INTRODUCTION FACT: Nonverbal communication counts for at least 50% of communication. Is your body language telling the world that you're a male or a female? If you're not sure, then chances are you're communicating as a MAN. Your body talks through: 1. 2. 3. 4.
Posture and stance Gestures Facial expressions Eye contact
There are major differences between male and female body language. In this report, I'm going to show you how to fine tune your “body talk” so you can give off the signals of a sexy, confident woman.
POSTURE AND STANCE The three biggest differences between the way men and women hold their bodies are: 1. Open vs. closed 2. Straight vs. curved 3. Weight forward vs. weight neutral
Open vs. Closed
The #1 body language rule you need to remember is that women take up less space than men. Studies have shown that open body positions are associated with a display of power. Men display their “power” by sitting and standing with their legs spread and their elbows out, while women keep their limbs closer to their bodies. Besides making you look more passive and feminine, a closed stance also makes you appear physically smaller.
Straight vs. Curved
Sexy women are all about curves, including the way they hold their bodies. Women tend make s-shaped curves when they sit or stand. Men's bodies are more linear. They sit and stand in angles, rather than curves. Making an s-curve with your body (by balancing your weight on one side) has the added benefit of making your body look more voluptuous.
Weight Forward vs. Weight Neutral
Men are always giving off subtle displays of power. Another way they display power is by leaning forward – as if they are constantly poised for action. Women tend to keep their weight neutrally balanced and hold their bodies in more receptive positions. ... Now that you know the 3 major differences between male and female stances, let's talk about specific do's and don'ts for each part of the body.
DO'S AND DONT'S – STANDING Posture
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DON'T slouch or stand with poor posture. Most of us have poor posture due to sitting in front of the computer all day.
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DO stand with beautiful, feminine posture: Chest lifted and tummy in.
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DON'T lean forward with your shoulders or head.
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DO keep your weight balanced over your heels.
Legs and Feet
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DON'T stand with your legs apart.
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DO keep your knees together at all times.
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DO keep your weight on one foot only. This causes the hip on the supporting side of your body to jut out, giving you that sexy s-curve.
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DON'T stand with pigeon toes. A lot of women (including celebrities) do this, but it looks awkward.
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DO position your feet in a “clock pose”. Place the heel of one foot into the crook of the opposite foot. Imagine you are standing on a clock and turn both feet out slightly so they are pointing at 11:00 and 2:00.
Arms and Hands
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DON'T cross your arms or stuff your hands in your pockets. These positions give you a closed off, defensive look.
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DON'T an over the top hands-on-the-hips supermodel pose. Normal women don't stand like this unless they're on the catwalk.
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DO find an attractive position for your arms. Try: ○
Placing one hand on your waist with the other arm relaxed beside you.
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Clasping your hands in front of you.
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Resting your elbow on the opposite hand.
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Holding a purse.
Head ●
DON'T hang your head.
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DO keep your chin up, parallel to the floor.
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DON'T lead with your head.
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DO keep your earlobes over your shoulders.
DO'S AND DON'TS – SITTING Posture
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DON'T slouch in your seat or lean forward too much.
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DO sit with good posture with your weight evenly balanced.
Legs and Feet
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DON'T spread your legs. I know this is common sense, but it's all too easy to slip into old habits – especially when you are relaxing.
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DO cross your legs at the feet or ankle. A lady ALWAYS keeps her knees together.
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DO try sitting with your weight on one hip to create a feminine scurve.
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DON'T stick your feet out if you've got long legs. You might trip somebody.
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DO keep your feet tucked under you.
Arms and Hands
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DON'T cross your arms.
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DO find a graceful position for your arms. Try: ○
Clasping your hands in your lap.
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Resting your elbow on the opposite hand.
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DON'T stick your elbows out.
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DO keep your elbows tucked into your body at all times.
Head ●
DO tilt your head slightly. (Don't overdo it!) A slight head tilt gives you a demure look.
GESTURES Gestures are a big part of body language. A basic rule of thumb is that women are more expressive with their gestures. They tend to use their hands a lot when they talk.
DO'S AND DONT'S – GESTURES
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DON'T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or peeling the labels off your beer bottles.
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DO use your hands to emphasize what you are saying.
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DON'T make jerky or clumsy gestures. If your arms are long, you risk knocking things over or whacking other people.
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DO use graceful movements. The easiest way to make your movements more graceful is to KEEP YOUR ELBOWS TUCKED IN.
FACIAL EXPRESSIONS Your face says volumes about you. The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. Women tend to make pleasant faces. They smile more at strangers, while men keep their game faces on. You need to practice making your face look more friendly and open.
DO'S AND DON'TS – FACIAL EXPRESSIONS ●
DON'T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others.
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DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned slightly up at all times.
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DO greet clerks, waiters, and people you meet with a smile – even if they're strangers.
EYE CONTACT Eye contact is a major way to gage how a person feels. People who don't make eye contact are either insecure or have something to hide. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere. Confidence is half the battle to passing as a woman. Look people in the eye (no matter how nervous you feel) and you are a lot more likely to be accepted.
DO'S AND DON'TS – EYE CONTACT ●
DON'T avoid people's eyes.
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DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two.
