HSPF End of School eBook of 2009 Featuting: Grape, Mandrake, Reddog, SenorBubbz, Ohmega, Darkpwns, Aaron4Prez This is a compilation of the top 1-5 articles from each contributer that were posted in the school year from 2008-09. We hope you find this information useful and enjoyable. <33 HSPF http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/ Content: Socializing with Others
How To Talk To Girls: Reddog Attraction Switches: Grape Using Your Belt In The Hallway: OhMega Indicators of Interest: Reddog Direct Game, Indirectly: Reddog *Insert Here* Olympics: OhMega The Unwritten Code: Grape A Guide to Rapport: Grape A Guide to Kinaesthetics: Reddog Trust The Midas Touch: OhMega Pulling The Trigger: SenorBubbz Social Circles: Darkpwns Misconceptions of PUA: Reddog Self-Focus
No More Mr. Nice Guy: OhMega How To Become A Man: Mandrake Life, Intent, Happiness: Grape Psychology of Naturals: Grape A Lesson In Confidence: OhMega Beliefs: Aaron4Prez Psych on Being in State: Mandrake Personal Experiences
Mandrake Darkpwns
Socializing with Others How To Talk To Girls: Reddog Hey guys, RedDog here. I know when I was a n afc, I had no idea how to keep conversations with girls. Now, I do it subconsciously. It can seem hard to learn at first. I'm not going to tell you Inner game stuff like "Just do it" for the whole article.I'll just give you the one tip that helped me immensely. Are you ready? BEFRIEND GIRLS
Yeah, it's that simple. I have about 3 or 4 really good friends that are girls. Are they 9's and 10's? No. But they are hot enough to be good training."Well wait Red, Aren't I supposed to game girls?" Yeah! But... not EVERY girl you see. You'll just come off as a creep.In fact, alot of my targets come from other schools because I friend alot of girls at my school. By the way, Guess who introduces me to these other girls? Your text game gets so great. I never go afc, I just stay cool without going sexual basically(Though I have at times, but of course we both know we'd never go out)I'm not an AFC who's saying "You're so beautiful you are awesome" and then trying to get blown... NO! Just me, running comfort. I'm the guy that girls love, The one that they'll introduce i ntroduce to their hotter friends and already DHV me..In person? I'm awesome. The stuff before like conversational flow, vibing, etc., the stuff I worked HOURS trying to find examples, happens naturally now.I can go from talking about a project in class to talking about potheads.I know how to joke around now. Number closes? Made simple since I got used to it. Seriously, ITS NOT THAT HARD. Just ask. (Although alot of girls ask me =D) Kino? Don't get me started. I'm so sensual... Girls that are comfortable with me Kind of touch me everyw everywhere here but the the groin, groin, and and vice vice versa(an versa(and d the chest... chest... sorta sorta )I can can give give fun little smiles... Girls go in my bubble.. Inside Inside joke jokes, s, Nick Nicknam names. es... more more kino kino I stay stay In a comfo comfort rt stat state e with with like like a hint hint of of sexual.Oh, by the way, The girls that I'm friends with love me, and the others are aware of it. It's a big DHV. We all know girls talk all the time. Watch: FHB7.5:Hey HB9, Do you know RedDog? He's so cool and funny and etc........ HB9:No I don't! I'll have to meet him! *Insert fashion here* See? DHV! Girls come to you. Social proof much?Another IMPORTANT tip: Bro's before Hoes... DO NOT go telling the private info your boys tell you to FHB7.5. All you get is looking like a pussy.I don't tell ANYTHING to anyone. Creating a confidence bond is key to rapport, for both genders.Trust me, FHB7.5 will not be mad if you don't tell her who OOYB(One of your boys) likes. If you do, BIG DLV and you look like a afc who tries to get girls by telling them everything.NOOOOO! What to DO: Be a great guy... Listen and shit.. Joke around, Have fun. Text her Alot, have fun, Talk seriously sometimes... Have fun. Basically game her without gaming her. Very little sexual, Just kino(This gets rid of Kino anxiety too) a bit.Yes, I've had my FHB's kino me alot, BEFORE i kino'ed them. I'm so good, that when I actually game, its so smooth, and I get nearly the same reaction.
What NOT to DO: Be a kiss up. This will win you NO friends. Girls talk, as aforementioned. they will label you as a kiss up. Do NOT try to get too attached. What I mean is, again, don't be her lapdog. Your friendship needs to be equal! This is kind of hard to explain, But don't favor your boys over your FHB's and vice versa. I Try to stay out of a rguments and shit. Do EVERY activity with her/them. You still have your boys. Try to make it a 45%25%30% Ratio For Your Boys/Hb's/FHB's Boys/Hb's/FHB's That's an Estimate by the way. I hope this helps you all,because It elevated my game to a whole nother level. My game is niiiiiiiiiiiice now.(Well, Attraction through Comfort, but hey)This may or may not help you, but I know I look back on me just learning pick-up... I'M MUCH BETTER! Take that in. Happy Sarging(And Comfort!) RedDog
Attraction Switches: GrapeAn attraction switch is something that all women find attractive in men. First of all, ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE. You don't get to choose how attractive another person is. When you talk to girls and a nd you show the right characteristics, they WILL fall for you. They can't help it. You decide. Check out http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/inde....play&thread=283 for more info. The list + why: • PrePre-Se Sele lect ctio ion n Women will instinctively be attracted to a man who already has other women wanting him and talking about him. It makes him come off like a... 'toy'... that all the other girls have and like she's missing out on something amazing. Hard to explain common sense. • Leader Women like men who lead others and help others succeed. Back in time when we were cavemen, we had groups of people, called Tribes. Every tribe had a leader, and that leader was a man. All the women wanted to have HIS babies, not the other dozens of men. He would be the one who would be the BEST at protecting her and her children. He would be the one who was better than everyone else and was chosen to be leader. Make sense? This 'theory' is very very well known by NORMAL people who aren't PUAs either. It's also the basis of why women find certain attributes attractive in men. • Fun Fun. When you have fun, it shows that everything is going your way and that everything in your life is going the way you want. If you're not having fun, it seems like you're under some stress and you have some huge problem on your shoulders. This sends out a negative vibe and people won't want to hang out with you. If you are having fun, then people will want to be a part of the fun you are having and will want to hang out with you. • Will Willin ingn gnes ess s to to Emo Emote te Imagine a robot who you could have conversations with like it was an actual person, but it spoke in monotone and had no facial/body expressions. Boring, right? It's good to be emotional about things. That's not to say make a big deal out of everything like an immature brat, but simply to have feelings for others. Matador has a sweet example where he was at dinner with his girlfriend, his brother, and his bro's gf and he said, "Bro, I just love you so much and I'm very very thankful to have you as my brother." He also sang a song later on that night. Although he had an average voice with average singing skills, his GF was soo amazed by his willingness to emote. Guess who got laid that night? Yeah, Matador. • Bein Being g Me Merc rcif iful ul No one likes the person who will be so mean and immature as to HURT someone when they don't have to. There's a music video for a song called Agape by For Today. Agape means Christian Love. In the video, a guy is constantly bullying another guy in school. Later on, the bully pushes the kid in the hallways, and
everyone is screaming FIGHT FIGHT FIGHT! The kid grabs the bully's collar, looks him straight in the eye, and then let's him go. Everyone knew he could well have easily beat the bully up. But he didn't even though he could. He showed mercy. Guess who got a kiss at the end of the music video? • Prot Protec ecto torr of Lov Loved ed One Ones s Choose the person who you think is much cooler: Person 1: A man's brother calls him and asks if he could take care of his niece. The man agrees. The 7 year old niece comes over and they go to the store to buy some groceries. As they're leaving, the girl trips and falls. The man laughs his niece and doesn't even care about the fact that she has a scratch on her elbow. Person 2: A man's brother calls him and asks if he could take care of his niece. The man agrees. The 7 year old niece comes over and they go to the store to buy some groceries. As they're leaving, the girl trips and falls. The man hugs her, and comforts her telling her that it's just a tiny scratch that'll go away. He treats her to some ice cream for being a big brave girl. Do I even have to explain? • Havi Having ng a deep deep voi voice ce So women like men who show a sense of maturity. Maturity is strongly correlated with age. The older someone is, the more mature he is. Mature men are believed to have deep and soothing voices. George Clooney is well known by women for his sexy voice. Also, talk with Dante from this forum. His voice will be a very alpha male kind of voice. It's attractive, it just is. • Being eing Relax elaxed ed Very much relates to having fun. You have nothing to be worried about, everything is okay. Being relaxed shows this. Having relaxed facial expressions, a relaxed voice, and relaxed gestures are essential when coming off as attractive. Relax your shoulders, relax your chest and stomach, relax your face and arms. Nice, a in't it? • Maki Making ng dee deep p eye eye cont contac actt Girls really really like a guy with cute eyes. It's easy to have cute eyes though, there are two factors: eye contact + eye health. Make sure you stay healthy and have lots of rest so your eyes wont be blood shot. And when you talk with people, hold eye contact. The entire time. The girls will fall in love with you and the guys will open up as friends in no time. It shows you have nothing to hide and that you respect them. It's attractive, do it. • Havi Having ng thi thing ngs s in comm common on A huuugeee part of making a girl attracted to you is making her believe you guys pretty much share the same life. This makes her soo much more comfortable around you and she feels like someone finally understands her. So always try to focus on the commonalities you and your girl share, not how different you guys are. • Having Having a pass passion ion/Ha /Havin ving g goals goals in life life Having goals in life is probably one of the important things a man will need. Without having reason or intent, you won't get anywhere in life. You need to show you're trying to improve your own self and your life. You need to talk about all the things you really have an interest in and you need to put emotion into it.
• Being Being Smart Smart and Intelli Intelligen gentt Being intelligent is also something that many girls find attractive. It shows you are smart enough to survive and that you will be able to plan things out and lead them through hardships and such. A stupid person won't be able to do this, but a smart one will. • Bein Being g Phy Physi sica cally lly Fit Fit This ties in with the whole survival thing. It won't matter how smart you are if your body won't behave as your mind wishes. If you're fat and plump and you have a bad heart, how will you be able to do the hard physical labor a man does? • Bein Being g Succ Succes essf sful ul Whatever your passion/goal is, you better damn be successful. If you fail at something you tried at, you need to start fixing things up. Failure is something that shows "There are people who are better than him because they can do this but he can't." Always strive for success, it'll come eventually. • Will Willin ingn gnes ess s to Walk Walk Away Away • Socia ociall Proof oof • Being Ol Older
Using Your Belt In The Hallway: OhMega Something I just started doing as of late: I have a few belts with some impressive buckles. Recommend you get some, draws some attention "down there". See a girl, give her your "look". Everyone has one, the one when you undress a girl with her eyes and she knows it, but it's not creepy, it builds sexual tension. I'm sure you know what I mean, you guys are smart. But I digress... Don't ask her to touch your belt buckle, tell her to touch your belt buckle, and then you know, "sway" your "nether region" out a bit. Then say something to the effect of, "easy there tiger, don't over excite yourself" or something like that as she's touching the belt buckle. Great way to pump up the buying temp and continue the interaction with a slightly altered "atmosphere" if you wish. And be comfortable when you do it, you don't want to be the weird sketchball perv that freaks people out. If you build your frame as a "sexually confident" person, girls will like it and want it rather than freak out about it. So remember the three C's of belt interaction: Confident Comfortable Cock Sway and in 1,2,3 you have a pumped up interaction, give that girl some excitement! And most of all, have fun
Indicators of Interest: Reddog This is from the pickup artist forum, not mine. Thought this could help *She re initiates conversations when you stop talking *She giggles *She touches you *She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you *She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so *She tosses her hair (to see if you will look) *If eye contact happens from a distance, di stance, she holds it for a second *She smiles at you *She stands nearby (proximity) *She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said *While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you *She says something to her friend and they both giggle *She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation *While you're talking to her group, she is i s particularly talkative (to get your attention) a ttention) *She asks you for your name *She asks you your age (make her guess) *She compliments you *She is playful and tries to challenge you *She's disagreeing but laughing *She's punching your arm but laughing *She uses nicknames for you *She plays with her hair while talking to you *When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours *She repeatedly touches you in any way *She asks if you have a girlfriend *She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one *When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back *She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you *She avoids mentioning her boyfriend *If it comes up that you like something, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it *When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction *She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking *She introduces you to friends *She buys you a drink *She calls you a player or a heart breaker *On her way out, she re approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #) *On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her) *She returns your calls *She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you *She mirrors your gestures Passive IO Is *Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays *She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods *If you move, she follows you or waits for you *She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close *She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token Resistance to avoid feeling like a slut)
The most important IOIs to look for are: *She re initiates conversation when you stop talking *She giggles *She touches you *She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
Direct Game, Indirectly: Reddog - Gold Digger Wow. This changed my outlook on approaches. This a good read. GoalDigger gave a great guide here. How to go Direct, Indirectly… Alright fuck it, let’s call this “Going Indirectly Direct” By GoalDigger
Those few and proud who have experimented with many different methods of pick up artistry, although they might not necessarily agree, will know what I mean when I say this: Going direct is a million times “better” than going indirect. What I mean by that is that going direct is faster, more reliable if i f she’s given you IOIs, more natural, and just fuckin easier in general. You don’t need lines li nes or routines because the girl’s buying temperature is pumped simply by the ballsyness of your approach. We can break the “indirectly direct” approach into a few key points that are differentiated from other types of cold approach. This is during the day, and I’ve had a phone consult with Soul on how to do day game approaches so my education on the matter is pretty solid. 1) Your opener is more of a joke than it is an opener. It can be the lamest, most incredibly unfunny thing you’ve ever said in your life, but if you have a smile on when you say it, you are good. The opener just has to show two things: that you think the girl is hot, and that you understand that she thinks you’re hitting on her, which you a re NOT. 2) Jokingly apologize on your opener. All this means is just very unapologetically saying things like “haha I know this is random…” or “sorry… I don’t usually do this”, etc. 3) Move the topic of conversation away from sexual (physical) interest immediately. As in within the first five seconds following your opener. This diffuses the awkwardness created by the fact that you have just told her you’re sexually attracted to her, but are now not talking about it. 4) If she continues to be unresponsive, not receptive, etc. then you must take it upon yourself to walk away from the conversation. The battle is lost, but the war will be won if you analyze the approach and see what worked and what didn’t. When you’re first starting to do this, there is a lot of benefit to be had by creating some small routines and lines to use. I’ll try to include a small template that shows you how you can put together your own routines to get started. Beware of using the same line twice in smaller schools, you should just constantly be creating new ones after a week or so, that way you get sharper and faster when coming up with witty in-conversation responses as well.
The following examples are on-campus interactions. My college, Arizona State University, is a massive school (65,000 total students) which is consistently ranked as the “number one hottest campus in America” by Playboy magazine and others. This school is also always placed among the top ten party schools in the nation, and in fact many licentious and alcoholic game-junkies probably chose to attend the university for the aforementioned reasons (I know one…. haha…. ha...) With the school being that large and that social, one
can rest assured that very hot girls (9s and a nd 10s) get hit on VERY OFTEN. In order to cope with this constant stream of pussy guys, they have developed very strong and rare bitch shields. Instead of “breakin’ the fuckin front door down”, I will just go in the through the back --- AKA simply not acknowledge any bitchiness and act like she’s being nice, instead of openly dealing with it. Example #1: This is a girl I am opening outside of the student union. We had both just finished eating alone in a Chick-Fil-A or some shit, and the place was very quite. I throw my tray away at the same time she does, on purpose ha ha, so I can catch her outside. Notice how both of these openers are situational and completely unscripted – that’s where you get away with murder baby. GD: “haha we should’ve sat next to each other in there. I think we could’ve turned that place into a party.” Girl: (disgusted “don’t hit on me” face) “what?” GD: “that place was dead as hell, I was like depressed haha” Girl: (lightening up slightly) “oh haha… yea I know it’s usually not like that” There are two important things to note in that little exchange: 1) the absolute subtlety of my “direct” opener, and 2) the fact that I changed the subject of my opener by making it based on the situation, and not me and her. The only direct thing about my approach is the fact that I said “we should’ve sat next to each other”. If you say ANYTHING about “we” or “us”, a hot girl will interpret that as someone who is trying to hit on her. After I say that, I will never mention any interest in her again. As soon as this girl made her comment about how “its usually not like this” I am pretty much in. If she gives you anything that even resembles a normal or trivial comment, then you can pretty much assume her bitch shield has been put on hold for the next couple of minutes. However, she is extremely hot and will want to keep challenging you. So I GIVE her shit she can challenge me on, because then I'm still on home court:
GD: “So uhh… I’m guessing you don’t have any friends either? It’s so good to finally finall y meet another person who hates people.” Girl: (dismissive) “haha… I don’t hate people I think that’s weird….” GD: (breaking my RAS for a second, then big smile) “haha no I’m just kidding, I’m doing a lot better this semester I have two friends now…. One of them is imaginary but I’m doing my best” Girl: “hahaha!”
Once she laughs, her bitch shield is completely gone and I am in comfort (with some jokes here and there to spice that shit up). The REASON she dropped it so quickly is also a little more complicated than it looks on the surface. It’s twofold: 1) I broke my RAS. I do not give a shit about her reaction, especially if it’s not positive. She understands that her reaction to my comment was bitchy, and she also understands that I broke my RAS because of the bitchiness in that reaction. 2) I smiled at her negative reaction, and went on to crack another joke. What is extremely attractive about this is the fact that I have no need or even want for a positive reaction from her. Her reaction means nothing to me because I am just joking around. What this amounts to (for her) is me basically telling her that I’m not trying to make her smile, I’m just joking around, and if she’s not going to joke with me then I’ll just leave. Example #2: This is a girl who was unlocking her bike next to me. She is a ten and a sister in one of the sexier sororities on campus, which I could tell by her big ass emblazoned bag. I made sure she saw me glance at her ass before I make this comment. I am obviously joking throughout the entire interaction, up until the point where I get off of my bike to keep talking to her. There are very few points in the interaction where I am not smiling or chuckling to myself.
GD: “That’s a nice seat you got there” (haha get it? ... i thought it was SO funny) Girl: ( “did you just hit on me” face) “What?” GD: “Your bike seat is tight.. Listen, I know we just met so I’m not trying to be overly harsh but… I just feel like my bike is so much cooler than yours.” Girl: (loosening up) “haha….. it does have the skinny tires and everything, but no, mines cooler because of this” (points to this ridiculous sticker on the side of her bike, it was a fuckin Parakeet or something with sunglasses on.)” GD: “hahahah… that’s cute…. And my favorite colors blue so alright fine your bikes not a complete joke (the bike is pink) Girl: “hahaha!” GD: “so what are you doin’ on campus? You’re a professor right? You must be a crabby biatch in class I can tell by your sticker”
By this time I have deliberately gotten on my bike and my body is facing away from her and I am talking over the t he shoulder. Throughout the conversation I am flaking my RAS, so she is becoming aware of the fact that the guy who was just staring at her astonishingly nice ass is now about to desert a pretty promising conversation with her.
Girl: “haha hey wait… what’s your name?” GD: (gets off bike) “I’m Jay, your Rapunzel right?” (she’s blonde) This approach is over in two minutes and I am now in comfort, where I will remain for a few minutes before going to class. I have demonstrated, in a few tiny actions, that I have absolutely no need for this girl whatsoever. Not only do I not need or want (lie) sex from her, I don’t even need or really want to be in a conversation with her, yet I am still nice to her and I still stare at her ass. The dynamic is: “I like you because your funny, I don’t give a shit if you’re hot” I was about to leave because her initial reaction was not positive, and so I have the moral high ground. She believes this only because I truly believe it and my subcommunications and RAS show that. I honestly thought to myself “if this girl doesn’t feel the need to redeem herself for her initial reaction, then I will just go to class, this is ASU I can find another ten in five minutes”. In every fucking interaction, you need to have that kind of abundance mentality. Hopefully those examples helped some guys who may take it upon themselves to indirectly go direct haha. And you should, especially in college! Because then your cock will finally have some company besides that highly overused love-triangle that includes yourself, your hand and your roommates bottle of Dove moisturizing lotion. These girls want to fuck, but they are not going to slut themselves around… they are probably waiting for someone to just come up and say “hey I know this is random but I think you’re fuckin hot and I’m tired of three way dates…. Haha oh nothing never mind, what are you doin on campus today?” If you guys have any questions on specifics or for different situations, just post them on this thread and I’ll see if I can think of anything. Have fun with this my homies.
*Insert Here* Olympics: OhMega "Welcome to the 2009 Audience Olympics!" That's how I started it off tonight anyway. I made a routine which I have dubbed the "*Insert Here* Olympics" or simply just, "The Olympics". The basis is that you pick three easy to play games that involve nothing more than a pen/ pencil and piece of paper, or something you can just do with your hands. The rules of "The Olympics" are as stated (More like guidelines): *There are three rounds. *There is a winner for each round. *The winner after three rounds is the Olympic champion. Good activities include but are not limited to: *Rock Paper Scissors *Thumb wrestling *Staring contests *Drawing contests Being cocky and funny is the perfect partner for this. Such an example would be cheating at at the thumb wrestling when you use both hands instead of one. I like to do this if there are two girls in the set, because once you've opened them, you can get a better feel of who they are. It allows for some light kino opportunities which is nice because your target(s) will become more comfortable with you and your touch. It helps to transition from attraction more towards comfort. I'd say about 5 minutes into the interaction and this would be a good game to play. (Not so sure on my pua-esque vocabulary, but would this be a gambit?) Use this in a set as large as you want, I've done it on a set as small as just one, and as large as five. I just like it because it's light, easy going, and just displays your relaxed, "I just like to have fun" attitude. Read, Dissect, Discuss, and most of all, Have Fun! pc n' love -OhMega
The Unwritten Code: Grape As you may have learned before, there is a secret, unwritten code between the 'big cats' in this world. When this code is broken by someone, the big cats know he or she is not one of them. When this code is followed perfectly, the big cats know he or she is one of them. These big cats are the ones in this world that make big decisions, have big power, and are big leaders. Here are a few rules of the book: 1. Don't talk about bad news. Even if you want to make conversation or just tell someone how bad you feel for their having cancer, don't bring it up. A bad vibe is NOT what people want when they go out. Although they might appreciate your effort to care, they'll know you're not a big cat. 2. Don't make a big deal out of things. So there are two types of people in the world. Those who stop everything to fix a problem and those who continue what they're doing while fixing the problem. When you spill something, don't go "FUCK!! RAWR" just continue talking while dabbing with a napkin. It's not a big deal. Just a spill on your pants. When someone trips and falls, don't go "HAHA YOU FELL. LOSER." unless it's a friendly tease. They're already embarrassed enough. The last thing they want i s someone making a big deal out of it and directing attention towards their mistake. DEFINITELY something a big cat would never do. 3. Don't bring business to the dinner table. tabl e. Dinner is a time of companionship, festivity, and celebration. It's a time of enjoying each others' company. It's a time of talking about everything funny, crazy, interesting, and great. The last thing someone wants while eating a delicious meal is to lose their appetite because someone keeps bothering them to invest $500,000 for something that may not even work out. Never bring this kind of conversation to the table. It's a little fish's attempt to get big. Not a big cat's attitude of being cool. 4. Give a shit about others. People see two universes "Me" and "The rest of the world." Who will they care more about? It's only nature that people care about themselves a Lot more than others. So if you want to get others to befriend you and see you as someone valuable, you gotta give a shit. You gotta know how they're feeling, you gotta show emotion, a nd show you are a true friend. Big cats always tell people how great they look, how fun they are, and that they feel really bad for their problems. So do this. 5. Be the first one to clap. Ever go to a performance and after the set is finished, you hear that brief one second of silence and wait for a clap? Whoever clapped first is getting the most pussy. You can't show "Hmm.. I'll just say I like it if others like it and I'll hate it if others hate it." You gotta show that you don't care about others' opinions. You really enjoyed that show. You really like the voice of the singer or the triple spin flip by the dancer. You were entertained and you loved it. You clapped out of true enjoyment, not to be judged by others.
