Creepy

ARE YOU CREEPING WOMEN OUT? … And What To DO About It

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Table o Contents

FOREWORD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .5 AWARENESS CHECK: THE HOTTER THE WOMAN, THE LESS MARGIN FOR ‘CREEPINESS’ YOU HAVE

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Common Creepy Behavior #1: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8 Common Creepy Behavior #2: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .11 Common Creepy Behavior #3: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .14 Common Creepy Behavior #4: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .18 Common Creepy Behavior #5: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20 Common Creepy Behavior #6: . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .22 AFTERWORD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .25 THE MEET YOUR SWEET COURSE CATALOG . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26



FOREWORD Creepiness. The one word that can strike terror into any would-be PUA’s heart. The word ‘creepy’ is literally the strongest epithet that any woman can use to advertise her COMPLETE LACK OF ATTRACTION – and indeed, her ACTIVE REPULSION – or a man. Once you’ve been called ‘creepy’, your goose is cooked. As ar as that woman is concerned, you’ve had it. There is no turning back. This means that your margin or error is actually much less than you might think – because many times, i a woman thinks ill o you, she actually won’t let you know it until it’s too late. And incidentally, this isn’t game-playing on her behal. She’s not ‘leading you on’ or ‘wasting your time’. Quite the contrary: it’s plain and simple GOOD MANNERS. So, to use the King’s English: a woman doesn’t have to TELL you that you’re creepy or her to be thinking that you’re creepy. In act, the ones that DON’T tell you you’re creepy are actually the MOST desirable ones – not just beautiul, but NICE. This means that you may need to take EXTRA CARE to prevent yoursel rom alling into this blackest o all possible black quicksands … because once you’ve been tarred with the ‘creepy’ brush, you’re tainted with the social equivalent o Robert Louis Stevenson’s ‘Black Spot’. (And can expect a lingering and painul social DEATH, in other words.) I’ve created this special report specically to help YOU to recognize and identiy the aspects o typical male behavior that the MOST HIGHLY DESIRABLE women think o as ‘creepy’. Then, I’ll explain to you what you can do to make sure you’re NOT perceived as ‘creepy’. I’ll give you some spot-on pointers to help you keep tabs on your own behavior, and to make sure that you stay WELL AWAY rom that peculiar social death known as ‘creepiness’.

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AWARENESS CHECK: THE HOTTER THE WOMAN, THE LESS MARGIN FOR ‘CREEPINESS’ YOU HAVE Did you know that unattractive women will usually put up with more ‘creepy behavior’ beore her alarm-bells start ringing than her more beautiul counterparts? The reason or this is simple. Women seen as 'unattractive' are not as used to getting male attention. So, they don't have as much EXPERIENCE with guys … they're not used to guring out what is or is not 'creepy' behavior … and they have a much HIGHER initial tolerance or 'bad' behavior, as a general rule. O course, the reverse is also true … A woman widely considered to be ‘beautiul’ or ‘desirable’ will be well used to receiving masculine attention. She knows that she doesn’t have to put up with receiving behavior that she considers to be ‘less than’, and so she’s psychologically prepared to rebu anyone whose approach alls below the minimum level o acceptability. She’s also more well-schooled in the gamut o male attentions: she has her own ‘minimum standards’ that she expects, and she’s experienced enough ‘creepiness’ over the years to be able to spot it in an instant. Her ‘radar’ is SCARILY WELL-TUNED, in other words. So, i you tend to go or the women who are perceived by the ‘mainstream’ o guys to be desirable, then you must be aware that your margin or error is MINIMAL. NO CREEPINESS WHATSOEVER WILL BE PERMITTED. The more desirable the woman, the less tolerance she will have or ‘creepy behavior’. Consider that your watchword. But what is ‘creepy behavior’? And how will you know whether you’re engaging in it or not? Following is a list o the six MOST CREEPY behaviors that MOST MEN unwittingly engage All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com 6


in at one point or another in their interactions with women.

I you identiy with any o these behaviors, you can take a second to cringe in the privacy o your own home … and thenn GET OVER IT. DON’T WORRY about it any more. That’s all spilt milk now … and the point o this special report is to INFORM you as to which mistakes will CLOSE the door o opportunity in your ace … and how you can STOP making those mistakes or yoursel. It’s not to beat yoursel up or WASTE YOUR TIME eeling dumb and embarrassed. And hey, at least you know you’ll NEVER make the same mistakes again … because I’m going to teach you EXACTLY how to STOP ‘creeping women out’ or GOOD AND ALL.



Common Creepy Behavior #1: HOVERING, STARING, AND LURKING ‘Hovering’ can be described thus: when you see a woman you nd attractive, but you can’t quite get up the balls to approach her … and you end up lurking around on the periphery o the room, staring at her, trying to work up the guts to approach. In the meantime, she has noticed the weird guy who keeps lurking around, ollowing her around the venue and staring at her. She’s told all her riends (‘This weird guy keeps staring at me!’) and they’ve all agreed with her that you are what’s known as a ‘creepy lurker’, in the eminine vernacular. ‘Hovering’ has got to be one o THE most o-putting and creepy things that a guy can do. I you are a hoverer, take note: women WILL notice and they WILL be repelled. I YOU 'hover' beore approaching, take note: by doing so, you shoot yoursel in the oot. By this stage, even i you DO approach, you’ve already got a reputation as ‘creepy’ beore you so much as open your mouth.. Women have very highly tuned radars or ‘hovering’, because MOST GUYS do it. It’s something that attractive women are very used to. Extremely attractive women are SO used to it that they can literally train themselves to ‘block out’ guys guilty of this behavior: to the woman, they literally cease to exist. She doesn’t even see them any more.

