Hey there, it’s Tyler… Thanks for coming to the RSD Hot Seat!! Contained within this document are a brief set of notes from what you learned, to help you to remember and apply it aAer the event. I hope you find them helpful. If you haven’t yet, I would also *massively* appreciate it if you could smash up a quick review of your experience at…: hJp://www.rsdnaLon.com/forum/2 (This is really important because oAenLmes everyone assumes that everyone ELSE will write something, and nobody writes anything at all. If you got a lot of out of the event, please take even 2 minutes to shoot up a quick review. It means a lot to me. Thanks!!) Lastly before we get started, if you’re somebody who has NOT yet had your own “Hot Seat” experience, and you’ve “accidentally” stumbled onto this short document, my recommendaLon is ATTEND THE HOT SEAT FOR YOURSELF.
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GOALS OF YOUR HOT SEAT EXPERIENCE 1-‐ To get a taste of what’s possible if you make a strong commitment to get this area of your life sorted out. Although Tyler and other instructors have been going out for many years, the goal of this experience is to cut down your learning curve so you can get the same result in less Lme. 2-‐ To show you that “Success with women is a SET OF PRINCIPLES.” Everyone is cut from the same cloth. The extent to which you apply the principles will be the extent to which you enjoy success. Tyler and the instructors are no different—if they don’t apply the principles, they fail just like anyone else. These videos include text book pickups, as well as mediocre pickups, and total screw-‐ups. Guys who do well in this area are REAL PEOPLE, not cartoon characters. You should see from this that the game doesn’t have to be “perfect”, just good enough that the girl is open to you moving things forward. 3-‐ To show you that THE GAME IS FUN. If nothing else, the single thing you need to get reinforced from this experience is that the game is one of the most fun hobbies on earth. Aptude is 90% of the game. When you realize how fun the game is, you’re inclined to go out a lot, and when you go out a lot, you quickly improve. 4-‐ If you’re a beginner you should get a drasLc eye-‐opening about what’s possible. If you’re intermediate then you should get an idea of what you need to do to reach an advanced level. If you’re advanced then you’ve reached a point where “returns don’t come as easily.” To get from a 9 to a 10 in the game oAen takes longer than to get from a 4 to an 8. Although this event won’t be the same drasLc experience as it is for a newbie, it will provide a number of advanced subtleLes that would have been really difficult to acquire on your own, and get you from that 9 to 10 level in your development. **UlLmately there are over 30 years of combined experience in the field here. You’ll gain hundreds of liJle disLncLons that took us years to figure out. These will be directly downloaded into your brain today. If you keep your mind open and immediately apply what you learned, you will gain 10X the value out of this program. **The event will start off with a lot of highlight clips to keep you engaged, and then move into longer clips that aren’t as entertaining, but more valuable to give you a FULL perspecLve of the game. If we showed you purely highly clips then your view of the game would be “BOOM BOOM BOOM” like a cartoon, instead of a highly realisLc perspecLve of what an interacLve looks like from open to close. That being the case, enjoy both the off the wall highlights, as well as the longer clips—they are equally important.
TYLER The INTENT secLon Intent #1 2 out of 10 intent. Although this clip looks awesome to a newbie, because Tyler is holding the aJenLon of a hot girl, when compared to the 6 out of 10 or 10 out of 10 clips, you see where it’s lacking. This should provide you with a mirror of what many of YOUR interacLons look like. Think about approaches you did that looked like this. Most importantly, noLce how each of the three girls in the first three clips are equally aJracLve (the first is a professional model, and the other two probably could be as well), and equally RECEPTIVE. It’s only how much interest TYLER IS SHOWING that’s different. What you should learn from this: It’s oAen not how much interest the girl is showing you, but how ENTITLED YOU FEEL TO SHOW INTEREST TO THE GIRL, that is the difference between an approach that goes nowhere, versus an approach that leads from open to close. Intent #2 6 out of 10 intent. Tyler is closer to the girl here. Tyler isn’t thinking ahead. He’s lepng her talk, JUDGING what she’s saying, and then rewarding. She says something into Tyler’s ear, Tyler judges, decides it’s funny, and rewards her by looking under her shirt, then liking what he sees, picking her up in the air. NoLce also that when the pseudo-‐boyfriend gets angry, it doesn’t mean the interacLon has to end. It keeps going. Intent #3 10 out of 10 intent. This is an example of the “Unlimited chips in a casino frame.” The best guys’ mindset = approaching women as if you were given endless chips in a casino, and you were running around on a “happy frolic”, pumping chips into every machine you can find. There’s no downside to a machine not giving you the jackpot. You just go to some other machine and pump in more chips. Eventually one will give you the jackpot, it’s all good! Tyler opens this girl gepng into the taxi for no other reason than HE CAN. She’s a beauLful girl and there’s nothing lost by shouLng something out to see if she responds. This usually has about a 1 out of 10 chance of working, but it happens to work here by the law of averages. Probably because she’s BORED, but who cares?? Tyler says “Don’t get in the cab. Come with me instead.” She says “Do you want to SHARE a cab?” He says “No I want you to come with me. I want to take you behind the building” (This is a joke—if you’re not SERIOUSLY FUNNY then don’t say things like this. As a joke it’s funny, but if you’re not seriously funny then it’s blatantly stupid and you should never do it.) She says “Okay” and even points to the back of the building where she wants to be taken. Tyler feels =enLtled, and that none of this is a big deal. When you compare to the previous 2 out of 10 intent video, and 6 out of 10 video, you can see that this whole thing seems more NORMAL. Being
