Exclusive U nedited Interview :
F.J.Shark “H ow To Be The Jerk W om en Love” by Ross Jeffries
F.J.Shark is one ofthose rare guys- a direct,to the point,on the ballstraight shooter in a w orld fullofclow ns.H e’s the creator ofthe outrageous e-Book,“How To Be The Jerk W om en Love” and a guy after m y ow n sleazy heart.I interview ed Shark in his palatial“Shark Tank” headquarters in Chicago.
Ross Jeffries (RJ):Shark,W hatis itthatjerks do thatseem s to create this overw helm ing desire in w om en to be w ith them ?
F.J.Shark (FJS):They create such an interestby notbeing interested atall. By never really accepting the w om en as their girlfriend,ittake the w om an using all ofher sales techniques,m eaning her body,to sellhim on the idea thathe should be w ith her.
RJ:Butw hatis itthatjerks do initially to create thatdesire thatw om en w ant to be around them ?
FJS:They create a fun,intense high.And thatis,they offer a sam ple of them selves,justthe w ay drugs are sold in this country.The reason w hy drugs are a hundred billion dollar industry here is notbecause they have such greatsalesm en, it’s because they have a productthatm akes people feelgood.So w ith a jerk,the firstsam ples he gives a w om an are free,justlike drugs,and they can be alm ostlike a free sam ple joint,ifyou w ill,and then the w om an gets addicted to them .And then they cutthe supply ofthem selves.
RJ:H ow do they do that?
FJS:By notshow ing up,by notcalling.And Econom ics 101 teaches us that w hen you cutthe supply,you increase the dem and.W ell,ifyou increase the dem and you’ve gotcontrolover the price and you can charge any price you w ant.And,sadly enough,jerks can charge the price ofphysicalabuse,w hich is som ething I D O N ’T support,butsadly,that’s how outofcontrolit’s gotten.
RJ:So give the free sam ple,and then drive up the dem and by cutting offthe supply?
FJS:So then w hathappens is you have a m onopoly on her fun and you charge the price you w ant.
RJ:So how does a guy go aboutpositioning him selfthis w ay in a w om an’s m ind?
FJS:You have to train herby youractions thatyour tim e is valuable,and she should drop w hatever she’s doing ifyou decide to call.Also,her tim e can really m ean
nothing to you because you understand thata pretty face is a dim e a dozen like a H ollyw ood casting agentw ho sees pretty faces and hotbodies allday long.
RJ:Shark,how does a guy create thatkind ofpriority? I know thatI train guys to create itby linking so m uch pleasure to her being w ith them ,thatshe feels com pelled to be around them .Butw hatkind ofstuffw illa jerk do to drive up his price and her interestin him ?
FJS:W ellcanceling dates or notshow ing up are typicalexam ples,butthey follow the G olden Rule: TH O SE W HO D O N ’T LO O K H UN GRY GET FED N ice guys,you see,are alw ays hungry.And the reason they are alw ays hungry is they don’thave any girlfriends.And the reason they don’thave any girlfriends is,they’re alw ays hungry.So it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
RJ:Nasty place to be in.
FJS:Right,so the num ber one thing aboutjerks is,they do notacthungry, w hich is w hy they getgirls,so you’re on the upw ard spiralnow .So you have to m ake itseem ,and I don’tcare ifyou haven’thad sex in six m onths,you have to m ake itseem thatyou’re notphysically attracted to her in any w ay,and notshow any sexualinterestin her atall,so thatshe has the chance to sellherselfto you.
RJ:N ow ,here I have to disagree a bitShark,cause I think thatyou could lead to her justw anting you to be her buddy orfriend.I think you can use language tricks thatI teach to im plantthe ideas ofsex in her m ind,so she finds herself
thinking ofyou in thatw ay.And then,you can pullback to m ake her w antm ore.But I agree,you m ustnever appear hungry.And I also think thatyou have to m ake sure thatyou only give outa free sam ple; the problem w ith nice-guys is they give aw ay the w hole store.
