HOW TO GET ALL THE GIRLS YOU WANT!
by ARTHUR GORDON
The Brenwood Publishing Company P.O. Box 1661• Lancaster, PA 17608 © 2001 ARTHUR GORDON CARR JR. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED UNDER INTERNATIONAL AND PAN-AMERICAN COPYRIGHT CONVENTIONS. PUBLISHED IN THE UNITED STATES BY THE BRENWOOD PUBLISHING COMPANY, P.O. BOX 1661, LANCASTER, PA 17608.
TABLE OF CONTENTS CHAPTER 1 2 3 4 5 6 7
SECTION ONE INTRODUCTIONS A: WHO I AM INTRODUCTIONS B: WHO YOU ARE THE FOUNDATION OF ALL SUCCESS NOTHING TO FEAR – BUT FEAR ITSELF BUILDING SELF-CONFIDENCE THRU PPSP NOW IS THE TIME! IMAGE BUILDERS SECTION TWO
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
THE CREATURE CALLED WOMAN DEFINING YOUR OPPONENT THE HO THE FREAK THE GOOD GIRL THE BASIC STRATEGY GETTING YOUR “FEET” WET SECTION THREE
1 2 3 4 5 6 7
THE GARDEN OF EDEN THE ONLY WAY TO CONTROL A WOMAN THE EYES OF A WOMAN THE EARS OF A WOMAN A WOMAN’S SENSE OF SMELL A WOMAN’S SENSE OF TOUCH A WOMAN’S SENSE OF TASTE CONCLUSION GET ALL THE GIRLS YOU WANT II: ADVANCED STRATEGY
SECTION ONE CHAPTER ONE Introductions A: Who I Am My name is Arthur Gordon. The exact person - what I look like and talk like, how old I am and where I live - are unimportant in relation to the topic of this volume, How To Get All the Girls You Want. There is nothing extraordinary about me personally. But there is something that I have grown to feel very strongly about over the years that has had the end result of making me very effective with obtaining, handling and controlling women, beautiful women, of all shapes and sizes and colors. I felt so strongly about it in fact, that I decided to write a book. Aside from the obvious fact that I will make money for doing so, I will receive the satisfaction of getting across a strongly-held point of view, a point of view that too many males in today's society have not been made aware of as an option for them to have. Back in the 1960's, a legal movement headed primarily by feminist organizations was undertaken in this country to make women the exact equal to men in every respect: legally, economically and socially. And while I very much agree that the personhood of every individual should have equal status in the eyes of the law with respect to such things as the right to receive the same pay for doing the same job, the right not to be discriminated against in housing and as a consumer, etc. (but I do NOT think women should have been given the right to vote!) it is, however, a fundamental fact of nature that males and females are biologically different entities of the humanoid species. I also believe that the hormone level and chemical concentrations, not to mention the vagina of a female and the penis of a male show and demonstrate that men and women never were, are not now and never will be "equal". Hormone levels and chemical reactions in the brain have been proven by science to have a direct bearing on the emotional and psychological make-up of a human being. No amount of legislation on earth will ever change that fact. Women are made, in my opinion, a certain way and should act in the manner that is their nature. (And the same goes for men.) But women have been increasingly brainwashed to believe that having a man's attitude is the thing to do in today's society. And men have been taught to downplay the "macho" side of their personality, and instead be "warm, sensitive, caring, softer, understanding," etc. There is nothing wrong with any of the above, but NOT AT THE EXPENSE OF
LOSING YOUR MANHOOD! Retaining the natural male aggressiveness makes these emotions even more appealing when they are revealed to a woman. But today's media is not teaching you that. And what has been lost is the natural male-female interaction based on the "caveman" premise of the male being strong and dominant, protector and provider, choosing and taking his desired female, and that female then providing for the man's needs and taking care of their "cave". Women's groups have ridiculed this image, calling it primitive, using the catch phrases "this is the 70's" or "this is the 80's" or, "this is the 90's" or "this is the new Millenium". So What?! I count a maximum of 40 years. The basic premise of a man being a MAN and a woman being a WOMAN goes back thousands of years, to those very same "caveman" days. As a matter of fact, that is what allowed the human race to survive to make it out of those times: man's basic behavioral patterns. But, since World War II, when by necessity woman left the home to enter the workplace, women have become increasingly independent of men. By taking on the traditional man's role of provider, by earning her own money and being able to buy her own things and her own car, she then became her own boss, no longer subservient to the man, no longer needing a man to provide for her. Now, not only could she have and do everything a man could, and be equal to him, she also still had the natural advantage God had given woman - her vagina, which, in a sexual connotation, is often called "pussy". You've heard the joke that the one rejected male told the other poor sap-" Women. They've got half the money in the world and all the pussy." (My use of the word "pussy" is not meant to be offensive. It is, however, meant to be exact. But, so as not to offend, when the sexual nature of a woman's vagina needs to be referred to in order to emphasize a point, the word "cat" will be used in its place.) I have been accused by women's groups of being "a male chauvinist (pig)". I have been called "old-fashioned" and "puritanical". For the record, I am not a male chauvinist (pig). As I said, I believe in the personhood of every woman. Although I don't believe they should have been given the right to vote, I believe same pay same job, etc. I don't believe that just because I'm a man I am better than any woman. I don't look down my nose at women's thoughts or ideas. But I am old-fashioned. And what's wrong with that? Old-fashioned ideas, we increasingly realize, usually work better than today's "modern" approach. Puritanical is an interesting word choice. It touches upon the religious aspect of this issue. Woman's groups have been especially active in attempting to obscure the traditional Biblical point of view. They have even gone so far as to make a non-gender Bible and get it instituted for use in several denominations. This is the height of arrogance and brazenness. The Bible has been in existence for thousands of years. The Bible is the cornerstone of Western Civilization. The Bible
provided the basis for the Judeo-Christian legal system. The Bible has been considered for centuries as the Word of God. Can you think of any other book that has had such a tremendous influence on mankind? But feminists want to use a sanitized Bible to further their aim of a unisex society. Having read the Bible from cover to cover, as you are supposed to read a book, gave me much insight on the creation called woman. The knowledge contained in the Bible about women is fundamental to the theory behind the method that I have outlined for you in this book. I don't blame feminists for wanting to change the Bible. And as we go along, you'll see why too. This is why I say who I personally am is unimportant, but what I believe is important to you. The theories I advance are rooted in the timeless truths of the Bible, and those truths will be here long after the shrill voices of the feminists have faded into obscurity.
CHAPTER TWO Introductions B: Who You Are The total number of copies of this book sold is expected to eventually number in the hundreds of thousands. There are, therefore, a whole lot of "you"'s when I pause to consider who you, the reader, are. And it's also a fact that you and I will probably never meet face-to-face, so I will not have the pleasure of meeting the unique individual that is You on a personal basis in order to form an opinion of who You are. But, I do know all I need to know about you to know that you indeed can have All The Girls You Want. Using the power of deductive reasoning this is what I can summarize about You based on the premise that you bought (or borrowed from someone who bought) this book. Starting point: this book is about How To Get All The Girls You Want. Assuming you are male, you therefore either (A) do NOT have All The Girls You Want, or maybe not even any of the Girls You Want, or maybe not even a girl at all, or (B) you DO have All The Girls You Want and you just wanted to spend your perfectly good, green money to see if I had it right. Well, either way you look at it, congratulations are in order. Lets take category (B) first; if you do have All The Girls You Want, congratulations! You will see exactly why you do, as you continue to read this book, if you do not know why already. If you Have All The Girls You Want AND know exactly why you do, you must be thinking about writing a similar book (assuming that you're smart enough not to spend money and time to read about something you already know all about), and you wanted to see what the competition had to say. Well, after you've read this book, you'll realize that this is indeed the definitive, in-depth look at the subject, the standard by which all other books before and after will be judged, and an effort on your part to try and write and have published something similar is doomed to failure, both personal and financial. Okay? Okay. I'm
glad we have that misconception on your part straightened out. Just kidding. Come on in, the water's fine! Also, I know (C) wasn't a category, but if it were, it would be that you are female and you just wanted to see what was going on. Be my guest, but keep in mind the fact that I cannot be held responsible for offending you by speaking frankly and honestly to my male compatriots in my effort to lay bare the truth of the actions and characteristics of your sex for them to understand and act accordingly upon. All feminist group hate letters please address to my publisher's office. Thank you. For those of you who fit category (A), congratulations for having the initiative to take a step towards solving your problem of not having All The Girls You Want. I now know two thing about you: you have (1) the desire, and (2) the initiative to act upon that desire. YOU HAVE ALL YOU NEED TO SUCCEED! I will provide the specific howto. Let me repeat the two things I know about you. 1 - you have Desire. The definition of desire is "a conscious impulse toward an object or experience that promises enjoyment of satisfaction in its attainment". That sure hits the nail on the head, doesn't it? There are few things that promise more enjoyment or satisfaction when attained than a willing female. And the good thing about Desire is that you don't have to have a lot of it to start out with, because the more you keep it on your mind, the more it grows! And the more it grows the more it stays on your mind. More on this shortly. 2- You have the initiative to ACT. This is the first level of separation between those who will always long for a beautiful girl or two to spend an enchanted evening with and those who will be able to tell you what spending an enchanted evening with a beautiful girl is like, because they've gone ahead and done so. Fear - fear of rejection, fear of failure -is the biggest stumbling block in the attempted pursuit of the opposite sex. I'll show you how to use judo on your fear - taking the force directed at you and redirecting it to achieve your goal - in Chapter 4. You are now going to get an unadvertised bonus you didn't anticipate receiving when you started to read this book. And guess what. What, you say? This is what: this unadvertised bonus is more valuable than the knowledge of How To Get All The Girls You Want! Actually, the knowledge of How To Get All The Girls You Want is part of learning the Overall Truth I'm going to tell you about. And I'll let you in on a secret: having All The Girls You Want, all the time, day in, day out, year in, year out gets a little boring and sometimes bothersome. Girls calling you all the time, wanting to be with you, throwing themselves at you for you to do what you will with their sweet, luscious bodies...ho hum...(Granted, it is a better problem to have than not having any girls at all, but success has a tendency to spoil you if you're not careful.)
This Truth is the thing that helps to keep having All The Girls You Want in proper perspective, and adds excitement to your existence. The Bonus I'm going to give you is The Key. I'm going to give you The Key...to Success In All The Areas Of Your Life...for the Rest of your Life!
CHAPTER THREE The Foundation of All Success Positive belief in your manhood - strengthened by knowledge and tempered by experience - generates Self-Confidence, which gives the power to act like a Man, and the ability to achieve goals by GOING AFTER WHAT YOU WANT. The knowledge, wisdom, and understanding that a man accumulates during his lifetime comes piece by piece, bit by bit, as a man's internal theory of how to live life is turned daily into reality by action, or inaction, resulting in Experience, whether that experience is pleasurable or not. There is a great deal of truth to the saying "there is no substitute for experience, no G.E.D. for a diploma from the school of hard knocks". You can have all the paper knowledge and theoretical knowledge in the world; it is to no avail unless it is tried, tested and found to be True and Sound. Let's use the world of sports to provide a comparison to illustrate the point. A player, in his first season, is called a rookie. There is nothing derogatory in being a rookie, but it is not a desired state of existence or level of skill past that first year. If you're into your second and third year and still are playing like a rookie, then being called one is derogatory and your career is in trouble. There is, however a difference in playing like a rookie that second year and experiencing the "Sophomore Jinx". The Sophomore Jinx is when that second year for some reason seems harder than the first. This is a common occurrence when the player must learn new skills necessary to perform at the higher level of competition. Good, sound fundamentals must be established to insure consistent performance, as opposed to a way of doing things that may be initially effective, but cannot be relied upon to be consistently effective. It is not going to do you any good to be able to "pull" one beautiful girl, have things good for awhile and then you go your separate ways, and you not be able to do it again because you don't know exactly how you were able to do it in the first place. And if you don't have the confidence of that knowledge it affects how you handle the girl you're with at the time, because you can't maintain your manhood if you have to cling to her for fear of not being able to replace her. You want her to cling to you because she's afraid of getting replaced. Because she knows you know how. So, you can see the need to give you good, sound fundamentals as
opposed to gimmicks to attract women. And you may experience the Sophomore Jinx as you learn these new principals. But this is where the word Perseverance needs to come into full effect. (To persevere means to continue steadfastly in spite of counter influences, opposition or discouragement.) And if you are able to do that - persevere - oh, that third year! Maturity begins to set in, and the foundation, if the player has received proper instruction and the necessary degree of actual playing time, is in place for a productive career. Each subsequent year adds to the reservoir of experiences the player has, and after a while, he's "seen it all" and can now "do it all". He is now an experienced, or seasoned, veteran. And it shows in his game. Your progress, if you assimilate and decide to put into play the theories of this book, will be the same. After this book is read, you will have theoretical knowledge that will enable you to attain your goal of having All The Girls You Want. Your attitude toward that knowledge will decide whether or not you succeed. And your ATTITUDE is the starting point of building the proper mental foundation for success - not just with girls but in life. You must have the attitude of success in order to look for success, in order to achieve success. Let me stress that: the starting point of success is your ATTITUDE, plain and simple. Your ATTITUDE. As a matter-of-fact, your attitude towards anything that is outside of your physical body can be determined by you and how you act towards it, thereby determining to a great degree how it reacts to your action. Whether it is a situation or a person, you determine the outcome of the interaction by your action! Don't miss the heaviness of this truth. Basic Example. A person you know says hello to you. You, in return, slap them silly; the taste comes out of their mouth. Before the physical act of your hand impacting with their cheekbone, you had to mentally determine what you were going to do. "I just reacted" you say? No, there is no such thing as a purely physical reaction. The mind makes lightning-fast decisions. The decision to slap was made by your brain, which took an evaluation of your pre-set attitude towards the subject at hand. A simple comparison of your brain's functioning is to the scan feature on today's electronic car radios. A button is pressed, and a pre-selected station is automatically tuned in. So, your pre-set attitude determined your reaction. You obviously had a bad attitude toward the person that you slapped. Now, imagine that right after the above incident someone else you know sees you and says hello. You, in return, smile pleasantly and return the greeting. You obviously have a pleasant attitude pre-set towards the second party. In both situations, the attitude preceded the action. But here is the final link in the
chain: preceding the attitude was the conscious exercising of Will in allowing the pre-set attitude to exist and be the basis for the action. In other words, your attitude determines your action. But what makes the attitude is the conscious exercising of your will. You have the ability to choose your attitude. You have the ability to "snap out" of a bad mood, right? You also have the ability to snap out of a negative pre-set attitude towards your ability to succeed - whether that is with women or other goals in life. You have the ability by exercising your will to "snap into" a positive attitude! And once the proper attitude is pre-set, your actions will come forth from that basis. You can literally think your way to success by programming yourself for it! All you have to do is program your base attitude of Self-Confidence in order for your actions to come across as that of a Man with Total Self-Confidence. And that's how they'll be perceived. And in turn, your Self-Confidence level is further reinforced, giving you the ability to attempt to do bigger and better things - or go after sexier and more beautiful women. Sometimes people are unable to grasp an important Truth because it is so simple. They feel "there just has to be more to it than that." There usually isn't "more to it than that"; the difficulty comes in keeping the process simple. And by not realizing how simple it really is, they proceed to complicate the solution to a problem, or actually create a problem of an obstacle when there really wasn't much of one to begin with. It's just this simple: Man's conscious will, his freedom to choose a course of action, is his alone; man has the complete and absolute power to determine but one thing throughout life, and that's the thoughts inside his head. The ability to think and exercise reason in making decisions is the thing that sets man apart from the instinctive behavior of animals. The ability to exercise the power of will over instinctive behavior is a very valuable trait. Your will is the only thing in life over which you have complete individual control. The thoughts in your head are yours alone. And these thoughts should be treated as the living things they are. For when you take a thought from inside your head and express it by word or by action, or both, you have made in reality an extension of your thoughts. You've given birth to your living thought or idea. Scratch your nose. Yes, I said scratch your nose. Just go ahead and do it, I'll tell you why in a minute. Stop asking why, JUST DO IT! Do NOT read any further until you scratch your nose. Did you scratch your nose? Whether or not you did doesn't matter, but what you did or didn't do determined what is now both reality and history. And you decided it by your response to the stimuli received; in this case reading what I had written. You made a decision to either keep reading and not scratch, or to scratch and then keep reading. YOU, not the stimuli received, determined what you did. Your thoughts and attitude determine your reality.
An example that you can readily relate to: you're paying for an item at the checkout counter and the girl ringing up your purchase is beautiful; you would gladly let her bear your offspring, or at least practice the method necessary to do so. She hands you your change and looks you in the eyes. In that split-second, based upon your pre-set attitudes about how you relate to women, you will make a decision. You may look down, mumble thank-you and skitter away flustered. Or, you may lock your eyes with hers and look directly into her soul as you say in a strong, confident manner "Thank you", then pause for a second, making her drop her gaze and probably blush (a desirable thing-shows you got to her). At which point you then make another decision as to the feasibility of immediately following up the opening you've created for yourself, or filing the encounter away for future reference. Same people, same situation in both examples. Same opportunity. Different action, different impression, different results. All determined by your attitude, an attitude you had pre-set in your mind like that car radio, an attitude that automatically asserted itself when that particular situation arose. To be successful in life, you must use your power of will to make a conscious choice in your pre-set attitudes, and allow your action to come forth from the basis of Total Self-Confidence in the anticipated success of your actions. To make yourself successful with girls in particular and life in general, you must pre-set your mind station to the success channel. As we said a little while ago, fear is the greatest hindrance in focusing your mind properly for success. So, in the next chapter, I'm going to show you how to eradicate this insidious enemy, how to banish fear from your mind. Once done, NOTHING can stand in the way of you being successful in life; NOTHING can prevent you from having All The Girls You Want. THE EXERCISING OF YOUR WILL POWER CREATES THE POSITIVE STATE-OF-MIND NEEDED FOR TOTAL SELF-CONFIDENCE WHICH IS THE FOUNDATION OF ALL SUCCESS!!!
CHAPTER FOUR
Nothing to Fear-But Fear Itself Starting with the Stock Market Crash of 1929, the period known as the Great Depression descended upon the United States. Those who lived through it can never forget it, and those who were born afterward can never truly know what life in a country with no economic vitality is like. But we can imagine. And it's not hard to mentally put yourself back in those days, as I'm sure that somewhere along the line you've seen those old black and white newsreels of people standing in breadlines, and selling apples on street corners, and people sleeping in the park under a blanket of newspapers. Visualize the Depression as not only an economic one, but one of mood, as well. The moral strength of the country was low, virtually nonexistent, and the national psyche was negatively set towards the future. With every one in four workers unemployed, millions unable to buy food for their families and millions more losing their homes, doom, gloom and despair permeated the hearts and minds of the great majority of Americans. They couldn't look back on it as we do now and know that it was to be only a temporary condition in American history. They thought it might be the end of America. At the depths of the Great Depression, Franklin Delano Roosevelt was elected to be the 32nd President of the United States. With the nation on the brink of permanent disaster and economic ruin, President Roosevelt, in his inaugural address and throughout his twelve years in office, was able to do the One Thing that resulted in victory over the enemy and prosperity and peace for the American people. Not only was President Roosevelt was confronted by the Great Depression while in office, but also the menace of Nazi Germany and World War II. And each time a major crisis or impending disaster loomed on the horizon he was able to do the One Thing which you and I and anyone else who wishes to have success in life must do - realize who is REALLY the adversary in the conflict! Well, you say, wasn't the adversary Roosevelt faced the Great Depression? Or Hitler? No. Isn't the person I have to convince to see things my way the adversary, or the girl I want to get involved with, isn't she the adversary? NO. When President Roosevelt gave his inaugural address, during that speech he uttered ten words that changed the course of history - and these words give insight into the reason for FDR's success in his personal battle with polio later in life. These ten words are the words which, when the real impact and weight of the truth
these words convey strikes the proper chord down deep inside you, can change your life - if you let them. President Roosevelt defined for the American people who the true enemy was as the battle against the economic devastation of the American economy began. He said: "The Only Thing We Have To Fear - Is Fear Itself." Not whether or not our economic system was flawed, or American workmanship was inferior. Fear was the enemy in the battle. Or in World War II, not the might and power of Hitler's arsenal. Fear was the enemy! The True Enemy. Fear. Fear was the enemy to focus on and defeat - and the rest would take care of itself. Victory over the circumstances would come forth if the real enemy - fear - were conquered. He knew that the instinct of self-preservation is Nature's way to preserve the species - a pause to consider different courses of action is the prudent thing to do. But during that moment of weighing different alternatives when confronted with a particular set of circumstances, fear attempts to impose itself. You've heard I'm sure the saying "For every action there is an opposite and equal reaction." The attempt by fear to impose itself is the attempt to counterbalance the impetus that is created when a positive thought or action is contemplated. You've created momentum - positive momentum - with a positive thought or action impulse. Fear attempts to undermine this momentum. It does so by trying to turn the natural pause of self-preservation into hesitation - through the feeling of doubt in your mind at this critical moment. Fear's strategy is to get you to stop concentrating on the solution to the problem or the steps necessary to implement your positive thought or action, and instead make you doubt your ability to even make the attempt or make it seem futile to even try. Once fear has been able to sidetrack your focus away from the issue at hand, to the imagined negative results of what once was a positive impulse, its easy for the desire to maintain status quo to reassert itself, and the initial impulse to impact positively on the situation confronting you dies. You then allow the circumstances to be determined for you rather than by you, without you acting in your own best interests. No wonder so many things that you fear come to pass - you've allowed them to! And because the
situation now seems overwhelmingly frightening, that only reinforces the negative impression of your ability to affect your destiny for the better. And the next time you're confronted with a similar situation, your positive impulse for action is weaker, and weaker, until eventually you don't even consider making the attempt to conquer something you're afraid of. You look at the adversary, but it's fear that is defeating you because it does not allow you to act! Now I'd like to review what we've just discussed and focus on the words that I've underlined. This is a slowed down, frame-by-frame explanation for what can happen in an instant when you are faced with an opportunity to do something positive for yourself, be it with women or in life. The first word underlined is attempt. Because that is all fear can do-attempt its destructive work. It is only able to be successful with your help! Why? Because fear is only a State of Mind. And remember - the one thing we can exclusively control is just that - our state of mind. For fear to be effective you must voluntarily surrender your right to control your state of mind. And this you do when you give in to fear, whether you realize it or not. Fear can have no power over you other than what you give it. This realization is the first key to our victory over our true enemy of fear. We can decide, through the use of our willpower, not to allow fear to take root in our mind. The next word underlined is the word undermine. Fear does not meet your positive impulse head on, like two cars colliding in a head-on collision. Instead, it looks to take the floor away from underneath you; it looks to rot the positive impulse away by taking away the desire and motivation through the next underlined word - doubt. If you hear yourself saying "what if" as you visualize in your mind different negative results of your initial impulse, make no mistake - the seed of doubt has taken root in your mind. The word sidetrack is underlined to underscore how the mind works. Although your mind can assimilate many pictures rapidly - like watching an MTV video with all the quick camera images coming one after the other - it still only sees one picture at a time. Your train of thought was initially positive, and the series of pictures visualized by your mind were along positive lines, i.e., solutions to your circumstances, benefits of your actions, etc. Once fear is allowed to leave the seed of doubt, the train of your thoughts has switched tracks and is now headed toward Negative City, and bad images run through your mind with the end result either no attempt at a positive result, or a disbelieving, half-hearted attempt doomed to failure. The word imagined is underlined because, at that point any negative results are just that imagined! The future is not written at this point - you have the ability to shape it in a direction that is positive for you. But by holding negative images in your mind you reproduce in life the result of those images. By the same token, not allowing fear to plant the seed of doubt enables the mind to be free of paralysis and inertia, and to stay focused on a positive plan of action.
