SETH ROSE LIFE
BIG MAN ON CAMPUS Get the Girls, Get the Grades Seth Rose
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Disclaimer This book contains no personal or legal advice. This book is written for entertainment purposes only. Seth Rose cannot be held liable for any actions you take such as: 1.) Committing a criminal offense 2.) Impregnating a woman 3.) Causing bodily harm to yourself or to someone else Don’t be an idiot…
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Table of Contents Preface
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Introduction
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PLAY
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Independent or Greek
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College Game
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Alcohol: Everybody’s Closest Friend
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Seth’s Awesome Party Recipe
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College Game In Action
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A Few Last Words
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WORK
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Overview of Major’s and Career’s
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Finding a “Home Away From Home”
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BMOC Lifestyle
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Conclusion
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All I ask
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Appendix
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Preface There’s an ongoing debate today on whether or not college is worth it. The argument is that privileged, yuppy white kids are getting degrees in liberal arts that won’t provide them with a meaningful career after graduating leaving them tens of thousands of dollars in debt, forcing them to work at Starbucks for menial pay while either looking for something that pays above minimum wage or to go back to graduate school where they will only continue the cycle of higher education followed by a low paying job. Well… can’t argue with that. The argument is indeed valid. However, this is not the case for all individuals. It varies on a case by case basis and depends on many factors such as the student’s major, school, work ethic, intelligence etc. For the most part, college IS worth it. Getting a degree will absolutely put one in a better position to get a job that pays well and they enjoy, as opposed to relying on your high school diploma to find you a job. Sure, billionaires like Steve Jobs and Bill Gates dropped out of college and became amazing successes. Sure, you can start your own business right out of high school. However, most people who don’t go to college are not successes. Getting a degree and building valuable skills will put you in a position to earn more in life. College is not just a time for partying. It is an opportunity to develop yourself to the best you can be. It is a time to experiment, have fun, meet new people and to find out who you really are. So when someone asks, “Is college worth it?” the answer is: Hell yes motherfucker!
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Introduction They say that college is the best four years of your life. I couldn’t agree more. College is an experience unlike any other. Sadly though, many young men do not get to enjoy college for all that it is. They are doomed to a life of videogames, Taco Bell and masturbating to “unique” porn videos. I’m sure you’ve seen or at least hear of classic college films like Animal House and Van Wilder. While the events in those films are clearly exaggerated, it is possible to take part in the crazy antics seen in those films. However, to enjoy those things one must be a certain type of man, with certain types of friends in a larger social circle. That type of man is the Big Man On Campus (or BMOC). To me, this ideal man works hard by day, and parties hard by night. He’s got good grades and he gets laid. He’s got a good internship coming up all the while having a great group of friends. I’m going to tell you how to be that man and so much more, but let’s back up a bit. Who the Hell am I and how did I get here? Let’s back up a bit shall we… I hated high school. I wasn’t cool, I had acne and I did nothing with my life. Alright, well that’s not fair. I did play videogames, masturbate excessively to porn, and sit home on the weekends watching TV. Okay so I wasn’t THAT bad, I’m exaggerating a bit. I was a nice guy, fun to be around and had great friends. Things could have been worst. At least I wasn’t a small child working for blood diamonds in the Congo. It could have been better though. I wanted to go to the parties the cool kids were going to. I wanted to be popular in school. I wanted to get laid, or at the very least kiss a girl! So I set out to change things. I just needed an opportunity to start over. You know, get a new shot. College was the perfect storm. I would attend college a few states over. I was the only kid from my high school going there so no one would know the true me. I could totally reinvent myself. The summer before starting college I remember going to the mall and getting new clothes, shoes, and some accessories; stuff I would never have considered wearing in high school. I wanted to be cool and since I wasn’t cool in high school I felt I couldn’t wear these things. Most of us live our lives through the perception of others. We believe society has a certain perception of us and we must fulfill the role we are given. To break that role not only would it be awkward, but I would be criticized by my peers. I thought I could create a new perception of myself by moving away and changing my wardrobe like I was on the FBI’s Top 10 Most Wanted List. That’s not how this shit works! I found that out the hard way. sethroselife.com
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I was finally at school and it was my first day of class. I was running late so I had to throw everything together quickly. I sprayed some cologne on, threw on some all-white Adidas sneakers and my new Burberry glasses. I ran down the hall to the elevator. There weren’t too many Freshman in my dorm so I was joined by two upperclassman. As soon as I walked in they were hit with the musk of my cologne. They saw the glasses and the sneakers. They had huge grins on their faces they tried to hide. Needless to say I felt like shit. I walked out of the elevator and put my glasses away. It was then that I realized that moving a few hundred miles away and changing clothes didn’t make me a different person. Sure, I could have tried to create some new persona, but the best way to fulfill my desires was to actually become the person I wanted to be through experiences and behavioral changes. It was a long road indeed to get where I am today. I am incredibly happy with where I am and who I am as a person. By the time I graduated school I had become a pretty fucking cool guy. So how is it that I went from being a dorky pizza face geek, to a cool guy that got laid? To be honest, it wasn’t that hard. It was a gradual process though, so patience was required yes, but I never really had to overcome any trials or tribulations like Job. I think the most important thing was putting myself in a position where I could “be myself”. Yeah I just went there. While you may think “being yourself” is terrible advice that your parents gave you, it’s actually amazing advice. I’m a firm believer that all men have a version of themselves that is witty, fun, charming etc. Do you ever notice that you act differently around your close friends than you do around pretty girls? There’s a reason for this. You’re hiding who you really are. To get the most out of college, and life for that matter you must bring this version of yourself to the surface. To do this you must put yourself in a position where you’re comfortable enough to be this person. I did this by joining a fraternity. It allowed me to make amazing friendships, better than anything I experienced in high school. I took up multiple leadership positions and became a leader of my peers when I was nothing of the sort a few years prior. I found out I was actually good with girls when I had never even kissed a girl in high school. (A quick note: I don’t expect everyone who reads this to join a frat so I’ll do my best to not shove Greek Life down your throats and do the best I can to make this applicable to the broadest range of people possible.) I strongly believe that barring a severe physical deformity or some sort of mental illness, any guy can have an awesome college experience. If you sethroselife.com
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have the right mindset and put yourself in a position to succeed I have no doubt that you can become a Big Man On Campus.
