How Men Commit

How Commitment Works For A Man and How To Make Him Commit To You

By: Mark Scott

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In this report, I will debunk many myths women have about men and commitment. Most women don’t know how, why and when men commit. Many don’t understand how to get a man to drop his guard, and be open to the idea of commitment.

his makes it very important for you, to learn the e!act dynamics behind how men view commitment, what makes them commit and what makes them run away. In many ways, women take the wrong approach when trying to get commitment from a man, and often assume that most men are commitment phobic.

In reality" Men do want to commit, but they want to commit to the right woman, if this makes sense to you. hey don’t want to be stuck with the so called #$%&'( $&M)'*, for the rest of their life. If you are currently stuck with a man, who won’t commit and you don’t know what to do, then this report will show you e!actly what you can do, to inspire genuine commitment commitment from his end and make him seal the deal.

+ere is my big promise to you  If you pay full attention to all the concepts discussed in this report and take immediate action on it, then I can almost guarantee that, you will be able to make him commit to you without any hassles.

)lright, are you ready- et’s get to it/ o begin with, I’d like to tell you the big principle or foundation behind how men view commitment. his is the most important reason why, men don’t commit or delay commitment. Men value freedom more than anything else and in order to protect this freedom, they’re reluctant to commit. ) lot of research has been done on this sub0ect, and it’s a proven fact that when a man is given a choice between love and freedom, he would most likely choose freedom 1 times out of 23.


4on’t let this fact disappoint you yet. 5ust because a man values freedom more than anything, doesn’t mean he won’t commit at all. et me tell you what makes a man commit in a single sentence 

Men commit when they internally believe, that being with you is more pleasurable than protecting their reedom!

In order to get any man to commit, you have to take certain actions which will convince him, that being with you is the best possible choice he can make. +e needs to know, that being with you is going to be far more pleasurable, than protecting his freedom of single6hood.

here are two basic drivers behind whatever we do in life. $e call them pleasure and pain. $e are naturally inclined to do more of the things, which give us pleasure and less of the things which give us pain. 7very effort we take in life is directed towards, ma!imum possible pleasure and minimum possible pain. herefore, when a man has unconsciously come to a conclusion, that being with you means massive pleasure and little pain, he’d easily commit. here basically 8 stages a man goes through, when it comes to the 9uestion of commitment.


o e!plain it further:

"tage # $ He %oesn&t Want Commitment' •

+e has made it clear that he won’t commit.

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ou stick around hoping, that he’ll change his mind some day.

"tage ( $ He )s *nsure' Some days he acts as if you two are a couple, and on other days he acts like he was still single.

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+e treats you like a wife;girlfriend on certain occasions, and acts completely indifferent on others.

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"tage + $ He )s eady For Commitment' •

his is the stage you want your man to get to.

So my main goal, with this report is to help you transition your relationship from stage 2 or stage <, directly to stage 8 with the least amount of hassle. )s a woman, you already have everything it takes, to help him smoothly transition from one stage to another. In fact" his is easier than you think. +ow can I be so sure of this-

et me ask you a 9uestion: +ave you ever seen a man, who spent years dating a certain woman, but couldn’t commit to her no matter what- She tried every possible thing in her power, but nothing worked and she finally had to let him go, only to reali=e a month later, that he is now married to someone else- Sounds strange right-

$hat happened- he he reality is that, this new woman triggered all the right buttons in his mind, which gave him the indication that, being with her was the best possible choice he could ever make. herefore, he didn’t hesitate to commit to her.


$hen a man feels internally convinced, that he is making the right choice, he goes straight to stage 8 and openly commits, and yes this also applies to even the most stubborn guys who claim, that they’ll never commit. So, do you see how this works-

'ow, let’s get to the meaty stuff. et me show you e!actly what you can do, to inspire him to commit without any hard work. &ur goal is to first, show him that you aren’t on the lookout to trap him into a relationship and second, is to convince him that, being with you is the best possible decision he can ever make. So let’s get to the main, step by step se9uence:

"tep # $ %emonstrate That You Won&t Cage Him -r .ock Him %own' In order to achieve this, you have to keep things casual. In other words, don’t rush things or suggest he needs to commit to you. 4on’t suggest how wonderful things would be, if he turned into your husband and had babies with you. Such things don’t make a man feel good, rather it burdens him.

Instead of thinking, how wonderful things will be he would in fact, start picturing all the things he would miss out on if he was married to you. +e would vividly picture how he will not have time to go out with his friends on the weekends, how he’d miss out on other fun things, which a man can only en0oy when he is single.