And i they should approach, she’ll cold-shoulder them without so much as an apology … even i she’s actually a very nice person. So, simply by doing something that seems ‘natural’ to you … i.e. staying in the background until you gure out what you want to say … there’s a HIGH POSSIBILITY that you’re actually turning her OFF, AHEAD OF SCHEDULE. Imagine the sheer destructive power o this habit. And now consider the act that MOST MEN – I’m talking high 90 th percentile – engage in this habit REGULARLY.



The main reason that so many guys do it is simply because they underestimate the perceptive power o women. Here’s a hint or you: STOP doing this. NEVER underestimate your target’s powers to come up with NEGATIVE OBSERVATIONS about you and your ‘technique’. Here’s a hint: try OVERESTIMATING it, instead. Assume that she can see EVERYTHING you’re doing. Because MOST WOMEN ACTUALLY CAN AND DO. Let me explain the emale perspective on creepy lurking or you. This is how most beautiul women think about lurking: ‘This guy is a riggin’ weirdo. He’s annoying me. He’s ruining my night, lurking around, staring, and making me eel sel-conscious. What the hell is wrong with him? Why won’t he just go away? I he wants to talk, why doesn’t he just talk? What’s he so araid o? Jesus, that’s creepy.’ Then, punctuate this with trilling eminine laughter rom her riends every so oten laughter that’s aimed at you. Now take a moment to think about this: i your creepy hovering behavior is actually annoying a woman, she now has the ‘moral high-ground’ … and must eel no qualms whatsoever about shooting you down. Another way o saying it might be: by hovering, lurking, staring, and ollowing her around – even i you think you’re being discreet – you are literally handing her the right to enjoy shooting you down i you ever should screw up your courage enough to approach. DON’T HOVER. DON’T LURK. DON’T FOLLOW HER AROUND. DON’T STARE. SHE WILL NOTICE, AND SHE WILL BE REPELLED. Here’s what to do instead: become an ardent worshipper o a variant o the ‘3-second rule’. I you’ve never heard o the 3-second rule beore (sometimes known as ‘3-S’) it’s simply the concept that you must approach a desirable woman within 3 seconds o seeing her.



The idea behind this strategy is twoold: rstly, it prevents you rom reaking yoursel out, and talking yoursel out o the approach. Secondly (and ar more importantly), it literally prevents you rom becoming a creepy hoverer/lurker/ollower/starer. I you ollow 3-S, you will never have to worry about hovering or lurking EVER AGAIN. The possibility o doing so will be taken right out o the equation, permanently. That’s pretty powerul stu. Especially when you consider the act that MOST MEN are struck with a sudden case o the ‘lurking creepy hovers’ once they see a woman they like. 3-S is essentially like being handed a ticket that sets you apart rom almost ALL other men, right rom the get-go. But beore you get too excited … here’s an alternative perspective or you: Giving yoursel only three seconds to approach a woman may actually be a little TOO challenging. It’s a great theory, sure; but or many men, it simply encourages eelings o ailure … because rom going rom an habitual entire night o lurking and working up the nerve to approach, to just three seconds, is just too much o a ‘quantum leap’. And besides which, lots o guys actually like to have a little more than three seconds, simply on principle. They like to scope out the scene a little more, think about what to say, maybe have a quick drink, and soak up the atmosphere. So here is what I suggest: that you take 3-S, and modiy it to suit yoursel. Specically, this is what I mean: give yoursel a unit o time equivalent to one drink beore making your approach. During that time, you then have no more than three seconds o ‘staring time’ in her direction beore making your approach. This gives you time to have a drink and chill out (and maybe run through a couple quick openers in your head) while checking her out BRIEFLY … while ALSO simultaneously preventing yoursel rom staring, ollowing her around, or doing anything that could be construed as ‘creepy lurking/hovering’.



Common Creepy Behavior #2: TOO MUCH EYE CONTACT Look. I know that most dating coaches stress the importance o making eye contact. And I’m not going to lie: it is a major component o any successul conversation, and – i done right – can create some serious attraction with a woman. But here’s where you need to be careul: too much eye contact is nothing short o CREEPY AS HELL. Beore I met Alan (my long-term partner, with whom I enjoy a brilliant and committed relationship), I used to enjoy going out to smoky underground jazz clubs, drinking lthy martinis, and generally partying with my girlriends. It was always a riot, and I’ll be rank: we never had any trouble attracting guys. In act, sometimes, we actually had to ask everyone to just back o and leave us alone so we could have a dance in peace. Sometimes, though, my eye would be caught, and I’d leave the dancefoor to go have a chat and a drink, and see i there could be a mutual ‘t’. And every so oten, I'd run into one o these 'creepy starers'. Ater comparing notes with my girlriends over the years - not to mention clients, subscribers, and colleagues in the eld - it's become increasingly clear to me that something that will put literally ANY woman o a guy … … no matter how articulate, well-dressed, or otherwise 'eligible' he may be … … is TOO MUCH EYE CONTACT. Seriously. I kid you not. It’s all well and good to meet someone’s eye. It’s normal, it’s necessary, and it connotes major sel-condence i done right. But every so oten, as a woman, you run into one o those guys who clearly knows just how important ‘making eye contact’ is … and whose enthusiasm or this simple trick has taken him too ar in the opposite direction. I’m talking about creepy staring: when a guy’s not just LOOKING at you, but when his eyes are literally PINNED on you. He never looks away. He's clearly putting MASSIVE All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com 11