So be the first one to do something when others are at a loss you big cat! 6. Be straight-forward. Big cats have a tendency t endency to be very direct and to the point. They are well understood and can communicate very well. When they have a headache, they dont say "I'm actually not being my best self tonight like normally am... blablabla" They simply say "I have a headache." It's simple as that. They make their point clear and if you dont understand what they're trying to say, it's YOUR fault. The big cats don't think they did any wrong because 90% of people usually do understand them. Very clearly. So when you wanna make something clear, make it short and simple. No need to use weird idioms and such, that's a little fish's move. 7. Know what you're talking about. Big cats always look like they know what they're talking about. When they're at a car dealership, they'll start asking questions about the technicalities that only true car people know about. This way they can't get a fool's price for the car they want. When they're at a pub, they know which football team is leading the season. They know the situation in Gaza. They know Obama's plan pla n for the economy. This shows they can't be fucked with. They know more than you will ever know. They're extremely intelligent socially and they are pretty much the leaders of society. Big cats. Know their stuff. 8. Say something that actually matters to people. Don't be the person who constantly tells stories or asks questions about things that don't matter. Like stated before, state your intentions very clearly. Or else others will be confused and go "wtf is wrong with you." in their heads. Tells stories that will be interesting to THEM, that they will care about and actually react to. Big cats always say something that MATTERS, otherwise they keep their mouth shut and are being entertained. 9. Judge. Big cats are constantly making judgments about others. Although they don't necessarily talk about all their judgments, they label everybody in the room as either High value or low value, big cat or little fish. You need to learn to observe your surroundings and draw conclusions from them. You need to read this sentence, and find out what it means and then decide for yourself whether it's valuable or not. Big cats are the judges of society. Little fish are the ones being judged. In other terms, Little fish impress others. Big fish are the ones being impressed. 10. Join. When at a party, people are there to have fun. Not be stuck up to people they dont know. There's a big rule that says "If you dont befriend anyone you talk to, you're officially weird." So if you do happen to strike just ONE conversation with someone, you have to know who they are and what they do. You need to say bye to them and hi to them where you may meet. So join in on the conversations, and join in on the companionships. When a group is ta lking about something that you know how to talk ta lk about, then join in with a comment! If someone in the group says "Yeah.. I was at the TDWP concert last night, no one was there at all!"
You walk in with "Dude you were there too!? Man that place was EMPTY." And then starts the friendship. Whew, that took a while. Enjoy + Eat <33 Grape
A Guide to Rapport: Grape
The Importance of Rapport Rapport is vital when socializing with others. It's the level of comfort between you and something, whether it's your surroundings, your social circle, or a person/friend. The more comfort you have with something, the more you'll be able to do things naturally without having to feel like you need to fake yourself in order to be accepted. It's pretty much the greatest thing on the face of this Earth. I really feel that rapport is going to the main focus for high schoolers. Think back to the PUA Gurus who say HB10s have 'bitch shields' because they want a valuable guy. Think back to needing lots of social value to get girls. Now forget them. You no longer have those concepts in your head any longer. Here's a new concept: HB10s have 'bitch shields' to guys they don't feel comfortable around. They want a guy who they feel very comfortable around and like they can be themselves. Like they don't have to feel repressed about anything and that they can let their true nature take over. Makes sense right? Yep. So the more a girl is comfortable around you, the better chance you have of 'scoring poon'. I hate using that term. However, however, the gurus were point on in saying you need 'value'. You need to make them WANT to build rapport with you. They need motivation to want to be comfortable with you. They can't take the time to become comfortable with everyone they meet! They're hardwired to behave in such ways that require some sort of shields to protect themselves against aggressors and dangerous people. So.. be sure you're someone that she won't behave like this towards. Be someone who she wants to be comfortable with. I'll show ya how soon. But first, I want to introduce another concept: The more people you build rapport with, the more value you will have. The community emphasizes that you should talk to everyone, be a people person, and simply go out there befriending everyone cool. That this is key in 'working the entire room' and being the talkative guy. Well.. you can do this by building rapport with everyone around you!! The more comfortable you make them, the more comfortable they'll be in conversing with you, cracking jokes with you, and having fun with you. And the more people you do this with, the more people will talk about you to others. Soon, you're always talking to somebody. And most of the people in the room know who you are. And then when that HB10 comes in, and hears everyone talking about you, she'll get curious. What's so special about you that EVERYONE loves you? Attraction right there =] So now SHE'LL want to build rapport with you. And remember, rapport is VITAL when it comes to hooking up with chicks. <33 Grape
Rapport Guide Concept: Defining rapport and how it's built through FOCUS.
Rapport is the feeling of comfort with others. To have something in common with someone is to have a feeling of "one-ness" with that person. So the more one mirrors and shows that one is very similar to one's mark, the more rapport
the mark will have towards one. It is achieved when people have commonalities in things like: - Lifestyles - Events/Situation - Social Circle - Emotions - Kinaesthetics - Body language - Vocal Tonality - Gender - Ethnicity - Beliefs - Personalities It is very easy to build rapport. Since the conscious mind can only focus on one thing at a time, the sub-conscious mind figures that what ever it is focusing on is pretty damn important. Everyone has so many things in common with each other. The only difference in the levels of rapport are the amount of knowledge and focus that one has on another. Examples of Concept:
Have you ever felt like you knew someone you just met really really well? It's because you guys had direct rapport! There are many factors that contribute to rapport and sometimes you and the other person could have totally different lives. This is because the focus was NOT on the things that were different, but the things that were common. You could go to a different classroom or lunch table and you would feel VERY uncomfortable because you would have no rapport with anyone!! That is until someone 'breaks the ice' and builds rapport! You could find a girl very attractive and pretty, but you guys may have almost nothing in common with each other as where you may find that you and a normal pretty girl to have many things in common. Which one would you date if you were to? I'd say the normal pretty girl. Applying the concept:
So now you must know how to bring another person's focus on the commonalities that you guys share. This is done through: socializing! Just talk about something you did the other day, while intentionally knowing that the other person has done something very similar to it. Talk about the feelings you got, the way your mom yelled at you, the way a friend made you mad, and something that almost ANYONE has experienced! This way, it doesn't matter who you are talking to, because that person has experienced the same thing you have whether you and him like it or not! Not only this, you can also 'mirror' the other person's body language, breathing rates, facial expressions, moods, vibes, voice tonalities, and just everything that the person is showing directly. The point of the system is: Focus not the differences, but on the commonalities that you share with another person. <33 Grape =============================================
Rapport on 4 Levels There are 'four stages of rapport' that you can have with someone: Cliche
This is when you and the person you are talking to don't really see anything in common with each other and decide to talk ta lk about cliche things like "Nice weather today, ehh?" It's cliche and boring. Both of you know there is nothing special between you two. Factual
This is when facts are stated. Usually done between people who are in the same social circle but aren't really "friends". They'll talk about facts like "So Jamie just got arrested the other day." "I listen to music a lot too!" Emotional
This is when you and someone else share feelings a nd emotions. You may say things like "I absolutely looveee that movie." "Those make me sooo scared." "I really like her." It shows you guys are comfortable in opening yourselves up to each other. United
This is when terms like "we" "us" "together" "You and me" "each other" are mentioned. It classifies BOTH of you into one entity. The ultimate level of rapport. You may say things like "I love YOU." "I blablabla blabla bla bout YOU." "WE should do this." "They are jealous of US." for the I and You sentences, both are used, making a connection between the two. Enjoy, <33 Grape Hugee creds to: - NLP for Dummies - Kate Burton, Romilla Ready - How To Talk To Anyone - Leil Lowndes
A Guide to Kinaesthetics: Reddog Reddog's Guide to Kino Hey guys!Before I overcame my fear of Touching Girls, I decided that once I did Would try to write a guide to help help others. Well, I overcame it. I went from saying sorry when accidentally brushing up against a girls arm, to placing the back of my hand or forearm where it shouldn't be. Now, Most guides I read said "Just do it" and etc. This is helpful, but it didn't click in my head. So, I'll try to write down how I overcame it here, if anyone needs the help. First, What does Kino mean? Well, it means touch. and what does touch mean? There are a bunch of definitions, but a few pop out. The physiological sense by which external objects or forces are perceived through contact with the body. To cause or permit a part of the body, especially the hand or fingers, to come in contact with so as to feel When you touch, you make a connection. Adult pua's say light touching is used to get the girl used to your touch. This is true. When contact is made, a relationship goes up a rung, if you will. Most of us feel comfortable around a person who we touch, Whether it be High fives, Handshakes, ETC. But enough about that. Take a look around your world. First, your family. You can touch family members with out it being awkward(Not in private places, of course).You can give your parents or grandparents high fives or give them hugs and etc. with no problem. This helped me realize that touching is natural. Now, If you observe naturals or pua's or perverts (lol), You can see that they'll touch girls regularly. If they can do it, why cant you? I know what you may be thinking,because i thought it as well. "But what if she gets mad at me for touching her and calls me a perv?" Well, look at the Naturals and Pua's again. Do they get yelled at? Sometimes yes, but it is mostly "You asshole!"-Arm slap Laugh/smile. Which led me to the conclusion, I can touch girls without them being mad.(for the most part ) So I started. I started off slow, with some shoulder taps here and some brushing up against here. Soon enough, I advanced into being comfortable rubbing legs,Feeling girls "six-packs ", and even sitting next to girls while allowing my arms to roam freely. I'll tell you what, with my forearm on the side of a girl's chest, I felt like a King. Because I was. I had beaten my Kino problems(for the most part). Now, I'll include a small guide to escalation, up to a point. Once you get to kissing and above, it's pretty much everything is available. Stage I:Light Touching Such as:High 5's, Shoulder taps while talking, Brushing up against accidentally. Stage II:Medium Light Touching Such as:(secret)Handshakes, as:(secret)Handshakes, Palm Reading, Longer shoulder taps and such,Thumb wars
Stage III:Light Medium Touching Such as:Feeling smooth shaven legs/arms, Six-packs, Neck massages,Measuring Hands Stage IV:Medium Touching Such As:Longer instances of stages I-III, Cheek related touching, Brushing on thighs Stage V:Super Medium Touching Such As:Sides of thighs, sticking your hands down pockets of jeans, Thigh massages, Midsection,Hugs Stage VI:Light Super Touching Such As: Very light touch of her ass,invading her bubble, Much longer I-III. Brushing up of SIDE of tits.,hugs Stage VII:Medium Super Touching Such As:Holding hands briefly, when guiding her somewhere. Play-wrestling. Longer IV-VI. Stage VIII:Super Super Touching Such As:Kissing,Much Longer I-IV, Longer V-VII Stage IX:Mega Super Touching Such As: Everything else, in progressive order by using the bases. Here is a picture for examples, haha
Well, that's my guide. I hope it helps you. Remember, Touch is natural. Just make sure you have a smile on your face (Not a creepy toothy smile, but a nice grin).It's hard to turn down one of those. Hope this helps. Reddog
Trust The Midas Touch: OhMega Ever play Jenga? This little guide to kino of sorts is like that, but after it falls down and it's all over the place If quick, easy, game is your vehicle of choice, then KINO is going to be the fuel. Use kino when starting the interaction, very light t ouching on the shoulders or brushing your arm, up against theirs, familiarize them with the touch. Throughout the interaction, you can move your hand to places like the upper and lower back. Being physically comfortable in the beginning of the interaction will display your social "calibration" so-tospeak, and your pre-selection, as your confidence displays the idea that you do this all the time. THINGS THAT ARE A MUST FOR KINO: Secret Handshakes High-fives Crab-Claws (make a claw with your thumb, and then the index/middle finger together. GO FOR THE KIDNEYS!) Tickle fights Well-placed hugs Charlie horse fights (The purpose is to just fool around, not actually give the girl a charlie horse) Thumb wrestling Play with her hair If you are confident enough, you can just go in an lean on the girl (when I need answers for physics labs I just go lean on the girl from behind and whisper in her ear, "I need what you have.") MY FAVORITE THING TO DO! Take her hand in yours and turn it over, start talking about the occult, and how some guy in a gas station taught you how to read palms one day. Trace the lines in her hand with your finger and say, "oooo, eh, that's not good". Then when she replies with, "What is i t?" you say, "I shouldn't tell you, I've already a lready said to much", the girl will follow with something like, "You have to tell me now!" and then you will say, "See that line right there?" as you trace the particular line with your finger, get real close to her face and say in all seriousness with a slight air of mystery, "That line right there...that's...the dork line..." then quickly flash a girl-melt smile and pull her in close and tell her how cute she is. ANYWAY When getting more physical, touch more vulnerable spots on the body such as: the inside of the arms, the neck, the sides of the face, insides of the thighs, and the hips. Make a habit of pulling the girl close to you, she should be comfortable with your proximity to her. Start caveman-ing girls against lockers, not in a violent particular way, but a playful, sexual beast beast sort sort of way way This This works works so good good becau because se shit shitty ty schoo schooll locker lockers s make make a good good noise noise when things hit them with the slightest bump. INVIGORATE THE SEXUAL FEELINGS! And then, when you get to the point when you really want to do something beyond getting a number. Trust the "Midas Touch".
The Midas Touch (Kino&K-Close):
Ask what hand she uses to write with if you don't actually know, then take that hand in yours and start talking about how since energy is neither created nor destroyed, it flows through everything, all the time. Much like the principles of tai chi or feung shway or w/e. Whatever you talk about, know enough about it to sound authentic. Take your thumb and use light pressure to start tracing and invisible line from the bottom of her thumb, down across the bottom of her palm in a small arc, up the side of her hand and down her pinky finger. (The pressure you apply with your thumb is quite light, just a li ttle more pressure than it takes to crush a raspberry). *This is all on the palm side of the hand, like if you put your hand flat on a table palm down, everything that touches the table. So going up the "side of the hand" is the further most point away from the thumb but still on the palm Then after the pinky, start drawing your thumb up the ring, middle, and index i ndex fingers respectively finishing with her thumb. The reason you use your thumb is because your hands have to be closer and it makes it more intimate. As you're doing that you talk about how you're opening the flow of energy, and that if someone else's energy/inner light/whatever is flowing on the same wavelength, then the two of you will connect. Talk about how rare it is to find one that matches. As you finish saying that and you finish the "thumb path" have her close her eyes and feel the energy in her body flowing to the tips of her fingers, with her eyes still closed take the tips of your fingers and touch them to hers and tell her to feel the flow of the energy between you. (She'll be so into it, she'll go with it, her mind will make her feel it because she wants to feel it) and then have her open her eyes and tell her you think you might be an ok match but there's only one way to know for sure. When she asks, "What is it?" or something else to that effect, just say, "Lets find out" then move in while flashing your girlmelt smile and FINISH HER with a 2000 point X3 multiplier combo K-Close. That's like 8,000,000 points. Yeah, and the plus side with this, is that when you use, "The Midas Touch" routine, your target doesn't become a life-less gold statue, just a sexually aroused hb. Have fun with that.^ P.S: I claim trademark on the phrase girl-melt, but because I'm such a great person, I'll let you guys use it and not pay me any royalties.
Pulling The Trigger: SenorBubbz -What is “pulling the trigger”? Pulling the trigger is going for it, whatever it may be. Whether you have to pull the trigger on opening, kissing, #-closing, or having sex, there’s a way to get past it. How do you do that? Well I’m about to tell you. -- Pulling the trigger on Opening You see a hot girl, and what do you do? Some will go open her; some will come up with millions of excuses on why you can’t go open her. There are many, many different ways to get over AA (Approach Anxiety), but the best way I’ve found to get over it is to take a deep breath, smile to yourself, say “I can do this,” and go do it. It sounds easy, but getting over approach anxiety is a huge step in your game. The second you move your foot and decide to do it and go for it, you game will jump to a whole new level. Who cares if you crash and burn? You’ve just gotten farther than most chumps out there. You think most guys have the balls to talk to random girls? Nope, but you do, give yourself a pat on the back!! -- Pulling the trigger on Kissing If you’re worried about kissing, don’t! There are lots of “can’t fail” kiss-closes out there you can use. The standard golden rule to always follow though, to make sure you CAN kiss her, is to wait for 3 IOI’s (Indicators of Interest), isolate your target, and get another IOI just to make sure you’re in the clear. Now once you’ve done this, there are several ways you can direct this kiss. There’s Brad P’s very simple kiss close, where you take your index finger, put it under her chin, and pull her towards you and kiss her. This takes balls, but I’m sure you can do it. Another good kiss-close you can use is Chris’s Ultimate K-Close. You can find it right here: http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/ index.cgi?board=routines&action=display&thread=48. Now if you don’t quite have the guts to do this yet, you can definitely use either Mystery’s Kiss Gambit, or Style’s Evolution Phase Shift. You can find those here: http://highschoolpuas. http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/index.cgi proboards.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=routi ?action=display&board=routines&thread=1748 nes&thread=1748. -- Pulling the trigger on #-closing This is literally the easiest thing on the entire planet when it comes to PU (pick-up). All you have to do is ask! Now obviously, you need some IOI’s first, three would be a good, safe bet. So on to actually getting the number, what I always use is “Hey, you’re a really fun girl! Why don’t you give me your phone number and maybe if you’re cool on the phone, then one day you might be able to come hang with me.” Now don’t use this word for word, adapt it to what you like about the girl. For example, “Wow, you seem really adventurous!” or “Damn, it’s been a while since I’ve met such a smart girl, I usually just hang with dumb blondes!” That last one will work especially well if she is a blonde, ha-ha, but make sure to ALWAYS keep it light. Also, if she says “No, I don’t give out my phone number,” then don’t feel rejected, because that’s not what she did. She didn’t reject you; you can still get her phone number. What you do is you say, “Yea, no problem.” And keep talking. Don’t let it faze you and keep building attraction and comfort and ask again, maybe 5 to 10 minutes later. -- Pulling the trigger on Sex Now this is really one of those things that can’t be taught, per say. Once you have her in your house, she’s comfortable being around you and having you touch her (remember to always kino), you’ve already talked with her sexually, and you have a condom, you have to engage in Vin DiCarlo’s Escalation Ramp. This is a step-by-step guide to using kino to get to sex. You can find it here: http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/index.cgi?boar http://highschoolpuas.pr oboards.com/index.cgi?board=blanguage&action=display&t d=blanguage&action=display&thread=1000 hread=1000. Another great technique to use during DiCarlo’s Ramp, is to talk dirty to the girl. Now I’m not going to go into specifics, but the core of it is basically telling her what you want to do to her. David Shade has a wonderful audio program on how to talk dirty here: http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/ index.cgi?action=display&board=avfiles&thread=1749. The last thing you need to know about pulling the trigger on sex is how to deal with LMR (Last Minute Resistance). What some PUA’s do is freeze the girl out, to ignore her and go about your business. This works because it makes her so uncomfortable that she has sex with you to get you to stop. That’s not good, and is the same thing as guilt-tripping her into fucking her, in my eyes at least. Now at our age, there’s only one type of LMR. She’s nervous because she doesn’t want to seem like a slut by fucking you.
Now that’s if you did everything right. If you didn’t and you’re rushing things, you’re gonna run into a different type of LMR and that’s the “I’m not sure I like this guy enough to fuck him” mindset coming from her. If you’re here, forget about the girl, go game other girls and eventually you’ll have a chance to try again. Back to the nervous, shy girl LMR. The way to deal with this is to reassure her of any misgivings she may have. If she says “I think we should stop,” agree and continue. Say “You’re totally right, we should stop. This is wrong.” And keep on going. Fuck logic, this is emotion. Also, if she’s saying things like “Baby I’m nervous,” or “Baby I’m shy.” Then tell her “No babe, don’t worry about it. We’re just going to spend some time together,” or “Honey, you’re so beautiful, don’t worry about it, don’t be shy/nervous.” Now you may be thinking “Why are you validating her?!?” Well you can’t keep up this cocky funny, hard to get frame forever bro. You’re gonna have to drop it and open up to the girl emotionally eventually and for girls, sex is 90% emotional and 10% physical. They are in it for the pleasure of knowing they have a man that’s there for them and will take care of them and provide for them. That’s why you may find that after you sex a girl up real good, she’ll be kind of clingy with you because for a woman, sex is a commitment. Now this is all if she’s a NORMAL girl. If she’s a slut you shouldn’t even get LMR so don’t worry about it lol xD. One way to blow past LMR is to caveman. The moment you get her to your house and on your couch or bed, start kissing her like a crazed animal. Kiss her, feel up her body, kiss her body, tear clothes off. This is what cavemanning is, going completely apeshit on that bitch. Here’s a little summary on how to caveman correctly and how it can just destroy any LMR: http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/ index.cgi?action=display&board=staffonlypage&thread=1750. Now be careful with this stuff, if you don’t think it will work on a certain girl for whatever reason, don’t do it because some really reserved girls will just start screaming rape! The End! P.S. Calibration Calibration is the word here boys! You have to calibrate everything I wrote about here to your own personality, you have to be congruent. Remember, experience breeds competence and competence breeds confidence. You have to practice these things. If your first PUA k-close isn’t that great, who cares? There’ll be more to come, so keep on macking them girls! Many people say this, but they say it because it’s true “The field is king.” You’ll learn more from practicing in field than reading tons and tons of articles. So go out there and get some booty!! Keep Pimpin, SenorBubbz
Social Circles: Darkpwns Yo! I'm darkpwns, I want to share a little about what I know about social circles (its about the only thing I'm good at in this whole PU world). --Social Circles-Social Circles are those groups you see that regularly congregate in your cafeteria, those people that always sit together in class, hang out after school together. In truth these groups are intimidating and at first it will seem like a good idea to attempt to get with a girl on her lonesome. The issue with this is that it doesn't work. One may be able to pull a random girl at a party and maybe get laid, but more often than not the "cold approach" will end up in you pumping the girl's attraction levels to the point where she will be ready to have sex but then she leaves. Why? Because you are a random. Randoms come into a set with no value and females are very value conscious, sure you may DHV yourself but this only IMPLIES that you are high value, she doesn't KNOW that you are high value, yet that cool guy she hangs out with...yeah, he definitely has value and she knows it. Guys that run social circle game end up getting laid twice the times that the random does. --Cliques-Social Circles in high-school are comprised of different cliques, the average guy will end up as an orbiter to a girl in one of those cliques, but the alpha male will join cliques together and bring more people into his group. Cliques have rankings though, so to actually join cliques together you must first be a part of them. Head- This is the girl who decides who is cool enough to hang out with her and her friends...she'd most likely be the hottest girl. Bridges- These are the people who allow for opportunities to meet new people and expand the social circle. Guys and girls can occupy these positions and they can belong to more than one clique, this is the most desirable position if you want to build a social circle. Clique Mom- Yeah, these girls make sure that any guys messing with a girl within the clique isn't creepy. You remember that girl who shuffled away the HB you cold approached? Yeah this is that girl. Mediators/Drama whores- These girls are loads of trouble, they talk smack when no drama is happening within the clique and once the drama fires up, they resolve it. They are twofaced, but a necessary evil. If they weren't around, drama that occurred without them would snowball into something ugly. Orbiters- These are people who hang around the group, but don't actually have a role. Low value people reside here...steer clear of this status, don't date within this status (at least while you are still establishing yourself within the clique). ----Getting a Social Circle Started---Getting a social circle going isn't as hard as it seems. The first thing you must do is have something going on in your life, if you like music, go to concerts. If one of your friends throws parties a lot, go to his/her parties. Once you have something going on in your life you can begin building a social circle. 9 times out of 10 there will be an extremely social person in every single class, it could be a girl, it
could be a boy, it could be an ug, it could be an HB. It doesn't matter who they are, they are bridges. These are the people you want to know, and who you want to know you. Bridges are social, always seeking the next best thing, a new friend. Be the next best thing, be the new friend. It's simple to start up a conversation a simple "Hey, what's up?" would suffice. From there, run the conversation as you would a normal one except give off the vibe that by them knowing you value will be added to their lives. Mention a cool band you know will be playing at so-and-so, mention a party you're going to the next Friday and invite them to come along and if they have friends, they could come too. Bridges have a currency and it's fun. Bridges are always looking for social events to take his/her group to, chances are they will show up and even if they don't show up, or show up alone once you have shown that you can deal in their currency they will begin to invite you out with them as well. By doing this you will also a lso become a social bridge. Run this process on several bridges and you will become integrated in several cliques, this is when you can begin actual social circle building. ---Building a Social Circle--Once you have become a social bridge you can begin selecting who gets to go to events with you, you don't have to invite i nvite every single person you know to every single party/ concert. No way. Heads of cliques and other hot girls and bridges are enough. By being the one who decides where your group goes you display leadership qualities and people will want to be around you. Going to a party with your group of high value buddies shows that YOU are also high value and people will gravitate towards you at the party, attempting to get a piece of your value, integrate the interesting ones into your social circle. When I say integrate interesting people into i nto your social circle I do not mean desert your friends who are sort of AFC-ish or a little littl e introverted. Introverted people can be friendly, thus they give off a bit of value they are useful in social circles. Social dead-ends are the ones you would be wise to steer clear of, these people were probably not your friends anyway...this is the emo guy who slits his writs that sits way in the back of the classroom with his head down and his music blasting. Once you have a successful social circle who you regularly go out to events with you attain a whole new level of social value. You become that "Go-to" guy, the ones that people ask to hang out with, the one that people go to if they want to know what's happening that weekend. DHV stories are now pointless, your very name becomes high-value (<<< exaggeration....maybe). [Once you have a social circle you can begin throwing your own parties...I can't as my parents are always home so I can't help you on throwing parties] ---Getting Girls Within Social Circle--To get girls within your social circle is beyond simple. Just by having a social circle which will undoubtedly be filled with hot girls and by the countless girls that come to you looking for fun, giving you hugs, giving you kisses, coming out with you, you would have generated LOADS of pre-selection. Pre-selection makes the girl WANT to be with you, even if you haven't gamed her. Simply escalate on the girl you want and she could be
yours...remember if a girl is in your social circle they don't have to be LJBF so don't treat non-LJBF girls as LJBF girls, initiate kino even while you are building your circle...ALWAYS be cocky & funny...and please for the love of god, don't hypnotize her.