Don't misunderstand -caution in certain situations is necessary. But if caution leads to doubt about your ability to make the situation a positive one for you, or if you can conjure up reasons your effort shouldn't be undertaken with no effort to find alternatives to advance your cause, then you have fallen into the trap of fear. President Roosevelt understood that if the American people had a fear of all the negative things that could happen in the future, they would be unable to have the positive willpower and determination for the task ahead. And so, by pointing out and exposing the real enemy - fear - he was able to make the country's state of mind stay on the positive tracks. Roosevelt's campaign theme song even reflected the positive attitude that was needed before positive results could hope to be achieved - Happy Days Are Here Again. And eventually happy days once again came to America. Happy days can begin for you too in your desire to Have All The Girls You Want. Fear is the only thing you have to fear in your attempt to improve your impact on the opposite sex. If you doubt your appearance is attractive to women, doubt your ability to capture and hold their attention, doubt your ability to satisfy their desires, is it any wonder you are not successful? All I need from you to quench these doubts is your desire to succeed with women. I will show you and teach you and equip you with all the tools to perform the task, so don't concern yourself with that. You will have no basis for uncertainty as to what to do or say or how to do it or say it. But you must provide the positive attitude towards your future success. You must not give fear a chance to place doubt in your mind. The oriental art of judo has as its basis the principle of using your opponent's momentum or action against you to overcome them. I will now share with you a very simple judo technique to use on fear when it tries to plant the seed of doubt in your mind. Its effectiveness should not be misjudged because it seems so simple and easy. You know that your mental state of mind invariably shows on your face and in your body reactions. For example, if you are surprised you look surprised - mouth open, eyebrows raised, maybe your hands covering your mouth. If you are sad, you look sad mouth turned down at the corners, eyes downcast, shoulders drooping, etc. Earth, Wind & Fire sang a song called "On Your Face" which has lyrics that said, "Ain't it funny that the way you feel shows on your face? Even if you don't try it states your case." Well, by making your face in the image of an emotion - and holding it in place as long as necessary, you begin to mentally feel the way your face is physically shaped to feel! You can't help it, if you hold the expression long enough! You can use this technique when sad or angry. Make yourself smile and laugh! Even if it's the last thing you feel like doing when you start, if you do it long enough, your mind begins to feed itself humorous thoughts, or attempts to find humor in the situation, and your state of mind changes. And after a little while you'll be in the mood your face programmed your mind to be in. If you
want to be serious about something, put a look of seriousness on your face and hold it - shortly you'll be in a serious state of mind - which is what all emotions are. A state of mind. If you want to overcome fear on demand, use this technique! When you have that positive impulse or thought, and during the stage when you are considering your courses of action, and fear attempts to make its presence felt, apply mental judo by using the momentum of fear's effort to automatically trigger you to do this: (1)-Will yourself to put a look of victory and determination to succeed on your face and imagine fire in your eyes, and (2)-Clench your teeth together in a way that says, "I'm bulldog determined to succeed, no matter what!" (Even imagine that your have grown the square, big jowls of a bulldog on your face! I know it sounds silly on the surface, but try it just once and tell me that you don't start to want to bark if you hold the expression and visualize long enough!) Practice this simple technique in the mirror until you can assume it instantly. Don't feel silly or stupid or self-conscious. There's nobody there but you and the Man in the Mirror, and you are, as Michael Jackson said, determined to make that change - for the positive. If there's no one in shouting distance, you can add clenching your fists and saying very loudly "I Am VICTORIOUS AND DETERMINED TO SUCCEED!" AND KEEP YOUR TEETH CLENCHED AS YOU SAY IT! This last part - keeping your teeth clenched as you speak while fixing this attitude in your mind is the thing that will give you the feeling of being in command. With your face saying victory, your eyes breathing fire and your teeth clenched in bulldog determination your mind will join the party and think positive, think of ways to succeed instead of ways to fail. And fear, which is only a state of mind, won't be anything more than the impulse that you "judo" into reinforcing your initial positive impulse with the determination to move forward. Fear can actual fuel your forward momentum! You can even use this technique right in the heat of the moment as you attempt to make conversation with a woman. I'm getting ahead of myself by giving you a technique before we're discussing techniques specifically for your use on women, but I want you to see how this has its practical application. Asking a girl for a way to get in touch with her again-her phone number, or where she works or lives, or a date - these are the times the presence of fear is most felt. By knowing the judo technique for fear and using it at the same time you ask her the question by keeping your teeth clenched and talking at the same time - you add impact to it. (Plus, you sort of sound like Clint Eastwood, too.) This comes across to women as
very masculine. Also coming across loud and clear is your determination and the question you're asking is put forth as it should be in that situation - in a manly way, with the anticipation of a positive response on her part clearly in the tone of your voice. She can see your confidence in your eyes (remember, you have fire in them, and she will see it because we'll have taught you to look directly into her eyes when asking all personal questions). Isn't it logical that you will have more of a chance at a positive answer than if you put forth the question in a timid, unforceful way that shows the doubt and fear you've allowed to infest your thoughts? Fear can become a formidable enemy if you let it. Please realize the truth of this chapter: fear is only a state of mind. Control your state of mind and you will control fear; use the impulse of fear as a springboard to your goal. Just before his death, President Roosevelt wrote the following words we will quote to close this chapter and mark, I hope, a turning point in your life. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today. Let us move forward with strong and active faith."
CHAPTER FIVE Building Self-Confidence Through P.P.S.P. In Chapter 7 I am going to give you specific techniques for developing the qualities and characteristics that women find compelling, desirable and attractive. In this chapter, we will lay the groundwork for effectively understanding and using those techniques that will affect your life. And to make comprehending these truths easy, we are going to create a mental image to picture what we are working on. Sit comfortably in a private, darkened room where distractions will be at a minimum. Close your eyes... take a few slow, deep breaths to quiet your mind and use your imagination to visualize the following: You've been invited to a very private and special art gallery, to take a look at a very unique painting. Imagine yourself in a mini-theater, with a small stage surrounded by curtains on the sides and across the back -you know the kind. A lone spotlight shines on an artist's painting easel, upon which sits a huge, beautiful, framed canvas. You are sitting front row center, and you've got such a good seat because its the
only seat in the house. What's more, only you can ever sit in this theater and view this painting - it is for your eyes only to ever see. You then realize that in your hands is a paintbrush and artist's palate (the thing you put your thumb through and keep your paints on), and you have on an artist's smock, and one of those funny French berets you've seen painters wear is on your head. You are the artist of this painting! As you look at the canvas closely, you see that the object of the painting is very familiar. You know the object very well, because it is You! The painting is a self-portrait, your personal self-portrait, which you paint in the theater of your mind. Your subconscious controls your reactions to events and makes decisions based upon the Personal Self-Portrait you have of who you are and how you are. It does this the same way the electronic price-scanning device at your local supermarket looks over the surface of an item being purchased to find the black-and-white bar code that says how much the item is. When confronted by a situation that gives you an opportunity to interact with a woman you find desirable, your subconscious scans your personal opinion of yourself, the Personal Self-Portrait upon which you've painted. It reads either confidence and courage, or a lack of confidence, timidity and hesitancy. It then controls the entire range of subtle, subconscious signals that you are giving off, which the woman senses and analyzes on conscious and subconscious levels. Remember this: men always impress women. You will always make an impression on every woman you meet. The only question is how you will impress her! Good? Bad? Yecchh? Masculine? Desirable? Sensual? Scardy-cat? Gutless? Your subconscious controls the look in your eye, and the tone in your voice. It controls your entire body posture and actions - how firmly and erect you stand, and how close you stand in proximity to her or how your shoulders slump (indicating lack of selfconfidence) or how you shy away. It controls the intonation of the words you formulate to say and the intent behind the words. It will always control these things. But you can control the impression your subconscious has of who and how you are through your paintbrush - your will power - by purposely, steadily, and habitually creating (painting) the picture of the person that you want to be. By having a Positive Personal Self-Portrait P.P.S.P. - you will make your subconscious work FOR you and not against you by broadcasting the positive subconscious signal you want to send to members of the opposite sex (and people in general). By using the Image Builders in Chapter 7, you will begin to take firm control of the direction of your life, by developing characteristics about yourself that are positive and unquestionably the personality traits that any woman worth your time and effort will find appealing
It will not take a lot of time per day to paint your P.P.S.P. - but the key is the time OF day that you use your paintbrush. In the morning, upon wakening, and at night, just before you go to sleep - these are the times that your subconscious is most susceptible to the picture you desire it to have of You. Ten to fifteen minutes to start will be all the time you need daily - but you must be consistent for at least 30 days to effectively begin to alter what may be years of inadequate and negative self-imaging. P.P.S.P. is your character foundation upon which we will build by adding the detailed understanding and specific techniques contained in the second and third section of this volume. Unless you've previously given specific time and attention to a conscious shaping of your personal self-image, you have been operating with a self-image that was mostly formed during your childhood between the ages of two and ten! And while the rest of your mind and body continued to mature, your image of self, psychologists tell us, became firmly entrenched in your mind - the paint had been applied to the canvas, and was now dry. If you were fortunate enough to have been raised by those who understood the need for positive encouragement and reinforcement in showing you how to handle the obstacles of Life, you are ahead of the game. But there is much room for improvement by consciously seeking to influence your subconscious in exactly the way you want. If your experiences growing were indifferent or negative to actively seeking to achieve and succeed, you have work to do, but you'll be pleasantly surprised at how rapidly the change can occur when you apply yourself. When you begin to realize the true power you have to influence and direct you life for success once you consciously decide and desire to do so, you will have much natural incentive to apply yourself. You can have a whole new world for yourself if you want it! Do you? Do you desire to do so? Do you want to make the sustained effort required to paint your Positive Personal Self-Portrait daily? Do you really want to have All The Girls You Want? You do? Well then, when are you ready to start? The following passage is actually the lyrics to a song I first heard while listening to the debut album of a musical group called Parliament/Funkadelic, headlined by gentlemen named George Clinton and Bootsy Collins. The "song" was as far out as the group's name. It was a song that was unlike any other song I ever heard before or since. For twenty minutes a single electric guitar played a solo that seemed designed to lull the listener into a meditative state. And you needed to be in one to digest the full truth of the words that followed, (while the guitar still played in the background, highlighting the reading of the words). I was seventeen at the time, and I listened to that song over and over and over again, alone in a darkened room. The only way to hear it is to locate a copy of the album. But a once a day reading to yourself of the words can't help but have a refreshing, positive effect on you. Since we've given the morning and the evening to the
Image Builders you'll be using as you paint your P.P.S.P., read and meditate on the following words sometime during the day, especially when confronted by a seemingly difficult situation. These words will give you the ability to keep things in proper perspective. "Travel like a King. And Remember: A Higher Wisdom is at work for you. Conquering the stumbling blocks come easier when the Conquer is in tune with the Infinite. Every ending is a new beginning; life is an endless unfoldment. Change your mind and you change your relation to time. ***** You can find the answer! The solution lies within the problem. The answer is in every question, dig it? An attitude is all you need to rise and walk away. Inspire yourself! Your life is yours; it fits you like your skin. ***** The oak sleeps in the acorn, the giant Sequoia tree sleeps in its tiny seed, the bird waits in the air, and God waits for his unfoldment in man. Fly on, children, fly. ***** You gravitate to that which you secretly love most. You make in life the exact reproduction of your own thoughts. There is no chance, coincidence, or accident in a world ruled by divine law and order. You rise as high as your dominant aspiration; you descend to the level of your lowest concept of yourself. Free your mind and your ass will follow. ***** The Infinite Intelligence within you knows the answers; its nature is to respond to your thoughts. Be careful of the thought seeds you plant in the garden of your mind, for seeds grow after their kind. Play on, children. ***** Every thought felt as true, or allowed to be accepted as true, by your conscious mind take roots in your subconscious and blossom sooner or later into an act and bears it's own fruit. Good thoughts bring forth good fruit.
Bullshit thoughts rot your meat. Think right and you can fly! The Kingdom of Heaven is within. Free your mind and your ass will follow. Play on, children. Sail on, lady. Yeah."
CHAPTER SIX Now Is The Time! You've heard, I'm sure, the speech that begins with the phrase "There comes a time in every man's life..." Well brother, I'm here to tell you that your time is now! Well, wait a second. Let me clarify that. Your time - time to begin to be successful (including All The Girls You Want, of course) can be now - if you want it to be. But only if you want it to be! Do you? I mean, really? Are you prepared to become the person that you want to be - and prepared to do what is necessary? Another thought. Are you prepared to handle your soon-to-come fortune and success? Are you ready for the changes it will make in your life - having beautiful girls on your arm at will, the career or job success you desire; are you ready for when the image turns into reality? Think about it. And start to get real excited. Start to see it. Start to feel it. When you go to bed tonight, stare at the ceiling and use it as a movie screen - and project onto that screen the You you want to be! It's not daydreaming... it's called Visualization. Project on the screen the You you know is locked inside. And even if at this stage you don't think you can be but you want to be, then say it anyway - you KNOW you can be! And say it again and again. Act like you believe it and you will begin to believe it. Begin taking a mental sledgehammer and smashing the self-imposed limitations on what you can accomplish in life. But the #1 thing that you must have is a burning desire to bring about that success. And the time to start building the fire of that desire is now! I would like you to handle the material presented in this book in the following manner.
(And don't argue with me! Since I wrote the thing I know how you need to digest these important truths for maximum benefit and enrichment.) First, read through this entire book completely at one sitting, if possible. If not, stop at the end of the first seven chapters. Read Book II and Book III at one sitting. Now, as I said earlier, this book is not about gimmicks. Resist the temptation to try to put any one specific technique into practice right away! I repeat. Tomorrow, DO NOT wake up and say "Duh, I can get All The Girls I Want because I read a book on it yesterday". You will meet with failure on these attempts, and put negative brush strokes on your Personal Self-Portrait. You wouldn't read a book on karate and then go attempt to beat up a street thug, would you? No, first you would be taught the foundational principals of the art, and then, after much diligent practice, learning and studying, you would THEN go kick some butt, if you had to. Same theory here. Instead, once you've read the entire book, just set it aside for a day or two, and do this... look and observe and absorb. Make an effort to discern the actions and attitudes of women as you encounter them during your daily routine. Pick up on the nuances of their behavior. And don't worry about the one or two that give you a look of "why are you staring at me"; you won't be doing your homework right if some of them don't. Don't be impolite or rude, but... observe. Not only observe their physical appearance, but also the attitude they project. Evaluate them the way I show you that they evaluate each other and us. This is your first reconnaissance mission, in preparation for the assault you will make... on their minds. Before we can get the girls right, we've got to get you right. After a day or two, get the book out and read it again, cover to cover, in light of things you observed. Read it a little slower, and attempt to sink into your subconscious the attitude of what is being discussed, the feeling, the state of mind you must have to achieve. Begin the use of the image building material, and do so without fail. It is essential to your future success, for it is the actual beginning of your achievement of the goal to Get All The Girls You Want. The Chinese say that "no matter how long the journey, it always begins with the first step." And that's so very true. Tomorrow another rising and setting of the sun will occur (if it doesn't, you and I won't have anything to worry about, that's for sure). And another day of your life will come.. and go... never able to be recovered or recaptured or lived over again. Your journey in life is being walked day by day, step by step whether you like it or not. So you might as well use the passage of time to your benefit. (Remember - "Change your mind and you change your relation to time.") Be content to put this program of success into place slowly, but surely. Take the time to build the proper foundation to Get All The Girls You Want, so as it happens you'll be prepared for it to happen.
You must prepare properly! The time spent putting the desired program into place to begin to get steady and consistent results is very small in proportion to the fact that you will be receiving the benefits from this program for the rest of your life. Chapter 7 of this book gets you specifically focusing on your self -improvement. Chapter 7 of Section Two gets you specifically focusing on women. Your focus must come first! Let the 30-day minimum go by for putting your Positive Personal Self-Portrait in place, while continuing to be consciously aware of the actions and attitudes of the women you encounter. You will then be ready for the focus on women. I urge you again, as strongly as possible, to use the material in this book in the manner I have directed. I know you're anxious, but hey! I want you to Get All The Girls You Want almost as badly as you do. That's why I want to make sure you get there. And when you do, I want you to write me a letter and tell me about it. It adds to my personal feelings of success to know I've helped someone else be successful. So, when is the time to begin? Now! Now is the time to begin the road to success in life and success in having All The Girls You Want!
CHAPTER SEVEN Image Builders
It's fairly obvious, by my statements in Chapter 1, that I hold the Bible in great esteem and with high regard. The Bible, in my opinion, contains the essence of Truth as we can relate to it, and is especially relevant as a reference source for a logical and valid explanation of how a human being's emotional chemistry works. If we are going to have an intelligent discussion on painting a Positive Personal Self-Portrait, we will have to go back to the original basis of a right and proper self-image. In Genesis 1:27, we are told "And God created man in His own image, in the image of
God He created him; male and female He created them." There is tremendous relevant information contained in these 22 words that can forever change the way you look at yourself, and the way you look at yourself in relation to women. First, notice the double emphasis given to the fact that it was man who was created in God's own image. The inference is that other creations, the category that the creation of female falls into, were created with an image, but it was man alone that was created in the image of God. Notice also that the personhood of God is characterized as male. "...created man in His own image, in the image of God He..." The rest of the verse points out that God created male and female, but male and female are distinctions of the entity called Man. And it is only the male of Man that has been instilled with God's own image. This is one of the reasons why the Feminist movement has sought to remove the use of gender in the Bible in order to make it more "fair" to women. The Bible, as originally written, is quite explicit in the distinctions between male and female. Feminists would rather have men mentally emasculated than to acknowledge the truths put forth in the Bible. You avoid mental emasculation when you know the Truth. Knowing that you as a male are made in the image of God gives rise to several logical postulations. Postulation #1. You do not have to create an image for your P.P.S.P., because you already have one - God's! So, all we need do is analyze God's image to find our own. How would you categorize God? Powerful? Majestic? All that is the essence of goodness? Love? Worthy of respect, adoration and worship? All of the above, obviously, and more. Postulation #2. An essential part of God's image is being the object of love, respect, adoration, and worship. We, being made in His image, must have inborn the same need for the above. It is the role of man to provide this for God. It is the role of woman to provide this for man. Boy, those feminists are screaming now, I'm sure. But all I'm doing is reading what is written. Let's read some more. I Corinthians, Chapter 11, verse 3. "But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman..." Verse 7: "For a man ought not have his head covered, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man. For man does not originate from woman, but woman from man; for indeed man was not created for the woman's sake, but woman for man's sake." It can't be said any clearer than that! This is the way the system was created. You
are not here for the benefit of women, although they will act like you are sometimes, and try to make you believe that. DON'T! They are here for your benefit! (See what you miss when you don't pay attention in Sunday School?) Postulation #3. Adding Postulation #1 and Postulation #2 together, we get Postulation #3. If you can allow yourself to relax in the image in which you were created, and act based upon that image, women will regard you the way they were made to respond to that image - with love, respect, adoration and worship. And you will be deserving of it. In a sense, it's easy to do - because you are not "doing" anything, rather, you are allowing something already there to come out. But that's what makes it so hard at the same time. However, once you sink the truth of the above facts into your heart and soul, thereby releasing your subconscious to act like it was programmed to do from the beginning, you will achieve great success with women and life because that's the way things are made to work! "Conquering the stumbling blocks come easier when the Conqueror (you) is in tune with the Infinite." REALIZE IT- ACT LIKE IT! AND IT (EVENTUALLY) WILL BE! Everybody knows good quality personal character when they encounter it. It shines through whatever outward appearance is covering it. This allows you to have the inner character qualities necessary to Get All The Girls You Want - they have universal appeal - while still retaining the individual personality traits that make you the unique person you are. And you will attract girls that are compatible with you. Other books tell you that you have to act a certain way to attract certain females. They have a particular type of female in mind - the freak. And the conventional wisdom is that you have to be "cool" to obtain them. But that isn't true! If you are not naturally cool, you will do more harm than good by trying to be what you are not. With this program you will learn how to affect a woman to achieve the results you want no matter what her type and despite your personality, because the appeal of the man in you will appeal to the woman in her. But to accomplish this you must have a Positive Personal Self-Portrait. There are three areas of P.P.S.P. that you must paint - the mental aspect, which is your character, the physical aspect, which can be described as striving to be properly healthy, and the spiritual aspect, which encompasses a realization and heartfelt understanding of the Big Picture. Here is the program: Write out the following character qualities on 5 x 7 index cards. (It's not enough to just use this book. The act of putting the qualities down on paper in your own writing has tremendous subconscious impact.)