“enLtled” means that when a beauLful woman is giving you aJenLon, it’s cool and fun, but no big deal. Later Tyler runs out of strength to carry her, but wants to look sexy and not like a dorky wimp. So he slams her against the wall and does a mock-‐choke, then says “I’m the most abusive man you’ve ever met.” She says “I love abusive men. I’ve dated many abusive guys before you.” Intent #4 -‐This clip is meant to show a different interpretaLon of the word “Intent” – which can have mulLple meanings (or at least, there are different ways of understanding it). INTENT = CLARITY IN YOUR THOUGHTS, WORDS, AND ACTIONS. In other words, you don’t always have to be “up in a girl’s grill” to show intent (although it’s obviously very good IF you’re highly aJracted). Being clear in your intent can simply be that you’re CLEAR IN WHAT YOU’RE DOING. -‐NoLce in this clip that although the girl is taller and beJer looking than Tyler, who appears to be the “lucky” on in the interacLon. This points to the “Buyer/Seller” Dynamic. Even if you aren’t as good looking, tall, etc, you can sLll be the “buyer” in the interacLon, with the preper girl feeling lucky that she’s talking to you. It comes down to being more at ease in your own reality, and being the one who GIVES validaLon, as opposed to RECEIVING validaLon. This is a win/win frame, as girls enjoy it and feel aJracted to it. They’re generally bored by a guy who seeks approval and validaLon.
The OPENERS SecLon Openers CompilaLon **This clip shows a variety of different openers, styles of opening, etc. Some hook immediately while others are “rough landings” that eventually smoothen out. OPENER 1 Accomplishment intro. Jeffy waits unLl Tyler has “crossed the hook point” and then opens. NoLce he amuses himself somewhat while waiLng, as opposed to looking over desperately. Tyler gets a strong response on the “high five” and so it’s obvious the girls would rather that he stay as opposed to leave. When Jeff comes in, it’s an example of “communicaLng authenLcally from whatever state you’re in”. He’s not super psyched, so references that he’s “not interesLng” tonight. Even though he’s downplaying himself, he’s not EMOTIONALLY LEACHING. There’s a difference between communicaLng authenLcally that you’re not super pumped up, and being an emoLonal leach. Use common sense. OPENER 2 Although you don’t iniLally see it in the clip, if you look carefully you’ll see this girl is about 4 or 5 inches taller in her heels than Tyler (she’s a runway model). To establish a “masculine lead” with taller girls, a great way to do it is to pick them up and spin them around a bit, in some funny way or other. NoLce Tyler has to aJempt to pick her up TWICE here, because she has to bend her legs to get picked up.
NoLce how Tyler also gets her hands quickly. The conversaLon is BORING and yet there’s a good “man to woman” mode of communicaLon, simply because of the immediate physical game. This same conversaLon without the hand clasp would be flat, but with physical game it’s fine. OPENER 3 This demonstrates REFLEXES. NoLce how Tyler sees her walking by and immediately claws her in, and launches into conversaLon. Key: Simultaneously increase “awareness” of where the girls are, decrease “reacLon Lme”. Think of all the Lmes that girls walked by and you didn’t do anything. You were aware of them, but more as a “voyeur” than as really acknowledging them as being within your “field of reality” of people who you could talk to. To get really good at approaching, you want to react immediately when you see a girl that you like. NoLce how he’s feeding off of his aJracLon for the girl, and looks almost buzzed, even though he’s stone sober. When approaching women you don’t want to be thinking more than “Duuuur, happy, horny, DUUUUURRRR…..” Anything more than that, and you’re overcomplicaLng it. Also noLce how overweight Tyler is here. He’s 205 pounds (it’s an older clip). He’s not self-‐conscious about how he’s trapped in a big fat body, he’s just enjoying himself. Even though he’s fat, the girl is just feeding off of the emoLons. Would it make any difference if he were SKINNER? Nope. NoLce also here how physical game adds chemistry and emoLonal relevance to the interacLon. The hand clasp especially. OPENER 4 “Cockfarm disperse.” Do not approach with big groups of guys in tow if you can avoid it, as this is weird to the girl. (On the other hand, if you have no other opLon then there’s nothing to lose. Take it as a general guideline, not a firm rule). UJerly ridiculous opener for moving groups: “You’ve just been body checked. I’m the body check BANDIT.” NoLce the fearlessness even though it’s a “mixed group”. Nothing is a big deal, it’s all a joke. She says “Are you going to drop me” and he says “I dropped a kid on it’s head this one Lme…” Everything is a joke. Observe how the guy simply vanishes. This typically happens when you’re funnier, cooler, and more dominant, assuming he didn’t drive there with her (if he did then he’s usually forced to sLck around). OPENER 5 A simple example of how you can yell girls down while walking behind them, say something funny and them coral them in. “Are you the blockers of the street.” This isn’t that funny. But be self amused with what you’re saying, even if it’s not that funny, and it will seem funny. Take iniLaLve to get the conversaLon moving. Lead, lead, lead. OPENER 6 Tyler is staring at the girl like a wolf stares at sheep, but her man noLces and remarks it’s his girlfriend.