Misconceptions of PUA: Reddog Hey guys, RedDog here for HSPF. Alot of guys starting out in pick up only learn Indirect game.(Mystery, D-Deangelo) and that was me too. But, Direct game can be useful too.I'm t oo.I'm here to talk to you guys about Indirect game V. Direct game, and Misconceptions one may have. Indirect game is defined as anytime a nytime an opener is not focusing on the fact you are attracted to the target. I.E. PUA:You're girl(s), can you answer this? A good friend of mine just found out his girlfriend made out with another girl in i n a club, is this considered cheating? See how no (romantic) interest is shown towards the HB(s)? Now, Direct game is the other side of the coin. An example. (In a mall) Pua: Excuse me, I know this is weird but I saw that dress and thought that'd look good on my sister, where'd you get it? Here, the PUA shows interest. Now, some Direct openers are more forward, such as replacing the dress with "you" and getting rid of the end, Now, Indirect and Direct are (usually) used in different settings. Indirect is used in: Clubs/Bars Dances Parties High energy locations(Raves?) Direct is used in: The Day Malls Commons, Parks etc. Amogging and Dhv's Another big misconception is that you should try to be Alpha and always try to Dhv and always best the girl no matter what. NO! A big part of Direct game is more comfort oriented. When in comfort, you don't have to be Alpha. In fact, it can sometimes kill your game.If she has to go to Yoga/Her Job/a Wedding/a Luau in 15 minutes, then just # close and a nd go, no need to prolong it. Let game flow Naturally,Don't just go "I can DHV here by telling her a story about YOGA/my job/A wedding/a Luau!" It'll just be annoying. You don't have to try to dhv every two seconds. You also don't have act Alpha all the time. If you're in comfort, just be chill and a nd don't try to best anything,Just vibe and stuff, If you all of the sudden kill the vibing, you kill your chances. DO NOT OVER DHV! I can't stress that enough. Alot of guys worry about "Oh is this a Dhv? Is this stripe on my shirt a Dlv? Is my friend a DLV?" Huh? I game to have fun, not to worry about Dh(l)v's! RedDog
Self-Focus
No More Mr. Nice Guy: OhMega This is just for those who are recovering nice guys and how to get out of that trap. Why being a Nice Guy is bad:
Nice Guys are often terrible listeners because they are too busy trying to figure out how to defend themselves or fix the other person's problem. Because of their fear of conflict, nice guys are frequently dishonest and are rarely available to work all the way through a problem. A nice guy often takes value, and often does not give value. The Nice Guy Paradigm:
"If I can hide my flaws and become what I think others want me to be then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life" And even when this above paradigm is ineffective (which is usually always), nice guys see one alternative. To try harder, and this just gets you stuck in LJBF zone at best. Doing Something Different
For any nice guy out there, you will need to do something different from what you have been doing; you will need to become an "Integrated Male". Being integrated means being able to accept all aspects of one's self. The Attributes of an Integrated Male
*Strong sense of self. He likes himself just as he is. *He takes responsibility for getting his own needs met. *He is comfortable with his masculinity and his sexuality. *He has integrity. He does what is right, not what is expedient. *He is a leader. He is willing to provide for and protect those he cares about. *He is clear, direct, and expressive of his feelings. *He can be nurturing and giving without care taking or problem-solving. *He knows how to set boundaries and is not afraid to work through conflict. Accept yourself as being perfectly imperfect. In layman's terms, don't be a woman's bitch, but don't be an asshole either, find a happy medium. Paradigm- a set of forms all of which contain a particular element, esp. the set of all inflected forms based on a single stem or theme.
How To Become A Man: Mandrake These are annotations and little notes I wrote down in December when I watched David DeAngelo's "On Being A Man". I'll be honest: even though it holds a warm place in my heart because it was one of the first PUA products I ever watched, it was pretty ambiguous and didn't actually teach you the steps to becoming a man. It used a lot of really equivocal and undefined terms and didn't do a great job of explaining them. But I wrote down notes for myself anyway, to try to remember everything I had learnt from the program. At first, the notes sucked, but as I returned to them every few weeks or so, once I actually got good with women and could see the matrix and understand what he meant, I continued on from the notes and added my own thoughts and interpretations of what David D meant. Now it's really fricking long, but hopefully much much more worthwhile for you than my original notes. So enjoy Some of the notes are direct transcriptions of what David D said, but most of them are just little notes and freewrites that I wrote for myself. I didn't expect to ever post this online when I wrote them, so parts will only make sense to me, but I still decided that you would all really love it and find it helpful if I posted it. Hopefully it will really help with your understanding of that elusive personality: the real Man. NOTE: These are notes I wrote to myself. It's unedited, so if you see spelling and grammar mistakes just PM me. NOTE: Before we go any further, I should probably explain that I’ve deified the “Man” in my mind. He is not just any man, nor even any great man, but rather a combination of all great men into something even greater. There is a chance that it is impossible at this stage of human evolution for any man to become a Man, but we can keep trying, and we can keep coming closer and closer, if only we put our minds to it. Without further ado...
Mandrake's Notes on David D's On Being A Man PART ONE
1. Introduction Being a man (inner game) is the FOUNDATION of all the other David DeAngelo (who will now be referred to as DD) products 2. The Boy Must Die Make a clear picture of what results you want/how you want to be. 3. Being A Man What is a man? Strong, decisive, mature, cool, in control, shouldn't be weak, (add more when you think of them) 4. A Burning Desire
It seems as though there is an a n invisible barrier blocking the path to manhood, which is magnified by the inability to attract women. Wouldn't be great if you didn't have to be fake (i.e. buying things for them, complimenting them, etc.)? If you could be content being yourself around women? If you could be an attractive version of yourself? We're talking about the deeper meaning of the word 'man'. Not the definition of 'man' specified by age alone. Techniques are training wheels. Use them only at the beginning. Make sure you consciously attempt to internalize NLP, SS, being a Man, C & F, etc. 5. Critical Missing Elements We aren't told how to become a man by society. Here's the elements: -we didn't have a father around so we had to be the man and raise ourselves -we were emasculated by overbearing fathers -we were spoiled by well-intentioned mothers -had no process of 'initiation' at that critical time -we went through 'pseudo-initiations' like sports, boot-camps, gangs, and fraternities -we made it into adulthood, a dulthood, alone, missing a critical set of elements...with no map or hints to find them These elements are a few of those that make a man without manhood. And women can instantly spot out men who aren't really men. 6. Neoteny & Maturity Neoteny is the "retaining of juvenile features into manhood" A man remains a boy not because he does not want to become a man. It is because they have not been initiated into i nto the structures of manhood. Most mammals are less helpless at birth. You see on the discovery channel newborn buffalo walking around and running within minutes of birth. We have a very odd societal definition of manhood. A man in highschool is the man who fits the physical stereotypes and aggressively ridicules his opponents for the position of the alpha male by shooting them down with insults until the point when they have brought everyone else down to a level that is below them. This is not a healthy social structure. Males tend to believe that anything bad comes from luck and anything good comes from something inside and from our own skill. This is scientifically proven. This is VERY powerful to understand because if you act COUNTER-INTUITIVELY and attribute the good to luck and to the bad, say "it was my fault. I'll figure out how to better next time and work harder," you will gain HUMILITY and RESPECT. 7. The Boy Must Die Pt II The caterpillar must die for the butterfly to live. It is a total transformation with no return. The caterpillar can become the butterfly but the butterfly cannot become the caterpillar.
We seek initiation into adult rites, spirituality, and responsibilities. We crave a deeper consciousness, consciousness, a less confuse identity, because we want one with more structure. 8. Man Psychology 1.Where am I not being authentic? 2.Where are you not demonstrating integrity to yourself? If you don't trust yourself you'll have a hard time trusting others 3.What are you hiding from yourself and from the world? 4.WHY?: What does it mean to become a man? One definition: stoic, strong, sexy, courageous, independent, beneficient, Protector, Provider, Procreator 9. The Initiation Process Primitive cultures practiced initiation rites that boys must pass through before becoming a man. In some African tribes, this was the slaying of a lion, in Judaism, it is the Bar Mitzvah. It seems that a formal transition into manhood must be assisted by older men and the transition is perverted when no ritual is present. The boy who grows up but isn't initiated into manhood often winds up living a life fighting childhood demons rather than continually developing into a fulfilled, full-fledged man. 10. The Men's Movement Feminism is naturally masculine women telling women to be more masculine. The Men's Movement is naturally feminine men telling men to be more feminine. Homophobia is the hatred of feminine qualities qualiti es in men. Misogyny is the hatred of feminine qualities qualiti es in women. If you woke up tomorrow as the opposite sex, how you your life change? How would you react? Is that what you would want for yourself? Carl Jung: Anima vs Animus All humans have some presence of the opposite sex within them. If you repress it rather than integrating it, it will return to haunt you. When you integrate you, it is still a part of you, but you are able to transcend it and it is unable to dominate you. Read Sir Thomas More's To Be a Man 11. Women That Piss You Off It's okay to be pissed off at those women who go around with t-shirts that say "Bitch" but not okay to be pissed off at women because they rejected you or you think they are too good for you. 12. Attracting Women The BOY that CAN"T attract women avoids and represses the fact, doesn't confront it because it's too scary. He has a low self-esteem, depression, and the self-image of "loser". The BOY that CAN attract women has spoiled behaviour, is a cheater, a manipulator,
arrogant, and a tyrant. The MAN that CAN't attract women feels as though he is less than other men, has a deep grief that he usually won't address and can be characterized by the phrase: "I am a m a failure at one of my basic intrinsic purposes." The MAN that CAN attract women has STRENGTH, is a PROTECTOR, a LEADER, MENTOR TO OTHER MEN, SOURCE OF GROUNDING ENERGY, and LIVING HIS PURPOSE. There are people who are stuck, who can't go anywhere because they want to go away from what they don't want. Then there are those who go towards what they want. These are the successful men. Then there are those who move with the crowds, don't go against the grain. They go with the flow and don't create any waves of their own. Then there are those who go against the crowd. These are warriors and iconoclasts. Some of these descriptions can overlap. Galileo went towards what he wanted even though it was against the crowd. 13. Getting Approval List the things that you do subtly to try to get attention and approval from others? The things that you think no one notices. Now admit to yourself why and how these things are unhealthful. Just admit it. Then allow yourself to become a self-sufficient man. Do you have the "Disease to Please"? DD says that this is a psychological problem. When you do a lot for somebody and then get mad at them for not appreciating it. [ I had this for a while, still do with one of my sisters] 14. Interacting With Other Men A man can comfortably interact with other men. Most men don't have healthy or healthful relationships with their father. Just look at Mystery or DD. 15. Know Your Path (and STAY on it) Read and Highlight Dave Deida's If you follow your heart purpose, you become complete and full. You are enjoying every moment with a high degree of intimacy. PART TWO
1. Staying On Course (screenshot) 2. Critical Counter Intuitive (screenshot) Think of all of the little things that are completely intuitive and begin looking at how you can change them to make them counter intuitive (e.g. the handshake interrupt) Practice doing the right thing (not necessarily ethically the 'right' thing) so that you become programmed to start doing it. In a contrived, rehearsed way, start (with a friend,) to find and list the negative little acts you do and the negative frames you allow and begin to think of ways to reframe each of these situations. Write it all down. Then each time you are in that situation you listed, use the method that you contrived until it is internalized.
3. Self-Improvement A lot of people forget who they are and what makes them happy when they are on this 'new, ideal life' of PU. Write down three things you enjoy. Write the things you have forgotten. Then remember how to enjoy the things you enjoy. Then remember WHY you chose the path you're on. Get in touch with that 'WHY', that reason you got in in the first place (i.e. to get women, to feel validated, to become a 'man', NOT to compete to be the best PUA and throw your life out of control for the wrong reasons). List ten things you want. Then list the number on a scale of one to ten that that thing will improve your life. Then notice that the things with the greatest returns are not the material items you choose to buy, they are the things you simply do (e.g. in DD's case, spending more time with his best friends). There is a difference between joy and enjoyment. 4. Take Personal Responsibility –––for yourself, your thoughts, your situation Learn to see how the choices you have made have led you to where you are. And don't take it too harshly, know that you will always be able to get out of where you are ––– that in fact, you always will get out of where you are, even if you don't want to. Refuse to be a victim. There are a re no mistakes, no problems, no injustices, as long as you learn from whatever has happened (e.g. whenever you are in a rut, analyze how you got there and learn from it). Refuse to give anyone the power to take your joy from you. Each day you wake up, say "This is your day. Don't let anyone a nyone take it from you." 5. Importance Of Dad 6. Sudden Success Syndrome is the delusion that men (esp. those with sudden success,) who have things like money, power, and women, should give a guy enough that he should never be allowed to complain about anything. E.g the rich man: "Whoa, life's rough." the poor man: "How would YOU know? We think that the solution that would make us happy is the solution that would make men happy. This is unrealistic and immature. Success never solves INNER problems when alone. Think of the rock star who gets as many women as he wants, then goes on suicidal rampages and drug overdoses. Success in one area of life is not compensation to the other areas of life. Additionally, the change success brings is very painful and dangerous, it is just much less obvious than the change failure brings. This is why you need inner game. 7. Your Inner World Think about a kid from your childhood who you really liked, and one you didn't like. Think about what you liked in your dad and what you didn't like. Think of what you admire in men right now, and what you hate. Now think about what you love about a bout women, and what you hate. Write it all down. Carl Jung called these projections. These are the things is you. The things you said you hated are the dark side of you or holes that you are trying to fill. You're projecting it onto them. All those good things, these are parts of you, you just need to be aware of them, and make them part of your everyday life rather than deep within you. 7.5 Circle of Male Development
Men give away their power to women in order to seek approval even though t hough women don't want men to give their power away, at least not on the inside. They want a mentally strong man, who has his power. The men who keep their power attract women. Interestingly, once a man learns how to keep his power, he does not want the t he same type of woman whom he wanted before. 8. Levels Of Energy Think of these different levels: an ignition switch, a starter, a motor, and a car. If the key is broken, then you cannot take advantage of the power of the starter, and thus cannot take advantage of the power of the t he motor and car. All that power becomes inaccessible over something as small as a key. The 4,000 pounds of metal become useless because you can't find the 4 ounce piece of metal. Leverage points like this exist in humanity. Most people try to work on the car when there's a problem, but they don't look to see if the problem is at a different level. The "energy" that powers the archetypal structures may be far lower than the energy that powers a muscle, but think of the leverage difference. 9. A Look at Power Where is our own personal power based? Is your competition with other men based in a powerful, masculine, secure maturity....or is it based in weak, i nsecure, overcompensating overcompensating immaturity? Do you respect mature, adult men and treat them as worthy allies and adversaries or do you secretly harbor thoughts of superiority or inferiority? (Both are bad) Is your ability to persuade based on whining, tyranny, begging, or tantrums ...or is it based on credibility, authenticity, and wisdom? Is your personal power rooted in scarcity or abundance? 9.5 Questions About Your Father What What What What What What
have you not communicated to your father that you needed to let him know? have you not admitted? have you not said? has he not said to you that you've needed to hear? have you always wanted to hear from him? have you hated hearing from him?
10. Grief is the Doorway to Feeling In other words, to connect to your true feelings, you'll probably need to allow yourself to feel grief first.Men are taught to act tough and not show their feeling. The archetypal 'manly man' is a stoic. When men allow themselves to feel grief, then they can experience all the deeper emotions and begin the process of rebuilding correctly from the bottom up. 11. 12. 13. 14.
Emotional Imprints Challenges In Life Individuation More Personal
As you mature, you will learn the same things, but take different lessons from them. You
will read a book and derive a completely different meaning. Maybe not completely. The more personal something is to you, the more universal it probably is. Realize that each of your insecurities is common, then be transparent...it's very liberating. Have no insecurities with the faith that you are not alone. Remember: "the more personal, the more universal". Realize that your own individuality is a gift that you can appreciate more than anyone. Be proud of who you are. 15. Language Of Manhood Deserve: If you don't think you deserve to be with many women, you won't be with many women. Don't think you deserve it because of all the injustices that have befallen you. Think you deserve it because you want it and you're willing to do the work to go get it. 16. Certainty No maybes. Be certain. About where you are i n life. About where you are going. About how you are going to get there. Certainty that you're honest and authentic and transparent. Certainty that she will sleep with you, and it WILL be the best night she's ever had. Don't make anything up, but be certain. Speak with conviction. Have certainty in all a reas. PART THREE
1. Feature Your Insecurities Til You're Over Them Practice making cocky jokes about them when you first meet a woman and are flirting. E.g. "This is never going to work out, you're not good at arguing, and I overcompensate for being to short by acting arrogant...so we'd always argue, and I'd always win." If you have something you can't fix, feature it. E.g. Avis: "We're only #2 so we try harder." When Women Do Things Without You Don't get jealous, mad or sad. If she's going to a concert with a friend, say: "Wow, you're so lucky." Don't go: "...oh..." or "Can I come?" Instead, cultivate the ability to enjoy things on your own. It's mature to allow others to live their lives and enjoy experiences without you. To encourage THEM to be independent. The other side of the coin is knowing that you can enjoy your life without needing others to validate your enjoyment. Get over the feeling of loss when people do things without you that are enjoyable. More: Acting based on what you think she'd think if she knew what you were thinking is a MISTAKE. Men tend to think that if a woman knew their thoughts that they'd get kicked in the nuts. This screws their whole game up. Pull a David X: Girl with push-up bra and low cut shirt/dress "What are YOU looking at?" David X "I'm lookin' at your TITS." "Seek first to understand, then be understood." If you just say "I understand," you actually break rapport because usually you don't really "understand" and they know this. 2. Clarity Be clear and lucid. No "umm"s "ahh"s and "like"s. Speak clearly and intelligently. More
importantly, think clearly. Don't let the fog get into your head, even when it's i t's all around you. 3. Maturity vs. Pretending Forethought vs. Manipulation "A sign of a mature man is forethought" ––– Aristotle Part of maturity is thinking of future events all the way through with discipline...instead of guessing, wishing and leaving things to luck. When you've thought scenarios through, you can move forward with strength and confidece, knowing that you've planned for most of what could happen, and the odds are on your side. By doing this, you free up your mind and can deal with the odd exceptions when they arise. (NOTE: For good forethought, you need good understanding) With women, a mature man has though through all the possible situations and acts accordingly, naturally, and calmly. The immature Boy-Man thinks he's done this, but he hasn't. The Boy-Man uses tricks and techniques to manipulate, and only lives for the moment and for instant gratification. The TEST you can APPLY at any time is simple: Ask yourself if what you're doing feels manipulative, sneaky, or dishonest in any way. If it does, then you're allowing the Boy-Man inside of you to run things...which will ultimately lead to a feeling of less fulfillment, not more. If the feeling inside of you is one of strength, authenticity, and wanting to add to your woman's life experience and joy, then you're on THE RIGHT TRACK. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't use patterns and canned kiss closes and so on to get past sticking points but if you begin to rely on them completely and you let them BECOME PART YOUR IDENTITY, then it becomes unhealthy because you're letting the Boy-Man use his manipulation for instant gratification rather than long term happiness. From Hero's Journey: Once you go out and leave l eave on your journey, there is also the part of the story where you return and share you knowledge and journey's tales. This multiplies the feeling of fulfillment: returning to help your brethren. 4. Becoming A Man Means Giving Up: -Throwing emotional tantrums to get attention -Correcting people because you need to feel important (if you correct someone, do it for THEIR learning, not for YOUR ego.) -Disagreeing with people to show your superiority -Being a "know it all" so that people will give you approval -Saying and doing things to win attention and approval, not add value and genuinely help a situation -Never brag for validation from others...just never brag These are all from the Boy-Man inside. i nside. You must give them up COMPLETELY. 100%. If you do something you notice is whiny or bitchy, say: "Wow. I was just whining like a little bitch." Saying that in a funny way will gain you respect, mainly from men. 5. Keep Death In Mind Daily Overcome your fear of death, and fear of pain leading to death. These fears are strong in our bodies because thousands of years ago they helped us avoid situations that might have actually caused death. Today, almost all those things are gone, so we can USE the thought of death to enjoy LIFE more. Become aware of your IMMINENT DEATH. Know that time is
your most limited resource and make the most of what little time you are given. You can also fear what will happen AFTER DEATH, but the truth, however painful it may be, is that you will never know until then, until your life is over. When you overcome all the fears related to death, you have proven to yourself that you can overcome the biggest fear in life. But the level PAST overcoming your fear of death is the level that embraces the reality of death, becoming familiar with the thought of it without any fear. Know that is a part of life. That it is inevitable. That you are not alone in death. You can address your issues around it, and use it as a method for happiness. The code of samurai states the many benefits of keeping death in mind at all time 6. Why Death? Because humans primarily do two things with their minds: make meaning and ascribe value. In order to do these, we need a reference point to start with. Every meaning and value is relative to something else. When you conquer your fear of death, and keep it in the forefront of your mind, it gives you the ultimate context for considering everything. When compared against death, the most painful and uncomfortable situation becomes a gift....the meaning of anything becomes positive, and every aspect of life leads to gratitude. On the other hand, with life as your context, death becomes a repressed fear haunting your nights and dreams. The belief of heaven, the belief that you and your friends and your family will all be together again after death, can be extremely comforting, whether it is true or not. Live Now, Don't Put it Off: DON'T WASTE TIME DO THINGS THAT GET YOU INTO YOUR BODY, NOT IN YOUR MIND 7. Most Men Weren't Happy Single First They did not enter a relationship from a place where they were content being single and alone, PREFERRING not to be with a woman. Had they done this, they could have CHOSEN to enter the relationship, rather than escaping into a relationship. From Hero's Journey: To become a son one must first become a prodigal, leave solo and enter another country, another land. Alienation before reconciliation. There can be no homecoming without leave taking. Build a Happy Single Life: Most men: unhappy alone --> find a woman to cling to --> hold on too tightly, give away power, destroy the attraction in a relationship Switch to: Build a happy single life --> Prefer and choose to be single --. Choose a relationship --> Choose a marriage or long-term relationship Make your single life so fantastic that you almost don't have time for a relationship. Build a life you love. Fill your life l ife with so many things you enjoy that it almost becomes a difficult task fitting a woman/long-term relationship in. Enter a relationship to improve an already great life, not to be your life. In a relationship, build a personal life of your own, so you can enjoy life all the time, and so that you can be at your best with your mate. When you make your life the other person, it becomes an emotional blanket, causing claustrophobia --- you need to be a whole without them.