The Great College Myth I was a starry eyed optimist when I came to college. From the impressions we are given it seems that everyone in college is getting laid all the time and having crazy parties. While I never doubted the existence of such things, I had yet to experience it within my first few weeks of school. It wasn’t until Halloween that I attended my first party. Me and a few buddies decided to venture off campus in search for some parties. I was the leader of the pack, so that gives you an idea of the people I was rolling with. I got word of a party and we headed there. The lawn was fenced off and people were playing pong outside. It was a site to behold. My first party! (Sheds tears) Well, we didn’t really know what to do and I think all the booze was gone so we went across the street to another party. The party can be described in one word: Ratchet. Now this was probably just a normal house party, but my perception of it was that it was glorious seeing as it was my first night out in college. I remember there being lots of sexy girls and a keg. At one point one of these sexy girls starts flirting with me hardcore. I froze. I literally had no clue what to do. She got pissed off at me and stomped off clearly frustrated with the absence of my dick inside her. We left shortly after and returned back to the dorms. It was a fun night indeed. While my weekends prior to that had consisted of shitty pizza, porn and the occasional movie I finally had my first taste at the real college experience. It opened my eyes as to what was really out there. I would go on to go to, and host, many parties like this in the future at my frat house and they were wild. I’m talking hundreds, if not over a thousand people at my house. Cases of Natural Light as far as the eyes could see. Lights flashing and music bumping while little Freshman girls twerked their tight asses. This is the shit you see in movies. I was fortunate to be able to be a part of this. However, for the majority of students on a college campus this is just a pipedream. I’d venture to say at least 80% of people rarely get to experience things like these. Most guys spend their whole four years who I spent my first year: Class, fap, eat repeat. This lifestyle is not hard to achieve. By simply making the right choices, knowing the right people, and putting yourself in situations where stuff like sethroselife.com
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this can happen it inevitably will. The most effective way to achieve this is to be part of a social circle where this stuff happens. Most people in college are relegated to being part of a small, tightly knit social circle. They all know one another either through high school, class, student organizations or work. When they party, they party together at one of their apartments or houses. If one of them gets laid, which is probably rare, it will be with someone within this small group, and they will most likely end up dating them at the insistence of their peers. Compare that with people in fraternities who have dozens of close male friends. On top of this, they “network” with sororities and are constantly expanding their social network. As a result of economies of scale, these groups can throw bigger and better parties. These parties attract hotter women. Women like to fuck cool guys, and thus is the reason frat boys get laid. The average college student is a part of one of these small groups and thus won’t experience the life of someone who’s part of this bigger social network. As previously mentioned being in a fraternity fulfills this criteria. Again, if you don’t decide to join a fraternity it is still very feasible to achieve this. I will go over how exactly to do this in the future, but essentially it will require you to create your OWN social network. You will be the facilitator of fun and the dictator of decisions. So how does one become this man? Glad you asked.
Before We Start For those who are not yet in college, I think it’s important to discuss where you will attend college and what you will study. This is not to optimize your odds of getting laid, but rather because it is important to consider your financial situation presently and in the future and how it will affect your career. If you have a dream school that you got into and couldn’t imagine life without going there, then go. But if you’re on the fence about going to a big state school a few hundred miles away or an in-state school, it’s probably smarter to stay in state for the sake of saving money. There’s no need to go to some fancy pants school that charges $50,000+ a year, especially because most degrees they’re giving out are liberal arts which will not compensate you a lot making paying tuition that much harder. If you’re reading this book it means you probably want to have a good social experience during college, but also want to have a great job out of college. sethroselife.com
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In that case, its state school’s all the way. Some state schools are better than others. Schools like University of Michigan and Virginia are some of the best public schools in the country. You’ll have a great social life, but the programs offered there in things like Business and Engineering are on par with many elite private institutions. Do your research though. Think about it a lot. I was very, very close to going to a different university than I ended up going to because I just went with the flow. I thought that this school seemed cool and I went with it. It was only at the last minute I received a scholarship from another school and made me second guess my original choice, and I ended up opting for the other school. Don’t worry about doing college visits before you get into the school either, it’s a waste of time and money. Here’s how to pick a school: 1.) Ask yourself what you want to get out of college: The two most common answers are fun and a good job like I’ve been saying. I have no idea how you did on your standardized tests, what your GPA was, and what clubs you were in. If you fucked around in high school and your application is shit, then you’re shit out of luck. On the other hand if you raped your high school classes and the SAT’s/ACT’s then you have your pick of the litter. 2.) Check tuition prices: If tuition is not an issue than Pass Go and Collect $200 (the rich truly do get richer) and move on to Step 3. If money is an important factor, take into account that Student Debt is very real. Two of my close friends had loans in college and I’ll use them as examples: a. Scott was a Computer Science and Engineering major. He dicked around a bit in college, but got his shit done and got a job as a programmer right out of school without any frustration. b. Bill was a Political Science major. He did well in school and his plan is law school. The law field is a saturated market so he’s taking a big gamble. He works in a coffee shop as of now, with tens of thousands of dollars in student debt staring him in the face. All of us would rather be Scott. Fortunately, I learned Bill just received some hefty scholarships to law school so won’t have to worry too much about money. For the sake of this example, assume that he did NOT receive any scholarships. That is a big financial gamble to take.
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I’ll expand on picking majors shortly, but debt is a scary thing. If you want to get a liberal arts degree, which is fine, be wary of going to a pricey school unless mom and dad are footing the bill. 3.) Apply: Pick 5-10 schools that stand out to you as places you may enjoy. Apply as early as possible as it will give you more time to make a decision. You should get into most of your choices if you were smart about where you applied. Now it’s time to really whittle down your choices. I would start by going over costs again. Then look at these schools by the strength of their programs. If you want to study Finance, you should give preference to a school with a good Business school, although you shouldn’t pick the school solely because of this factor as you may decide to switch majors after you get sodomized by your accounting class. 4.) Visit: If you’re from Florida and apply to university of Wisconsin, know that snow does exist and isn’t something that exists on TV. Climate is a big factor, but isn’t usually a big deal unless you must live in a particular climate (e.g. Warm and Sunny). Also, some campuses are not aesthetically pleasing and gloomy. While this isn’t a huge factor, being surrounded by ugliness can cause unhappiness (that’s why we date hot chicks). I’d wait until you get accepted to visit a school’s campus. No point in spending a few hundred dollars on a visit when you may not even get accepted. 5.) Finalize: It’s time to seal the deal. Once your accepted and do all the necessary paperwork and other stuff, they’ll walk you through the process. Most people are happy where they go to school. There are a few common reasons why people do transfer schools though: a. Too big: Going to a massive school can be overwhelming for some. My Freshman roommate at one of the biggest schools in the country, transferred to some tiny ass college in Rhode Island I’ve never heard of. This school just wasn’t for him, plus it was close to his home. b. Too small: Some people go to schools that aren’t much bigger than their high school for reasons that are beyond me. They then transfer to bigger schools so that they can enjoy life.