amounts o eort into looking 'interested and interesting'. It can make a woman eel like a bug impaled on an entymologist’s pin. At the very least, it’s disgustingly obvious that a guy like this is trying to make you eel ‘special’, that he’s trying to ‘convey interest’, and that he’s trying to be a ‘good listener’. Unortunately, the eect alls ar short o the mark, because he’s trying TOO HARD. He's not being authentic. And it comes across as though he's trying to 'compensate' or something. O course, most women will immediately wonder, 'What is this guy trying so hard to prove? Why is he not relaxing and just being normal?' … and will inevitably conclude that there must be something WRONG with this guy that he can't just chill out and be genuine. Long story short, 'too much eye contact' will make ANY GUY – no matter how articulate, well dressed, and fat out HOT he otherwise may be – into a complete ‘no-go’ zone as ar as most women are concerned. Actually, make that an ‘Ew, get me out o here NOW!’ zone. And when you combine this bug-eyed conversational style with a lack o BLINKING – well, that’s about the time that most women start eyeing up the distance between hersel and the nearest waiter and wondering i he’ll be close enough to prevent her rom being hacked up with a pick-axe and stored underneath this guy’s foorboards later on. No, I'm not kidding. Some guys really do this. It's like they literally orget to blink. Talking to one o these men is like conducting a conversation with a basilisk lizard. You can't help wondering whether his tongue's going to fick out and swipe a fy out o the air. Here’s a simple equation or you: Eye contact = good. STARING and/or NO BLINKING = UNSPEAKABLY CREEPY AND REPUGNANT. As a general rule o thumb, i a woman’s talking to you, it’s acceptable – and even attractive - to make eye contact or about 8 out o every 10 seconds.



It’s rude to make eye contact or less than 5 out o every 10 seconds. And it’s downright CREEPY to make eye-contact or MORE than 8 out o 10 seconds. Here’s a good basic rule or you: every couple breaths, look away or a second. That’s all it takes. Just avert your eyes or a beat. Then you can turn around and eed yoursel back into her big baby blues again. Not too demanding, right? This simple trick will prevent you rom being one o those bug-eyed guys who latch onto a woman’s eyes like a pitbull and won’t let her go … and who end up creeping her out and making her wish he’d tone down the intensity a bit. Oh - and remember to blink every so oten. Women everywhere will appreciate this subtle nod to normality.



Common Creepy Behavior #3: COMPLIMENTING HER AND/OR BUYING HER STUFF BEFORE SHE’S 'EARNED IT' I think we all know at least one guy who brands himsel a ‘Natural Nice Guy’. He protests that being ‘nice’ to women, taking care o them, complimenting them, buying them drinks, etc, is ‘just the way he was brought up’ and he doesn’t see any point in becoming a ‘jerk’ and ‘denying his true nature’. I personally have had MANY male riends who believe these very things. They rarely have girlriends. ‘Why should I have to act like someone I’m not in order to get women?’ he might say. ‘And can I help it i I was brought up to respect women? That’s just the way I am. And women always say they WANT a guy who does all this stu, so what gives?’ Here’s the deal. From a woman’s perspective: YES, it’s GREAT when you meet a guy who’s willing to do all that stu. BUT, there must be ATTRACTION present beore all those ‘nice’ gestures are appreciated … and i a guy STARTS OFF with the compliments and the drinks, most women are plain creeped out by this … … and will actually assume that this guy must either have something WRONG with him, or that he’s maniacally trying to ll a big black hole o NEEDINESS inside himsel by BUYING HER AFFECTIONS with ‘nice’ words and gestures (like ree drinks) beore she’s 'earned it.' So what does it actually mean to ‘earn’ something? It’s simple. She simply has to prove that she’s worthy o being complimented. Here’s how she can do it: by dint o having a great personality, some smarts, or something that sets her apart rom the legions o other beautiul women out there. And no, she cannot ‘earn a compliment’ simply by being pretty. From now on, looks are NOT ENOUGH or you to ‘qualiy’ a woman or ANY kind All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com 14


o ‘special treatment’. To do so will be to CREEP HER OUT and make it PAINFULLY OBVIOUS that you are ‘hitting on her’. And while we’re on the subject … you need to make sure that you do NOT comment on any aspect o her appearance until you’ve received some pretty serious indicators o interest rom her. As or the ‘buying drinks’ thing, that is fat-out a total no-no. Not only will she NOT appreciate it, but you will actually CREEP HER OUT. When guys act like this, the subtext is clear: ‘I’m attracted to you. I want you to be attracted to me. I’m not sure how to do this in any REAL way, so I’ll resort to fattery and ree gits to mask my complete lack o REAL SKILL and ATTRACTIVENESS.’ The result? She’ll think ‘Ew … another CLUELESS guy.’ I she’s nice, she’ll accept your drink or your compliment and stick around or awhile just to show ‘good will’. She might even introduce you to her riends … but rest assured, she will NOT categorize you as someone with ‘potential’. And i she’s NOT nice, she’ll take your drink, use you to boost her ego, and then LEAVE as soon as she’s ‘had her ll’. Here are the things that you must STOP doing i you wish to NEVER creep a woman out, and i you want to PREVENT her rom categorizing you as ‘nice, but no go’: - Complimenting a woman as a part o your approach (e.g. ‘Hi, you’re really pretty. I wanted to come over and meet you.’) - Complimenting her on ANY aspect o her appearance whatsoever at ANY point during the conversation. - Making sexual comments, or commenting on her boobs/butt/lips etc, at ANY POINT during the conversation. - Oering to buy her a drink. This is tacky, cheesy, and CREEPY. Oer to buy a woman a drink, and she will immediately assume that you’re on the make, which is creepy – particularly i you’ve barely spoken. HERE’S A 2-STEP PROCESS TO HELP YOU STOP INADVERTENTLY MAKING THIS MISTAKE



