu. The final " r" sound, also, does not exist in Japanese. This ending is usually replaced with a long "a" sound when pronounced by Japanese. The word "locker," for example, becomes rokka. And since there is no English "I" sound in Japanese, an "r" is used in its place. Japanese enjoy using English words sporadically in their speech and you should do the same. With a little practice, it's easy to get the hang of how to " katakana-ize" ,an English word, that is, to pronounce it the way a Japanese would. ) Now, shall we get on first base?

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ICIIIIMC Mae-ni ette-koto aru?

Have I seen you before?

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Do you come here often?

Koko-ni yoku kuru? 0' 9

You come here often, don't you?

Koko-ni yoku kurud eshB? 0' 9 Koko-ni yoku kuru darB? 0'

I've been watching you.

Ana ta-no-koto zutto miteta. 9 Kimi-no-koto zutto miteta. 0'

You're really pretty .

Kimi-tte hontB-ni kite} da ne. 0'

You 're handscme.

Anata-tte hansamu-ne.

9 You're fascinating .

Anata-wa miryokuteki-ne.

9 Kimi-wa miryokuteki-da . 0'

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I want to know more about you.

Anata-ni-tsuite motto

Come on, tell me more.

Ii-janai. Motto oshiete-yo. CJ9

Don't be shy.

Hazukashigaranaide.• CJ9

shiritai. 9 Kimi-ni-tsuite motto shiritai. C7

.. Also means "Don't be embarrassed."

Ask m e some questions.

Nanka shitsumon-shite. CJ 9 Nanka kiite. CJ 9

As k me anything you want.

Suki-ne-koto nandemo kiite it-no-yo. 9 Suki-na-koto nandemo kiite-ii-yo. CJ 9

Except what color underwear I'm wearing .

Nani ira-no shitagi-kawa dame. C7 9

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I like your personality.

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Anata-no seikaku suki-yo.

9 Kimi-no seikaku sukidayo. C/ You're my type.

Anata-wa atashi-no sukina taipu. 9 Kimi-wa boku-no suki-na taipu. C/

What' s your type?

Donna hito-ga suki? C/ 9 Donna hito-ga konomi? C/9

quiet: otonashii (usually said about girls) mukuchi-na (usually said about boys) loud: nigiyaka-na funny: omoshiroi serious: majime-na big: okii small: chiisai considerate: omoiyari-no

aru bright: akarui tender: yasashii

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manly: otokoppoi fem inine: onnappoi cheerful: genki-no aru smart: atama-no ii cute: kawaii sexy: sekushii-na slim: yaseteru

chubby: potchari-shita glamorous: gurama-na thin-waisted: uesto-ga hosoi small bull: chiisai ostwi-no long hair: kami-no nagai cute smile: egao-no kawaU pretty teeth: ha-no kirei·na small breasts: mune-no chiisai rich: okane-machi-no tough: tafu-na

elite: emo-ne stylish: sutairisshu-na shy: hazukashigari-ya outgoing: shitashimi-no aTU long legs: ashi·no nagai big eyes: me-ga okii small mouth: kuchi-no

chiisai sporty: sUpbti 4na

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I like your hairstyle.

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Anata-no haa sutairu suki. Q Kimi-no nee sutairu suki.

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Do you follow the latest fads?

RyOk6-0 ou?

What' s in now?

Nani-ga ima hayatteruno? o Q

You have good taste in clothes.

Fuku-no konomi-ga

ii-ne. * 9 Fuku-no konomi-ga

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I'm not very stylish.

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Atashi-wa ryOko-ni binkan-ja nai. 9 Atashi-wa anmari sutairisshu-ja nai.· 9 Boku-wa ryOko-ni binkanja nai. a Boku-wa anmari sutairisshu-ja nai.· a

"Especially said about clothes.

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Will you give me some advice?

Nanika adobaisushitekureru? a 9

Shall we go shopping together someday?

Kondo issno-o! shoppingu-ni ikanai? a9

I don't like to shop alone.

Hitori-de shoppingu-surunowa suki-ja nai. a 9

Do you have a steady?

Tsukiatteru hito iru? a 9

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You must be very popular.

Moteru-desh6. a 9 Moteru-dar6. a

You must have many boyfriends/girlfriends. (You must be popular.)

Kanojo ippai irun-deshO. Kareshi ippai irun-dar6. a

You must have a girlfriend/boyfriend.

Kanojo irun-deshO.· 9 Kareshi irun-daro. * C1

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Yes. I had one, but we just broke up.

Un demo, saikin wakare-

I've never dated a Japanese boy/girl before .

Ninon-no otoko-no-hito-to

tao a 9 deto-shita-koto-nai. 9 Nihon-no onna-no-hito-to deto-shita-koto-nai. a

Will you go out with me?

Atashi-to dekakenai? 9 Boku-to dekakenai? a

I don't have anyone to share ice cream with.

Atashi-wa aisu kuriinu-o issho-ni taberu hito-ga inai-no. 9 Boku-wa aisu kurimu-o issho-ni taberu hito-ga inain-da.· a

•Japanese girls love ice cream. This should get a date for the boy.

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Do you smoke?

Tabako SUU?

Do you drink beer/ liquor/wine?

Biiru/osakelwa/n nomu?

What do/did you study at college?

Daigaku-de nani-o senko-shiteru-no?' C1 9 Daigaku-de nani-o senko-shita-no?' C1 9

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I went to a special (trade) school.

Atash/-wa senmon gakko-ni me. 9 Boku-wa senmon gakkoni itta. CT

What type of school?

Donna gakko?

Allow us to introduce ourselves.

Atashitachi-no jikoshOkaisasete. 9 Bokutachi-no jikoshOkaisasete. C1

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Would you introduce your friends?

Anata-no tomodachi-o shOkai-shite? 9 Kitni-no tomodachi-o shOkai-shite? 0'

Let' s move to a bigger table.

Motto okii teburu-ni

Let' s pair off.

Kogo-ni suwaro." ' 0' 9 Ittai itchi-ni wakareyo. -a 0'9

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To sit down in pairs. *2. Separate and go do something as couples.

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What do you think about this?

Kore-n! tsuite do omou? 0'9

You don't talk very much.

Anata-wa anmari shaberanai-none. 9 Kimi-wa anmari shaberanai-ne. 0'

What do your friends want to do?

Anata-no tomodachi nani-ga shitai-no? 9 Kimi-no tomodachi naniga shitai-no? 0'

Let's all go out together.

Minna-de dekakeyo."' 0' 9 Minna-de oevs.:» 0' 9

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Making plans to go out. *2. As in "Let's leave this building. "

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It'll be a 101 of fun.

Zettai lanoshii-yo.

Let's go to the beach.

Umi-ni ika. a 9

Let's see a movie.

Eiga-o miya.

Who is your favorite actor/actress?

YakushalJoyu -de darega suki?" a 9

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Did you see _ _?

___ mila? a9

I like _ _.

___·-ga suki. a 9

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dog barking

wen-wen

cat meowing

nyan-nyan 0

heavy rain

zii-zii 09

light rain

shito-shito 0

walking noise

teku-teku 0

heavy cryi ng

en-en 09

light crying

shiku-shiku' 09

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I'm hungry.

Onaka -ga peko-peko. 09

My head feels dizzy.

Atama-ga tura -tura. 0

I have a sharp pain in my stomach .

Onaka-ga kid-kiri itai. 09

What time does the next show start?

Tsugi-no kai nanji (desuka)? 0 9

We have plenty of time.

Takusan jikan-ga aru. 0 9 Jikan-ga ippai aru. 0 9

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Let's make a line. (Let's get in line.)

NarabO. a 9

Are you waiting in line?

Naranderun desu-ka?

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a9 Naranderu-no? a 9 You wait here.

Koko-de mattete. a 9

I'll do/buy it.

Atashi-ga suru-wa/kauwa. 9 Boku-ga suru-yo/kau-yo. a

Let' s sing karaoke .

Karaoke-de utao. a 9

NOTE: Karaoke literally means "without orchestra." This popular activity usually takes place in special karaoke bars, and consists of individual patrons singing the vocal lead of favorite sonos.to the accompaniment of taped backup instrumentals. Li ke all their fun. Japanese take this very seriously.

Do you like karaoke?

Karaoke suki? a 9

24 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE That person's singing is interesting.

Ano hita-no utaikata omoshiroi. (7 9

What's a popular thing to do?

Nani-ga hayatteru-no?

Let's go to Yamashita Park.

Yamashita PfJ.ku-e iko.

I hear it's a good spot for a date.

Deta-spotto-datte kiita. C/9

Let's go to the park again .

Mata pfJ.ku/koen -ni iko.

I love to hold your hand as we walk through the park.

Anata-to te-o tsunaide koen-o aruku-noga suki-yo. 9 Kimi-to te-o tsunaide k6en-o aruku-noga suki-dayo. (7

I came here by car.

Kuruma-de kita.

Would you like to go fo r a drive?

Doraibu-ni ikitai? C/ 9

I have room for two of your friends.

Anata-no tomodachi tuteti-bun-no seki-mo aru-wayo. 9 Kimi-no tomodachi lutaribun-no seki-mo aru-yo. "

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I'll order (for you/us).

Oda-shite ageru. CJ' 9

Would you like something to eaUdrink?

Nanika taberu/nomu? CJ'9

What do you want?