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c. Far from home: Many people get homesick their Freshman year of school and opt to move closer to home. If they took this into account in the first place, they would’ve never went to a school so far away. d. Change programs: When people go to a school because of a particular program, when they end up changing majors there is no point at attending that school any longer if it offers nothing else of value. This is why I recommend choosing a school not based on a particular program. Consider these factors before finalizing a decision. So now that you’ve picked your school, it’s a good time to think about what you want to study. It’s not necessary to lock yourself into a certain major, but I’m sure there are some subjects that pique your interest. If not, why are you even going to college?
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PLAY “That party last night was awfully crazy I wish we taped it I danced my ass off and had this one girl completely naked Drink my beer and smoke my weed But my good friends is all I need Pass out at three, wake up at 10 Go out to eat, then do it again, man I love college..” -Asher Roth Time for a keg stand motherfucker!! College, you gotta fucking love it. Beers and Boobies! It’s real easy to forget about why you are actually in college. In fact, after graduating I felt the most significant aspect was the social part. I grew tremendously as a person and had a ton of amazing experiences. Oh yeah and I went to class and stuff. I’m going to tell you how to study and get good grades in college, but that shit is boring! It’s time to party, now let’s get into it!
Developing Your Social Circle A cool social circle filled with fun, attractive and well connected people will allow you to have an epic college experience. Getting into one, or better yet building one is something you should strive for. Easier said than done. If you’re like me and you come to college from out of state, you’re the only person from your high school at the university, you get stuck in a shitty dorm and to add insult to injury you have no social skills, how the fuck are you supposed to achieve this? Well, you’re going to have to make the most of what you’ve got. You will want to disregard the negatives and push them as far aside as possible until you barely even realize that they’re there. If you didn’t know anybody at your school and you’re like me you’re going to have to start from the bottom up.
Before you get to campus
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Let’s start at the very beginning. Before you even come to school, check to see if there is a Facebook group for your graduating class. Let’s say you’re going to be starting school in August 2014 at Florida State. Search Facebook for “Florida State Class of 2018”. Guaranteed if you go to a decent sized school there will be a few thousand people in this group. Even if there’s a smaller group there will be a few hundred people. Go on this group and start friend requesting people, especially if they live near your hometown. Make sure to friend cute girls and cool guys. This may seem creepy, but it’s not. I did it, and had multiple people friend requested me that I never even met. Kids coming to college want to meet as many people as possible, specifically those that will add to their college experience. Message them something like “Can’t wait to start in August! What dorm are you living in?” If they seem cool tell them you guys should drink sometime or some type of hang out. Be the facilitator. Most people in this world are followers. They need a leader to guide them through life. When it comes to college, most kids are easily manipulated. Tell them you’re going to some party, they’re coming. Your eating dinner at 7:12 PM at West Dining Hall, they’re coming. College students, especially Freshman are always looking for something to do and if you want to have a good social life, become the guy who is the go to for a good time. Another great way to pre-emptively enhance your social life is to check out some fraternities before coming to campus. Even if your opposed to Greek life, taking some time to look into fraternities will pay dividends as a Freshman your first semester. I’ll go into more detail later on, but frats are itching to get new guys to join each year and target Freshman guys with ideas of loose women and copious amounts of alcohol. Check out some frats at your school, and pick a few you like. E-mail them or post on their Facebook group and ask about their Rush schedule. Rush week is essentially the first week or two of each semester in which Fraternities will attempt to recruit new members, especially Freshman (I’ll touch on this more briefly). By jumping the gun and taking the initiative, Fraternities will be glad to bring you around assuming you’re not a total weirdo. You can expect free food and activities during the day, and potentially parties at night. When you move into your dorm, you’ll have stuff planned you can invite guys along to during the day. And on the weekends, you’ll have parties to invite all the guys and girls too. If you’ve got parties hooked up the first few weeks, you will have it made.
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Move-In That covers what to do before you get to school. Now it’s time to actually go to school! Once move in day arrives, the game is on. Leave your door open, ALL THE FUCKING TIME! Unless your roommate has a problem with it, leave your door open unless your dick is hanging out. Even if you’re shy leaving your door open is an invitation for people to come to your room. Again, people are always looking for something to do, even if it just means shooting the shit with someone. Walk around your floor and if someone’s door is open, go in. We’re pretending this is the first day, so introduce yourself and bullshit a bit with them. Tell them you two should party this weekend. They’ll dig it. Time to meet the RA aka the Robber of Alcohol… sorry that was terrible. RA’s aren’t always that bad. In fact I had a buddy who was an RA who banged a few girls in his hall. End well that did not, but that’s another story. Just try and get on your RA’s good side, and pretend like you’re a sweet little angel. Tell them you want to smoke weed with them in your dorm some time. Just kidding, don’t do that. You can usually choose what dorm you want at most schools, but that guarantees nothing. Again, make the most of what you’ve got.
Beyond the dorms Common advice for getting laid and being cool in college is to go hard the first two weeks in terms of socializing. I couldn’t agree with this more, but it’s easier said than done. When I came to college I was shy and awkward. Despite my wardrobe changes I still wasn’t cool and didn’t magically get social skills, so to suggest that someone like myself could meet a hundred new strangers my first week is a pipedream. If you were social in high school, you’re in a great position to start strong. If you were like me, hope is not lost. What you need to do is put yourself in a position to meet people. Doing passive things like leaving your door open, to simply eating burgers at a fraternity house do not require an intense exertion of oneself socially and thus socializing is easier than you think. It is by putting yourself in positions like this that will allow you to grow tremendously over the four or so years in college.