8. Outward Signs Of a Real Man Elements of a Healthy, Masculine Self-Image -Self Concept -Self Assurance (when you need to be assured of things, you go to yourself, not others --speak to yourself) -Self Interest -Self Comfort (can you comfort yourself when situations are intense? Where's your grace under pressure?) Signs: Comfort in the presence of: -Class, style, refinement -beautiful women -power and high-status people -paradox and uncertainty Composure in the face of: -Competition from other men -Loss or setback (they're part of life) -Conflict or drama -Tests from women Clear path, values, boundaries when dealing with: -Other influential persons (e.g. treat your boss with respect, but don't treat him as if he owns you) -Women they're dating (i.e. keep your values and ethics strong) -Other men (i.e. keep your values, no tyranny in the house of David D) -Your own life Exercise: Ask Yourself? What makes you uncomfortable? Write down three things. Where do I lose composure in life? Where do I reveal a lack of clarity in my path, values and boundaries? Write it all down. 9. Seven Virtues + Vices Ponder these: -Love/Envy -Temperance (balanced, controlled)/Gluttony -Humility/Pride -Patience/Anger -Justice/Greed -Faith/Lust -Fortitude/Sloth Your unique combination of these make up your CHARACTER. THE QUALITIES OF MALE MATURITY: M ATURITY: -A balanced perspective -An attitude of non-judgment -An understanding that everyone has a positive intention -A powerful sense of self -An air of stability...the deep root, strong and sturdy foundation -TRUSTWORTHINESS/CREDIBILITY 10. Breeding Distrust
Don't... 11. Double Identity Many young women have double identities. They have the good girl and the bad girl, and sometimes men are trapped into only seeing one of these sides. A mark of a mature man is to be able to see that there are different sides to a woman and having the ability to make a woman feel accepted for who she is. Incidentally, this does not imply that a man must "tolerate" or "accept" second-class behaviour, low morals, or poor ethics from a woman. Men tend to see woman as angels, but don't see the bad. Some of the mPUAs know to look for specific little indicators that these HB10 "angels" were once strippers, or hookers, or acted in porn, etc. The ones that were once very 'bad' will certainly still be bad or pretend that they never were bad. Under that logic, it seems rational to state that many of the women who seem like angels are the ones with the DARKEST parts of them, in comparison to most other women. 12. Renaissance Man -Women complain that there are none left -it embodies the concept of actualizing all the different dormant potentials in every man -it implies that being a master of many different areas of life (physical, logical, emotional, artistic) ...as well as a habit of learning one thing after another, on a lifelong quest of selfactualization, improvement, and enjoyment. -Areas to develop include art, psychology, science (watch the Teaching company's "Physics in Your Life" DVDs and remember what you learned), music, philosophy, writing, performance, dancing, (keep writing more as you think of them) 13. Clues You're Dealing With A Real Man -An air of approachableness -A "never let them see you sweat" attitude a ttitude -An unwillingness to accept second class thinking and behaviour from others -Mentor to younger men (start mentoring younger men) -Pillar of strength and security in self and a nd values -Defender and protector of those less able to defend and protect themselves -Encourager and challenger of those not living up to their potential The real Maximus (from Gladiator) in history had self mastery, led men, had a steadiness of purpose, gravity with charm, did any task without making a fuss. What he said was what he thought. Nothing surprised or frightened him. He never seemed to be in a hurry but was never slow to accomplish something. He was neither intimidated and embarrassed nor aggressive and suspicious. So giving, forgiving and loyal, was he that his virtues seemed to be inborn rather than acquired. It is unimaginable that, any men felt superior or inferior to him 14. External Qualities -Mysterious Confidence (comes from within but mysterious because people can't understand how you can be that cool all the time, it makes them want to know more about you) -Humour (a tool of great power. e.g. to purposely create sexual tension and then break it with humour) -Wit (intelligent, snappy, focused version of humour) -Charm (pleasing personality and warmth, a great voice helps too) -Sophistication (reading the classics, knowing the names of movie directors, understanding
many arts such as film and theatre and philosophy.....I.E. high degree of CULTURAL LITERACY) ( <--- A sign of maturity, though not always a necessary one) -Leadership (learn leadership - there are a ton of books on leadership and many of them are fantastic) -Class (sign of maturity) (e.g. walk away from a bad business deal with a handshake) (e.g. speaking well of people in public even if you think they're a jackass who did something terrible --- there are exceptions to this, such as Hitler, and also you must be careful to not let people walk all over you just because they know you have to much class to tell someone. Also, you should be very careful that it's not out of fear that there will be bad consequences if you speak badly of someone. ) -Chivalry (the THEATRE/ unspoken roleplay of you being the KNIGHT and her, the DAMSEL) (+ little things e.g. opening the doors for her, pulling out chairs for her) -Style (real style is about developing your own style, not the common "style is taking someone else's attire to cover up parts of your personality) -Smoothness/Grace -Smoothness/Grace (polish off the rough edges of your mannerisms and general personality) -Comfort (in ANY situation) -Composure (in ANY situation) 15. Elements Of Cool Cool implies a temperature between warm and cold...which, when applied to personality or attitude, implies neither coming on too strong, nor being overly stand-offish. A "cool" person isn't too excited about anything, isn't too affected by anything, isn't emotionally reactive, and has control of themselves. Questions DD asks himself a lot? -What is cool? -What is square? -How can I get one to understand the concepts of cool -How can a square learn to be cool? What is the way? Remember: A cool person can interact normally with squares but squares cannot interact normally with a cool person. These are good questions to ask on a regular basis during your development. The Elements of "Cool" : -Off-beat sense of humour -Sense of style, music, food, culture -Laid back and unaffected by the opinions of others -Not a "suit", a "square", a "cone-head", or a "nerd" -Casual dress, the trendy but not TOO trendy thing -Not obsessed with proper grammar...enjoys modern, hip words and slang terms (this is a big one) -Calm confidence....can pose a little, but has that composure... -Can make fun of themselves -Doesn't act "above" others -Independent and encourages independence in others (e.g. "Cool. Go have some fun.") -Assumes a "cool" connection with others by leaning/nodding head back as a greeting, saying "hey", "what's up?", "what's goin' on?", or saying nothing at all, just a head nod, etc. 16. Sexual Confidence Sexual Confidence is the key to being a "naturally attractive" man. It means knowing that a woman will have an experience with you that she will never forget. Sexual confidence comes from understanding the psychology and physiology - the physical, logical, and
emotional aspects - knowing how to touch, how to kiss, how to create anticipation, how to pleasure, fully get pleasure, RAVISH. The key is that an inner sexual confidence that comes from knowing you can blow a woman's mind in bed affects ALL of your communication. It literally colours everything from the way you hold yourself to the way you look at a woman to the words you use while talking. When you have it, women respond differently to you, see you differently, and often become somewhat anxious and excited about you. Make it a point to LEARN HOW TO BE AN INCREDIBLE LOVER, and cultivate Sexual Confidence. People with sexual confidence realize that all banter is foreplay. Every woman deserves to have one man in her life that she never forgets. And that man...is you. PART FOUR
1. The Real Man: -Accepts things as they are fully, no judgment - THEN sets out to change them -Can show his sword without ever killing people/using it/needing to use it -Doesn't need or use threats ––– Robert Bly -Is the pillar of strength, security, and protection in every situation -Allows, encourages, enjoys when other shine, win and progress -Needs nothing external to be happy Giving every part of yourself to a woman is stupid. Always keep at least l east one part of yourself "off-limits". Say, "I just need to set a boundary, ____________" Be the planet, not the star. Attract women into your orbit with your immense gravitational energy. When you become so solid that no woman can affect you, you affect them. It makes you authentic and transparent, making women feel your powerful, masculine energy. But it only works with perfected inner game. In Jenna Jameson's How to Make Love Like a Pornstar, she explains how she was incredibly attracted to a biker guy and obsessed with him because she wanted to find the sensitive side she believed had to exist. It drove her crazy in love, and sent her on a wild goose chase into his soul, and transferred all of the power of the relationship dynamic into his hands. 2. Dr. Paul Initiation --> Liminality --> Full Integration ---> Secrets of the Elders/Mature Masters Suicide rate is far higher for males than female. Many believe because a poor father-son relationship is much worse than a poor mother-daughter relationship. You need men more mature than you to help you as guides in the process listed above. Psychoanalysis and Religious Texts were once the only way to list principles of life. Enter Dr. Paul: -Happiness (but sometimes a kid will be happy playing video games, but it seems like somethings missing) -Success (golden handcuffs = wall street trader with no time to be happy) -Freedom (a homeless person and divorced person are both free, but they're not happy or successful) ===================== Durable Fulfillment (the culmination of the three) To get there , we need high character...but how do we get character
Four parts of psychology: Personal Boundary (mastery of this will make you 'durable') -Emotional Energy -Positive = Self Esteem (divided into masculine and feminine) (happiness) -Ideas/Intellect (success) -Decisiveness (-->wisdom-->freedom) (-->wisdom-->freedom) Don't think someone else needs to lose for you to win. Death: "Be happy that it happened, not sad that it ended." ––– Dr. Seuss LOOK AT THE MOVIE AGAIN....THIS PART CONTAINS TOO MANY COMPLICATED THEORIES TO UNDERSTAND WITHOUT THE DIAGRAMS AND EXPLANATIONS.... 3. Happiness 4. Left Brain 5. Decisions 6. Questions 7. Three Questions 8. Final Thoughts -Accepting responsibility -Understand your intrinsic self-worth -Join a team in which there are other more mature mentors -Two Questions: Where am I going? Who will go with me? Don't mix up the order -Be able to reprogram yourself, esp. to become more independent -Honesty, Fidelity, Compassion, Empathy, Humility, but most of all a sense of wonderment for all that is right and good in the world -He should not be trying to be an example because this will disturb his ethos and keep him from being such. -Don't do. Be. -Take full responsibility for your own destiny so that you may know where you are going. Do some soul searching and then write down your list of goals, your life timelines, and how you are going to achieve these things. -True, honest, and ethical, not necessarily in accordance with the moral code of others, but ethical to a code that is true, just, and reasonable to you (protagonist should be like this, think of Philip Marlowe) GO OUT THERE AND GET A HUGE RETURN ON THE INVESTMENT YOU MADE THE MINUTE YOU STARTED WATCHING THE PROGRAM. USE THIS KNOWLEDGE EVERYDAY. SHARE THE RETURNS OF YOUR INVESTMENT WITH OTHERS BY TEACHING THEM EVERYTHING YOU'VE LEARNT ON YOUR JOURNEY TO MANHOOD.
WOW. That felt good to re-read. So helpful for my game. I hope that really changed all of you for the better, and demystified what a Man is and how you can rise above other men to become one. And hit me with some feedback, it's always nice to hear if the post can be improved in any way ~Mandrake
Life, Intent, Rapport, Focus, Happiness: Grape DISCLAIMER: The logistics of this post is mostly based off of pseudoscience and Bullshit Escalation. However, it will make sense on a subconcious level. <33 Grape Intention – A function of the universe.
“Without intent, life is nonexistent.” This is something I read in The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire by Deepak Chopra. Great book by a great guy. What does it mean? Well.. exactly that. Without intent, life is nonexistent. Think about it, what are your intents right now? Why are you reading this? What do you want? Life is full of intentions, and without them, we would not be where we are today. Let’s travel back to the age of our beloved ancestors from millions of years ago. What do you think their intentions i ntentions were? Probably to reproduce and survive. Probably to be safe and be a part of a tribe or society. Without those intentions, they would never have had the motivation they wanted to actually mate and reproduce. Without their intentions, we would seriously cease to exist. “Who cares? I want to go back to smoking pot.” Hold it right there. Where did your pot come from? Who gave it to you? How’d you obtain it? Serious questions. Those drug dealers had INTENTIONS of making money. Without their intentions, you would have never been introduced to the crap. And think about this computer you’re using right now. Who built it? Why would they want to build it? Why did people invent this computer? They had INTENTIONS of making technological advancements and making money to survive. So intentions are really what make the t he world spin. They’re important! Everyone has intentions too, and it’s important that they do. Happiness
BUT… But.. why in the heck do we have intentions in the first place? Well.. ask yourself why you want what you want. Suppose it’s a $100 that you want. Why do you want it? “So that I can buy things.” Why do you want to buy things? “So that I’ll be happy.” Happiness. Life is about happiness. We are forced by our instincts to have intentions of being happy. Without happiness, there is no intention. Without intention, there is no life. This is why the unhappy are so weak. This is why the successful are happy. Happiness is directly related to success of goals and making intentions become history. Now let’s get into the roots of the “How To” part. Driving Forces
There are two driving forces of people and their actions. Consequence driven and Intent driven. People will either do something because they WANT to or because they HAVE to (or else!) Consequences are fears of the potential punishments that await if you don’t do what is
asked of you. Intentions are happiness seeking and do this out of passion, desire, and pleasure. If you want to be happy, you must be an intent driven person. Instead of thinking “If I don’t do this, then I will lose something.” Start thinking “I want this, so I’m going to get it.” You can already feel your potential happiness filling you up with emotions of joy. Focus
Having the right structure of focus is also very important in obtaining happiness. Just like driving forces, there are two ways of thinking about something. Problem oriented focus vs Problem solving oriented focus Some people will just think about all the problems they have. They’ll go on constantly making themselves stressed by building up the tension inside them because of all their problems. Other people, however, will be smart and think about how to solve their problems. They know they have problems. But they don’t focus on how bad things are as much as they focus on making the bad things stop and not happen again. So problem oriented thinking is: “I am fat. It sucks and people always make fun of me because of it. I start to smell, and it’s all because I like to eat. Life sucks.” Problem Solving oriented thinking is: “I am fat. I want to lose weight. I’ll start going on a diet and start exercising more.” Yes. Intention vs Focus
Focusing on SOLVING your problems is the best way to think when coming across obstacles. It helps you get rid of your problems instead of making them worse. It is directly related to Intention. In the fat example, the problem solving oriented thinker says “I am fat. I want to lose weight. I’ll start going on a diet and start exercising more.” He WANTS to lose weight. So he GOES on a diet. He has the intention to lose weight. He has the intentions of going on a diet and exercising more. He focuses on solving problems, resulting in having intentions, so he will become a happier man. Wanting vs Getting
Another part of happiness is just simply wanting something and actually getting it. Let’s define the two terms in relevance. Wanting: A Desire. Never ending. Nonexistent. Hasn’t happened yet. Getting: A Fact. Going to happen. Historical. Gets results. Problem solved. Which one’s better? I’d say Getting. Would you rather want a $100 or get a $100? (don’t answer that) But when you have an intention, make sure you focus on the right thing. Getting. Not wanting, but Getting.
Ego Value vs Rapport Value
Value. What is value? Once again, two kinds. Ego value is the classifying oneself as different from others. In other words, thinking one is better or worse than someone else. Rapport value is the potential amount of happiness one can bring unto others. In other words, the more valuable you are, the more other people will be happy being around you. Ego: Separation, Classification, Competition, Comparison, Differentiation Rapport: Commonalities, Bonding, Togetherness, We, Us, Oneness “How does ego and rapport value relate to happiness?” Wanting + Getting vs Ego + Rapport Value
An egotistic person always strives for more value. His desire to be better than everyone else never stops. He always wants things. And it’s only in his mind that he is better than someone else at something. Being better at something is a simple opinion. An opinion is not a fact. Which means it’s not historical or real or existent. It’s a thought. And thoughts don’t exist in physical reality. Thoughts are just a combination of memory and imagination. After one dies, it fades away. It was never really there to begin with either. This means that the value of ego is never really there. It fades away with time and it is forgotten. A rapport building person gets validated from others. VALidation makes him VALuable. He is the source of happiness of others. This value is historical because happiness is an emotion and emotion is not an opinion. The action that people have validated him is a fact. It exists. It’s true. It happened. Happiness is an exchange of a powerful emotion, which requires energy. So in sense, the rapport valuable person is passing on his energy of happiness unto others. The first law of thermodynamics states that Energy cannot be created nor destroyed. If people validate him, it’s a fact that he has energy. It was inside him the entire time. It didn’t just appear out of nowhere. That’s against the first law. The energy of happiness was possessed by him and he passed it onto others. This meaning the more you can make others happy, the more happiness you will find out you possessed. (Because it can’t just come out of nowhere) What does this mean? It means that everyone has potential to make others happy. It means that there is an infinite amount of happiness in the universe and that it merely cycles through space over time. It’s potential though. Everyone has that potential. But only the few that make others happy will possess the kinetic energy inside their bodies (emotions). The Big Picture
Here’s a summary of everything above. Life’s about happiness. Happiness can only be obtained by having intentions. Intentions can turn into reality by focusing on GETTING what one wants. One can GET HAPPINESS by having rapport value. Rapport value can be obtained by making others around one happy. One will get true happiness only when he makes others happy. The feeling of happiness from making others feel worse is nonexistent because it’s not a fact but it’s merely an opinion.
I really hope you guys enjoyed this post. <33 Grape
Psychology of Naturals: Grape (pseudo)
I. Introduction Guys need the confidence to talk to girls. Where does confidence come from? The more one knows about something, the more confident he gains about the topic. For example, a person is not confident he will do well on his math test. He studies for several days, and then he is fairly confident that he will do well on his math test. Another example, a child has no idea what to do in order to ride a bike. He's gut nervous about falling and is not confident about his bike-riding abilities at all. But once his dad assists him and gives him knowledge on what to do, he is confident and can ride his bike without a problem. So, how does this all fit into pick up? Well, many of you are not confident with society, women, or people in general. The more you learn about society and the more correct things you apply to yourself, the more confident you will become and you will be able to pick up women and be a social guy in no time. I will give you the knowledge that will boost your confidence in this project. Hope you enjoy. <33 Grape
II. Psychology of Why This Works a. You become sexual with women
A big problem with many AFCs is that they just aren't comfortable with their sexuality around women. They get nervous that they might get rejected and that they may creep the girl out. AFCs has beliefs that women are not sexual for the most part, that they are innocent and young, and that they don't like being sexual around most guys unless they're 'special'. Well this piece will be explaining why these beliefs are wrong and it will go through what beliefs really ARE true and are in the minds of women. b. You naturally have value
Hey, after you understand how the women think, shouldn't it be natural that you learn to become their ideal lover? I mean this thing will be going through what they want and what they don't want. It's only common sense that you become the things that they want. c. You don't feel confusion of who you are a re
Many AFCs are used to fitting OTHER PEOPLE'S STANDARDS. STANDARDS. They constantly change who they are, what their hobbies are, their social circle, and their entire lifestyle. They just don't feel a sense of self. This is because OTHER PEOPLE control their life. They don't have the confidence or knowledge to take charge of their own l ife and do it successfully. This piece will go through how naturals think, why exactly they know how to control their life, and much more. You will learn that having a solid identity will be critical when it comes to meeting people and befriending them.
III. Psychology of Why Routines Aren't Effective a. Spending Time Memorizing
If you've taken the route where you spend a ton of time memorizing little 'esp routines' and 'negs' and 'openers' and so on, you probably know what I mean when I say that it's a pain in the ass having to spend time memorizing these lines. Hey, look at it this way. There are billions of people out there getting laid right now. Did every single one of them need to memorize esp routines to get laid? NO!!! This article is here to get you thinking on the correct path of becoming a normal guy who happens to be good with women, without faking his words, without having to be a slave to material and canned routines. You can save this time and do something better with your life. =]
b. A Feeling of Fakeness
Like I have just mentioned, PUAs who rely on routines always feel fake. They don't feel congruent with what they're saying. They feel confused with who they are. They're still faking themselves to fit standards. They waste time learning 'magical lines' that supposedly help get a women to come to bed with them. Would you rather spend the rest of your life memorizing routines, or coming up with your own while just simply HAVING FUN and enjoying yourself with other people? I rest my case. c. Incongruency
By now you should have gotten the point that routines will make you feel incongruent. You are using stories and material that are not for the type of person you are! You start getting confused. And as I've said many times before, IT'S N OT HELPING YOU WITH STRENGTHENING YOUR IDENTITY. Identity is vital. It brings out congruence and passion. It's VITAL. d. Gaming without Routines: Understanding Women, Natural Game, Lifestyle, etc.
So now some of you may be asking.. Okay, routines aren't the best solution to pick up, then what is? I say natural game. Not only do you save time, but you learn to enjoy life, love your lifestyle, passionately be active in your hobbies, and be able to NATURALLY attract women. That means you don't have to fake yourself anymore and change yourself to meet women's standards. These will strengthen your inner game, confidence, identity, and much more. How does one become a natural? Mostly through trial and error. But I'm here to give you a boost with that. Enjoy. As I've mentioned in the intro, knowledge and understanding leads to natural improvement of a subject. I'll be giving you the knowledge you need about women AND the knowledge about how naturals view the world and how they think.