Tyler is polite and says “You guys make a lovely couple” which allows him to duck out in a nice way, but also allows the girl to engage him in case 1) the guy was lying about being with her, or 2) she’s thinking of ditching him regardless. She happens to take it in this case (this doesn’t always happen), and so he immediately physically escalates. Why does he bite her? Because it’s fun, no other reason. The game doesn’t always have to be strategic – do what amuses you (within reason) and you’ll build amusement for the following approaches. OPENER 7 This approach is early in the night, Tyler hasn’t built much momentum yet. This is what’s known as a “rough landing”. Tyler struggles to find anything to say. His jokes don’t really connect—he makes dumb comments like “Are you a supermodel for real” because he’s improvising (as opposed to using canned material) and is just saying anything that comes into his head. Regardless he stays persistent, and because the girl can tell he’s “OK” she’s curious enough to allow him to conLnue, so invites him to the bar where she’s meeLng her friends. The ONE semi-‐decent thing he does is to demand where she’s going, and this turns out to be enough to keep her engaged. She isn’t inviLng him to the bar “for sex”. But she’s willing to “let him spit his rap”—girls see dudes “spit their rap” all the Lme, and she’s willing to let him conLnue. This allows her to decide if she’s interested as Lme goes on. The lesson here is that you don’t have to open perfectly. You can recover. Just keep going. Say something. Say ANYTHING. OPENER 8 Tyler opens just by asking an innocuous quesLon, and then transiLoning. At the end of the clip, it becomes obvious he’s hooked when he says “How old are you?” and she iniLally says “23”. Tyler is skepLcal and asks “Really?” and she admits “21”. Any Lme a girl tries to alter your percepLon of her to meet your standards, it’s usually a good sign.
The FREEDOM OF OUTCOME SecLon **Two important lessons here: 1) the “Social experiment frame”, and 2) the “Use rejecLon to build your state frame”. Combine these two frames, and you can learn to completely remove all approach anxiety over Lme. Social Experiment Frame This is just an example of what the RSD dudes are like when they’re out screwing around. NOTHING IS SERIOUS. It’s all a big joke. If pickup is serious to you, you’re taking yourself too seriously. If you’re not having fun, YOU SUCK. NoLce that Jeff gives Tyler a ridiculous opener off the cuff, and Tyler immediately implements it. This is the aptude that the most experienced guys have all the Lme. They see something ridiculous, they go try it as an opener. THE WORLD IS YOUR SOCIAL EXPERIMENT LAB. IT’S ALL FUNNY. NOTHING IS SERIOUS.
Also noLce Tyler’s funny facial expressions here. RejecLons CompilaLon NoLce here that Tyler is using rejecLon as ENERGY. Most of these approaches are earlier in the night when he lacks momentum. The sets are decent, but he’s just slightly “off”. Rather than gepng into his head, he uses the interacLons to GET OUT OF HIS HEAD. He makes drama. Gets himself talking and yelling. Most important of all: making himself laugh. In the final clip Tyler references how misguided it is when people on RSD NaLon come on and talk about how hard and depressing the game is. They don’t “get it”. The game is fun. If it’s messing with you, you’re taking yourself too seriously. HAVE FUN.
The GROUP DYNAMICS SecLon Solo VS With Wing **NoLce the difference here between an interacLon with a “wingman” (buddy who is also talking to the girls) as opposed to an interacLon that you have to run on your own. SOLO -‐Tyler keeps the group engaged on his own. He gets them “on his team” so that they’re his biggest fans in helping him and the girl to hook up. He does this by being cool to ALL of them, making sure they’re all having a good Lme. -‐As you watch this interacLon, bare in mind that again, Tyler weighs 205 pounds. He’s moving his body as if he delusionally thinks he’s the man, and so you don’t really noLce it that much. This is why the girls don’t care: they respond to GOOD EMOTIONS, and they’re having fun. Girls aren’t as picky as guys. -‐Tyler goes to hug the girl, and she resists because she fears her friends’ judgment. Tyler backs off and looks to them to see their opinion, and they yell “Yes, yes, yes…”. This smooth, is in contrast to most guys who would simply plow forward like a bull. -‐NoLce as the interacLon progresses that Tyler is “Self amused”. He likes them, but he’d be having fun if they were there OR NOT. That’s why they compete for his aJenLon. It would never happen if he cared about their approval. WITH WING -‐Here we see an approach where Tyler isn’t required to keep the group engaged, because he has another guy keeping the other girl engaged -‐This allows him to “bang the guns” without any interrupLon, and results in rapid escalaLon, followed by bringing the girls to the couch where he can “really work” – and finally the extracLon. Peer Group #1: -‐Tyler always says “I’ll open with anything that comes to mind”. NoLce here that he opens with the most uJerly random nonsense. He’s Lred at the end of the night in the heat, so his speech is a bit slow, but he sLll opens with any nonsense that comes to mind—and it makes no difference at all.
