HOW TO SEDUCE A WOMAN The Ultimate Manuscript of
The Art of Seduction for the True Gentleman
Table Of Contents Chapter One The Introduction You Are Born to Seduce Chapter Two Seduction Techniques The Innocent Young Man The Matured Person Chapter Three The Science and Art of Seduction Getting to Know A Woman's Profile Be Serious Mock Seduction Chapter Four The Ultimate Mistake Men Make With Women Chapter Five Flirting Tips Initiating The First Moves Chapter Six Making A First Impression That Lasts Chapter Seven How to Make A Woman Trust You Completely How to Create Trust Chapter Eight Seduction Tips Chapter Nine Conversation and Body Language Chapter Ten How to Satisfy Your Lady in Bed How to Get Your First Kiss Learning the Most Intoxicating Kiss of All Cunnilingus Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Bed The Ten Commandments of Great Lovemaking Chapter Eleven
Final Thoughts
Chapter One The Introduction How to seduce a woman presents an interesting challenge to many men while at the same time it is a daunting task to others especially of the inexperienced age groups. The term seduction itself is an arbitrary concept that carries with it varied and diverse connotations which are interpreted differently in different situations, different circumstances, and by different people. At times, the suggestion on how to seduce a woman may carry a sinister connotation of evil, deceit and trickery, a means to justify an end, a tool to satisfy the lust. Even then, the word evil, sinister, deceit and trickery themselves are vague terms when pitted against a background of the different motivating factors behind each act of seduction. It would then be best just to put judgments aside. There are many reasons why a man would want to seduce a woman. It is not as simple as wanting to be accepted in the company of women alone or to be very close, affectionate and perhaps intimate with the woman. If we care to look into the various reasons why a man would want to seduce the woman, we will be baffled by the variety and the complexity of those reasons themselves, let alone the different techniques employed in the pursuit of those objectives. To make a mountain out of a mole hill, we can exploit the issue and start talking with an air of authority and start laying out the ground rules of the science and art of seduction and then exaggerate it by engaging in discourses as if it is something magical and out of this world and as if there is only one gospel way of doing it right. Actually, any method devised that brings results is a correct method. As it is, many men will be frozen to death after reading volumes of materials and superficial guides on how to seduce a woman, available on the market. Because of the many things they have to remember; what to do and what not to do, they get lost in the maze of guidelines on how to seduce a woman. Add to this, claims of exceptional success made by these gurus frighten the novice even more and make them fearful of entering the mysterious jungle of the game of seduction. By saying this, I am not discounting the relevance of proper sound techniques of the art of seduction, scientifically designed from close observations of social phenomena; from observations of what are right and what are wrong, what works and what doesn’t. These guidelines are a valuable asset and would push success rates higher than usual. The fear here is in the over
reliance on set and dogmatic techniques that will stifle the human inborn ingenuity and creativity to exercise individual flair to assess and use individual discretion to try out and experiment with different styles of his own design. As I said, any method or technique of seduction that brings the desired results is a good technique. To give value added to those techniques and push the success rate even higher, scientific guidelines designed out of close observations of social phenomena and social interactions are a valuable asset. Using those guidelines, you are not prone to make many mistakes, especially gross blunders that would keep you staring at empty ceilings. While it is true that no one can determine and ensure a positive outcome each and every time he embarks on his mission to seduce a woman, we can surely influence those outcomes by being intelligent enough to design a plan of action towards the desired end. It goes without arguments that we can successfully cultivate thousands of hectares of rice fields using the traditional manual methods but using the plow and modern machinery would lighten the burden, cut time costs and lead to high productivity. Man have built The Great Wall of China using manual labor but surely we do not want to build modern skyscrapers using the same methods. Thus in this sophisticated world of ours where men and women have long buried the naive past, a new approach to seduction need to be designed and followed. We need the modern plow to work our fields and we need sophisticated machinery to build skyscrapers. We have to discard the old paradigms and replace them with new ones if we expect to register a commendable degree of success. Why do men really want to seduce a woman? Is it necessary or is just attracting them to you for casual conversations as a start to developing a lasting mutual relationship not enough? To answer this we have to understand the motives behind these seduction exercises. Broadly speaking, there are four main reasons why a man would want to seduce a woman. One is for short term relationships just for the fun of the company or to appreciate the charming woman at close quarters. Nowadays there are so many beautiful and captivating women around and many men feel just admiring their beauty and charm alone is not enough. They would like to get close to the woman and try their luck if by any chance they could develop a mutually interesting relationship with no strings attached. On a jovial note men would say that it would just be sheer waste for the many charming and irresistible women to move around unappreciated and not approached. We will not question the correctness of this observation. But as true and clear as the midday sun, there is an awareness that just as there are men out there who seek temporary relationship, there are also women who desire the same end. In an open society, this has become more of a rule than the exception.
Nowadays the game of seduction has taken a new turn. It is no more interpreted as something undesirable and ugly but has been accepted as a part of the changing ways of life; of changing social cultures and changing paradigms. Puritan principles have given way to quantum leaps in social thinking. Thus the concept of seduction itself has shed its manipulative cloak and now seen as a necessary move to win over a lady, even for the best of reasons. From another angle, we view the man’s ego as the motivating factor that drives him to design the seduction of the woman. A man feels good and macho if he succeeds in seducing a woman not for sexual intimacy or anything of the sort but just for the sake of seducing and the exhilarating euphoria of success. Sometimes the blending of motives of the man out to seduce and the woman who seeks seduction makes the process much easier. As stated earlier, it is not only the men who are busy trying to seduce the women; the women themselves are also busy planning strategies to seduce the men. When these two people from opposite ends happen to meet each other on the same social platform, their parallel motives blend and you will see the sparks. There is yet another motive for why man wants to seduce a woman. There are women who are over conscious of their charm and beauty and as a result become so cocky and arrogant that sometimes goes to the extent of insulting the would be suitor or admirer. This is another strong motivating factor that drives the man to seek reprisal and seduce the woman, more like in The Taming of the Shrew. This form of seduction often happens in traditional societies where traditional values are highly revered and an insult taken very seriously. The fourth main reason for seduction is to ensure a life long relationship leading to marriage. Irrespective of for whatever reason the seduction exercise is carried out, the strategies and tactics are almost identical, but for slight variations executed in different societies and different social circles.
You Are Born to Seduce Do not get confused or scared when it comes to seducing a woman because everyone of us is naturally endowed with the basic skills of the art of seduction. This is to ensure the propagation of the generations. The art and skills on how to seduce a woman is inborn in the blood of every man. All it needs now is a refinement of the strategies and tactics that may be employed in the attempt to seduce a woman, to suit the changing times and the changing social paradigms. Just remember, you already have what it takes to seduce a woman and all you need now is to upgrade and refine the techniques and add and sharpen the tools that you need to carry out the seduction exercise. We can provide you with a value-added knowledge on the subject and also some guidelines on how to refine the raw materials to make it more sophisticated and workable to improve your success rate with women.
Every man born knows how to go about seducing a woman when it comes to doing it for special reasons of their own. It is actually not the ignorance of the art of seduction that we are talking about but the different styles of seducing a woman. If you aim to be more successful with women, do not hesitate to learn the art and styles of seducing the woman. Keep on learning, and, to sharpen your skills, you can carry out mock seduction exercises. They would not cost much but whatever the outcome it should be interesting and fun. Since you have nothing at stake every time you carry out a mock seduction exercise, you can do it every time the opportunity surfaces and you feel perhaps you would just like to find out about the woman you find attractive, but at the same time you do not want to have a perpetual relationship with her. As you become familiar with the art of seduction, you will be at ease with women and when the woman you really like comes along, you will have no difficulty seducing her.
Chapter Two Seduction Techniques There is no one right and standard way of seducing a woman. However, it is not the method that counts; it is the result. For different reasons and under different circumstances man will resort to different ways of doing it. Some ways are sophisticated while some others seem to look crude. That is all to it. You may be surprised to know that a woman can be seduced by just making an appearance in front of them, move around and say nothing. How strange it may seem. Sometimes, it is not actually what you do or don’t do that attracts the attention of the woman towards you but the invisible vibrations you unconsciously send that blends with the vibrations of hers that influences her reactions towards you. Thus one simple way to seduce a woman is to appear in front of her, focus your attention on her and set your mind in motion that you want to possess her and want her to pay attention to you. Concentrate on these emotions and imagine that these feelings are being transmitted to her through invisible vibrations that will send the message to her. You can try this one and see what happens. Put the full force of your visualization and concentration into the exercise and don’t be surprised if it works like magic. If it doesn’t work, it simply means that the woman is not interested in you and therefore there is no point pursuing the matter. Look for another one. Try on a few women and one will click. Different strategies and tactics are employed for different reasons and under different circumstances. There are men who marry a woman to get hold of the family property and yet others do so for political leverage. Men who seduce the woman for economical or political leverage will employ a different strategy and tactics from the man who wants to take revenge on the woman for being arrogant and insulting. Then there are those bent on sincerely looking for a life partner. He will employ a different strategy and different tactics to achieve his objective. The degree of difficulty of executing the exercise of seducing a woman also ranges from very straight forward and simple to subtle and mysterious. We shall tread on grounds closely related to the employment of tactics to win over the woman for good and decent intentions. We will simply ignore the connotations of trickery and deceit because of the difficulty of defining the arbitrary concepts accurately.
The Innocent Young Man Let us examine the budding young man who has just passed the age of the gullible and innocent adolescent, and is entering the life of early manhood and suddenly realized that he needs to find someone to share his life. He is suddenly thrown into the arena of modern society where seducing a woman has become a sophisticated science and an art. This presents him with the most insurmountable task to overcome. I am hereby putting aside the parental pre arranged engagements and marriages out of this discussion although such circumstances too have their problems. For the young man who is too green to know how to seduce a woman, he would feel very uneasy with the thought. He will be at sixes and sevens when he comes into contact with the opposite sex especially the one that he has taken a great fancy to. Whether the woman he fancies is the right choice for him or whether the feeling is born out of true love for the woman or just an infatuation is immaterial. It is the idea that would bother him. It would be the more difficult for him if he has had frustrating social relationship experiences during his earlier days at college or high school. This stigma carries well into his adult life. Many young men simply do not have the self image and self esteem to give him enough confidence to encounter and engage the opposite sex; most dare not even attempt to take the first step to get introduced, let alone attempt to seduce the woman. When a person starts to take a fancy for the opposite sex, suddenly to him things get bigger than they usually are. At the same time he feels that he gets smaller and suddenly begins to shrink in self confidence. The more a person takes a fancy for the woman that he would like to win over, the more things get out of proportions every time the thought that he has to seduce the woman enters his mind or well before that itself. Almost every one in his life time experiences this strange and overwhelming feeling. It is actually the result of ‘over worshipping’ the woman coupled with the fear of failure to win her over that is the root of the paralyzing experiences. Sometimes it is the act of over fantasizing the impending relationships that freezes him in his tracks especially when suddenly he feels himself not good enough to fill in the slot of the hero of his own fantasy. This need not be so because there is always a science and an art on how to seduce a woman without having to feel overwhelmed with the task at hand. To seduce a woman, you must be confident and cool. You need to be an alpha man. You may start by sitting back, relaxed and take a realistic view of yourself. As a result of over rating the woman and sometimes even competitors, some men experience a low self esteem and this drives him into the back seat. If you suddenly feel that you are not worthy of the woman and there are others out there better than you, remember that is not the you that you are referring to.
You are worth more than you think you are. If you think that you can never succeed in seducing a woman, please confide in the fact that you have it already in you the basics to seduction and with the proper approach you can be just as successful as anyone else. Everyone has an equal chance of success once he is committed to seduce a woman. It takes planning, patience and perseverance. The first area to look into and establish is a strong self image and a powerful self esteem. This is the fertile ground to work on. An unrealistic low self image of yourself will guarantee failure even before you start. Don’t play second fiddle to anybody. Be the ideal man at par if not better than anyone else. Everyone is born special but the environment he is raised in and the negative scripts written by other people about him makes him feel he is most of the time inferior to others. You may be the unsuspecting victim of such social ills and have been living in the abyss of self under-assessment. If you feel you are not good enough to excel in life, the chances are that you have been wrongly programmed by others to feel that way. I have good news for you. You can change your programming. Cancel all feelings of inferiority and negativity and build a new and real you by rewriting your life’s script. Be open to the good things of life and face each new day with confidence. You will improve your self image and boost your self esteem. You will be a new man and your confidence with women will soar. Soon you will find that seducing a woman is nothing mysterious as has been made to be. It is just an extra step beyond just being a good friend or a passing acquaintance. At this stage you will be able to possess a realistic view of the business of seducing a woman and when the time comes for you to embark on seducing the woman of your dreams, you will be well prepared socially and mentally. This improve your chances of success. All you have to do now is to dig into the fine secrets of seduction, learn and master them well. Seducing a woman is really fun if you know how and are well prepared for the eventualities, either of success or failure. It would simply be another episode in your life that will bring sound and color to an otherwise dull and boring days. For a good start, rewrite your own life’s script, ensuring you have the role of the hero or the main character. Improve your self image and go out into the world with confidence. At the same time read carefully the guidelines I am giving you in this book and you will be ready and equipped to seduce any woman of your choice with flying colors.