Nani-ga ii? CJ' 9

Let' s go Dutch.

Warikan-ni shiyo. CJ' 9

Let's have one check.

Denpyo-o issho-ni shiyo. CJ'9

One check, please.

Denpyo-o hitotsu-ni shite kudasai. CJ' 9

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Doko-no kurejitto kfJdoga tsukaemasu-ka?

a9 I lost my wallet.

Saifu-o nekuenn». a 9

I don 't have any money.

Okane-ga nanimo-nai.

a9 Can I borrow 10,000 yen?

fchiman-en kashitekureru? a 9

I scored (with her).

Nempe-sbite.: a

"Nempe means "dishonest person" and the opposite. kOlla. means "honest person." A nampa person might ask to make love on the first date. whereas a kOha person might wait till their ......adding night. In this context, Nampa·shita means "I went girl hunting (successfully)." This is a boy's phrase because only girls get nampa 'd . A nampa-yare is a boy who likes girl hunting. (Koha-shita does not have any meaning.)

Drink up!

Ikki! ikkW a 9

·/kld! Jkki! is an encouraging cheer which means something like "Drink it all up without stopping."

Cheers!

Kampai!" a 9

"'Kampail is said as everyone is clinking thei r glasses together for the toast. It means, literally, "dry glass."

Drink quickly to catch up.

Kaketsuke ippai. a 9

I'm getting drunk.

Yotte-kichatta, a 9 Yopparatte-kichatta.

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I'm drunk.

Yotchatta. Cf 9 Yopparatcha tta. 09

I have a splitting headache.

Atama-ga wsreru-yo-n: itai. 09 Sugoi zutsu-ga suru. 09

You drank too much last night, didn't you?

Kino-wa takusan nomisugita-ne? 0 9 Kino-wa takusan nomisugita-na? Cf

By the way, . . .

Tokorode, . . . 0 9

I'm sorry, but . . .

Warui-kedo, ... 09

Who was that?

Are dare?

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Will you be my Japanese leacher?

Atashi-no nihongo-no sensei-ni nattekureru?

9 Baku-no nihongo-no sensei-ni nattekureru? C7

I'll teach you English.

Atashi-ga eigo-o oshiete ageru. 9 Boku-ga eigo-o oshiete ageru. C7

What shall we do now?

/ma-kara do-suru?

I want to go to

_ __-ni ikitai.

I'm lost.

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Michi-ni mayotta."' Wakaranai. "' C7 9

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Please write down the d irections for me.

Iki-kata-o kaite.

Don 't forget to list the train station names.

Eki-no namae-no risuto-o wasurenaide. 0 '(

Will you tell me which train to take?

Dotchi-no densha-ka oshietekureru? 0 '(

How will I know when to get off (the train)?

Itsu oriru-ka do wakaruno? 09

I'll be waiting at _ _

___ -de matteru. 0 9

Get off at _ _ (station).

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Are you busy right noW?

Ima isogashii? a 9

Let's go to a disco.

Disuko-ni iko.· a 9

Let' s go to your favorite disco.

Anata-no yoku iku disuko-ni iko. · 9 Kimi-no yoku iku disukooi ik6. CI

"Use yoku iku to describe a place you "go to often."

I've never been to a disco.

Mada disuko-ni itta-kotonai. a 9

Is it true Japanese boys dance together?

Nihon-no otoko-no-hitotte issho-ni odorutte honto? a 9

How much is the ad-

Hairu-no ikura? a 9

mission? Does it include food and drink?

Tabemono-to nomimono komi? a 9

Do we get membership cards?

Menbashippu kado-wa moreemesu-ke?" a 9

"Said to club staff. When talking to friends, use the less formal moraeru?

I'm a member.

Atashi-wa menbi!l. (desu).

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Here are your tickets.

Hai, chiketto. Hai-yo. · o 9 Hora-yo.· Cf

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Are there lockers here?

Rokkii arimasu-ka? Rokkii aru? Cf 9

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Let's use the loc kers.

Rokkii-o tsukao.

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Where do you want to sit?

Doko-ni suwaritai? o 9

It' s noisy here.

Koko urusai.

It' s too noisy here.

Koko urusasugiru.

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Hitodori-ga osugiru. " Cl9

*Hitodori applies to "people traffic" only.

It's dark over there.

Asoko-wa kurai. o 9

These seats look good.

Kono isu yosaso.

This is a nonsmoking section.

Koko-wa kin-enseki. o 9

Let's sit close to the dance floor/bar/band/ restroomslexiVaisie.

Dansu furoalb8/bando/ otearai; toireldeguchi/ tsOro -no chikaku-ni suwaro. o 9

How many tickets for one drink?

Nomimono hitotsu-wa chiketto nanmai (desukay? o 9

It takes two tickets for one drink.

Chiketto ni-mai-de nomimono ip¢bun. Cl 9

Free drinks are over there.

Fun dorinku-wa asoko. Cl 9

Can we buy beer here?

Koko-de biru kaeru? o 9

The drinks here taste terrible!

Koko-no nomimono mazui! 9 Koko-no nomimono mazui-yo! o

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Anmari tsuyokunai.

They serve weak drinks here.

«oko-no nomimono minna yowai. C1 Q

Ask for stronger drinks.

Motto tsuyoi nomimono-o tanonde. " I C1 Q Onaji-no-o tsuyokusuruyo-ni itte. * 1 C1 Q

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-1 . Telling your friend that you want your next drink to be stronger. ·2. Tailing your friend to order another drink just like you have now, only stronger.

Stronger drinks, please.

Motto tsuyoi nomimono-o kudasai. C1 Q

Please make this drink stronger.

Kore motto tsuyokushite kudasai. C1 Q

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Tabemono toro. · cr 9

Let's get some food . " From the food bar/counter.

Menu, please.

Menyii kudasai. o 9

Have you decided?

Kimeta?

I'll orde r (for us).

Atashi-ga oda-suru. 9 Boku-ga oda-suru. 0'

l!You forgot the chopsticks.

Hashi-o wasureta.·

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I can't decide what to do with my chopsticks.

Mayoi-bashi.·

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We need another chair.

Mo hitotsu isu-ga iru. 0'9

I'll get that one over there.

Are mottekuru.

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I'll bring it with me.

Motteku.

You sit here.

Koko-ni suwatte.

I'll sit there.

Soko-ni suwaru.

Sit by me.

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Sit closer.

Motto chikaku-ni suwatte. ClQ

If I get drunk, that's okay.

Moshi atashi-ga yopparatte-mo heiki-yo. Q

Meshi boku-ga yopparatte-mo heikidayo. CI

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I have a futon' in my pocket.

Poketto-ni futon-ga haitteru. a 9

•Japanese bedding. This is a joke. of course.

Will you dance with me?

Atashi-to odottekureru?

9 Boku-to odottekureru? a I like to watch you dance.

Anata-no odoti-o mitu-

I'm not good at dancing .

Dansu umakunai-no. 9 Dansu umakunain-da. a

I like slow dancing .

Sura dansu-ga suki. a 9

Are you in the mood?

Notieru? " a 9

noga suki. 9 Kimi-no odori-o mirunoga suki. a

*Can be used for any mood.

Not really.

Anmari. a 9 Betsu-ni. a 9

I don 't feel like dancing yet.

Mada odoru-ki shinai.

I'm not going to dance yet.

Mada odoranai. a 9

I can't dance to this music.

Kono kyoku-ja odorenai. :

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I don 't know this song.

Kono uta shiranai. o '{

I like rock 'n' roll.

ROkkun-roru-ga suki. Cf'{

I like jazz.

Jazu-ga suki. cr '{

I like American Top-40 music.

Amerikan Toppu-4D-no ongaku suki. o '{

The dance-floor lights are cool.

Furoa-no raito kakkoii-ne. '{

Furoa-no raito kakkoii-na.

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Dancing makes me hot.

Dansu·shitara atsukunatta.· CI Q

"Hot as in sweaty.

Let's get a breath of fresh air.

Shinsen-na kOki-o sui-ni iko. CI Q

What time do they close?

Nanji-ni shimaru-no?

What time is the last train?

SaishO densha nanji? ClQ

What time do you have to be at work?

Nanji-ni shigoto iku-no? ClQ

What time is your curfew?

Mongen nanji?

We have plenty of time.

Jikan-ga tappuri eiu. ClQ

Let's stay to the end .

Saig%wari -made iyo. ClQ

Let's stay till they throw us out.

Oidasareru-made iyo. ClQ

Let's go to a coffee shop later.

Ato-de kohT shoppu-e iko. CI Q

May I see you again?

Mata aeru?

Let's do this again.

Mata kore shiyo.

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Let' s get together later.

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"This means "Let's separate now and get back together later today."

Let' s see each other again.

Mata aB.

Let's meet on Tuesday at your favorite coffee shop.

KayBbi-ni anata-no okiniui-no kBhl shoppude aB. 9 KayBbi-ni kimi-no okiniirino kBhl shoppu-de aB.

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I'm glad we met.

Aete yokatta.

I'm happy to see you again.

Mata aete ureshii.

If I had n't taken that train, we wou ldn't have met.

Ano densha-ni noranakattara atashitachi awanakatta.

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Do you believe in destiny?

Unmei-tte shinjiru?