Every morning, when you wake up, have the cards waiting for you next to your bed. Read them slowly, in an effort to absorb their meaning and internalize their essence. This isn't a school assignment; it shouldn't be considered a chore or bother. This can be the beginning of a more fulfilling life, if you look at it as such. As you read them, you'll notice that they are written as if you are already in possession of that particular character trait. Again, this is because your subconscious will govern your actions and attitudes based upon what it perceives to be who you are now, not how you will be. As you mentally paint these qualities of your character onto the canvas of your P.P.S.P. day after day, they become you. You'll find yourself believing in your ability to do what you desire to do because you'll believe in who you are. Ben Franklin said that if you wanted to possess a quality characteristic, then act as if you already possess said characteristic, and you will! It's as simple as that. Painting the mental part of the P.P.S.P. occurs the instant you begin, and consequently, so do the results. You can speed up the process by also reading your cards to yourself last thing at night. This gives the subconscious a chance to dwell on these traits throughout the night. Then, in the morning your reading will bring to the fore the impression from the night before. When you read the cards, do so out loud if you're alone. If you are not alone, or would be disturbing others by vocalizing, move your lips as you read silently. Again, this helps to reinforce the impression upon your subconscious mind. You will use these Image Builders for a minimum of 30 days. At that point, it should be a habit and you should desire to continue until you have the list virtually memorized. But a minimum of 30 days has been determined as the time needed to make a lasting impression on your psyche. The daily repetition will wear a groove in your subconscious, much the same way that a rug wears where most constantly walked upon. Thus, when your subconscious scans your P.P.S.P. to determine your response to a situation or stimulus, it will recognize the ingrained character traits and you will automatically act accordingly. So, without further ado, here are the character traits* designed to be the paint to apply to the canvas to create your Positive Personal Self-Portrait: Concentration. I can bring great concentration to bear upon any subject, at any time. Or, I am easily able to concentrate on any task, and am completely free of outside distraction. Or, I always work on things that count. In my concentration, the rest of the world cannot
disturb me. Efficiency. I am always efficient in everything I undertake to do. Or, I have used each minute before it has disappeared forever. I keep productive work available for odd moments. I always achieve the desired result, with a minimum of time and energy. Courage. I face all my problems with great courage, and thus solve them much more easily. Self-assurance. I have completely relaxed self-assurance. I am sure of myself in all situations, and with all people. Self-respect. I respect my goals and myself and have complete self-assurance in all that I think and do. I am the equal of the best of men, and truly capable of great accomplishments. Perseverance. I am easily able to persevere and finish any task I undertake. Success. I am very successful in all that I do. Because of this I enjoy an abundance of all things, qualities, and conditions necessary to the happiness of myself and those around me. Success comes easily to me. Honesty. I am honest with myself and therefore everyone else. Organization. I am well organized in every phase of my life. Creativity. I treat all problems as opportunities to be creative and as a result my life is vastly enriched. I use creativity in every endeavor and thus enjoy a position of growing leadership. Or, I start every job by thinking how to do it better than it has been done before. Thinking in terms of a better way, I always find a better way. Or, I have an unusual ability to reach creative solutions to my problems. Knowing that I have this ability, my creative powers actively support my belief and I have a constant flow of new and good ideas. Energy. I possess an abundant supply of energy and draw upon it at will; I know that the more energy I apply to any task, the more I have to apply to the next task. Or, I start with enthusiasm and my enthusiasm activates my energy. I work with inspiration and develop my sources of energy by continuous exercise. I find that my enthusiasm builds my enthusiasm. Or, I possess boundless energy and use it freely. I realize I must give some form of energy in return for everything I receive, and gladly give it, knowing that the more energy I give, the more I have to give. Self-improvement. I eagerly seek to improve in every phase of my life.
Memory. I have an excellent memory, not only for the immediate tasks, but also for all experiences that I have had. It grows better every day. Speech. I am an excellent speaker, well prepared, logical, and completely at ease before any group. Or, I am an excellent speaker because I have knowledge of my subject and an intense desire for other people to hear it. Reading. I read quickly and easily with great comprehension of all subject matter. Emotions. I contact, feel and easily show my emotions to myself and to all other people. If I'm angry, I show it and thus release it. If I'm happy, I show this. If I'm sad, I find it easy to weep and thus dispel the sadness. The ability to show emotions at appropriate times is valuable, and the mark of a mature person. Relaxation. I am easily able to relax as deeply as I wish at any time. I use this ability to conserve my energy. Decisiveness. I am quickly decisive in all matters, only making sure that I have complete and accurate data before acting. Or, I make decisions quickly. I know that by deciding quickly, I make the best decisions. I always know what to do next. By deciding everything quickly, I am tremendously productive. Or, my decisive qualities are always awake to challenge. The more difficult the problem, the more eagerly I respond to the task, and the more intelligence is stimulated. Self-liking. I like myself very much indeed at all times. Since this thought proceeds my actions, I am constantly pleased with my behavior. Goals. My goals are high, and I reach them easily and quickly by affirming them constantly. I am dynamic in my self-improvement because I am consistent in my efforts. Maturity. I am a mature person and consequently seek ever greater growth within myself. I know that the evidence of my maturity benefits everyone around me. Foresight. I work with foresight. I have this foresight because my plans are built on ideals that maintain my enthusiasm to get things done. Composure. I have complete composure at all times. I accept challenge and arguments calmly and in good spirit. I recognize that disagreement is an inevitable outgrowth when groups of people engage in the problem-solving process. Interest in people. I meet people easily and enjoy each new association. My deep sincerity puts people at ease and stimulates their confidence. Or, I am sincerely interested in people. I find each new personality has some unique quality that enriches my experience.
Loyalty. I am loyal to all that depend on me. Planning. I always plan my work. I organize my efforts for today, tomorrow and the future. I work with my goals in mind. I plan ahead to get ahead. Accomplishment. I take pride in a job well done. Accomplishment is my greatest reward. I always do more than I get paid for, so that I ultimately get paid for more than I do. Work for quality. I work for quality. I have the patience to do simple things perfectly and thereby strengthen my skill to do difficult things easily. Self-starting. I always do things as they need to be done. I start vigorously and promptly each day on each new task. My energetic starts make me an achiever. Self-education. I know that leaders are readers. I systematically study books and magazines that increase my earning power. Motivation of others. I successfully train others to do my work. I give those who help me generous credit for their accomplishments. The willing support of other people is essential to my success. Self-discipline. I know that I can do what I have to do, and I have to do what I set out to do. Goal Direction. Every day my goals are nearer because I stay on the main highway. I practice resolute self-denial and keep my attention on my goals until I achieve them. Industry. I am habitually industrious and get things done. My attitude is always will do as well as can do. Calm and cheerful. I am calm and cheerful. I share my inner peace and happiness with others. Apply these readings diligently, and after thirty days you will be able to notice about yourself the changing and improving quality of your character and actions. Your confidence level will grow and it will be noticeable to others, especially women, on contact. You will learn to depend upon your Self more and more. Lots of time men look to have someone they can depend on to go to for advice of stability, or for reinforcement of a decision they would like to make. But there is someone else that you will now have to turn to. Your Inner Self.
Remember, you have inside "a Higher Wisdom at work for you" - if you allow yourself to listen to it and not cloud the passageway between your subconscious and this source of Infinite Intelligence with doubts, fears and indecision. Jesus said, "The Kingdom of Heaven is within." The book of Proverbs states, "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he." The idea of self-reliance has this as its basis - A man knowing that he can depend on himself for his own survival. The inner strength that is generated by belief in Self is felt by all that come in contact with you. And you won't need to tell others "you've changed". They'll know it. They'll sense it. They'll see it. And because you know you know it, you won't feel a need to brag about it. Women don't like a man to brag about himself anyway. They like a man who quietly radiates selfassurance and self-confidence. Here are some practical applications of a P.P.S.P. that includes the characteristic of selfreliance. Practical application #1. Being faithful to yourself in little things allows you to believe you can be faithful to yourself in big things. You will be a methodical person you know you can count on to "do it" the same way each time. For example - do you have a habit of misplacing or losing things, of being absent-minded, careless, forgetful or clumsy? All these ways of action have their root in not training yourself to be methodical in your personal habits, not training yourself to concentrate on what you are doing when you are doing it. This is caused by not believing you are a person who is capable of being methodical in habit and action or able to concentrate on the given task at hand. Woman are not attracted to men who are awkward or clumsy, men who have to constantly apologize for themselves for being a "doofus", or men who constantly belittle themselves for being dumb or stupid. I don't care how many Nerd-gets-the-girl movies you saw - that's just fantasy entertainment. How many beautiful women have you seen in real life with a Nerd who has the above negative aspects of nerdism? See, don't get me wrong, all you Nerds reading this. You can be a Nerd in the sense of being brainy and smart and engagingly shy and still Get All The Girls You Want. As I said, this program takes your individual personality into account. But because you are a Nerd doesn't mean you automatically have to accept the downside of the stereotype. Women respect a man whose actions and habits say that he is sure and secure in himself, Nerd or not. Determine to develop a personal routine to handle with a deft touch the little things in your life. In Book III, Chapter 3 I'll show you how to take this personal routine and turn it into Style. Practical application #2. Handling pressure with grace is the hallmark of a winner. Usually, the most dramatic examples of this are at the end of a basketball or football or
baseball game, with the outcome all depending upon a game-winning free throw, or hit, or field goal. No matter which scenario you choose, there's one thing in common among them either the attempt will be successful or it won't, either victory will result or a loss will occur. True? But, if the attempt itself is not made, then there is no possibility of victory. If no attempt is made, a loss is automatic and guaranteed. The necessary points cannot be scored if the attempt is not made at all. When the athlete is making the attempt, he is supposedly "under pressure". From where does this pressure come? There's only one place it can. Unless there is actually a physical pressure in bodily contact with and pressing on the athlete, all pressure felt must be mental. And as we know, the athlete is the sole person who can exert mental pressure on himself, since he is the sole person able to determine his state of mind. If the athlete allows our old friend Fear to plant those seeds of doubt in his mind, the result is usually known as "choking", i.e., "he choked up" under the pressure. It is possible to exert enough mental pressure on yourself so that it really does become a physical sensation; a physical "tightness" can actually form in the throat and the chest area can indeed become constricted. Once this is allowed to take place, the finely tuned reactions of the athlete's body are altered, and the result is invariably a failed effort. What was feared might happen was made to happen by focusing on the negative possibilities. What usually allows an athlete to overcome choking in a clutch situation is an acceptance of the possibility that the attempt may not be successful, but "so what if it ain't"? It's not life or death; it is only a game. And there has to be a winner and loser (according to the score) every time a game is played. The outcome of any particular contest will become a faded memory in time, no matter what happens. (Who won the NBA Finals three years ago? Who was MVP of the Stanley Cup series in '95? What college team won the NCAA's ten years ago? See?) A philosophical approach to the situation makes sure self-imposed pressure is not brought about by over-inflated dread of a negative outcome. Thus, the athlete is able to relax and concentrate on the joy that will take place if the attempt is successful, and the mind can focus on positive results and allow the athlete to perform to the best of his ability. The athlete that seems to show grace under pressure is the athlete who realizes that, really, there is no pressure in the first place. Only an opportunity to succeed. This same basic logic should apply in your approach to life's situations. Don't constantly put yourself "on the spot" - especially since it's a spot that isn't really there. It's not a "I don't care what happens" attitude, but an "I'm going to do the best I can, to the best of my ability, but I realize that true success is in the act of doing the best I can, not in a final score". Take pleasure in the attempt itself, and
the results will take care of themselves. At a dance or party, you may see a girl you desire to dance with and talk to. You put undue pressure on yourself by doubting you are able to get her to respond as you would like, imagining all the reasons she has to say no, and imagining how embarrassed you might feel if she gives you the cold shoulder and other people see. At the end of the night you are still sitting yourself, and she's gone and the party's over. You have achieved the same bottom-line result - no girl - that you would have had you tried to talk to her and she declined. So why not try? The result could not be worse than the one you achieved by not making any attempt at all! But by trying, you at least give yourself the opportunity for success because you are making the attempt to be successful. It is the only time success can be possible, so you have the right to expect it to come when you put forth an all-out effort, unencumbered by a negative personal self-portrait. This may sound very simple and elementary. Guess what. It is simple and elementary. But that's why coaches stress to their players the need for good, sound fundamentals always. And in this program that applies as well. So, practical application #2 is to realize that you are capable of grace under pressure because there is no pressure! And you are the type of person who is mentally free to make a whole-hearted, full-fledged attempt at success - because you realize that is the only way to get success to come. To sum up: the mental image building that takes place as a result of the proper Positive Personal Self-Portrait creates, for the use of your subconscious, an automatic program of responses and actions. You must have the proper self-image in order to Get All The Girls You Want. By knowing you can depend on yourself, because of your ability to handle the routine of your life as well as unexpected "pressures", you put in place the groundwork to develop a personal style, which women will automatically take notice of, admire and appreciate. You can literally paint your way to success with P.P.S.P. Get started - NOW! {END OF SECTION ONE}
SECTION TWO CHAPTER ONE The Creature Called Woman It is now time to get down to business. The reason you purchased this book is to learn what it advertised: a way To Get All The Girls You Want. Over the next fourteen chapters, that is exactly what I am going to tell you, in detail. To fully and properly do so, it is necessary for me to start at the beginning: the very Beginning. Before you can learn how to get women, you must first know exactly what a woman is. Every kid who has gone to Sunday School can tell you the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. The standard version of this familiar story is that God made Adam, saw he was lonely, so for a companion He made Eve out of Adam's rib. Right? Well, not quite. There is a little, tiny part of the story that is not mentioned when Eve's creation is discussed. I call it the Two Missing Verses. As I said earlier, feminists don't like to read what is actually written in the Bible. That alone should be a reason for us males to want to see what it is that they object to so strongly. And when you read the story of Eve's creation verse-by-verse, you get an idea. In Genesis Chapter Two, we have the story of both man's creation, and the creation of woman. So that I cannot be accused of taking a few "obscure" verses of the Bible and "twisting" them for my benefit, I will print for you the entire chapter, word for word. Genesis Two v.1 Thus the heavens and the earth were completed, and all their hosts. v.2 And by the seventh day God completed His work which he had done; and He rested on the seventh day from all His work which He had done. v.3 Then God blessed the seventh day and sanctified it, because in it He rested from all His work which God had created and made. v.4 This is the account of the heavens and the earth when they were created, in the day that the Lord God made earth and heaven. v.5 Now no shrub of the field was yet in the earth, and no plant of the field had yet sprouted, for the Lord God had not sent rain upon the earth; and there was no man to cultivate the ground. v.6 But a mist used to rise from the earth and water the whole surface of the ground. v.7 Then the Lord God formed man of dust of the ground, and breathed in his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living being.
v.8 And the Lord God planted a garden toward the east, in Eden; and there he placed the man whom He had formed. v.9 And out of the ground the Lord God caused to grow every tree that is pleasing to the sight and good for food; the tree of life also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. v.10 Now a river flowed out of Eden to water the garden; and from there it divided and became four rivers. v.11 The name of the first is Pishon; it flows around the whole land of Havilah, where there is gold. v.12 And the gold of that land is good; the lodellium and the onyx stone are there. v.13 And the name of the second river is Gihon; it flows around the whole land of Cush. v.14 And the name of the third river is Tigris; it flows east of Assyria. And the fourth river is the Euphrates. v.15 Then the Lord God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to cultivate it and keep it. v.16 And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, "From any tree of the garden you may eat freely; v.1 7 but from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat from it you shall surely die." v.18 Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make a helper suitable for him." v.19 And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. v.20 And the man gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every beast of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him. v.21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh at that place. v.22 And the Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. v.23 And the man said, "This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." v.24 For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. v.25 And the man and his wife were both naked and not ashamed. Let's recap the story. The Lord God created man from the ground and breathed life into him. And the result? Man became a living BEING. (Keep hold of the word I emphasized - BEING.) God then placed the man in the garden to
cultivate it and keep it. Verse 18 then tells us that God noticed that it wasn't good for man to be alone. We are not told how long the time span was between the creation of man and God's notice of the fact that it wasn't good for him to be alone. However, when God did notice, He decided to do something about it. What did He do? Why, of course He then made Eve out of the rib, right? NO! That doesn't occur until verse 21. What happened between God's decision Man was no longer going to be alone and the fashioning of the Woman from the rib are the Two Missing Verses. Verses 19 and 20 give us tremendous, important insight into the essence of the creature called Woman. And I believe the use of the word "creature" is appropriate. Woman is the last "living creature" of verse 19 that God brought to Adam to "name", which he did in verse 23, just as he named all of the others, as we're told in verse 20. And, as verse 20 says, the purpose of naming the "living creatures" was to find a helper suitable for him. And when God brought her to him, just as he had done with all the other creatures (please note that the word "animal" is never used or implied. Creature is different than animal.), Adam did as he did with all the others. Except this time, he has accepted what God brought, as we are told in verse 23. Now, it's not hard to see why the feminists don't like this. But I'm sorry, I can't help that. I didn't write it; I'm just reading what it says. And it says that woman is not the same as man. They never were, and they can never be. Women, we are plainly told, are the highest form of creature, made directly from man in order to be "suitable" for him. The word "suitable" is better rendered "compatible", in the way that certain software is made to be "compatible" to the computer with which it will operate. Man is a living BEING (verse 7). Woman is a living CREATURE (verse 19). It's as simple as that. Have you ever heard of scientists who searched for many years for what was called the Missing Link? Certain members of the scientific community, after studying the line of progression in the development of lower species conclude that there was a missing step between the highest form of developed primate and man. They believed there was a
creature that was half-human and half-animal, and many, many years were spent trying to find the bones or fossils of this so-called "missing link" between man and animal. After nothing concrete was ever found, the theory was relegated to the back pages of scientific folklore. I believe that the scientists' original conclusions were correct. I believe they properly deduced that there was a creature that bridged the gap between man and animal. But I believe also that they erred when they went off in a search for some kind of Abominable Snowman type creature. I believe the answer was right under their noses the whole time. Or sleeping with some of them, or cooking for them, I should say. Ifs interesting to speculate what would have resulted had Adam found something he was happy with before Woman was created. It seems that God was happy when Adam was happy. Hmmmmm. Dog is a man's best friend. I wonder if that explains why some men insist on calling women "bitches"....still trying to name for themselves the woman, probably. The above is said tongue-in-cheek, of course. This point of view is not intended to serve as a basis of justification to denigrate and/or disrespect women. On the contrary, they should be cherished precisely because of their uniqueness, and the fact that they were made especially for us. But again, they are not made like us. Women have an instinct, (predatory in nature), as much a part of their nature as any animal, or "beast of the field". Their behavior is governed by this instinctive nature which is different from ours. When a male com-pains that they "just don't understand woman", they are not taking this crucial fact into consideration - their true nature is animalistic (more so than man's) not humanistic. For you to have All The Girls You Want, you must realize the basic position you are in as a man contrasted against woman when the interaction is on that basis: a malefemale "thing". If you fail to do so, you will always be destined for limited success with woman, at best. Chapter Three of Genesis goes on to describe what is called in theological terms the Fall of Man, which occurred when the woman violated God's command not to eat of the forbidden tree, and the man followed her lead and did also. We will discuss this in detail in Section Three, Chapter One. The point of mentioning this now is to underscore the fact that from the very beginning of man's existence on earth he has had problems with women. First, he had trouble finding one, then when he did, he had problems controlling her actions, and ultimately problems controlling his own, because of his emotional attachment to her. Who says the Bible isn't relevant to today?
This age-old conflict has often been called the Battle of the Sexes. And that's a very accurate description. Whether you like it or not, you are in a battle every time you interact or desire to interact with a woman romantically. You are at war, and to win the war the first thing to do is to realize that fact - it is indeed a war. If you don't, you will get your balls shot off. Women, on the other hand, understand the fact that there is a war instinctively. The battle of the sexes is not over when you secure a girlfriend, either. The essence of the conflict is not just in obtaining the company of the woman you desire, because women want male companionship too. You don't have to know a whole lot about women to end up with some type of female. The essence of winning the conflict is being able to manage, control and maintain the woman you want on your terms! Adam had the woman, but he obviously didn't win the battle. And we men still suffer today for his mistake. Brute strength does not win the battle, either. We need to be as crafty as the Serpent was in dealing with the opposite sex. Learning this method is comparable to studying a new form of art, much the same as when you study karate you are studying a form of art which has a practical application as self-defense. The practical application of learning this art is to be able to go through life having removed the possibility of being sidetracked by the major source of irritation and befuddlement known to man - woman. Also, just because we seek to win the battle does NOT mean that women will lose when we are successful. Quite the contrary! Everyone involved wins in a relationship if the man wins. If the male is properly oriented in how to handle a woman to his and her satisfaction, and is in control of the relationship, the woman's natural inner desires will be fulfilled also. Learn the truths of this book and seek to make you and the women in your life happy and satisfied. These theories will serve you well the rest of your life. You may ask the question, "What about (if and) when I get married? Isn't this method to handle women only good while I'm single? What good will it do for me then?" Plenty. In the first place, when you get married, you come to the ultimate point in male-female relationships - "cleaving together as one flesh". And when you tie the knot, you'll be saying to the world that you have All The Girls You Want. Just this One. I do believe that the institution of marriage is sacred; if you are not ready to honor your vows, don't take them. But once you do, you have not withdrawn from the battle of the sexes. What you really have done is to select your lifelong opponent. Proper operation of the method detailed in these pages will enable you to retain control, which, when married, is more important than ever, due to the legal implications of your commitment. If you lose control of your woman after you are married, you are in trouble.