STEP ONE: Make a promise to yoursel right now that you will never again make a comment/compliment that could be construed as ‘sexual’ to a woman unless you have received some SERIOUS indicators o interest (like a kiss. And even then, go easy on the mushy stu.) STEP TWO: Make a promise to yoursel to NEVER try to ‘purchase’ a woman’s aections. (NOTE: ‘purchasing’ her aections can be a monetary OR a verbal thing. Guys try to ‘purchase’ a woman’s attention by complimenting her (fattery), just as much as they try to ‘purchase’ her attention by buying her a drink and then hanging around trying to talk to her as she drinks it.) A SIDE NOTE ON HOW AND WHEN TO COMPLIMENT A WOMAN Look: it’s true that women like compliments and gits. But we only like it i we have to ‘earn it’. And no, qualiying a woman or gits/compliments on a basis o looks alone doesn’t count … … you’ll only be able to create (and maintain) ATTRACTION i you qualiy her by means o her PERSONALITY. Women want to eel like they’re special. They want to eel like you’ve noticed something unusual about them that OTHER MEN DO NOT NOTICE, and picked them out o the crowd because o it. Because ALL MEN notice a woman’s looks, it rarely means much to a woman i a guy tells her how hot she is. O course, it might be a nice ego boost or her … and many women derive massive psychological satisaction rom having lots o guys ‘orbiting’ them and telling them how beautiul they are … … but you don’t create ATTRACTION by boosting her ego. This means that you need to GET TO KNOW HER beore you can start complimenting her on ANYTHING. And i you ARE going to compliment her, make sure it’s on something UNUSUAL that can’t be construed as a come-on. Compliment her on ANYTHING apart rom her looks. For example: her sense o style. How cool it is that she’s passionate about insert quality



here (her job, her pets, her riends, her tness, etc.) How she seems like a real leader, and you like that in a woman. How she comes across as a really warm, positive person, and how rare that is. How you’re impressed by her taste in music/intelligence/knowledge o Ancient Greece/ whatever. Comments like these will literally make a woman melt, because they’re so rare. I you can compliment a woman on just about ANYTHING apart rom her looks, you’ve proved to her that you’re an observant and unusual guy … and that you’ve actually been paying attention to her (not just her beauty.) Most men think that a compliment has to have something to do with a woman’s looks. And most men think that the way to open a conversation with a beautiul woman is to comment on her looks … or to give her an ‘implied compliment’ by buying her a drink. While this can be a nice ego-boost, it’s also bone-crushingly unoriginal … not to mention CREEPY AS HELL. Furthermore, may I remind you that ‘ego boost’ is NOT the same thing as ATTRACTION. In act, most o the time, the two are MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE. You need to STOP being ‘that guy who boosts my ego’, and START being the guy who’s more o a CHALLENGE … and who is NOT like all the other guys.



Common Creepy Behavior #4: MIS-USING ‘KINO’ It’s true: kino can be a great tool to create attraction. However, you’ve really got to be drop-dead condent i you want to pull it o. And condence levels aside, it can be a risky business anyway because some women just don’t like being touched during conversations all that much … … at least, not by guys that they don’t already know. ‘Kino’ is short or ‘kinesthetic’, and basically reers to touch. As the theory goes, i you touch a woman every so oten while you’re talking to her – a light squeeze on the shoulder, a nudge in the ribs, a quick stroke down the orearm – she’ll get used to you touching her, and it will be that much easier to ‘make the shit’ into making out with her. It will also convey to her that you are a ‘physical’ guy, and she will eel more at ease i SHE wants to ‘ramp things up’ by touching YOU. So ar, so good. The creepiness comes into play when you start doing kino either TOO MUCH, or TOO SOON. As a general rule o thumb, all kino should be LIGHT, QUICK touches (no lingering hands or irritating, hard-pressing caresses) … … and it should always be in IMPERSONAL areas (so, no ‘inadvertent’ boob-grabbings, butt-smackings or inner-thigh touchings.) Simple: LIGHT, QUICK, and IMPERSONAL. It’s the ‘magic three’. Furthermore, it’s a good idea to keep kino to a bare minimum until you’ve had a chance to establish some proper rapport with her. For example, you could start o on the right oot with a handshake (or a hug, i you’ve met her beore) … and then give her her own space or ve or ten minutes.