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yoru/SenshO-no kiny5bilKin5 -wa

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Do you think of me often?

Atashi-no-koto yoku kangaeru? <; Boku-no-koto yoku kangaeru? C1

I think of you night and

Anata-no-koto ichinichi-jO kangaeru. 9 Kimi-no-koto ichinichi-jO kangaeru. C1

day.

I couldn 't stop thinking about you.

Anata-no-koto bakkari kangaeteta. <; Kimi-no-koto bakkari kangaeteta. C1

I remember what you

Anata-ga itta-koto oboeteru.· <; Kimi-ga itta-koto

said .

oboeteru. * C1 -For "remembered," change oboeteru to oboeteta.

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I wanted to call you

sooner.

Motto hayaku denwashitakatta. a '{

What would you like to do tonight?

Kon-ya nani shitai? a '{

What sounds good?

Nani-ga ii-ka ? a '{ D6-shiy6-ka? a '{

NOTE: The boy should make the decision so he doesn't seem weak. The gi rl will most likely say Wakannai o 9 ("I don't know/care"); Makaseru-wa 9 (" It's up to you"-the boy's equivalent is Makaseru-yo); or Kimete o Q ("You decide").

Can you see me tomorrow? * Also

Ashita eeru? : a '{

means "Can I see you tomorrow?"

Can you go out this Saturday?

Kondo-no doy6bi derareru?* a '{

"This means "Can you go out of the house this Satu rday?" Use . . . dekakerareru? for "Can you go out with me ... 7"

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I can 't wait till then.

Sore-made matenai.

I can wait till then.

Sore-made materu.

I like holding your hand .

Ana ta-no te-o nigiru-noga suki. Q Kimi-no te-o nigiru-noga sukl. C1

I like kissing you.

Anata-ni kissu-suru-noga suki. Q Kimi-ni kissu-suru-noga suki. C1

You 're a good kisser.

Kissu-ga j6zu-ne. Q Kissu-ga j6zu-dana.

Your lips are so soft.

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You're the only one I want.

Atashi-ga hoshii-nowa anata-dake. Q Boku-ga hoshii-nowa kimi-dake. C1'

I can't wait to tell you .

lu-noga machikirenai.

aQ I was only joking.

Honrrada -no jOdandayo. a Q

Don't take it so seriously.

Sonna-ni maji-ni toranaide. Q Sonna-ni maji-ni torunayo. a

It wasn 't your day, was it?

Kyo-wa tsuite-nakatta-ne? Q

Kyo-wa tsuite-nakatta-na.? a

It's boring, isn't it?

Tsumennei-ne? Q

Tsumannai-na? a Do you feel comfortable in public with me?

Atashi-to hitomae-ni ikuno ki-n! naru? Q Boku-to hitomae-ni iku-no ki-ni naru? a

I don't want you to get hurt on my account.

Atashi-no sei-de iya-na omoi sasetakunai. Q Boku-no sei-de iya-na omoi sasetakunai. a

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Tell me when someone talks about us.

Dareka-ga atashitachi-nokoto hanashitetara oshiete. 9 Dareka-ga bakutachi-nokoto hanashitetara oshiete. a

NOTE: A jealous Japanese boy might make a passing remark to his buddy about a Japanese girl with a foreign boyfriend; some boys might even say something to the girt Here are a few phrases you might hear.

Who does she think she is?

Jibun-na-kato nanda-ta amatte irun-daro? a

She must like big ones!

Aitsu okii·noga suki nandaze! a

I wish I had a big one!

Boku-no-mo motto okikattarana!' a

"This old only has one l.

She has a light butt.

Shirigaru onna. · a 9

.. Means she easily hops from boy to boy, bed to bed,

Public restroom.

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"Means she'll let anyone use her.

She'll be used and then thrown away.

Yararete suterareru.· a

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She's stupid!

Aitsu baka-dayo!

You're dirty! (Your relatio nship is shameful.)

Kitanai!

Don't be jealous!

Yakimochi yakuna-yo!'

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Do you care what they th ink?

Minna-ga do omou-ka kini naru? (J' <;I

Don 't let them bother yo u.

Hoka-no-hito-no-koto ki-ni shinaide. <;I Hoka-no-hito-no-koto ki-ni suruna-yo. (J'

Don't be upset.

Okoranaide. <;I Okoruna-yo. (J'

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Does your family know about us?

Anata-no kazoku atashitachi-no-koto shitteru? 9 Kimi-no kazoku bokutachi-no-koto shitteru? a

I told my family about you.

Kazoku-ni anata-no-koto hanashita. 9 Kazoku-ni kimi-no-koto hanashita. a

Do you think we should see each other again?

Atashitachi mata atta-hoga ii-to omou? 9 Bokutachi mata atta-hoga ii-to omou? a

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Tell me what you think.

Anata-wa do omou-ka oshiete. 9 Kimi-wa do omou-ka ashiete. a

Make it clear.

Hakkiri-sasete. a 9

Please don't go.

Ikanaide.

You don't know.

Anata-wa shiranai-noyo.

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9 Kimi-wa shiranain-da. a We've known each other now for three months.

Atashitachi shiriatte-kara san-kagetsu-ni naru. 9 Bokutachi shiriatte-kara san-kagetsu-ni naru. a

Are you an only child?

Anata hitorikko?' 9 Kimi nnoti-musume?:

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Are you the oldest?

Anata ichiban ue?" 9 Kimi ichiban ue?' a

Are you going to support and provide for your parents in their old age?

RyBshin-no rogo-no mendo miru-no?' a 9

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aging parents, supporting and caring for them.

We can make it work.

Donika naru-wayo. 9 Donika naru-yo. a 9

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I want to know what you' re feeling .

Ana ta-ga do omotteru-ka

It'll all change.

Subete kawaru-wayo. 9 Subete kawaru-yo. o 9

I can' t think of anything but you.

Anata-no-koto igai-wa kangaerarenai. 9 Kimi-no-koto igai-wa kangaerarenai. o

I can 't live without your love.

Anata-no ai-nashi-ja ikirarenai. 9 Kimi-no ai-nashi-ja ikirarenai, a

Say you'll be mine.

Atashi-no mono-ni naruto itte. 9 Boku-no mono-ni naru-to itte. o

I'll make you happy.

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-Girts might think this is a proposal.

I've never felt this way before .

Konna kimochi-ni nattakoto-nai. cr 9

We had fun together , didn't we?

Tanoshikatta-ne? 9 Tanoshika tta-nii.? o

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Do you remember our first date?

Hajimete-no dato oboeteru? CT Q

Look into my eyes.

Atashi-no me-o mite. Q Boku-no me-o mite. CT

Stay just a little bit longer.

M6 chotto-dake issho-ni ite. CT Q

I couldn't have done it without you.

Anata-nashi-ja dekinakatta. Q Kimi-nashi-ja dekinakatta. CT

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Do Japanese couples go "parking"?

Nihon-no kappuru-wa ka-sekkusu-suru-no?' 09

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No. There aren't any good parking places.

Uun, ii chOsha-basho-ga nai. a 9

Where do they go?

Minna doko-ni iku-no? 09

Let' s find a good place.

Ii basho-o sagasa. a 9

How do you know of such a place?

Sonna basho nande shitteru-no? a 9

People can see us here.

Koko-ja hito-ni miechauyo. a 9

That'll make it more exciting.

Shigeki-teki-yo. 9 Shigeki-teki-dayo. a

Let's get in the back seat.

Bakku shito-ni suwara.

Let's recline the front seats.

Furonto srato-o raose, 0 9

Take your shoes off.

Kutsu-o nugi-nayo. a

Relax.

Rirakkusu-shite. a 9

Enjoy yourself.

Enjoi-shite. a 9

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Kutsu-o nuide." 0 9 Buraja-o hazushite. '2 09 Shitagi-o totte. '3 0 9 Yi5fuku-o nuide. '. 0 9

"1 . shoes 2. bra 3. underwear 4. clothes

I'm cold.

Samui. 09

Make me warm.

Atatamete.

Doesn't that feel better?

Sono-hi5-ga kimochi yokunai? CJ' 9

Do it like this.

Konna-fii-ni shite. 0 9

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That's right.

SCrdane. 09 SO-dana. 0 Mane.· 0 9

-Mane is often used to mean "I know." If said teasingly, it means "Yeah, I know (but I might not tell you)." Mane is also used in the jokingly conceited response "Yeah, I know. Don't mention it."

Let' s use the blanket.

Motu-o tsukao.

The blanket's dirty.

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Ima shiyo. 0 9 Kekkon-suru·made machifai. 0 9 Setsumei-shite. 0 9 Naze-ka shiritai. 0 9 Hayasugiru. 0 9 Hajimete-no toki-wa tokubetsu-ja nakucha. 09 Motto romanchikku-ja nakutcha. · 0 9 Kondo tameshite. 0 9 Kondo-tte nan-dayo? 0 Kondo-tte nani-yo ? 9 Ima-ka mo shinai-ka! 09

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Girl : OK , let's go. Boy: Are you sure? Girl : Hurry, or I'll change my mind.

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Wakatta, iki'J . cr 9 Honto-ni it-no? o 9 Hayaku-shinakya ki-ga kawatchau. 9 Hayaku-shinakya ki-ga kawaru. o OOka shite-no?" o 9 OO-shita-no?" o 9 Nanka atta-no?" o 9 Do-shitan-dayo? o

Girl: What' s wrong?