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Do your best though to meet people outside your dorm. There’s numerous places to meet people in your first few weeks, a time where everybody is still in shell shock over being in college. Here are a few: 1.)
Dining Halls: In the age of the Smartphone, it may seem a bit odd to actually strike up a conversation with a stranger for the sake of having a chat. I’m sure you don’t do it too often, and it will likely take people by surprise. Yet, for many underclassmen that eat in the dorms eating with a total stranger isn’t as weird as it sounds, especially if it’s busy. Grab a seat with someone, guy or girl, who looks friendly and ask if you can take a seat. Start shooting the shit, ask the regular questions, “What dorm do you live in?”, “What do you study?” If they’re cool/hot tell them you should hang out together sometime. Bonus points if you have an event planned that you can invite them too.
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Class: You’d think people would mingle in class, but 98% of people are glued to their cell phones or laptop before class. The easiest way to strike up a conversation is to ask a question about the syllabus, a homework assignment, or just how fucking boring/hard/easy the class is. You could ask a cute girl to “study” with you, but I’ve never heard anyone getting laid from a study session. It sounds nice to study with a cute girl at the library and bang her in the 7th floor stacks, right between the section on Spanish literature and Israeli culture at 1030PM at night on a Wednesday… okay this never happened. A frequent questions guys always ask is “How can I get with this girl in my class?” Staying on the omnipresent theme of being the facilitator, you want to convey to this girl that you have an active and fun social life. Instead of straight up asking her out for coffee, to study, or something else lame have fun things going on you can invite her too. If you’re of age ask her to grab a beer with some friends. Not of age? Find a cool house party and invite her to tag along. If a cute college girl is presented with the options of a.) Coffee or b.) Alcohol, she will almost always pick the latter.
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Clubs: Within the first week or so, most schools have some type of fair where all the student organizations get together and encourage students to join. This is a great opportunity to join some clubs. You probably won’t bang girls from the Young Republicans, but you should always be networking. Always Be Networking. The more people you know, the more doors open for social circles and parties. Like study groups, no one really gets laid directly from a club. See sethroselife.com
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this more as a tool to meet cool people and find parties as opposed to exploiting it for pussy. That pretty much covers how and where you can meet cool guys and cute girls in our first semester at school. If you’re reading this and you’re not a freshman, no worries we have a ways to go. If you are a freshman and are wondering how the fuck you’re going to do all this when you were a loser in high school, chill. It’s not the end of the world if you’re not the coolest guy in school after a few months. It would be absurd to think that you can make such a profound transformation in such a short period of time, but what I will say is that you should be doing everything in your power to develop a social network of sorts. Never pass up an opportunity. If there’s a club you’re semi-interested in, join it! If there’s a cute girl sitting in your class, take out your ear buds and chat her up. If you can honestly go through your first semester, or first year for that matter and say that, being completely honest with yourself, you did your best to come out of your shell and go above and beyond than that’s all I or yourself can ask of you. You have four years to enjoy college, patience young padawan.
Independent or Greek Usually in your first year you’re going to have to make a decision: To go Greek or not. Most students actually will not have to make a decision as Greek life is not even in their realm of thought. There is a small percent of people (ten percent or so) that are inevitably going to join Greek life and another ten percent that aren’t. You’re probably somewhere in the middle. I don’t want to shove fraternities down your throat, but I can’t recommend it enough. At least think about it and give it a shot. Let’s assume for now that you do decide to join, or at least look into joining a fraternity. Well, welcome to Greek life my friend. In high school there are pretty distinct cliques. You got your rich kids, super rich kids (credit to Frank Ocean), jocks, dorks, geeks, nerds, emos, goths, potheads, lax bros, religious kids, troublemakers, wannabee troublemakers, band geeks, cheerleaders, Asians (subcategorized into smart Asians and cool
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Asians), Hispanic immigrants, sluts, hipsters, and of course the illustrious theatre dorks. Am I missing any? Now take those groups and multiply the number of people in each one by 10-20. These cliques now become small communities and there is no larger community then the Greeks. If the Greeks we’re a high school clique they would be a combination of lax bros, rich kids (with a few super rich kids thrown in for good measure), and the cheerleaders. That would give you your stereotypical frat boy and sorority girl. The thing is though that when you have several thousand people in a fraternity/sorority at a University you can’t categorize everyone as fitting into a specific role like in high school. It depends largely on the University, but in many fraternities at my campus, and in my own fraternity we pulled guys from nearly every one of the high school cliques. If you looked at some of the guys in my frat you would have never guessed that they were a frat boy. We had our stoners, geeks, Asians, gay guys etc. You name it we probably had it; and that was the beauty of it! Sure, many organizations will have 100 guys or girls who looked like they we’re cloned in some lab, but that’s rarely the case. As much as I’d like to jerk off to frats and sororities for the next twenty pages (which I may end up doing) I want to create a timeline in the event you do decide to join a fraternity. This timeline is going to span four years and take you through everything that you may experience.
So you wanna be a frat boy? When I first came to college, I knew what a fraternity was. Who didn’t? Come on now I’d seen Old School and American Pie Presents: Beta House. Damn, those movies made them look like fun. But to be in a frat you had to be cool right? Everyone who ever joined a fraternity was born cool, always dressed the way they do, and are totally the same person they were in high school. You can see where I’m going with this… To me fraternities presented an opportunity to better myself on all levels; the most appealing was the social aspect. Unfortunately I had no idea where to start. About 6-8 weeks into my first semester, things weren’t looking bright. My social life sucked and I still hadn’t even kissed a girl. Fuck me right! Well, I was walking into the dining hall one day and there was a cool looking guy promoting a fraternity on campus. I was a bit skeptical, but I took his sethroselife.com
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flyer. As of this writing it was a little over four years from today that this happened and it is by far one of the best decisions I ever made. Fortunately for you I am here to provide you with my insider knowledge. Don’t be like me and wait for a gift from the Greek Gods (that was clever huh?) to deliver you an invitation for awesomeness; take action into your own hands. I previously mentioned that as an incoming Freshman you should research the fraternities on your campus, pick a few that stand out and then contact them. They’ll be more than happy to have you to some of their events. Most recruitment events take place the first week or two of school; this is known as rush week.
