Why Good Girls Date Bad Boys

 DERRICK WATKINS 

their relationships. A woman who hopes wholeheartedly to change a man only becomes frustrated at his lack of concern, and in turn, this creates tension in their relationship. In some cases, the men become so frustrated with the women that they resort to violence, demeaning, and other violent behaviors. Constructive Change vs. Unconstructive Change I’d like to sidetrack for a moment to clarify my stance on change when it comes to relationships. By now, you’re probably thinking that it’s  best to abandon all hope of changing a significant other, but this isn’t entirely true. There are some instances when influencing another person can actually be positive. Continue reading to learn more about constructive and unconstructive change. To begin, you must understand that there is a huge difference between changing a person and inspiring them. Changing a person is the equivalent to obtaining a tiger and expecting a polar bear. You know  good and well that they aren’t a bear to begin with, yet you strive to make them become one. In short, you’re trying to mold them into something they’re not, which will only hurt you in the end. On the other hand, inspiring your mate can do wonders for your relationship. You accept them for who they are, but are fully aware of    what they’re capable of. Relationships are not meant to complete us,  but rather, they should enhance who we already are. True love sees the

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