Ask most any male who has had a divorce how it feels. If you are reading this book and you have had the experiences associated with the legal dissolution of an emotional commitment, you have my condolences and heartfelt sympathy. Learn the proper approach through this book and go forth to seek proper female companionship. You will now have the know-how to establish the relationship on terms that are satisfactory to you - both now and in the long run. There is also something else important at stake that having the proper control over the relationship allows you to protect - your male ego, your male pride. It is the pride a man can take in himself and what he has accomplished and feels that he can accomplish that gives him the drive to achieve and compete. The size of a man's ego is usually proportionate to his desire to accomplish goals in life. In interacting with other men toughness, brute force, and strength is usually the language. A woman admires this when she observes men interacting with each other; but brute force doesn't always work on the woman herself the way we would like. A philosopher once said "the softest thing in the universe will overcome the hardest thing in the universe". We as men know that, at certain times, there's nothing as hard as your "dick", and there's nothing as soft as a "cat". The relief a woman can give to a man, and a woman's control over that relief gives her a tremendous weapon to use, if she so desires. And instinctively, she does so desire. Ifs been well documented that many times a man will follow his erection places he shouldn't; letting the little head think for the big head has caused many men to lose both heads. In danger of damage as the result of the use of her weapon is the fragile male ego. When a woman allows a man to "have" her, allows him to complete the conquest sexually, natural male feelings of possessiveness arise. Women, by instinct, know how to manipulate this to their advantage. Her withholding of sex can force you to act in accordance with her wishes; her threatening to allow herself to be "had" by other males can arouse extreme jealousy and anxiety. The depth of emotions the latter can evoke, if it actually occurs, the real pain that this can cause is worse than the physical blows received in a fight with another man. Physical pain eventually goes away; mental pain and anguish stays around a lot longer, because what has been injured is the essence of the man - his male ego, his male pride. When you fail to negate the advantage a woman gains by making herself available to you, you put yourself at a permanent disadvantage. You have given control to the female, and you have placed yourself at her mercy. This is a dangerous place to be, as she instinctively will seek to press her advantage. You are at risk of mental emasculation. Your "balls" may still be attached to your body physically, but your mental "balls" may be cut off, or at a minimum you will be led around by them. But the insult to injury in the above scenario is that by letting the woman have
control so she will! continue to be with you, you usually lose her anyway. Despite all the woman's lib talk, she still instinctively seeks to be controlled by a man, to be properly aligned in the natural order of things. She usually leaves for a man who properly puts her in her place. I have a word for males who allow themselves to be controlled by their woman. I call them not a man, but a "mon". They are not a man, even though they may be male. You know what I mean. Women like them, because they can control them and get away with it. But what strikes the woman's chimes is a man she CAN'T control. Although a woman will have a "mon" for convenience, she still naturally longs for a man. A woman will never give a mon the respect his maleness should demand. At best, she'll patronize him. Neither the woman nor her mon is really happy. (And for the record, Adam was definitely a mon.) Decide today that, in your interaction with women, you will be a man, no matter what "problems" it may cost you at the time. You may be able to gain the company of a woman if you are a mon, but you will never fully enjoy all that she has to give to her man. Being a man is all in your attitude, not your physical strength. You can be 98 lbs. and a man with the women, or you could be built like Rocky and be a mon. Come to think or it, the actor who portrayed Rocky illustrates very vividly this point. Sylvester Stallone was so taken by actress Brigitte Nielson that after they were married, he commissioned a statue to be built of her, "to better worship their love". But before the statue was finished, she left him for former N.Y. Jet football player Mark Gastineau, who (you could tell when they were interviewed on television together) had established himself as the man in the relationship. If anybody was going to order any statues in this relationship, you could tell it would be Brigitte. And she would probably be paying for it with the divorce settlement money she received from Stallone. With Stallone, she had been attracted to the persona she saw portrayed in movies. But evidently his image on screen was not the same as in real life. Stallone, it was reported, angrily destroyed the statue when it was delivered. If it can happen to someone like Sylvester Stallone, someone with looks, money and fame, it should show you that these things (looks, money, fame) are NOT the answer to maintaining control over a woman. They may do a heck of a job attracting some women, but what establishes and maintains control in a relationship is the proper attitude. And that proper attitude starts with the determination to be a man NO MATTER WHAT. Not a mon. NEVER a mon. Since the woman is made to act on her instinctive nature, properly knowing that nature will allow us to know her strategy, and to use it against her. We must now discern the true nature of the opponent.
Fight to win, fellas, fight to win. She wins also when you do, but you both lose when she "wins."
CHAPTER TWO Defining Your Opponent Most standard high school psychology courses usually include a discussion and study on just what makes a person the way they are. What is it exactly that makes a person exhibit the actions and personality traits that they do? The conclusion reached is three-fold: heredity, environment, and personal experiences. The genes passed from one generation to another carry certain hereditary characteristics that determine the type of person born. The environment that person grows up in gives that life its background, or setting, and within that setting, specific events and interactions with other people help to shape the direction of that life. These three forces combine to produce the inner entity of a person. Specifically related to women, heredity gives her her appearance and her instinctive womanly nature. In this sense all women are created the same. But, just as all German Shepherds are dogs, not all dogs are German Shepherds. All women have certain base characteristics, but due to their environment and experiences, there are different, distinctive basic types of women in terms of their behavior. After a great amount of examination, study and research, I have defined the different types of women into three main categories. The three main types of women are the "ho", the "freak", and the "good girl".* {* For those who have trouble with the slang names, the names used in the book of Proverbs are the harlot, the strange woman (or adulteress), and the virtuous woman.} We will discuss the basic characteristics of each main type, but I want to make a very important point here: although there are three basic behavioral patterns that it is possible for a woman to have, there is also a degree of overlapping of the characteristics of each type WITHIN THE SAME WOMAN. In other words, a certain woman may be a freak, for example, but have some characteristics that a good girl usually exhibits. (This combination in particular - a freak camouflaged as a good girl - is the one that causes the
most heartache for males. More why later.) Or, vice versa, a good girl can be camouflaged as a freak. Or, a ho could be camouflaged as a freak, with good girl undertones to her personality. And so on. Suffice it to say that women will have one basic type, but may have qualities and characteristics of one or both of the other two. Again, I remind you that you are learning an art, and this is part of it. You MUST be able to discern exactly a woman's true basic type. It is made harder to do so when the woman herself realizes her basic type and deliberately takes steps to camouflage it. The classic example is the gold-digger, the woman who sets out to gain a man's affection so she can manipulate him for personal gain, usually financial. Once you have the ability to discern what a woman's true personal core consists of, you know on what basis to interact with her. This is the root to handling a woman to your satisfaction - knowing her basic type before you get involved. If you don't realize her true type, you automatically are at a disadvantage in your involvement with her - you are offbase and unable to properly evaluate her actions according to her true type. Here is an example of why this is so fundamentally important. If you are involved with a woman who has a penchant for being flirtatious with other men there are completely different reasons for her being that way, depending on her basic type. If she is a ho, she's being flirtatious with the idea of making some money in mind. If she's a freak, it's because she desires to "play," or to reassure herself as to her desirability. If she's a good girl, she could be attempting to arouse in you feelings of jealousy, which will reassure her that you care for her. If you show jealousy to a good girl, she feels more yours, more secure in your relationship. If you show jealousy to a freak, it shows her that she has you under control, and weakens your control over her. And if you are the one being flirted with, not being able to discern the type of woman flirting with you could have negative ramifications. If you read into a good girl's flirtation that you can "get something done" with her, that she's a freak and you can get that "thang-thang", you will be badly disappointed when she draws a line she will not cross with you as far as intimacy goes. If you react to a freak's flirtations thinking she is a good girl, you will be considered "too serious" for her, and she is turned off. And if you don't realize a ho is a ho, and her flirtations with you are to get you to spend your money, and not because of you per se, you run the risk of getting your feelings hurt - along with your wallet. Thus, you can see the importance of being correct with your observations. Your proper diagnosis of a girl's true basic type could prove as beneficial to your mental health as a doctor's proper diagnosis to your physical well-being.
Properly determining a girl's basic type is possible by thorough knowledge of each type's main characteristics, and mentally evaluating a woman much the same way as a baseball scout would evaluate a prospect for the team; close observation of not only major or overt actions but also small details, habits, idiosyncracies and mindset exhibited. Through continued practice and experience, you will be able to "scout out" good, hot prospects for your team. By realizing you are at war, you can see these evaluations of potential female partners as standard reconnaissance and intelligence gathering. You must and should have an exact "fix" on your target to be able to formulate the proper plan of attack. Never accept a woman at face value! If she is as she comes across, fine. But there is no harm in suspending your final judgment until your evaluation is complete. If she isn't what she seems to be, you will have saved yourself a lot of grief. It is necessary to evaluate every woman for whom you have desire. There is no room to relax your guard. That is when YOU are most vulnerable. Knowledge gives you power. Knowing exactly where a woman is truly "coming from" enables you to know whether or not you want to take her where she wants to go, or just let her catch a ride with you for awhile - with you determining for her at what stop she gets off YOUR train, and not the other way around. Let's examine the three basic types of woman to define the opponent: the ho, the freak, and the good girl.
CHAPTER THREE The Ho When the word "ho" is used when referring to a woman, the image of a street hooker springs readily to mind. And yes, prostitutes are definitely hoes. But although a prostitute is indeed a ho, not all hoes are as obvious as prostitutes about the fact that you are getting the sex in exchange for her material gain. Our working definition of a ho is a woman who will commit a sexual act or enter into a sexual relationship with a man in exchange for the man making available to her something of monetary or status value.
To my way of thinking, I have no problem with a woman selling her body - ifs hers to do with what she wants. (I say that, however, with one important qualification we'll discuss shortly.) And for the woman who is able to cut off or suppress the natural feelings that arise when she allows a man to be sexually intimate with her, she is able to realize the advantage of the fact that she is literally "sitting on a goldmine". Prostitution has been called the world's oldest profession. And to the woman who hoes, she is able to sell a product that is in great and constant demand. Also, she is able to sell the same thing over and over, as a "cat" is very hard to wear out, even with extremely frequent use on a long-term basis. The original recyclable product! But wait! The man pays for the right to put himself inside the woman for sexual pleasure. But doesn't the woman derive sexual pleasure as well? Some do, some don't, but it's up to them to decide if they want to or not. So how come, if she's able to get sexual pleasure also, the man is paying her? Paying even when it may not be that great anyway? Because it is a mutually understood fundamental fact that in man-woman relationships the "cat" has the value, not the "dick". She has what you want. Sex occurs when the woman "gives it up". Men "get a piece". It is the act that establishes and verifies a man's claim to that woman. And natural emotions are aroused by the sex act. That is the way we as humans are made. The essence of what makes a person male or female is whether the person has a penis or vagina. Along with the equipment comes a psychological mindset based upon the nature of the equipment. (This may sound very simple and elementary, but it is a denial of these facts by some segments of society that have caused a confusion and a blurring of distinct male and distinct female behavior). The woman's vagina comes with a seal, her hymen. The vagina itself is an opening to be entered, a hole to be plugged, a vacuum to be filled. I'm sure you've heard the statement that nature abhors a vacuum. This is especially true when it comes to women. By her physical construction she desires to be fulfilled (this is a psychological need also); she is made complete when she joins with a man. A woman's vaginal walls contract or expand to provide a "snug fit' for the male organ it is most active with, much like a lock that would take the form of the key that fits it. Women, by their design, are made to belong to one man. Men, on the other hand, by design can fill any hole presented, with no physical changes occurring. (Except possibly a venereal disease! Use condoms!) Man is made to penetrate, to thrust, to stab. Also, a female can be pregnant to one man, while a man can have several females pregnant at the same time.
It is by God's design that men have a natural desire to enjoy more than one woman at a time. You see this theme repeated throughout nature: one bull in a field of cows, one lion with several lionesses, one rooster in a hen house. Women have a valid complaint about a man's ability to be singularly faithful. Women are made by nature to be with one man, and women therefore inherently cannot understand a man's instinctive nature to have different females. So, the act of hoing is against the natural laws of a woman's mind and body. Why do they do it? It depends. Some do it strictly for the money. Eddie Murphy did a skit on Saturday Night Live one time where he played a pimp named Velvet Jones, who was selling a book on TV. The monologue humorously pointed out the advantages to being a prostitute. "Hello. Are you a female high school dropout between the ages of 15 and 35? Are you tired of doors being slammed in your face when you apply for a job, Are you tired of lying around in bed all day with nothing to do? Well, you never need get up again because in six short weeks I can train you to be a high-paid ho. That's right. Ifs a wellknown fact that a good ho can make up to $1,500 a week. Just think - $1,500 without even leaving the comforts of your own bedroom. Sound too good to be true? Just send for my new book entitled How To Be A Ho. Yes - in six short weeks if you're not confident that you can make big money as a ho working for me - you can send the book back. It's as simple as that. You get to meet new people - travel - wear nice clothes and have lots and lots of sex - what more can a woman ask for? Be somebody - be a ho." And it's just that simple to them. They've been able to come to grips with their conscience - and deny it. Some do it not only for the money, but also to feel accepted by men. We'll talk about the effect a father has on his daughter's sexuality in the next chapter. Suffice it to say, any woman who sells herself for money or material gain has a deeply rooted psychological mis-orientation. But, as I said early in this chapter, what a woman wants to do with her body is up to her - with one qualification. The qualification is that I know about it upfront, or, if she doesn't tell me, that I be able to discern for myself her actual motives for indicating her availability. Now, the straight pay-for-play ladies usually have hearts of gold; they are, if you are on good terms with them, very caring and giving and concerned. This causes problems for some men who make use of their services: they mistake the ho's natural giving attitude as being for them only. They fall in love with the ho, thinking they can
reform her or fulfill her needs. This very rarely is the case. But at least it was the man's own decision to try, because the terms were made clear in the beginning. Not so with the other type of ho. This type is usually characterized as a gold-digger, the type female who desires a man for his money and/or lifestyle, and, with malice and aforethought, uses the exchange of sex to gain access to her goal. This woman knows how to appeal to the man's ego and vanity, and along with the use of the lure of her sex, is very hard to resist. Most men can't resist when targeted by this type of woman, which is why pre-nuptial agreements have become the vogue among those with a lot to lose in the event of divorce. But the character of a ho carries down to the girl in high school who, if you aren't of high enough status, won't consider you no matter how much personality you have; her criteria is a male with a car or spending money or a star athlete with popularity status. If you are targeted by this type of women don't let your head be turned! Do not convince yourself otherwise when you intuitively know that the woman is truly down deep inside, a ho. She may not come right out and say, "I'm a ho." But you'll know. Ask her about past relations in a general sort of way to get an indication of where she's coming from. To test her, suggest that things won't be as good for you in the future as they are now, and gauge her reaction. But most of all, question yourself honestly. Of the three types of woman, the ho is the least desirable. She may be the easiest, if you have the money and are willing to pay. But don't ever expect more than what you pay to get. And especially don't expect long lasting emotional involvement. Besides, you can actually get more and better sex from our next type of woman, and for free to boot, if you know what you are doing, and sex is your primary goal. Let's check out the Freak.
CHAPTER FOUR The Freak Ah, yes... the Freak. Of the three types of women, this is the one to play and have fun with (hoes you pay with, good girls you stay with). And nowadays, television and media advertising have combined to turn the scene into a veritable freak factory! Young girls, girls and women are packaged, manufactured and sold a carefree, loose, aggressive attitude toward casual sex from the time they can play with Barbie. And when you learn
how to be their Ken, you'll have all the freaks you can handle. Think I'm kidding? Turn into any teen dance show or Club MTV and see what these girls are being taught. With every Madonna video they learn that strutting their stuff in as suggestive a manner as possible is the thing they are supposed to do. Madonna epitomizes the freak as the aggressive, sexually hip and ready-to-play-the-game-like-aman woman of the '90's. Let them play that game. Let them play it right up our alley. Let's differentiate between the freak and the ho. As I said, a ho is a woman who knowingly uses her sex for monetary gain. A freak is a woman who craves new experiences, primarily sexual, and attention from men. A freak has a strong sexual nature, and most times is very much in touch with it. (But not always. It's especially fun cultivating a fledgling freak. Sensing a woman has that side to her and helping her get in touch with it will cause her to be receptive to you for life.) Most freaks have had a distant or non-existent relationship with their father or male authority figure when they were growing up (as opposed to hoes, who usually received sexually abusive treatment). As a result, freaks use flirting and dressing suggestively as a way to obtain the male attention they desire, in order to reaffirm their worth. It is usually easy to get a freak into bed, as this affirms her desirability. Some hoes, commenting on the behavior of freaks feel the freaks should be selling it, as much as they give it away. And that statement has a degree of logic to it. The best sex is free, because the best pure sex is with a freak. Some women who like to "get around" would be offended at the offer to be paid for what they so willingly do. That is the essence of the distinction between the freak and the ho. Freaks are constantly looking for the new and the exciting. This is why freaks have so much fun "falling in love" - getting to know a new person, enjoying the newness of the sex, doing special things with someone new for the first time together. But once the relationship loses its freshness and newness, her eyes begin to wander as she begins to look for someone else to "fall in love" with. The male who doesn't realize the inevitable outcome of attempting to corral and domesticate a freak in the same manner as you would the type of woman we find in the next chapter, the good girl, is setting himself up for a lot of heartache, hassle and unnecessary emotional disappointment, which I think you would agree is always good to avoid, if possible. Freaks seem to have a built-in self-defense mechanism that causes them to retreat at signs of an attempt to "tie them down", or force a steady commitment. But it is very possible and fairly easy to capture and control a freak - and have her desiring you! Well discuss this in detail when we discuss the Basic Strategy.
Not all freaks are blatantly outward about their true nature. As a matter of fact, one of the deadliest type of women to encounter is the Quiet Freak - the girl who is soft, and demure in outward attitude, and enjoys allowing you to have her, but when someone else comes along who tickles her fancy, they allow themselves to be had by them also - and sometimes neglect to tell you that fact. When found out, they plead that "they didn't know what they were doing", or they're "so confused". The confusion comes from them (and you) assuming that because their outward demeanor is that of a good girl, that's what they are. No, really they are a freak, and a freak sooner or later has to reveal her true nature. Down the road, usually around the age of 25 or so, a freak will start to look for someone to settle down with. She almost always desires a mon, because that will allow her to continue her freak way of seeking male attention. (This explains why you see beautiful freaks married to average guys - she can easily control him, and the relationship.) She may not necessarily have sex with another man after she's married but neither her or her husband can ever truly be sure she won't. Over a period of time the nature of the freak and her actions has a corrosive effect on the male's ego. But, lots of times guys are willing to sacrifice their pride and control over the woman they mate with in order to obtain one that is extremely beautiful and attractive. This is a personal decision a male must make for himself. A freak is capable of innocently, by her nature, conducting herself with other men in a way that is borderline "come-on". In other-words, she is capable of giving off the impression that, although she is with you, she is still available sexually if the right buttons are pushed. Again, she may not actually be available, but her nature requires her to give that impression in order to receive the level of male attention she needs to verify her desirability. Freaks are sometimes able to learn ho behavior, but it is against their basic type and usually results in psychological conflict. Eventually she may cease from actually giving access to her sex for money, but is comfortable with such things as posing naked for photography, or doing strip routines in nightclubs, things that are sexually provocative but do not require her to actually have impersonal sex. Girls who are "cockteasers" are freaks. She might "give it up", she might not. How much do you want her and what are you willing to do for it is her criteria for deciding. That attitude is at the crux of the freak's nature - her need for personal recognition and a constant reaffirmation of her desirability. You can use this fact to have the enjoyment most men usually have to just fantasize about. But, if you attempt to get more than what a freak gives sexually, by trying to turn the relationship into a deep emotional commitment, not only will you be unsuccessful, but also you will spoil the sex you're getting, because it will be time for her to move on and find someone else to "fall in love with". It is the woman described in the next chapter that will enable you to express the natural feelings a man has to conquer and possess a woman as his own, and will love you for
doing so (and you will be safe in returning that love): the Good Girl.
CHAPTER FIVE The Good Girl The first contact with a good girl in your life was probably with your mother or grandmother. The women in American society that had their formative years before the mid-Sixties were most likely raised as good girls through the stability of family life, and the absence having low sexual morality and behavior portrayed in advertising, media, and cinema. Remember as you watch TV nowadays that there was a time when a passionate kiss alone was outrageous and an offense to the public, and you can get an idea of the changed moral climate in this country. And the level of a country's moral standard is determined by the basic standards of its women. Nowadays, as we noted previously, women are bombarded by images, from their early years throughout the rest of their life of extreme emphasis placed on sex appeal as the way to attract the desired attention of males. The Book of Proverbs, Chapter 31 gives us God's point of view of the woman He intended for each one of us to have: v. 10 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. v. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. v. 12 She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. v. 13 She looks for wool and flax, and works with her hands in delight. v. 14 She is like merchant ships; she brings her food from afar. v. 15 She rises also while it is still night, and gives food to her household, and portions to her maidens. v. 16 She considers a field and buys it; from her earnings she plants a vineyard. v. 17 She girds herself with strength, and makes her arms strong. v. 18 She senses that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out at night. v. 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hands grasp the spindle. v. 20 She extends her hand to the poor; and she stretches out her hands to the needy. v. 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household, for all her household are clothed with scarlet. v. 22 She makes coverings for herself; her clothing is fine linen and purple v. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. 65 v. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies belts to
the tradesman. v. 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. v. 26 She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. v. 27 She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness. v. 28 Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: v. 29 "Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all". v. 30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but the woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. v. 31 Give her the product of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates. Most feminists have a misconception of what is meant by an "old-fashioned" girl according to biblical standards. But once you read closely the above description of what I consider the good girl, you see a woman who would be the epitome of what feminists describe as the woman who "has it all". The woman described in the above passage knows how to sew (v. 13), she does the shopping (v. 14), she gets up early and makes breakfast for the family (v. 15). But she is not "just a housewife (it is, however, her number one concern). She is a person who can stand on her own, and use her own mind. She analyzes an investment, and uses the return on the investment for the family's benefit (v. 16). She works out and keeps in shape (v. 17)! She knows she's done well by her family, and also she's there sexually for her husband - "her lamp doesn't go out at night" is a way of saying she's still "on the job" (v. 18). She's not afraid of hard work, and she also assists charity efforts. She makes sure everyone in her family has proper clothing, and she takes care to dress herself appealingly (v. 21 & 22). Now, a woman as "together" as this attracts a man that has made something of himself and is respected (v. 23) - so that gives you a clue as to how you need to gear yourself in order to rate such a woman. She is capable of managing her own business affairs (v. 24). Her proper attitude, demeanor, and self-confidence are evident (v. 25). She has a pleasing personality (v. 26), and isn't lazy (v. 27). When a woman establishes her household in this manner, her children turn out right (v. 28). Verse 29 tells us men the secret to keeping this woman happy - sincere, constant praise and expressions of sincere appreciation. You must always show and let her know what she means to you, and never take the things that she does for granted. Is that really so hard? In verse 30 we are told the truth about what is really valuable in a woman. And in verse 31 the husband is told to let her spend the money she earns.
