Stage One: Kill Momentum 1. Pre-game: A good night sleep, comfortable mid/high status clothes, clear sense of purpose which is: I am going for the same day da y lay. The only time I won’t go for it is if an insurmountable obstacle arises (time constraints, refused extractions etc) 2. Pre-approach: You must be demonstrating value before the girl even notices you, primarily by having a great time with your wing and keeping each other out of your head. Think of yourself as kids walking to the sweet shop to buy a bag of your favourite sweets. It’s all fun, and you are selecting. As the girl walks past you you’re the most fun on the street, with a playful happy vibe. You should be getting people noticing you and looking. 3. Target Acquisition: Find the girl that makes your blood bubble. If you have to intellectualise intellectualise that she’s hot, she’s not your girl so don’t bother. You need to feel the pull of DNA-matching. DNA-matching. That’s your trigger, start jogging after her. 4. Spontaneous Opener: You can have a set structure of principles in opening but try not to use the same opener twice in one day. As you catch up to her ask yourself why you noticed her. What is it that caught your attention? Find one thing about her that is noticeable and then slot that into your opener: as “Can I give you a compliment?”, 5. Delivery: Begin with a pre-framed tease such as “Hi, Can I say something?” or “Ok, How good is your English?” smile, then deliver the opener. Let it hit. If she reall y hooks let her talk, if she doesn’t move to the: 6. Gentle Tease: This is the push after the pull of the oepner. Make it creative, lighthearted and playful. This is the final piece of early attraction, showing her a slightly hard edge to pique her interest and push her a little into the defensive crouch rather than just handing her 100% validation. validation. Example of 4-6 together: Hi. I just have to tell you something…. I was just over there, drinking my coffee, when you walked past and my head just turned like this [gesture]. I thought t hought to myself why did I notice her, out of all the girls. Obviously your cute but it wasn’t that. Then I was running over and I realised. You dress weird.” 7. Early Qualification: Pause and look expectantly. She should spontaneously start qualifying and playfully pushing you away (verbally) such as: “No! They’re nice shoes. I bought them in Camden. I like the colour.” Reward with an non-sexual non -sexual IOI and build on the tease, like you’re not quite convinced she’s cool. Play it as long as it’s fresh and she’s increasing the giggling. A good early qualification buys you a ton of time to work. 8. Conversational Question: Ask a question that roots her in the interaction, such as “So what brings you out today?” or “You’re foreign right?” and she’ll tell you how she came to be here today while also giving some logistical information. Let her talk and begin to reduce your energy. Hold strong eye contact and don’t gesture. If there’s a real r eal time constraint you’ll usually get it here. This is where you hook or don’t and it relies upon ploughing through the next stage 9. Plough: Have a few minutes of conversation ready that you can just launch into incase you can’t use what she just gave you for a natural conversation. Relax and chill out. Any time she adds something, let her speak – speak – don’t ever destroy rapport. If you start trying to dominate the conversation conversat ion or squeeze in your new DHV story it’s just gonna look try-hard. You are building towards her enjoying speaking to you. You are looking for a signal of arrested momentum such as: (i) cross her legs and locking in (ii) lighting a cigarette (iii) readjusting her bag / putting away her phone
(iv) ceasing to look in the direction she was going. Once her momentum is stopped, she’ll open up and you can move into vibing. Stage Two: Vibing This is where you DHV through both sub-communicating what a cool guy you are as well as the actual stories. In natural game you are primarily creating a unique conversation feeding from what she gives you. The goal is relax her, then to take her away from her drab day and into a fun world that no other guy has ever shown her. I t’s a circle rather than step by step process and should include: a. light teasing b. future projection of ridiculous situations in which you get one over on her c. a light sprinkling of mild sexualisation to remind her this is a man talking to a woman But consider these as spice sprinkled upon the meal which is getting to know each other superficially. You won’t be prying very deep into her character yet, you are mainly finding interesting ways to exchange the biographical information that is normally done tediously. Once she is smiling and trying to add her own value to the conversation it’s time to bait the trap with Investment. Stage Three: Invest Her At the beginning you were carrying the conversation and bringing all of the energy. You are dialiing it down now and flipping the script. She should be thoroughly enjoying the interaction and very happy to have been stopped. She now wants to cling onto this great interaction and make the most of it. Make her earn in, dangle that carrot in front of her nose and walk away (figuratively). You do this by turning closing yourself down into minimalist interaction. Think of yourself as a gradually strengthening black hole, sucking in her energy and giving very little back. This is characterised b y: a. Low flat vocal tone b. Slow speech with short sentences c. Strong sexualised eye contact d. Rewarding her investment with nods and listening noises delivered in a slightly ambigious way like you haven’t made up your mind about her. e. Occasional querious but earnest challenges like you don’t quite buy what she’s selling / don’t quite agree with her. This is a smooth gradual process. She shouldn’t even notice the conversation has gone from 90% your voice to 70% her’s. You are now