IV. Psychology of Women a. Women Love Sex
Okay, let's start off with clearing up the biggest misconception of all. WOMEN LOVE SEX. They are human too. They naturally want to have sex with guys. They really want it just as much as guys do. Shocking? I mean after all, we've learned in school that women don't like to be touched, they don't like to be teased with their sexuality, and that they only have sex with guys they feel are 'special'. They also teach that Guys are more sexual than girls and that guys are the more perverted ones. Wrong. You want proof? Look at girls. Honestly, look at them. How much make up are they wearing? How tight are their jeans? How nice is their hair? How fit are their bodies? Do you think it takes no effort at all for them to dress pretty into extremely tight pants and that it takes only a few seconds to get their make up perfect along with the stuff they do to their hair? I mean girls have this weird 2-hour thing they do every morning where they shampoo, condition, use straightening cream, dry, straighten, spray, and finish up. THAT'S just the HAIR! Imagine how long it takes for them to choose what looks good with what, how much mascara they should wear, the eyeshadow, eyeliner, the lipstick, lip gloss. Girls really have to put effort into looking cute for us guys. And ask yourself, Why do girls put in all this effort to look cute? Many reasons. Here are some big ones: - They want to get laid
- They want to be loved - They want attention Whoo!!! Starting to make sense? When I first found this out I actually felt really bad for women and I respected them soo much for trying so hard to get a few "You look nice today" comments. They really want a guy to love them and they really want to get laid. The proof is right in front of you. "But wait.. if girls love sex soo much, why do they rant so much about how sex is for sluts and how girls who have sex have no class at all?!!" It's very simple actually. I'm sure you've learned this already from the community, but the term 'slut' came up from women to threaten each other because the one who had sex may have stirred in jealousy, insecurities, and feelings of loneliness. It's EXACTLY like how kids call each other spoiled when one of them gets something more expensive for Christmas. Let's say Bob gets an X-Box 360 for Christmas and Joe gets a pair pai r of socks. Joe will get jealous and angered, so he'll say that Bob is a spoiled rich kid and that he's stupid. Well hey, let's say Mary gets laid by a guy and Katy sleeps alone that night. Katy will call Mary a whore because Mary got some action that night as where Katy slept alone, lonely and craving to be with a guy. So now you know. Girls call each other sluts out of their own pure jealously and insecurities. That's all there is to it and nothing more. b. Women Have It Harder Than Us
Many people think that women can get laid without any effort at all and that guys need to work hard as hell to even get anything at all. This belief my dear friend.. is bullshit. Women actually have it harder than us. And here's why: 1. They need to work hard to look good. (As mentioned in the above article.) and the biggest reason: 2. They are bombarded by the 'slut' deal. Women don't just have sex with anyone. They need to make sure they can trust their partner won't go around saying "Yeah.. she's a slut. I just met her five minutes ago and a nd she was really easy to bang. She has SLUT written all over her." Because think about it.. how many guys are considered AFCs when you go out? About.. 80% right? I'd say so. So that means the majority of the guys really don't understand what's going through a girl's mind because of the fact that they really don't give a shit and they just want some pussy. Well... if the girl just goes "Okay! Let's have sex!" in the t he first moments of meeting an AFC, what'll he think? "Oh wow.. Girls don't usually do this. Something not right here. Oh well... even if this chick IS A SLUT, I'm still getting pussy. Ohh man, I can't wait to tell my friends." Then he tells his friends, they call the girl a slut, word gets out. Now the girl's reputation is completely ruined because of wanting to have sex just as much as the guy did. Now do you see why it's VITAL that you show her that you can be someone who she will be able to trust? Do you realize what could happen to her if she just goes around having sex with anyone she finds cute? I thought you would.
c. Women Will Kiss For The Kiss
So now you understand how hard it is for women to go out and get some action. How do you think they feel about their situation? They are probably DESPERATE for sex. Heck.. they might even go out to a party, get drunk, and finally get laid. And end up making excuses like "Well.. I was drunk." But deep inside, they're happy as a duck. Their big desire to make love is finally fulfilled after all that tension was building up inside them. But should drunk sex really the only way for girls to get laid withOUT having to experience the slut effect? Of course not. Just remember, girls are always desperate for some action as much as guys and have this overwhelming desire. THIS is why girls have such a sexual mind-frame. THIS is why girls try to look as hot as they can without coming off as slutty. They really want a guy to just fuck the shit out of them. They want a guy who they can blame if something goes wrong or someone starts saying shit. But this is just a fantasy for them as much as it is for guys to wish they could just fuck the shit out of a cute girl. However, some fantasies do come true. A friend of mine and I went up to random girls and asked for a kiss. The girls that didn't have many friends around greatly complied. The girls that were running their own form of social game, getting value, being cool gave us funny stares and gave us kisses on the cheeks. Great, right? This was proof to me that girls are plainly sexual and that they will Kiss for the Kiss. It won't matter who it's with as long as the person she is kissing is someone who can amaze her just by asking for a kiss. She really wants that kiss. She just can't be the one asking, due to the slut effect. So ask girls to kiss! They'll say yeah! d. Women Want To Be Dominated Over
Branching off from the previous article, I'd like to announce the belief that WOMEN WANT TO BE DOMINATED OVER!! They just want to be controlled and lead on an experience of extreme passion and emotion. That emotion will probably be something such as the one from drama, humor, fun, pleasure, sex. You must understand that women are NATURALLY followers. They'll follow whatever leads them to having the biggest emotional sensation even if it's a pointless dramatic argument. Think about it. Isn't it only nature that MEN protect their families and lead them to a bright future and that WOMEN nurture their families while letting the MEN lead them through their amazing life? Look at families today even. Although there are some divorces, singleparents, MOST families have a dad who works and leads the family and a mom who watches out for the children. This is proof that women will be active followers, they will be active on whatever activity they are doing, but that activity will be decided by someone else, probably a man. I'm trying my best not to come off as a sexist. Please don't be thinking "Wow... women are pathetic." Because they're not. They're not better than you, but they're not worse than you. I'm merely trying to explain what NATURE has shown us within the past millenniums.
The point is.. that YOU are a MAN. and MEN need to be LEADERS. They need to LEAD WOMEN into an emotional adventure. a dventure. Don't rely on a woman to be making decisions. She wants YOU to make them. So if you want a kiss, don't wait for her to kiss you. You need to kiss her. If you want to date a girl, don't wait for her to ask you out. Ask her out. e. Women Respect Men More Than We Think
A big problem with many guys is that they're always asking themselves, "Why isn't she trying to kiss me or touch me or impress me!?" They think that women are being stuck up, bitchy, or harsh but in reality, they're showing a big deal of respect and validation! Once a PUA starts to recover, he will encounter this situation many many times. This is because he'll be at the level where he really can attract a ttract girls, but he just doesn't know what the next step is. When enough attraction is built, a girl won't do anything! Really! Some may come sit next to you, but they'll just sit there and wait for something to happen. The recovering PUA is doing the same thing. He wants his target to do something first. This is horrible because both people are thinking "Umm... does s/he really like me? Am I making a mistake?" I've mentioned in the post above that men are leaders. Most men need some validation before doing anything, well here it is. When women do nothing and are intentionally standing very close to you or sitting right next to you, they are trying to say, "Well.. you've officially woo'd me. Now what are you going to do with me? Take me on a fucking adventure." If you just sit there like a statue, she'll get confused and leave. However if you initiate fun conversations, ask her on a date, play little ti ckling games; she'll get exactly what she asked for. She wants YOU to lead. So when a girl does nothing but be close to you, it's not a sign of toying around with you, confusing you, or acting all stuck up. It's a sign that she respects you, she's attracted to you, and that she wants you to take her on an adventure.
V. Psychology of Naturals My definition of a Natural: The guy you see who always has the attention on himself, the guy you see who is surrounded by girls without even trying, the guy you see who is always al ways making others laugh and have fun. This is character I am going to talk about. Not the highly moral father figure, not the honest church goer. Enjoy your read. a. The Point of Life is to Have Fun. (Pleasure <- Ego Boost <- Survival Value)
What's your goal in life? Is it to get laid? To become president of the USA? Become a rockstar? Whatever it may be, there is one very important goal that everyone shares, and that is to Have Fun. Having fun is something that will naturally boost your value and make you more successful and happier in life. Here's why; Many PUAs believe society is based off of survival value and replication value. And that survival value is gained through ego boosts. Well, ego boosts are most efficiently gained through having fun and being fun!
What other way is there? Do you really want to have to 'manipulate' people and treat them like shit using canny negs just to boost your own value? Do you really want to go into a public forum that's trying to HELP YOU, and just act like an ignorant i gnorant asshole to everyone? Of course not. People want love. So what better way to boost your value (and others!) through having a good time? So just by having fun, you will naturally have a healthier life and become a more attractive person. Now, some of you may be thinking "Nice. So if I want to be cool, I just have to have fun?" Yes that's exactly it. But what is your goal in this situation?! Is it to be cool or really to not give a shit and HAVE FUN? Cool has soo many contradictions to it because some people say being overtly mature is the cool thing to do and others say maturity doesn't matter and that even acting like an immature 5th grader is fine as long as it's fun. So please don't focus on cool. Your subconscious mind won't be able t o act congruently with itself. Focus on really having fun. Fun is something that makes you smile and laugh and feel happy. It's not something that makes you want to be accepted in society or whatever. It's showing that you don't care what others think because you control your own life and this world is yours for the taking. Anyone that wants to avoid your world of fun is really stupid and much more immature than you. This is how the natural thinks. "So.. you're saying that naturals can have immature fun and still get laid?" Well.. yeah! As long as it's not completely annoying and repelling, it's fine. Many AFCs think that weird lawyer jokes are funny and that overtly violent video games are funny, like when someone's head blows off from a grenade. This my friend, is not funny to mainstream society. It may be funny to all the nerds, but as you keep improving yourself, you will start to notice why so many people think it's weird that you find such things funny. Why is this? Well you really have to learn to put yourself in other people's shoes. It's something that every natural knows how to do. They're thinking "oh wow. this kid is really screwed up. if he likes to blow people's heads off in video games, what are the chances he'll be a violent person in general?" And violence isn't fun. It's annoying, disgusting, and really pat hetic. So it's self-explanatory what exactly is funny and what's not. Please don't think like a retarded child, think like a normal child. This is really hard to explain in words, just please don't be stupid when you apply this concept. PLEASE DON'T BE STUPID. b. Lifestyle
Naturals have this lifestyle where they are always socializing with others. Always. This is why having "texting" is soo important i mportant and that keeping up with others through Facebook, Myspace, etc. is vital. They always have 5-10 people that they talk to daily as close friends, and another 5-10 people to talk with maybe a couple of times every 2-3 weeks, like people they've just met. If you have the ability abili ty to text, own a Facebook profile, whatever, DO IT. You're shooting
yourself in the foot by not talking with others when you can. Also, naturals are always making plans with people. They're always saying things like "Let's hang out soon." or "I want to see you soon!" They always have something to do. They're never just sitting and waiting for something to happen. They know what they want and they don't waste any time doing it. i t. If they're in the mood to hang out with a close friend, they'll hang out with a close friend. If they're in the mood to go on a date with a girl, they'll go on a date with a girl. If they're in the mood to just sit back and relax, they'll sit back and relax. They control their life. They don't rely on others to make them get what they want. They do it themselves. So remember, a natural is always socializing whether it's through texting, online, calling, or just simply hanging out with people. So start doing it! c. Natural Traits
A natural doesn't make sacrifices. At all. He always puts himself first before anyone or anything else in the entire world. He'll do what will benefit him the most, even if it will hurt others. This is why most naturals never pay you back for the $10 you loaned them. However if it involves something like killing someone, he will probably not do it because it will keep him from benefiting himself because the police would be after him. (self explanatory) He won't EVER change his beliefs for others. Once he makes a decision, he'll stick with it and won't give a shit what you think about it unless you're offering him advice as a true friend. He knows he's cool. He knows he's the shit. But he knows that showing off will make him lose his value. He knows that cool people don't talk about how cool they are. They don't talk about how much friends they have or how much pussy they get, unless it comes off as intentionally funny. He doesn't freak out. If he smells something bad, he'll ignore it until someone else brings it up. If he sees a waiter dropping a glass cup in a restaurant, he'll pretend like nothing happened. This is because such things are not important to him. He simply doesn't give a shit. He'll judge and say to himself "I better not hire HIM if I ever open a restaurant." But he won't make a big deal out of it like "Oh my gosh! That guy just broke a cup! Ohh man he's fucked now!" If he bumps into someone, he doesn't go "Oh gosh I'm sorry!" He'll say "Hey." and continue walking. If he spills some coffee on his shirt, he doesn't freak out and stop talking about his important story, he'll continue to talk just the way he was and simply dab something on the spill. It's just not a big deal. He doesn't get nervous about approaching people. He doesn't care if they like him or not, he'll get what he wants and if they act stuck up to him while he's trying to have fun, he'll give them the face that says "Haha, fuck you. I'm still having fun! You can't change me! Nananana-booboo." He will lie if he has to. The truth really doesn't matter for naturals. They just care about if telling the truth will hurt them or benefit them. So if they have to lie, they will.
He knows how to put himself in other people's shoes. He knows how others feel. He knows what to say, how to say it, where to say it, and when to say it. He knows that he will come off as creepy in some situations and he'll know exactly how to make it seem like he's actually the coolest guy in the earth. d. Personality
If you have not gotten the 'big idea' about naturals yet, it's the fact that they are very very egotistic. Some you may be thinking "Wow.. this i sn't natural, this is an asshole." You are wrong my friend. Think about every natural you have met that gets laid a LOT. He really is a bit of an asshole isn't he? I mean.. every natural I've met.. EVERY NATURAL I've met is an asshole in many ways. He is a really fun guy to be with and he's always giving off good vibes, but he's the type of person who won't care if you forgot your lunch and need some money to borrow. He won't commit to you. He knows people a little too well and the fact that the MAJORITY of people won't pay others back. There are the few that do pay each other back ba ck and are respected for that. But these guys are seen as 'suckers' when it comes down to the point where YOU yourself need some money for lunch. NATURALS AREN'T PERFECTLY MATURE, WISE, SMART, CARING PEOPLE. There is a big line l ine of difference between them actually. So many people have gotten naturals and alpha males confused with nice, honest, hard-working people. Being a nice and honest guy is really cool and many people will respect you for who you are. But a natural isn't him. A natural won't be the one who helps you up when you fall unless he's trying to show off 'how sweet he is'. A natural won't be the one you can truly rely on to do the favors that only true friends do for each other. A natural isn't someone you can rely on. He's egotistical and if there's no gain for him, he won't do it. But he's not thinking "I'm a big asshole." This is just the mindset he grew into, he can't help it. It just NATURALLY happened. He knows he's hot, he's awesome, and that he's fun. So here's what it really comes down to: Do you want to be an egotistic natural who happens to be a LOT of fun to hang around with and get lots of pussy or Be a generally fun person who has a lot more morality than a natural and still be able to pick up women but just not as easily as a natural himself? It's your choice. I am merely explaining the natural's psychology. e. Modeling The Successful
Naturals do what works best. Ever since they were little, they have been surrounded by opportunities that they took and figured out what kind of person to become. They were naturally generally successful in socializing within a matter of time. They stayed away from what made them look bad and always kept to what made them look good. They grew into this natural life of success in socializing since they were a child.
And even today they are constantly experimenting to see whether doing something will make them more attractive or less attractive. My natural friend got a girlfriend and told her in the start of their relationship that he was a virgin. After 3 weeks, he says "I've actually had sex 7 different times." This was a lie, but he convinced her and he hoped that this would make him a much more attractive person. Boom, they break up. He goes "aww this sucks. oh well, i've been wanting to date this other chick lately.. blablabla" and then he nevers says the "i've had sex 7 different times" line ever again. especially after saying that he's a virgin. The point is that NATURALS ARE STILL LEARNING. They always do what works and always avoid what doesn't work. My natural friend grew up on Fresh Prince of Bel Air during middle school. He would a lways use lines from Will Smith and always act just like Will. Will was a natural on the show. My friend was now a natural in real life. My other natural friend grew up with an older brother who was a PIMP. The older brother was his biggest influence. He acted just like him, used his lines, etc and eventually my friend also became naturally very attractive. All naturals model what works. They always do what's successful. This is probably the most important trait of the natural because it will NATURALLY make you become more successful in life.
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A Lesson In Confidence: OhMega We read Tuesdays Tuesdays with Morrie Morrie in my "Contemporar "Contemporary y Literature" Literature" class and for our final final project for that unit, we had to write a personal reflection on a lesson we leaned. Rather than talking about how I learned how to treat others nice and all that elementary school crap, I wrote about confidence. This is what I wrote: Confidence is something that lies deep within ourselves, a fuel of sorts that can propel us to do the things we must wish to do even when we fear the action a ction will be discarded, disregarded, or just plain ignored. A fear of not succeeding is when confidence would factor in to the equation. Our confidence kicks in and for a moment we are free, no problems, and you can do what you were originally afraid to do. When we can cut the strings that attach us to our most deep-seated worries, our strongest fears, and just let go. “A valuable asset that many do not possess, and wish they did”, is the viewpoint many have on the possession of confidence. A viewpoint that is possibly as wrong as it could be. Confidence is not something you can attain, such as the ability to lift a heavy weight, it is something that you must find. Everyone has confidence. Your confidence comes from your sense of self, what makes you, “you”. It is just a matter of finding your confidence, finding your true sense of self, which can be the most difficult part of your journey. Essentially, to be confident, you need to be who you are, and be happy with who you are. Be who you wish to be in every aspect. Not only will this give you confidence, but your self-esteem, which is directly related to confidence will increase, and the fact that you are living your life how you wish to live it, will only help you in accomplishing your goals. Find your confidence, become comfortable with who you are and who you want to be. Become that person, and be confident. The reason I appreciate this lesson so much is because when I was in eighth grade I did not have much confidence socially. I was confident in myself in respect to academics because I had good grades, but beyond school, I didn’t have much. Sure I had plenty of friends, but I spent most of my time being the person I thought other people wanted me to be. Deep down, my sense of self was not congruent with the image I was displaying to everyone else, and I wasn’t happy. Then ninth grade came along. It was a new beginning and I changed. You can probably tell by my outright cockiness and gregarious nature that I don’t really care what people think of me anymore. I have my own style, quite different from the athletic shorts and tee shirts wearing kids you see walking around most of the time. I’m different, di fferent, and I’m confident, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Beliefs: Aaron4Prez Beliefs are thoughts we make real.
Beliefs are a tremendous driving force for everything we do. Every essence of our personality, strengths, weaknesses, weaknesses, and inner game is i s derived from our core beliefs. Our beliefs make or break us and people don’t realize how important beliefs truly are. Nothing’s real until we make them real ourselves.
For example, think of a negative thought you have on a recurring basis. Notice that if that voice inside your head says, “yup that’s true, that’s real”, that thought takes like a liquid form and starts flowing down your body and that thought becomes you. Those thoughts own you in that moment. If you believe girls aren’t sexually attracted to you, you will unconsciously push them away, even if you don’t want to. You could be having an amazing time with this girl, but as soon as you get the thought of, “Wow, this is going amazing. However, it’s only a matter of time before I screw something up or make the conversation awkward”, that thought will materialize and happen. People have instinctual intelligence. Even though you can’t hear people’s thoughts you can feel these thoughts.
Do NOT try to impress women. When you try too hard to impress women, they will assume something is up. They think you are overcompensating for something that she won’t like about you. She’ll think that this isn’t the real you and this is just a façade to try to win or buy her romance. Face it; women want someone strong, confident, and not needy. As soon as you try to show her all the things you can do, she sees you as a needy wuss and will run for the hills. Think of it this way. In poker, there’s always one guy who gets those pocket jacks and he knows he’s got this in the bag. So he goes all in. Everyone sees this and folds. The pot never gets sweetened and the guy with the pocket jacks gets very little to nothing because the pot never got sweetened. If you tell her about all this stuff you have and can do and try to show her you’re good for her, you’re pushing yourself too hard on her and basically make her fold. You want her to go all in.
If they find out later, l ater, it’s better than you telling them.
Build a cool life and be adventurous and fascinating. If you do things to impress yourself instead of others and no one else cares about what you’ve done, you’re all right with that, because guess what. Only what you think should matter. No one else around you has the ability to judge you or the things you’ve accomplished because if you feel proud of it, no one should put you down. Do not tell others about your accomplishments to try and impress them. Not only does it say that you are extremely humble, but it shows that you have a great personality and don’t need a bunch of accomplishments to make others li ke you. No one likes the guy going around bragging he can bench 300. Everyone likes the guy who’s cool and humble and then goes to the gym and everyone sees him bench 300. The ability to love yourself and others no matter what happens is an ability that will take you tremendously far in life. Just for one day, find you’re self irresistible. Just think, seriously who wouldn’t love me?
Let your insecurities go.
Whatever sucks about your life...well, yeah it sucks, but guess what? You can’t do anything to change it. It’s in the past or going to be in the past and the only people who will remember it is you. Let these go. Let it go right now. But, only you can let these issues go. I could get on my hands and knees and beg for you to get over it, but you never will if you don’t believe that you can get over it and that it truly has no effect on your life and the way you live it. Life keeps on turning and it will keep turning with or without you. You need to stay out of the viscous cycle of pity and wallowing. LET IT GO. Look around your life and see all the amazing things about it. People have it much much worse than you everywhere you go. You’ve got it pretty sweet so don’t sweat the small stuff. Believing Is Seeing.
Seeing is NOT believing. That is i s the biggest lie. You see what you believe. Whatever you believe about yourself you will see. When you believe you are the biggest stud on the earth you will find examples of this all over as long as that is what you believe. Look at anorexic chicks. What do they believe? They believe they see a fat girl when they look in the mirror when in reality they are rail thin. It’s because they believe something to be true so they see it. Beliefs become real. It tricks the mind. Your beliefs are so real and you are the only one that can make them into reality.
There are tons of ways to change your ways of thinking for the better. A few of these are positive self talk and affirmations. Believe it or not, you are a re always talking to yourself. Always. Even when you don’t believe you’re you’re talking talking to to yoursel yourself, f, you’re you’re talking talking to yours yourself elf about about not not talking talking to yourse yourself lf . What people don’t realize is that sometimes your mind is telling you terrible things that not even your worst enemy would tell you. STOP THIS. Always, always, always speak positively to yourself. Even when faced with the worst thing, find the silver lining. Soon, your mind will change for the better and you will always have a positive outlook and never doubt yourself. Affirmations work. I don’t care what anyone else says, I know personally that they work. However, you need to believe your affirmations. When you believe what you’re saying to yourself you could say you’re the Queen of fucking England and still act like it because you believe it. Every day I tell myself these affirmations: Being with me is the best possible choice any woman could make. You are aggressive, direct, and powerful with the women you desire. You radiate a confidence, self-control and charm that women find irresistibly attractive. Women need me and I’m just giving them a chance to get to know me and enter my reality. If someone doesn’t like that, they should get the hell out of the way because there is an even better looking woman behind her who does want to spend time with me. Your mind is focused on what you desire. You go for what you want congruently and powerfully. And guess what. They come true.
Whatever you believe you will see. Always treat yourself with love and respect and you will get these back in return. Your life is whatever you want it to be, so why not reach for the stars and become something you’ve always wanted to be. Anything is possible as long as you BELIEVE it.