Don’t just dive right in there with scalp massages and palm-tickling. Wait until you’ve at least had a chance to get to know the woman a little bit. And please: don’t be one o those guys who grabs a woman’s hand and then hangs onto it or the next ve minutes. Don’t be one o those guys who walks up to near-random women and starts giving them a neck-rub. You’ve gotta pick your moments. Otherwise … you got it. It’s CREEPY. I you touch her too much or or too long, you will literally condition her to eel dismay and irritation at your touch … and you’ll condition her to see you as a ‘creepy guy’. On the other hand, i you keep it LIGHT, MINIMAL, and QUICK, all is well. And i you can make it FUN, then so much the better – she’s being conditioned to eel pleasure and happiness at your touch. Some examples o un kino: - Thumb-wrestling. - Palmistry. (But keep it quick and ironic – i.e., keep the intensity down and don’t overdo it. There’s no need or a ‘Mystic Meg’ routine; and contrary to what many PUAs would love or you to believe, lots o women are actually turned OFF by guys who believe wholeheartedly in ‘dippy’ stu like palm-reading and its ilk. There’s no need to pretend that you ‘eat this stu up’ in order to create a bond.) - Creating your own ‘special handshake’ routine together … practicing it together … then greeting her with it whenever you bump into each other throughout the night. (Hint: it’s even better i you make this into a really obvious joke and go way ‘over the top’ with the handshake routine – lots o hand-slapping, knuckle-rubbing, and so on.) - I someone’s making an ass o themselves in your group, elbow her lightly in the ribs. When she looks at you, roll your eyes. I she rolls hers back at you, or elbows you back, you can take that as a signal o interest. Like I say, kino can be great – but since it’s easy to cross the line into creepiness, you’ll need to keep it quick, light, and FUN.



Common Creepy Behavior #5: PEACOCKING TOO HARD Yes, having your own distinct style is a mark o supreme sel-condence. And really sticking out rom the crowd in some way – with an extreme hairstyle, tattoos, or really personalized, overstated way o dressing – can actually be extremely attractive to a lot o women (mysel included.) But i you take it too ar … say, to the extent that you yoursel no longer eel quite ‘comortable’ with your style … then you will emit waves o uncertainty, will be obviously trying to ‘create an impression’ rather than simply ‘demonstrating your own style’, and will CREEP WOMEN OUT. Look: peacocking is ne. Particularly i you like to attract glitzy glamor-girls. Overt peacocking – PARTICULARLY i it goes beyond your own personal ‘comort zone’ o famboyance – will usually be perceived as ‘trying too hard’, and, inevitably, CREEPY.

Following is a list o ‘male peacocking’ devices that SOME guys can use to good eect … but that MOST guys try to use, and ail to pull o, because it’s too ar outside their own comort zone. Use the ollowing with CARE and CONFIDENCE (i at all): - ‘Male makeup’ such as eyeliner, eyeshadow, and (especially) nail polish. This will almost invariably get an ‘EEEEEWWW!’ response rom literally any woman. Unless you’re Dave Navarro, or a genuine rocker in your own right, please: do yoursel a avor and steer clear. - Taking obvious care o your appearance. I’m talking obvious manicures, blow-dried hair, overtly-tweezed eyebrows, and a skincare regimen that goes beyond shower-shavemoisturize. It’s just too damn eminine, and will actively repulse quality women. Look: once you get beyond basic benets like short toenails and classy cologne, ‘metrosexual’ does NOT cut the mustard with most women. Fake anything … especially i you claim to be ‘real’. For example: guys who wear wigs, and try to pass them o as ‘their own hair’, are just creepy. Getting dreadlock extensions, and saying they’re ‘your own’, is just creepy. Wearing a ake lip ring, and claiming it as ‘real’, is just creepy. Badly-done dental veneers are not only creepy, but actively repellent. And sorry, but hair plugs? They’d better be done damn well, because or most women, ‘hair plugs’ are equated with ‘Burt Reynolds’ (read: CREEPY.) I you’re going to ‘ake it’, do it WELL … and don’t try to say it’s ‘real’ … because you WILL be ound out, and women All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com 20


WILL think you’re either a) MASSIVELY insecure, b) a complete weirdo, or c) creepy as hell. (And most likely, a combination o all three.) ANY KIND o body-hair shaving. Look: i you’ve got a hairy chest, rock it out. I you’ve got hairy legs and arms, bring it on. Many women LOVE really masculine guys and are actively dismayed by a guy who shaves his legs/arms/ chest in order to conorm to ‘modern standards o masculinity’ (i.e. turning yoursel into a LADYBOY in order to resemble some disgustingly-polished male model rom a Calvin Klein perume ad.) Realistically, that’s not to say that some women aren’t turned on by a smooth chest; many are. But i you’ve GOT a naturally hairy chest/arms/legs/whatever, leave them be and let your natural masculinity fourish. (The only exception to this would be a hairy back. I you have one o these, don’t shave it – WAX. I you shave, you’ll just end up with a ve o’clock shadow on your shoulderblades, and that’s REALLY not hot.) Guys, i you want to avoid the ‘creepiness’ pitalls o appearance, here’s a rule o thumb or you: develop your own personal style. Make sure it SUITS YOU. And make sure you’re COMFORTABLE with it. I it doesn’t and i you’re not – let’s say you’re copying someone else’s style, or ollowing the advice o a riend whose sense o style is WILDLY dierent rom your own – you are not going to be able to convince anyone else that you’re being authentic. You’ll eel sel-conscious. You’re going to be perceived as a ‘try-hard’. And that adds up to ‘creepiness incarnate’. So here’s my best suggestion: that you go out shopping with someone whose style you like and admire (and that you could easily adopt as your own.) Get them to help you pick things out. I money is an issue, go to second-hand stores. Check the bargain bins. It’s not hard to get good threads or a decent price. And try ollowing the advice o shop assistants: they’re paid to know the stock, and sometimes you can end up with a whole new look that eels great, that you’d never have thought o yoursel. As ar as personal grooming goes, keep it NATURAL and REAL. I you’re going to go arout, do it right and make it REAL: no ‘ashion-mohawks’ or ake piercings, please. Real women tend to like REAL MEN … and that means, no FAKING IT.