Others will notice the value this woman has, which is, as we are told in verse 10, far above monetary consideration. You can't put a price tag on this kind of love. And we are told in verse 11 that this is the type of woman to trust your heart to, with the assurance of verse 12 - she will do you good all the days of her life. And not only that, but she won't do you any evil, either. What can possibly be objectionable by feminists to the type of woman so described? She's not a no-identity, chained-to-the-stove creature. What is objectionable (to them) is the fact that she is doing it in deference to and for a man's satisfaction and approval. But they don't understand that this is precisely what allows her to enjoy fully her endeavors and accomplishments - she is fulfilling the function for which she was designed. In the above description, her role is clear-cut and well-defined, as is the man's to be the main provider and a responsible member of the community. When feminists put forth the notion to take away the premise that a woman finds true fulfillment only when in proper relation to a man, they fly directly in the face of the one basic fact that automatically makes their idea an exercise in futility - the fact that WOMAN WAS CREATED FOR THE MAN'S SAKE, NOT MAN FOR WOMAN'S SAKE. The women that have not accepted this who allow themselves to do so will eliminate THE major stumbling block to establishing a satisfying, fulfilling, long-lasting relationship with a man. And men, when you have a woman like that - "Cherish is the word I use to describe" how you should treat her, as that old-fashioned 60's tune goes, (I guess when it comes down to it, I'm just an old-fashioned kind of guy.) Freaks will come and go, hoes will take your money, but the good girl, properly maintained and cared for, is your best bet to find long term contentment in a relationship with a woman. SHE IS THE ONLY TYPE OF WOMAN WORTH MAKING A DEEP EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT IN OR COMMITMENT TO. An early recognition of this truth I made when I was a sophomore in high school. One of the most popular senior athletes in school (who also held a B average in the classroom) had a girlfriend that, upon first glance, would be described as nice, but plain. They would walk hand-in-hand in the hallways between class and it was obvious he cared a great deal for her, and she for him. Yet, at dances and after sports events I would see him with out-of-sight sexy cheerleaders and other "sophisticated" girls, and these girls would be jockeying hard for his attention. Yet, when it came time for the Senior Prom, it was Plain Jane that was on his arm. Being a member of the yearbook committee, I was taking pictures of the couples as
they made their entrance. Holy Toledo! Jane didn't look so plain anymore! And you could see, radiated in her beautiful, soft smile, the purity of her commitment to him. I featured their picture prominently in the layout for that section of the yearbook, so I spent much time looking at her image. What I saw was that the beauty wasn't so much in her physical features as it was in... her. A few years later, I happened to run into the former senior at the mall. I stopped him, and asked him if he remembered me from school: he said he did, vaguely. (I was a nerd in those days.) And then I asked him the question that I could already tell the answer to as soon as I started -"Whatever happened with you and Jane?" He smiled and said, "I got tired of her as a girlfriend - so I married her." I related to him my impression of her throughout school, and her total transformation, in my eyes, the night of their prom, and the fact that I was sure he could have had any girl he wanted in the school. When I said that, it was as if I flipped a switch or pushed a button, because, although he was talking to me he was talking more so to himself. He replied that, although he enjoyed the sexual delights other girls had to offer, it was always strictly for fun for him, and he made sure the girls (undoubtedly freaks) knew it. His heart belonged to Jane. Jane was a different type (!) of girl. She was content to be there just for him, and wanted to care for him. She had a very pleasant personality and clean fun with other males, but she knew, they knew, and he knew that she considered herself available only to him. "And when you know deep down inside that a woman has taken it on herself to be true to you, even though she knows you might not be with her only, you can't help but give your heart to her. And all these years she's never told me not to be with any other woman, or given me an ultimatum, but eventually I knew that the hurt it would cause her, especially after we got married, wasn't worth it anymore. Besides," he said with a wink, "she was always better in bed than those other girls anyway!" He had found the perfect woman for a long-term relationship - the good girl with a streak of freak in her. Some of the peak sexual experiences in my life have been with the good girl type. Used to be you could tell a good girl type easily, as she usually wore her hair conservatively, dressed modestly, and if she needed glasses they were the traditional thick-as-a-coke-bottle type. That is no longer the case. Nowadays, because of the extreme emphasis on appearance and fashion, there are a lot of good girls hidden underneath a freak's veneer. In a group of girls, all of which may be dressed in a suggestive manner, there's usually a freak as the ringleader, with her main partner-in-crime, who is a freak also, but the tag-a-longs are usually good girls who 'look up" to the freaks for their forwardness and audacity. The good girls know they do not have it in themselves to act like the freaks do, but they do have fun watching. Your Basic Strategy would tell you to engage the freak in conversation to break the ice, but keep your eye on the good girl - of course, assuming a good girl is what you have in mind at the time. (As I said, when we get through indoctrinating you with this theory, it will be Your World of Women, to do with what you want.)
There's a corollary point to the just-described scenario. There are a lot of good girls who happened to be cursed by being beautiful to look at. Yes, I said cursed, because a man looks at a woman and instinctively responds to her according to the degree of her beauty and physical appeal, if he doesn't know any better. The more beautiful the woman, the more tongue-tied the man, or should I say mon, gets. As a result, some of the most beautiful girls are also the most lonely -because men are afraid to approach them! That's why you see some beautiful girls with guys that don't have any more advantages than you have to offer, or worse - because the woman was so happy somebody "cracked" (asked her out), that she said yes! Women don't operate the same way as men, remember. The visual is not the determining factor when they assess a man's desirability. This is important to get in your head, because it holds the key in your approach toward women. Well, it seems the conversation has lead naturally into a need to layout the Basic Strategy with which to get All The Girls You Want. So, without further delay...
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CHAPTER SIX The Basic Strategy Let us continue with the point I began to make in the preceding chapter. And I want you to help me illustrate it. Take this book in your left hand. Stand up. Now, with your right hand reach around behind you and squeeze your butt. First, squeeze your right butt cheek. Now, squeeze your left butt cheek...Yes, stretch a little bit. There ya go. Okay. Now, touch your face. Cover your face with the palm of your hand. You should be looking through your fingers to be able to read this. Okay. Now, put your right hand down at your side and grab your thigh. Hold it for a second, then let go and just stand there. Okay. You can sit down again. You are now sitting on the butt you just grabbed, and the thigh is resting on your seat. Do you feel anything "special" about your thigh, butt or face? No. Same ol' thigh, butt and face you always had. Now, you see that beautiful girl standing over there? To her, her thigh, butt and face are the same ol' thigh, butt and face she always had. And they feel the same to her as yours just felt to you in our demonstration. A woman cannot help or take credit for the thigh, butt and face that they were born with and always had. She can affect it to a degree by exercise, but they can only work with what they had basically to begin with. Now, you see the girl in the stretched-reeeeaaalll-tight mini-skirt perched on the barstool showing allllll that thigh and plump rear end? Her body feels to her exactly as yours, in your pants and shirt feels. But the sight of her body affects you to the tenth degree, while, like I said before, the visual stimulation of you (even if you had on something real tight and revealing) does not have the same impact on her, and is not the determining factor as to your desirability. She is made differently, remember. But for a man...even if that girl on the bar stool was obnoxious, with a limited vocabulary and a lousy attitude, we wouldn't care as long as she let us use her body as we wanted for an hour or two, right? Well put this point in ifs place in the overall perspective very shortly. Now, let's discuss what I mean by The Basic Strategy. Once again, let's set this discussion in the context of a war. In the effort to secure victory, you have both an offensive strategy, to achieve your goal, and a defensive strategy, to maintain your position and protect against damage or loss.
In this battle of the sexes, women have important advantages. First they have control over what is mutually agreed to be the goal of the man's efforts: intimate sexual relations. Whether it be with a ho for pay, or with a freak for fun, or with a good girl for real, the initial battle is the securing by the man the right to enter the woman physically. As I said before, mutual satisfaction results when the man achieves his goal properly and completely, but it is understood that it is the woman who gave up something of value. So, the battle is being fought over her "home territory". Also, the woman has the advantage of the aforementioned built-in desire a man has for the woman's body, which can be whipped into a frenzied state by how she displays her body through her dress and actions. A woman can dress real tight and real skimpily, and stand, bend, or move in such a way that the man will go to extreme lengths to possess (for a time) that flesh he sees. Any woman knows what a button undone here, and a dress or shorts up-to-here can do to a man's willpower. She knows the effect a casual display of, or a brush up against, her womanly charms can accomplish. Sometimes it's like leading a pig to slaughter, because we males go so easily. In putting forth the following thoughts, it is assumed that you are creating the P.P.S.P. you need, and that you will absorb the knowledge of what to do after you have the "fish on the hook" that is presented in the final seven chapters. By accomplishing the above, you will have made yourself acceptable as a male companion and potential suitor to the vast majority of females you will encounter on a daily basis. The Basic Strategy is an attitude and method, to be used on the female, in order to get her to do what she naturally desires to do, but to do it under your terms and conditions. (Note: Again, I am a very strong advocate of having the female under my terms and conditions. First, it is a natural attitude based upon my full acceptance of my manhood. Second, it is necessary in order for the female and I to be able to fully enjoy each other's presence whatever the context and degree of intensity of the relationship. Third, it keeps to a minimum unnecessary interruption of thought, effort, and energies that are needed to do the other things in life a man must do - the providing of food, clothing, and shelter for himself and dependents, and the pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness. A woman will sometimes lose sight of the fact that her man has other interests in life and things to do other than what involves her. When this happens, she will resort to whatever it takes to re-establish herself as the main occupier of her man's attention. If the man cannot control the situation, and allows her to be that center of attention under her conditions, double trouble results: he loses needed clarity of mind for effectiveness in other pursuits, and he loses control to the woman in the relationship, which, once relinquished, is very seldom regained. Because of your future success with women, you will be faced with the problem of women wanting you all the time, which can cramp your style if not handled correctly. In
the second volume of this three-part series, we will discuss how to handle this and many other situations under Advanced Strategy. As I was saying, if you prepare your P.P.S.P. correctly, and your outward appearance accordingly, women will find you. But, whether you are a man or a mon will depend upon your skillful use of the Basic Strategy. We have stated that your opponent has two main advantages - (1) the fact that the "cat belongs to her, so she will make the final decision as to what to do with it, and (2) the fact that the mere sight of her, especially when she is dressed provocatively, stirs your passion much more so than the sight of you stirs her. She has the prize and the female knowledge that you will do just about anything she wants you to do to get it. (Or so she thinks.) It should now be obvious to you what you need to do, having so clearly defined the main weapons in her arsenal. You must disarm her. You must neutralize her advantage. You must take away her natural leverage over you as a male. This falls under the category of a defensive maneuver, because it protects against damage or loss, as we said previously. And just as surely as if she was standing in front of you with a gun pointed at you, and you were able to wrest it away from her, that defensive maneuver smoothly turns into an offensive maneuver at the same time, because now you have the gun pointing at her and she is in the vulnerable position. There's only one weapon at issue here, and it's always hers to start with. She has a loaded "cat", so to speak, and ifs the threat of her withholding it from you that you must take from her and use against her. (Once you get her in bed you can continue to use her "cat" against her by driving her sexually into a state of bliss - the methods for accomplishing this are discussed in detail in the follow-up to this book: How To Get All The Girls You Want II - Advanced Sexual Knowledge, Technique & Strategy. The order form for this needed companion volume is at the end of this book.) There is a valid, clinical term for the use of the technique you will employ. It is called "reverse psychology". It is the technique of giving an impression opposite the expected one to achieve the goal you really desire. In the classic tale of Huckleberry Finn and Tom Sawyer, Tom used reverse psychology to get his friends to do his work for him of whitewashing the fence by making it seem something desirable and fun to do, rather than the chore it really was. Women by nature feel they have something valuable to men, and are used to men coming after it. It is at their discretion as to whether or not the man meets their standards in order to be "deserving" of receiving the "cat". If you convey to a woman she is not
particularly desirable to you, that you really can "take it or leave it", her advantage is gone! She then seeks to reassure herself of her value by trying to make you want "it". The ball is now in your court. A woman can have nine guys telling her she's beautiful, she's the world, they couldn't live without her, etc. - she will want to be with, need to be with the tenth guy, the one who says, "Eh. She's alright...ain't no big thang...", because her femininity and desirability have been brought under question. Let's make this Basic Strategy very simple to grasp. I think most kids who have ever played on a playground have played on a seesaw. You get on, the other person gets on, and up and down you go. You use your weight to keep your partner in the air, then you push off the ground and their weight and momentum brings them down and then you are up in the air, and so forth. But what would happen once your partner got you up in the air ...and then jumped off? You would come down - hard. When you first meet a woman, it's like getting on a seesaw with her. Her goal is to be in control by using her natural advantages to put you up in the air. There, you are at her mercy. She can keep you up there as long as she likes, because once your feet are off the ground and you are past the midway point on your way up, you no longer have any leverage. Or, she can jump off and let you hit the ground. Hard. Your goal, dear chap, is exactly the same as hers. And by using the Basic Strategy, before she even knows what happened, you have her mentally up in the air, at your mercy. Where she belongs. Okay, you get the point. Now, exactly what is it that accomplishes this for you immediately? Step # 1 of the Basic Strategy is, as I said, the same as what you need to do with all women you encounter that you have a desire for - determine her type. You do this by allowing the woman to know that you are very dispassionately appraising her and evaluating her. You can never change a first impression. Her first impression of you has got to be that it is she, no matter who she is, or how beautiful she is, that is "on the spot", not you, that it is she that is being "checked out" to see if she measures up to your standards! This can be accomplished without a word being spoken. It is all in the attitude you project to her. Again, the first step in the Basic Strategy is to coolly and dispassionately appraise and evaluate the woman in question. And allow her to know (through your attitude, eye contact, and body language) that this is what you are doing.
We have discussed the three different types of woman - the ho, the freak, and the good girl - and we touched upon the necessity of knowing her type, as best as possible, to determine your actions and evaluate hers. Great possibility for disaster arises if you don't. This first step is so critical to the success of your interaction with women it goes beyond words to use for emphasis. Let me give you an analogy: appraisal and evaluation is to getting women on your terms what inhalation is to the act of breathing. Would you be able to breathe if you didn't inhale? No. But during the act of breathing, you not only inhale, causing the air to be filtered by either your nose or mouth, but also you pass the air which is now carbon dioxide. The point is, many things take place during the process, but none are possible without this first critical step. The male who has a standard way of "coming on to" a woman is delivering what are known by females as "lines". If you are delivering lines in this day and age, you will meet with a degree of success with the type of women who have such a limited mentality that they succumb to such. But, as I said in the beginning, the degree of success we are aiming for is much higher. We want it to be damn near a certainty that we can have success with women of our choosing, on our terms. So, our "inhalation", or first step in the process, is to appraise and evaluate the woman in question and to, when appropriate, let her know that is exactly what we are doing. Whether it be a woman that you are being introduced to at a party that is dazzlingly attractive, or a fellow employee that you interact with at work, who is quite beautiful, or a classmate you're sitting near, or a Nevada prostitute line-up, evaluate the woman and mentally arrive at an initial type classification. And show NO initial interest in her as a desirable woman while you do. Let's take as an example the situation described above: meeting a beautiful girl at a party or being introduced to a fellow employee. DO NOT BETRAY HOW HER OUTWARD APPEARANCE HAS AFFECTED YOUR "MALENESS"! Don't fawn all over her, don't ogle her with your eyes, don't insinuate things with your tone of voice or word choices...play your male emotions as close to the vest as a cardplayer in a Wild West saloon poker game. If you show the typical male response that she undoubtedly gets all the time and has gotten used to receiving, you have acknowledged her leverage and advantage, which translates for you as a quick trip up in the air on the see-saw. Again, this is extremely counterproductive to our goal of conquest AND control. So what do you do? You can't just stand there like a zombie, right? Instead of letting your maleness show through in words, attitude and body language, let your "personness" show through. And that statement brings us to another foundational underpinning of this philosophy.
Lines, insincerity, the woman as an object only and a piece of meat, deceit, halftruths...all these have no place in the Basic Strategy, for several reasons. First, it diminishes your P.P.S.P. Superficial actions and insincere words are not compatible with the character quality traits put forth in Book One. Second, your impact upon the woman is tremendously lessened: a woman can tell when a man places value on his integrity. His apparent honestly causes her to be honest in turn. Third, I know from experience that, when you are caught in a lie, people can be hurt that you care about, yourself included. Honesty is indeed the best policy. Fourth, with the intensity of your appeal after internalizing the contents of this book, you won't need "lines" to achieve your goal. In the superficiality and shallowness of today's world, when a woman comes in contact with a man who is indeed a man, someone who stands for something and has inner strength, someone she can trust and feel safe with, she looks for ways to show her feelings. So, in your initial contact with a woman, accept her as a fellow human, a person with inherent worth as an individual, a creation of God. The ho on the street up to the Queen of England will genuinely appreciate this attitude, and warm to it. It also allows you to RELAX, something very necessary when denying the male impulses that confront you when you are two feet away from Miss 38-24-36. Be as pleasant as you would with a new male acquaintance or a great-grandmother. Be YOU. Don't be YOU-ON-THE-SPOT. Remember, it is her that is on the spot. Don't act unnatural or become unglued just because she's a knockout! Get the point? If it helps, squeeze your thigh or butt to remind yourself it is only a physical appearance you are confronted with. And the physical appearance is not essence of the woman herself. Women, the predatory creatures they are, can sense fear. When you are tightening up or putting on a show for her because of her natural advantages, she does what comes naturally: she seizes the initiative and directs your actions to her desire. When you "act natural", you accomplish the goal of conveying to the woman that you are a person worth knowing because you have treated her as a person worth knowing. But the "woman" in that person will be intrigued and curious as to why your reaction wasn't the "usual" male reaction. Their femininity is questioned and they sense that " this man is different". Congratulations, my friend. You have just subconsciously sprung the trap on her.
She is thrown off-stride and momentum has her feet off the ground and up in the air at the end of the seesaw. Let's pause for a moment. What I'm trying to explain to you has a degree of complexity involved in that several different factors have to interrelate to have the one desire effect. So, in the first run-through of this book you get different pieces to the same picture. When you've read through the rest of the book the details of this chapter will be filled in, because we'll be discussing the exact interaction between you and the female, but now we have to discuss the overall frame work of that interaction. So, if something isn't exactly clear or is partially described, it will be made whole by the conclusion of this volume. Let us continue. So, the first step in the Basic Strategy is to appraise and evaluate. In the case of being directly introduced, you are able to conduct your evaluation openly and directly. But what about women you come in contact with in situations where you are not directly introduced? In public places, or on the street, or at concerts, or in the supermarket? The first step is still the same: appraise and evaluate. And after making a reasoned estimate of her type, decide if you actually have a legitimate interest! Don't try to interact with a woman just because she's there. If the woman is a ho, and you are looking for play-for-pay, then proceed, after your first step of the Basic Strategy. The need to take away a ho's advantage is extremely important since it is precisely her "cat" that is the item in question. If you show her respect as a person, but a take-it-or-leave-it attitude concerning her wares, you are in a better bargaining position. That's just good business. Also, she may throw in some extra effort because she likes you. A note of caution about purchasing a ho's service. It is legal in the state of Nevada, and that is the only place I would recommend it, if you have to do it, due to the many repercussions that can arise when you buy sex from a non-professional. On the low end, the street hooker doesn't exactly come with a Surgeon General hazardous to your health label, but she should. On the high end, I always felt it was a lot of money to spend when you can get better sex free from the non-professional, if you know what you are doing. If she is a ho who has you targeted, once that has been determined by your honest evaluation, ask yourself whether or not it is worth the exchange. Don't delude yourself! If it is, enjoy. If not, get out before the water gets too hot. The difference between a ho and a freak who may be impressed by material things is that, for a non-professional ho, having the net worth is her satisfaction necessity essential for her companionship, and for it she will restrict her sex only to the one man. A
freak may be impressed with the money, but sex is her satisfaction necessity, and a freak will sometimes take the chance of losing the man and his money for sex elsewhere if she is not being satisfied. A good girl will be with a man rich or poor; their love is her satisfaction necessity. (But all women enjoy sexual satisfaction and the male who provides it is King. Volume II will show you everything you need to know to be a firstclass lover.) If your evaluation determines that you are dealing with a good girl, decide if you have a legitimate interest. If you already have a good girl in your life, don't complicate matters by attempting to add another one. Get a freak instead. When you attempt to see two good girls you make for yourself conflicting emotions. Remember-you have one heart to give and you should give it to one good girl. (We're going to come back to the issue of the heart in a minute after the good girl evaluation.) Your initial treatment of a good girl as a person, with no hint of male desire will allow her to accept the possibility of you as a friend. To that degree she will relax her defenses and allow and even encourage you to get to know her better, because a man like you is rare. As you continue to interact with her, you should turn up the male-female heat slowly concerning your desire for her as a woman. The time frame of this happening is as different as the people involved - the key is to have it occur naturally. Proper appraisal and evaluation in the initial interaction removed her natural female advantage for her as well as for you, and provided a mutually agreeable rapport. She doesn't have to worry that her "cat" is all you want. And whether or not the interaction culminates in a relationship, you have established the basis for a friendship, and a good, solid friendship with a good girl is worth three freaks. Should you have a romantic involvement with a good girl and you both grow apart, establishing a friendship through an exploration of her as a person will allow the ending of the romantic part to come as painlessly as possible, yet still you can be friends. Because you really were. Sometimes when a man is pursuing his goals in life he must leave a good girl behind to do it. And when that happens, she will always have a place in his heart and you can rest assured she will always have a candle lit for him too. This is the kind of woman that you may have a relationship with off and on for years. Sometimes leaving a good woman to pursue a goal can make her yours more than before. But, once again I digress. So much to write about, so little pages. Buy Volume II! Back to appraisal and evaluation. We've seen where taking the time to make a dispassionate appraisal and evaluation of the type girl she is, while treating her warmly and properly as a person, but with no acknowledgement of her sexuality sets the tone for you to control all further interaction. This technique is especially effective on freaks, because, by their nature, they desire more than any other type the acknowledgement of a man as to the impact and effectiveness of their sexuality.
If, based on your evaluations of her dress, attitude, body language and mannerisms you feel that you have a freak on your hands, prepare to play the Basic Strategy for fun and enjoyment. Yes, this is the type that you can have fun with. But before you can proceed, you must make sure you have your valuables locked securely away out of reach where they can't get damaged. The valuables I'm talking about are your emotions, your "heart". Story time again. I listed an investment property that I owned for sale one day. The real estate agent wanted to make it easy to show the property, and rather than keep bothering me for the keys, or having to meet other agent's clients at the property to let them in, he placed on the door what is known as a "lock-box." The lock-box is a container with a loop that wraps around the property's door handle. In it is the key to the house. You had to have a key to the lock box to get to the key to the property. Only authorized agents had a key to the lock-box, so the key to the property was available only to those with an authorized key to the lock-box. We have studied the creature called Woman, and determined that there are three distinct types. All women are worthy of relating to as a person, and each type has a function, but only the good girl is logically worth looking to for a relationship of longevity and stability. Misplaced emotions directed toward a ho or freak will result in negative consequences. This is a pre-ordained result of a basic violation of the facts of a woman's instinctive nature. Your "heart", which consists of deep feelings, feelings of possessiveness (which are natural but when misplaced can lead to jealousy, which is spiritual poison), and feelings of love and commitment must be kept in the lock-box of your Self. And your lock-box should recognize only good girls by allowing them to turn the key and release these aspects of you in depth. Good girls are the "authorized agents". You put the cart before the horse whenever you allow your emotions to determine your reasoning. Your judgement becomes faulty; you are not able to make the proper decisions necessary to retain your manhood when emotionally involved in depth with a freak or ho. You must evaluate a woman, and, should you determine she is a good girl, and, should you not have one in your life, and should you decide BEFORE EMOTIONS ARE STRONG that you desire to "settle down", THEN let her slowly turn the key to your lock-box. Begin to let her into your heart. But freaks and hoes? NO, NO, NO, NEVER!