The Matured Person To the more matured and experienced men, seducing a woman should be just another piece of cake. Yet many matured and experienced adults also fumble when trying to seduce a woman. There is a magic aura that activates new vibrations that affects the endorphins to rise to an euphoric level that starts to confuse feelings and emotions. An encounter with a woman that you specially want to win over will give different signals to different people. The sudden rush of endorphins affects different individuals differently. This accounts for the many failures to initiate a social relationship or in many cases initiatives are just abandoned for fear of failure and disappointment. Many potential ideal relationships are just stranded on the shores of indecision, self-doubt and self sabotage. Mysterious or daunting as it might look to seduce a woman, some people are able to just walk in and out of relationships as if it is just another morning breakfast. Why is it so and what are the secrets behind their successes with women. Are there some prescribed magical formula that can be learned and practiced to ensure success each time and every time you seduce a woman? I remember, when I was young, I had an even worse problem with the opposite sex. I also remember one my friends telling me that the secret is to go for it. But rushing like the devil where angels fear to tread has never been the viable solution. The recklessness will ruin the desired intentions. It is too amateurish and only provokes silent giggles of the opposite sex. You don’t go to war without proper strategy and sound tactics. You don’t go about trying to seduce the woman without a carefully planned strategy and workable tactics. We read and sometimes hear exaggerated statements of tactics that work every time you use them in your attempt to seduce a woman. Don’t fall for that gimmick and believe the empty talk. The reality is that, you may have cooked up all kinds of so called ‘magical’ tactics, but without a proper and sound strategy, no tactics in the world will succeed. Like going to war; with weapons and tactics alone in the absence of a proper strategy, you will all be massacred like soldiers of the Light Brigade. With good strategy coupled with sound tactics even the Indians could wipe the whole Custer regiment. For true success, do not separate strategy from tactics. They must work in tandem to ensure a reasonable degree of success when you attempt t seduce a woman . If you should feel overwhelmed and scared stiff to initiate a social relationship with the woman, please remember that the feelings are congruent with the other side. It is the sudden rush of endorphins that is cluttering reality and makes you see things bigger than they are, thus making you feel that you are smaller than you actually are.
Chapter Three The Science and Art of Seduction There is a science and an art in seducing a woman. The strategies are a science while the tactics are an art. You have to execute these two in tandem. Good strategies without the backing up of effective tactics will render the effort fruitless. In the light of the same argument, sounds tactics executed without proper strategies will leave you stranded in the desert of indecisions and failure. It may sound crude to group the science and art of seducing a woman to marketing and selling. In marketing, first of all you must know exactly what the customer needs and you go about fulfilling those needs. It is just the same with women. You have to know what she admires and needs in a man and then move in that direction. If you like, you may group the art and science of seduction to the art and science of war. Their strategies and tactics are like Siamese twins. Many people may not be aware of that. If you want to seduce women, you need to examine the terrain carefully and meticulously. Do not rush in unprepared for the intricacies of the actual encounter. If you do that, you will surely be caught on the wrong foot and the unsuccessful encounter will deal a more lethal blow to your self image and self esteem. That being said, you may experience great difficulties to remove the new dent on your personality. Seducing a woman is serious business and not to be taken lightly for granted. The difficulties in seducing a woman arises from the fact that it has always been taken for granted that getting to know a woman and winning her over to your side is so natural a process like the rising sun on the eastern horizon. Please remember that there are days when the sun doesn’t appear especially when there are thunderstorms and heavy rain. Apart from taking things for granted, a lopsided view of the situation also contributes to its sloppy assessment. The judgments and ensuing action of the man is always guided by his assessment of himself; his feelings and emotions. Seducing a woman is a two sided affair and must be approached as such. A careful observation and study of the woman in question is invaluable to the eventual success of the operation. You must know exactly what kind of woman you are dealing with ; the level of society she lives in, her hobbies, her likes and dislikes and most important of all, her final objective in life. Find out what she admires in a man and above all, why should she choose you above all others. It is easier to push a round stick into a round hole rather than laboriously trying to
fit a square peg into it. Thus knowing the terrain you are operating in thoroughly and your strengths and weaknesses is vital if you expect to have a reasonable measure of success in your attempt to seduce a woman. Seducing a woman is not an overnight job. It is not just meeting a woman, throwing a captivating smile (if you know what I mean), saying a few nice words and acting superficially to attract her attention, and then you've got her. No, it is not as simple as that. Just like Rome was not built in a day, seducing a woman too is a gradual process based on sound strategies and tactics which fit the personality of the woman you are trying to seduce. You will need an arsenal of tactics to activate to adjust and suit to different situations. A hammer alone is not adequate as all challenges you will be facing are not nails. You will need a bag of tools to start seducing a woman.
Getting to Know A Woman’s Profile If you are interested in a woman and plan to seduce her, the following observations and first lines of action should be in order. You'll need to study the woman. Here are a few things you should take note of: 1. What is her ultimate objective in life; her aspirations and ambitions? 2. What is it that she is looking for in a man? 3. What type of personality attracts and fascinates her? 4. What are her hobbies; likes and dislikes? 5. What are her favorite topics of conversation? 6. What previous experiences and encounters has she had with men? 7. Above all, why should she prefer you above others? You will have to do some homework to gather this information and more because the more you know about the woman you are going to seduce, the better adapted you will be to your approaches and her responses. You may even look into her birthday and see what sign of the zodiac influences her positively and what influences her negatively. All the above information will help you plan a strategy on how to go about seducing the woman. If you know beforehand what topic of conversation fascinates her, it would be best for you to have a thorough knowledge of the subject matter to enable you to flow gracefully with her conversation, and you can then intelligently put in a relevant phrase or two to impress her during the conversation. This will keep her engrossed in the topic and feel joyful to talk to you and would surely look forward to another encounter. Surely, it would be out of order and it will work to your disadvantage if in an effort to impress her, you go all out to exhibit your knowledge of the Bush blunder in Iraq, if what fascinates her is knowledge on the latest cuisines or flower
arrangements or Ikebana which is the Japanese art of flower arrangement. Talking about fishing techniques and good fishing grounds would bore her to death if her interests are in fashion designing. You see, it is vital for you to know what subjects would keep her engrossed and glued to the conversation. When you are privileged to engage her in a conversation, please remember that it is not a platform for you to show off what you know about world politics or philosophy but simply a light encounter to make the meeting and the conversation joyful. Take the cue from her and listen carefully to the key words in her conversation. Tag along joyfully without appearing naive or stupid and you have the formula on how to engage in a conversation with the woman you want to seduce. You will not have much success either, if you appear too sophisticated in your dress and talk with an air of egoism. You may want to impress the lady with your stoicism about discipline and attire but should the woman be a simple woman who hates the air of superficiality, you will just be wasting your time and energy trying to impress and win her that way. If you only carry around a hammer, do not see everything as a nail. You might accidentally hammer your own thumb. In the light of the same argument, do not dress sloppily when the occasion demands otherwise. Dress appropriately to blend with the occasion. Don’t appear in t-shirts and toilet slippers especially on your first date even if you are already familiar with the woman that you might have always met in the gym or park while doing your morning jogging. To seduce a woman needs a sincere projection of respect on your part for her. You may want to appear informal and relaxed but don’t overdo it. Occasional chance meetings at the gym or while jogging is totally a different affair altogether compared to the first date. To seduce a woman is serious business, and you'll see that I'll repeat this for emphasis. If you do not take it seriously and transmit the wrong message, chances are you may not be able to arrange another date if the woman interprets your actions as an insult and sheer lack of interest and appreciation for the date. On the other hand, appearing superficially in corporate uniform may make you look awful if she appears in a simple evening dress. As a rule of thumb, make prior note of the time and place you will be going to take her out. That would give you a good guide on how to dress. If you have done your homework, you would know her style and would be able to adapt accordingly.
Adjusting Wavelengths Maybe there are no two people who think alike, act the same way and converse on the same wave lengths on topics which equally fascinates both. But this does not mean that you can’t make adjustments to move in parallel. If you like the woman and aim to seduce her for a long term relationship, then it is only appropriate that you study her in and out and see if you can work towards a desired compatibility. Otherwise, the very idea of attempting to seduce the woman is sheer madness unless you are one who revels in manipulating the fragile human heart to satisfy your ego. However if you have identified that the woman is desirous of knitting a temporary relationship and you happen to be in the same predicament, you may go full steam ahead to build the desired relationship. Relationships of that nature are common nowadays and would be advantageous to both sides. Knitting such relationships would not present much of an ordeal either as a lot of defenses have been dropped on both sides. You never know if suddenly the relationship will bloom into a life long one. Whatever it is your homework in this area would again prove invaluable. If you know well ahead the type of relationship that is on the line, it would keep you relaxed and easy. There may not be much of a seduction to be done, but again this does not give you the ticket to take the woman for granted and appear arrogantly in sleeveless shirt, short pants and toilet sandals on your part. Always remember that social relationships between a man and a woman, irrespective for what they are, are always sensitive and delicate because it deals with the heart; with feelings and emotions. When it comes to feelings, do not take things for granted. Give it the due care, attention and respect it needs. This is even the more so in your effort to seduce the woman.
Be Serious Do not take women for granted just because society tries to label them as the weaker sex. That is highly debatable. There are times it is easier to fly solo around the world in a light aircraft or to climb to the peaks of Mount Everest than to win the heart of a woman. Women are mysterious and strange creatures that move like shadows, especially where social relationships are concerned. Even the best psychological minds of the world’s renowned neuroscientists are baffled by the unpredictable moves that women may make in negotiating the nooks and
corners of their love lives. No one can ever guess correctly their feelings and intentions as they move like vague shadows in the evening sun. Like shadows, they will move away just as fast as the speed you keep chasing them but will chase you in return with the same speed you are trying to escape. One instant you may be flattered by your seemingly successful encounter. The next moment you will only find empty air in your grasp. To seduce a woman truly, requires knowledge and experiences about them. It requires great tact, perseverance and skills. Above all else, studying the woman that interests you will pay off handsomely in the long run. Frustrations in life are more often than not the result of a lack of knowledge of the task at hand and the lackadaisical attitude that usually accompany the execution of such tasks.
Mock Seduction One of the workable strategies of seducing a woman is to move among women and learn about their common strengths and weaknesses. You may try out some mock approaches with some women with no real intention of seducing her. Try out a few simple gestures and note the response. In this mock exercise, if you fail, it will not affect you adversely. Rather, it would enrich you with the knowledge of what works and what doesn’t. If you have the privilege to do that, it would prepare you well for the real encounter. You will learn to be at ease in the company of women and gauge your own strengths and weaknesses before it is too late. The experience you have will be invaluable to you in the real encounter to seduce a woman.
Chapter Four The Ultimate Mistake Men Make With Woman Men who are not used to the game of seducing a woman or who are doing it for the first time because of disturbed feelings of infatuation, are prone to commit blunders and mistakes that he may not realize. It will be disguised by his eagerness to please the woman and his wrong attitude based on faulty assumptions about women and their natural tendencies of judgment. These men are self-styled slaves of the woman he admires and they are ready to go to great lengths to do whatever the woman wants him to do. He is always fearful that a slight disobedience would make him lose the woman. This can happen to people whose life has been regimented by dogmatic cultural doctrines that separated them from the company of the opposite sex earlier on in life. The social circle is limited to that of family or close friends, where the opposite sex other than their own family members, is normally absent. They move in circles of men and view social interactions with women as taboo. This upbringing is dangerous and such people wouldn't have a proper clue on how to be in the company of women, let alone seduce them. These type of men usually commit the ultimate blunders with women. As I just mentioned, one of the biggest blunders that a man can commit when trying to seduce a woman is to be a self-styled slave of the woman. He will go all out to please the woman even in the outrageous of circumstances and situations. Perhaps that is the first time he learns to feel the thrill of being close to a woman and his fantasies are playing tricks on him. He views the woman in his fantasies as the extraordinary charming, beautiful and captivating heroine and he is the irresistible hero of the script. He revels in his fantasy and would cling like a leech to it. He is fearful that this wonderful dream would disappear. Thus he is totally committed to do whatever there is to be done as long as he can keep the woman by his side or so he believes. In an effort to do this he turns into a WUSSY, a pitiful man who succumbs to every wish and command of the woman he worships. He showers the woman with gifts and compliments even in the most awkward of situations. And he continues to do this to extremes and he believes that it is the only way to win over the woman and have her always by his side. He is at the same time fearful of competition, that someone else might attract the woman and leave him standing, dead. He believes what he is doing is the right thing to do. He feels strongly that it is the magic formula to keep the woman glued to him. Little did he know that something contrary is working to his disadvantage.