So, the big idea is to make him feel that, being you with doesn’t mean he will be locked l ocked down and you can do this by keeping things casual. 4on’t e!pect commitment from him because when you don’t e!pect it, that’s when you’re the most likely to get it. his will become clear soon, move on to step < for now.


"tep ( $ Make Him .ove The )dea - /eing Around You' +ave you ever come across a person who 0ust made you feel great7very time they were around, you felt this sense of ease > pleasure which you couldn’t possibly e!plain- $hat happens when we are around such a person- $hat’s our natural inclination- $e naturally want to spend more time with this person and want to be around this person more often.

Similarly, this is the big idea you must follow, in order to get commitment from a man. $hen a man gets butterflies in his stomach at the very thought of being around you, he’d want to make it more permanent. +e must associate being with you, as an act of massive pleasure. ou have to position yourself in his mind in a way whereby, whenever he thinks of you he gets positive feelings.

So how can you do this- It can be done by doing fun things whenever you get together. Make it your goal to turn each meeting with him, into a fruitful > fun e!perience for the both of you.

7ventually, he will start to think  Wow! She is such a great girl to be around. I have so much fun around her. She makes me feel so good. ?onse9uently, good. ?onse9uently, the very idea of you will bring about positive feelings in his mind and he will naturally, want to make things more permanent with you. +e’d think  This is the exact type of a woman, I want to be around. +e’d around. +e’d naturally want to have more of what you have to offer. 5ust by following this one step, you position yourself as that one6in6a6million woman who isn’t easy to find.

"tep + $ )ndirectly "uggest That You %on&t Want To ush Things' 'ormally, it’s the woman who is trying to convince a man to commit but with this step our goal is to reverse that pattern. Instead of giving him all the power, you tell him early on, that you aren’t sure about anything yet and want to keep things casual. 6 HowToReadaMan.com HowT oReadaMan.com – All Rights Reserved

In other words: ou are letting him know that, you aren’t e!actly sure about him and don’t know, if you’d like to have a future with him or not. Some reverse psychology comes into play here and he will start to think 

m I not good good enough for you

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re you telling me you"re not sure about about me

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re you keeping your your options open

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'ow he isn’t fearful of being trapped, rather he fears that you might leave him for someone else. his also triggers his pursuit gene. )s you already know, men are naturally wired to pursue women, provided you know how to trigger the right buttons. his will very well, trigger his pursuit gene and he will sub6consciously want to keep you in his life.

If you’re wondering how to use this step, when he has already refused to commit, here is what you must do  ou should let him know that before, you were sure but now, you’re not so sure about a future with him. )nd to follow it up, show it with your actions. ake a few steps back and let him come to you, instead of trying to convince him to commit. his sudden change in attitude will trigger his pursuit gene and don’t be surprised, if he shows more interest in you now than ever before.

"tep 0 $ 1ive Him .imited /eneits /ut 2ever Full Access' his step is e!tremely important for many reasons. $omen usually give everything they have to offer, even when a guy hasn’t promised any sort of commitment. If he can get full benefits without having to pay the price, why do you think he’d value you or your time-


Some women give a guy easy se!, do nice things for him, and go out of their way to please him only hanging on the false hope, that someday he will commit. But that day will never come because, you are already giving him all the benefits a great wife;girlfriend will offer, without any obligations.

So here is what you should do  If you haven’t had se! with him yet, do not let him sleep with you at any possible cost. (ently push him away, whenever he makes an attempt to get physical. et him know that you are only open to it when things get more serious and the time is right.

his is good for < reasons  'umber one, if he only wanted you for se! and nothing else, you’d know it right off the bat and will save yourself a lot of time and effort. Second, now he will look beyond the se!ual aspect of things. Since he knows, that he isn’t going to get any action from you, he will wil l come to you for more genuine reasons. +e would come to you, because he genuinely wants to spend time with you and get to know you, on a deeper level. In a way, you also help him know you beyond the physical aspect of things.

But, what if you’ve already slept with him- 'o worries" ou can still apply a slight variation of this concept. ou ou have to slowly stop having se! with him, and start distancing yourself a little. It’s important to take away this lu!ury, when you aren’t getting anything in return for it. In both scenarios, our goal is to take away full rights and only give him limited access, which is easily achieved as long as you stick to the plan.

et’s 9uickly review on what we’ve learned so far 6 ou understand that in order to make him commit, you need to demonstrate that you aren’t going to lock him down, make him love the idea of being around you, suggest that you aren’t looking to rush things and finally give him limited access, but not full benefits.


et me now show you, how you can get this formula to work properly, and attain the best possible results in the shortest amount of time. In order to get the best possible results, you have to follow certain actions on a day to day basis. et me e!plain it in more detail:

Action # $ 3ractice /eing %etached From The -utcome, And Work -n Making Your .ie /etter' $hat do I mean, when I say practice being detached from the outcome- $hat I mean is this  $hen you work hard on getting a man to commit, your first goal becomes doing anything and everything to nudge him towards commitment. &ften times, you end up doing, needy or desperate things which further push a man away.