Common Creepy Behavior #6: WEIRD OR OBVIOUSLY IMBALANCED EMOTIONS This is a big one. This problem centers mainly around two opposing ‘cores’ o behavior: - Being cripplingly insecure - Being too energetic, too happy, and too enthusiastic First things rst: insecurity is a bitch. It’s also really commonplace. But you’ve got to GET OVER IT i you want to ATTRACT some top-quality women. Here’s what I suggest, as ar as ‘limiting belies’ and/or ‘personal insecurities’ go: that or now, you ocus on taking control o the immediate aspects o it. Take care o your more obvious insecurities. The rest will come with time. (And it denitely helps to have a cellphone ull o women’s phone numbers to reassure you that you’ve actually got NOTHING to be insecure about.) What I mean by this is, start noticing the ways you act that show OTHER PEOPLE that you’re eeling insecure … and then DO something about them. For example: start paying attention to your body language. Learn how to lean back, take up space, and spread out. Stop leaning orwards and getting all up in her grille; that’s perceived as desperate and needy. Stop speaking so quickly, and lower your voice. I tell you the truth when I say there is literally almost NOTHING SEXIER than a deep, masculine voice. (Equally, there is little that can help you i you have a squeaky, shrill voice.) I suggest that you invest in some voice coaching, as a great voice is HUGELY attractive to women. You can buy Dr Carol Fleming’s series o the Internet or a airly decent price, and she’ll teach you how to develop a strong, deep, sexy voice that women LOVE. Practice dressing and styling yoursel like someone with condence. Take care o yoursel and treat your body like it’s worth something: start going to the gym. Get a little color in your cheeks (no more pasty, I’m-an-Emo pallor.) Ditch the scruy wrist-bands and big dirty T-shirts. Get some panache. And as ar as the ‘cheesily enthusiastic’ thing goes … All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com 22


It’s a little more dicult to sel-diagnose ‘excessive enthusiasm’, but this is actually JUST as important as ‘insecurity’. You need to start paying attention to how you act in social situations. Even though ‘scary enthusiasm’ is just about as dierent in EFFECT rom ‘rabid insecurity’ as possible, the truth is that at the ROOT, they’re actually the SAME THING. Get this: most ‘clownlike’ behavior is rooted in a belie that you’re somehow ‘not enough’ just being the way you are … that you’ve got to ENTERTAIN people (otentimes, with jokes at your own expense) or them to like you. This is not conducive to ATTRACTION. Look: I’m not talking about genuine happiness or high energy. These are both massively ATTRACTIVE qualities to have. I’m talking about the kind o ‘ake’ energy and ‘ake’ enthusiasm that a lot o guys use to cover up inherent eelings that they’re somehow ‘less than’. For example: you don’t need to laugh crazily at everything she says i you don’t ACTUALLY think it’s really unny. You also don’t have to have a huge smile pasted on your ace all the time either. I you laugh or smile too oten – as in, when you’re not really ‘eeling it’ – you WILL seem insecure and nervous. You don’t need to speak really loudly or make lots o noise in order to ‘stand out’. Take a step back and relax, instead. Remind yoursel to speak sotly . Actively orce yoursel to role-play a confdent, dominant, masculine man. Stop TRYING so hard. You don’t have to be the ‘lie o the party’ – incidentally, women actually tend to perceive men who are making LESS o an obvious eort to ‘get attention’ as being MORE attractive. So it’s all good to have high energy and be enjoying yoursel – but there’s no need to channel PeeWee Herman or start pulling Klown Kollege stunts. A balance is really what’s required to maximize attractiveness, and minimize creepiness. I you eel yoursel starting to ‘overcompensate’ in a social situation – maybe you’re eeling insecure, maybe you’re eeling nervous – take an emotional step back and FORCE YOURSELF to calm down.



THE SOLUTION Here’s a great way to smooth out the adrenaline that’s making you jittery. I call it a ‘MiniRest’ and it’s highly eective or negating the ‘Fight Or Flight’ eeling that so many guys experience around women. 1. Take a deep breath. Breathe in slowly to the ullest capacity o your lungs. Pause or a moment. Breathe out slowly and empty your lungs completely. You should be breathing out or longer than you breathed in. Say ‘One’ to yoursel (out loud i the situation permits.) 2. Repeat the process: breathe in slowly and ully again. Pause or a moment. Breathe out slowly and ully. You should breathe out or longer than it took you to inhale. Say ‘Two’ to yoursel. 3. Repeat the steps until you get to ‘ve’. Notice how dierent and more relaxed you eel.