FJS:Exactly.To use an exam ple,ifyou’re going to join a bow ling league,and they gave aw ay allthe trophies the firstw eek,w hy w ould you com e back? So,if you’re going to give aw ay any trophies,m ake sure you do itatthe end ofthe year, in order to give people an incentive.It’s like the stripper… ifa stripper com es out com pletely naked it’s no big dealanym ore.The reason w hy strippers are effective is they have thatappealofpeeling aw ay their clothes.
RJ:So w ould you say you can’tgo w rong by giving too little?
FJS:Yes.Think ofitlike buying a stock.W om en w ould ratherbuy a stock that’s been dropping in value,w ith hopes thatitw illgo up ifthey juststick w ith it. So,ifyou’re thatpoor ofa boyfriend,she’llhang on cause she’s gottoo m uch invested in you.
RJ:H ow w ould a jerk handle itifa w om an tried to sw itch the tables here and tried to treatthe jerk like he w as unim portant? For exam ple,ifa w om an cancels a date w ith a nice-guy he’s allunderstanding,and m ay even ask ifshe w ants to go another tim e? How w ould a jerk handle it?
FJS:Firstofall,a jerk w ould m aybe rem ain dead silenton the phone.Tw o, they are probably already thinking,“she probably think’s she’s gota better deal som ew here else.” So probably,they’d slam the phone dow n.And thatsudden
response show s he’s “m addable”.And that’s the key; the difference betw een niceguys and jerks is a jerk w illshow a w om an he can getm ad.And he’lleither do that by yelling or ignoring her or just,having a fit.The nice-guy never gets m ad.
RJ:M an,this is sad,buttrue!!
FJS:N ow the nice-guy m ay in factgetm ad,buthe doesn’tshow itto the w om an.H e m ay getm ad to him selfor his friends,like he’s going to explode on the inside.So you have to cutyour fuse,so you aren’tw aiting to explode.Explode up frontso they know w hatthey are dealing w ith. See,the sm artestinvestors on W all Streetneed to know one thing: W hat’s the dow nside… w hatcould possibly go w rong. O nce they know how bad itcan get,they’re w illing to investm ore.Therefore,ifyou spaz outor flip out,even ifyou slam dow n the phone,they know ,“H ey,that’s as bad as it’s going to get… I can live w ith that,” so they’re going to com e chasing you back.
RJ:Versus a nice-guy,w here the girldoesn’tknow w hatm ighthappen.
FJS:Right.That’s w hy atthe end ofa relationship w ith a nice-guy he hears from her,“I don’tknow how to tellyou this,because I don’tknow how you’re going to respond to it.” She doesn’tknow thatthis guy can getm ad.
RJ:Talk a bitaboutduck hunting versus duck chasing.
FJS:W hen m ostm en ask w om en out,they actlike the hard-core salesm an w ho keeps asking for the order a m illion tim es before he gets the sale.I say,ifyou have to chase the duck you aren’tgoing to catch him .Butyou sitin one spot,and
w atch w hatthe ducks do,like w here they fly and w hattheir habits are,you can sit still,and even ifyou have to use a duck call,you can w aitfor the ducks to fly overhead and then you can shootthem dow n,and there’s really no efforton your part.You’re sitting still.
RJ:You know Shark,as I think aboutit,I think itw ould be an unbeatable com bination for a guy to use w hatI teach to create incredible states ofpleasure in a w om an,and then use w hatyou teach to m ake thatso scarce thatshe’s w illing to do anything. It’s the perfectone-tw o punch.
FJS:Rem em ber,the w ord addiction derives from the m eaning,“nothaving”. The addiction is from nothaving; ifyou keep feeding people chocolate cake allday, they’re going to getsick ofitand you’llhave the reverse effect.So you justletthem sam ple the chocolate cake,and then you putitaw ay.W ell,you have to be the drug. You create fun,intense highs,and then you pullitaw ay.It’s thatsim ple.
RJ:Sim ple,yes,you’ve certainly took som e com plex ideas and reduced them to their sim plestform so anybody and m aster them . W ell,thanks for your tim e Shark,and good luck w ith the book,I know itw illbe a huge success.
FJS:Thanks for the interview Ross,I hope your audience puts itto good use and has som e fun w ith it. W e’lldo this again som etim e.
RJ:You gotitShark!