In order to get the best out of the steps mentioned above, you need to start by detaching yourself from the outcome. ou aren’t going to focus too hard on getting him to commit anymore. %ather, you will work hard on making your own life better.

$hat happens when you do this- $hen you aren’t focused on locking him down, but on making yourself more attractive, you naturally position yourself as a woman, who has a fun life and is fun to be around. +e’d naturally want to spend more time with you, because you aren’t focused on getting commitment from him.

)lways remember  $hen being with him is an absolute necessity for you, he’d always run away. But when being with him is only an option, and you don’t act like you absolutely need to have him in your life, he’d naturally feel attracted to you and would want to commit.


Action ( $ Take 1ood Care - You, 4motionally And 3hysically' I’d like to tell t ell you something no man would ever tell you. Men 0udge you based on how well you take care of yourself, physically and emotionally. @or e!ample  If you aren’t taking care of your health right now, he would see that as a red flag and would think  She isn"t interested in taking care of her health right now, I wonder how bad it"s going to be #$ years from now. ?onse9uently ?onse9u ently,, he would be reluctant to commit.

Similarly, if you usually force him, nag him or argue a lot currently. +e’s going to think  If she is this bad right now, what"s going to happen when we actually get married %ow married %ow miserable am I going to be when I have to deal with her daily So So it’s really important, that you demonstrate that you have your life in check, overall.

'ow let’s change the mood a bit, and let me tell you a list of things you should never do, if you want him to commit.

Mistake # $ 2ever Ask Him Where Things Are Headed! Avoid The 5%readed Talk6' Men absolutely fear the dreaded talk. he last thing he ever wants is a woman, trying to convince him to commit or worse force him to commit. It’s better to avoid talking about where things are going, or how eagerly you look forward to having babies with him, a nice house and life6long commitment.

Mistake ( $ %on&t 1ive Him *ltimatums' his will in fact turn you into his enemy, rather than a lover. Men are very competitive by nature, the moment you give him an ultimatum, he’d take that up as a challenge, and will do whatever it takes to prove you wrong.


ou’d find yourself in the middle of a dirty game, where he would try to win by avoiding you, 0ust to satisfy his ego while you will regret everything you said.

Mistake + $ %on&t Hint That )ts About Time Time Things 1ot "erious' $omen, who have been with a man for some time, usually make this mistake. ou can’t convince him into commitment, in fact, the more you try to convince, the more he will resist. $hen you have to convince someone, it means you want them to do something they don’t wish to do. So, it’s never a good idea to hint, that he needs to commit because it’s been too long.

Mistake 0 $ %on&t 3unish Him ight Away Away ) He euses Commitment' 4on’t react negatively, get angry or completely disappear if your man refuses to commit. In fact" %emain as calm as possible, and slowly take away all the benefits he was getting. In other words, stop giving him easy se!, stop answering his calls all the time, stop doing special things for him, but do it slowly.

ou have to communicate, that you aren’t okay with the current situation and aren’t going to let him have his way, unless he promises something in return. ou’d have to show him, that if he’s not interested in being e!clusive, then you’ll have to either keep your options open or seek other options. ou aren’t going to sit around, and wait for him to change his mind. But again, the key is to do it slowly instead of reacting right away.

his will also trigger the fear of losing you. Sometimes, people don’t know how valuable something is, until they are about to lose it. herefore, when you take away his special benefits and demonstrate, that you are planning on keeping your options open, he will slowly become more open to the idea of commitment.


)lright, now you understand all the dynamics of what makes a man commit, and know everything you need to do, in order to get commitment. he big key now, is to put all this knowledge into action as fast as possible. ou won’t see any results, unless you take whatever you learned in this report, and act on it. it .

his is what I want you to do ne!t 6 I want you to take out a piece of paper, and write down what stage your relationship is at right now. hen, I want you to write the biggest take away, you got from this report and a plan of action on how you will use these steps, in your own personal life and relationship.

I have shown this e!act same formula, to hundreds of women in the past, and they have all reported back with great results, in their relationship. I hope you do the same, and take action right away. I wish you all the best.



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