-‐The “friend” criLcizes Tyler as being like the “guy from silence of the lambs”. This throws him off internally and he takes it personally, but outwardly he responds with the principle of “Always have the beJer answer…” The principle Tyler uses to have the “beJer answer” is: “If this is true, then what else is true…” It’s a principle of comedy you can use: if one crazy thing a person says is hypotheLcally true, then what other even CRAZIER thing could be true as well? Although Tyler waits a bit too long to sit (because he was thrown off by the iniLal comment) he recovers and sits down. -‐Tyler messes with the friend for being rude to him, then befriends her by kissing her hand. This iniLally disarms her anger and rage. -‐Tyler ignores the friend and pays too much aJenLon to the girl he’s trying to engage. This was emoLonal and impaLent: sloppy game. He was sloppy because he’d taken it personally earlier, and didn’t want to talk to the mean girl anymore. As a consequence for being impaLent, the friend starts freaking out and messing with him. She tries to bait him to leave by saying they want his number, but he declines. She tries to mess up Tyler further by saying “DO YOU LIKE HIM??” Tyler responds by saying “Don’t answer. Say you don’t like me” in order to maintain control of the frame. Regardless it’s not enough, but it’s a good effort. UlLmately Tyler’s failure to properly engage the group messed up a situaLon where he could have hit it off with the girl. Peer Group #2 Tyler starts off with the benefit of approval of the friend. He doesn’t have to do that much to get iniLal aJracLon. Also noLce the benefits of being cool with ALL people. Tyler wouldn’t have expected a conversaLon in Los Angeles to help him in Phoenix a week later, but because he treated the girl well she hooks him up with her cute friend. -‐Tyler interrupts the girl when she REALLY wants to get something in (this create an open-‐loop of tension). He uses mulLple “push/pulls” in a single sentence: PUSH: InteresLngly I understood nothing of what you just said right now. PUSH: The accent got too thick. PULL: But it was hot. PULL: I like that I don’t understand you. PUSH: It means you can’t piss me off. PUSH: (Turns away from her, to her friend…) -‐Tyler swings her hand while talking to her friend and looking away from her. It’s as if he’s her dad, and they’re talking to someone at the shopping mall (or something/anything like that). It creates rapport and a dynamic where she wants his aJenLon. -‐Tyler drops a cigareJe down her bra, and then uses his mouth to put it in yet again. This follows a CLASSIC “game format”. Nearly all naturals do this: you tease / take away approval / cross a boundary in a funny way, then GIVE validaLon with physical escalaLon.
That being the case, Tyler picks her up in the air right aAer, motorboats, etc. She wants to make out with Tyler (“You have to kiss me…”), although he tries to avoid it. -‐Tyler stacks push/pulls again (5 in a single sentence): PULL: Once we’re married. PUSH: You won’t be a useless… PULL: Hot trophy wife… PUSH: Bitch… PULL: I like that Tyler does this unconsciously, because his mind understands the “format” from many years of social interacLon. It’s like riding a bike: veering a liJle to the leA, a liJle to the right, etc. -‐Finally Tyler gets permission to take her to the bar to get her number, from the friend. NoLce how she’s totally fine with it and doesn’t get in the way, in contrast to the “friend” from the previous video where she blocks at every step of the way. Peer Group #3 Tyler is talking to his buddy, who menLons that his girl has a SISTER in the bar. Tyler asks her if that’s her boyfriend she’s talking to: she says “Yes” because she doesn’t want her sister to look promiscuous and “lose value”. Tyler senses her hesitaLon so asks “CommiJed boyfriend?” She says no, he says “Thank you” and walks over. NoLce how casually Tyler opens, even with a “mixed group”. He just says “Hi…Owen.” -‐Dude guy tries to say he’s her boyfriend. Tyler “rolls with it” by saying “She’s said many good things about you.” Tyler says “She said you’re like WOOOOOOHOOOOO!” (referencing his dick size) and the guy foolishly says “Yeah I’m hung to the floor”. Tyler says “Me…I’m hung like a liJle wet carrot” and the girl starts laughing. The reason this works is because the girl doesn’t care about the WORDS (our reproducLve systems probably evolved before we invented complex spoken language). What’s more important is WHO IS QUALIFYING THEMSELVES, AND WHO IS THE JUDGE. It’s obvious that Tyler is kidding, but what’s important is the dude has qualified himself, whereas Tyler doesn’t care. -‐Tyler asks “Do girls have to pay the 20 dollar cover to get in here?” The guy foolishly responds “I’m throwing the fucking party” (like “YEEEAH, I’M THROWING THE PARTY, WITH MY BIG DIIIIICK!!!”). **NOTE: Tyler probably asked this quesLon because his UNCONSCIOUS MIND knew that the guy would be baited into qualifying himself. It was only aAer watching the video later that it became apparent. Your mind will learn liJle disLncLons that you aren’t even aware of, from years of approaching. You’ll see a similar paJern with Alex’s final video where he gets a kiss from a girl in a car. -‐Tyler cuts the guy off when he REALLY wants to say something. This creates a vacuum where he wants to qualify himself.