The woman, while enjoying the opportunity to dominate, is actually not attracted at all to the man. If she seems to stick to him, it is an act of marking time for the man of her dreams to come along. If she obliges and is constantly available for dates or intermittent outings, she is simply being an opportunist to take advantage of such stupidity. The woman has a built in radar in her DNA to sense the superficiality of the man’s behavior. The woman can easily notice it, as dull and boring, devoid of the element of thrills and excitement that can only be the outcome of challenges, suspense and mystery coming from a macho, confident and fascinating man that every woman desires. The stupid and embarrassing behavior of the man arises from the wrong notion that if we go all out to please the woman, we will definitely win her heart. Generally speaking, this strategy often misfires and you will find the woman slowly drawn away from you and finally disappear before you can blink an eye. No woman alive would want to be with such a sissy. If you see that the woman entertains this stupid behavior it is simply because she may have affirmed to herself, “Why be so stupid, if I can get something for free why not take it. If I can ride a mule, why walk”. Actually while moving away gradually from the man, she is marking time to wait for someone more mature and fascinating to appear. When that happens, she will disappear. The sad thing is, the man is so engrossed in his “Yes ma’am “episodes that he does not even realize when the woman is gradually moving away from him. Even when he notices a signal that the women is moving away even an inch, he would intensify his succumbing “Yes ma’am” acts. Poor soul. Take note of this and never commit this ultimate mistake with women. They will take advantage of you at every opportunity and use you to their advantage. If you have been acting the role of a wussy or “Yes ma’am” you can surely do something about that. Drop the role and learn to be really fascinating, and mysterious in your relationship with the woman you are seducing. You can start by realizing that just as you want the woman to cling to you, the woman herself is no different. Just as you are afraid of failure that would cause you to lose her, she is actually even more afraid of losing you, especially if you are not a wussy. If you realize this and do your mathematics well, you don’t have to be a wussy. Be confident and do not enslave yourself to the whims and bidding of the woman you are seducing. Just be gracious and gentlemanly without going overboard in your efforts to please her. Don’t perpetually shower the woman with gifts and compliments. An occasional red rose would do and once in a while offer to take her to an interesting place or two. After each encounter that you can plan, immediately get lost and disappear from her sight for a number of days. Don’t call her as you want to keep her guessing of what is coming next. Be mysterious and keep on playing the disappearing act on and off.
Then at the most unlikely of times, perhaps in the late evening, make a call and just say “Hi. How are you doing?” Make the call short. It is just to indicate to her that you are still available. This will intensify the suspense and she will be thinking of you even more and you will become more irresistible. Never make the blunder of getting into a long conversation and indulge in an unromantic episode on the phone, telling her how you miss her and wish you were there together with her. This will constitute a gross blunder that will snuff the flames of longing and suspense. While indicating to her that you are available through a simple “Hi, are you there” to let her feel deeply your absence that will make her grow fonder of you. In our modern society, where women are available in abundance and the choice is always open to the men who are not narrow-minded and too judgmental to choose, never fear of losing any woman, even if you feel she is irreplaceable. Remember it is just a feeling, however strong it may initially be. By all means, choose a woman, seek her company but seduce her on your terms, not hers. Should the relationship develop, you will be delivered from the agony and humiliation of being a “Yes ma’am” all your life. Remember that if you are looking for fascination and fun, so does the woman. In the process, if you are afraid that the woman might disappear, so does the woman. Build your relationships on equal terms and not on a lop-sided basis greatly in favor of the woman you want to seduce. There are men who are addicted to this behavior not so much as a strategy to woo the woman but as a habit which develops from an attempt to cover up personal weaknesses and insecurity in the company of women. Such men will do just about anything to please the woman believing that the woman will be more sympathetic to him. In the process he becomes overly generous and accommodating. On the contrary, women are never attracted to such men and if they should accept invitations for a date, it is just because they are marking time for the right man to come along or are just justifying their actions by saying if you can get something for free, why not. If you can ride the mule, why walk? I am not despising the man who plays wussy and who is totally manipulated by women who seize the opportunity to do so. I am just stating that this is the ultimate mistake that men can make with women. Honestly, almost anyone can be a wussy especially if they never had any experience with a woman before and primarily when he really feels that the woman is made for him. Sometimes he feels he is Sir Lancelot or Don Juan called upon to save the lady in distress. Little did he realize he is just being the “Yes ma'am that women hate”. Stop being a wussy and woman slave. Be a man who stands tall and dignified without being arrogant. Be accommodating and generous without having to stoop so low as to succumb to the whims and fancies of women. Don’t let any woman take you for a ride.
On the other hand, appearing arrogant and demanding is just as bad. You have no right in the first place to exhibit your ego or show off your class to influence or force the woman’s decision. You may think that you are being forceful, brimming with confidence, irresistible and a class above the rest. If you think so, then you are grossly wrong. In reality this kind of behavior is utterly repulsive and the woman will reject you outright as being arrogant and superficial. Don’t be a fascist in the area of social relationships, even more so to the woman you are trying to seduce. Between these extremes there is a group of men I would refer to as the sick, lame horse. They are amateurs of the seduction game that work not on their strengths but on trying to weaken the opponent’s defenses. In a relationship with women, this strategy has never been recorded as successful. It's not a genuine and honest way to develop and share good relationships but to gain leverage by seeking sympathy. Immediately the man lowers himself into the gutters of survival and seek salvation from the woman he is supposed to champion. The man playacts to extremes to project himself as a thoroughly victimized person who is in urgent need of help. Since he lacks the necessary powerful skills of seduction and cannot think of one, he resorts to the childish appeal for sympathy. It is simply preposterous to even imagine that the modern woman would fall for such an obviously stupid ploy. In an attempt to gain sympathy he complains that life has been cruel to him. His previous two girl friends have left him for someone else. The third one has eloped with his best friend. He will complain that the whole world and everybody and everything in it has been unfair to him and is forever conspiring against him. His wife has left him and he will drone on with a perpetual stream of unfortunate incidents that is leaving him almost only in underwear. He might even cook up a story that even the government if starving him to death by failing to issue him a hawker’s license to sell peanuts. It is simply unimaginable to what great lengths he would go to put his case forward and win the sympathy from the woman he is supposed to champion. He showers her with all the negativity imaginable in order to strengthen his case. Little did he know that the boredom arising from the monotonous droning sounds of perpetual complaints and dissatisfaction is slowly killing the bored woman who would prefer to stick a half-boiled rotten egg into his blabbering mouth, rather than keep on being tortured by his negativity. Perhaps at the end of the day he may succeed in arousing a deep feeling of sympathy in the woman. The only unfortunate thing is that the sympathy is not for his supposedly pathetic state of affairs but for the woman for having agreed to have the date. Contrary to her expectations to see a powerful stallion, he is now abusively drawn to enter the stable of ‘the lame sick horse’. She has every right then to be sorry for herself to be conned into the company of a social beggar without a backbone. This gross blunder on the part of the man would definitely cause the woman to disappear at the first opportunity to go to the ladies washroom, and run for the hills.
Chapter Five Flirting Tips In preparing your strategy to seduce a woman, look inwards into yourself. Ask yourself why you would like to seduce the woman. Unless you have a genuine motive on your part, you will not be able to carry out the assignment with the passion it deserves. It would be just like playing soccer with small children on a boring evening. In the absence of a passion to perform and succeed, a lackadaisical attitude would creep in and take over and the slightest hitch will throw you off balance and you'll give up. Make sure you have a valid and compelling reason to want to seduce the woman. It can be for anything only known to you but make sure it is compelling. Plan a good strategy and draw up the tactics to blend with the different phases of the strategy execution. With a good strategy as a guide and sound tactics to execute the plan, coupled with patience and perseverance and backed by a compelling reason, the probability of success will be high. Seducing a woman is serious business. You don’t simply walk up to the woman, shake hands, say hello and straight away say ‘You are so beautiful, I like you so much”. This is practiced by a few men, but it can be seen as rather crude and awkward, and some women may consider it unethical. I am not saying you will be rejected outright if you use such an approach, but normally it is just not done that way. In strange circumstances and with unpredictable people, the approach may be viewed as romantic and would work very well but by and large, do not employ such an approach if you are not yet a professional seducer. Personally I have seen this outright approach taking place right in front of me. I came across a man who met a woman for the first time at a social gathering and straight away approach her and said, “Hello, how are you. I see that they are right when they say that you are a very attractive woman. I can’t argue about that. Anyway, I am planning to watch the sun set by the beach this evening. What about we go together to witness if what they say about the sunset is just as equally true. “After a short pause, he continued,” Well, it’s all set okay?” With a smile and a nod the lady agreed. It was not so much the lady but it was I who was caught on the wrong foot by this seemingly outrageous approach. The strange encounter led to a lifelong relationship and now they are a happy family with four children. In a sophisticated society, it is just not the standard ethical approach. If you are curious about it, just try during your mock seduction exercise that way and see what happens. But to execute it with precision you must be relaxed and cool and
let the seduction flow smoothly and naturally. Any sign of awkwardness will only lead to embarrassment. The gentleman I talked about carried out the seduction like a true professional and made the encounter as natural as breathing. There is nothing wrong in trying it out. In a mock seduction exercise you don’t stand to lose anything if you are rejected. On a more serious note, be adequately prepared socially, mentally and psychologically before trying to seduce a woman. Although the euphoria of success is great, the impact of failure may be devastating to the unprepared. From the start please realize that going about seducing a woman is not a video game you play on the computer screen. You are dealing with live human beings with feelings and emotions. Ask yourself why you want to seduce the woman. Do you really want the woman as a life long partner to share your life, your miseries and joy? Have you really met the woman you would like to live with for the rest of your life or it is just a fancy for someone because you are instantly attracted to her for reasons other than for life long relationships? This kind of attraction is very common and comes on and off. From time to time women come into your life and just as frequently you feel a strange attraction to each one of them. However the attraction is temporary and there are times when the ugly side of it surfaces and you begin thanking your stars that you have not entangled yourself with the woman. So, the first thing you will have to consider before embarking seriously on this seducing affair is to determine whether you really want the woman. Otherwise it would bring much unpleasantness in the affair and you will wish you had not created the relationship. Be serious and be patient. Move around and look around and study the prospects carefully. Carry out some light mock seduction exercises on your other women friends and watch the women in their true colors. Life is an illusion where sometimes you see what you want to see and at another time it disappears. Being patient, persistent and serious. Ultimately your efforts will lead you to the woman you are looking for.
Initiating The First Moves Once you feel that you have found the woman that you really want to build a long term relationship with, then start initiating a move that will enable you to get closer to the woman. This will give you a chance to determine if she is the woman you really are looking for. Once you have established that the choice is right, then plan your strategy accordingly. Seducing different types of women requires different strategies. There is no one standard strategy that will work on all women. That is simply because women are different in their social, emotional
and psychological makeup and therefore requires different approaches to handle them. Here again your homework will be invaluable. Before you key in on a target make sure it is not an illusion or a mirage. Make sure it is solid. Once you have identified the woman, and seriously want her to be yours for life, then go for it with the enthusiasm and fervor that knows no bounds. However, in the process never sell yourself short. Pursue your cause with a passion but again not to the point of surrendering your total life’s commitments to the cause of your social mission. By all means go after the woman. Seduce her but in the process do not bulldoze against a brick wall. The first thing to do here is to do your homework. Find out all there is to know about the woman. Collect all the information that would be helpful to you in your effort to seduce her. Above all find out what are her prime needs in life to see if you have what it takes to fulfill those needs. If you do, that would be a feather in your cap. If you don’t, you will have a hard time trying to seduce the woman, and even if you succeed in seducing the woman, that would only be temporary until she finds out that you do not have what she wants. You may pretend that you have it but once the cat is out of the bag, you will be in for a miserable life. The best line of action is if the shoe doesn’t fit you, just don’t buy it. Look for another one that fits. Let’s assume that after careful scrutiny, you find that the woman possess all the ideal characteristics that you are looking for, who has the potential to make you happy throughout your life and would be the right choice for a partner. The next step is to plan your seduction approach. Even then, the first encounter may not necessarily be the final and successful encounter. After all the homework you have done, you may still find out later that you may have missed a point or two. The woman may be ideal but there is nothing you can do if she is not ready to have any close social relationship with you or anyone else. Don’t feel dejected and rejected because it is not the end of the world for you. For you she may be a dream woman but for her tying the nuptial knot is still too heavy a commitment. Moreover, in the absence of compatibility of a relationship, it is only wise to abandon the idea of seducing the woman in question. Maybe you can just be friends until you find your ideal woman that is compatible to you. You will know whether to proceed with the relationship after your first serious one-to-one date.
The Formal Blunders You may have known the woman for quite some time but never indicated your intentions towards her. Or you may not have known the woman at all but notice her among your circle of friends or you have just been introduced to the woman for the first time. These are three different situations that require totally different approaches in your move to seduce the woman. Let us take the first case. You may invite her to an afternoon lunch and from there ask for the first date. In the
second case, you can get a couple of friends to come along to have lunch and find your way out to invite her to a quiet dinner together for the first date. The third case may be a bit tricky. Don’t rush into things but get to know the woman a bit better. You may invite her and a few close friends to have dinner together. This is best done if one of your lady friends can arrange the dinner and invite the woman. Not to feel out of place you may bring along a male friend, maybe your lady friends can bring along their male partners as well. This will be a good start for you to assess whether to proceed and seduce the woman. During dinner, be comfortable and enjoy the evening while at the same time look for clues that speak for her personality. Watch her conversation and from there you should have a good idea about the woman. This will guide you with whether or not to proceed further and seduce the woman.