AFTERWORD So there you have it: a comprehensive look at exactly what kinds o behaviors are most commonly dubbed ‘creepy’ by women everywhere … and how to PREVENT these behaviors rom spoiling your game. Make no mistake, gentleman. The things we’ve talked about here today are the kinds o ‘mistakes’ that MOST MEN literally don’t even know they’re making … but which can defate your attraction quicker than an ice-pick through a white-wall tire. Obviously, there’s a lot more to ‘ne-tuning’ your game with women than simply ‘avoiding the common pit-alls’ … but hey, let’s ace it. There’s only so much inormation I can t into one little Special Report. I you’d like to get more o a ‘tailored’ approach to smoothing out your ‘rough spots’ (yes, especially the ones you didn’t even know you had) … and i you’d like to learn rom the lips o the masters themselves EXACTLY what it takes to meet, approach, and date the woman (or women) o your dreams … then my number-one BEST suggestion is to cut to the chase and start investing in your uture. Take a couple seconds and see i there’s anything in the entire Meet Your Sweet lexicon o ‘meeting and approaching women’ inormation that you’d like to brush up a bit more on … and know that I have your best interests at heart (yes, I’m talking about my ‘iron-clad’ money-back guarantee here.) You can check out the ull range o programs and courses that we’ve put together to help you start meeting, talking to, and ATTRACTING high-quality women right here: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/men And i you have any questions or comments, please drop me a line: [email protected]

… I’d love to hear rom you! With love,

Mirabelle Summers MeetYourSweet.com All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com 25


THE MEET YOUR SWEET COURSE CATALOG

My Technique and Lie Skills Programs: The specifc skills, tips and techniques in your ultimate toolkit to creating the success you crave in Lie and Relationships… First Dates to Soul Mates: How To Take Things To The Next Level O Commitment........................... 27

Supreme Sel-Condence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations .......................................... 29

Conversation Chemistry How to use the power o communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex! .......................... 32

2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love o Your Ex .................................................. 35

The inormation inside each o these courses will empower you by giving you the lie and love skills that you need to achieve a complete personal and social transormation, and help you attract, seduce and keep the woman and committed relationship o your dreams… and now, you can get a $5 trial or 7 days, as well as a 60-day guarantee on ANY course listed above.



First Dates to Soul Mates: How To Take Things To The Next Level O Commitment

by Amy Waterman This course is all about building the love, aection, and long-lasting relationship that you want and deserve. Imagine how it would be to have someone in your lie who is genuinely and deeply committed to you and your relationship? Imagine never eeling insecure about the uture again? Imagine knowing that you can attract and create a relationship where the two o you want exactly the same things, and are going to grow rom strength to strength together? I you want to put an end to unullling relationships, take things to the next level o commitment, attract emotionally available women who take you seriously and support you in your lie goals, i you want to learn how commitment really works or women, then you’ve got to read this book. It’s crucial to your success. Amy’s discovered a oolproo method o magnetically attracting your partner to grow in closeness and commitment – on physical and emotional levels – as time goes on. How would it be to be completely immune to the death o love and closeness in your relationship? To not be worried when the lust and romantic love starts to ade, because you know something even greater is in store? Do you want to be in a relationship with your best riend, your avorite person, the woman you love more than anyone in the world … and have those eelings reciprocated? When your love lie is going well, everything else works like magic. But the best part is, it’s not actually magical at all – it just takes knowledge and a little skill. That’s where this course will give you the step up in your love lie that you really need. Amy’s lie-changing course is one o the most thorough courses on helping you understand, create, maintain, and oster commitment through every stage o the attraction and relationship process,



I you want to create the ultimate relationship… improve your relationships starting RIGHT NOW… create better communication with everyone around you… achieve true and lasting physical passion in your relationship… and strengthen your relationship with your partner, even in times o stress and change…then I strongly recommend you read this book. It’ll change your lie in ways you never knew was possible. In addition to the course, there are a number o bonus ebooks and audio les that will urther assist and enable you on your search or commitment in your love lie and relationships.

You can access the “From First Dates to Soul Mates” course at this web address right here: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/commitment/men



Supreme Sel-Confdence in Dating, Relationships & Social Situations by Slade Shaw Let me ask you a ew questions: •

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I you answered YES to any o the above questions, then this book is a great t or you. I strongly believe that this inormation could help you lit yoursel above the rest when it comes to attracting and maintaining relationships with women. When you're not sel condent, then you get nervous and act dierently at times when you eel stressed or need to be at your best. For example: on a date, or when you're talking to a woman you're attracted to. I your condence betrays you at these vital times, then you may actually struggle to make your lie turn out the way you want it to. Condence is attractive and a crucial tool or men to have when dating, and without it, it's dicult to attract a really good catch. Why?



Women base their assumptions o you on what they know o you. That's why rst impressions can count or so much and be so hard to change. I that impression she gets in those rst ew moments is all she knows o you, then as ar as she's concerned, that image she has in her head o you IS YOU. So i you meet a woman you are attracted to and act nervous, umble your words, and run out o things to say… then as ar as she knows, you are the kind o person who is nervous, umbles their words and runs out o things to say. And in those crucial rst ew moments, you lose your credibility and social status. (O course, a little nervousness - with a smile! - can be endearing and can even help you, but i you can't let your best sel shine through quickly, your love lie is going to be characterized by a series o stilted interactions and misunderstandings o who the REAL YOU is.) Also, it's really unortunate that people may assume rom your shy or nervous behavior that you simply don't like being around them. They pick up on your discomort. Women expect you to take the lead when you approach them, so its crucial that you are able to ollow through and hold a conversation. And this is exactly the kind o problem that this book deals with in detail. By reading Slade Shaw’s book, you'll become a guy who enters a relationship with condence and charisma, without needing someone else to 'complete' you. You'll be looking or a woman to 'complement' you instead o asking her a avor by dating you. This is one o the most powerul and special characteristics that you could possibly oer to a relationship. The sel-condence that Slade teaches you will instantly help you become a more socially adept man who is able to manage the challenges and negotiations that all relationships and interactions bring.