'These should be voiced with some concern.

Kore-ga hajimete-nanda.

Boy: This is my first time.

o Kore-ga hajimete-nano.

9 D6-shitara ii-ka wakannai.

Boy: I don't know what to do. Girl: Why not? Boy: I haven't read Chapter 3 yel.

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Konya-wa atashi-to ssroni ite. 9 Konya-wa boku-to issboni ita. Cf

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Chotto kiite-aishiteru.

love you.

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Chotto kiite- aishiteru-yo. <7

Anata-ga nani kangaeteru-ka shitteru.

I know what's on your mind .

9 Kimi-ga nani kangaeteruka shitteru-yo. <7 No, you don't.

Shiruwakenai-deshO. 9 Shiruwakenai-daro. <7

You're thinking dirty thoughts.

Anata-wa yarashii-koto kangaeteru. 9 Kimi-wa yarashii-koto kangaeteru. <7

So are you.

Anata-mo. 9 Kimi·mo. C1

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SO-yO kangae suki. Jibun-datte.· C1 9

I like that kind of thinking.

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You're the only one I love.

Anata-dake-o aishiteru.

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I don't love anyone else.

Hoka-no dare-mo aishitenai. C1 9

I love you so much I could die.

Shinu-hodo aishiteru.

I love you for who you are.

Anata-rashisa-o eishiteruno. 9 Kimi-rashisa-o aishiterunda. C1

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Now is the right time.

Ima-ga sono-toki-yo. 9 Ima-ga sono-tosi-de. a

It hurts to be without you .

Anata-nashi-da to tsurai.

9 Kimi-nashi-da to tsurai.

a Hold me tight.

Shikkari dakishimete. 9 Tsuyoku dakishimete.

0'9 See me tonig ht.

Konya alte. a 9

I don't want to be used.

Asobaretakunai.· a 9

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Believe in me. (Trust me.)

Atashi-o shinjite. 9 Boku-o shinjite. a

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I want to know all about you .

Anata-no-koto subete shiritai. 9 Kimi-no-koto subete shiritai. cr

You're so very precious.

Anata-wa tottemo taisetsu.· 9 Kimi-wa tottemo taise-

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I want to make love to you.

Anata-to beddo-in shitai."

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I don't want to go home tonight.

Konya-wa uchi-ni kaeritakunai.· 9

"Popular phrase. If she says this, pat yourself on the back.

Do you want to come to my place?

Uchi-ni kuru? o 9

Take me tonight.

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"Literally means "Make me yours tonight. "

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It's too early (to go to bed).

Mada hayai. a 9

Young Japanese people usually live with their parents right up to their wedding day. With small houses and paper-thin walls, the living arrangements are not conducive to good sex. Owning a car provides little escape , for there are few pleasant, obscure places to park short of driving two or three hours to the countryside. So, where do the non-farmers go for a roll in the hay? Better yet, where can you go? Have you heard of a love hotel? No? Come along with us on a trip to a love hotel and we 'll show you firsthand this great Japanese institution. Shall we hail a taxi or drive our car? A car is no problem , for most love hotels have parking facilities that are both free and concealed for those extracareful people. One would think that the free parking alone would make the love hotel a popular attraction for it exists nowhere else in Japan. Anyway, identifying a love hotel is not so difficult, for most of them are located near big train stations (four tracks or more), in entertainment districts, and along major highways. They are usually well lit with colorful Japanese characters or katakana in neon, or just a sign saying "Hotel, " with some twinkling stars floating around it. If there are

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no obvious markings, look for big , big objects on the roof. A 3D-foot mock Statue of Liberty or Queen Elizabeth (the ship, not the monarch) on top of a building that has no other visible advertisements or signs is a dead giveaway. Also, the absence of a doorman and furnished lobby with a front desk should scream love hotel. As we enter the love hotel we see a big display board with pictures of the rooms. Some of the pictures are lighted and some are not; the lighted pictures indicate rooms that are still available. There are many to choose from, all with different themes: hot air balloon, S & M, boxing, and even a race-car room . Let' s check out the boxing-ring room. Below the picture is a button which causes the room key to drop out when

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We're back in the lobby again, standing before the pay window. Actually it's not a window but a slit for passing money through. The service at a love hotel is very discreet; you don't see them and they don't see you . ID's aren't even checked . There's a rule of thumb: If you're old enough to pay, you're old enough to play.

Come closer to me.

Motto chikaku-ni aide-yo.

a9 I'm so glad I waited.

Matte-ite yokatta. a 9

Your hair smells good.

Anata-no kaminoke ii nioi. 9 Kimi-no kaminoke ii nioi.

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Nanna k6sui/koron tsuketeru-no? a 9

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I like your underwear.

Sono shftagi ka waii-ne. " <;>

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Sono shitagi suteki-ne. • <;>

Sono shftagi su tekldana.' 0' •Kawai; means "cute" and sutek; means "nice" or "pretty,"

That tickl es.

Kusuguttai. 0' <;> Kusuguttai-yo. 0'

You have beautiful skin.

Kirei-na had a-cfane . 0'

I found your birthmark.

Hokura-o mitsuketa. 0' <;>

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Hinin-suru-no wasurechatta.

I forgot to use protection .

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When was your first experience?

Shotaiken itsu?' a 9

Where was your first ex-

Shotaiken-wa doko-dattano?: o 9

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I won't tell you.

Oshienai.

Do you like to make love in the shower?

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Asa sekkusu-sutu-no

Just joking.

J6dan-dayo.

1 made love.

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I made love to a girl.

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chikubi

buttocks

hippu " oshiri (J' ketsu C1

(J' "

"

hip

koshi

waist

uesto

nape of the neck

kubisuji

bellybutton

oheso

ear lobe

mimitabu

down there

asoko '

(J' "

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•Asoko usually means "over there" but in this sense it means the "private parts."

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NOTE: The Japanese believe a high and big nose on a boy in-

dicates he is well endowed, and a small mouth and skinny ankles on a girl indicate she is tightly endowed.

Bite my shoulders.

Kata-o kande. CI

9

NOTE: Japanese boys worry about their virginity and the first time they make love. Normally, Japanese girls will be passive for the first love session so as not to act like experienced lovers.

Sixty-nine.

Shikkusu-nain. · CI 9

'n's "six-nine" in Japanese, not "sixty-nine."

I like to "sixty-nine."

Shikkusu-nain suki. CI 9

Let's do "sixty-nine."

Shikkusu-nain-de shiy6 .

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Show me your erogenous areas.

Doko-ga kanjiru-ka oshiete. CI 9


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I like to try different styles.

.

You think of a new po-

sition.

Chigau sutairu-o tameshitai. Cf 9 Atarashii ka kk6 -0 kangaete. Cf 9

I'm tired of that one.

Are-niwa akita.

That' s original.

Sore-wa orijinaru.

That sounds exciting .

Wakuwaku-shichau. "

0' 9 0'

9

0'9

Wakuwaku-suru. ·

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9

Wakuwaku-shichaulsuru can be used in nonsexual contexts such as "That party sounds exciting. " *

Let' s do it again.

M6 ikkai shiy6.

girl bottomiboy top

selj6i·

boy bottom/g irl top

klj6i'

doggy style

bakku '

0' 0'

0'

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*SeijOi literally means "normal"; kijo; means "to ride"; and bak· ku means, well . you know. To make a sentence meaning something like "Let' s do it doggy style," one would say Bakkude shiyo; for "Let's have the gi rl ride the hobby horse," one would say Kijoi-de shiyo; and for "Let's be missionaries," one would say Seijoi-de shiyo. .

FICIJIIMG Aishiteru-tle itla-yone?

You told me that you love me, didn't you?

Cl Q

Aishiteru-tle itla-dar6?

CI

Are you telling me you don't love me anymore?

Atashi-o m6 aishitenai-tle itleru-no? Q Boku-o m6 aishitenai-tle itteru-no? C1

You lied to me.

Usotsuita-ne. Q Usotsuita-na. CI

You lie to me all the time.

ltsumo uso-bekketi-tsuku.

Stop lying to me.

Usotsuku-no yamete.

It was stupid of me to trust you.

Aoara-o shinjiru-nante baka-datla. Q Kimi-o shinjiru·nante baka-datla. CI

I can 't tru st you anymore.

Anata-no-koto m6 shinjirarenai. Q Kimi-no-koto m6 shin.. . Jlrarenal. Cf

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IN JAPANESE

Everything you've said is a lie.

Anata-ga itta-koto minna uso-da. <;> Kimi-ga itta-koto minna

usc-de. I knew it wouldn 't work.

(J'

Dame-dato wakatteta-wa . <;>

Dame-dato wakatteta-yo. (J'

You've changed, haven't you?

Anata-wa kawatta-ne? <;> Kimi-wa kawatta-nii? CI

You messed up my life.

Atashi-no jinsei-o dame-ni shita. <;> Boku-no jinsei-o dame-ni shita. (J'

'1• '"" I

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Don't hurt me anymore.

Ma kizutsukenaide. C7 9

Let's not tie each other up.

Otagai-ni shibaru-nowa yameya.· C7 9

"As in "Let's see other people."

You 're the one who said, " Let's stop seeing each other."