Chapter Six Making A First Impression That Lasts If you are successful in getting the first date, this will give you yet another opportunity to study the woman. Remember also that this first date will also give the woman a good chance to assess you in return. It works both ways. During the first date you can start the machinery of seduction rolling cautiously, while at the same time refrain from making blunders on your part that may transmit negative vibrations to her. This is the initial stage of seducing the woman and you surely wouldn’t want to project a clumsy start. You need to create a positive impression that lasts and make her want to meet you again. You need to be irresistible to her. You will have to project a high degree of responsibility and a sense of respect for the woman you are dating without going overboard to please her to the extent that all you succeed in projecting is the character of the man who is grasping the last straw. To project responsibility does not mean you should turn into a wussy but it does mean that you should act the way a responsible man would act. Ensure you give respect as it should be required of you. A lackadaisical attitude or a lack of commitment and concern for what is going on will not work in your favor in this first date encounter. Actually this is the best platform for you to create a long lasting positive impression on the woman you are seducing. Be attentive, be courteous, and walk the fine line of being funny and knowing when to be serious. You can project a high degree of responsibility and a respect for the woman by being right on time for the date. If you have agreed to meet the woman at 8.00 pm sharp, make sure you are not late even by one minute. You appear on time for the date and that very action will speak volumes for you and will show your integrity in the future. Study the route from your home to the woman’s residence to ensure that you will not be unnecessarily caught in a traffic jam. You may think this is going too far, but would you rather take a test drive, than be 30 minutes late for your date based on not knowing how to get there? Think about it :) You don’t want and don’t need to give any excuses for not appearing on time because especially for this first date, all excuses are bad excuses. On the day of the appointment, appear comfortably well dressed as a presentable gentleman that will not embarrass her in a crowd. Appear smart with
well groomed hair and attire that matches hers for the evening. You need not dress superficially in expensive clothes because you will not be able to keep up with this trend if you do, well that's unless you're really rich :). By now you would be able to know what to wear and how to dress for the occasion. You may have the prior privilege of determining what to wear for the occasion. In the absence of that privilege, use your good judgments based on where you are taking the lady at the time of the date. Do not take the date lightly and do not dress in a way that can be interpreted as your lack of seriousness for the occasion and a lack of respect for the woman. You may not intend it to be that way but it invites such interpretations if you are not dressed properly for the occasion. To dress properly again does not mean you must appear as if you are going to a royal wedding but appear as a smart gentleman that will not embarrass the woman. When you arrive at the woman’s house, and meet her there, be naturally gracious and thank her for waiting. There is no harm in opening the door of the car for her. Exchange a few friendly words with the woman as you drive away to the rendezvous where you have decided to take her. Make her feel comfortable and fully welcome. Otherwise the silence would give an air of military discipline and make the woman uneasy. Talking about a little funny incident that occurs on the way to her house will be in order, especially if it can draw a broad smile on her face. You may say that in your eagerness and excitement to meet her for the evening, you spent quite some time frantically searching for the car key which you had always been holding in your hand, but didn't even realize. Don’t be dumb. Keep her amused and at ease with you. She will silently appreciate it and that would spell more meetings with her in the future. One mistake you can make if you have decided to take her to dinner is to order a lavish dish that is not only expensive but serve no purpose other than to show off. Do not force the menu on her because it's possible she may be dieting, or perhaps even allergic to certain foods. Give her the benefit of choosing the menu and you accompany her meal with a perhaps a very slight variation. Just remember, this dinner date is a social get to know each other and not an eating contest. Do not make the blunder by turning it into an eating contest to show how good and thoroughly conversant you are with food and alcohol. Keep your hands off cigarettes no matter how much you have heard that cigarettes make a man manly. It is all rubbish, as there many women who do not like smokers. So why make it difficult for her. When you are out to seduce the woman take care of your conversation of the evening; watch what you say and make sure you do the listening most of the time. By listening it does not mean that you keep dumb. That would kill the evening. Initiate the conversation based on what you know about the woman. The biggest blunder you can make in this first serious encounter is to exhibit an air of arrogance and know it all. The other blunder is to belittle the woman and engage her in a debate that exert your superiority. I may have said earlier that
the best way to carry out a conversation is to watch for key words she uses and let the conversation move in her direction. Do not exhibit your expertise about the Palestinian debacle or the Bush blunder in Iraq when all she wants to talk about beautiful the landscape of the hotel and the delicious food they serve. The date is a social meeting of joy and not a contest in political knowledge or philosophy. I'm repeating this for emphasis. The popular trend is to criticize the government for the many things that you judge as being wrongly handled. If you do that you are walking on thin ice because the woman may be a staunch supporter of the government and immediately see you as a repulsive foe. Should the ice break, you will find yourself deep freezing in the cold with no chance of salvation. So be careful of what you say. If you have nothing interesting to talk about that may excite the woman, the least you say about anything the better, rather than say the wrong things and end up without reprieve. Just be relaxed and comfortable and make the evening a memorable and enjoyable one. Do not make silly blunders whereby in an attempt to create jokes you appear stupid and childish. This will backfire your attempt to seduce the woman and make you fall back a few points in her eyes. After the dinner you can invite her to take a stroll in the hotel garden or public park. If she takes to you, she would graciously agree to the suggestion. You will have a further chance to seduce the woman then. The romantic environment would send encouraging vibrations of closeness and would work positively in your favor. Nevertheless, do not entertain any silly ideas that may lead to a blunder. Just savor the exhilarating feelings of closeness and affections and enjoy the fresh air of the night. Get yourself lost in light conversation on topics of common interest. By now you would already know what they are. However avoid the blunder of dishing out comments or praise that would sound superficial. Just carry out a light conversation on simple topics. Leave the praise and comments to a later appropriate day and date. As for the present, on your first date, you are only weaving the delicate web of relationship that may or may not withstand the unsuspecting gust of strong wind. Do not be too engrossed in the beauty and serenity of the night and the special feelings of the evening. Keep track of the time and graciously offer to take the woman home even when the night is still young, and when the suspense of the evening is building close to the climax. Film directors do that to increase the ratings. So why don’t you do that too. Do not even try to give everything on this first date. Leave some of the best for later and keep the woman in suspense and guessing what comes next. Like a good TV drama, you stop the show almost at the climax to get viewers guessing and come to see what happens next. She may appreciate your gentlemanly gesture and look forward to another evening with you and see what happens next.
In accepting the invitation to a date, she may have had certain ideas about you and your intentions and after the date found she had been grossly wrong. This will help create a beautiful first impression that lasts, especially when the woman feels guilty of her suspicions. To add flavor to this successful first encounter, let the first impression linger on her mind for some time. It would have a bigger impact. Don’t ask for a second date immediately because that would weaken the beautiful and fascinating memory of the first date. Disappear for a couple of days and let the woman keep guessing. Then at the least expected of times, perhaps after three or four days, reappear and work up for another date. Maybe this time not to take her to dinner but to some interesting resort where you can spend the evening casually together. Inform her before hand when you will be taking her for a date the following weekend. This will enable her and you to discuss of what appropriate dress to wear to save the trouble of embarrassment. If you are taking her to spend an evening at a seaside resort, an evening gown will be out of order just as bad as a sleeveless t-shirt and toilet slippers would be for you. Both of you should be able to find a happy match to blend with the environment. Perhaps you could get hold of catalogs to show the beauty of the place. This is to get her excited about the date, so you can have her imagining being there with you. In the art of how to seduce a woman, you will have to use a lot of tact, discretion and good timely judgment on your part in your effort to seduce the woman to succumb to you like a sheep to slaughter. The vital thing to remember is not to appear superficial and awkward. Ensure that the seduction flows beautifully like the flow of the mountain stream on the plains before the rapids that culminates in the beautiful and awe inspiring waterfall. Seducing a woman is truly a magnificent art embodied in the science of human relationships. It is what gives meaning to life that will burst into a rainbow of colors and music. Learn the science of human relationships well so that you may ultimately be able to paint a masterpiece of the process. That in essence is the culmination of the beautiful art of seducing a woman. The exhilarating feelings of success is beyond reproach; an effort worth pursuing and an objective worth homing on. As an added asset to add to your arsenal of tactics of seducing a woman, you may need to know the salient traits that attract women and make good first impressions and also the repulsive traits that make a very poor first impression. These traits appear consistently over time among failures of the art and among those who achieve resounding success. They are by nature common failings of almost every human being and strengths developed by many to remedy those inborn weaknesses. These strengths and weaknesses projects themselves in every social interactions.
People never fail to respond favorable to a warm personality, full of a sense of humor, great imagination, full of confidence, fit, successful and full of confidence in facing whatever comes. People with aspirations, kindness, creativity and pleasant conversational abilities never fail to attract and fascinate women and even men for that matter. Positive first impressions are also created by the traits of individuality, power and transmission of positive attitudes through the unerring signals of body language. To be attractive, fascinating and irresistible, it would pay handsomely if you start to cultivate the traits in you. Women will find you impressive every time. It would be strange if any would appreciate people who are self-centered, closeminded and judgmental. Lack of manners is without doubt a repulsive behavior. Those with a poor self image make poor conversation partners. Their immature and negative attitudes towards life will be boring to any woman and will never succeed to create any positive first impression other than that of a lifeless creature. People who complain perpetually of almost everything will naturally repel everyone from having any social connections with them except birds of the same feather. Another repulsive trait that needs to be discarded and replaced is a lack of integrity, being too materialistic and the tendency to resort to manipulation as a means to an end. No one can predict what the outcome of every encounter will be, for the simple reason that we do not know exactly what the woman wants and looks for in a relationship. We may start as I mentioned before, by doing homework observing and studying. The woman can act one way today and tomorrow be totally different, it's all based on their moods. Women are most unpredictable and baffling. They will agree to something today and change their mind tomorrow. The only thing a man can do is to ensure he creates a good first impression to influence the outcome of the encounter. Do not get carried away that you will be successful with a woman every time you act like the perfect gentleman, as many women will be skeptical and you will have to earn their trust.
Chapter Seven How to Make A Woman Trust You Completely Trust is closely interwoven with integrity and responsibility. A man without integrity cannot be trusted. So also is a man who fashions an indifferent and impertinent attitude towards the seriousness of life. Integrity and trust can be inculcated should it be almost absent in a man. So, before a man entertains any notion of seducing a woman, he has to ensure that he is in possession of these all important assets. In the absence of these assets, he will only melt in the company of women who holds these commendable characteristics dearly. A woman will do anything for the man she trusts. Trust is a vital element of social relationship that is revered by all women. It is the element that draws a woman to a man and sticks with him. If this element is missing, all other efforts at relationship building will be reduced to zero. She must be thoroughly convinced that the man is trustworthy for her to have any respect for him. She may be attracted to you for many other reasons but until she trusts you, you can’t expect anything from her. She may meet you and oblige you to go for outings or dinner dates, but when it comes to the serious business of knitting a lifelong relationship she will be evasive and give you all kinds of excuses. This will continue until she is convinced that she can trust you. Until then whatever moves you make to seduce her will end up in frustration. She will let you chase shadows. So, you see, it is vital that you built trust in the woman before even thinking of seducing her. How do you go about building trust in the woman for you. The first thing to remember is not to say anything that you don’t mean and in your eagerness or excitement to please her, do not promise the moon because there is no way you can deliver. Don’t practice the habit of making promises you can’t keep. A simple promise to have lunch at a certain time, must be kept to the letter. If you cancel it or are unable to keep the promise, you will lose a few points in her eyes. Even if you are late for a date it will work against you. This is in no way to suggest that you must start your relationship on a wrong note, by volunteering stupidly to bow to all the wishes of the woman and ardently do your best to please her each time and every time. No. Nothing of the sort. It simply means that if you can’t keep a promise, just don’t promise anything. It is as simple as that. In the first place no one forces you to make any promises at all. The biggest blunder is to be everything to the woman and do anything to
please her. This is what leads to unfulfilled promises because they are too many and made too close to one another. In the process sometimes you lose track of things and forget them altogether. You may have forgotten but the woman doesn’t and she surely expects it. She would be so much the happier if you do not promise her anything and just hand it to her as a surprise. That would be a better approach on how to seduce a woman. In the first vital step on how to seduce a woman, you must build a strong foundation of trust which incidentally is also a strong foundation for the ensuing relationship that may follow. Never blunder on this because if you do, you will have a very hard time to get the woman to trust you ever. The stigma will drag on to mar whatever relationship you may be able to build at a later date if by some miracle you ever have the chance at all. Discipline yourself in this area, not so much to please the woman but for yourself to carry you into life that is interwoven with all kinds of relationships, be it social political or entrepreneurial. In all these relationships the element of trust is predominant. Admittedly, in a man-woman relationship, be it among casual friends and acquaintances, lovers or even among husbands and wives, the game of trust and deceit has been more like a game of hide and seek. The cliché, ‘I don’t trust men’ says it loud and clear. As a result women are more suspicious of men and the slightest ripple of gossip would create a storm. So if you are in this game of hide and seek, it is about time you shift your paradigm for something solid and constructive, that is if you have decided to be serious about seducing a woman for life long relationships. There are no holds barred if you are only indulging in temporary relationships to weather a passing storm, as it is widely practiced in open and sophisticated societies of today.