You can access ‘Supreme Sel-Confdence’ at this web address: https://www.meetyoursweet.com/selcondence/men/



Conversation Chemistry – How to use the power o communication to create and maintain unstoppable attraction with the Opposite Sex!

by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) When renowned online relationship experts Amy Waterman and Mirabelle Summers started researching and writing Conversation Chemistry, they were initially going to write 2 separate books: one or people who are single or dating, and one or people who are already in a relationship. But the eedback received was an overwhelming number o suggestions that they combine them both together, as there was so much essential inormation in each o them or people at all stages o a relationship. Hence, Conversation Chemistry was created and is actually the length o two ull books (298 pages) and is packed ull o essential communication secrets or you, no matter whether you are single or in a long term relationship! We've broken it up into three specialized sections: Section 1: The principles o great communication with the opposite sex. Section 2: Secrets to talking to and communicating with the opposite sex during dating. Section 3: Communication inside a relationship Inside this lie-changing and engaging course, you will uncover a whole host o conversation tips and strategies, including: •

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Find out the surprising results rom a study o singles bars, conducted by a couple o doctors. They proved the theory that there is a denite sequence to the process o attracting a mate. You'll hear what this process is, and how you can use it to your advantage in sparking attraction. I you ollow this process, you'll build up an incredible attraction or you when it comes to the ladies! Find out the orm o intuitive communication that NLP practitioners, psychologists and even pickup artists alike agree is crucial to orming a lasting bond with another person… The 'magic' ingredients necessary to build potent rapport with women. This is truly powerul stu you won't want to miss out on! Find out the key secret to become a charismatic and high-status man who has no doubt that what you're saying is interesting to your audience. The 5 conversation turn-ons that when applied diligently, you’ll nd that people will not just enjoy talking to you... they’ll go out o their way to talk to you! How to overcome approach anxiety. I you suer rom approach anxiety, you’re not alone. Going up to someone and starting a conversation can be incredibly dicult! You'll learn how to calm these nerves right here with our highly eective 5 step strategy. The one thing that you absolutely must say to put people at ease and dramatically reduce your chances o getting "brushed o" by a woman when you try to strike up a conversation. How to spark chemistry and sexual chemistry with women. You'll learn some incredibly powerul secrets here, and they are a lot easier than you imagine! The communication skills required or a great long-lasting relationship are dierent to those that spark attraction and get you through the rst month or two o dating. In this exciting section, you'll discover vital communication skills that will bring the two o you together and you'll nd out common communication mistakes so that you don't make them yoursel! What to do i communication stops. Rarely go out or an evening alone together? Feel like you've run out o things to say to each other? Find out how to revive your communication and get to know your partner again.



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Discover the 3 traits o happy couples who know how to disagree in a healthy, nondestructive way. Uncover essential secrets on how to orgive. Without orgiveness lie is governed by an endless cycle, so it’s essential you master this crucial relationships skill! How to argue properly and grow together as a result, rather than grow apart. This is an incredibly important chapter or you to read as arguments have been proven to be severely detrimental to many relationships, and yet seen as strengtheners or others who know how to argue properly. Using the power o talking about the uture to urther enhance your long term relationship success. Discover the next step and how to assess your progress at regular intervals.

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2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love o Your Ex by Mirabelle Summers (co-authored by Amy Waterman) I you're going through the emotional turmoil o a break-up with a woman that you really didn't want to happen (or now regret happening), then you have my whole hearted sympathy. I know what you are going through, I've been there, it isn't a happy place and it isn't an exaggeration to say that can even eel like someone has just died. Breaking up is an awul experience. And in this book, I’m going to reveal to you my powerul methods or winning back your ex. Essentially, I've written this book to guide you through the process o healing the pain o a breakup; recognizing why it happened in the rst place; guring out whether it genuinely is a good idea to get back with your ex; and, i it is, I tell you exactly – EXACTLY! – what you need to heal the wounds and make your relationship better than it ever was beore. But rst I have a very important question to ask you beore carrying on ... •

Why Do You REALLY Want To Get Back Together With Her?

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And Is It REALLY A Good Decision To Make?

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Were you and your ex really good together? Did she treat you the way you deserve to be treated? More importantly, did she support you in your goals - and did you support her wholeheartedly in hers? I'm asking that question in particular as it is the biggest determining actor in long-term relationship success according to numerous studies.

The rst thing that you need to do right now is STOP doing what ever you are doing to get her attention back. No more sending fowers or begging or orgiveness! (Yes, really. Even i you genuinely eel that you are ‘in the wrong’, stop apologizing and stop begging.) Beore you do anything that you think will win back the love o your ex, you need to listen to what Mirabelle Summers has to say. 2 nd Chance is a course that guides you through the whole sel-refection, consideration, and negotiation process that characterizes a relationship breakup and rescue. I you are committed to getting back with your ex, and All Rights Reserved © 2008 MeetYourSweet.com 35

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