Psych on Being in State: Mandrake - Psych Psych: I don’t get it man, how do you always have this energy to you. You seem to always just be ON, always “in state”. How do I always stay “in state”? AFC Adam: Mate…there is no state. This was a part of one of our many conversations but unfortunately I never got to follow up with the logical reply. “What the hell does that mean?!” After every mediocre night, or when I was just feeling down when out doing anything, those words would ring in my head. “There is no state”. Finally I felt I understood and the rest of this article’s purpose is to explain my understanding. Whether it’s what he meant I have no idea though. When we talk about getting in state we mean getting into the zone. That feeling of pure confidence and uncaring, where we can do no wrong and all anxiety leaves us. It’s where we can truly be ourselves and act exactly how we want, without self doubt. This is something we all desire and seem to achieve for brief moments in field after warming up or getting success. The thing is though that this way of being, “in state”, is our natural place. We really don’t go “in state” we only leave it. This is the first real step to understanding this. Never try to get in state again…simply go back to your natural way of being. We use tactics for this such as acting upon our true desires and being congruent to it…such as opening direct or self amusement. By starting many conversations, and being talkative, it forces us to be in the moment and act according to our gut and not our head, or being “in state”. However there is no state, being in state is simply being your true natural self. The thing that brings us out of it though is self doubt. By eliminating self doubt you will always be “in state”. Easier said then done though I know! The way to do this though is by taking on a high value “role” and staying in that role. This seems to go against the idea of when you’re in state you are your complete natural self though. The only answer I have for this is it’s one of those zen things in pick up. You’re completely yourself while taking on this new role. A good example of this is the scene from 40yr old virgin where all al l he does is ask questions to the girl. While in that role, though without knowing exactly what to say other then a loose structure of ask questions, he is all of a sudden a badass. This eliminates all self doubt and lets you act completely natural in the moment, perform the role long enough and you start realizing that you’re no longer playing a role but that it’s now you. We actually do this all al l the time in field and it’s when we see our greatest success. Examples of roles I’m sure most of you have done are… -social experimenter -”alpha male” -self amuser -role playing with the girl as anything Along with any other role you’d like to try out! I did a challenge for myself to “be in state” for an entire week. The longer I kept myself “in state” (if I noticed I was out of it I’d do something to go back in) the more I realized the truth of all this. Eventually I just “stopped caring” eliminating self doubt and living
according to my new mental role. You say you want to be natural and not live according to some role? The thing is that no matter what, you’re acting according to a role you place upon yourself. Only thing is that the role you act according to now is not working for you and you don’t like it. Instead simply take on the role of the “attractive man” and live up to it. The only other thing after this is to be open to social feedback and adjust the role accordingly. For example you might take on that “attractive man” role but then become overbearing and never letting anyone else talk. By being open to social feedback you’ll eventually see this, or have someone point it out to you, and then you can adjust the role. While the role can, and always will be, changing and growing it eliminates self doubt since you will always act according to your role. If you’re the “attractive man” role for example then opening a set is a nonissue since it’s part of that role. If you experience negative responses then this just goes back to being open to social feedback and adjusting the role, however the role itself does not change. So how do you get started with this? First imagine your ideal self and all the characteristics that make him up. Experience how he sees the world, picture how he acts in different situations. Once you do this immediately just take on that role and keep it. If you have a hard time with this then imagine the coolest guy you know, whether it’s a friend, actor, or PUA guru. No matter what emotion you’re feeling also, feel that emotion in that role. This way whether you’re feeling down or low energy you’ll still act according to your ideal role and will still be free from self doubt…being “in state”. Finally understand there’s a huge difference from being in a role, and thinking of the role. When you think of the role you try to break it down. You see a set and ask yourself “OK what would a guy in my role say here…damn I got nothing!”. This is because you’re not BEING the role. When you are being the role you will experience the feelings of it and act according to what feels natural or what you wish to do, even if it’s a canned routine. By thinking of what the role requires you to do, instead of just going off of what feels right while being in the role, you immediately put yourself in a self doubting situation, once again leaving state. If you’re always the 10, the attractive man, the badass, the ideal self, or any other role in your mind then “state” is really no longer an issue. You realize there is no state…only your role. ----- Psych
Personal Experiences
Mandrake 05/04/09 Two Weeks Ago: A little caveat. This post is long, but I tried to make it a helpful FR, not a brag report. It’s worth reading....(I hope). Wearing -new dog tags (I have a story about how my sister who lives in Israel gave them to me, got them from her friend in the Israeli army) -brown leather, triple coil bracelet -bright, solid cyan retro fit t-shirt -slightly tight black jeans -black leather belt with cool buckle -white jacket type thing -three dollar silver cog shaped ring...made of zinc, not silver (I’ll try to post pictures later) I show up with a bunch of my friends. Guys/afcs. Not a good start from a mainstream PU perspective, but it was fine for me because I was only really there in the first place to spend some time with my friends. I didn’t even expect there to be many women there. I was wrong. I’m already in state, with a bright smile, because I’ve been laughing and adventuring around town for an hour with some of my boys doing funny shit. I warm approach a six and a seven, and I start kicking the night off with a canned DHV from MM, the best friends test, just to get initial preselection and turn them into pivots/pawns. [Pawning is approaching a set to covertly open the (hotter) set beside it] They fail the test (first time this has ever happened to me), then they say the best friends test is BS. I turn to the other two set that’s joined the circle of girls around me (preselection), and the test works, so I switch to natural, now that I’ve already got enough girls laughing that I can pretty much say whatever I want and recover from it without too much trouble. Soon enough, the ten that I’ve been eying with peripherals from the beginning opens me, (i.e. “Remember me?” ) and I see her from closer up and recognize her as a girl one of my friends was talking to a couple weeks before. I continue talking to the other girls for about thirty seconds as though I don’t notice her. This was probably not as cool as I thought it was, looking back now. I didn’t pull solid game on her and messed up with her that night even though she was my initial target (...I hate using that word for some reason....). She is deff one of the few tens I know. After a while of talking, she catches me off guard with, “I thought you liked Emma. Everybody thinks that.” Emma is an HB6 who I practiced some Style recommended technique on two weeks before, don’t remember which one. She goes to the same school as most of these girls and has been telling them that I like her. Fuck. When you are already seen as attracted to a girl in a social circle, the girls who are of higher value in that social circle will subconsciously label you as an undateable loser. That’s why when you only hook up with 8.5’s and up, you end up actually getting more even though
you have less to choose from. This catches me off guard, and I make some dumb comment that gives the frame: “No, no, I’m not attracted to Emma, I swear!” Really rapport seeking. Whatever. No such thing as failure, just feedback. I think the direct quote was “Eww, she was hitting on me last night, that’s why we all left that party. She was trying put her hands down my pants and everything. So I turned to [my friend] Gabe and said. “Yo, lezz roll.”” The vocal tonality made it moderately funny, but still, it was a really pointless and lame exaggeration that Emma will definitely get asked about. It just slipped out. I felt bad. Lesson: Keep composed in the face of huge shit tests. Don’t make up details that make other people sound bad. Always give value, I should have said, “Yeah, she’s really nice and cool, but not exactly my type.” Which is true, and afterwards I’d be willing to bet that her reply would be “So (ioi), what is your type exactly?” From which point I could easily ea sily start qualifying her. This HB10, I give up on for now, I know that without massive preselection it will be hard to recover. So that’s what I do. And destroying all probability, I find another ten at the same frickin party. That NEVER happens. Turns out it’s cuz it’s the other ten’s older sister. Score! Process for gaming the hot older sister: 1. Ignored her, made all the other girls in the set like me 2. Told a funny story that had happened to me that day 3. Stopped ignoring her, she told me her name, asked mine (IOI) 4. Used a Swinggcat line I like....I was feeling the canned one-line pebbles that night Her: “I’m Natalya. What did you say your name was? [I didn’t] Me: “Oh, Natalya, well I already know a Natalya...You can be number two =D” 5. Continued gaming, used a lot of Swinggcat ideas tonight but not that much pushpull...usually I do the opposite...I go natural but use push-pull in pretty much everything I do I’ve been with her too long without closing. I’ve already calibrated this part of my game. The window of opportunity is closed unless I create a jealousy plotline by gaming another hot girl in front of her. I leave her and do this for a couple minutes, then she comes and puts her arms around me as if to say to the other girls “My property. Trespassers will be shot.” I whisper in her ear, “This room’s too loud, let’s find somewhere to talk,” and lead her by the hand. She grabs my hand and holds on while I lead the way (IOI). She’s deff ready to be kissed. As I’m with her, one of my dumbass friends who I got into the party thinks it’ll be funny to play with a fire extinguisher. The noxious fumes clear out the room, and in the confusion I lose her. FML. But then, this HB9 who’s been giving me huge EC the whole night (Peripherals, guys, it’s key), comes up to me. I immediately interlock fingers with her in both hands then twirl her around as I lead her to another room. She’s already giving me DDB and I haven’t said anything yet. There’s still tons of people around.
Her: “I’m Sydney.” Me: “I’ll remember that, cause Sydney’s the capital of Australia.” Her: “Haha Sydney’s not the capital, Melbourne is.” Me: “Wow, you are soooo wrong. But’s it’s okay cuz I was wrong too.” [The capital is Canberra, yeah, I looked it up the next day] Keep gaming her, she puts up a ridiculous amount of shit-tests (lots of pull aways as I go for the k-close too, I just act indifferent towards them, as if I know that it’s only a matter of time and I don’t mind playing her little games). She’s clearly well calibrated from dealing with a lot of guys. I try to find a place without people, end up in a dim hallway. K-close. After a minute, she pulls the BF card. I look deep into her eyes. It’s forreal. I say, in my most hypnotic vocal tone: “Look, babe, I don’t want to do anything with you that you’ll regret later. When we do it ["do it"....what an ambiguous phrase...I love it]...I want you to be....tingling....for days after....for weeks....while you’re in class.....while you’re in bed......tingling...thinking about me.....thinking how good it’ll be...” READ RIKER’s THREE RULES. Google it. It DESTROYS LMR....I prefer it to freeze-outs. Though they can be used together. When she still doesn't want to (ostensibly), I let her go and continue gaming other girls. I assume it's just because she doesn't want her bf to find out. A lot of girls are pissed/ jealous/attracted cuz' they've seen me making out with her. Some kind of funny Seinfeldesque interactions with girls while I'm walked in on in the hallway with Sydney. The first ten, the one who's my age and who I messed up with, sees me too. ANYWAYS...My head’s not on right tonight, and it doesn’t even cross my mind to #-close the girls I game. Three times, Natalya comes up to me, giving me kino, and before I can isolate and close, her little sister pulls her away. Literally...Pulls. Not asks nicely, “Can you come with me for a sec?” Pulls. Hard. Finally, the little sis comes up to me, explains without me asking, Her: “You’re a bit of a flirt. Can’t have my sister hooking up with you.” Me: “Aww, that’s so cute. You’re like a momma bear [WTF does that even mean? Sometimes when I’ve gone natural, parts of what I say don’t fit...why would she be a bear? Anyway, people don’t catch little shit like this, so I guess it doesn’t matter] Her: “Yeah, usually I’m the one looking for guys, but tonight I’m kinda trying to look after her.” Me: “No worries, I like the protector personality thing you have going on. I’m the same way with my sisters.” [Connection and DHV --> “I’m a protector/I can protect her”] Her: “Sistersss?” Me: “Hell yea girl, born ‘n raised in a family of five children, three older sisters.” [DHV, Rapport] I game her a little longer, not the best game I’ve ever played but it’s not the worst either. For some frickin reason I don’t even #-close. Her or the hot older sister. WTF. The thought doesn’t even occur to me, I’m having too much fun being a social butterfly. And a lot of the girls add me on facebook, so it’s not a big deal. But these two tens don’t. And I don’t add them. Mutual Destruction.....Lame. Next party I see them. They’re in the crossheirs. [Not literally. This post is in no way
advocating the literal sniping and shooting down of women. Just the metaphorical.] Hopefully, this post has been helpful. For a while, I was strongly against FR’s but then I read some of Grape’s and found them useful. So I thought I’d try to jam-pack this with techniques and PU rather than bragging. The FR’s will get better with time. Hit me with some feedback. ~Mandrake I took a pic the morning after for that purpose, and I found it in my mess of files on my computer. The pose is lame, I know...
17/04/09 Party in a Park This post is massive. It has great bits and pretty off-topic bits. This FR is less game based and more ...life-based... than my last one. But this one is worth reading. My FB texts me. “Coome tooo __________ paark tonitee.” She’s actually an intelligent and deep person, though this text message doesn’t really show that. Bad feelings are anchored to this park. pa rk. I’ve been here many times during grade nine parties, during those weekends when nobody is willing to trash their house to host a party for their friends. I was an AFC then, and even worse, I was a pussy. Not the same man I am now. I’ve been rejected in this park....more than once. And more importantly, I’ve been mugged and beaten up by crackheads in this park. I didn’t tell anyone (No, they did not rape me, if that’s what you’re you’re thinking thinking ). I repress repress every every negative negative feeling feeling and memory memory.. Then I allow it to surface all at once, and reframe it. [The reframe process I use is from “Introducing NLP” by Joseph O’Connor and John Seymour. It’s like a reference book for non-seduction based NLP. Kinda like what you’d read in school. ] “I AM a different man now. I’m not an AFC. This is the proving grounds. The conquering hero returns home to fight his evil demons. [Part of Joseph Campbell’s Hero with A Thousand Faces...an essential read for the aspiring novelist]” The feelings are reframed...for now. I roll up to the party with 22 guys and two girls. I’m dead serious. Twenty-two... I called up a few guy friends. Told them to come over and went to the subway station. Each time we saw a group of people that I knew, they joined up with us. The crew kept snowballing. I lead the way by about ten meters. The girls are beside me. ^^^^NOTE: When you walk into any venue, the first image people have of you there will greatly impact how they think of you. This is a subconscious DHV. This is the definition of my #1 rule for DHVing: “SHOW, DON’T TELL.” They’re seeing me lea d a massive tribe, with both of the only two girls in the tribe on both sides of me. That’s powerful. The park is really far below street level and has a long staircase going down. At the top of the stairs, a crackhead in black leather l eather is getting a blowjob from a crackwhore in black leather. . . I have no fucking clue why everyone loves having parties at this park... The man’s wrinkled yet young face scares me. And when we get to the party, people who were already there before say that when they saw them, he was giving her anal. a nal. This guy is creepy. You’ll understand why I’m talking about him so much later. I see one of my close friends. She’s hot shit, about a nine, and very exotic [she’s the one person I know from Tonga...her last name is about thirty letters], but I never try to game her. She comes to my house every once in a while but she’s just a friend, and has been for a couple years. I give her one of the hugs I outlined in the second half of this post: http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/inde....ead=1532&page=1
She has to go to the top for some reason, back up the stairs. Her: “Can you come with me?” (Yes, even friends give shit tests) Me: “Oh please....but I DO have to go up there anyway to find Kate [a mutual friend].” She laughs. We have an ongoing joke about how usually when she asks me do something with her, I usually end up doing it, but I make it clear that it’s not for her. On the way up, she sees the crackheads. Through her teeth, she gives one of those loud whispers. “Jesse...Jesse....Jesse! “Jesse...Jesse....Jesse! Steer away from them. Jesse!” I move towards them and my hand is on her sacrum so she comes too. “Jesse...I hate you so much....” THIS MAN was my initial target for the night. To befriend the guy that I’m deeply afraid of. Crackheads are fucking nuts. And most of them carry knives. [I know the Toronto crime scene pretty well. A lot of my not-so-close friends are drug dealers unfortunately.] NOTE: I don’t smoke weed even though I go to 4/20 and Marijuana Marches. I’m the only one out of over a hundred people in this park. I know pretty much all of them. And my friends were the first ones to get into drugs, so I’ve had to deal with second-hand smoke since I was 12 but I’ve stayed strong. I know that you can get the same neurochemicals from romance and love that you can from cigarettes or cocaine. Just in higher doses. That’s why the crash from one-itis is so much harder than a hangover or even from the crash from cocaine. But that’s another post I’ll write la ter, with actual scientific references. Anyways, I choose love of women (the most dangerous and by far most addictive) over love of escapist drugs. I’ve seen the effects it has on people over long periods of time (my best friend is who I have in mind....he’s the one who made me want to get good. He’s not just a natural, he’s a supernatural. I was in a quiet, family bar with him one time and picked up a guitar from one of the guy’s there and got a standing ovation after his first song. He had sex for the first time when he was twelve...with the girl I had a secret crush on. He just turned 15 a couple months ago but he works at a bar using a fake ID. He’s lost count of the times he’s had sex and he frickin just turned fifteen. ... He curls fifty pound dumbbells. Yes...He’s frickin fifteen. He’s also gone from getting eighties in a hard private school (my school) to barely passing one of the worst public schools in Toronto.) Grape....this is the RocknRolla friend I was telling you about. ^^^^SUMMARY: ^^^^SUMMARY: Smoking will fuck you up. Back to the crackhead, I end up befriending him. A lot of people walk by and greet me and see me chilling right beside the sketchy crackhead. The look on their faces is priceless. I return back to the party, game like crazy, nothing canned, all natural, not really giving a shit about what I say, as long as I keep my subcomm right. Process for most sets: 1. Enter with one or multiple wingwoman/friend/pivo wingwoman/friend/pivott Make them laugh (use something canned if you want) Talk with balls. Talk sexually (the main goal here...I want to learn how to talk sexually in natural game, so tonight was all about calibration). Push the bar. Calibrate what’s “going too far”. And when someone says something you like, you high-five, or in the spirit of balls,
caveman and pull them in close to you, saying to someone else in the set, “This girl is AWESOME.” THIS IS THE PULL Whenever, a girl gives me a weird look or talks back (and I don’t have a good/funny/cocky comeback), I either do a five second back turn and talk to someone else (often about the girl who I just shunned, but loudly enough that she can hear what I’m saying about a bout her) or I put my hands on both her shoulders and turn HER around. Or I move in front of her, so she’s cut out of the conversation, and can only see my back. And I make sure that they know they’ve done something to deserve it. E.g. “I can’t believe you just gave me that creepy stare. I thought you were cool. You lose five points. [Then physically do something along the lines of what I said before]” <---Breaking rapport and creating tension is weird at first, but it’s something you really have to learn. It’s the key to natural attraction. David D recommends not smiling when pulling shit like this but I disagree. In HS, when in doubt, smile. or, if they give you that WTF stare (happens often), you smile and say, “I’m punishing you for talking back.” Very blunt. If you do any of these things right, they shouldn’t be deeply offended, they should either be laughing, thinking, “I can’t believe he just did/said that”, or they should have their jaw dropped, but still smiling, thinking, “I can’t believe he just did/ said that” THIS IS THE PUSH I would take one or two of them with me and enter a new set. There were a lot of people at this party and I wouldn’t have time to game everyone if I didn’t hop around from set to set like crazy. Wash, Rinse, Repeat the Process I actually didn’t get any pussy, really, not that I really care about pussy. As gay as it sounds, I’m in it for the emotions during sex, not the feeling on my dick. My FB who told me to come was there, but I’ve kind of lost interest in her even though she’s really hot. She’s got a lot of emotional problems (I wrote a two senctence description of her family life, then went back and deleted it cuz it was too depressing to post) and she compensates by being really uncontrollable and fucking multiple guys per week. It’s fucked up. She must have a schedule or something, I don’t know how she does it......And a road route, so she doesn’t have to double back if she misses a neighbourhood with one of her FBs. She is the definition of playette. ^^^^Moral of Story = Don’t keep seeing girls just because they’re really hot. You’re allowed to be picky. You can wait for the ones who don’t flake and who aren’t slutty. From now on, I’m only talking to her when she opens me. She opened me. We made out for a bit. We were in a park...it would have been gross to do more. Here’s what fucking annoyed me. When I was an AFC, there was only one girl who ever fell in love with me. A six who’s now an eight and a half now according to my friends who’ve seen her recently (tanned, grew boobs, braces off, new hair style and hair colour). Leah. Her circle of friends is fucking sexy. But off-limits. Three girls, all really hot, all girls I knew before they got hot. Except one. Alexandra. She’s a butterface without the butter face. A nine, easily, with pornstar features (Bubble boobs and bubble butt, tight torso). I don’t really know her too well even though I want to get to know her better. She has a really happy and effervescent personality. I’ve been trying to get with her for a while but I know
that Leah has “PROHIBITED” me. NOTE: This makes me the forbidden fruit. Women want what they can’t have even though it’s right in front of them. And it’s sexy. This is cat string theory also, in a way. I smell the booze on her breath from three meters away. Alex opens me. With a kiss on the cheek. Then the other cheek. Then my lips. I haven’t said a word yet. I pull back when she kisses me. I’m not gonna kiss a drunk girl, not when I’m sober, and not when I know that I can close her when SHE’S sober. She whispers in my ear, out of the blue, “Leah’s out of town this weekend. She’s in Thunder Bay with her family.” Women aren’t always logical. Just because Leah’s out of town doesn’t mean she’s not gonna hear about this when she gets back. The girl I crave k-closes me without me having to say a word, and I can’t kiss back. FML. Worst of all, I know that after this weekend, I’m blacklisted again. Then one of the other girls, a blonde who started doing coke and lost about forty pounds last year, opens me. Pretty soon, my nose is touching her nose while we talk. I’m not sure why I don’t k-close her, I think guilt for having already ruined a bunch of Leah’s friendships. (i.e. The first girl I ever fucked, almost exactly a year ago, give or take a month, and the FB who texted me about the party) pa rty) This girl is Leah’s best friend. Making out with her won’t do any good in the long run, she’s not a girl I can continue seeing. I go upstairs again with a friend to see her to a cab. She’s got to go home or something. As I’m on my way up, I talk to Keith the Coke Dealer for a bit. He asks if he can use my phone. He’ll pay me. He pulls out a quarter. I say, “What’s a phone call among friends.” I assume it’s a one minute call. He calls a bunch of clients. Each time, he says “just partying it up with my boy Jesse here,” which makes me feel slightly safer. Ten minutes later, I’m not so sure if my phone is ever coming back to me. Seriously. he’s a crazy crack dealer. But he ends up not stealing it and as I walk away, he goes, “Yo, Jesse uhh man, you mind, uhh, deleting those last five uhh numbers?” He went to the school my best friend is barely passing in right now. That’s what scares me the most. Lesson: Befriend those you fear most. And those who you fear least. Befriend potential AMOGs. Befriend potential muggers. One of Robert Cialdini’s Six Laws of Influence revolves around friendship. He won’t mug you if you’ve befriended him. When I go back downstairs. I continue gaming. I spend a lot of time with a girl who has an obvious crush on me. Part of me feels really sad about it, because as I get to know her, she’s a really incredible girl, but I’m just not attracted to her physically. She’s a six. Tall and thin, but weird bone structure in her cheeks and a bit of acne. Yeah, I’m harsh and picky, I know. How do you guys deal with that? I ended up just spending twenty minutes with her talking and not making a move. She knows me, and she knows that it’s not because I don’t have the balls to close her. She knows it’s her. I feel sad for hurting her feelings. There has to be a better way to let a girl know you’re not interested though you like her as a friend. <--- If you tell her that directly, in those words, she’ll just want you more Also, this girl at one point screamed out “OH MY GOD! EVERYBODY, THERE’s A DRUNKEN HOMELESS MAN IN THE PARTY!!!” Kids started throwing empty beer bottles at him. “GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE!!!” Seemed to be the unanimous agreement. It was barbaric. Savage. But everybody seemed to be into it other me. I went up to the homeless man, moving with consciously good posture, knowing that a lot of people were watching. “Don’t mind her, she’s a bitch. You can stay here if you want. I
can see it in your eyes; you’re a good person. You won’t hurt anyone.” NOTE: “I can see it in your eyes.” = Mini cold read “You’re a good person.” = I’m making him proud of himself. Now he’ll want to live up to my expectations of him. “You won’t hurt anyone.” = This is an embedded command. I used a different vocal tone and turned my head. LEARN NON-SEDUCTION NLP! NOTE: This is what you have to do to be a leader. You have to be willing to be the one person who stands up against a group mentality. You can’t contribute to the bystander effect (Google Kitty Genovese). You have to be a real Man and think for yourself, and live your own beliefs. And you have be more, because not only this, but you have to be congruent and comfortable about this. How to achieve this? CALIBRATION. Go out and try it. On Monday, a really intriguing speaker on biomimicry came to my school. I was the only one giving a standing ovation. And I cared that I was the only one. After several seconds, I sat back down, very awkwardly. But that’s calibration, because next time, I’ll be completely confident being the only one standing and clapping. I’ll already be used to it. No failure, just feedback. NOTE: This is also is a segment in David D’s On Being A Man, one of the first PU programs I ever watched. For that reason, it holds a warm place in my heart. I wrote extensive annotations on it which I’ll put in another post. This segment talks about how a real man looks down on no one, “gives everyone value” as t he Art of Charm crew would say I guess. [ Listen to their podcasts on value, most of their other podcasts are crappy interviews <----- Pickup Podcast, it’s on iTunes for free] Even hobos. It’s a very communist idea in a way. Everyone is equal. Everyone deserves equal value. But the truth is, the ones who give everyone equal/high value, are the highest value themselves. In On Being A Man, David D quotes a passage describing the real life character that the movie Gladiator was based on. It talks about how he treated the Emperor the same as the slaves. I really wish I could find that quote. Later, throughout the rest of the party, I saw other people, popular people, approaching and talking to Mark the Hobo. A sly grin perked up. It feels good to lead the way. I go home, alone tonight (meh, no biggie), and watch a couple Planet Earths, then head to bed around 3. PS. The whole next day, I got calls from people who needed drugs “and I need it bad man. When can I see you?” “.....Umm, Keith’s not here right now, can I t ake a message?” Still a fun day though....very fun. The FR for Saturday will be much more game-related. I’ll stay on focus. I pinky swear. ~Mandrake EDIT: Posted the Saturday LR, I think it's my best FR yet http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/inde....lay&thread=1589 Also, I won't be posting for a while...hopefully...I'm a nerd at heart, so school's really important to me, and lately I've been.....distracted.....so I have a lot of catchup work to do
In the meantime, party on, and I hope these FRs have been a help - Mandrake
18/04/09 One on One Deep Rapport This post continues from http://highschoo http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/in lpuas.proboards.com/inde....lay&thread=1544 de....lay&thread=1544 This was Friday :----> (http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/inde....ead=1588&page=1 ( http://highschoolpuas.proboards.com/inde....ead=1588&page=1)) [teeheehee ^^^ that arrow looks like a penis] This is Saturday. I filled this with powerful stuff. This is the most solid game I’ve played in a long time, and I’ve dissected what made it work out so well. It gets to be good, a real meaty post. Raise the curtains! The show is about to begin! Wake-up early, give moral support to the rugby team, even though I can’t play today because of an injured leg. I feel great. I’m totally in state. I deepen my connection with some guys from my school who are also watching the game. They’re really good guys. [Lack of popularity does not determine a bad personality, wealth of popularity does not determine a good personality. This is proof.] While I’m walking home from school after the game, I call Sydney. I just try to make her laugh, try to make her comfortable, don’t load up on any more attraction a ttraction gambits or else she’ll flake. I’m on a mission to annihilate her bitch shield, which I can only do easily once I’ve met up with her for a day two and can show another side of me. The comfort side. So she can’t flake. I call my friend who lives on my route home. Jack. “I’m outside. Open up bud.” “Alright man.” He used to be one of my best friends last year and I’d go over to his house during lunch breaks everyday, but we haven’t talked much in a couple months. I was going to give him the Game, tell him “you’ll take to it like a duck to water”, but then he stopped inviting me over. I’m not sure why. His family’s surprised to see me. I act a ct as if nothing’s weird about me being there after so long and just keep crackin’ jokes to remind him why he always liked hanging with me. Moral of Story: “FUN IS THE ULTIMATE ATTRACTION SWITCH.” ––– Sinn I talk with him for a while, catch-up, help him with his relationship woes. He still hasn’t got a peck on the cheek from his girl. His problem is not having a healthy sexual energy. Sex is all he thinks about, so he projects a creepy sexual energy. Him: “We’re really close, we talk everyday, she always starts the talking. She tells me everything.” Me: “She doesn’t tell you about when she masturbates.” Him: (Gives me a WTF look) Me: “Think about this. For months, she’s been attracted to you. You’re in Grade 10, she’s a niner. You’re the older man that she thinks about when the girls at school are having boytalks. And trust me, she masturbates, based on what you’ve told me of her, I’m 100% sure.”