How to Create Trust How do you treat a woman so that she will trust you? The best logical answer would be to put yourself in the shoes of the woman. If you were the woman how would you like to be treated to gain your trust? Treat the woman the way you would like to be treated and you will not go wrong. Men like to talk about their exploits of women. Many take pride in their ability to lie and cheat on women. Although these stories or exploits have not much truth or substance, there are points you can draw from these conversations. Relevant to your case is the different ways women are lied to or cheated. You can learn from that to avoid committing blunders in your relationships. Make a strong commitment not to do anything that would hurt the trust she has for you. Of course there are many ways in which you can make a woman trust you but I do not recommend you to make artificial maneuvers to manipulate the woman’s feelings and expectations to your advantage. Artificial maneuvers may work but like all fakes, they do not last. I recommend you go for the real solid actions
which is the real you that talks and moves in ways that will make the woman trust you. It must be the real you she is seeing and assessing and not the artificial man implementing deceitful theories to manipulate the poor woman. If she should trust you, then make sure that you are really a person that can be trusted. This will provide a very strong foundation for life-long relationships. When it comes to trusting a man, there is one element that never fails to touch the soft spot in her heart. You use this and she will melt like ice in a boiling pot. But in order to use this technique, please be warned before hand that it must be real and not something cooked up just to fill an empty assertion. If it is fake, the woman will know because she has an in-built radar to scan and almost know when the man is telling the truth or when he is not. So, use this technique with caution and use it only when it is authentic. The sound of your voice will otherwise give you away. If you let the woman into one of the secrets of your weaknesses and she senses that you are telling the truth, she will trust you because there are not many men who will expose their weaknesses to a woman by telling her the secret and not many men dare do that for fear of losing the woman or of fear of appearing inferior. However, I am not referring to the parallel action of a self-styled woman slave or the pathetic sick lame horse that cries for sympathy. Here it is not the sympathy you are after but just to let into a little secret about yourself. Again, I repeat, it must be real. You can say something like this for example, “ I've never told anyone this, but I have a serious fear of elevators. Yes, elevators, as odd as it sounds, I just feel extremely uneasy being in one, thinking of the possibility of it being stuck, and being in such tight quarters.” If a man is bold enough to reveal his weakness or fears, there is no reason to doubt his other words. As I said and I am saying again. Make sure what you say is real. After saying this you can gain more trust the next time the two of you go into an elevator, reach for her hand, and you'll form that connection. She will instantly be drawn to you and trust you. Now to be clear, some women may see this as a weakness, and it is, but it's also displaying honesty and building trust. If the woman thinks you're a wimp and a sissy for this fear, then perhaps she is not the right woman for you. Once you have gained the trust of the woman, it would be easier for you to get close to her, get to know more about the real woman you are with and plan your moves in the direction you desire. Be sincere and it will show loud and clear in your actions and words. And be honest to yourself right from the outset on the type of relationship you desire and move steadily in that direction. I would like to repeat that if you have done your homework well and carried out your intentions with honesty, passion, fervor and persistence, chances are good that you will
succeed in your mission in seducing the woman. The key word here is to do your very best. A wise man once said that there are things that we can change and there are things that we simply cannot change and we must be wise to know which we can change and which we cannot change. We do not have the power to change the outcome of the relationship but surely we have the ability to influence it. If we are fearful of failure or are striving in the doldrums of mediocrity, we can change that and be confident of success and move to take massive action to realize our dreams. The element of confidence must not leave our side at any moment and must be present to drive us on to face whatever comes our way. Only then will we find victory in defeat, enlightenment in moments of frustrations and hope even in the dimming lights of the twilight zone. Cement your moves by honoring the trust the woman has for you, and you will not go wrong in your quest for blissful life-long relationships.
Chapter Eight Seduction Tips Need some more tips? Get close to the woman and move around among women and make yourself visible most of the time by getting involved in activities that are taking place in the organization. There are plenty of opportunities for this, through sports activities, clubs and charity organizations where men and women move hand in hand to carry out various activities together. Men and women also move around in big numbers in political organizations. You can’t seduce something or someone you do not see, let alone know, so therefore you have to put yourself in a position to be seen. To attract the attention of the woman, you must create a good first impression. You must appear attractive, presentable fascinating. Don’t worry if you feel you do not have these attributes. These characteristics are developed as you mature and as your circles of social interactions widen. Again, these definitions are arbitrary and what one woman sees as attractive another sees as just normal. What is fascinating to one may not be so to another. These attributes can be inculcated into the personality with the right social formula. The TV stars for example are just ordinary people but by virtue of their being film stars or TV stars they are seen as attractive and fascinating. Your take off the film or TV cloaks you will find them nursing scabies on their rickety legs. There is a way for you to be attractive, interesting and fascinating. Look for role models and study their actions and the way their carry themselves about. Listen to their conversations, their jokes and style of putting arguments forward. Make note of the things you like about them and what makes you like to join their company again. Maybe you can watch other interesting people and study what makes them interesting; what makes their conversations fascinating and make them attractive to women. Keep gathering an arsenal of knowledge you can learn from and study the character that you can blend with yours to give an added value. As you do this you will find that all along you have what it takes to be attractive and fascinating But these traits lay dormant through lack of the necessity for exposure. It is common knowledge that the best acting stars are not in the films but out there in the open where the illusions of make believe is totally absent. Just as film stars are trained to act a life of make-belief, so also you can inculcate and develop qualities and traits that women admire, not for the screen but for real life situations. To seduce a woman you need not be superficially attractive with all the thick make up of film stars. If you opt for that, you will look like clowns and be a
laughing stock. Be an alpha man, cool, relaxed and natural, smartly dressed and well groomed hair. Join in the jokes and fun but do not overdo it by chipping in cheap vulgar jokes to attract the crowd. It might offend the ladies present and you will be looked upon as vulgar instead of being attractive and fascinating. Don’t be too gullible and take the conversation platform all to yourself in a show of know it all attitude. You will be viewed as repulsive instead of attractive; as stupid rather than intelligent because it is always true that empty drums make the most noise. To look attractive and charming, just join the crowd and the fun, talk less and listen more, once in while just smile when the jokes are good and offer opinions intelligently when asked for. Do not reinforce the emptiness of scandalous gossip neither should you initiate one. Only a man of shallow intelligence engage in baseless gossip that belittles others and envelope cloaks of guilt on other people’s personalities. Remember what you do and talk is being watched and scrutinized as a basis of assessing the person you are. If you are asked about the things or events that you do not have any clue about, just be honest, apologize and say you cannot offer any comments yet as you are not exposed to the information. Maybe you will be able to enlighten at another time. An honest admission that you do not know of what is being asked is many thousand times better than to appear stupid trying to talk about things you don’t have a clue to. People are not stupid and trying to make them so will only expose your stupidity. If you should contribute to the conversation, be sure that you have the facts right. Otherwise just sit relaxed occasionally, smile and shut up. To be attractive and fascinating does not lie in how loud and how much you talk during a conversation. It lies in the sophistication in the way you handle and blend yourself in a social setting. There is cliché that says “If you do not know anything, do not reveal your ignorance by talking”. If you want to be attractive and fascinating, send positive vibrations around the room and the aura will bounce back and enhance your personality. You will stand out in the crowd and be noticed by the women present, including the one you are silently trying to attract and seduce. If you want to have a high success rate in how to seduce a woman, you will have to be aware that there are certain positive traits or characteristics or behaviors that you will have to cultivate if you do not have them yet. Likewise there are certain negative characteristics or behaviors that you will have to shed. It is not only women but people on the whole abhor negative behaviors of selfcenteredness, close-mindedness and judgmental attitudes. Nothing can be more repulsive and boring than to have an evening with a person who always talk about himself; his exploits, adventures, successes and feats of high performances in almost all fields. Never be the person who monopolies the conversational platform for almost the whole evening talking almost non stop to show off his knowledge about topics of conversation, irrespective of whether he really knows slightly or pretend to know something which he actually hasn’t a
clue to. It is always the “I” aspect of the conversation that you will hear all evening. Psychologically people who blabber all evening, giving little chance to others to join in and enjoy the conversation are people who are bugged by a high degree of inferiority complex. In an effort to cover up his weaknesses, he displays and acts the knows-all script, little realizing that by doing so he not only reveals some glaring weaknesses and inadequacy of knowledge but also becomes more and more repulsive to the crowd. I am sure you must have had the experience of being in the company of such people. I can imagine how you try to find an excuse to go somewhere else and leave the know it all immersed in his repulsive and boring blabbering. Without a doubt, being close minded, self-centered and judgmental does not blend with the technique of how to seduce a woman. As mentioned earlier, these characteristics will not only repel women but are also repulsive to just anyone except maybe to people who are just as repulsive. It would be interesting to watch from the sidelines how a group of such people play a game of conversational tug-of-war, each attempting to outdo the others in his haste to blabber all the junk that he knows or have heard about, irrespective of whether there is an iota of truth or not. To these repulsive people it is not the authentic content of the subject matter that counts but their primary concern is their ability to take the limelight or “repulsive light”. Please remember that if you want to be successful with women, you never make this fatal blunder of being self-centered and close-minded, where you are the only one who knows everything from plumbing to how to build the pyramid and maybe on how to straighten the Leaning Tower of Pisa , you are the only one who is right in all things and on all counts. Such people will also blabber about weaknesses in other people’s characters and all that is wrong with the world and all its contents. Should anyone touch on the subject; he might also suggest how Adam should have reacted to the Devil in the Garden of Eden. Imagine yourself in his place, how do you think anyone will react in your presence? If you realize the seriousness of the matter, never make this fatal blunder in your relationship. Otherwise you will have to have the skill of a squirrel when forced to jump from tree to tree, in this case from group to group or from woman to woman who will disappear the moment they see you. People who are self-centered, close-minded and judgmental usually display a lack of good manners because these traits come in a package. They are crude, negative towards life and are always complaining. They indulge in vulgar jokes irrespective of how it affects those present in the crowd. They wouldn’t care a dime if it affects the ladies present negatively. If you display this trait with women, you will be counted out as fast as you come in. Surely this is another gross blunder you can make should you have included this in your arsenal of how to seduce a woman. You will be disqualified even before you hear the starter’s gunshot.
If you want to be successful in your attempt to seduce a woman, you must learn to cultivate the positive traits of confidence, warmth and a good sense of humor. Learn to develop good conversational ability and display a high respect for others by not being judgmental on them. Acknowledge that there is no absolute in what is right and what is wrong. Welcome ideas in parallel and abandon the fascist doctrine of the Gang of Three (Plato, Socrates and Aristotle) where there is only one right and when one is right, then the others are all wrong. Over these past 2500 years the world has changed and opinions too change. We must be openminded and in the process, respect people and their opinions for what they are. To be close-minded and grossly judgmental would put off the flames of good social interactions and relationships. Do not commit this blunder if you want to be successful in the company of ladies especially if you are studying the techniques on how to seduce a woman. Show individuality, conversational ability and kindness. She will appreciate that and it would create a good positive impact on your relationship. The woman will find you fascinating and irresistible and you can assure yourself that she will be looking forward to meet you again. Another aspect of your personality that will make the woman disappear as fast as they come is a display of immaturity, indecisiveness and a habit of always complaining even about the most trivial things. The woman expects a confident, and fit individual able to take the steering wheel of life and tough to overcome any adversity, kind and creative and who knows his way in this challenging and turbulent world. She appreciates a powerful shoulder to lean on. Against this background of expectations, if you display the character of the pathetic paralyzed beggar without a backbone, you will be reduced to dust and crushed into nothingness before the evening is over. If you want to be successful in seducing the woman, be mature and display maturity, decisiveness and confidence. You can exhibit these traits subtly in your conversations and your body language. The woman wants the company of a true man, not a sissy. Creativity gives life even to the simplest of things. The arrangement of painted bricks in a small backyard garden can be a source of attraction if it smacks a touch of creativity. The bonsai fetches a high price just because of its creative design. Otherwise it is just an ordinary plant. Creativity never fails to attract attention and fascinate people of all ages from young children to adults. Sales people know that and designers know that even better. Out of creativity we find all kinds of toys for children in the market. Out of creativity the fashion industry rake in billions of dollars annually. The dying flames of the film industry is powerfully rekindled on the platform of creativity. Man has made tremendous quantum leaps in development of science and technology through creativity and creative thinking. Throughout history, creativity has never fail to astound man to gaze in wonder and awe at the beauty of the masterpiece. In your relations with women, you can put this element of creativity to great advantage. To be creative you don’t have to be Beethoven or Michaelangelo or Alexander the Great. If you take one step
ahead and look at the things around you, you will find that vast opportunities are available where you can be creative. If you don’t have it in you to be creative, take up a course in Ikebana (flower arrangement), landscaping and gardening, music, painting or whatever it is that you have an affinity to and would be able to exhibit your creative prowess. If you have a lady friend and you would like to have her for a life partner, it would be wise to discuss with her, about courses and hobbies that both of you can be creative. It would be a welcome suggestion and the thought of becoming creative would be fascinating. If you already have some creative talents, you can share that with the woman especially if she is fascinated by your skills. Transfer the skills and knowledge to her. She would be grateful and you have nothing to lose. In fact your generous gesture would draw her closer to you. Display and share your creative skills if you happen to have one and learn to be creative if you do not possess one. This is an asset worth possessing, culturing and developing because almost everyone is fascinated by the uniqueness and artistry of creativity. Creativity creates things of beauty that brings timeless joy to the human heart. Be creative and appear creative both in your thinking and your actions. You will never fail to attract the attention of the woman you are seducing. In fact creativity is one of the lethal weapons of seduction which you cannot afford to omit from your arsenal of how to seduce a woman. Use it wisely and you will win appreciation all round. Like all good things, if you use it wrongly it will work to your disadvantage. Use creativity as a platform to gain friends to share and it will go a long way to boost your self image and self esteem. In any human relationship, learn to handle things delicately and avoid blunders that would be very difficult to amend once committed. Your relationship with the woman you want to seduce poses an even bigger risk if you are not cautious in your footsteps. In your quest on how to seduce the woman, avoid the temptation to resort to manipulation. It is unnatural, unreal, and despicable and will give birth to a lot of disappointments and hatred once the cat is out of the bag. People do not like to be manipulated. They hate it and will bear a perpetual grudge against the manipulator. Do not put yourself in the shoes of the manipulator especially if you want the woman for keeps. A woman wants to flow naturally into a relationship be it temporarily or for life-long partnership. A smooth flow of relationship without the trickery of manipulation radiates the warmth that nurtures the relationship with joy and appreciation. It is natural and you will not have to go constantly into a manipulation mode every time you want to seduce the woman. Above all you will not have the subconscious feelings of guilt constantly hammering in your mind. It would also relieve you from the
nagging ordeal of guessing whether the woman is attracted to you for who you are or has been wrongly manipulated into the relationship. You will never find out, perhaps until it is too late to make amends. In order to seduce a woman, you must learn the art of seducing the woman. You will have to be prepared physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually to face and overcome all eventualities. It is not for the weak heart. It is not a job for boys either. For those who do not make proper and solid preparation, the causalities are high. You can’t simply just join in the fray and expect positive results because winning the attention of a woman is not as easy as you would like to think. It is a delicate matter as women are very evasive and unpredictable. They are very mysterious and no one knows for sure what they would do next. Their actions always keep men guessing and at times in total suspense. Maybe that is their strong weapon of attraction and their natural irresistibility that gets men seduced instead in the process. If you are to make headway in your effort to seduce a woman, you had better have an arsenal of weapons on hand to suit the different circumstances. You will have to be flexible in your tactics and change strategies when necessary. To top up all these, you must prepare yourself internally as well as outwardly. Check your self image rating. If you are low on self image, just postpone the idea of doing any seducing at all. If you have a low self image and low self esteem and you try to seduce a woman, she will swallow you alive or chew you like chewing gum. You will have to look into your self image and change it first. If you have been living a poor self image, acted out of the script of others, discard the old script and write a new one where you play the hero and not the extra. A healthy self image boosts a powerful self esteem and that will put you in good stead when face to face with the formidable woman. Build a healthy self image and a high degree of self confidence. Do not get swallowed alive. You may be wondering why all the fuss just to seduce a woman. You might say that this has never happened before in the old days. Men just go for the woman he likes and get married and that is all. Everything is settled. No strategies and tactics are needed to win over a woman. You are wrong there. In certain primitive societies, a male is not acknowledged as a man until he goes through a very dangerous ritual which is not practiced by our modern society. Some islanders require that the young man is required to jump from a high platform with a rope tied to his ankle. If he passed the severe death defying test of manhood, then only is he admitted into the society as an adult man, who is only then qualified to take a wife.