Once you are able to incorporate this point of belief into your P.P.S.P., you give yourself total freedom with regards to your interaction with all women. Why? Because you will be able to encounter a ho and handle her appropriately, meet a good girl and understand the need to establish a friendship person-to-person, and with a freak, actually be able to create an advantage for you to use against her! How? First, by not following usual male behavior in your initial interaction with her, you have aroused her feline curiosity. Then, because you were so relaxed and natural and related to her as a person, you gave her reason to like you as a person and invariably lower her male-female guard while raising her desire for you to acknowledge her as a woman. Now, through conversation and interaction, it comes across that, although you are friendly and like her as a person, you really aren't concerned whether or not you can "get the 'cat"'. By locking your heart away, you are able to do to women what they have traditionally done to men: flirt with them with the attitude that you have something they can't get! And that something is access to your heart! Let me repeat what I said in the beginning of this volume. By properly programming your subconscious, and becoming mentally the person you need to be, you provide the basis of all subconscious signals sent out between you and the female, through eye contact, expressions, voice, and body movements. The tact that your feelings and emotions are not easily susceptible to her feminine appeal will come across loud and clear. And it won't be an act in time either; it'll be true. You will realize that there are many, many freaks out there, along with plenty of good girls. And they all, by nature, need and desire interaction with a male. A "special" man is a rare commodity in the eyes of women today. Women want a man who can relate to them, not at them, no matter what type they are. They will sense this about you. And it will draw them to you. And when they realize you are such a man, who just might not be available, women take to the challenge like a bull to a red flag, the challenge being to make you available to them. That's why married men today get more women approaching them than ever before. They are Forbidden Fruit, and, as we know, women have had the desire for things forbidden since the Beginning. And if you disregard the Basic Strategy and fall in love with a woman who seems to want you desperately when you're married, and leave your wife, chances are she will leave you eventually. It is not necessarily you they want, it's the you that is off-limits to them. Once you are totally available, it's no fun anymore. It's a challenge to women to get a man's interest. Some freaks will go all the way to bed with you to see if they can get your attention and without realizing it, allow you to accomplish your goal while she's trying to accomplish hers. The attitude of the Basic Strategy carries into and through this point also with freaks. Even after sex, you can still maintain the presentation of a challenge to captivate you, by not becoming "car-whipped. This is also why guys that are shy attract freaks.
They like the challenge of bringing a shy guy out of his shell. If you are naturally shy, this can work for you. This is the second step in the Basic Strategy. It is only a two-step process, despite its seeming complexity. Appraise & Evaluate...then Retaliate. Taking from the woman her natural advantage and creating the difficulty of obtaining your mental submission as a challenge to her femininity has put the battle on your terms and on your grounds. Her "cat", rather than being something dangled in front of you as the treasured goal for you to salivate over, will become something she will willingly give to you in an effort to achieve her goal of your admission and submission to the effect of her womanly charms. I'd like to point out to you an example of the fierce competitive nature of women. Next time you are in a situation where a man is with an attractive woman, instead of looking at his girl, look at the reaction of the women in the crowd. Other women will attempt to attract the attention of that woman's man in order to assure themselves of their own desirability. You may have heard of women being "catty" to each other, especially when it comes to obtaining a man. A friend of mine noticed this phenomenon and pointed it out to me during my college days. If a guy walked into a party by himself, girls noticed him, but waited to be pursued by him. If the same guy came to the party with a pretty girl on his arm, all of a sudden, to the women there he had special value. When his girl would be somewhere else, other girls would make it a point to walk close by the guy, or openly smile or speak to him in an effort to get his male attention. Not because they wanted him in particular, but because they felt challenged by the girl he was with and wanted reassurance as to their desirability over the other woman. My friend called this the "Bitch Club Bitch" syndrome. Observation on your part of the actions of women in a social setting will bear this observation out. Remember, in nature it is usually the female of the species that is more fierce and competitive that the male. And remember, women are the highest creation of the living creatures. Learn this fact of a woman's nature and you will be able to make her dance to your tune. I've touched on a lot of sub-points in this chapter, so, to summarize: the Basic Strategy of How To Get All The Girls You Want is to appraise and evaluate them as a woman in order to gauge their basic type, and allow them to know you are DISPASSIONATELY doing so. During this time establish a rapport that will serve you no matter what her type by treating her as a person, a fellow human. This will allow you to relax and be yourself and work your game plan with no pressure on yourself. Once your appraisal and evaluation are complete and you decide you desire to relate to her on a male-female basis, then retaliate against the natural advantage she enjoys as a woman by presenting to her the challenge of attaining your emotions, your heart, or obtaining your
acknowledgement of the potency of her female sexuality, and make it so that as the interaction progresses, it is her desire to give herself to you that is the driving dynamic involved, and not your efforts to "get into her pants". Be "as harmless as a dove, and as wise as a serpent." On that note we will conclude this chapter. What do you actually say to a woman, when do you say it, what you actually do, etc...these things will be addressed in the final seven chapters. To close out Book II, in the next chapter I'm going to give you the outline of a program to use to begin obtaining your success with women in a logical, naturally progressive manner. Now, just between me and you did you think I was kidding when I said 1 would show you How To Get All The Girls You Want? Well, I wasn't. Having All The Girls You Want is serious business - but it's great that business so serious can be so pleasurable at the same time - if you get it right. Follow the advice of this book and get it right.
CHAPTER SEVEN Getting Your "Feet" Wet The chapter at the end of Section One was the "what to do" to get started toward being a person possessing a Positive Personal Self-Portrait, character traits to which all people, especially women, are attracted. This chapter at the end of Section Two is the "what to do" to get started in projecting your persona to apply the Basic Strategy to women. Again, the knowledge contained in the seven chapters after this one needs to be absorbed to give you the entire overview, but it is this chapter that you will refer back to the most frequently after your initial reading, as you get started toward achieving the goal of getting All The Girls You Want. Visualization time again. Pretend you are the captain of the Queen Mary oceanliner or some other large boat, and you were going through the steps necessary to undock your boat and steer slowly out of the harbor as you begin a long journey at sea. (Your destination? To sail into the sunset, preferably with a smile on your face.) And it is your ship, the S.S.__________________ (fill in your name.) For you are truly "the master of your fate, the Captain of your soul", as the saying goes. You are planning the steps to begin an adventure you will enjoy the rest of your life.
These are the things you need to do to get started: 1. Evaluate your present position; 2. Set your goals; 3. Establish a timetable for success; 4. Develop your plan; and 5. Chart your progress. Again, this is serious business. Something that can affect you so very deeply, as a woman can, should not be left to chance and happenstance! 1. Evaluate your present position. What, to date, has been your experience with members of the opposite sex? In light of the thoughts of this book, analyze any memorable experience you've had with women. Think hard! Analyze your reactions in different situations: casual encounters, regular contact but not personal contact, good friends you've had an attraction to, etc. Can you see any error in your approach and presentation in the situations which turned out unfavorably for you? Any experience can be made to be good, even if it was bad at the time, because you can learn from it if you look hard enough, and learn what not to do in similar situations in the future. I will give you a personal example of the type of analysis I am talking about. During my interaction with different females, I was at a level for about two or three girls where, in developing my methodology for dealing with women, I had conquered the fear of making initial contact, and I knew how to achieve favorable interaction to get the girl to the point where the next step was physical intimacy - kissing, necking, petting, and onward, and then... ...and then I would hesitate, clutch up about making the attempt to kiss the girl. Even though I knew she was ready - you can always tell by the dilation of the pupils of their eyes, and by the lower tone in their voice, and by the tiny little upturn of the corners of their mouth, and by the frequency with which they cross and uncross their legs, or other preening gestures such as stroking their hair in a back ward motion, etc. -I still couldn't bring myself to "snatch her up", I just couldn't seize the initiative to bridge that gap to cause first-time intimate contact. Why? After analysis, I realized that it was partially because I was awed by their beauty (these were s-e-r-i-o-u-s-l-y beautiful girls), and partially because I was making the mistake of treating them as good girl types rather than the freak type I sensed they were.
After further introspection, I realized this was due to the fact that, at the time, I wasn't seeing anyone on a steady basis, i.e., I didn't have a good girl to direct my emotions toward. Thus, when confronted with a freak, I tried to make her what she wasn't, a good girl type, by treating her too gently, with too much concern for the possibility of offending her by coming on too fast. (With a freak it is almost impossible to offend by coming on too fast. Although a freak may stop your physical advances, her ego will be flattered that her effect made you "lose control". She'll have fun trying to "keep you under control" until she's ready to let you "get it". A good girl may sometimes interpret too forward an approach at intimacy in a negative way, determining that you are the type of male that only wants sex from a girl, putting you into a negative mental typecast. Again, make sure of your determination of type - it could be the difference between great success or miserable failure.) What I ended up doing was offending these freaks by not coming on at all! After another contact, where I still "played it cool", they didn't want to see me anymore. I was, to them, too boring, and wanted to be too serious. I realized that my personality demanded that I have an "ace-in-the-hole" - a good girl I could be emotionally involved with so that I could properly project the "I don't care if I get it or not" attitude to the freaks and be prepared to back it up by my actions - by walking away if need be. (And sometimes it need be. If a girl will not play by your rules you have no choice but to leave. If not, you end up playing by her rules. And nine times out of ten she will beg you to stay once you've proven that you are not bluffing.) Being the warm, loving, sensitive, compassionate person I am, it was hard to keep from expressing that side of me to the freak because she was, after all, a woman, and I didn't realize at the time that I really was looking for a good girl. So, because I was able to analyze my seemingly negative experiences - I didn't get with the freaks - I was able to correct the flaw in my game plan by securing a good girl shortly thereafter. And not too long after that, I was able to pull one of the most delicious freaks I have had in my long and illustrious career- because I was able to keep my emotions out of my interaction with her, and just go full-tilt trying to drive her crazy. And she loved it. Now, here is an important visualization trick that you can use to repair past damage to your P.P.S.P. and get you mentally ready to start getting All The Girls You Want. As we've said repeatedly throughout this volume, visualization is a powerful tool. Studies have been done to vividly prove this fact. This is an example: Three groups were selected for an experiment. The first group was taken to a basketball court and made to shoot twenty foul shots a day, for ten days in a row. The second group was made to shoot twenty foul shots on the first and tenth day only. The third group was made to shoot foul shots on the first and tenth days, like the second group, but for the eight days in between
they were made to effect the proper atmosphere for deep visualization, and mentally shoot twenty foul shots. The results of the groups on the tenth day have been substantiated with other different and varied tests time and time again. Both groups 1 and 3 showed significant improvement in the amount of foul shots made on the first day. And group 1 had only the slightest edge in terms of total shots made as a group overall. As said before, you have the power to paint a P.P.S.P. for your future. But now, here's more. Now that you've reviewed past instances of wrong or negative interaction with females for purposes of evaluation, you can also, in light of the thoughts of this book, visualize how each interaction should have been approached and then visualize the success you would have had if you had used these techniques. If you do this - take negative experiences and visualize how it could have been had the experience been positive - enough times, in the proper relaxed state of mind, you can literally "erase" the negative impression of these events on your subconscious! You will always know the true outcome of your past negative encounters consciously. But you can, through strong visualization, impress upon your subconscious the effect that these encounters were (ultimately) positive interactions. And by doing so you will have dug up and threw out past negative thoughts lurking in your subconscious, waiting to add their negative weight to any attempt by fear to impede your progress or dampen your enthusiasm or desire. Do it - it works. The next question to ask in an evaluation of your position is - what is your current status? Are you happy with the woman or women you are with now? If not, why not? Do you have the firm assurance she is the type you truly desire at this stage in your life? If you are married and reading this book, that alone tells a bit about your current status - unless your are truly just curious as to this book's contents. But be honest with yourself. Are you truly happy? For those of you to whom this applies, I'm going to tell you something that you will not understand emotionally until you are at that point, if you haven't been there yet. And that is, you will feel a burden lifted from your shoulders when you are no longer under the spell of a woman in what you know is a bad relationship. "Ifs a bitch when you know it ain't no good, but you can't let go." Proverbs 21:19- "It's better to live in the desert land than with a contentious and vexing woman." Proverbs 12:4 - "An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who shames him is as rottenness in his bones."
I was lucky in the personal experiences I described to you a little while ago, in that none of those freaks allowed us to get involved. Why was I lucky? Because I was susceptible to making the mistake of giving the key to my lock-box to a freak. You head down the road to disaster when this occurs. If you are in a situation where you have good girl emotions invested in a freak, you will experience the "can't live with, can't live without" syndrome. But you may feel that since you have X amount of time invested in the relationship, you should stick it out until the bitter end; besides, she might "change". Number One. She will not change. Those are your emotions talking. Number Two. And this applies to bad situations in life as well - it doesn't matter how much time you have "invested" in the situation. It is gone. By putting your future in jeopardy for something not possible to retrieve, you lose that too. You throw good time away because of bad time already gone, never to be found or retrieved again. As a banker friend of mine once told me - "Not all investments pan out. Expect it to happen sometimes. But when you perceive that to be the case, do not hesitate to cut your losses. If you know it's just not going to work, accept that fact and get out. It's the failure to accept a small loss that leads to major losses in most cases, and sometimes financial ruin." The same is true with the investment of emotions. Making a hard decision (at the time) and sticking to it, especially when emotions are involved, is an indication of the degree of inner strength you possess how much of a man you really are. Remember - "All you need is an attitude to rise and walk away." 2. Set your goals, & 3. Establish a timetable. Once you have ascertained and set in your mind just "where you're at" concerning your present status with woman, you've got to decide where you want to go and when you want to get there. The two go hand in hand. Your age and stage in life are the main determining factors here. If you are sixteen and reading this book, your desire for a lifelong companion does not have the same necessity as someone who's forty years old. Yet, for some forty-year-olds, life, as far as women are concerned, may just be opening up, due to divorce, or perhaps due to a new level of financial status. In this case your desire for new experiences would be the same as a teenager. However, the opportunities to come in contact with members of the opposite sex would be vastly different. So methods and approaches would also not be the same. But no matter what your individual circumstances and desires, you must set your
goal firmly in mind. It is not enough to say to yourself "I want girls." It is not enough to say to yourself "I want a lot of pretty girls." You must fix in your mind the exact type of girl you want - the ho, the freak or the good girl, and how many of each, if you so desire. But not only that - you must fix in your mind a general idea of her (their) physical appearance, and type of personality. Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder. What is acceptable, attractive, beautiful, pretty to one is not better or worse, but usually different to another. Some prefer redheads with green eyes. Some prefer dark eyed, caramelskinned brunettes. The traditional blue-eyed blonde certainly has her share of admirers. What do you really want? What does your ideal girl look like in your mind's eye? Looking in fashion magazines is a must if you desire to appreciate women. Find a picture of a girl that fits your mental image of the type you want. If you want more than one type, then locate a picture for each type. Your ideal ho would seemingly look different than your ideal good girl. Then imagine the personality to go with the picture. What type of personality is suited to yours? A quiet, meek type because you'll do enough talking for both of you, or vice versa? Independent, fiery - or just plain pleasant? Dirty minded or very humorous? What is compatible with you? If you have gotten to this point, you will be able to take your visualization exercises one step further. If you know basically what you want her to look like - and you know the type personality you would be comfortable with, then you can visualize your entire interaction with her - just like a movie starring you and your ideal girl! You can visualize what approach would introduce you to her best. You can imagine what you would say to make her comfortable with you, make her desire you, and make her understand what you want and how you want it. Some call it daydreaming or wishful thinking. I call it visualization with a purpose. Because by doing that periodically, you are preparing yourself for the time when in real life you see the girl that fits your general image. She may not be exactly the detail of what you had envisioned, but she will be close enough. You will feel that you automatically know her. And you will; because of your intense visualization sessions, you have the "program" in place, you have the script already written to make fantasy into reality. "You make in life the exact reproduction of your thoughts. Your life is yours; it fits you like your skin." Or it can, anyway. And at that point, since you now know how to conquer the seeds of doubt Fear tries to put in your way at that critical moment, you can use that to your benefit...and all of a sudden, you are in action with the girl of your dreams!
And you will be so pleasantly surprised. She will sense your confident and relaxed manner and open up to you as you visualized she would. What if her personality is different than what you were geared for? You'll be able to handle it. Pointers on the skill of being a good conversationalist are in the next section. Don't worry about it. Opportunities usually have a way of making themselves available when you are ready for them. So, this is the goal - the ideal woman (or women) of the type (or types) that you desire. Give yourself enough time to realistically achieve this. As we stated, ifs not going to come overnight. A lot of factors that have to do with you individually will determine how soon you are to the point when you can handle the ideal woman you visualize. But it should take no more than a year to reach this goal, if effort is diligently applied, no matter who you are. And if you say a year is a long time, I say: compared to what? We are talking about changing a key factor of the future of your life. Anything that takes time to construct obviously will be that much more durable. Also, a year will come and go no matter what you do. So redeem the time wisely. You will either be in the same place you are now, only a year worse off, or you can have invested the time properly and diligently and made fundamental changes in your life that will assure you a stream of women, if you so desire, for the rest of your life. It's up to you - the ability to demonstrate patience in effort has a direct correlation to the amount of maturity present in an individual. Being a man and being immature are not compatible. Your ideal woman won't come tomorrow, because you are not ideal yourself yet. But you will be. You will be busy between now and her arrival. During this time you will be implementing your plan. 4. Develop your plan. Depending on your individual status, you either have a lot, some, or a little work to do to get to the point where you can Get All The Girls You Want. Your assault is on two fronts: (1) yourself, (2) and the woman. First, yourself. The type of person you want to be, the image you want to project must be compatible with your basic Self, your basic personality and physical attributes, for you to truly be you and be happy. It is unrealistic to have an image of yourself as a Don Johnson type or Robert Redford type if you don't have the looks to do it. (In the next section we discuss how style, grooming and clothing can compensate for a lack of natural handsomeness.) You must be realistic in your assessments, for that will enable you to highlight
your positive characteristics. Write down the things you need to do to achieve the goals that you want. If it involves working out, write down the steps to take - get a physical, join a gym or buy a weight set, daily routine, diet, etc. Remember, this directly affects your P.P.S.P. If it involves upgrading and changing your wardrobe, write down exactly what you have to do - study men's fashion magazines, shop for men's clothing stores, plan your budget and initial purchases, etc. If ifs a decision to get a hairpiece, that should be written out and investigated. The act of writing your long-term goals down and the detailed steps to get there has the effect of bringing your goals "closer" to you. They seem more real. And they don't seem so overwhelming - rather than one huge jump, a lot of little hops will get you to where you want to go. The classic book Think and Grow Rich is a must to read to give you detailed technical knowledge on the proper mental attitude with regard to the relationship between planning and reaching a goal. With regard to making progress on the other front - women - this should be planned in detail also. And again, depending on your status, where you must start depends on you. If you are entirely uncomfortable with the opposite sex, that suggests a serious lack of self-confidence and self-worth. Before attempting progress with women from an inferior frame of mind, take the time necessary to develop your Self. As you see the progress you are making on the personal front, your confidence in your ability to be attractive to the opposite sex will increase. Once you have seen visible, measurable proof of your progress, begin to get comfortable with the opposite sex. First, go to places that are frequented predominately by women - whether it be women's dress shops or the lingerie section of a department store, or a social event or happening; whether it requires enrolling in classes at the "Y" that are predominately women, get used to being around them and observing them and coming in contact with them. Read women's magazines to see what they are being taught to think, to see what current interests are relevant to their lives. This exercise also enhances your value as a partner in a good conversation (translated: a conversation about them). Then begin speaking to women. Begin saying Hi or Hello and smiling at women that you do not know. You will be surprised at how eagerly they return your greeting. You will see that, once you talk to a woman, she is as anxious as you to engage in conversation. Most women are naturally polite, as I said before, most men are afraid to talk to them. They are human too. Human kindness is contagious. You are not a male leering at an object-you are a person speaking to another person of equal worth and value.