Time to Rush The first week or two of every year can be hectic. Many people are living in a new place, they have to adjust to their class schedule, and most importantly get ready to do schoolwork after summer. Greek organizations are not exempt, and perhaps even more burdened with these drastic changes. It is during Rush Week that fraternities will seek out potential new members to join their ranks. For these two weeks fraternities will treat you like royalty (the next eight to ten they will treat you like slaves, but I’ll get to that shortly). Free food, events, booze and sluts are on the agenda. If frats are like NFL teams, then Freshmen are like college football players being scouted for the draft. During this time period you should not be overly burdened with school work so enjoy this week or two. Check out as many fraternities as you can and keep note of which ones you vibed well with. Remember, the guys that you will be spending the next several years with the guys you meet if you so decide to join. They’re going to be your wingmen, your study buddies, your drinking pals and so much more. There’s probably going to be a frat or two that tickles your fancy. Maybe there’s a guy you really clicked with, or a sick party they had. You know you want to be a part of it, but you’re afraid they may not like you or you’re going to somehow fuck it up. Don’t worry, I got you covered.
How to Get a Bid A bid is a written invitation that a fraternity will present to a potential new member extending their desire for the individual to join their chapter. If you accept the bid, is does not guarantee that you join, rather it gives you the
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opportunity to go through pledge ship, following which you will finally be able to join. In my fraternity we really weren’t too picky. Most fraternities aren’t. While the guys there may seem like demi-gods, I can bet they weren’t always that cool. They were average, but had potential. Many guys in my fraternity were pretty dorky when they joined, but had a complete makeover in terms of wardrobe and personality that made them fit the stereotypical frat boy role. I don’t approve of this, but it happens. As long as you are not socially inept, have some sense of style, can hold a conversation about interesting topics, and crack a few jokes you’re good to go. Here’s a quick list of Do’s and Don’t’s:
Do’s 1.)
Wear nice clothes. You don’t need to go out and buy an entirely new wardrobe, but owning some “fratty” clothes will come a long way. J Crew is solid for price and quality. Don’t worry too much about style now, I’ll cover that a little later. Just don’t look like a bum.
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Have cool stories. Don’t try and brag, you’re a Freshman, but make the impression that you have fun stuff going on in your life and that you’re not depending on the fraternity to give you a social life. If you don’t have anything going on, a white lie won’t hurt.
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Come to several events. Don’t be a one and done. Go to a few events and get your face known, and get to know a few guys. Which leads me to my next point:
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Know the bros. It helps to get to know some of the brothers so that when the time comes to give out bids you’ll have a few guys vouching for you.
Dont’s 1.) Wear Cargo Shorts. Don’t ask, just don’t wear them. Trust me. When you join a fraternity you’ll know why.
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2.) Come to every event. This makes you seem desperate. When you’re rushing you want to act like a hot girl. Everyone wants to get you and there are multiple guys (i.e. frats) trying to holla at you. 3.) Be weird. You don’t have to be cool, just be normal. If you’re weird though you can kiss your bid goodbye. I remember we had a guy who came to one of our frat parties after attending a few events. He came up to me and told me how he just used an “opener” on some girls that was straight out of the Mystery Method. They weren’t pleased. We politely told him that “He wasn’t a good fit.” There’s nothing wrong with hitting on girls, in fact it’s encouraged. Just don’t be a creeper. This shouldn’t be a high pressure situation. Just show your face and have a few chats. Assuming you showed up enough to a few different frats, you will likely get a bid somewhere. You now have the decision as to which organization you wish to join. Once you make your decision you will be initiated as a pledge…mwahahaha.
The Pledge Survival Guide You’ve heard the stories. Pledges being forced to consume ungodly amounts of shitty alcohol, doing endless pushups, touching dicks… and the list goes on. While I have no doubt that these types of things happened in the past, and are probably happening as you read this, for the most part fraternities do not engage in such acts. I won’t go into detail, but my fraternity did a wee bit of hazing. Wall sits, pushups, drinking, more drinking, scavenger hunts and some other silly stuff. I was fortunate to not have to go through any of this because of when I joined, but that’s another story. Maybe it was because I was never a pledge that I can’t appreciate the value of pledge ship, but I just really never understood it. One reason that I would condone hazing is that a lot of kids think they’re the shit and need to learn their place; hazing does that. Despite hazing some kids with attitudes, they still were shitheads regardless of how many jumping jacks they did. If you do decide to join a frat, I can’t say for certain if they will haze you or not, but be prepared. Luckily, I got you covered.
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Pledge periods run anywhere from 6-10 weeks, although many fraternities are known to do it longer despite it being against university policy. The point of pledging in the eyes of the active members is five-fold: 1.) To build strong bonds of brotherhood among pledges, 2.) to put them in their place by breaking them down, 3.)for entertainment purposes, 4.)to clean shit up and do favors, 5.) make being a brother something worth striving for. If you’re going to be a pledge, the idea is that you will be put through rigorous tests to prove your worth while simultaneously building you up. I can’t say that people come out of pledging better than before, but no one ever comes out worse. I’m honestly making a big deal out of this. It’s really not that bad, at all. The biggest pain in the ass though is the time commitment it will require. If you rush as a Freshman, you will definitely be spending a lot of time at the frat house. It is crucial that you get all your class work done during this time. Time management is a valuable skill to learn at this point. After your pledge ship, you will become imitated as a full fledge member. Congrats bro, now chug that natty light!