Anata-ga ma au-nowa yosa-lle me-rove. 9 Kimi-ga ma au-nowa yosa-lle ittan-dayo. C7

Let's not get serious

Ima shinken-ni narunowa yosa.· C7 9

now.

"The use of "let's" here is very Japanese, for it invites the other party into the decision-making process. Most Japanese are indirect in their speech. Directly stating one's wishes will halve the normal runaround encountered when talking to Japanese.

I don 't want to get

senous. I don't even want to think about it.

Shinken-ni naritakunai.

C79 Kangae-taku-mo nai.

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9

What does that mean?

06-iO imi?

Wipe your tears away.

Namida-o tuite.

You take me for granted.

Atashi-o riy6-shiterunone. 9 Boku-o riy6-shiterun-da.

0'

0'

9

0'

You 're so selfish!

Anata-wa totemo wagamama! 9 Kimi-wa totemo wagamamal 0'

Who am I to you?

Atashi-wa anata-ni-totte nan-nano? 9 Boku-wa kimi-ni-totte nan-nano? o

Who do you think I am?

Atashi-o nanda-to omotteru-no? 9 Boku-o nanda-to omotterun-da? 0'

I wasn't born yesterday.

Atashi-wa baka-ja naindakara.· 9 Boku-wa baka-ja naindakara.· 0'

*Literally means "I'm not a fool."

I don't belong here.

Atashi-wa koko-ni awanai. 9 Boku-wa koko-ni awanai. 0'

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9

Do you know what you're doing?

Do-iO tsumori?

Don 't tell me what to do.

Meirei-shinaide. *

I don't tell you what to do.

Atashi-wa meirei-shinaidesha. * 9 Boku-wa meirei-shinaidara." Cf

CJ'

CJ'

9

.. Meirei-suru means "to order" and it can be used for anything similar to "Don't order me to ... "

I'll do whatever I want.

Atashi-wa atashi-no suki-

na·yo·ni suru. 9 Boku·wa boku-no sukina-yo-nl suru. C1 Don't try to change me.

Atashi-o kaeyo-to-

shinaide. 9 Boku-o kaeyo-to shinaide. CJ'

72 . MO RE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE I can't be what you want me to be.

Anata-ga omotteru-yo-ne onna-niwa narenai. Q Kimi-ga omotteru-yo-na otoko-niwa narenai. o

Let me be me.

Atashi-no mama-de irasete. 9 Boku-no mama-de irasete. cr

Leave me alone.

Hottoite.

What are you doing?

Nani shiten-no?

C/

9

What the hell are you doing?

Nani yatten-no?

C/

9

Don't you have something to do?

Hoka-ni sutu-koto-nei-no?

Stop following me around.

Okkakemawasu-nawa yamete. C/ 9

Stap checking up on me.

Atashi-no-koto shiraberunawa yamete. 9 Baku-no-koto shiraberunawa yamete. CJ

Stop troubling me.

Kamarasenaide. CJ 9

I didn't mean to.

Sanna tsumori-ja nakatta. CJ9

C/ 9

C/9

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Don't embarrass me ,

73

Hazukashii-omoi sasenaide. 0' 9 Hazukashii-omoi saseruna. CI

Don 't disappoint me (again).

(Mo) gakkari-sasenaide. 0'9

(Mo) gakkari-saseruna. 0'

I'm disappointed in you.

Anata-niwa gakkari-shita.

9 Kimi-niwa gakkari-shita. 0'

So, what do you want me to say?

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Atashi-ni nante itte hoshii-no? 9 Boku-ni nante itte hoshiin-da? 0'

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Don't pretend nothing happened.

Nani-mo nakatta-yo-na luri-shinaide. '{ Nem-mo nakatta-yo-na

tun-surune.

CI

How can you act like that (to me)?

D6-shite sonna taido-o suru-no? '{ D6-shite sonna taido-o surun-da? o

You made me do it.

Anata-ga atashi-o s6 saseta-no. '{ Kimi-ga boku-o s6 sasetan-da. o

How many girls have you made cry?

Nannin-no onna-no-ko-o nakasetano? '{

How many boys have you made cry?

Nannin-no otoko-o nakasetan-da? o

Think about the way you treated me!

Anata-ga atashi-o donna-

Are you playing around with me?

Atashi-no-koto asobinano? '{ Boku-no-koto asobinano? cr

IO-ni atsukatta-ka kangaete mite-yo! '{ Kimi-ga boku-o donnaID-ni atsukatta-ka kangaete miro! o

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It was just a game.

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Tada-no gemu-datta-no.

"

Tada-no gemu-datta. a Stop playing these games.

Gomakasu-nowa yamete.·

a"

"Ihis means something like "Stop trying to hide the truth," "Don't change the subject," and "Stop acting like nothing hap. pened" all rolled into one.

Grow up!

Dtona-ni natte! " Dtona-ni nare! a

Don't act like a child.

Kodomo-mitai-na-koto shinaide. Kodomo-mitai-na-koto

a"

$uruna.

0'

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Toshi-soo-ni furumatte. 9 Toshi-soo-ni furumae-yo.

a Don't get too big for your britches.

JiJ-nen hayai.· a 9

*Literally means "Ten years early."

Stop nagging.

Gocha-gocha iwanaide.•

9 Gocha-gocha iuna.· a • After the first love session, some Japanese girls will become very possessive. They'll want to know what you 're doing at all times. Although they were once shy, they'll now act like your wife-even in public. The following phrases might be needed.

We went to bed only once .

Ikkai neta-dake-deshO. 9 Ikkai neta-dake-daro. a

Don 't act like my wife!

Nyobo-kidori-suruna! a

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Don't act like my husband!

Teishu-zura shinaide! 9

Don't act like I'm yours.

Wagamono-gao shinaide.

09 Wagamono-gao suruna.

o I'm mad .

Atama-kichau. 9 Atama-kita. 0' Mukatsuita. 0' 9 Mukatsuku. 0' 9

Don 't make me mad.

Okorasenaide. 9 Okoraseruna. 0'

You should n't have done that .

Sonna-koto shinakya yokatta-noni. 0' 9

How dare you!

Nande sonna-koto dekiru-no! 9 Nande sonna-koto dekirun-da! 0'

I'm leaving!

M6 iku! 0' 9 M6 iku-ya! 0'

Let me speak frankly.

Sh6jiki-ni iwasete.

Do you want me to tell you the truth?

Hanto-na-kota itte hashii?

09

0'

9

78 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE What you say isn't important.

Anata-ga iu-koto-wa juyo-ja naino. '( Kimi-ga iu-koto-wa juyo-ja nainda. a

Don't make excuses.

fiwake-shinaide. a '( fiwake-suruna. a

Don't trick me.

Damasanaide. a '(

I'm tired of you.

Anata-niwa akita. '( Kimi-niwa akita. a

Are you tired of me?

Atashi-ni akita-no? '( Boku-ni akita-no? a

I'm tired of looking at you.

Anata-o mi-akita. '( Kimi-o mi-akita. a

Go look in the mirror!

Kagami mite denaosebal" '( Kagami mite denaoshina!*

Cf

•An English equivalent might be "Look at yourself in the mirror and come back again because you are ugly!"

I've had it!

Mo tekusen! : a '(

" For extra emphasis stop abruptly on the "n. "

I need excitement, not restriction.

Shigeki-ga hoshii-no, shibararerun-ja nakutte. '(

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Shigeki-ga hoshiin-da, shibararerun-ja nakutte. 0 You don't excite me anymore.

Anata-to-dewa shigekiteki-ja tiel-no. 9 Kimi-to-dewa shigeki-tekija nain-da. 0

You aren't any good in

Anata-wa beddo-de yokunai. 9 Kimi-wa beddo-de yokunai. 0

bed .

You' re the one!

Jibun-deshi)l" 09 Jibun-dar61" 0

- Implying "on the co ntrary." For example:

Who farted?

Dare-ga onara-shita?

09 You did.

Anata/(name) -ga shita. 9 . Kimi/(name) -ga shite. 0

80 . MORE MAKING OUT IN JAPANESE Wrong !

Chigau-yo! a Q

You're the one!

Jibun-desh6! a Q Jibun-dara! a

That' s not right!

Chigau-mon! Q Chigau-wayo! Q Chigau-yo! a Q

You mean nothing to me.

Anata-wa atashi-ni-totte nan-no itni-mo nei. Q Kimi-wa boku-ni-totte nan·no imi-mo nai. a

I'm glad we broke up.

Wakarete yokkatta. a Q

It seems like you're • uSing me.

Atashi-no-koto riya shiteru. Q Boku-no-koto riya shiteru. a (r

'0

))

(1)009I(

-

~

=

-

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Pack your stuff and hit the road!

Nimotsu-o matomete dete-iIIe! 9 Nimotsu-o matomete dete-ike-yo! C1

Give me back the apartmenUcar key.

Apato/kuruma -no kii-o kaeshite. C1 9

Give me back all the presents I gave to you.

Atashi-ga ageta purezento minna kaeshite.

9 Boku-ga ageta purezento minna kaeshite. C1 I've already thrown them away.

M6 sutechatta.

Why did you do such a thing?

Nande sonna-koto shitano? 9 Nande sonna-koto shitandayo? C1

C1

9

82 .


I wanted to forget you.

Anata-no-koto wasuretakatta. 9 Kimi-no-koto wasuretakat-

tao a Don't do such a thing.