-‐Tyler also makes a few ridiculous sounds and imitaLons, which sort of stuns the guy from knowing what else to say to keep up. **NOTE: The peer group here was FAKE. Most guys would have THOUGHT it was the peer group, when in fact it was just a random guy. You see as he leaves that he didn’t really know her.
The PHYSICAL GAME SecLon Girl Sipng On Bar This video is to introduce you to the concept of “Physical game”. “Physical game” allows you to create aJracLon without a great verbal game. Even if your verbal game is a bit rusty, you can always go physical to maintain chemistry. Even an uJerly boring verbal game works GREAT with physical game. Let’s watch this next clip. Physical VS Non Physical Game In this clip Tyler tried to film indoors. It was SUPER WEIRD to film right there in the middle of the mall, so he got sketched out. YES PHYSICAL GAME WORKS IN THE DAY. WE JUST DIDN’T GET A LOT OF CLIPS OF IT BECAUSE IT’S HARD TO SHOOT. WE’LL GET SOME AT SOME POINT. Point being, with the first set with the blonde girl there is actually more “natural” chemistry between Tyler and the girl, but because there’s a lack of physical game, it’s more awkward. This second set with the Asian girl, Tyler actually has LESS natural chemistry than with the blonde, but because there’s physical interacLon it’s much more natural. Point being: “That which seems LESS awkward is in fact MORE awkward……and that which seems MORE awkward is in fact LESS awkward…” Get physical immediately and it will actually be less awkward, even though it may feel more awkward iniLally. Physical Game In The DayLme Next up the SAME quesLon comes up over and over: “Can you use physical game in the dayLme?” This video answers that quesLon. Tyler emulates the type of energy and immediate physicality that you’d normally think of as being reserved for the club. NoLce the level of dominaLon and insanity in the middle of the dayLme, as people look on. NoLce as well how Tyler has structured a situaLon where the interacLon can be lead from “open to close” very quickly, by the energy that he’s using. Behave like a rockstar, get treated like one.
The LONGER SETS SecLon **It’s been fun to watch highlight clips to get hyper-‐focused on specific ideas, but we need to watch a few longer clips to get a beJer idea of how an interacLon plays out from “open to close”. ADD Party Girls Pull This set is an example of how to handle girls who are out of control. These girls are out partying, dancing, and they don’t care about any guy in parLcular.
You’ll noLce they have no “investment” in Tyler. They just want to have fun, and whoever is there at the end of the night is who they’ll go home with. It’s like “Last man standing” game: You just want to be there at the end of the night, and it doesn’t really maJer what happens in order to get there. The interacLon starts with Tyler following them into the club. NoLce that he could have engaged them on the street, but OPTED to wait unLl they get into the club. This is a subjecLve judgment call. -‐The girl’s friend freaks out, because Tyler is escalaLng too quickly. He disarms it by saying “If people don’t accept an apology then how are Israel and PalesLne are going to work it out?” Then he shiAs into EMOTIONAL RELEVANCE by joking that he won’t do anything to her friend that he wouldn’t do to HER as well. -‐Girl asks “Do you have kids.” Tyler answers “Probably but I don’t know.” This is a common answer to a common quesLon—gets her a liJle mad, but her unconscious mind realizes that you have “opLons”. -‐Tyler starts incoherently yelling “I CANNOT GO HOME WITH YOU!!” This is classic funny game stuff. You could modify it to say “I’m not going to have buJ sex with you in the bathroom!!” or “I’m not going to do you behind the dumpster!!” It just gives the girl a bit of a thrill and gets her laughing. -‐Tyler disarms quesLons in the parking lot by just pushing forward. Cute But No Chemistry This is an example of a set where you relate to the girl more as a FRIEND than as someone you have chemistry with. The truth is that when you get good at meeLng women, just because a girl is visually aJracLve doesn’t mean you have real chemistry. In pickup you can either relate as 1) a man to a woman, 2) a friend to a friend, or 3) a woman to a woman (like by saying “He treats you so bad giiirl!!” like many of us used to do before we found the pickup community.) This girl is from the country and has a funny accent. Tyler feels no chemistry for her, but befriends her, walks her around the club so other girls see them together, and has fun with her. Tyler likes to show this clip because many guys think that you have to try to have sex with every decent looking girl you approach, and “burn it to the ground.” However if you want female friends who will introduce you to their friends, or get you into club, you have to meet LOTS of girls out like this, who you become friends with. NoLce however that when a girl says “Let’s just be friends” she really means “Let’s not EVEN be friends…” It’s usually girls that you have SOME chemistry with, just not enough to have sex with, who will become your female friends and hook you up. ALSO NOTICE: Tyler nearly blows himself out by going on a Lrade about his opinions about psychology. What’s cool is that he CATCHES HIMSELF, and slows himself down, and then says “Actually I think I’m insane…” So rather than just giving his 10 minute Lrade on psychology, he slooooows down, and re-‐adjusts the conversaLon. This is important because when you “go off” on some topic for TOO LONG you may impress the girl, but you’ll oAen lose aJracLon. It’s called “blowing yourself out with your own awesomeness”: the girl thinks you’re awesome, but isn’t aJracted whatsoever.