The Life of a Frat Boy I’m not going to try and group all fraternities together because that is just simply not possible. Instead, I’ll take this opportunity to walk you through my time in college and how it pertained to being in a fraternity. I can’t say enough how drastically my life altered from the time I moved out of the dorms freshman year to moving in my frat house. My entire freshman year I made out with three girls and that was the furthest I got. Within my first week at my frat house I had made out with three girls. That’s one year vs. one week. So what caused this drastic change? Did I intensely study the art of seduction of summer break? Probably. In fact, I had studied “PUA” stuff for years, and it amounted to nothing. I’m not saying it has no value, but it’s not necessary to get girls, especially in college. The reason I was able to get these girls is simply because I was living in a frat house, where people congregated, partied and drank. Cute girls came to our house and as the facilitators of fun we were lusted after. You see, being in a fraternity gives sethroselife.com
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you Social Status, a highly sought after trait in men. This is why rich and famous people get so much pussy. Another reason is that when you’re in your own house you feel 10 times more comfortable than in another environment. When you walk into the bar who are the most comfortable people their? It’s the bouncers, bartenders, barbacks, the DJ etc. Essentially the people who are there all the time. It’s like home to them. Same thing with a frat house. It’s our fucking house! We make the rules. We buy the beer. We call the shots. Boom! It makes you feel confident, and that’s why a lot of frat guys are d-bags because they let this power get to their head and act like they’re the shit. Another amazing, amazing part of living in a frat house is that you live right above where there are parties. I’ve on many occasions walked downstairs in my slippers only to find twenty sexy sorority girls partying in our front room. When we would have parties my go to move was to chat a girl up. I would make it a point to let her know I lived here. I would then inquire as to whether she had been to our house before. Seeing as most of our clientele early in the year were freshman girls, the answer was almost always “No”. I then asked if they would like a tour. You can see where this is going… I could’ve also just as easily asked if she wanted to do shots upstairs. When you meet a girl at a frat party, house party, bar or club she is usually going to be with a group of friends. To pull her back to your place away from her friends is always a major obstacle if at a bar or house party, but if you live in a frat house you can quickly extract her from her friends, hook up with her and bring her back in one piece (unless your laying that pipe down big time nom sayin?). Within that first semester I would go on to lose my virginity, from a girl I met in my frat house. That’s 19 years of being a virgin and within two less than two months in my house I lost it. There were no tricks, lines, routines or magic tricks I learned. I didn’t have to go out and buy new clothes or buy expensive liquor. All I had to do was put myself in an environment where there were women and I realized that I could talk to girls all along, I just never had any girls to talk to. Now, it would be pretty pathetic to join a fraternity to just get laid. Yea, that was nice, but it pales in comparison to the friendships I made and the experiences I had. Do you think twenty years from now you’re going to look back at that time you fucked some random chick? Probably not. What you will remember, and embrace is the friendships you made and there is really no better place to make friends than in a fraternity. sethroselife.com
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Most people would say that people in fraternities pay for their friends. While it may appear that way at first glance it is hardly the case. People in Greek Life are some of the most social people I have ever met. I believe that most people join Greek organizations because they are already highly social creatures, and want to continue meeting new people and doing new things. Also, people who don’t join fraternities often don’t have large social circles. They hang out with the same, small group for all four years. There is nothing wrong with that at all, but in many cases it seems like people are friends with each other just to have someone to do activities with. In a fraternity you have tons of different guys in your organization, and you don’t have to be friends with all of them; I sure wasn’t. I was friends with guys that I got along with and had similar behaviors and mindsets. In fact, I had no reason to rely on these guys for social activities, because the fraternity as a whole would facilitate events. I would spend time with them because I generally enjoyed their company and we were able to help each other out with our strengths and weaknesses; a few hundred bucks a semester can’t do that. Another great aspect of fraternities is the leadership and networking opportunities it provides. In high school I didn’t do jack shit. I played tennis, and wrestled one year, but that was about it. I spent most of my time in front of a screen after school. When I joined my fraternity the last thing I thought I would be doing was work. I ended up taking on a number of positions throughout my time in college. It’s a great way to get experience working with others, different organizations, managing money, time and people etc. Not to mention it can look good on a resume. I really can’t say enough about how much I loved my frat, but it’s time to shut my mouth because it’s now time to talk about one of my favorite subjects.
Sorority Girls You can spot them from a mile away. Ugg boots, leggings, a black jacket (usually a North Face), and a bag with their letters on it. Like frat boys, sorority girls often appear as if they were mass produced in a factory. If frat guys are d-bags, then sorority girls are bitches. So is there anything redeeming about these girls? Absolutely. I’ve shitted on them pretty hard, but again it’s hard to categorize such a large group of people. Sure in some of your sororities you will have the rich, stuck up girls, but there are girls in every house who are sweethearts. In fact, most sorority girls are just like sethroselife.com
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any other girl. They may be a bit more inclined to gossip, or drink more, but at the end of the day they’re just 18-22 year old girls. You would think that understanding these girls is a challenge, but it’s not. What is a challenge is the drama that occurs in these houses, and how you may get caught in this bullshit when hooking up with these girls. To get an idea of what all this entails, I think it’s a good idea to get an inside peak inside a sorority house. I was in some form of a relationship with a particular sorority girl for well over a year. I’d say once a week or so I’d spend some time at her house. The scene there was pretty typical. They would watch Television shows that I didn’t think anyone actually watched like The Bachelor. Other girls would be sitting on their laptops or phones, undoubtedly looking at some sort of Social media: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or Interest (I still have no clue what that is). There usually wasn’t much activity going on in the house, which lead's me to my conclusion about women: They’re boring. They don’t have hobbies of any sort. Guys aren’t much better, but I feel like guys hit the gym or play videogames, the latter of which isn’t super productive but it’s something. Where am I going with this? I have no idea… What I’m guessing you care about is how to hookup with these girls. If you’re a frat guy, then the sorority girls you hookup with will be in the sororities that your fraternity has rapport with and socializes with. I look at it like this, fraternities as a whole friend zone a sorority, but on an individual level hookups will happen with the friend zoned fraternity. When you have a social event together, there is really no “cold approaching” involved, you’re there to socialize. For example, at mixers I would introduce myself to nearly every girl and have a little chat. Ones that I found cute, and were overtly interested in me would become targets. Throughout the event I would rotate back and forth between the girls widdling them down. I would either collect some numbers or pull a girl; a lot of times I’d do both. Unfortunately, being in a fraternity DOES NOT entitle you to hookup with just any sorority girl. If you’re in a middle of the line frat like I was, getting a girl in one of the “top tier” sororities was a pipe dream. I shouldn’t say that, but it is an uphill challenge. Girls in these sororities are pretty much exclusive to the guys in the top tier frats, which is why if hooking up is your top priority in a fraternity, then there is no question that you want to join a fraternity that associates with these sororities. While being in a fraternity will afford you many more opportunities to getting sorority girls then not being in one, it is really no problem getting a sorority sethroselife.com
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girl. Again keep in mind that the hottest sorority girls are all but impossible unless you’re in a popular fraternity, an athlete, are exceptionally good looking with good game to boot, or a Big Man on Campus. So if you haven’t yet reached the point where you’re a BMOC, fret not as the majority of sorority girls are like any other girl. In fact, these girls are more prone to going out drinking, partying and hooking up so your odds are actually higher.