in the screening frame and making her chase. This is the time to start putting in qualified statements of interest to show she is winning you over e.g. “You know what, I really didn’t expect that. Tell me more, this is interesting.” or “Oh no! Why did you say that? I was just starting to like y ou” (playful). Her body language should be way more active than yours – crossing and uncrossing legs, kicking her feet, readjusting her bag plus all the classic IOIs like hair twirling and sparkling eyes. Do not match her energy. That’s what every other sucker does, unable to believe he’s still talking to such a hot girl he tries to reciprocate the energy and thus ruins her desire to slip into the submissive frame. Investment ends when she has accepted you as her boss. Stage Four: Commit Her She’s now ready to be lead. If no obstacle has come up, go for the instant date. Usually this takes ten minutes but you are looking for milestones not a stopwatch – does she show signs of having become invested? If so, commit her. Don’t go too strong or gamey, just say “Look, have you got ten minutes?…. I’m enjoying this, lets get a coffee / sit on the grass / walk around a bit.” If she rejects you, calibrate according to how you read her forebrain/hindbrain conflict. If the hindbrain wants to come with you, deliver a
FTC (“look, it’s just gonna be a couple of minutes till I meet my friends” ) then lead her. If she’s not coming, number close with “ Ok. Listen, this is what we’ll do. I like you, so when we’ve both got more time I’ll give you a shout. [pull out phone]“ You cannot progress until you have made her leave the last part of her world behind, i.e. bounced her from the approach location. Whether this is an instant date or day 2 is immaterial. It’s her investment that will decide it, not the rapport. Stage Five: Deep Rapport At some point in the date you have to sit her down directly in front of you and build a strong connection in a location with few distractions (unlike vibing, which is ok in busy places). Rapport can take a few hours and is little different to how you’d do it on a day 2 after a nightgame number close. I prefer not to kino escalate because it kills the frame of her chasing you, which you set up during Investment. The conversation should be about 80% comfort, 15% attraction (chick crack) and 5% sexualisation. The vibe is that you’re a man, she’s a woman and this is the most natural thing in the world. When you feel she is totally into you and totally comfortable, move on towards creating sexual state. Stage Six: Verbal Escalation Her rapport and investment has now given you a huge buffer zone to take the risk of escalation without appearing to chase her. The following four stages are a loop to be repeated as many times as necessary. It’s done late on in the date, and with gradually increasing intensity depending on your calibration. 1. General Sex Talk: Introduce sex talk in the third person / generality such as stories about pandas fucking, the way girls dance to look sexy etc 2. Sexual SOI: Make a personal observation about her that is sexually attractive and then finish it with a “and I find that really attractive” while looking into her eyes. Then back off slightly. 3. Future Projection: Paint the picture of a future scenario that involves you both romantically, e.g. “So imagine we’re going to a dinner party. Like the Ambassador’s party in the Ferrero Roche advert. I’m gonna be dressed really cool. Obviously. A well cut suit and [describe]. What are you wearing?” Depending on her state, you can sexualise it much further, e.g. “So we’re on holiday in the Solomon Islands. We’re walking down the beach. What colour is your bikini?….. We’re splashing each other in the sea…etc” 4. Sexual Intent: Tell her you want to fuck her, like it’s the most natural thing in the world and you know she wants to fuck you. The purpose of Verbal Escalation is to make no bones about where this is going but within a vibe like it’s all so natural. Your words and body language (particuarly eyes and vocal tone) are doing the work. There is little to no kino escalation. She is chasing despite you leading, so no kino. She will show her agreement towards the close either verbally or non-verbally: Verbal: She’ll directly tell you things she likes about you. Don’t expect her to verbalise “let’s fuck”. She is thinking “I want to fuck this guy but I can’t tell him without looking like a slut, so I’ll just try to make it obvious I like him and then hope he takes the lead.” She’ll also stop raising conversation points that indicate obstacles to fucking (e.g. her boyfriend has disappeared, those friends she was meeting for dinner have disappeared too). Also watch for wistful inpatience (“I’ve got nothing to do tonight”, “I’m so bored these days, I wish something exciting would happen”etc) Non-Verbal: Far more likely. She’ll be either acting or not acting. If she is acting and IOIs you she needs to be extracted right now. Not-acting IOIs to watch for: (i) Her eyes suddenly spazz out, going all large, round and sparkly
(ii) she can’t stop looking into your eyes, with occasional submissive looks downards (iii) a constant beaming smile like a dog about to eat dog food (iv) leg twitching (v) Her iniating kino in a fairly groping manner. Once you’ve got confirmation she’s in a sexual state you’ve got an Its On Moment. A window has just opened and you need to jump through before it closes again. Take the leap – even if you get knocked back or LMR you’ll have way more value for next time than if you just sit there like a pussy don’t nothing at all. Stage Seven: Close Kiss, hug or whatever in the date location but don’t give her the validation of erogenous touching until the sex location. She has to earn that. There must be a void between her and the sexual validation she now craves and she has to jump that void herself. Don’t be afraid to drag her into a cafe bathroom or back street if your home logisitcs are bad.