It’s good to talk about things you’re interested in, but if it’s a mental-‐thought-‐loop that just goes off on a Lrade of opinions that you’re overly ATTACHED TO, instead of talking about it to HAVE FUN, then it’s oAen a buzz kill. Use common sense. Pull With ConnecLon Here’s an example of a girl who Tyler DOES have chemistry with. She’s a solid person (she works in a hospice for dying people) and is easy to talk to, and respect as a woman. NoLce throughout the interacLon that Tyler communicates with TWO SELVES. Her “self” that wants to “have fun” (ie: have sex) with random guys, and her “self” that wants to be a “good girl” and not be judged. REALLY WATCH AS HE COMMUNICATES WITH TWO DIFFERENT SELVES: Tyler goes back and forth between making funny sexual and aggressive comments, and talking about being a gentleman, being more tradiLonal, etc. Tyler says that if he walks her home he won’t come in. The reason he says this is that she’s only known him for TWENTY FIVE MINUTES. Although in “delusional pickup land” 25 minutes is long enough for a girl to decide to have sex with you, in the real world many girls need longer. She’s saying “Walk me home but you can’t come in…” to allow her to talk to Tyler more, and see if she’s interested in lepng him come in, but at the same Lme to GIVE HERSELF AN “OUT” if she decides she doesn’t like him. Girls do this because unlike guys, they need TIME to tell if a guy is aJracLve or not. Any guy can FAKE being confident for a few minutes, but it’s harder to fake over an hour or two. That’s why they want to spend Lme with you: to see if you are CONGRUENT to the cool and awesome guy that you seem to be. THE PULL: Here Tyler knows that he has to build as much rapport as possible between now and the Lme they get home. Because she has a more stable and high quality personality, he doesn’t have to keep pumping with sLmulus. They can just talk and get to know each other. “AJracLon” is done. Once they arrive home, the “you can’t come in” thing isn’t remotely an issue. She just said it to see if he was cool. Because he was, he was invited in no problem at all. Solid Day 2 Establishing Game This girl is out for a bacheloreJe party. She has been “paired up” in a buddy-‐system with this girl she doesn’t know, and the girl has goJen totally drunk. She’s now stuck taking care of a drunk girl she barely knows. This creates a weird situaLon for Tyler. The drunk girl is on the other side of the railing, and Tyler wants to jump over and talk to the girl he likes, but he doesn’t want to weird her out by gepng too near to the drunk girl. **The main lesson of this interacLon is the balance between “Value” and “QualificaLon”. -‐Early on you see that the girl is skepLcal that Tyler really likes her. He says “I love you” and she says “No you don’t.” Tyler iniLally failed to noLce this. -‐NoLce how she pulls on Tyler’s arms. She likes pulling away and being held.
She also reveals that she runs her own business. She’s got her life together. It seems like a natural fit. -‐Tyler asks for the phone number and gets DENIED. He quickly has to assess: Is it because he lacks the VALUE to get her aJracted, or the QUALIFICATION to make her feel that he really likes her. -‐Tyler should have noLced earlier when she was skepLcal, when he said “I love you” and she said “You say that to everyone”. He didn’t spot it because he was mesmerized on the girl and wasn’t thinking. To ASSESS where he stands with her, he says, “Why? I would stalk you, you’re right…” and she says “No you wouldn’t…” THAT IS THE TIPOFF THAT HE LACKS QUALIFICATION. She assumes he wouldn’t’ be bothered. Now Tyler has to spend the next ten minutes showing he’s really interested. He starts talking about all her good qualiLes. -‐Tyler gets her hotel address. The qualificaLon has pushed through the iniLal skepLcism, and she figures that if he’s willing to call her, then it’s at least decent proof he likes her. This is so important because for a GIRL TO FEEL VALIDATED by sex, she has to feel the guy likes her, or chose her from among other girls. Guys ALWAYS feel validated by sex, because the girl could have chosen some other dude (that’s why we have a hard Lme relaLng to this whole thing). But girls need MORE in order to feel any emoLonal validaLon.
JEFFY Saves The Day Here’s a quick example of his aptude in the field. He just likes to mess around. He’s having fun. Again, Jeff is always screwing around. It’s all a joke. Twilight NoLce here how he’s talking about things that YOU OR I would not find that funny, but because JEFF finds it funny, by the “law of state transfer” she starts laughing (to the point that she asks him to say the same things again and again). Jeff actually feels like he’s qualifying himself by doing it, but she’s laughing so hard he goes with it (the rules are just general guidelines, and can always be broken. It’s newbies who will never break a rule.) English Pull -‐Some of the sharpest verbal game ever recorded. -‐Demonstrates how Jeff pushes through resistance towards leaving the club and hooking up: keys are conLnual persistence with a lot of hilarity.