The next step would be to expand already existing friendships and relationships. Women that you know will automatically respond to kindness, interest and concern being shown them on your part. I'm talking about any woman you know-your mother, aunt, sister, friends, co-workers, employees of stores you frequent, etc. Getting more comfortable with women you already know will enable you to be at least minimally comfortable when talking to a desirable woman because you will at least know how to be a human being with a woman. Again, this quality will enable her to lower her defenses enough for you to work your plan. 5. Chart your progress. It is important to keep a periodic written record of your starting point and subsequent progress with women. This makes tangible and real to you the fact that you are consciously working a plan and have a method when it comes to the opposite sex. Don't be shy about putting your plans in writing. But do make sure you keep your 'little black book" private. Actually go buy a little black book if you so desire! Any subconscious reinforcement of your effort can't help but be positive. You've evaluated your present (soon to be past!) position. You have primed your P.P.S.P. and have firmly fixed in your mind the You you want to become. You've visualized the ideal type of woman or women for you, and have mentally rehearsed with them to the point where you KNOW your real life interaction with women that fit your visualizations can only be positive. You know it will take time, but you have a list of the things to do to steadily bring you closer to your overall goals. You have a "little black book" that you use to record your progress. You have all the equipment you need. You are now Open For Business. I told you, the only thing you would need to have to Get All The Girls You Want is the intense, burning desire to accomplish your goals. As you can see, you are more than ready to accomplish your goals - or you will be. Right? Right! Do it! {END OF SECTION TWO}
SECTION THREE CHAPTER ONE The Garden Of Eden You are familiar, I'm sure, with the "mythical" story of Adam and Eve. In the end, they were forced to leave the Garden of Eden because, at the urging of the serpent, Eve ate an apple from one of the two trees God had told them not to eat from, and Adam did the same. The eating of the fruit gave them the knowledge of good and evil; they then realized they were naked and, being ashamed of their nakedness, covered themselves with fig leaves. When God found out, he kicked them out of the garden, along with some stiff penalties - women would always give childbirth in pain, man would always have to work for a living, etc. You know, your basic Garden of Eden story. Whether or not you believe this story literally or mythically is up to you. But for our purposes, an up-close, verse-by-verse reading will provide for us a wealth of information on the original woman - and, by extension, every woman in existence since. We've previously discussed the creation of woman, found in Genesis Chapter 2. We will now pick up the story in Chapter 3. Again, I will print the entire chapter so as not to be accused of distortion or improper context. Chapter Three v. 1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. And he said to the woman, 'Indeed, has God said, 'You shall not eat from any tree of the garden'?" v. 2 And the woman said to the serpent, "From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat; v. 3 but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, 'You shall not eat from it or touch it, lest you die.'" v. 4 And the serpent said to the woman, "You surely shall not die! v. 5 For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil." v. 6 When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate. v. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loin coverings. v. 8 And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden.
v. 9 Then the Lord God called the man, and said to him, '"Where are you?" v. 10 And he said, "I heard the sound of thee in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked, So I hid myself." v. 11 And he said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?" v. 12 And the man said, "The woman whom Thou gavest to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate." v. 13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, "What is this you have done?" And the woman said, "The serpent deceived me, and I ate." v. 14 And the Lord God said to the serpent, "Because you have done this, Cursed are you more than all cattle, and more than every beast of the field; on your belly you shall go, and dust shall you eat all the days of your life; v. 15 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your seed and her seed; He shall bruise you on the head, and you shall bruise him on the heel." v. 16 To the woman He said, "I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you shall bring forth children; yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you." v. 1 7 Then to Adam He said, "Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, 'You shall not eat from if; Cursed is the ground because of you; in toil you shall eat of it all the days of your life. v. 18 Both thorns and thistles it shall grow for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field; v. 19 By the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground, because from it you were taken; for you are dust, and to dust you shall return." v. 20 Now the man called his wife's name Eve, because she was the mother of all the living. v. 21 And the Lord God made garments of skin for Adam and his wife, and clothed them. v. 22 Then the Lord God said, "Behold, the man has become like one of Us, knowing good and evil; and now, lest he stretch out his hand, and take also from the tree of life, and eat, and live forever"v. 23 therefore the Lord God sent him out from the garden of Eden, to cultivate the ground from which he was taken. v. 24 So He drove the man out; and at the east of the garden of Eden He stationed the cherubim, and the flaming sword which turned every direction, to guard the way to the tree of life. Let's look at what happened, step-by-step, but understand it is not my intention to teach theology. I will not attempt to explain anything other than to analyze the approach
used to make the woman do what she did - and her natural receptiveness to the stimuli that allowed her actions to be pre-determined and directed by the serpent. Verse 1 begins by telling us it was the serpent that "rapped" to Eve. The point is especially made that the serpent was a crafty beast, the craftiest one there was. We can see his craftiness at work as he maneuvers the conversation in the direction he wanted it to go, with the planned goal in mind to induce her to act the way he wanted. In this American Standard version of the text, (American Standard is definitely my style of "English", since I am an American. 17th century King James English is too confusing - too much time spent on figuring out the words detracts from understanding the meaning), this verse is divided into two sentences. The second sentence of the verse starts with the little word "And". This would seem to indicate that the conversation had been in progress before he asked her this question in particular. He used a friendly warmup conversation before he started turning it personal. He made friends with the woman. This coincides with the part of the Basic Strategy where the relationship is initially person-to-person before male-to-female. The serpent asked Eve a question that he knew how she would respond to so that he could make the point he wanted to make, in verse 5. He succeeded in raising Eve's curiosity about good and evil. A woman has a natural curiosity about things that are intimate and carnal. When a woman is told No, or not to do something, or that something is forbidden or taboo, it gains a certain appeal precisely because it Is forbidden. This is why women who grew up in repressive home atmospheres tend to be tremendously freaky, once you get below their surface. Verse 6 tells us that she saw the tree was good for food. The initial conversation may have taken place at a different location, but now Eve is looking at the tree. (I know that I'm calling her by her proper name, but she wasn't given a name until after God's judgement. I figure you were sharp enough to notice that, so I wanted to maintain my credibility with you. I'm sure that you've also noticed that the fruit that Eve picked was never described as an apple - another example of how things taken for granted are not so under close scrutiny.) The visual effect is noted - "a delight to the eyes". Shortly we will discuss being a delight to a woman's eyes. Her desire was now aroused. "And she took from its fruit...". Now, way back in Chapter 2:16 the Bible tells us God's exact command about eating the fruit of this tree. This command is given before Eve is created, so she did not hear the official, original command. You will notice when she tells the serpent what her understanding of the command (which we are never told God specifically told Eve) is, she adds the phrase "or touch it". We are never told that God said this. Either God added this later, or Adam told Eve what God said and added to it, or Eve added to what Adam told her. I opt for one of the latter two options. It doesn't make sense that God would make a tree deadly upon contact and put it in the middle of a garden where all kinds of life
existed. So what, you say? Well, I believe the serpent figured that (remember - we are specifically told how crafty he was). So when it says, "she took from its fruit..." you can easily imagine Eve having to work to get up the courage to make the first contact, since she stated her understanding that to touch it would cause death. And even though it was her understanding death would result, she touched it anyway. Desire had won out over even the threat of death! (You've seen scenes where a husband is about to come home and the man in bed with his wife is trying to leave but she won't let him because her desire is so aroused? Ever see a cat in heat? Ever listen to it? A feline thoroughly aroused is a terrible thing! How much more so the creature called Woman?) Once she touched it and didn't fall down and die, then gripped it and didn't die, and plucked it and didn't die, she felt safe in eating it. And as I said, I think that was the serpent's plan all along - get her to touch it and feel safe in eating it. So, she ate of it. And things have never been the same for mankind since. Now look at the last sentence in verse 6. "...and gave also to her husband with her...". She wasn't off somewhere, just her and the serpent! Adam was with her all the time! And he didn't stop her! Worse yet, he then followed her lead and ate also, although we know he had been directly told by God not to do so. Adam was a mon! He was definitely not a man, because he had no control over his woman, and no control over himself because of it. The entire course of mankind's existence upon this planet was changed for the worse because the first man couldn't control his woman! (Nothing irritates me more than to see a guy have a girl who is obviously "running the show", and disrespecting him with her actions, especially actions toward other men. In Volume II I show you how to tame and train a freak so thoroughly she thinks she's a good girl!) So, Eve tasted the fruit, and Adam also. Verse 7 starts with "Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew they were naked." Ifs obvious that their physical eyes had always been open - we're told in verse 6 that the tree was a delight to Eve's eyes. So the physical eyes can't be the eyes that were now opened as a result of partaking of the fruit. But the effect of the eyes opening was that they "knew" they were naked. They had always been naked and had always seen each other naked. It's highly probable they had sex. Remember, it wasn't good for man to be alone, and they were designed to become "one flesh". It was natural behavior. But now, the first thing their newly opened eyes saw was each other's nakedness.
Verse 7 tells us they then sewed fig leaves together and covered their loins. The knowledge of things sexual is a very personal thing everyone must come to grips with at some point in their lives. A person's sexuality shapes their very being, and obviously how that person forever relates to others. To this day our loins are still covered with fig leaves. Once the age of awareness is reached, the eye that was opened, - the eye of the mind -perceives things in a way not originally intended by God. This is why there is an undercurrent of uneasiness in children as they grow older and approach the age of puberty, as they become aware of their sexuality. You know instinctively at that point that you are naked, and you have covered yourself with a mental fig leaf, but that only highlights the fact that you are naked rather than hide it. The conflict starts when the desire to join as man and woman necessitates the dropping of the fig leaf and exposing your nakedness, both mental and physical, to another person. It's easy to see how a person who has an improper orientation on dealing with their sexuality can develop serious psychological problems and hang-ups. Back to the story. Adam and Eve are in trouble and they know it. Once God finds out, He begins to pronounce their "death" sentences for their transgression. Take particular note of the woman's judgement in the second half of verse 16. "...yet your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you." It is as simple as that. It was obvious Adam didn't rule over her before; now she is specifically told that henceforth he is to do just that: rule. Man has been specifically commanded to "rule" over women. And in verse 17, Adam is told why he now has to toil all the days of his life, why he'll have to sweat for a living instead of enjoying the good life God had created for him. Why? Because he "listened to the voice of his wife" instead of God, and did what he knew he should not do. It can not be stated any plainer. You, by nature, as a male, are supposed to be in control when it comes to you and your woman. Adam acted like a mon. Probably "catwhipped. She had his nose open, and in the end it cost not only him, but you and me too. Repeat after me - "I want to not only have women, but have control as well, over me, them, and the situation. I will be a man, never a mon." Please mean it and practice it ••• for your own sake. Thus, we find in the Bible passage we have just examined a blueprint on how to control a woman and a charge by God to do that very thing. Again, I know some women's libbers may not like it, but that is too bad. We men can say that we, just like the Blues Brothers (if you saw the movie) are "on a mission from God" when it comes to women.
CHAPTER TWO The Only Way To Control A Woman Let me start off by saying that you can only ever seek to control a woman, never own or suppress. And the art of this method is to do so with craftiness, just like the serpent; a deftness of touch that makes it so that the woman does not resent being under your "spell", rather, she enjoys it, because you make it enjoyable to her. Traditional psychology teaches the use of either punishment or reward as a behavior modification technique, a means of obtaining the desired reaction in a person's response. A woman works best with the use of pleasure, either providing or withholding, as the means of control. By doing and saying things a woman finds pleasurable, she will make the effort to put herself in the position to receive more, like a cat that has been stroked a few times rubbing forcefully against your leg for more. (As a matter of fact, the cat is the animal closest to woman in personal nature. I guess that's why it's called pussy, huh?) Women, as we saw in the last chapter have a built-in need to seek to satisfy their desires. Let's discuss the scientific of what we intend to do. Starting premise: the brain is the end recipient of all stimulation of the senses. It is the brain we must affect to have any effect at all. The only way for stimuli to reach the brain is through the five senses: sight, hearing, smell, touch and taste. There is no other way; any attempt to influence a person will fall into one of these categories. We saw what happened to Eve when she was stimulated: the sound of the serpents words, the sight of the tree...although it is not said specifically, you know she couldn't have helped but smell the fragrance of the fruit, since it was ripe. She finally used her sense of touch, which invariably led to her desiring to taste it. We will, in the final chapters of this book, discuss the ways to appeal to each of a woman's senses, not only on a physical level, but on a mental level as well. The physical and mental difference between men and women come into play here, and in your favor. Women, as we said before, are created with a hole, a vacuum in their
bodies that is designed to be filled. There is also a corresponding hole or vacuum mentally in a woman. A woman will automatically seek fulfillment of both of these holes. Herein lies the secret for making sure your chosen woman doesn't stray on you. (Even if she's a good girl, she will eventually seek fulfillment if you don't provide it, the same as a plant needs at least a minimal amount of water occasionally to survive.) Make sure you fulfill all her needs, both physically and mentally! It's just that simple! But there is a degree of effort that must be expended. Being able to fulfill all her needs, both physical and mental means you must find out exactly what those needs are. Which means you must communicate with her. Not just talk at, but communicate with. Plus, make a (written) planned effort to continuously seek to find new and exciting and different ways of stimulating her mentally and physically. A lot of men assume that, once you have the woman, you can stop doing the things that got her in the first place. This is usually the biggest dis-satisfaction that women have with their man - the apparent lack of interest a man develops over time in working at keeping the relationship fresh. Sometimes the man will continue to do his duty in one area and not in the other. A man may continue to be a good provider and companion, but not take care of business in the bedroom. End result is increased pressure on her part to seek her sexual fulfillment elsewhere. Or, you do nothing but have sex, causing her to seek mental stimulation and acknowledgement of her personal side from someone else. There are no magic words that make a woman your non-thinking robot. Being good with women is work sometimes, and definitely requires the expenditure of effort. But, bottom line is, you will get what you give. In the book The Art Of War there is a statement that can serve as a cornerstone of our philosophy. "Once you get inside the mind of your opponent you are then able to exert enough leverage to move it in the direction you wish it to go." We should desire to get inside the minds of women we want and exert enough leverage through the use of pleasure to move it (and their body) in the direction we wish to take them, whether it is to bed or to the altar.
CHAPTER THREE
The Eyes Of A Woman The beginning of personal interaction with a woman is usually eye-to-eye contact. Ifs a true statement that the eyes are "the window to the soul". By establishing eye contact with a woman you get an indication of the level of interest she has in being approached by you. When contact is held longer than what would be considered "normal" when meeting the eyes of someone you don't know, that is enough to indicate you should attempt to regain contact. If she meets your eyes a second time, she has an interest in being approached, no matter how slight an interest it might be. I read once that the Chinese had determined over one hundred separate and distinct inflections able to be communicated by the degree of opening of the eye and the positioning of the eyebrow. Reflect upon all the feelings that can be communicated without a word, simply by a look: an angry stare, a questioning look, the rolling of your eyes, the raising of your eyebrows, etc. One of the best ways I learned to make my intentions known to a woman before even saying a word was by pretending I could communicate telepathically with her. I will look at a woman, and think the message that I want to get across to her as though I was actually speaking to her. The result is she can see "in my eyes" the essence of my thoughts. This is a great way to arouse her curiosity and at the same time make an overture that is not threatening but intriguing. The Basic Strategy look of appraisal and evaluation would be described as follows: keep all emotion out of your facial expression, but don't make your eyes blank. Make them have a look of intensity. Once you have eye contact with her briefly, you break contact to check out her appearance, starting with her feet on up and quickly back to her face. Then look away. You have baited her - now set the hook. After so many minutes, depending on how fast you have to make your move, (if you are on a bus you have to work quick. If you're at an all-night party you have time to play her a little longer and really set the hook deep. Through eye contact alone you can get a woman to approach you if you have enough time to work.) look at her again and seek eye contact, and give her the same type of look - dispassionate, but intense, confident, appraising. And then hold it - make her break contact. Congratulations. You have just exchanged your first communication with the woman. This initial look sequence is to be used only at the beginning, to set the hook. From that point on, any other eye contact before verbal communication should be increasingly open and friendly - but still with no hint of male-female lust.
You have received an unwritten, unspoken invitation from the woman to approach her, if you're man enough, and be guaranteed she will listen to what you initially say - if you pass her visual test. Once you make eye contact with a woman, and she has interest in you she will check out your appearance. Sometimes she may have only slight interest until she evaluates your appearance, but once she does, if your presentation is attractive, her interest will increase and her curiosity will be aroused. Remember what we read about Eve. When what she saw was a "delight to her eyes," her desire was aroused as a result. Women are more critical of a man's appearance nowadays than in previous times, due to the emphasis on the visual by today's media. But even back in Roman days, the beauty of the human form was worshipped, which can be told by the works of art from that period. A man handsome in face and form has an edge when looking to appeal to women, obviously. A man who lacks handsomeness in face and form can take steps to still "delight the eyes" of a woman, in the following ways: posture, movement, dress and style. 1. Posture It doesn't matter if you're skinny as a rail or fat as a pig. Until the exercise program you will naturally desire to start as a result of a P.P.S.P. can show noticeable effect, you can minimize the negativeness of your physique by exhibiting proper posture. Women notice whether or not a man stands erect, shoulders back or walks and sits slumped over or stoop-shouldered. Having an erect posture subconsciously says that you are meeting life head-on, as a man should. If you have poor posture, it is probably a reflection of a poor mental attitude. As the beginning of a physical fitness program, practice constantly being aware of your posture and keeping it correct. 2. Movement For several years I had a cat as a pet. Over time, I was intrigued by his sure, graceful movement, and his habit of luxuriously stretching and arching his back upon awakening; the manner in which he crouched to spring upon an imaginary prey. His behavior was instinctual by nature, as I had gotten him when he was small kitten, and he was exposed to no other cats. In conversations with women, one recurring theme that arose when they would describe the things that attracted them to men was that if a man walked and moved gracefully, it "turned them on," because it translated to them as sexiness, sensualness. The rationale
was that since he was in such control of his body he must move pretty good in bed as well. Watching my cat over a period of time gave me insight into what these women were trying to say. The smoothness of the motion shows sexiness, the underlying tension hints at danger, delicious danger. The phrase "being on the prowl" has relevance here. When at a party or at a nightclub or in a social setting, mentally pretend you are a lion, -king of the jungle, - on the prowl and looking for what you want, knowing you can "pounce" and take it, when you see it. This attitude helps you to feel the way a cat does as he moves, and it gives the base to add the initial eye contact as described in the Basic Strategy and previous chapter. Believe me. Woman notice these things. Don't walk herky-jerky and be awkward in your movement and expect a pretty woman to want to be on your arm. This train of thought extends to dancing as well. If you can't dance, at least learn to move in a sexy way, in time to the beat. Don't dance in public until you can put forth a credible effort. And on slow songs, gently but firmly grind with the woman, don't whip her around like a rag doll, or try to dry-hump her like a dog. Think suave and debonair, and your body will act suave and debonair. Woman may find your awkwardness "cute", but no woman wants to put something awkward between her precious legs! If awkward movement is a problem for you, consciously slow down your movements and make them very deliberate and thought out before acted out. Practice until you don't have to think about moving slowly and deliberately consciously. Okay. So now, you stand and sit straight, walk firmly and purposely, you're showing gracefulness in your movements, you can dance enough to get by, you know how to "prowl" a place...great! You have the foundation for making a strong visual impact on a woman. 3. Dress The rules here are simple. You must learn how to dress as though you were on display - because you are! You know how much attention a woman traditionally pays to what clothes to wear. And you know she has a lot more things to wear than you. But guess what. She gives the exact same subconscious examination to what a man wears as well! You may not notice her notice, but she does! And women will characterize you as much by your clothing and the way you wear it as anything else. A man who shows he cares about what he puts on his body appeals to a woman. Ifs just that simple. And if you are compensating for a lack of natural appeal, this is the best place to do it. How to dress is a course in itself. Best bet is to study men's fashion magazines to develop a sense of what goes with what, if you're starting from scratch. Don't just rush
out and buy a new shirt and think you got it covered, though. It's a little more than that. Actually, you must look to dress from head-to-toe. Or, I should say, toe-to-head. The first thing a woman consciously looks at on a man has been proven to be his shoes. Thus, if you are on a limited budget, the first place to start and the place the most worthy of spending a lot of money is on good shoes. In the overall scheme of things you have your basic items of clothing -shirt and pants and shoes. You then have the items which link the above together - socks, covering flesh between shoes and pants, and belt, holding pants and shirt in place. You can get an exciting shirt and a nice pair of pants, and ifs good to do so. But whether you are on a limited budget or not, it is the secondary things that allow the next effect to work. 4. Style You can use the little things of your wardrobe to express your own individuality. Everyone is different, and your unique style should be an extension of you. If you like to exhibit the appearance of wealth, a stylish way of doing so would be dollar-sign socks, an expensive $ logo belt, accessory cufflinks with matching key chain. Women will notice the detail of your co-ordination of your dress and instantly be attracted - it will appeal to the femininity in them. In college, the boys would tease me about the meticulous attention I would pay to the details of my wardrobe. All teasing would stop on Friday and Saturday evenings when they played cards all night while I enjoyed much varied female company...sometimes I had to take out two or three girls at a time, because they would rather share one guy who knew "what was up" rather than have to deal with "unenlightened" males, as one of the girls phrased it. I mentioned in the beginning of this volume how, by establishing a routine way of handling details in your life - like car keys, wallet, glasses, money, etc. - you could add the element of style and make your routine not only serve a function for you but also be an asset in increasing your appeal to a woman. Make each one of the above items something special, and theme coordinated together. Women like looking into my glove compartment and seeing my black w/goldtrim sunglasses, my black onyx w/gold-trim money clip, my goldplated keychain, my black leather wallet with gold-embossed initials, etc... It makes them feel (regardless of type) that they are with Somebody Special and Unique, who cares about themselves and the details of life. Your personal taste in jewelry is up to you to express. Some do so with style, while some do so with class. The difference depends on one's personality. If you are naturally outgoing and an extrovert, then you should opt for using style. It will allow you to be flashy.
If you are more inward personality-wise, you should opt to portray class, which is usually defined as more reserved and understated, in the manner you co-ordinate your accessories and appearance. Your outer appearance should be an extension and a reflection of you, within these guidelines. For example, the color red is the sexiest color to a woman. Some men may be able to wear red from head-to-toe, and it would be "them". Others may have to wear a red tie with a black suit to take advantage of this fact. Do not false-advertise to a woman in that you wear a flashy outfit and have a subtle approach or vice-versa. You are sending conflicting signals. Once a woman observes the detail and care you take with your outward appearance, you have "passed the test" and gained entry past her initial mental defenses. A part of her character has now subconsciously established compatibility with the image she sees. You have "delighted her eyes".
CHAPTER FOUR The Ears Of A Woman You can imagine that when the serpent was talking to Eve he wasn't speaking gruffly or shouting or talking to her like he might have talked to Adam. No, he undoubtedly was adding to the persuasiveness of his words by the tone and pitch of voice that he used. He was lulling her into his trap by "sweettalking" her. (At least, until he sprang the trap.) The auditory nerves in a woman's ear that transmit the vibrations of sound to the brain are especially susceptible to certain tones and pitches. Add to that the right cadence in the pronunciation of your syllables, and you are now in position to make your first direct physical stimulus of the woman you desire felt-in her ear! Remember that old show "Laugh-In", where one of the favorite lines was, "If I blow in your ear will you follow me anywhere?" There was a great degree of truth to that question. The ear, and part of the neck near to it, is a very erogenous zone to a woman. Teens on the street have a phrase for trying to pick up a woman - "get in her ear". The instinctive response a woman has when talked to suggestively gives you tremendous means to influence and control her.