Sonna-koto shinaide.

a9 Let's talk about this later.

Sono-koto-wa etc-de hanaso. a 9

Let' s change the subject.

Wadai-o kaeyo. a 9

Don 't change the subject.

Wadai-o kaenaide. 9 Wadai-o kaeruna. a

(You' re such a) wo rrier.

Shimpai-chan. a 9

(You' re such a) crybaby.

Nakimushi-chan. a 9

I'm not your toy.

Atashi-wa anata-no omocha-ja nai. 9 Boku-wa kimi-no omocha-ja nai. a

Don't think that I'm only yours.

Atashi-ga anata-dake-no mono-datte omowanaide. 9 Boku-ga kimi-dake-no mono-datte omounayo. a

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I don't belong to you .

Atashi-wa anata-no mono-ja nai. 9 Boku-wa kimi-no mono-ja

net. Now I'll feel better (because we broke up).

83

C1

Kore-de seisei-shita. " 0'9

.. Literally means "Now I'll feel better because of what happened." The "what" can be anything.

You said bad things about me.

Atashi-no waruguchi-o itta. 9 Boku-no waruguchi-o itta. 0'

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IN JAPANESE

How can you talk to me like that?

Di5-shite sonne-tu-n:

hsnssetu-no? 9 Di5-shite sonne-tct» hanaserun-dayo? CI

You talk down to me .

Anata -wa eteshi-o mikudashite hanasu.

9 Kimi-wa boku-o mikudashite hanasu. CI

You talk to me like I'm a fool.

Anata-wa etestil-o bakani-shite hanasu. 9 Kimi-wa boku-o baka-nishite hanasu. CI

Who cares?

Dare-ga sonne-koto ki-n! suns-novo? 9 Dare-ga sonne-koto ki-n! surun-dayo? CI

I hate you!

Anata-nanka kirai! 9 Omae-nanka kirai-dayo! CI

I can find someone better than you.

Anata-yori ii bito-qe sagaseru. 9 Kimi-yori ii ko-ga sagaseru. CI

Do it!

Sure-bet Shiro-yo!

CI CI

9

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85

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Who would want you?

Dare-ga anata-nanka hoshii-noyo? '( Dare-ga kimi-nanka hoshii-monka? a

I'm leaving.

M6 iku.

Don 't make me laugh.

Warawasenaide. a '(

You're not the only girl in this world .

Kimi-dake-ga onna-ja nai.

You're not the only boy in this world.

Anata-dake-ga otoko-ja nai. '(

You can't find anyone better than me.

Atashi-ij6-no-ko-wa sagasenai-wayo. '( Boku-ij6-no-yatsu-wa sagasenai-yo. a

I can see whomever I want.

Atashi-wa atashi-ga aitai hito-ni au-wa. '( Boku-wa boku-ga aitai hito-ni au-yo. a

a '(

a


IN JAPANESE

Go find yourself a new boyfriend/girlfriend .

Atarashii giiru-furendo-o sagashite. 9 Atarashii bOi-furendo-o sagase-yo. a

I've cheated on you.

Anata-o damashiteta-no.

9 Kimi-o damashitetan-da.

a I don't want to believe that.

Shinjitakunai. a 9

Cheater!fTwo-timer!

Uwaki-mono!' a 9

"Literally means "Floating mind."

I have another boyfriend/girlfriend .

Atashi-wa hoka-ni bOifurendo-ga iru. 9 Boku-wa hoka-ni giirufurendo-ga iru. a

I've tried to teil you many times, but I couldn't.

Nando-mo io-to shitakedo. a 9

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,

'.•

• •

•

•

I know you're seeing another person.

Futamata kaketeru·no shitteru-wa. " Futamata kaketeru-no shitteru-yo. o

I know how you look at

Anata-ga donna-IO-ni hoka-no-ko-o miteru-ka shitteru-wa. "

other girls.

I know how you look at other boys.

Kimi-ga donna-IO-ni hoka-no-otoko-o miteru-ka shitteru-yo.

o I love someone else.

Hoka-ni suki-na hito-ga iru-no. " Hoka-ni suki-na hito-ga irun-da. Cf

I saw you with another

Kimi-ga hoka-no-otoko-to iru-no-o mita. C1

boy.

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I ...... ;'•...

I saw you with another girl.

Anata-ga hoka-no-ko-to

What kind of a girl is she?

Ano-ko dare?

What kind of a boy is he?

Ano hito dare?

I won't forgive you .

Anata-no-koto yurusanai.

itu-no-o

mita. Q C1

Q

C1

Q

Q

Kimi·no-koto yurusanai. C1

You' d better believe that.

Shinjita-h6-ga ii-yo.

Be nice to your new sweetheart.

Atarashii koibito-ni yasashiku-ne. Q Atarashii koibito-ni yasashiku-na. C1

C1

Q

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Don't make her/him sad.

Kanojo/Kare -0 kanashimase-naide. 0 9

I believed in you, yet you tricked me.

Anata-o shinjiteta-noni damashita . 9 Kimi-o shinjiteta-noni damashita . 0

Let me explain.

Setsumei-sasete.

Please listen to me.

D6ka kiite.

Choose: him or me.

Boku-ka kere-ke erande.

0

9

0

9

o Choose: her or me.

Atashi-ka kanojo-ka erande. 9

Have you already decided which one?

Dotchi-ni suru-ke kimeta? 0 9 '

Don 't make prom ises you can't keep.

Mamorenai yakusoku-wa shinaide. 0 9

I can't stand it.

Gaman-dekinai.

It happens all the time.

itsumo so-neno. 9

0

9

ftsumo s6-nanda. 0 You forget everything.

Anata-wa nandemo wasurechau. 9 Kimi-wa nandemo wasureru. Cf

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Have you forgotten so soon?

Sonna-ni hayaku wasurechatta-no? '( Sonna-ni ha yaku wasureta-no? 0'

You forgot my birthday.

Anata-wa atashi-no tanj6bi was ureta. '( Kimi-wa boku-no tanj6bi wasureta. 0'

You forgot our anniversary.

Anata-wa atashita chi-no kinenbi wasureta. '( Kimi-wa bokutachi-no kinenbi wasureta. 0'

You never came over.

Anata-wa konakatta. '( Kimi-wa konakatta. 0'

You left me at

Anata-wa atashi-o _ __-ni oitetta. '( Kim~wa boku-o -nt oitetta. 0'

_

You left me (stranded) .

Anata-wa atashi-o oitetta. '(

Kimi-wa boku-o oitetta. 0'

You left without telling me.

Nani-mo iwanaide itchatta. 0' '(

What a coincidence seeing you here.

Konna tokoro-de au-nante. 0' '(

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I was just about to call you.

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Anata·ni denwe-sututokoro-dstte , '( Kimi-n; denwe-suru-

tosoto-deue. I tried to call yOU.

Cf

Anata·ni denwa·shita· noyo. '( Kiml-nl oenwe-snnen-

dayo. Why didn't you call me?

Cf

Nande aenwekurenakatta·no?

Cf '(

I was busy.

Isogashikatta.

I didn 't have ten yen.

JD·en·ga nakatta. o '(

Cf '(

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I warted all night for your call.

Hitoban-jfJ denwa-o matteta. 0' 9

You never called.

Denwa-o kurenakatta. rY9

Where were you?

Doko-ni ita-no? o 9

That' s a secret!

Himitsu-yo! 9 Himitsu-dayo!

0'

I don't play around.

Atashi-wa asobanai. 9 Boku-wa asobanai. o

1 was busy playing around.

Asobimakutteta. o 9

Don 't do that again.

M6 sonna-koto shinaide. rY9

I'll forget about it.

M6 sono-koto-we wasureru-wa. 9 M6 sono-koto-wa

wssuretu-yo.

Cf

I'm not mad anymore.

M6 okottenai-wa. 9 M6 okottenai-yo. o

Are you still mad?

Mada okotteru? o 9

You're still mad, aren't you?

Mada okotteru-desh6? 9 Mada okotteru-dar6? o

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I think I was wrong .

93

Atashi-ga machigatteta-to omou. 9 Boku-ga machigatteta-to

omou.

Cf

I shouldn 't have done that.

S6 shinakya yokatta. 9 S6 surun-j a nakatta. a 9

I d o n't know why I did that.

D6-shite s6 shita-noka wakannai. a 9

I think I was too excited .

K6fun-shisugiteta.

I think I was too nervous.

Ira-ira-shiteta .

I was out ot my mind.

Ki-ga chiga tte ta.

It was silly of me (to do that).

Atashi-ga baka-datta. 9 Boku-ga baka-datta. a

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You have so much more than they do.

Anata-wa minna-ga mottenai mono-o motteru. 9 Kimi-wa minna-ga mottenai m ono-o motteru. 0'

If you change your mind,

Moshi

let me know.

k~ga

kawattara

oshiete. 0' 9

What changed your mind?

Nani-ga anata-no kangae-o kaeta-no? 9 Nani-ga kimi-no kangaeo kaeta-no? 0'

I didn't mean to hurt you.

Kizutsukeru tsumori-wa nakatta. 0' 9

I should've thought

Motto kangaereba yokat-

about it more.

ta.

0'

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I hurt your feelings, didn't I?