RYAN Random Nonsense Ryan was NOT natural with women at all. He didn’t find his confidence easily.
What you should really noLce with Ryan are two things: 1) how he’s an example of a dude who is NOT naturally confident but just PUSHES THROUGH and gains success (if he can do it, then nobody in this room has an excuse), and 2) how he has Jedi-‐like frame control. Walking Street Set This video will introduce you to Ryan’s Jedi-‐like Frame Control. Throughout the clip the girl will say that THINGS ARE ONE WAY, and he’ll say “Nope, they’re THIS OTHER WAY.” And she’ll immediately agree. -‐“I don’t need to tell you you’re endearing, you are endearing…” -‐(She says “You don’t look 26…”) and he says “You just won so many points…” (to reframe it as a compliment). Then he grabs her aJenLon by saying “But then you lose them, by doing the thing I hate most in the world…” (further reinforcing that he gives validaLon, she receives it…) -‐(She says “You have an iPhone…You just lost a point…”) and he says “No I didn’t” and she immediately agrees. -‐“Sweet heart I think both of us are past the points…” Crossfit Pull This video shows Ryan using the SAME FRAME CONTROL JEDI MOVES as the previous set, but in a far more aggressive “frame baJle” (so to speak). NoLce as he pulls her out, that her LEGS ARE WRAPPED AROUND HIM. Also noLce at the end, that if he “loses state” at any point, that she will fall out of state as well, and lose interest. It takes very good state-‐control if you want to do this. EVERYTHING HAS TO BE FUNNY. EVERYTHING IS A FUNNY JOKE. If you take this type of situaLon seriously, BOOM, she loses interest. Lastly, noLce in the taxi interview aAer how much fun she had. Why did what he do work? Because it was funny, she was into it, and he lead it from open to close.
BRAD Brad is a very interesLng dude to watch. Guys will try to excuse his game on his looks, which ignores the million amazing things he’s doing (and frankly it’s super patheLc when dudes make any excuse). The two things to learn from Brad are 1) his sense of high enLtlement, and 2) the way he fluffs. These two aspects of his game are parLcularly great to model, because he never flinches or qualifies himself to girls whatsoever. And second, because he’s able to keep conversaLons going forever and ever by making them light and fluffy. CompilaLon This should show a bit about Brad’s game. -‐“You have bad eye contact”. NoLce how MOST guys would “interpret” a girl ignoring them as being about THEM, whereas BRAD interprets it as being about HER bad eye contact. (That’s his sense of enLtlement). -‐“YOU!” He commands her to look at him here, in a funny way.
-‐“WHOOOOOAAA!!” as he falls to makeout with the girl. It’s his “posiLve/dominant” vocal tonality. She can tell he’s a popular and cool guy just by the way he yells “WHOA!” as he falls. -‐Also noLce how even a boring conversaLon is interesLng, by his ENERGY. Imagine if the average person had this conversaLon, how boring it would be. But because of his interest in his own conversaLon (and just relaLng to her as a person), it’s fun to listen to. -‐Brad forgets her name. He ignores it and says “let’s not talk, we don’t need to talk” and just keeps making out with her. He doesn’t let it derail him. -‐Having fun is what gives you the emoLonal enthusiasm that girls are aJracted to. You goJa stop and smell the roses, not just hit, hit, hit. -‐Girl asks Brad if he’s ready to fuck. He says “WHOA!” with a vocal tonality that re-‐asserts dominance in a casual way. -‐Then he says “I AM preJy good at it” very maJer-‐of-‐factually. What’s interesLng here is that he isn’t using the typical “pickup arLst” cocky and funny remark, but just using “radical honesty” (a book by Brad Blanton). -‐What’s powerful about radical honesty is that there are no filters in your communicaLon. Although you lose the convenience of lying to people, your communicaLon becomes a lot more powerful and authenLc. Brad has tapped into this. -‐Anyway think of Brad’s response as having three levels. 1) Chode level “Duuur, yeah I’m ready to fuck!! Woooo!!!” 2) the PUA level “First you goJa pay me 5 bucks!!”, and 3) Brad’s level “I AM preJy good at it…” with a straight face. Brad has sort of taken it “full circle” back to chode-‐land, but with a certain vibe that makes it WORK. -‐Later she says “You’ve goJa last at least 45 minutes…” and he pauses, thinks to himself, and casually says “I…..can last that long.” Again it’s that blunt, maJer-‐of-‐fact radical honesty, that allows him to qualify himself in a way that’s NOT ACTUALLY QUALIFYING HIMSELF. -‐This causes her to become so aJracted she just jumps him for the make-‐out. Quick Makeout -‐NoLce Brad’s sense of enLtlement here. -‐Also noLce how he’s talking like a totally normal conversaLon, while he’s feeling her enLre body. He’s speaking to her “logical self” while his physical communicaLon speaks to her “emoLonal self”. -‐NoLce again Brad’s radical honesty. He’s very in the moment and doesn’t really even remember what he says. She says “What would you do to me??” and he honestly answers “What?? Oh, yeah think of this, like, Lmes five…” Long Set Of Hilarity CHALLENGE: Try to follow Brad’s conversaLon. You can’t summarize it because he’s fully in the moment, and doesn’t care enough about her approval to overly think about what he’s saying. Would adding in any “structure” or “rouLnes” help him?? NOPE.