The Watusi requires their young men to go lion hunting and the primitive tribes of Borneo requires the horn of a wild boar as proof of manhood. In ancient India, the sayembara ( contest ) is carried out to win a woman’s hand in marriage. What we have to go through today is nothing compared to the ordeals of the past in terms of physical risk, but that does not in any way suggest that today we only need to walk up to the woman and say “I like you, you are now mine.” It is not that simple. What the modern seduction techniques lacks in physical risks is accordingly compensated by a high degree of emotional risks. The danger of over expectation of resounding success and the resulting rejection by the woman is no less emotionally devastating. Thus the necessity to be well prepared emotionally and spiritually for whatever eventualities that may arise as a result of the excursion into this seduction process. The proper techniques of how to seduce a woman will have to be carefully studied and the plan executed with pin point precision if you expect to notch a reasonable degree of success. In order to seduce a woman, there must be a woman to seduce. That is logic number one. If there is a woman to be seduced, then go ahead and seduce. That is logic number two. What then is logic number three? If there is a woman to be seduced and you are to go about seducing the woman, make sure you are prepared for the excursion. We have discussed earlier on some strategies and tactics of seduction; what to do and what not to do and what gross blunders you can commit in the seduction process and why you must avoid them. Reread the chapters and get yourself fully and totally acquainted with the guidelines. We have been all along talking about seducing women. Do not forget that out there, in equally great numbers are women out to seduce men. If you are not aware of this, you will lose track of who is trying to seduce whom. Instead of capturing the lioness, you will only be offering yourself for dinner to the lioness. Be well knowledgeable and be very careful as you tread the gamut of this delicate game of how to seduce the woman. Thus apart from having the woman to seduce and the decision to seduce, a careful and intelligent approach is necessary. Don’t be too hasty and reckless to experiment and test the theories of how to seduce the woman before you have made the necessary preparation to do so. When the coast is clear, then you can make your move. To seduce the woman, you must be visible to the woman and stay as close to her as possible. Doing this would give you the right signals when to key in and when not to. The first encounter is the most important. One wrong move and you may not have a second chance. Surely you would not want that to happen. Don’t be hasty. Get familiar and in constant contact without giving yourself away in the process. Be mysterious with the woman you are trying to seduce and throw a line or two while at the same time keep her guessing.
As you move along, activate your seduction techniques at intervals and in sequence. Don’t jumble it up and try to do everything in one go. At times appear courteous and gracious; at another time be a little bit mysterious. And at another time be outgoing and attractive displaying some degree of creativity. This can be followed by the generous act of asking for a simple afternoon lunch in a group or on a one-to-one basis. Have lots of fun while you silently and subtly activate your moves like a chess maestro moving towards checkmate.
Chapter Nine Conversation and Body Language This chapter is included to examine closely the various occasions where you will meet the woman alone or in the company of your other friends. It is not strictly confined to the private dates you will have with the woman alone. As such the topics of the conversation will vary accordingly, depending on where it takes place and who are present. Nevertheless, irrespective of where it takes place and who are present, your basic style and the way you exhibit your involvement through words and positive body language, should be the same. It should project a high respect for the others involved, so much so for the woman you are seducing. Many people just ignore the necessity of developing the fine art of conversation and take it for granted that it doesn’t matter how you carry it out as long as the others involved in the conversation understand what you are saying. That is the main reason why we hear crude and vulgar language being often used in conversation. It is also true that most conversations are just empty gossip without constructive content. It may be all right if you are just passing your time over a cup of coffee in a coffee shop with some friends who wouldn’t care a dime of what is happening and where it happens. I am sure you must have the experience of engaging in an interesting conversation for hours on end and yet you do not realize it has taken that long. You are so engrossed in the conversation that you sometimes even forget an important appointment. Likewise, you may have also joined in a conversation and are very anxious to get out of it as the topics become dull and boring. That being said, I am also now sure that you know the reasons why in one instance you are so engrossed while at another you want to leave at the first opportunity. Conversation is an art that must be mastered if you want to be successful with your audience, if you want people to pay attention to you and keep them glued to their seats. In this seduction exercise, a mastery of the art of conversation is a must if you want your partner glued to her seat paying attention to every word you say. The first rule is to respect the woman, to speak less and listen more. God gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason. Remember the rule, that a social conversation is a conversation and nothing more. It is a two way process if you are alone with the woman; and a multi-involvement process if you are among friends. Right from the outset, you must refrain yourself from turning the conversation into a Sunday sermon or a debating platform or a political arena. These are the common blunders committed by many people who are easily carried by the slightest provocation that suddenly and unexpectedly arises.
During the course of the conversation, sometimes sensitive issues arise that challenge your ego. Do not respond negatively to that. Be proactive; view the situation and suggestions or provocations from the other side of the coin, not from the usual antagonistic side. You may see some arguments that you can agree to. Stay cool and calm. Show that in your body language. Do not react, become fidgety and nervous or unduly provoked and anxious to fight back. The attitude will look too childish and amateurish and will not speak much of your personality. Learn to see other people’s view in parallel and do not impose a stoic and purely judgmental standard of ‘there is one right’ and all others are therefore wrong. Just like you, other people too have their points of view, their assessments and judgments of the various phenomena around. Be gracious and accept their points of view proactively and in parallel to yours. This will not irritate them and soon they will be ever welcome to your presence. During the course of every conversation display the relaxed and comfortable stance of the alpha man. Smile occasionally when something interesting is being said but do not be eager to interrupt and chip in your piece in the subject. You must know when you are welcome to chip in to the conversation. Do not be over anxious to display your knowledge and show that you are more knowledgeable in all subjects well above and over the rest. You may be carried away by the wrong notion that people will highly admire you for your high intelligence. Please be warned that, exhibiting your knowledge at the wrong time and at the wrong place is highly uncalled for. In a conversation, unlike in a debate, everybody wants to feel good and would be annoyed if you drive them into the back seat, and make them feel inferior in the eyes of others. To add insult to injury, in your eagerness to show, there is a very strong tendency to step on the toes of others. There is also a tendency to highlight their stupidity through your tone of voice and body language. If you do that you will definitely break the camel’s back and they will disappear one by one from the scene until you are left alone talking to the wall like a lunatic. When with the woman, just engage in light conversation, taking the cue from the key words she includes in her conversation. If you pay attention closely, you will know what interests her and what topics of conversation is natural to her. Take the cue from there and flow with the conversation. Should you come to terms that she uses and you are not sure what they mean, you can graciously apologize to her and ask for the meaning. It would not be an exhibition of ignorance but you will be passing to her a powerful message that you are paying attention to what she is saying. She will appreciate that and come to a conclusion that you are a good conversation
partner. Turn the conversation into an occasion of joy, devoid of all the trappings of an argument, debate or Sunday sermon. Now when it is your turn to chip in, what are the suitable topics that you can bring in to make it interesting to the woman? It need not be of things that interest women and be about topics of conversations they have among themselves. You can narrate incidents that have a funny twist that happened maybe, during your fishing trip, or visit to an island or during your stay at an island resort. Chances are she might want to hear more, if the incident is similar to the ones she had experienced at one time or another before. If she shows eagerness to relate similar incidents of her own experience, take the opportunity to pass the helm to her. By show of body language show your attentiveness and excitement about the phenomena while comparing its similarity to the one you experienced. Indulging in a conversion about topics of common interests or common experience is always exciting and fun. It might draw a few giggles and light laughter. If that were to happen, don’t hold back. By all means laugh. If she was the one who create the joke, she would be flattered. You can chip in with a similar joke if you like. It would make the encounter even more interesting. Whichever it is, make the conversation as natural and interesting as possible. An air of arrogance, know it all or undue show of superiority is definitely and strongly out of order. Be gracious without being superficial or unnatural. Be cool, calm and collected without being dumb and uninteresting. These should be the motto to observe for a successful and entertaining conversational encounter with the woman you are seducing or with whoever is your conversation partner or partners. If your presence adds color to many a dull conversation and if your contributions make it interesting and joyous, you can bet your last dollar that people will always look forward to having you in their conversational encounters. If you have made a lasting impact and handle your conversation expertly, people will find that something is missing without you at the table or in the room. They might even invite you to join them for lunch, just listen to you and enjoy your fascinating company. There is one fatal conversational blunder you can commit and this is inexcusable. To certain people it has become a habit and hard to erase. There are people who interject their own conversation by the phase; “Believe me, I am telling you the truth.” If you are telling the truth, why act as if you are guilty of doing otherwise. It simply does not add up. I had on a number of occasions been in the company of such a person who intermittently interject his own conversant with the phrase, “I am not lying ….” Over the course of the evening’s conversation you can notice he will use the phrase at least a dozen times until you cannot but notice it.
As one of my friends remarked,” If he is not lying, why does he have to say so?” What prompts him to repeat the phrase over and over again unless he wants to camouflage his lying spree? Whether you want to drive home a point strongly or cover your lying or the inaccuracy of your statement, the use of the phrase alone even for once, not only sounds awkward but is not in line with good conversational practice. In one way you give away your doubts about your own statement. In another you insult the sincerity of the audience. Both ways will never work in your favor and people will think twice before volunteering to sit with you for another conversation. Even if they do, they will be impertinent to what you say. Be sensitive to this habit and never get hooked to the “I am not lying” bad habit because if you do people will quickly brand you as a big liar and quickly exit before you enter. In a conversation, when you are saying something or are trying to put forward a point, your body language speaks volumes about you and the sincerity of your statements. The truth is usually related in a relaxed, non fidgety way. The statements are rather casual yet convincing, expressed in stance of self confidence. Once stated it is not repeated unless requested. Statements presented in a jumbled up manner and a nervous stance are seldom taken seriously. For one thing people hearing you will not have a clue to what you are saying. For another, your voice and body language quickly gives you away as some moron who does not know what he is talking about and is juggling unfounded gossip to make it sound real.
Chapter Ten How to Satisfy Your Lady in Bed Sexuality is an important part of our lives. The desire to love, to give and receive intimacy and affection is integral to every successful relationship. Every man desires to be the alpha male who can win a woman’s adoration and respect on and off the bed! When you talk about sex life, a true gentleman knows how to please his lady between the sheets. The way you made her feel in bed makes the whole world of difference between a fulfilling and joyous relationship and one that is heading towards the rocks! We sometimes hear of women who choose to run away with another lover in spite of having everything else she needs. Often enough it has everything to do with her dissatisfaction with the way her man makes her feel in bed. Thus never disregard the ability to satisfy your lady as an important element to create a long lasting and enduring relationship. Whether you are in a relationship in search of true meaningful love or merely for fun, the ability to satisfy your lady is an indispensable tool in the creation of the true gentleman.