One of my personal favorite uses of this technique is when I'm in a social setting or a nightclub. Rather than spend the entire time trying to locate a girl to take home that night, I spend the entire time using the Basic Strategy to pinpoint candidates, and then I speak to them long enough to get their phone number and make plans to call them the following week. I'll keep the initial contact brief; that way I'm able to collect two or three numbers in an evening. During the next week I'll call them on the phone. Once I have them on the phone, ifs over. When a woman has the phone to her ear, you are able to be much more closer to her physically than you could be by talking to her in person. The in-person equivalent of the position you gain by being on the phone would be for you to have your lips smack up against her ear! And while at some point in the future you'll be able to do that, it is only by phone that you can gain that close a physical proximity immediately. When you are talking to a woman on the phone you can usually get away with being more suggestive in the beginning than you could it you were in person, because naughty, suggestive things are a natural to be said in her ear to take advantage of their receptively to the low and smooth tones of the voice. You've heard of the phrase "whisper sweet nothings in her ear", I'm sure. Just what are those sweet nothings? This leads us to another kind of use of the ear - finding out what she is hearing mentally. This is the essence of being a good conversationalist knowing what and how she thinks about herself and the things going on in her life. This information provides you with the things to whisper sweet nothings about - the things she wants to hear about herself. The old Indian trick of putting your ear to the ground in order to tell by the vibrations what is coming has relevance here. You've got to put your ear to the surface of her mind and see what she is hearing mentally - what she is telling you is going on in her life by what she says, what her tone and inflections in voice and word say, and by what she doesn't say or seems reluctant to talk about, as well. By having the getting-to-know-you initial conversation on the phone, there is less pressure all the way around as compared to placing a five-minute call to arrange a date to have the inevitable initial conversation face-to-face. It is also good to have the initial conversation before asking her for an in-person date; it makes the percentages of her accepting your invitation to be alone in each other's company much greater if she feels she "knows" you. Don't rush to pick the fruit until it's ripe. Do not take the approach of getting a phone number and calling for a date, to go to a movie. You have had two brief conversations before you see her again in-person, and when you do, you'll spend a brief time together before watching a two-hour movie. You
have wasted important impression and bonding time by doing so. By getting a phone number, and calling her at a time when she will be able to relax and talk, you put yourself light-years ahead of the game by the time you arrange to see her again. She will desire to see you, versus the above scenario, where she will have a degree of natural uneasiness due to unfamiliarity. Yes, the phone is the next best thing to being there, and in our program, sometimes better. For men that are not good at improvisation, the phone offers another advantage being able to have in writing the course you want the conversation to take. You can actually write a script of what you want to say, and because, like the serpent, you'll have planned things to say to responses you can anticipate her making, you can maneuver her to the point you want her to be at the end of the conversation, whether that is a day and time to get together, or the time that you will call her again. (By making a date to call her again, you get her in the habit of arranging her time to be with you. It will be natural for her to arrange the schedule to meet with you, as well.) Tip: Whenever asking a woman to do something, do NOT phrase the question in a way that you give her the option of telling you no. A car salesman will not ask you "Do you want to buy a car?" Instead, they will ask, "what color car do you want to buy, red or blue?" Follow that strategy with women. Don't ask "Do you want to go to the movies yes or no?" but "Let's go to the movies - such and such is playing at the Strand and such and such at the Capitol. Which one do you want to see first?" You have the right to assume she will go, because she's talking to you on the phone in the first place. Be positive! It really is very easy to be considered a good person to talk to by women. Simply keep the conversation centered on her by asking questions designed to make her talk about Her - her likes, dislikes, job, family, background, goals in life, best friend, worst enemy, best trip ever taken, best experience ever had, best birthday, if she could be anywhere in the world where would it be, what romantic things does she like etc... - and sit back and listen. And make sure you listen closely! You are gathering intelligence information to verify your determination of her type, and to tailor-make your specific plans for spinning your web on her. By adopting a sympathetic shoulder-to-lean on image with the part of her that needs it (and all women do), she will automatically feel closer to you because she has confided in you. And lots of times ifs easier for a woman to tell personal things to a stranger than it is to someone close, because they have no obligation to live up to any particular image. It is important, however, once you get her to this stage, to do and say things periodically that show you are aware of her femininity and are attracted to her in a male-female way
as well as person-to-person. You have made a proper initial impression on her by your look and appearance, by your relating to her as a person, and by your desire to hear her tell you about herself. But to avoid her trying to divert you into the "good friend" category - the kiss of death - you should flirt with her (with eye and body language as well as by words) to keep your ultimate intentions in the visible background as you get to know each other better. Look to use words that are suggestive or sexy in the conversation when the opening is there. Now, there is a fine line between suggestive and lewd, between dirty and vulgar. Don't be crude with your statements, or let them dominate the conversation (unless she is). But, when the time comes, the right nasty joke or sexy compliment in her ear will do wonders to direct things to the male-female side of the ledger. When she pulls away in mock shock at what you say, but with a smile on her mouth and a blush in her cheeks, and PUTS HER EAR BACK IN RANGE FOR YOU TO SAY MORE, you have mentally become sexual with her. With a little more intelligent effort, the body will follow. The classic book How To Win Friends And Influence People is very much worth the price of purchase. This book has inspired seminars around the world in the art of doing just what the book title says - winning friends and influencing people. Purchasing and digesting the material presented will allow you to develop the knack of expressing compliments to a woman in such a way that she accepts it as sincere rather than cheap "lines" or insincere flattery - because it will be "sincere appreciation" for the person she is. If you learn to do this you will have women dying to talk to you - because mentally you are fulfilling an instinctive need they have - the need to feel important and worthy of undivided attention. Also, a good sense of humor is a must in order to Get All The Girls You Want. Women love to laugh. But they don't want to be an aspiring comedian's audience, either. The best kind of humor is about things that are generally funny, or funny things that happened to you. Never be cruel with humor or make fun of her or others. Ifs not funny and it doesn't score points. "Look at that squirrel that got ran over. HA HA!" No. Save the gross-out humor for the fellas. Laughter keeps things light and easy, which is the most comfortable place for you to be with a woman. Understanding and implementing the knowledge of the last two chapters alone gives you the key to many a woman's mind. But we have three more senses to go! You should no longer have any doubt that you can learn How To Get All The Girls You Want.
CHAPTER FIVE A Woman's Sense Of Smell The sense of smell is the most frequently used sense. The brain is constantly processing the stimuli received from the nose, even when asleep. Have you ever noticed just how powerfully a scent or fragrance can bring rushing to your remembrance a strong memory, or produce a strong emotion? The sense of smell also assists the sense of taste by preparing it for what it is about to experience. That's why your mouth waters when you're hungry and smell food cooking. Animals and women use the detection of scent not only to qualify what they are about to eat, but also detect the emotional state of another animal or, in women's case, a man. You've heard the saying "he exuded confidence" and "you could smell his fear", I assume. The sweat you produce from exercising vigorously is a clean scent (and, by the way, is subconsciously sexy to a woman) compared to the scent released when under emotional pressure or experiencing fear. This is how an animal detects your fear of it. This smell, by instinct, encourages the animal to press its advantage. When you are in the company of a beautiful woman and you feel strain or pressure to make a good impression, she will detect your "fear" of her. And just the same as an animal, she will instinctively press her advantage. Once she has your scent, if you fear her, you will have a long way to go to ever gain the advantage in controlling the relationship. You have told her you did not find yourself worthy of her company. And if you have that reaction to a beautiful woman, they are right -you aren't worthy. Always remember the beauty you see before you is only flesh. It is not the person! Respond to the person and don't allow yourself to be so awed by a woman's physical presence that the scent of your fear over whether or not you are worthy of being in control of such a beautiful creature is detected by her and you blow your chance. A correlated point is the attitude to have when accompanying an attractive woman on a date. A woman wants to feel "safe" when she's with a man - she wants to feel protected. You can let her "smell" your self-confidence in being responsible for both her and yourself by making sure you do traditional manly gestures, such as the opening of doors, taking her arm firmly but gently at the elbow when you cross the street, taking her by the hand and leading the way if you have to walk through a crowd. She senses that she is "with" somebody no matter what her type, and appreciates the secure feeling of being "possessed". If a mon takes a woman on a date and she is not made to feel she is "with" someone, when other men pay her attention, the mon may not end up taking her home.
If you don't project the aura of being able to take care of her; worse yet, if you have a fear that you might not be able to do so, she will experience, after a while, a vague uneasiness in your presence. And the next time you call for a date, she may decline your invitation for reasons she may not be able to put her finger on herself. You also appeal to a woman's sense of smell by good grooming habits. I can't stress enough the importance of good fundamental body cleanliness and grooming. By grooming I mean close attention to body hair and fingernails, as well as a clean, appealing scent. Make a practice of good hygienics. Pay attention to not only washing and bathing daily (or more than once a day if necessary), but lotioning your skin afterward to make it soft all over, applying a suitable fragrant deodorant, applying baby powder to your pubic region and underarms to absorb any excess moisture in these critical areas, spraying your feet and in between your toes with a good anti-fungal bacteria spray, wearing fresh undergarments (a golden opportunity to make a sensual impression - sexy underwear when you get to that point). A clean head of hair is a must, whether you wear it short, long, or in-between. Close grooming of a mustache and/or beard can add character to a face and help it overcome a natural disadvantage. Make sure you constantly trim your nose hairs! Remember, to be nominally well-groomed may come up to the standards of your fellow man, but to make a strong impression on a female you must come up to their standards. Yes, in terms of your bodily grooming and personal hygiene, you must have a woman's attitude to appeal to women! Impress them by being outstanding at their own game! Women are very strongly affected by cologne. I've known some women who were so turned-on by cologne that they actually took me to bed because they couldn't get enough of the scent! A whole lot is not a good thing though - the idea isn't chemical warfare, to win by overpowering her with your aroma, but to seduce by tantalizing her with a fragrance she catches whiffs of intermittently. She will subconsciously desire to be physically closer to you in order to get a full inhalation of your scent. Vary your colognes when you see a woman several times, to reinforce her impression of you as different and interesting. Wearing the same cologne all the time (unless it drives her berserk) labels you as monotonous and boring. Dab your cologne on your pulse points - the sides of your neck, your wrists, your chest, and your hips. The slightly higher temperature at these spots serves to continue to release the cologne over a period of time. Learn the different women's perfumes as well. As you read women's publications,
you will encounter perfume sampler foldouts. Use these to begin your education of female knowledge. Go to a women's department store perfume counter and smell the different samples they have, and obtain some of the free samples they give out, to get the woman you're seeing to give you an opinion as to what type she likes. Get the counter clerk to help you by telling you what type of women usually buys what type of perfume (this is also a great way to get personal with the perfume counter clerk!). By knowing what type of girl usually buys what type of perfume, when you smell a certain scent on a woman you recognize, it gives you a clue as to what type of woman she fancies herself to be. Charli? Independent and sassy. Liz Claiborne? Elegant and sophisticated. Jovan Musk? Sexy and tantalizing. You have a key to how her mind works. This sort-of sounds like detective work, huh? In a way it is, because you are looking for any and all clues that will enable you to relate specifically to the woman you are dealing with. You get, shall we say, a high school education on women with the knowledge in this book, and a college degree with the information contained in Volume II. You can then take that base of knowledge and go on to earn a Master's or Ph. D in the art of handling women. It's all up to you.
CHAPTER SIX A Woman's Sense Of Touch As we saw towards the end of the last chapter, stimulating one of a woman's senses logically leads to being able to stimulate the next. You've naturally, through strong, confident, manly gestures begun to physically place your hands upon parts of her body. Your physical influence of her that began with your voice in her ear has progressed to direct touch. (Your senses are getting stimulated also!) Women instinctively know the effect their touch has on a man. Women who like to flirt often, shortly after meeting a male for the first time, use this fact to make a man feel she's "available" to be had, if he plays his cards right. A casual squeeze of your arm, a hand rested gently on your shoulder...you as a man know what that does to you. It is a woman's way of assuring herself of her own desirability - being able to arouse in you a visible, obvious desire for her. If you try to pursue the male-female angle of your contact, she may not necessarily respond. Not because of any deficiency on your part, but because she never had any intentions of doing so with any man in the first place.
If this causes you to foolishly respond to her rejection of your advances by pointing out the fact that she "led you on", or "was all over you", she will excuse her actions by saying either 1) she was "just being friendly", or 2) that's "just the way she is", but she really didn't mean anything personal by it. And then you feel embarrassed and foolish. That type of woman is one of the worse to encounter - the kind who is overly friendly to men but is "just being friendly" in her reckoning. The Basic Strategy is ideal for dealing with women like that, because you, having analyzed her as this type, consciously withhold from her the thing that she is angling for by her actions - to be desired. Remember -have fun with the freaks - they are out to have fun with you, too. In situations where a girl seeks to be the center of male attention, an extreme form of the Basic Strategy - ignoring her totally, not even allowing her to observe you evaluate her - usually has the effect of her eventually wondering why she isn't affecting you. Depending upon the depth of her need, she will make obvious attempts to get your attention. When she does this, a formal, somewhat cold appraisal look will really cause her conniptions. She will usually realize then just how much she has been put on the defensive, and in an attempt to regain her pride, ignore you also. Hold your ground! When she sees that you "really don't care" about how desirable she is, she will make herself available to be talked to again, only this time her attitude will be different. It will be subdued. It'll be the mental equivalent of a spirited horse that's just been broken. This time, loosen up a little, and apply the person-to-person stage of the Basic Strategy. You are in with the girl all the other guys wanted. And they usually don't even see it happening, because they didn't see you talk to her until it was obvious she was interested in you. Back in my disco days, I loved to use this technique. Other guys never saw or noticed the initial contact I had with women I later took out of the club. But other girls noticed how the "popular" girls were interested in me, and a la Bitch Club Bitch, they became interested too. I'd like to go back to the things the woman who was a tease said in response to being told she was a tease - "I'm just being friendly" or "that's just the way I am". In our battle of the sexes, we have seen how effective it is to use the opponent's own technique on them. Making a woman think of you in a "that's just the way he is" type of mode will allow you to get away with a lot of things down the line that other guys can't, if you are "that certain way" from the very beginning. Once I use the Basic Strategy to lure the prey onto my battlefield, and once her desire for me is sufficiently aroused, I reciprocate her advances tit-for-tat, in an attitude which allows her to think that she's starting to "get to me", but not quite. Eventually it
becomes obvious that the only way to actually "get" to me and be sure of it is to have sex with me. And I have no hesitation about speaking directly, honestly, and frankly about her and I having sex; sex is going to be a bridge we may cross somewhere down the line, so don't hesitate to put the cards on the table. Plus, in the proper context, the bold use of certain words comes across as sexy and exciting to her (using her sense of hearing as stimulus). At this point she is open and reciprocal to seemingly natural gestures from you that involve you touching her. An easy way to begin is at the end of laughing at a joke or something humorous. It is the most natural thing in the world to gently, but firmly put your hand on her arm, or knee, or shoulder as you laugh together. Leave it there for an extra count so the touch has the look of a friendly gesture, but undertones of male-female desire. Use your touches judiciously. Don't touch her repeatedly so that ifs obvious you are doing it just to touch her - do it intermittently, and when it seems natural, because remember, that's "just the way you are". The progression of touching gestures is brief contact, to resting or prolonged contact, to gripping, or gently squeezing, to using both hands at the same time, and then the pressing of bodies together- hugging. As the progression of the touches occurs, the distance between you and her naturally decreases. She will allow you to enter her personal space once she is comfortable with you. Although you can, by establishing that ifs "just the way you are", place your hands upon her person without causing her uneasiness or discomfort, you cannot push your entrance into her personal space faster than she wants you to go. It is the subconscious pressure caused by you attempting close personal proximity that tells a woman that, despite your words and attitude, you desire her more than she desires you. Let her determine how close or how far apart you stand or sit next to each other. If, for example, you are in a bar or social setting talking to a female, let her move closer to you and lean towards you to make the conversation able to be heard. Use her sense of hearing in reverse by speaking in a slightly lower-than-normal volume of voice. She will assume you are soft-spoken, and will subconsciously move closer to you to hear what you are saying - especially if you are talking about her favorite subject - her. Although it's not physically touching, body language can be a subconscious way of "touching" a woman. By your posture, gestures, and body positioning you can maneuver her into the mental position you want. Many books have been written on the subject of body language. Get a few and add to your pool or knowledge of things to do to Get All The Girls You Want. Eventually, the sense of touch will lead to the sense of taste when you and your intended exchange the first kiss. And, as our highlighted passage in the beginning part of this book says, "Every ending is a new beginning." When you have properly guided a
woman to the point where you have shared a kiss, and have done so in a way that psychologically you are in control of the moment, and initiative, she has offered you access to her mind, heart and body if you know what to do. This next phase - the art of so stimulating and controlling a woman's body as to produce for them the most thrilling, intense sexual experiences they have ever had is one of the main topics of Volume II in this series. Volume II in this series is designed to take you from the first kiss through all areas of sexual interaction possible with a woman. Your purchase of this information will guarantee you the knowledge to drive a woman wild with constant desire for you, which gives you ultimate control over her. Obtain this volume to complete your knowledge in the art of handling women to your mutual satisfaction.
CHAPTER SEVEN A Woman's Sense Of Taste There are two types of taste a woman has that we are going to look at: her mental tastes - the things she likes or doesn't like - and her physical tastes - her favorite foods. The two go hand-in-hand, because one of the easiest ways to get a date is to ask a woman out to eat! Women love to eat. Their diet, or lack of one is a great source of conversation. It is also one of the ways a woman attempts to get an initial compliment out of a man, or gauge what he thinks of her physical charms. She'll say that she "needs to go on a diet", or something to that effect, to let you tell her how great she looks as she is now. Knowing that allows you to throw her off-balance by agreeing, in a nice way, that she should exercise, and diet. You can then suggest working out together, or keeping track of her progress. This put her in the position of seeking to earn your approval. Reverse psychology, remember? As we discussed earlier, good conversation with a woman consists of exploring the many interesting aspects of her and her life. Attempt to see what kind of tastes she has the things she likes to do, places she likes to go, places she's been, places or events she's fantasized about attending. Her taste in movies, art, music, community awareness - this is the basis of literally hours of discussion about the most fascinating subject in the world her. Remember, person-to-person you are looking to explore a unique and different individual - there is no one else like her in the whole wide world. Not even if she's a twin.
Throughout your appeal to the woman's senses, you must make sure not to lose your own senses. Remember, you are a human, and it's always a possibility that you might let the key to your lock-box slip somewhat. DONT DO IT WITH THE WRONG TYPE OF WOMAN! All women are people, fellow human beings. And ifs normal to care for a fellow human being. So, ifs best not to involve yourself with personal discussions of a ho's background. There's a subtle trap that lurks within being involved with a ho. The great majority of hoes began as good girls who then were distorted emotionally by a bad experience or negative set of circumstances. If you get too personal you will cause emotional problems for yourself, because once the good girl loses her innocence and crosses the line to become a ho there is usually (99 out of a hundred) no going back -for she can never truly feel good about herself again. Sometimes you can "put a little rush" on a freak by allowing yourself to get really into her, after the initial stages of the Basic Strategy, and enjoy the newness of things to the fullest. Then allow the end of your "emotional leash" to be reached. Let her run up against an emotional wall that just won't give. She will strive to penetrate it all the more, because she thought she "had you on the strap", and now it is she that is off-balance and all out of sorts - because she lost the "control" you let her think she had. Talking to a woman about the different foods she loves is a way to get an enthusiastic conversation going quickly. Talking about food with obvious and exaggerated lust is a subtle sexual stimulation to a woman. As a pleasure to indulge in, food comes in a very close second to good sex for a lot of women. Learning your way around a kitchen is a must if you truly want to impress women. This is a reversal of another previously woman's only trick. 'The way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is an age-old adage. Well, for us good cooking can be the way to a woman's mind and heart...and body. Learn how to prepare steaks, seafood, and salads; purchase a fancy dessert, pick the correct beverage, and you have the making of a very intimate dinner, at her place. (If possible, plan the first time for you to be intimate with a woman to be at her place, to increase her level of comfort.) Being able to invite and host a woman to an intimate dinner will endear you to her very quickly. Women love a man who is romantically inclined and not afraid to show it. Having an intimate dinner, whether alone or in the appropriate restaurant is the traditional prelude to romantic involvement. I go into detail concerning romantic gestures in Volume II. ***************
We've discussed each sense of a woman individually, but appealing to the senses is most effective when several senses are appealed to simultaneously. Combining a soft breath and words in her ear, along with a gentle squeeze of her arm, and by being in close proximity allowing her to inhale your fragrance...a woman can be subtly intoxicated by your "presence". Dressing in colors that look soft and inviting, or materials that are soft, materials that just make her have to touch you actually appeals to her sense of touch via visual stimulation, and puts subconscious impulses of desire for you in her mind. Although it should go without saying, I'll say it anyway. The more varied and interesting your tastes are, the more you can appeal to hers, by being able to turn her on to something new. Women appreciate a man of many different experiences and insight; it shows that he knows how to live life and show her how, too. And women really do want to get the most out of life. They desire passion, and turmoil and a swirl of emotions flowing through them. That's the creature they are. As evidence of this, I submit soap operas, mini-series, and romance novels. Have you ever watched or read any of the above with an eye toward why these appeal so much to women? The appeal lies in being able to provide a vehicle to express the deep emotions a woman has to give. Women who are really "into" any of the above actually desire it in their own lives. Women like to be emotionally "torn up" over a man. That's why when you lay down at their feet like a dog and roll over at her command so she might let you "get a whiff of Jif', you offer no challenge to her, no excitement. You are BORING. And if there's one thing that you must never be to a woman it is to be boring! By taking the time to explore her tastes you'll have the basis for making her contacts with you sensually enriching. By learning the way to stimulate all of a woman's senses fully at the same time, you have learned the way to attract, secure, maintain and control, for as long as you desire, All The Girls You Want.
CONCLUSION After talking to you for so long, I feel a sense of emptiness at having to say goodbye. I feel that I've make a friend, if for no other reason than because I feel you are able to sense my sincerity and desire for you to enjoy great success with women in particular and life in general. Life is indeed an endless unfoldment. Hopefully, some of the thoughts in this book have taken root in your mind and will provide a source of positive inspiration for you to
set goals and attempt to reach the things you want in life. Let your mind's eye take one final journey with me. I want you to visualize with me all the different countries of the world, and the women that live in those countries. I want you to mentally leave the United States and cross the Atlantic Ocean to Europe, and visualize the ladies in London Square in England; red-haired, green-eyed Irish Lasses; blond-haired, blue-eyed Swedish and Scandinavian country women. I want you to see German fraulines, and big, buxom Polish women. What about French accents, or Italian fiery tempers? What about the Queens of Africa - home of some of the most legendary beauties -Cleopatra, the Queen of Sheba, Helen of Troy - ever? Greek women, with their smooth olive skin? Indian women with those large, almond eyes? How about Oriental delights - ever see some of those old Japanese movies? A beauty all their own, Oriental women. What about the women of the Islands - Hawaii, and the Philippines? How about the Caribbean Islands, home to women of vacation poster fame. Don't forget South America! Brazilian women on the beaches of Rio de Janeiro are reported to be the most beautiful in the world, bar none. Or maybe you like Australian accents? Back home in the United States, we have representatives from all of the above countries here, plus our own special brands - California girls, Southern belles, N.Y. Sophisticate. You can truly satisfy your hearts' desire, if you so desire, when it comes to a favorite type of woman. The point is, there is literally a world of women waiting for the man who knows how to be a man. Not a mon, but a MAN. If you learn anything at all from this book, please let it be the importance of being a Man in every sense of the word. "For as the man, so is his strength." If you do that, you will have all the women you can handle, and more. I've already proven it, and so have many others. Join our ranks! It is now all up to You - the You of future successes. Just believe in yourself-and You can truly Get All The Girls You Want! {END OF THIRD AND FINAL SECTION}