ALEXANDER
Alex is a guy who expresses a true “child like joy”. His “joyful self” comes to the surface. He’s always “in state”. The way you see him, this is how he is 24/7. He’s always going off about “She’s gonna get the prawn…” (he calls his dick the prawn) and nonsense like that. It’s just the way that he is. Club Pull Alex begins by saying “Give me a chode opener.” He’s trying to de-‐bunk myths about how you need a certain type of opener. NoLce that even though he offers to buy the girl a drink, he’s being commanding and challenging. -‐He says “Excuse me, why don’t you have a job??” randomly. NoLce how he’s interrupLng her whenever he feels like it. We call this GAMING BLIND. He has no regard for her responses whatsoever. -‐He kisses her. NoLce how you don’t even really see it, it’s so “casual and assumed”. It’s like they’re already daLng. -‐ Tyler asks “Do you need help” and he’s like “No, I got this, I’ll own this…” NoLce how he’s in complete control, from doing this hundreds of Lmes. He can be logical to talk to Tyler, and then immediately shiA into game mode: “JulieJe?? Is that you??” -‐VERY IMPORTANT: “Are you from LA?” “No”. “Irrelevant” and then KISS. (Alex is using a hypnoLc principle here, inadvertently. He doesn’t realize he’s doing this, but by asking where she’s from, she gives an autopilot response, and then he says “IRRELEVANT” as he kisses her). NOT ONLY is Alex breaking an “autopilot loop” by asking a quesLon and then responding with a kiss (which her unconscious mind can’t process, because she’s so accustomed to people saying “Oh you’re not from LA, where are you from??”), but he’s saying the word “Irrelevant” as he kisses her, as if it’s no big deal (irrelevant) that he’s doing so. ALSO VERY IMPORTANT: “Do you believe in love at first sight?” and then sucks her neck. NoLce that AGAIN, he’s eliciLng an autopilot response, and then coming back with something unexpected. It’s a paJern he’s using: ask a quesLon, then when she gives an answer, his response is to physically escalate as if it was the proper response. -‐She says “Keep going”. He says “What? What do you want me to do? Okay turn your head the other way…” and then sucks her neck, then boobs. (He does this to flip the frame from her leading to him leading…) -‐Alex winds up hooking up with this girl. Done deal. Street Game -‐Look at Alex’s reflexes and reacLon Lme. Think of all the Lmes you just let a girl pass by. Look at how he just claws her off of the street. -‐Is he relaLng to her as a friend to a friend, or a man to a woman?? How quickly is he doing this?? Always keep this in mind. -‐Also noLce how dumb his opener is. It makes no sense, it’s just a space-‐filler. There is no need for a good opener when you’re relaLng as a man-‐to-‐a-‐woman.
-‐“Is this her birthday?? BIRTHDAY PRESENT!!” and kiss. (This is the SAME PATTERN you saw in the last video, of Alex asking a random quesLon, and then responding with a physical escalaLon. Again, Alex’s unconscious brain figured out this paJern from years of approaching.) -‐“Come here…..RELAX…..What’s your number??” NoLce the leading here, even as he turns her head. FULL LEADING. -‐NoLce the PosiLve/Dominant vocal tone. JESS, COME BACK!! It’s not like he’s begging, he’s commanding. **This next secLon is a series of hypnoLc commands that Alex doesn’t even realize he’s doing. His unconscious mind knows to do this, he doesn’t know he’s doing it. -‐“No, I’m in the way of the door…” (her mind can’t process how to answer to that. OF COURSE he’s in the way of the door, but it makes no sense so she can’t respond). -‐“I have to go…I have to go…” (Implying THEY are holding him up, and the kiss is ASSUMED.) -‐“See ya….” (and launches in for the kiss, as if it’s her boyfriend saying bye.”) -‐“Oh no, I’m in the way…” (Again her mind can’t process this.) -‐“I’ve goJa kiss Jess good-‐bye…” (As if they’re holding him up, the kiss is assumed.) -‐“See ya….” (launches in AGAIN) (NoLce him laughing. Look at his state control. He truly is truly oblivious to their responses and having fun, so they can’t get any negaLve emoLons off of him.) -‐“Quick! Quick!!” (As if they’re holding him up, and also, it’s a command.)
Other Programs For Further Learning The two other programs that you may want to aJend now that you’ve had the Hot Seat Experience are the RSD Bootcamp and the RSD World Summit. The bootcamp is a three day event where instructors take you into the field and personally coach you, through a process of demonstraLng how pickup is done, and then gepng YOU doing it too.
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[hJp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tP3rpR8i3lY] About 70% of students who aJend a RSD program will come back and check out another one, which I believe is because we push ourselves very hard to keep evolving our abiliLes, content, and teaching methods. I would love for you to conLnue to learn from us, and appreciate your business! Thank you for aJending the RSD Hot Seat, and please let other people know about your experience!