“And when she’s masturbating, you know who she’s thinking of. She’s screaming your name, buddy. She’s fucking screaming for you. You see that image in your mind, right? That movie, playing, the images getting brighter and sharper in your mind. [I can see him getting a hard on] I want you to picture that next time you’re talking to her. Hear her screaming for you.” ^^^^ This is a technique from David Wygant. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j http://www.you tube.com/watch?v=jvcgyhAy9Ok&feature= vcgyhAy9Ok&feature=channel_page channel_page As I’m finishing the walk home (after I leave his house), I see a couple friends. One’s a really great guy, a good friend, the other’s a girl I used to be friends with a couple years ago. I game her, not even on purpose, but just cause I’m so deep into state. They come with me and I rent Swingers from a nearby Blockbuster. It’s one of the HW assignments in Real World Seduction that I never got around to doing: “Watch Swingers and make note of the body language of the main character.” Not worth watching, though I found it pretty fucking cool when I saw Vince Vaughan giving the first ever Triangle Gaze. Yes, this is where it started. I call Sydney on my walk home (She borrowed her friend’s phone for the day and texted me a couple hours before). A lot of gurus talk against calling twice the same day but that’s stupid. I’ll call her when calling her is convenient for me. That frame feels more alpha to me. And more convenient xD. Each time I call, I don’t talk about when I’ll see her next (like every other guy), and each time, because she knows I won’t, she asks if she can see me. Right then and there. And each time, I have the same reply: “Sure, we’ll hang out right now.....Oh shit, but I promised my friend I’d chill with him.” Or during the second call “....but I already made dinner plans with a friend..... I can’t just quit out on her last minute.” This is False Hope at it’s finest. You let her think she’s winning what she wants, then you pull it away. A specific form of push-pull, where you bait her into thinking she has a chance to be the victor of the interaction. But you know she won’t be. Also, notice how I said “her”. Generally, a woman’s mind will translate “a friend” as you, so you usually go “my friend ______” if you’re doing an opinion opener. This is different. Once you say it’s a “her”, she knows the “friend” couldn’t have been referring to yourself. AND MORE IMPORTANTLY, it builds a jealousy plotline without having to even game another girl. Jealousy plotlines are the keys to nailing nines and tens. It took me a while to figure it out, but it’s that simple (later, I figured out that AFC Adam (attractionexplained.com) had already done all the same figuring out...He’s awesome) ^^^^^Girls do this to guys all the time. I learned this trick from my FB who was at the park party in the other post. She does it all the time....with her though, it’s cause she just doesn’t want to tell me the names of all the other guys she’s with....Uggh....being promiscuous shows she has the experience to do it right, that she’s socially calibrated. It can be sexy....being trashy, easy, flaky, fucking every guy in town....not so much. I’ll need to spank her next time I see her. But MAINLY, I'm just keeping logistics in mind. I plan on her not coming over until ten minutes before the sunset. And that’s when she comes. I have a bedroom above my garage which I lead her to, seeing as how my entire family is home, and I caveman kino in the meantime, as if she were my girlfriend already.
Her: “So you’re taking me into a dark and sketchy garage. You’re not gonna rape me, are you?” [Shit test...she’s trying to frame me as a creep.] Me: “This is my dungeon, I’ll introduce i ntroduce you to all the other little li ttle girls [subtle neg, “other little girls” holds the presupposition that she’s a little girl...I didn't even do it on purpose to be honest] who I hide in there. I call them the lost children.” [Meh, what I said wasn't too clever, just goes to show, it doesn't take much] Her: “Oh reeaallly? (Sarcastically)” [Her shit tests are getting easier] I take her up to the room. She sits on the end of the bed, leans back, and clearly expects me to come over and start making out with her. Me: “Hahah, I hope you’re not trying to seduce me, I just came up here to get towels for our adventure.” [<----- PWNED! LOL ----My favourite role reversal] Her: [She doesn’t have a good comeback, so she asks] “Towels???” Me: “You’ll see.” [ <---- leaving mystery, being dominant] Then I rush her out of there. This is why I wanted it to be ten minutes before sunset. It’s still a bit light outside, so it’s not that sexual and she can feel completely comfortable in my room. Now she’s used to being in the bedroom with me. Makes it much easier to bring her back there later. Plus, I’m showing her I don’t want to have sex with her, which destroys half of her shit tests. DYD and MM covers this pretty well. I physically push and pull her (smoothly...don’t push her over) because holding hands is really lame unless you’re actually doing something cool now that you have control of her hand, and thus her body. The physical push - pulling when I have our fingers interlocking is very hard to explain, as it’s i t’s natural, always changing and always complex. Hopefully, some of you already know what I’m talking about though. I can't explain it. Halfway to the park, my destination, I come up with a good cold read, to show her a deep rapport side of me and pause the banter. CAVEAT: If you don’t have attraction, this will only point out in her mind that she does not like you, and it will come off creepy. If you do have attraction, this will amplify it and transition into rapport. Me: “You have three smiles, you know that?” Her: “No.” [I expected her to say “Tell me them.” but she's stopped shit testing me for the most part] Me: “There’s the one when you’re happy, and laughing a t my jokes (I show her the smile, she gives the smile back), there’s the naughty smile, when you’re thinking about how much you want me (I show her the smile, she gives the smile back), and there’s the one ..... the one you’re making right now.... the one.... where you’re thinking...about ....how....fast....you’re ....how....fast....you’re falling in love with me.” ^^^^ Hopefully you all understand how incredibly powerful that is. I stole the initial question from a chick flick I actually really enjoyed called “Win a Date with Tad Hamilton!”. It’s a romance movie, and my fucking g*d, do I love ripping off lines from romance films. Especially the classics, like Casablanca (one of my favourite movies in the first place). The actual smiles I described were the actual three smiles that she makes. And credit to Gay for the Love Method. I continued implanting it in her mind that she was in love with me the whole rest of the night (<---NLP IS NOTHING WHEN NOT STACKED) and this was how I introduced it.
When she calms down from her futile, giggly attempts at denying her love for me, she asks? “So [ioi], which smile’s your favourite?” I don’t remember my reply, but I remember it was nothing special. This is feedback to help me calibrate. Next time I use a similar kind of cold read I’ll add in, “.....and this one’s my favourite....” so that she can’t ask which one after. When we get to the park, I lay the towel out on the grass. I purposely only took one, and there’s no room for her. I’m lying on my towel, and she’s standing above me with a face that comes after a big PUSH (the cold read was my PULL). Jaw dropped, really turned on, smiling in disbelief as I take up the whole towel and she just stands there. I look up at her, C & F, and I go, “Fiiiiiine, I GUESS ( <--- elongated) I’ll move over.” My vocal tonality is as though I’m really annoyed, but I’m smiling. With the mixed messages in the air, she’s having trouble thinking of shit tests. I’ve shock and awed her, she has no f’ing clue what’s happening. So she just lies down on the small towel beside me. ^^^^^^ I’ve manipulated the events so that as I go into rapport building, we’re spooning. This position is anchored to foreplay and afterplay (the stage after sex..... foreplay --> play --> afterplay). Foreplay is when she’s making out with a guy. Afterplay is when she’s just had sex with a guy and extremely receptive to creating emotional connections and DnMing. These are powerful pre-anchors that I consciously try to make use of. [I call anchors that are in place before I create them pre-anchors. For example, a smile is pre-anchored to happiness.] ^^^^^^ Yes, I thought of this stuff all by myself. Yes, I’m very proud. We watch the end of the sunset, as I hold her in my arms firmly yet loosely from behind, like in every romance novel ever created. I run the cube on her. I have never used the cube before but interpreting random crap is my forté so it runs smoothly. I assume this is another lame ass cold reading game, even though I know how famous it is. I am proven wrong. It allows me to look deep into her personality. To understand her. Beyond the surface. Her small cube, big storm “thunder, lightning and all” “right above the cube” let me look into her mind, to see the woman behind the mask. A deep human being, not just a number, not just a nine. Then I cold read mercilessly. Also, for fun, I build a lot of tension by saying only “interesting, interesting,” as she answers questions from the cube. Me: (I stare at her and wait.....this is a nested loop, a tension builder) Her: “SO? What did it all mean!?” Me: (Pause five seconds, keeping eye contact) “....Oh, I just made that stuff up. It doesn’t mean a thing.” Her: (Half laughing, half shocked) “You’re such an aaaassshoooolllleeee!” Me: “Easy tiger, just playing with you,” (Then I explain the cube) By breaking the tension with laughter, I’m fractionating the tension because once I start reading her cube, I build the tension right back up. There’s a couple terms in cold reading (I’ll do a definitive cold reading post later, once I’ve finished reading Tradecraft: The Art and Science of Cold Reading) called Subjective Validation and Selective Memory.
SUBJECTIVE VALIDATION VALIDATION is the process of validating validati ng statements as accurate because one finds/is able to find personal meaning and significance in them. This is why the vague language of the Milton Model works. SELECTIVE MEMORY is the ability to remember certain events while having amnesia for other events. Choosing which memories remain. This is completely subconscious. (i.e. When you want to be right, they will forget the first few reads that you get wrong and their brain will actively SELECT the read you got right. That’s what they’ll remember. Unless they know about cold reading, the first twenty reads can be wrong and she’ll only remember the right one. Not that you should ever get twenty reads wrong. If you’re listening to the li ttle details in how she talks and you’re reading her subcomm, you shouldn’t get ANY cold reads wrong. If you do, you’ve been thinking too much and not listening enough. Also, cold reading is easier in HS. Most of the girls have common problems [See Chrispb7’s List of HS Girls Generalizations, I think it’s on his journal]. And other guys don’t cold read. The PUA is the exception to the rule. ^^^^ Now here’s the real beauty of it. Once you really peg her on one (or multiple if you really are gonna go intense) cold reads, then she will subjectively validate your FUTURE cold reads, even if they’re really, REALLY vague because she feels that you must know what you’re talking about to get the first ones right on and everything you say must be true. This is where we come in. Everything you say becomes powerful, especially if you’re using it to your advantage. So talk about how lonely she is (I pulled this off no problems even though this girl has a BF and a bunch of guys always trying to get with her), talk about how she’s falling in love (<--- Gay’s Love Method, I love it), how she needs a dominant man, who can protect her, blah blah blah. bl ah. Everything you say will be automatically anchored to you because you’re the one saying it to her, right then and there. You’ll be the one she’s thinking of, seeing as you’re the one she’s attracted to, and you’re the one who’s there with her at the current moment. This is also the time to start getting highly sexual in your language. Watch Deep Phone Seduction. Hypnotica and Steve P are by far my favourite NLP using PUAs. This program is an hour of Hypnotica having phone sex. When you dissect the principles behind his words, you can generate ‘patterns’ and hypnotic, sexual visualizations whenever you want. Naturally. Much much better than canned SS BS. Trust me. I also did some brutally powerful fractionated elicitation of values, I think I somehow learned it from UNG, even though I don’t have UNG. Either way, I tweaked it, and now it’s fucking intense. Remind me later to write a post on it. When I go in for the kiss, she holds my lips at her lips, pulling back: Her: “What about my boyfriend?” Me: [I’m really tempted to say. “What about your boyfriend? but I decide on] “Look...I already like you....you don’t have to keep making up stories of this invisible boyfriend of yours.” [This is the BIG push.] Her: (After calming down) “You don’t actually think that I made up my boyfriend, do you?” Me: (I pull her right into me, close and tight) [This is the BIG pull...literally] “No, I believe you. I can see inside your mind, remember ; P ?” She keeps holding her lips at my lips, pulling back and never really making out. Then whenever she moves forward, I pull back, in a playful way. We continue playing our little
games. Eventually, I decide to telegraph to her that it’s on, forreal this time. Me : (something along the lines of) “....You feel that warmth.....my lips....pressed against yours....my breath......in your breath.....my warm breath.....going inside you....deep....deeper inside you....our warmth....our mouths.......together....... two....together.....one.......two two....together.....on e.......two bodies....one entity.... (whenever I talk about two as one in my hypnotic rants, I take her hand and interlock fingers. It’s a symbolic and powerful anchor) ” -------> More crap ------> “I’ve been inside ..... your mind...... You’ve felt me......deep....deep inside....your mind.........I’ve mind.........I’ve been inside you.” Her: “I WISH......No, you heard that, didn’t you?” ^^^ That’s how powerful this stuff is. I replied to a bunch of her shit tests after the first cold read but before this ^^^^^ up above, by saying, “I can see into your eyes. I can hear your true thoughts. There’s no point hiding them.” After a while, she actually began accidentally speaking some of her thoughts. At first I thought it was conscious, and she was doing it on purpose as a joke or odd shit test or something, but then it kept happening, and I could sense in her subcomm that it was the real deal. She didn’t shit test me or pull away again. I’m just waiting for a little while to bring her back to my place because I don’t want it to seem like I’m really excited and jumping onto the opportunity now that she’s said “I WISH”. Continue fractionating my EV method. Then: Me: “It’s gonna rain soon [No it’s not. I already checked the forecast when I was planning logistics]. Let’s get out of here.” [Notice how I left out the “so we can go to my bed and fuck like rabbits”, even though we both know that that’s where we’re headed.] This is logistics. Planning ahead. Knowing that you’ll have a place nearby, so that t hat when the time comes, you can go where you need to go. A warm bed. “"A noob thinks about what to say, An intermediate thinks about how to say it, A playa thinks about where to do her." Johnny Wolf As we walk back home, Jack calls. Him: “Yo, you wanna come hang? I’m at BShack (Burger Shack)" Me: “.....I’m kinda busy right now, I’ll call you back in three hours.” Her: “Oooooo, three hours? ” (She’s giving me her naughty smile) As tempted as I am to break down my sex game/technique, I feel like it would get kind of....innappropriate...... On AIM, ......Maybe........... After I walk her home a few hours later, tons of playful teasing and a nd pull aways whenever she moves in for a makeout. She starts to press me up against walls and fences, so I have no where to pull back. So instead I put my palm on the back of her neck, and spin her around fast and hard, like you would in rough sex [See the movie Basic Instinct for inspiration on rough sex moves....they can be used in foreplay and afterplay too]. Her adrenaline goes through the roof. Now she’s the one pressed up against the wall. I make out intensely, pull back, give her my most sexual stare, then keep leading her home. I don’t go up to the house door with her and wait and watch like a chump while she goes inside. I leave her at the closest intersection to her house, and I don’t look back, though I can see with my peripherals that she was watching me walk off. I pull out my phone and
call Jack. She’s still watching. On my way to see Jack and the guys he’s with, I see a circle of girls smoking, sitting on the empty road. The one guy with them is a good friend of mine, another Jack, but very, very different. He’s a ten on the value scale, really ‘alternative’ personality, knows all the cool places, all the cool new and old albums and songs. Great guy. The girls are REEEAAALLLY high, so I don’t game them, just chill out and enjoy the music (Hippies and stoners generally share my taste in music....not crack addicts for some reason, they al ways like dance and techno music the most....I don’t get i t....). The girls are two years older. It’s 1. I go over to the first Jack’s house and stay there till 2: 30. I’m proud, that I’ve been able to rekindle my close friendship with him and that I’ve followed through on my “kiss, don’t tell” policy. When he asks what I was doing, I say I was with Cole, one of my guy friends (The supernatural I talked about in the other FR). Another night of going to bed smiling since I found the community.
Hopefully this post helped A LOT with your one on one rapport game. This was a HUGE sticking point for me for a long time. I tried to really break it down and make it one of the better FRs out there. ~Mandrake PPS. I'm not an amoral ass who pulls this intense shit on every girl , I only do it to the girls I know I'm gonna like. This girl listens to jazz, likes old old movies, lives two blocks from my house, and is easily a 9 on my standards. (I’ll post pictures pi ctures later, even though she posts the grossest frickin pics of herself on facebook...) *Later* Haha unless you're Ross Jeffries or one of his followers, then NLP isn't meant to be creepy. The key is being congruent. And only doing it when it's one on one. It's really just a change in vocal tonality and a few other little tools, to make every word hold more meaning and more sexual undercurrent. I remember Grape saying he uses NLP a nd chances are he lives in the states. And for sure bud, though I'm trying to re-focus my energies on school till exams are done at about the middle of June, so I won't make false promises to be online too often. We'll deff talk sometime though and here's a couple pics. Yeah, she posts pretty gross pics on facebook. I don't get it. These are even some of the hotter ones. But meh, more just to put a face to the name for you guys.