For Everyone else, there’s Independence I just spent quite a bit breaking down the whole Greek scene. Even if you don’t decide to join a fraternity it’s an intelligent idea to still get cushy with people in the Greek scene to reap the social rewards. I really enjoyed my life in a fraternity which is why I push it so much. If you decide to not join a fraternity, that’s fine. In fact, most people don’t go Greek so there’s nothing to worry about. A lot of guys in my fraternity drop, usually only after a couple months. They’ll go through pledging and everything and then just kind of fall off the map. It’s not for everyone. There’s never any hard feelings either. In fact, I try and keep in touch with those guys and have them around because they’re usually fun and cool guys. Just don’t screw anyone over as it will come back to bite you. I’m a firm believer that any guy can start from scratch and build a cool social circle and have a blast in their time in college. Let’s back up a bit though… We left off at your first semester in college. In your first semester your goal was to simply get to know a lot of people, mainly cool guys and cute girls. Even if your social skills are lacking before you get to college, by making a concerted effort to break out of your comfort zone you will be in a pretty good spot. For the remainder of your Freshman year continue this process, although your goal should shift from simply meeting people to organizing those you have met into a loose contingency of people. Most people’s social circle in college will consist of either people from their major, dorms, or high school; there’s not much branching out. Assuming you lived in a shitty dorm, are the only person from your high school, and have a major with lots of dorks (I was 3/3) you’re going to have to take matters into your own hands. This is why you have to make a big time effort in meeting people.
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If you come across as a cool guy who has a fun social life, people will want to be around you and they will either follow you and join your social circle or they will prompt you to join theirs. First, start small. Let’s say you meet a guy in your class. He seems chill, he’s pretty good looking and is looking to party; a perfect wingman. Try and track down a frat/house party for the weekend and invite him along. If you have a roommate or guys in your dorm who want to go fine, if not you two can roll out together. This is perfect as it builds a connection between you two and you’re having fun. Basically like a bro date. Next week, rinse wash and repeat with a new guy, but bring the guy you met the week before and now you have a group of three. Keep doing that until you have a solid group of 6-8. These guys don’t have to be from class, they can be from anywhere. Nor do you have to see these guys each week. This is all just an example of what you should be doing. Now, it is only Freshmen that wander around on Friday and Saturday nights looking for a party. Beyond your Freshman year, you’re going to want to use this same tactic, but ideally you’ll have a cool crib to host events. I’ll cover your crib later on, but essentially location and size are important. No one will want to walk in far off, unfamiliar territory just to party. Stay in the heart of your off campus. Check out my “Awesome Party Recipe” below on how to throw a sick house party with virtually guaranteed pussy. One thing I didn’t mention when building your circle is how to incorporate girls into your social circle. This is one thing I had difficulty doing. Why? Because anytime I got close with a cute girl I either hooked up with her or at least tried to. The thing is that let’s say you hook up with a girl and want to bring her into your social circle. It’s doubtful that she’ll show up alone, she’ll bring friends (hopefully cute ones). You then befriend one of those girls. Now, if you hookup with this girl (if at all possible) then it’s likely that these girls won’t help expand your social network. Doing this will just make them hate either you or each other. Choose your targets wisely. Instead of hooking up with a girl’s friend, go for one of her friend’s friend. Basically what we’re looking at is ‘two degrees of genital separation’ (patent pending). Assuming that makes no sense to you is that if you bang Jenny, and Jenny is friends with Katie, don’t fuck Katie. If Katie is friends with Lindsey who is not friends with Jenny then feel free to bang her, if Lindsey IS friends with Jenny too then steer clear. Do your best to be discrete. By not shitting where you eat you can expect a steady stream of pussy.
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Remember guys, what I’m advocating here isn’t ‘Friends’. You’re not forced to hang out with the same five people every day in your apartment. That’s what most guys in college do and it’s why their social lives suck. Have one group of girls over Friday, and hit the bars with another group Saturday. As for your guy friends, they should be by your sides most nights. Women are fickle and not to mention their thousands of cute ones assuming you go to a decent sized state school. Good guy friends though are hard to come by. When you find a few solid friends, stick with them because you need to assemble a crew.
Your Crew The importance of having cool friends that you enjoy being around cannot be understated. Humans are social creatures, to live happy, fulfilling lives we need to surround ourselves by people that we enjoy; college is no exception. In fact, college is the time where you will want friends the most. I never had too many friends in high school and it was no surprise that I wasn’t too happy during this time. For you see, to be happy you need to do activities and have experiences that you enjoy. People tend not to do these things by themselves and that’s where friends come in. Most people who suffer from depression do not have any activities to look forward to and thus get down on themselves. By seeking out cool friends you will never be short of things to do. Now, you could be like most other guys and sit back and wait for others to plan your social life for you, but you shouldn’t do that. Be the guy that takes control. I already laid out to you how to meet people and develop a small crew. These guys are going to be your boys, your crew, your Rat Pack. When going out to bars or parties I can’t understate the importance of having guys that not only enjoy going out and meeting women, but are good at it, or at least looking to improve these skills. When I went out in college I usually went with the same guys from my frat. I went out with them because they were chill guys who I got a long with. The problem was that these guys didn’t have game and didn’t have the balls to approach. This left me to fend for myself. When we’d go out together I couldn’t rely on a wingman. It wasn’t the end of the world, but when running solo in college your options are limited.
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I value my friends a lot, but if I had to do it over again I would have spent a lot more time with the party animals in my frat when going out drinking. I implore you to meet guys who are like minded with yourself and share similar ideas and aspirations. They say that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Don’t hang out with druggies and losers or that is who you’ll become. Find guys who get good grades and get laid (i.e. Big Man on Campus). Once you’ve assembled your crew, it’s time to learn how to get with these college chicks.