Ki-ni sawatta-desh6? 9 Ki-ni sawatta-daro? a

I know I hurt your feelings.

Anata-no-koto kizutsuketa-ne. 9 Kimi-no-koto kizutsuketana. 0'

I'll do anything to make you forgive me.

Yurushite-morau-tamenara nandemo suru-

wa. 9

Yurushite-morau-tamenara nandemo suns-yo. a

Anything?

Nandemo? a 9

I was blind to the truth.

Shinjitsu-ga mietenakatta.

a9 You should understand how I feel.

Atashi-ga donna omoidatta-ka wakatte-yo. 9 Boku-ga donna omoidatta-ka wakatte-kure. a

You didn't even listen to me.

Kiitekuresae-mo shinakat-

I didn't mean to.

Sonna tsumori-ja nakatta.

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a9 Let's get back together.

Nakanaori-shiyo. a 9

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Prom ise it will never happen agam.

Mo nido-to okoranai-tte yakusoku-shite. C1 9

I promise.

Yakusoku-suru.

I wish I hadn't done such a thing.

Anna-koto shinakereba yokatta. C1 9

Please take me back.

Yori-o modoshite.

I'm always doing silly things.

Atashi-tte itsumo bakana-koto suru-ne. 9 Boku-tte itsumo baka-nakoto suru-na. C1

I feel so lonely.

Samishii-no. 9 Samishiin-da. C1

I'm losing sleep.

Nemurenai-no. 9 Nemurenain-
You were the first and you'll be the last.

Anata-ga hajimete-
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saige-yo. 9

Kimi-ga hajimete-
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Whatever you want I'll give it to you.

Nandemo hoshii mono ageru. <:7 9

Come back to me.

Atashi-no-toko-ni madotte. 9 Boku-no-toko-nt madotte. <:7

I believe you still love me.

Mada aishitekureteru-tte shinji-teru. <:7 9

Don't throw away this chance.

Kono chansu nogasanaide. <:7 9

It might be your last.

Saigo-kamo shirenai. <:79

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Don't be sad.

Kanashimanaide. o 9

Cheer up.

Genki dashite. o 9

Don't worry; be happy.

Shinpai-shinaide, akarukushite. o 9

I can't give her/him up .

Kanojo/Kare -0 akiramerarenai.

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When do you want to get married?

Itsu kekkon-shitai?' a Q

At what age do you want to marry?

Nansai-de kekkonshitai? ' a Q

Are you going to work after you're married?

Kekkon-shita-ato hataraku tsumori?'

a Q Kekkon-suru junbi-wa dekiteru?' a Q

Do you think you're ready to get married?

'These are "beating around the bush" questions to ensure it's OK to ask the big question.

Are you Christian or Buddhist?

Kurisuchan soretomo Bukky6? a Q

Why all these questions about marriage?

Nande kekkon-no-koto bakkari kiku-no? a Q

Stop beating around the bush!

Gucha-gucha iwanaide!

Are you trying to propose to me?

PuropOzu-shiy6-to shiteru-no? a Q

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What's the question?

Nani-ga kikitai-no?

What' s the answer?

Kotae-wa? 09

What' s on your mind?

Neni-o kangaeteru-no? 09

Will you marry me?

Kekkon-shitekureru?

Will you use my last

Boku-no myi5ji-o tsukattekureru?" o

name?

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Shall we share the rest of our lives togethe r?

Nokoti-no jinsei-o issho-ni sugosanai?' 0 9

Will you make my mise soup for breakfast?

Chi5shoku-no mlso-shituo tsukuttekureru?' 0

Will you have my baby?

Boku-no kodomo-o undekureru?' 0

"The above phrases are "Will you marry me?" substitutes. Miso soup is made from soybean paste. It can be eaten at any meal but is an important item in a traditional Japanese breakfast.

I can't marry you.

Anata-to kekkon-dekinai.

9 Kimi-to kekkon-dekinai. o

I don't want to marry you.

Ana/a-to kekkonshitakunai. 9 Kiml-to kekkonshits kunel. 0

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I can't get married now.

Ima kekkon-dekinai. a 9

Why not?

Nande dame-nano?'

a9 "Go back to Chapter 4 to continue this conversation.

I have some good news to tell you.

Ii nyiisu arun-da. a 9

I can't tell you on the phone.

Denwa-ja ienai.

You're going to be a daddy!

Anal8.-wa papa-ni narunoyo! 9

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I'm pregnant.

Atashi ninshin shiteru·no.

9 Congratulations!

Omedet6! a 9

Are you sure?

Honto-ni? a 9

I haven't had my period yet.

Seiri-ga konai-no. 9

When was your last period?

Saigo-no seiri-wa itsu atta-no? a 9

When did you find that out?

Itsu sore-ga wakatta·no? a 9

Why didn't you tell me sooner?

Nande motto hayaku iwanaka tta-no? a 9

I've been wanting to tell you, but (I didn't).

litakatta-kedo . . . a 9

What month are you now?

Ima nankagetsu? a 9

When's the baby due?

Yoteibi-wa itsu? a 9

It' s going to change our lives.

Atashitachi-no jinsei-o kaeru.· 9 Bokutachi-no jinsei·o kaeru.· a

' Remove the tach; to say "It's going to change my life. "

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I wa nt a boy/girl.

Otoko-no-ko/Onna-no-koga hoshii. CI 9

It' s our destiny.

Kore-ga atashitach/-no unme/_ 9 Kore-ga bokutachi-no

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There's no better news than this.

Kore-/jB ii nyiisu-wa naiyo. CI 9

When will your stomach show?

Itsu-goro-kara onaka-ga medachi-hajimeru-no? Cl9

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Take good care of yourself.

Karada·ni yoku ki·o tsukete. C1

Start reading books about babies.

Akachan·ni·/suite·no bono yomi·hajime·nayo. C1

We should think of a name.

Namae-o kangaenakucha. C1 9

Maybe it was too early to take the test.

Tesuto-o ukeru-niwa hayasugirun-janai.

Take the test again.

MB ichido tesuto-o ukete.

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Are you sure it's mine?

HontB-ni boku-no-ko?

I won't answer that!

Kotaenai-wa! 9 Kotaenai-yo! C1

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I guess that our protection wasn't good enough .

Hinin-ga jDbun-ja nakattan-dane.

You said it was safe.

Hinin shiteru-tte itta-janai.

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I can't be held responsible.

Sekinin torenai.

Don't run away from your responsibility.

Sekinin-nogare shinaide.

Accept the responsibility.

Sekinin-o totte.

See you later.

Ato-de-ne. Ato-de-na.

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Don 't call me.

Denwa-shinaide.

I'll call you later.

Atashi-ga ato-de denwasuru. 9 Boku-ga ato-de denwa-

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It's a bad time.

Jiki·ga warui.

It's too early.

Hayasugiru.

It' s your fault.

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What will happen to us?

Atashitachi do narun-

desha? 9 Bokutachi do narundaro? 0' I want to keep the baby.

Akachan-o umitai.· 9

" Literally means "I want to deliver the baby."

It' s our baby.

Atashitachi-no akachanyo. 9 Bokutachi-no akachandayo. 0'

What do you think?

Do omou? 0' 9

Let' s have the operation.

Shujutsu-o shiyo. 0' 9

You're such a cold person!

Anata-tte hontb-n! tsumetai-none! 9 Kimi-tte honto-ni tsumetai-na! 0'

I can 't kill our baby.

Atashitachi-no akachan-o korosenai. 9 Bokutachi-no akachan-o korosenai. 0'

I can't do that.

Sonna-koto dekinai. 0' 9

We don 't have a ch oice.

Sonna-koto itterarenai. 0'9

We're not ready yet.

Mada hayai. 0' 9

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Let's raise the baby.

Akachan-o sooete-y». C19

I don 't need your help.

Anata-no tasuke-wa iranai. 9 Kimi-no tasuke-wa iranai. C1

You'll be sorry.

Kokai-suru-yo. C1 9

Please give it up this time.

Konkai-wa akiramete. C1 9

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We have to think about it carefully.

Yoku kangaenakucha.

I'll pay for it.

Atashi-ga harau. " Boku-ga harau. a

How much does it cost?

Ikura kakaru? a "

Do you have that much money?

Sore-dake okane motteru?

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I don't make enough money.

a" Sonna-ni okene-o kaseganai. a"

I'll make the money for it.

Okane-o tsukuru-wa. " Okane-o tsukuru-yo. a

I can get it.

Te-ni hairu-yo.

It's impossible to have a baby now.

Ima akachan-o motsunowa muri-yo. " Ima akachan-o motsunowa muri-dayo. a

What do we do now?

Do-suru?

I'm scared .

Kowai-wa. "

Will you go with me?

Atashi-to issho-ni ittekureru?' "

•As in "Will you accompany me?"

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Do you have to stay in the hospital overnight?

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Byoin-ni ippaku _ shinakucha ikenai-no? a'(

Is there anything I can do for you?

Nanika atashi-ni dekirukoto aru? '( Nanika boku-ni dekirukoto aru? a

We'll be able to have a baby another time .

Mata itsuka akachan-o moteru-yo. a '(

I wish it were a dream.

Yume-dattara yoka ttanoni. a '(

I don't know what to do.

Do-shitara ii-ka wakannai. a'(

It's up to you.

Anata-ni makaseru. '( Kimi-ni makaseru. a

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You decide.