Darkpwns 5/17/09 Got out the AIDS walk a few hrs ago...I went with two girls and a third girl joined us about thirty minutes later since she lost her group and one of the girls was extremely outgoing (new girl was ungameable...HB6). Overall the walk was extremely fun, enthusiasm was present in spades and everybody was handing out free high fives, myself included. Didn't actually do much gaming....I know that's not the point of the walk but there were so many girls I couldn't help myself from at least attempting it...couldn't really game anyone outside of the set I originally came with though. I'll recount what happened I'm wearing: A Black I love NY T-shirt This cool bracelet I got from H&M A cross necklace from American Eagle Dark Blue Bootcut Jeans from American Eagle (yeah...I don't like American Eagle jeans anymore but I needed jeans to walk in that still looked decent, all my other jeans are too tight for it). Black DCs So basically my father drove me to the walk at around 9 'o clock AM, once there I got a text from this girl (who I will call A), and she told me which team she was standing by so I wandered around seemingly aimless, looking for the girl. On the way there I saw a pretty cute girl (HB7-8) with an I love l ove NY t-shirt on so I opened her with: "OMG We're TWINS!" (I think this opener is pretty decent...if you see anyone wearing anything the same as you are, try it out) She replied "Huh? OMG YEAH!" I stuck my hand out for a high-five to get some kino going pretty early on, because I didn't have time to sit and chat. She slapped the hand...it was a weak five. "What was that? I KNOW you can do better than that I mean c'mon." She went for the five again, this time i moved my hand away and said "Gotcha!"(this was a light push and it also presented me as a fun, joking kind of guy). "OMG you're so MEAN!" she pushed me lightly (this was an IOI but that's obvious). "Yeah, I totally am. Where'd you get your shirt anyway? I stole mine from this weird guy that was stripping down to his boxers a few blocks back" *sniff shirt and pull back like I smelled something dead* "yeah, I think I'm gonna give it back it sorta reeks" (I actually had used this Versace Cologne that smells AMAZING check the bottle out here: http://www.tuccini.com/mainstreet/for http://www.tucc ini.com/mainstreet/forms/....6b-82542e200dac ms/....6b-82542e200dac and whenever you pass by a fragrance shop look for it, its definitely worth a try and it isn't very expensive either.) The girl seemed a bit confused at the joke, wondering if it reeked why I wore it (yeah I sorta DLVed myself, I realized that a bit later but there was a method to my madness). She came into my space and took a whiff and said "Ooooh you smell GOOD" and then took another giant whiff. "Whoa there! I don't just let anyone sniff me...first I need to know your name" she told me
what her name was, then asked for mine. "My name? I'm Ho Chi Minh, nice to meet ya" she looked at me like I had something stuck on my face, then bust out laughing (I'm not Korean...nor Asian...I'm black so lol). "What's your REAL name?" she asked. "Honey, that IS my real name...but you can call me James, you know if you can't pronounce my real name and all" once again she laughed, but I was out of time. "Hey, it was AWESOME talking to you but I need to find my friend...you know what? You can talk to me on facebook, then stalk me on twitter...here" *i stuck out my arm and a pen and she wrote down her facebook on it while saying that I make her laugh too much* After that I walked around till I met with A, she had a friend with her (who I'll call S), I can't game A (childhood friend thing...awkward), but S was extremely gameable (HB9), I had A introduce us and S reached for my hand (girl giving a handshake...wtf?) so i said: "Um, we just met and you're already hitting on me? I think I like you," *wink* "keep it up and we could be friends" (in hindsight this was WAY too strong for a first sentence but she laughed at the comment.) =======What =======What I like about warm approaches is that the person who you are approaching has a general idea of how you are because of what the person who introduces you says, because of this you can go with riskier openers so long as they are congruent with everything else you do.====================== do.====================== We start walking around 10:25 AM and S is touching me while she's walking (i.e.: brushing her arms against mine, when I'm in front of her she puts her hands on my shoulder pushing me and saying "move faster", which was seeking rapport from when i told her she was a turtle when we started walking). S and I got to talking fluff about school to pass time while A texted her boyfriend on her phone and I got a text from a girl who I neglected to respond to on friday (went to sleep and forgot I was talking to her). The girl wrote: "Hey, what happened you never replied back, are you going to come to the show on monday or not?" (She has a performance on the 18th and she got a ticket for me to go see it). S proved to be a nosy girl and looked at the message: "Ooooh a girl? I heard you were a player..." she said. A is aware of the amount of girls I talk to...and as pre-selection goes she thinks I screw all of them,she probably told S all about it, but in truth the majority of them are LJBF. Fuck. I saw this guy in front of me with a gay flag Dr. Seuss hat and a plan formulated in my head. I went up to the dude and asked if I could see his hat really quickly, which he agreed to. I went back to her and said "Yeah, I'm an awesome player...my real identity....well its actually," *puts on hat...not firmly...lice or w/e the dude could've had aren't attractive* "FLAVA FLAAAAV!" i put a big cheese grin on my face and S stepped to the side of the path and bust out laughing...she laughed so hard she ended up on the grass....I didn't think it was that funny, but I like role playing. "Oh come aun New Yahk, why you on da flo' fo'? Come get dis chain" I said imitating Flava Flav's stupid manner of speech. She got up a nd i put the AE necklace around her neck. =======Role-playing =======Role-playing is extremely useful in dealing with girls, because girls are very
dramatic creatures. Guy humor which involves making fun of people don't hold the same weight with girls, the best way to do female humor, in my opinion, is role-playing. The thing about role-playing is that you don't tell the person "So yeah, I'm going to be Flava Flav and you're going to be New York," the joke won't be funny if you do. Also the necklace became a lock-in prop, though I didn't exactly intend for it to be that...I was just going with the flow of the role-play. Lock-in props are generally used in club game (thus why I didn't intentionally use it), where you give the girl something to hold onto so that way if you wander away she'd try to find you and give it back...or stick to you like glue. In this case the lock-in prop made S stick to me like glue (she had to, the AIDS Walk is PACKED, get separated and you'll never see the person again).==================================== So now I'm walking with A and a nd S with S standing right next to me, I catch her throwing glances at me every time she thinks that I'm looking away and A spots this girl on the side of the path looking lost. S goes up to the girl and they talk for a bit and S integrates the new girl (C from now on) into the group because she lost her's. C wasn't really much of an obstacle though she kept interrupting me while I was in the middle of a thread, which got pretty annoying. Somewhere near the half-way mark S asked for a piggy-back ride...and for once I analyzed what was going on...the piggy-back would be jumping through a hoop that I wasn't ready to jump through without some physical exertion on her part. I told her I'd give her a piggyback if she gave me one first, she tried...she really did. I told her that she failed the test, so I'd only give her a piggy back for one block and it'd cost her 5 points. She wasn't willing to give up 5 points and asked if I could bring it down to one point if she gave me her number, I ignored her and pointed out a hot dog stand. =====She wanted to give me her number but in order for me to do that I would've had to do something for her. The point system isn't exactly something physical, but if I'm willing to change something just to get a number that I'd undoubtedly get anyway she'd think "What else can I get him to do" and she'd lump l ump me in with any orbiters she has...that's not where I want to be.===== At the hot dog stand she asked for me to buy a hot dog for her, which I declined, but offered to get her a water instead, she accepted my offer. ======I haven't jumped through any of her hoops for the whole two hours and change that we were on the AIDS walk at that point, so I figured I'd twist one of her hoops in order to make her feel like she was progressing with me and not lose that "hard-to-get" status at the same time.================================== We walked down the block and there was this group doing Capoeira, S jumped into the group to act like a fool before I could and A held me back from going in with her. A pulled me off to the side. "What do you think you're DOING?!" she seemed to be upset with the fact that I was gaming her friend...but I know that A thinks of me as a player so her concern was in her mind, well placed. "I'm just having fun..." "But you're flirting!" "Look, I think your friend is cute...she seems to be enjoying my company and if she wants
me to lay off its w/e I'll do it, but you need to trust me a little more...isn't that what best friends are for?" I felt bad about using that line, but I wasn't really thinking much and I took the low road...guilting her into letting me continue gaming S. After S got done thinking Capoeira was an African Dance C started blabbing on about how awesome S was, to be able to just go in and dance with people she didn't know. I took that time to DHV myself and went to chat up other people in front of us. Bad Idea. When I went to demonstrate I was a really social guy most people blew me off and only a few actually let me chat. I couldn't integrate people into our group as they had their own. On top of that I had to keep track of my group, so I ended up waiting on curbs looking for them to pass by. So by trying to DHV myself I ended up DLVing myself. I gave up DHVing myself and just stayed with my group. We passed by this radio station that set itself up at the half-way mark and it was playing a song called "Boyfriend #2", I generally don't like R&B that is all about sex but I saw S bobbing her head and said "OH MY GOD THIS IS MY SONG!!!!" *just like the guy in the Dance Flick...i like li ke references to movies* then i grabbed S and said "we're dancing...now." There was a wall bordering central park since we were street side at that point. I led her to it and turned around and stood up against the wall while I put her right in front of me and put my hands on her hips...like I expected she started grinding on me...I never got a dub right in the middle of tons of people before...the experience was pretty cool. ==============Doing ==============Doing something like that without extreme attraction, good rapport and steady kino escalation isn't possible. In this case I knew she was invested in me and also I knew that she had an outgoing personality, I rationalized my idea that way. All in all it was a risky move and I'd probably have felt like shit if it didn't work out because her attraction levels would have plummeted and all my hard work would've been for naught. I took more risks today than I ever did in the time I've been learning the game. Its something I hope I don't repeat...calculated, tight game is better than risky, whimsical game.============== A realized that we weren't with them and came back for us...when she saw what was going on she smacked me on the head and called me an idiot. Yeah. Whatever. I didn't want to piss my friend off anymore, so I calmed down on the escalation for a bit and decided to walk with S with my arm a rm around her shoulder. I talked to S about sexual topics now, asking her if she was a virgin, what she likes, li kes, things like that. After I was sure she was in the sexual mood I had her do some word association to figure out her fantasies. =============Now =============Now at this point I was working with 3 and a half hours of gaming this one girl....attraction through the roof, if I could've had it my way I would've closed her and moved on...but I couldn't...this was a negative side to the AIDS walk============ walk============ I realized that I had been messing up the whole time, which was why I was losing threads to talk about...in fact I was shocked I managed to keep them refreshing for as long as I did...I was sticking to my target....I wasn't giving anybody else in the set enough attention, at tention, I fixed this at once and started a fluff conversation with C, she actually turned out to be a cool person, I AIM closed her. Another LJBF, I love LJBF girls. I then went on to talk fluff with A about her school life, then t hen asked how her and her boyfriend were doing (my friend wants a shot at A, so I'm always looking out for him...and her boyfriend's a chode). S was getting annoyed with the sudden abandonment and when A and C went to get Doritos
at this rest point she asked me if I liked her. I went up to her and put my index finger under her chin (I learned this from reading The Adventures of Brad P), and using my index finger I brought her face closer to mine and kissed her. "Yeah, you're a cool chick. I like ya *wink*" is what I said after I released. =============This =============This was actually the first time I pulled the trigger in day game.....EVER! Even when I was good at day game I never had the guts to do it...but then again I never had hours to work on one girl. Even so, this is a huge breakthrough in the confidence department for me. Once again, this is all about calculating her attraction levels l evels and following the escalation ladder, kissing was the only step I didn't get to besides for sex.============================================= "OMG OMG OMG! You just KISSED ME!" she was like....freaking out...it wasn't really a bad freak out, like she didn't hit me or anything and besides....she kissed back. "Yeah....I did." I was struggling to make my voice sound nonchalant, my heart was actually pounding so hard I couldn't take it and my stomach was coiling up into knots...for the first time that day it occurred to me that I may have messed up. "That was the LAST thing I expected to happen today," I was actually thinking that I had thrown it all away and then I remembered a post on this forum. It was Chris' no fail K-close. I brought my face really close to hers and she closed her eyes and poked out her face for another kiss. This time I didn't kiss her, instead I plucked off an imaginary eyelash off of her face. "You had an eyelash on your face...the expectant type aren't we?" I was now 100% sure that I didn't mess up the attraction. ========Chris' ========Chris' K-close is designed to actually get the kiss without failing...it works too, but it can also be used backwards like this. If you aren't too sure if you went to far by pulling the trigger too early, you can always try it this way...if they pull away from you....well then its back to building up attraction, though it would be hard at that point since they will perceive everything you do as hitting on them.============================================ After A and C got back to the group I pulled S off to the side to have a some more discussion with her before I went back to ignoring her. This time it was her hammering away with the sexual questions. She asked if I was a virgin. "I'm a born again virgin..." is my standard reply to that question. "What? Why?" was the response I expected, and she delivered. "I got raped by a chocolate donut when I was twelve....*shudder* it was horrible" this is one of the few canned things I use...I canned it myself, I think its pretty funny and everybody has laughed at it so far. "No but really...are you?" I told her I wasn't and brought her back into i nto the group before she took away all of my mysteriousness. The rest of the walk was pretty uneventful, except for grins passed between me and S we
didn't speak much till we reached the finish line 45 minutes later. At the finish line I asked for her number over an Ice Cream cone, while A was busy wading through the line to get her free cone. While I was saving her number in my phone my father called me. My mom couldn't find her car keys...that was annoying as I had put her keys on the counter and they were right where I left them when she looked. I checked at my contact list and S' number wasn't there as I hadn't finished saving it. FUCK. I didn't really know if asking for a number again seemed needy or anything so I just said "tattoo me" and handed her a pen and my arm...she a rm...she put down S & J "AIDS Walk Homies!" and then her number ad AIM down on my forearm. Smart girl. I walked S and C to the 57th street train station, then waited for my dad to pick up A and I. At that point I remembered I was signed up for the confidence webinar. I rushed home took a shower and went to the mall to purchase a mic...and I didn't save S' number or AIM....yeah silly me. A few minutes into the webinar I got an IM from a random girl and I didn't know who it was at first...when I asked she said it was S, she had gotten my AIM from A because she wasn't sure if I would msg or IM her...how right she was (though not because I didn't want to). All's well that ends well. Overall, this was my riskiest game ever, but outside of school game it was also my most succesful. I hope I didn't brag too much as I tried to make this as informative as possible, hence the length. ~Darkpwns
5/21/09 Today I had a pretty nice day, went out with my friends, saw a movie and had fun with a girl....yeah...pretty interesting. Day Starts Out ---------------------I woke up later than usual, it was like....7:30 when I woke up and school starts at 8:15. I knew I wasn't going to make it to school in time for first period. FML. So I hopped in the shower, brushed my teeth, tamed my curls, and put on my uniform. I go to school in Manhattan and live in Queens, the ride takes 45 minutes on average. I never game on the train...I should but its just so tempting to sleep. I got to school at like 9:10, missed first period...yeah I'm totally bad ass. Second period is my vocal class [on mondays, wednesdays and alternating fridays...the other days its dance...I go to a theatre arts high school], talking opportunities don't exist, I ran non-verbal game with the girl singing next to me, teasing the cute face she made when she hit a high note. =================================================== Non-verbal game is AMAZING, its mostly to get laughs, after all you can't say anything really deep without saying anything (body language is a big portion of non-verbal but that's not what I'm talking about right now). With non-verbal game you can do things that would otherwise be offensive or just can't be put into words. Naturals can game a girl from across the room if they have to t o and naturals are who we seek to emulate when we interact. ==================================================== Third period I have economics and my teacher moved me to a desolate corner a few weeks back for talking. I can't speak in this class either, so I send texts to two girls [Jairy (who was girl in vocal class), Amanda (who is LJBF zone)] and use one of my friends (Eric) as the messenger for the fourth girl (A few days ago this friend wasn't a friend at all, he was a huge AMOG and I had had an intense battle going on with him for a few weeks, just two days ago he came up to me and asked "Hey James, we're friends right?" and I told him we were...I couldn't beat this guy in an AMOG battle, befriending him was the only solution), I knew that Eric being the funny guy would twist every message I sent to him and I was counting on it, for some quick laughs to get me in a better mood. Jairy informed me of drama going on within the clique that she and I were a part of. Drama sucks folks, I don't know how people can immerse themselves in it...I'd fucking kill myself before I would. I figured the clique mediator would smooth the drama out. More on this later. Eric had managed to turn a "ew why do you have that stank face on" into "I love you so much Jasmine, I want you to have my babies"...good job. Jasmine isn't really hot, she's like HB7 (only two hot girls in my economic class, Jairy and this girl Lourdes), but she's really loud and she's the clique mother of one of the cliques in my social circle. I like to keep up with what's going on in my social circle. Jasmine shouted out loud "JAMES YOU LOVE ME?! AWWW" I replied to Eric "yeah its great we're friends" he changed it to "yeah, now let's fuck like animals" (i used this line later on today too, it was great).
"WHAT THE FUCK?" this time everybody started laughing...her random yelling is freaking hilarious, I finally got myself into a euphoric state. This time I texted her directly: "Thanks for the laughs Jazzy but you're still friend-zoned ;P", she replied that I always confuse her. Nothing else happened in third period. ==================================================== Running text game in class is risky, and you miss snippets of the lesson that might be important but it gives the girl the feeling that they're being rebellious (I only ran text game on Jairy). The messages were sent to Eric unaltered because he's funnier than me and he wants to mess around with Jasmine (He's already messing with other girls), so once she found out that it was him just altering stuff they could transition into an easy flowing conversation about it, and he could transition into other threads. I look out for my boys. ==================================================== Fourth period is US History....that class is without a doubt the most boring class ever, but its debate heavy. I l ove debates. I didn't game anyone during this class as running text game in this class has more negatives than benefits and I was too busy debating whether dropping the atomic bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki was something that needed to be done and whether a 24 hr warning detailing the destructive force of the atomic bombs could have forced Japan to surrender without actually having to bomb them. Fifth period is my math class but we had a substitute teacher so I hung out at the freshman/sophomore freshman/sophomore lunch period instead. This is my playground, I test everything out on the freshmen and sophomores its amazing how receptive they are to the stuff. I sat down at the table of an HB8, HB7, HB8.5 set that I've been talking to for the past few weeks. The HB8 had been looking for something to tell me since Monday since I had cold read her. She decided to tell me my future. "You're going to be walking across the street, then you're going to see a fine girl and go 'DAAAAAAAMN' and stare at her ass then you're going to get hit by a car," wow...violent much? "I'm going to be having sex in the middle of the street and get hit by a car? What? Why would would I have have sex sex in the the middle middle of of the stre street? et? Girl Girl,, you'v you've e got a twis twisted ted mind mind " ==================================================== Mishearing things is very powerful (and its freaking funny), if you act like you misheard something you can turn anything anybody says into something dirty. If you turn what they say into something dirty they begin to think dirty as well, and the next time you say something which could have a double meaning they'd call you out on it. When they call you out on it, accuse them of having a dirty mind and that they shouldn't be thinking about you in such a way. I love doing that. ==================================================== She says that's not what she said. "Yeah, suuuure you didn't", the other girls at the table echo "Suuuuure you didn't" [Haha I own these people], "Ok now I'm going to tell you your future *put my hands out and she lays hers on top of mine*, OMG I'M GETTING SOMETHING! *act like I'm receiving a prophetic message*, Miss Cleo told me that you're coming with me." After this I attempted to isolate her to back staircase where I could kino escalate fairly quickly without her friends interfering.
On the way to the back staircase all these girls stopped me and gave me hugs, giving me buckets of pre-selection...like I said, my playground. When I got her to the staircase she asked why so many girls liked me (I have no idea really...I'm sick at social circle game?), I shrugged. "I give them peanut butter and banana sandwiches" [<<<< This is my favorite sandwich, but I used it to test where her mind was at] "OMG that's soooo nasty, why do you have to think like that?" [A lot of girls always think I'm talking about my penis when I say peanut butter and banana sandwiches...I mean who would put peanut butter on their penis?] I put my hands on her shoulders "Aaaaaaw, your eyes look so innocent but you're actually a freak! I actually make peanut butter and banana sandwiches...tsk tsk" [cold read on the 'your eyes look so innocent...' part] We fluffed talk for a while, she was sitting on the stairs while I sat a few stairs below her with my head in between her legs and she was massaging my shoulders. After the fluff I looked up at her with a puzzled look "Hey, its getting warmer down here....oh wait....don't tell me....NO!" "What?" she asked. I gave her my sly smile. "You're getting turned on by my presence...tsk tsk Jessica." ==================================================== I'm always testing the limits of my dirty jokes. Whenever I can I say something I generally wouldn't say. More often than not I push the envelope and I still get a good reaction, its all about calibration and monitoring attraction levels. Naturals say things that are WAY out there, yet it works. I'm trying to find that balance. ==================================================== She blushed. "SHUT UP!" she said with a huge smile on her face. Then the bell rang. We got up and hugged goodbye, I held her close and gave her a grin, and she kissed me. I didn't actually expect her to do that so I was sort of taken aback but I masked it well. "Wow, that was......average, five points off" ==================================================== The point system is GOLDEN i tell ya, GOLDEN! This was the first thing I managed to internalize when I began learning the game and I did it whenever the opportunity arose. Just knowing this one thing made it easier to work up my prizeability. ==================================================== Her: "Oh, come on! I should get points for that not lose them!" Me: "Hey, I make the rules here missy, give me a better kiss next time" this time she kissed me again...it was better. Me: "Ok, that plus four" Her: "But you took off five the first time" Me: "I know right?" Her: "How am I supposed to get the last point back?"
Me: "Ask Miss Cleo to give me a better future...I don't want to die having sex in the street you you kno know w " an and I walk alk away away.. At my school we have an in-between period called Mid-Day live...I never game during this period although its the only time freshmen, sophomores, sophomores, juniors and seniors are all together....doing nothing. I usually spend this period listening to music a nd sleeping. Sixth period is Junior/Senior lunch. I sit with my social circle and the clique mediator of one of the cliques within my circle starts up drama with Jairy (this is what she was talking about earlier but I had no idea that the mediator was the drama whore.) ==================================================== Cliques all generally have the same hierarchy: - Group Leader (this is generally the hottest girl in the group, she receives the most validation thus holds the most value). Lourdes is the leader in the clique with the drama - Group Mother (she may or may not be attractive, all she does is make sure the girls don't fuck up and go with the wrong boys and things). Jasmine is this, she also doubles as a bridge. -Bridges (these girls and boys bring other people into the group and organizes outings expanding the scope of the group) Eric, Jasmine, Jairy and I are the bridges. - Group Mediator (she mediates all drama in the group...she's generally not attractive, her job is to get rid of drama so as I found out today...if there's no drama she's going to create it) The girl who is this in our group is called Tameka -Orbiters (these people are usually friends of people lower on the hierarchy or just want to be in with the group but don't have a place in it. Dating in orbiter deems you undateable within the group) We've got about 15 orbiters (the junior class is only 52 people so this is actually a really large group). ==================================================== Tameka was basically calling Jairy a dumb bitch who tries too hard to fit in...the way I see it Tameka is the one who tries to fit in but it's not my drama so I say nothing. Lourdes then gets pissed off at Tameka for yelling at Jairy and calls Tameka a fat ass hypocritical bitch...its true but once again I say nothing. One of our orbiters who is Tameka's friend comes to Tameka's defense and everybody in the group calls her a fake retarded loser who talks shit too much. Jasmine is about to go off on the girl so I decide to step in. "Yeah...this isn't what we need to be doing, enough with the fucking drama, seriously. Tameka, where do you get off telling people how they're living their life? I don't see you having a perfect life, don't you ever wonder how much BETTER it would be if you didn't have to make up things to be upset about everyday?" I was coming off of 45 minutes of sleeping...I wasn't at my best and I could've diffused the situation much better. Everyone shut up. Later that day we had a group outing to see Star Trek (which I've already seen) so I texted my friend who got us free tickets and told him about the drama. Lourdes didn't know what to do with Tameka and Jasmine didn't either but they still wanted to go to the movies and Tameka was invited. It fell on Eric and I to make a decision so we decided that the negative feelings she would bring were not what we needed. I texted my friend and
told him to hold her ticket...it was a hard decision, but I needed time to think about how to mediate the situation. =================================================== In high-school regardless of how much you try to remove yourself from it drama will chase you. I hate drama, I don't know how girls do it. =================================================== After I got out of school later I texted S from the AIDS walk, her name is Stephanie (I put her name since she is now in more than one FR). Me: "BOO!" Her: "Ahhh!" Earlier today (yesterday now) she had an event a t her school where she transitioned into a senior. Me: So now that you're a senior let's party and fuck like animals Her: noooooo i'm busyyy Me: lol. i'm going to a movie with my friends anyway, I'll see you later. Oh! and that's five points off. Her: for wat? Me: You used too many Os At the movie, tension from the day was released but nothing much happened...I mean we were watching an epic ass movie anyway. After the movie I went home and a nd was about to watch Scary Movie when I decided to text Stephanie. Me: Wuts going ooooooon? Her: Nothing, I'm just bored hanging around the house. Five points off, you used too many Os [HAHA this girl used my line] Me: What? Ur using my lines now? What are you trying to be a better player than me, Flava Flav? (this is a joke that has to do with something in the first FR, you can read it in my Journal on this forum) Her: FLAVA FLAAAAAAAAV! FLAAAAAAAAV! lmfao, no I'm already a better player than you Flav Me: Riiiiiiiight, well I got this movie in my hand and I'm dressed....and you're bored...yeah I'm coming over pop me some popcorn. Her: OMG you are soooo not coming over! I'm not that easy! [This is the worst ASD like....ever, I swear] Me: Yeah you're totally that easy....you know to watch a movie with...because that's what we're going to do. Don't get any ideas.
I got there like 30 minutes later. She opened the door. Me: "Popped my popcorn?" Her: "I didn't have any popcorn, all I have is leftover lasagna" Me: "What kind of movie food is that?" I went into the house and asked if her folks were around even though I knew they weren't. Me: "Oh great....then that means you can rape me and I'd have no witnesses...I think I'll sit over here" I scooted a few inches down on the couch. Like an hour into the movie she put her head in my lap and looked up at me expectantly. Me: "Hey I told you, no ideas. Head off the cock honey" =================================================== Aside from the fact that I like scary movie, I wanted her to make the first move, that way if anything happened it would be her idea and she wouldn't have buyer's remorse. =================================================== She obeyed my demand for a short time until she got aggravated that I really wasn't going to try anything. Then she pushed me back and started making out with me. When she released she looked at me with her best seductive look...boy I was hooked. Me: "Don't tell me this is rape...I thought rape was supposed to feel...bad." I kissed her again and put her on my lap. She leaned back onto my chest and I bit her lightly on the ear (she had told me that this turned her on before). "That's all you get." I was trying to get her desire to peak...this way I wouldn't have any LMR, I didn't think I'd get it, but just making sure. She started rubbing her ass on my lap to try and get me hard [Girls....are evil....] At this point my hard to get plan would just make me self-destruct so I flipped her over onto the couch.....Yeah I'm not going to get into how I get sex, so this is the end of this FR....gosh its long. -Darkpwns