How to Get Your First Kiss If you have been paying attention, you should know by now that all women crave to be with a real man whom she can admire and look up to. Women do not want to be around little boys who whimper up and stutter. The best way to get your first kiss with your woman is to watch her body language. Often you can see from her gestures what she really has in mind and wants. Try to be as close as possible to her. Make eye contact and watch her reaction. If she smiles and has a dreamy look in her eyes, chances are she wants to be kissed! Lean towards her and give her soft gentle kiss on the lips and pull back. If she doesn’t flinch or pull away, this time kiss her deeply and longer. The lips are the most erroneous zone and kissing her in the right way can drive her wild with passion. Now you are ready to explore further and take the relationship to the next level!
Learning the Most Intoxicating Kiss of All French kisses are probably the most sensuous form of kissing in the world. A French kiss is where both partners use the tongues to explore the insides of your partner’s mouth. It creates a thrilling and amazing sensation that will drive you and your partner wild with passion. Before you start kissing your lady make sure you have this checklist with you and ensure that you do not forget anything. • • •
Make sure you have a clean mouth and clean white teeth. No one wants to be kissed by a bad breath male with unsightly teeth! Make regular visits to the dentist and floss your teeth on a regular basis. Remember to relax when kissing your partner. A rigid body will give you away as an inept novice who is just learning to have the first kiss! Open your lips to kiss her.
Get into a good position. If you place your face directly in front of her, your noses will bump into each other. Ideally, move it to one side so that your lips can reach each other comfortably. Tongue Technique Get your tongue inside your partners mouth an inch or two. Circle it around the tip of your lady’s tongue. If she is doing something, you can follow her gesture and do accordingly. Respond to her tongue movements. Tongue technique involves flicking, exploring and light touching. The key is to keep your tongue moving inside her and do not stay still. At this point your lady should be ready to let you do your explorations further. The Primary Erogenous Zones Basically, women have two areas of erogenous zones which can be referred to as a primary and secondary zone. Here is the list of the primary erogenous zones that you want to access to turn her “buttons” on! • • • •
Mouth Nipples Breasts Buttocks
Secondary Erogenous Zones • • • • • • •
the nape of the neck the small of the back inside wrists inside elbows back of knees thigh feet
The way to turn her buttons is to start with her SECONDARY erogenous zones. Soft touches and caressing of her secondary erogenous zones can do miracles to make her ready for more. When you see all the signs that are favorable move your caress to her primary erogenous zones. Kiss and fondle her breasts. Tweak those nipples. Kiss and fondle buttocks. Kiss her nipples then her breasts. Alternate and move very slowly. Play with all her primary erogenous zones. Most women love to be teased so shower her with praises and tease her while you are at it. When you finally reach her genitals place you lips on her clitoris and suck on it steadily. Use your tongue to freely lick around the clitoris in a circular motion. Do it slowly and steadily and this will bring about a powerful orgasm.
Cunnilingus Cunnilingus is a form of foreplay that can bring a lady to levels of pleasure unknown before! In fact cunnilingus can be considered sex without penetration. If initially, your lady is reluctant to have intercourse, this is the perfect way to get her laid without exerting pressure on her for sex. Cunnilingus lets her enjoy the soft caress of your mouth without having to go all the way. Before you start your explorations, there are some facts that you should keep in mind to ensure a smooth and pleasant journey. Moist Her private part consists of millions of nerve endings that are highly sensitive, so be sure to keep them moist before you start dabbling on them with your tongue. If you plan to insert any fingers into her, be sure those moist as well. Use your own saliva or hers. Any dry will pull on her skin and will be extremely uncomfortable for her.
Breathing and Body Movement Her breathing and body movements can let you know her state of arousal at the moment. Sometimes, she may gasp for air or hold her breath. She may lie still, or heave about. The more response you get, the more your attempts to arouse her should continue. Verbal Commands Probably the most welcomed command that every gentleman wants to hear is the wonderful command not to stop! It means you are doing the right thing and you should not stop whatever you are doing! When done correctly cunnilingus can give your lady a new form of enjoyment that will bring you closer together and share new heights of pleasure never known before. Take it Slow Women love to be pampered and caressed so do remember to take it real slow. Make her feel loved and wanted, and she will stick with you long after those lovemaking sessions are over.
Biggest Mistakes Men Make in Bed Snore after Sex After you’ve popped your cork, the worse thing you can do is to roll over and snore! Women hate the idea of being used just for their body, so be sure to caress her and whisper a soft loving word even AFTER sex so she will feel appreciated. Premature Ejaculation This is one of the most embarrassing things that can happen when you are making love to your lady. One or twice is considered normal, and you can explain it away by your amazement at your lady’s beauty and sex appeal. However, if this happens every time, then you are in for some trouble. After all, if you fail to satisfy HER, why should she continue to have sex with you? If this occurrence occurs too many times, visit your doctor and get yourself some help. Too Much of a Good Thing If you have heard of multiple orgasms, do not misuse this to think that you have to make your lady orgasm for ten to fifteen times! If you make this your primary
goal, chances are she will be so burnt out and you will never have a chance to touch her again for the next two weeks. Seriously prolonged sexual intercourse can cause a woman’s delicate private parts to become irritated.
The Ten Commandments of Great Lovemaking Take it Slow Guys, remember that good sex isn’t a race to see who finish first. The biggest pleasure for you may be the climax at the end, but for women there is pleasure all the while during the making of the course. So forget about the finishing fast if you really want to impress her. Emotional Intimacy Emotional intimacy is the essence to great lovemaking. Take time to share your desires and intimacies. Talk about what turns you on and what turns you off. Get her to open up and tell her about her own hot buttons as well. Be responsive If you think going at it like a jackhammer is going to score you points with your lady, you are damn mistaken. Women do not relish the thought of a man who is out there solely for his own purpose. Learn to be responsive and sensitive to the lady’s needs. The big 'O' Very rarely do a woman orgasm through the penetration of the man’s penis into her vagina. A woman’s orgasm is more likely to come from stimulation to her most sensitive parts such as the clitoris - the bump located at the top of her vagina. So it takes a lot of yummy foreplay on your part. Her Likes If your lady doesn’t know what she likes, then it is going to be difficult for you to figure out what to do to please her in bed. Ideally encourage her to explore on her own and find out what are her own likes and dislikes.
Find the Right Moment To have a great lovemaking session, find a nice time to get into the mood for love. If your lady is having a bad day or is tired after a hard days work, don’t expect her to have a energetic time on the bed. Exercise Always make the effort to stay in shape. Maintain a good exercise routine. Both diet and exercise have a big influence on how you will perform in bed. If you want to make impression between the sheets, take the steps to inculcate a good exercise routine and maintain a healthy diet. Don’t Leave your Stomach Empty Sex is undoubtedly a strenuous physical routine, so your body will need to draw upon its reserves of energy. Get yourself a nice supply of energy supplying carbohydrates such as pasta, rice bread and such before you engage in such activities. It helps you to gain that extra energy without being burnt out prematurely. Change positions Forget the missionary position as the only form of lovemaking. Get hold of a good sex guide books that will introduce you to a whole world of sexual positions that can amaze your partner. Vary the place and the time too. A little surprise here and there can do wonders to spice up your erotic journey. Bring romance This is the magic word that can light up your lady’s heart and mind. Women love romantic men who know how to treat a lady. Surprise her with love notes, flowers and thoughtful gifts. You will reap the rewards when you hit the sack.
Chapter Eleven Final Thoughts As society makes a quantum leap in development and social cultures take on a new face, everyone must be prepared to make positive and effective paradigm shifts in the direction and speed parallel to the advances made in social thinking and social demands of our current society and in preparation for the ever changing social paradigms of the future. In the past it was not obviously felt that in order to woo a woman, we need elaborate techniques of seduction to master and practice. Perhaps the common practice or parental arranged marriages had widely contributed to this or perhaps childhood friendship bonds carried through to adulthood and landed in marriage. There were not much stories of jilted lovers to tell. Another reason perhaps was the calm and socially controlled society that helps to subdue situations where it was necessary to seduce woman in order to possess her. Social mores, folkways and norms were by and large well observed. Men and women did mingle together and in the process entangled with one another but it was considered taboo to upset the social order. With the changing social paradigms of today, society has become very open both in their approach and interpretations of social mores, folkways and norms and also in their responses to social upsets. The woman of today demands that she be unequivocally noticed and respected. She now carries an air of self confidence and high self esteem that she cannot be taken for granted any more. By and large the woman of today are educated and well informed of the world around. Gone are the days where the naive country girl can be conned into agreeing with anything sweet men say to her. With women of today, should you entertain any notion of getting close to them for any kind of relationship whatsoever, you will have to serious, be prepared and be knowledgeable about them. You can’t take them for granted anymore. In the light of these new developments in social relations, especially with reference to women, every man will have to be armed with the right tools of social relationship if he wants to succeed with women. Perhaps, every man born, unless he is a moron, is equipped with a built-in skill of seduction. Even a school child knows how to seduce the opposite sex by offering ice-cream or comic books. There is no argument on this but what we are inborn with, which was adequate in the society of yesterday, is not of much use today. In situations where the man and woman had grown up together and had known each other and had taken to each
other since childhood or since school days or college days for that matter, it may look effective. For new encounters between strangers you need a much more sophisticated weapon than that belonging to the simple country Joe. To seduce a woman, you must learn to seduce the woman. Sounds odd huh? To be successful in your endeavor to win over the attention and eventual submission of the woman, you need a careful designed art of seduction. Don’t go to the modern war carrying a musket. You will not last ten yards. Look up the appropriate weapons to carry in the light of your adversary’s strong defenses. Learn, absorb, understand and apply the techniques of the art of seducing a woman. Implement them with pin point precision and accuracy when the time comes for your encounter with a woman that you want to seduce. Be confident of success every time and don’t take the first ‘no’ from the woman as final. It may just be a test to find out what metal you are made of. Go for it with the weapons in your hands and the passion and drive of Alexander the Great in your quest to conquer and overcome the woman. Nothing could be better. Granted, we do keep on hearing stories of failure with women but those pathetic episodes are only the exception to the rule. Only pathetic men emerge pathetically from encounters with women. Men who have no prior preparation; and who are in the habit of assuming that seducing women is a piece of cake, will end up as discarded pieces of cake themselves. There are also the arrogant who thinks that position, power and money alone would bring women to their knees begging to be seduced. These men are in for many surprises; among them is the cold shoulder. Contrary to their assumption that women will chase them like the forenoon shadows. They will find no shadow at all to chase, not because the shadow has blended in the high noon sun, but because there is no shadow at all in the dark of the night. Self-styled woman slaves are another group of men not versed in the art of seduction. Using their inborn tendency to seduce women, they make wrong assumptions that women can be seduced by stooping low by succumbing to all their demands, whims and desires. These men may look to be all right outwardly but in reality they are being manipulated and used by women for their opportunistic ends. Women are definitely not attracted to such wussies but they definitely enjoy riding the mule rather than walking the mile. In every step you make, the woman watches. With every twitch of your body language, the woman reads. With every word you utter, the woman interprets. If you want to have any chance at all with women, be cautious with your moves; make it mysterious and difficult to predict like the moves of an experienced chess maestro. Handling and seducing women is not much different from the game of chess itself. If you want to win the game, every move of the opponent and your replies must be calculated with pin-point accuracy until it culminates in checkmate.
To be successful in the exercise, you must thoroughly learn the art of how to seduce a woman, the modern knowledgeable and outgoing woman, very much divorced in character as compared to the naive country girl of yesterday. Once you have mastered the art, you must have a powerful self image with a high self esteem that goes with it. Truck loads of knowledge alone is not good enough just as a fantastic array of modern sophisticated weapons alone will not win a war. The knowledge and weapons require men of equal sophistication and will power to handle it. If all you have is a collection of techniques of how to seduce a woman, but have a low self image and self esteem that keep burying your self confidence, you had better stay at home worshiping ceilings than go out to seduce the woman. The woman will swallow you alive. Thus a powerful self image and high self esteem to boost your confidence is vital to possess. This will give you a strong unwavering stance in the eventualities of whatever onslaught that may be coming. It will also make you walk tall without being arrogant, gracious without being over accommodating and irresistible without being repulsive. Those are the characters that women look for in a man. It is imperative that you inculcate, develop and nurture those characteristics if you want to be revered and always sought after by women. A vital character you must develop is one of high integrity and honesty. I am not referring to the terms integrity and honesty per say but arbitrary concepts that may be interpreted relevant to the purpose of the seduction itself and the circumstances that provoke the interpretation. A man of integrity is honest in his dealings and says in no uncertain terms the purpose of his relationship and plays his role accordingly. He is honest and will not hide behind a veil of lies and deceit to reveal a point, even if it is not to his advantage. He is more concerned in revealing the truth and makes forward moves to avoid unnecessary misinterpretations and misunderstandings. Although the truth sometimes does lead to disappointments, in the long run women admire the man for being candid. Nowadays men generally play games of hide and seek with women, if you play this role well, women might even vote you as the woman’s man of the year. If you do not have that trait in you, go an extra mile to inculcate, nurture and develop this beautiful character in you. It will take you a long way in your relationship, who will be spell bound by the candidness of your actions. For all you know, they may make you their role model. If you are lost in this respect and just haven’t a clue on how to carry yourself with integrity and honesty, it is high time you look for a role model, a man who is very comfortable in the company of women and to whom women are prepared to cling like a king crab. Stay close to him. Watch his every move and maneuvers, how he approaches and entertains women and what he usually talks about in the company of women and above all what is that extra magic and charm that he displays to make women madly attracted to him.
