Building our self-esteem Just imagine the things we would accomplish if we had the belief that we could c ould do absolutely anything, especially if we could maintain a level of self-esteem that no circumstance could shake. What would you be doing? Self-esteem comes from positive self-imaging, and it is something that we proactively build for ourselves. Self-esteem doesnt happen while we wait passively. passively. When we leave it up to e!ternal factors, we build our self-esteem on sandy ground. What we want is a rock-solid foundation, and this only comes from b uilding it within. "hroughout our daily routines, our minds are very good at picking up all the things weve done wrong, and it makes sure we are aware of them. With such a counter-productive force at work, we can benefit greatly by regularly working towards establishing and building our own self image. #ve learned that the way we view ourselves directly affects everything we do. $ eople with high self-esteem get along easily with others, rarely get sick, and seem to have high energy reserves. %lso, their high level of self-esteem corresponds with their high level of productivity, capacity of happiness and state of well-being.
% $ersonal Story& %s a style coach, # 'Jae( am my own boss ) which is a blessing and a curse. Without a manager to report to, deadlines, or set schedules, # am responsible for enforcing these on myself ) intrinsically. # must do these things if # want to achieve my professional goals, even though it can feel like a burden at times. *ast month, after several previous hectic months of intense work, # had fallen into a lull. +aybe you can relate with w ith me& #t started with a few missed to-do items, then failure to deliver on a few commitments. # could feel the self disappointment building inside. # felt stressed. # woke up each morning with the thought of making up for the previous days failures, only to find myself failing once again. #in this vicious cycle my work started to accumulate, and for days # needed to push back on obligations and commitments. # felt the grip on my self-esteem slipping, and was now scrambling to hang on to the remaining scraps of what was left of it. # kept making e!cuses and rationaliations for why # wasnt getting stuff done, and as my integrity waned, # started to lose faith in myself and procrastinate even more. "his was me a month ago.
#t has been a beautiful learning e!perience being able to observe myself in this state of mind, and ultimately learning how # overcame it.
% loser *ook Self-esteem how much we like ourselves. /ow much we like ourselves level of self-dominion. What is self-dominion? #t is our ability to get ourselves to actually do, what we want ourselves to do0 in other words, self-discipline and self-trust. % person who has dominion over themselves has self-integrity ) staying true to their words and commitments. 1very time we fail to listen to our inner voice, and do not take action in something that we need to, we lose trust with ourselves and our abilities. "his lack of self faith continues to spiral downwardly as we flounder to fulfill more commitments.
"urning $oint2 /ow to Start Building Self-1steem
+ost of us are familiar with the concept of momentum. When we do something well, regardless of how small the task, we build positive energy and momentum, which can fuel other tasks on our list. 3or e!ample, if you have 4ust washed all the dishes, mowed the lawn, and made calls to all of your clients, it will be easier for you ) psychologically ) to 5uickly move on to and complete the ne!t task. 6ou will have built the momentum necessary to getting things done, and you are simply riding on that energy and building on previous successes. 7n the flip side, when we put off what we want to do or know we should do, we lose momentum, and more importantly, we lose trust in ourselves. %nother way to view this is to pretend we have a personal assistant. "he better they perform on the tasks assigned to them, the more confident we will feel towards their abilities to handle responsibility. 8radually, we will assign more important tasks to them as trust is established. We now have faith in their a bilities to follow through. We trust them.
onversely, if our assistant procrastinates and misses deadlines regularly, we will lose faith in their abilities to follow through. We stop trusting them. We stop giving them tasks 'at least the important ones(, and we start to look for a replacement assistant. 9ow, think of ourselves as our own assistant. "he more we follow through with actions, the more confidence and trust well establish with ourselves. We will then gain faith in our ability to take on more tasks. "he small wins with ourselves, directly affect how much we like ourselves. 1ach time we successfully follow through, the e!perience becomes a building block towards a more positive self image.
:; "ips to Building Self-1steem #n order to build your self-esteem, you must establish yourself as the master of your own life. 1very single minute of your life is a moment you can change for the better. #f youve been delaying some action for half the day, dont dwell on it or beat yourself up for it, shift your focus to the present moment an d what you can do right now. Start with the smallest or the most important task. :<( =>emember that failure is an event, not a person. @( =6ou will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want. A ( =$eople often say motivation doesnt last. 9either does bathingthats why we recommend it daily. C( ="here has never been a statue erected to honor a critic. D( =$eople dont buy for logical reasons. "hey buy for emotional reasons. E( =1!pect the best. $repare for the worst. apitalie on what comes. F( =#f you go looking for a friend, youre going to find theyre scarce. #f you go out to be a friend, youll find them everywhere. ;( =% goal properly set is halfway reached. G( =6our attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.
( #f you see it, you can dream it, if you dream it, you can achieve it. :