Anata-ga kimete. 9 Kimi-ga kimete. a

Let me think it over.

MB ichido kangaesasete. a 9

Whatever you want to do will be fine with me .

Anata-ga shitai-yB-ni shite-ii-yo. 9 Kimi-ga shitai-yB-ni shiteII-yo. a

The ch ild is ours, not just

Akachan-wa atashi-dakeno mono-ja nai-yo. 9 Akachan-wa boku-dake. . no mono-js. nal-Yo. a

mine.

You knew it could happen, didn 't you?

KB-naru-kamo shirenai-tte wakattetan-deshB? 9 KB-naru-kamo shirenai-tte wakattetan-darB? a

Let's decide together.

Issho-ni kimeyB.

I should tell my parents.

RyBshin-ni iwanakucha. a9

I should call my parents.

RyBshin-ni denwashinakucha. a 9

What will your parents think?

Anata-no ryoshin dB omou-kana? 9 Kimi-no ryBshin dB omou-darB? a

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I already told my parents.

M6 ry6shin-ni itta. o '(

What did they say?

Nante itteta? cr '(

Were they mad?

Okotteta? o '(

Are your parents on our side?

Anata-no ry6shin atashitachi-no mikata? '(

Kimi-no ry6shin bokutachi-no mikata?

o Will your parents help us?

Anata-no ry6shin tasuketekureru-kana? '(

Kimi-no ry6shin tasuketekureru-kana?

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Let me meet your parents.

Anata-no ryoshin-ni awasete. <;> Kimi-no ry6shin-ni awasete. a

Introduce me to your family.

Anata-no kazoku-ni shOkai-shite. <;> Kimi-no kazoku-ni shOkaishile. a

Now is not a good time.

Ima -wa yokunai. a

Maybe I shouldn't meet your parents now.

Tabun ima anata-no ryashin-ni awanai-hOga ii. <;> Tabun ima kimi-no ryoshin-ni awanai-hOga ii. a

Now is as good a time as any.

Itsu-datte onaji-yo. <;> Itsu-datte onaji-dayo. a

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I'll meet your parents as soon as possible.

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Dekiru-dake hayaku anata-no ry6shin-ni au.

9 Dekiru-dake hayaku kimino ryOshin-ni au. C7 Do you think you r parents will accept our baby/marriage?

Anata-no ryOshin atashitachi·no akachanlkekkon -0 mitomete-kurerukana? 9 Kimi-no ryOshin bokutachi-no akachanl kekkon -0 mitomete· kureru-kana ? C7

We can live with my parents for a while.

Atashi-no ryOshin-to shibaraku issho-ni sumeru-wa. 9 Baku-no ryOshin-to

shibaraku issho-ni sumeru-yo. C7 How long is "a while" ?

Shibaraku-tte dono gurai? C7 9

What are you going to do about your job/school?

Shigoto/Gakk6 -0 d6-suru tsumori? C7 9

Are you going to quit work/school?

Shigoto/Gakk6 -0 yameru tsumori? C7 9

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I should get a better paying job.

Motto kyfJrya-no ii shigo/ero sagasanakucha. a 9

I'd better get a second job.

Arubai/o-o shi/a-M -ga ii-ne. 9 Arubaito-o shi/a-M-ga n-ne. C1

I don't want my wife to

Boku-no kanojo ' -niwa ha/arai/e hoshikunai.

work.

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We have to hurry to have the wedding.

Isoide kekkon-shiki-o agenakucha. a 9

Do you cook often?

Yoku ryi5ri-suru? a 9

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I'd like to try your home cooking.

Anata-no teryori-ga tabetai. 9 Kimi-no teryori-ga tabetai.

o What's your best d ish?

Tokui-ryori-wa nani? o 9

I want to try that.

Sore-o tabete-mitai. cr 9

Are your parents fat?

Anata-no ryOshin tuttoteru? 9 Kimi-no ryOshin tuttoteru?

o Don 't worry.

Shinpai-shinaide. o 9

I'm sure the neighbors will talk about us.

Kinjo-no-hitotachi atashitachi-no-koto hanasu-ne. 9 Kinjo-no-hitotachi bokutachi-no-koto hanasu-daro. o

Are you worried about what your neighbors might say?

Kinjo-no-hito-ga nante iuka ki-ni naru? o 9

Does your family care what they say?

Karera-ga iu-koto anatano kazoku ki·ni suru?

9 Karera-ga iu-koto kimi-no kazoku ki-ni suru? o

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Tell me what to do in front of your family.

Anata·no kazoku-no maede d6-shitara ii-ka oshiete. 9 Kimi-no kazoku-no maede d6-shitara ii-ka oshiete. (J'

NOTE: You shouldn't kiss or hug in front of a girl 's family unUt they know you really well. It's OK to hold hands though.

What should I talk about?

Nani-o hanaseba ii? 0' Q

What shall I bring?

Nani-o motte-ik6-ka? 0' 9

Tell me what to say.

Nanika iu-koto osblete. 0'9

Do you think your family will like me?

Anata-no kazoku atashino-koto ki-ni iftekureru·kana? Q Kimi-no kazoku boku-nokoto ki-ni itte-kurerukana? (J'

Does your father smoke?

Anata-no otasan tabako suu? 9 Kimi-no otbeen tabako suu? CF

Does your father drink?

Anata-no ot6san osaka nomu? 9 Kimi·no otasan osaka nomu? CI

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What's your father 's hobby/work?

OtBsan-no shumi/shigoto -wa nsni?" Cf 9

"Typical hobbies are: shagi, Japanese chess; tsufi, fishing; gorufu, golf; keiba, horse racing, which means "betting on horses"; and pachinko, a pinball-style game, actually more of an addiction than a hobby.

What's your father proud of?

Anata-no oti5san nani-o hokori-ni shiteru? 9 Kimi·no ot6san nani-o hokori-ni shiteru? o

Who will like me the most?

Dare-ga atashi-o ichiban ki-ni itte-kureru-kana?

9 Dare-ga boku-o ichiban ki-ni itte-kureru-kana?

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Who will oppose our marriage?

Dare-ga atashitachi-no kekkon hantai-surukana? <;> Dare-ga bokutachi-no kekkon hantai-surukana? C1

Who will support our marriage?

Dare-ga atashitachi-no kekkon oen shitekureru-kana? <;> Dare-ga bokutachi-no kekkon oenshitekureru-kana? C1

Is anyone on my sid e?

Dare-ka atashi-no mikata iru? <;> Dare-ka boku-no mikata itu? Cf

Maybe some other time.

rabun chigau-hi.

We can do it later.

Ato-de dekiru.

How much will the wedding cost?

Kekkon-shiki-no hiyo ikura kakaru? C1 <;>

How much will your parents pay?

Anata-no ryashin ikura dashite-kureru? <;> Kimi-no ryoshin ikura dashite-kureru? C1

We should begin preparIng now.

Ima-kara yoi-shita-hO-ga ii.

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Should we have a Japanese- or an Americanstyle wedding?

Amerika-shiki-to Nihonshiki-to dotchi-ni suru?

What' s the difference?

Nani-ga chigau-no? 0' 9

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and relatives take turns giving speeches and singing songs. In a modest wedding, the bride will wear the same wedding dress throughout the dinner party, but she might change her hairstyle. For a more elaborate wedding, the bride might change her clothes twice during the dinner party alone. The following factors determine the cost of the wedding: how many guests are invited (which will determine the number of presents that are to be given to the guests and the number of dinner settings), what is served for dinner, how many times the b ride changes clothes, and the location of the wedding hall. Incidentally, in Japan the wedding hall takes care of everything; you walk in single and leave married.

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You have a nice figure.

Sutairu-ga ii-ne. 9 Sutairu-ga ii-na. a

You're slim.

Yaseteru-ne. 9 Yaseteru-na. a Surimu-dane. 9 Surimu-dana. a

Did you lose weig ht?

Yaseta? a 9

Did you gain weight?

Futtota? a 9

Do you think I need to diet?

Daietto-shita-hi5-ga ii-to omou? a9

No, I like the way you

Uun, sono-mama-no anata-ga suki. 9 Uun, sana-marna-no kimi-ga suki. a

are now.

You need to be on a diet.

Daietto-shita-hi5-ga ii-yo. a9

You should stop smoking.

Tabaka yame-nayo. a 9

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Stop smoking.

Tabako yamete. a 9

Smoking is not good for your health.

Tabako-wa karada-ni yokunai. a 9

You need to exercise.

Ekisasaizu,shita-hOga iiyo. a 9

Do you exercise?

Ekisasaizu suru? a 9

Do you like to exercise?

Ekisasaizu suki? a 9

We can exercise together.

Ekisasaizu issho-ni dekiru-yo. a 9

What type of exercises do you do?

Donna ekisasaizu-suruno? a 9

I run three kilometers every day.

Mainichi san-kiro hashiru.

I go to the gym.

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I go to the pool.

Piiru-ni iku.

I like to swim.

Oyogu-noga suki.

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I'm a vegetarian.

Saishoku-shugi desu. C1<;>

Atashi bejitarian. <;> Boku bejitarian. C1 I don't eat fried food.

Agemono-wa tabenai. C1<;>

I can't live without McDonalds.

Makudonarudo nashi-ja ikirarenai. C1 <;>

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