Talk to him and learn the secret from him. He will tell you the secret, whatever it is because he has nothing to lose and is also not fearful of losing his admirers to you. Be honest with him, and there is no shame to say you are a novice in this art of seduction. There is no way he will look down upon you or insult you. At most he might smile and say you are being modest and add that he would not know if what he does suits you. He might say, “I can’t promise you anything; whether it will work for you or not but let’s try this for a start.” One thing is sure, he will respect you for thinking highly of him and would volunteer a lot of his time talking about women. You will be able to pick up a couple of valuable tips in the process and become the wiser in the art of seducing a woman by gradually, confidently and surely exhibiting the traits of integrity and honesty yourself. In going all out to seduce a woman, it would also help if you are aware that there is a game of seduction and counter seduction going on out there, where men and women move freely in clubs, associations, charity groups or social organizations of whatever nature. Politics is also not out of the reckoning. Where you find men and women mingling around freely, seduction and counter seduction has become a game and to some, it has become more of a hobby than anything serious. When two people of the opposite sex play this game in congruence, the outcome is always easy, as expected and the relationship warm and pleasant. As no strings are involved and nobody expects anything more than mere companionship, it becomes simple like a game of bowling or tennis to enjoy as a pastime. As you enter the fray, be aware of these phenomena so that you will not be caught on the wrong foot and trip on the slippery floor of seduction and counter seduction. While others play the game for fun, you are dead serious and ultimately end up frustrated and disappointed. While you really think that the fish is already in the net, what you later find is that it was only a drift wood. While you are going for a life long relationship with a lady you admire, you later find out that she was doing it only for the fun of the game, with nothing serious in mind. I am not discouraging you on this score but warn you to be careful. I am also not saying that there is no one seeking real life relationships. There are many who are serious. By all means go out into the crowd. Mingle and experience the warmth of everyone. Identify your target accurately and home in with all the weapons in your arsenal. Even if you end up being seduced yourself by women looking for the fun of the game, you have nothing to lose. The moment you find that out, adjust yourself to the dictates of the game and follow closely the rules of the playing field. You will like the fun and privilege yourself. Why not? You will increase your circle of women friends and have the best opportunity to learn more about them. As long as you are not the succumbing wussy or the pathetic sick, lame horse, and do not become over emotional with your relationships, you are on good grounds. Be a natural and not over reactive about anything. If you are handed a pair of slippers that are slightly too small or slightly
too big, don’t discard them. Wear them until you find a pair that fits. Life is short. Do not be too fussy about trivialities. Be realistic and enjoy yourself. When in the company of women, while they are watching your every move, you should also realize that your silence, your movements, your words and your body language speaks volumes about you and who you are. Your body language will easily give you away and reveal whether you are a confident person or are nervous or jittery in the present of women. Your hands and legs are the biggest culprits but if you know how to tame them, they can become your best allies. If you keep shuffling your legs and move your hands and fingers around fidgeting with key chains or headphones, it reveals that you are nervous and have a lack of self control and self confidence. Your self esteem is at low ebb. If you interspersed your conversations by intermittently looking at the time on your watch, it will reveal your uneasiness with the situation. It would be inexcusable and intolerable if you do that while another person is talking. If you do all this in the presence of a woman, she will interpret them as a sign of a lack of interest in her company or sheer impertinence. For sure she knows that you are nervous, jittery and lack self confidence. On all counts you are out. Women never respect a man without a backbone because she can predict that he would fall to the ground the very instant she leans on him. Watch and be aware of you body language as you speak. Some men, in an effort to drive home a point, bulge their eyes when they speak and keep flinging their hands around. Be careful with your hands because you might inadvertently hit someone around or knock some glasses off the table. This would be very embarrassing, not so much for you if you are so attuned to this negative body language but it would be definitely embarrassing to the woman. I once noticed a man stand up with arms flinging and eyes bulging to drive home a point. He is so excited and attempts to convince people that he is telling the gospel truth, when actually he is telling his usual lies. There is no sense in this. Remember that you can fool some of the people all the time or all of the people some of the times but you can’t fool all the people all the time. Lies are easily detected irrespective of how you put them forward. The more unnatural the way they are being related, the more loud and clear they are revealed. If you do not know how to take control of your body language, start learning now. If you keep bulging your eyes when you want to be forceful, keep those eyes on normal stance. Don’t stand up as you speak. Even Hitler spoke sitting down while on a normal conversation. Don’t fling your arms around or rolls your tongue or shake your head as you speak. You look awful with that kind of body language. Speak naturally. Just rely solely on the proper intonation of your voice and the power of the words spoken to put forward an idea or to drive home a point. Remember you are not on a political campaign platform and you are not leading a demonstration to ask for a pay rise or to topple a government either. Neither are you frantically selling snake oil on the footpaths of a busy marker place.
You are simply engaged in a friendly social conversation among friends and perhaps with a lady or two in your presence. The silent demands for good manners and adherence to acceptable social etiquettes are high. Don’t make a fool of yourself and above all don’t embarrass the very woman you are out to seduce. If you are not careful and do that, you must be prepared to stare at empty walls. Watch your body language. It is vital for your success not only with the woman you are seducing but also with friends and society as a whole. Some people are so repulsive with their body language; with insulting mimics of the face and twisted chins that you feel like wanting to spray machine gun bullets at them perpetually. If you can’t tolerate such people, how do you think the woman will? Some people feel that they are playing the Rambo role by being aggressive and abusive or perhaps they feel they are Genghis Khan or both. Women will not fall for such characters at the conversation table. If by acting that way a man can feel that they are manly and powerful, then they are at the wrong place at the wrong time. Such people are not welcome in friendly joyful conversations. Such men perhaps are in demand in the war against terrorism. Otherwise they can be useful to look after lions at the zoo. Never act the way they do and subject yourself and the woman you are seducing to embarrassment. Women will never forgive you. What they want and admire are men who are forceful and assertive but not uncultured, unethical and repulsive. What they want are men who are subtly strong and powerful, who are soft spoken but convincing and who have a high respect for the company he is with and take every step to ensure that he does not embarrass the woman he is seducing. These are the attributes that you must inculcate and culture. The subject of seduction is very fascinating and opens up great opportunities for everyone to be creative. The methods of seduction are endless and if we care to examine the techniques used through the ages, we can fill volumes of literature on seduction that qualify Stanford University to start a department in the field of study and offer it as an option and for post graduates to do further research and develop new creative and interesting strategies and tactics of seduction. Let me show you a technique you can use to seduce a woman. This is not the only technique you can use. However, it is good for you to know, learn and perhaps experiment with. I call it the subtle, invisible and evasive technique. In this technique, throughout the interlude, the man does not mention by word of mouth that he is interested in the woman. He doesn’t even invite her on a oneon-date or outings. He moves with a group but never leaving the woman out of the company. Although he doesn’t mention he is interested in the woman, he subtly exhibits it through his actions and simple statements he makes during light conversations. He makes the woman somehow feel that he is interested in her and wants to have her but keeps good distance to make her keep on guessing.
The strength of this technique is in the suspense and guessing about what is coming next. In the subtle invisible, the woman is not approached outright. Through invitations to evenings with friends, her company is solicited. During conversations over lunch, no direct effort is made to make it obvious that the woman is being silently and gradually seduced. Here the power of seduction lies in the use of subtle body language, like sitting next to the woman, pouring tea into her cup while doing the same to others so as not to make it obvious. An occasional nod of approval at what she says and a couple of glances and smiles are used to transmit silent invisible vibrations to send subconscious messages to her. The opportunity of implementing this technique is again wide open in the process of sending the group home. Be sure to send the woman last and send the others home first. If her residence is the nearest it should not be a problem. In fact the technique will work like a hand in glove. Since she naturally expect to be the first to be sent home, prove it wrong by making a detour to send the woman last. There is a silent and powerful message in this. Although she may have got the message, it was not so loud and clear. It is just enough to maintain the suspense if you take good care not to do or say anything more than ‘Good night and thank you for the evening,” before you drive off. That would further send additional positive vibrations in your favor. Just by taking her home last and by saying good bye and thanks for the evening is satisfactory enough to create an impact. The very act of sending her home last speaks volumes about you. By not being obvious like inviting her to a date on one-to-one basis even though you have the opportunity to do so, you are just being subtle in your seduction approach. By activating all the other seduction techniques short of telling her that you would like to be with her alone, you will be effectively sending invisible vibrations to make her feel attracted to you, but is not sure whether you have the reciprocal feelings. Once in a while invite her and a group of friends to play caroms or go bowling. Never mind the outcome of the game. Laugh and have fun. If she hits a score, compliment and congratulate. On another day you can all also go for a boat ride. At these group encounters keep activating your techniques of seduction that will make her more and more attracted to you. When the climax is building and you see it is obvious she is beginning to find you fascinating and like your company, you can disappear for a number of days. Do not reveal to anyone where you are going because it will cause your ploy to lose impact once they know where you are and for how many days you will be missing. Make the disappearance mysterious. Just disappear and go somewhere none of your friends can trace you. Perhaps it is time you visit a relative in a remote area which you have not visited for a long time. Remember to turn off your cell phone too so that nobody can contact you. Play on her emotions and keep her guessing for some time until you see the cue that she is ready to be
seduced outright. Then move in for the kill. If you do it right, this technique is a super killer. No one likes a smart Alec or know it all. The know it all are people who always exhibit a repulsive attitude of claiming they know everything about a subject. They will always jump ahead on any topic from catching fireflies to the latest Alien grammar. They claim to know everything, and in their attempt to show off, they expose their ignorance and repulsiveness. These people actually have a high degree of inferiority complex. They will always want to dominate and exert themselves in any conversation. You talk about prawn fishing, they are there. You change the topic to the new education policy, they will be there. You change the topic to the Iranian nuclear dilemma; they will tell you the latest development that they pretend to know. You may want to evade with a topic like the latest technique of accelerated learning, they will be there hot on your conversation trail. You can’t seem to leave these people stranded to the extent that if you talk about the pyramid, they will cook up some imaginary names and say these are the main people responsible in the initial stages of the design. Once they take the stage, you are finished. They will perpetually dominate the stage with all kinds of talk and claim they are experts on the subjects. These types of professors are the most irritating around and people will quietly pull themselves away the moment they catch a glimpse of their shadow. Yet, what is strange is that, as repulsive as the attitudes are, many people seem to have inculcated the trait either in part or as a whole. The appalling thing is that these people become more articulate in the presence of the opposite sex, to show off that there is nothing in this world that they do not know. If you aim to be successful in the art of seducing a woman, observe these people and assess the repulsiveness of their actions, so that you will not yourself be guilty of committing this unacceptable act with women. If you do, it will only be you who think you are superb and are a woman’s man. Little will you realize that at the same time the woman will be designing ways of disappearing from around you. Empty drums make the most noise. The assertion is always true. People who know very little about anything will always resort to cover their weaknesses by belittling others and in the process they feel good. They feel they are great and people look up to them as an authority figures. No one likes a smart Alec or knows-all. These people may have a big circle of friends in the beginning but slowly the size will dwindle as people see their true colors. The trouble is that these people never give up. Once the original circle of friends disappears, they move on to join another group. These people will stay long if they find that the new group consists of people donning the same feathers as theirs. Those of different feathers will fall out as victims of this social conversational abuse.
You may have come across these people in the course of your social encounters with all kinds of people. I am sure you know your own feelings about these people. Never make these people your role models. If you carry a smart Alec attitude in your interactions with the woman you are seducing and happen to belittle her in your vain attempt to show off, then you bid farewell to your chances of success with her. And if you persist in this indulgence, you will soon have only walls to talk to, except at occasional bouts of “knows-all and smart Alecs” gatherings. This is something serious that you should take note earlier in the day to avoid making stupid blunders with women. If anything at all, avoid this blunder. Let me share with you a little secret in the art of successful social relationship. If you can carry this out in your relationships with women, especially the woman you are seducing, this formula will work like magic and you will come out victorious every time. What is so special about this formula? It is special because it is based on simple common sense yet grossly overlooked by the majority of people. It is applicable in every sphere of life just as it is applicable in your relationships with women, especially the woman you are seducing. The discourses in the art of how to seduce a woman will be incomplete if this common sense of human relationship is omitted or ignored. Let me ask you a question. If you are the woman that is being seduced, what kind of a man would fascinate and attract you? How would you like the man to treat you? Answer these two questions truthfully and you will know the secret. If you want to be successful with the woman you are seducing, be the man you yourself would like to be with if you were in the woman’s place. Treat the woman the way you would have liked to be treated. Do not forget this point I am sharing with you and always design your approaches along these lines. Treat her the way you would like to be treated if you were in her place. Treat her with respect and never belittle her in all your interactions with her, even in the most unimaginable of circumstances. Be a woman’s man, strong, dignified, honest and trustworthy with a large spray of creativity and ingenuity. By being this man, you are opening up the doorways to seduce a woman successfully.