College Game This section is probably what you came here for right? How to hook up with tons of girls in college. Sounds awesome and it truly is. Unfortunately if you came here looking for a magic bullet there isn’t one (at least I wouldn’t consider it to be). I think what I have layed out ahead is a pretty thorough analysis of college game. The most important thing though is that you take action. That is literally the most important sentence in this book. Without action, you’ve just wasted your time reading this book. Seriously, you think I’m playing with you son? Huh, do you, you stupid punk ass bitch? You want to get pussy right? I want you to get pussy! So don’t bullshit me you mark ass trick and go chase some damn tail! Ahem… I hope I’ve made myself clear. I have a phrase when it comes to going out in college, “When in doubt, go out”. If it’s a rainy Thursday night and you’re debating on whether to go out or not with friends and you’ve done all your homework, worked out, finished all your tasks for the day, then go out! You’re only in college once my friend. You don’t have to get hammered, but by going out and talking to girls you get in the habit of taking action to improve your sex life and that my friend is the most important thing. So let’s get to it!
Player Profiles Before I hop into specifics, I think it’s important to understand the types of guys who get laid in college. Below you will find four “Player Profiles” which will analyze the lifestyle, behaviors, appearance etc. of four guys who got ass in college. The first three are fraternity brothers of mine, and the last is yours truly. What you’ll notice is how different we are all from one another,
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but how we all share some common characteristics. Try and figure out what those traits are (even though I’ll discuss them shortly). Also, out of the four guys pick the one that sounds most in line with your personality, and if none seem to fit than pick the one that seems most feasible to replicate. Player Profile #1: The Godfather. That’s what we called him, or at least I did. I dubbed him the godfather because was older than everyone his last year by at least a year, he was at one point President, he was somewhat mysterious, did some crazy shit and got more pussy than anyone I’ve met in my entire life. The Godfather topped out at well over 100 girls in his 5+ years in college. Sure, he told me he paid to bang two strippers, and I’m sure there were some pros thrown in there too, but regardless his ability to get girls was impressive. I didn’t know him too well my Freshman year, but Sophomore year we lived together in the frat house. The first few weeks in the house he was constantly having his buddies over as well as cute girls to party. And when they partied, they partied. $100+ bar tabs we’re the norm. He bought lots of people drinks, but drank himself into a stupor most nights. The first time I saw someone do coke was when he and his buddies were nonchalantly doing it one night during a fairly serious conversation. And of course when it came to getting girls he didn’t disappoint. His conquests ranged from the Freshest Freshman pussy on campus to 38 year old chicks caked in ungodly amounts of makeup he met at the bar. Don’t get it twisted, the quality of the girls he took home we’re remarkable. For years I would walk into bars and clubs and wonder what type of guys the hottest girls are banging. I’m not talking just about cute girls, I mean the top-tier girls: Heels, tight dress to fit their tight bodies, hair done, and makeup to further enhance an already gorgeous face; you know the type. Like I wrote earlier, in college those girls will bang the following guys: “…[guys in a] popular fraternity, an athlete, are exceptionally good looking with good game to boot, or a Big Man on Campus”. The Godfather fit the latter two. He was a pretty good looking guy, but what exaggerated these looks were his style. He came from an affluent family, which explains the bar tabs and the coke fix. He had nice shoes and nice shirts. A typical outfit of his was dress shoes, designer jeans, a v-neck or button down and gelled/waxed hair (I never knew the difference). If it wasn’t his looks that got him attention, it was the ruckus him and his boys were making at the bar. So where did he fall short? He never really came to fraternity social events with sororities, but when he did he failed. His game was geared towards club sethroselife.com
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rats. His money and sleazballness was not an attractive quality to the middle-tiered sorority girls we often partied with. Also, his bank account and reckless, partying lifestyle are not suitable to 95%+ of college males. Player Profile #2: The Pretty Boy Probably one of the best looking dudes I’ve been friends with (no homo). He was tall, good looking, and at one point in time had a unique, hipster-esque vibe going on. Like the Godfather, the pretty boy had a pretty big party habit. He drank and did drugs too, but less frequently than the Godfather (okay maybe he did more coke). When I met him he was about 21 and had banged twenty something girls. Pretty impressive numbers, but apparently the quality of the girls was quite low and he gave zero fucks. While his quality of girls would improve, he would hit the occasional walrus. My most notable memory of him doing so was one night I went to his room with a recruit, as he had left his backpack in there. I go to the door and he opens in butt naked, lights on, dick at full attention. Lovely. In the background was a girl who I had seen him with earlier in the night. She was large… if she lost about 80 pounds or so she’d be cute. He woke up the next day and he had blacked out only to realize his great sin. He would pull lots of cuties though, and his quantity and quality would fall short to only the Godfather’s. While he had a pretty good knack for getting laid, that wasn’t enough. He wanted to be the best. He enrolled in some expensive PUA endeavors. While he thought highly of them, I thought it was a preposterous investment. He didn’t need any tips and tricks, he simply needed to just improve the working skill set he had. These endeavors did nothing to improve his game, and probably hurt it. He had strong game overall and easily surpassed the half-century mark in college. His desire to incorporate PUA-style game was one weak point, but another weak point was the lack of social circle. His game was essentially lone-wolf style, either always cold approaching or meeting a girl through a sorority event. Admirable definitely, but it could’ve got him a lot more pussy had he expanded his social network. Player Profile #3: The Party Animal He came into the fraternity off a somewhat recent breakup. When he told me about his relationship he came across as a typical supplicating betamale. However, once he moved into the house I realized I couldn’t judge this sethroselife.com
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book by its cover. He was a good looking guy, although not any more so than the previous two, and quite a bit less. Although, it was notable that whenever a group of girls came in his presence, there always seemed to be one craving his dick big time! I doubt this was purely because of looks, but he had an alluring personality. He always brought you into the party whether you liked it or not. He would make you do 10 shots in less than an hour making you puke your guts out at 9 PM (fucking asshole). He craved loud music. He was an engineering student, but when the weekend came around he was raring to go. He was one of the most extroverted, idealistic and loud mouth people I’d ever met in my life; almost my exact opposite. His personality was like the Godfather’s although he was more inviting which is why people loved to party with him. He had arguably a near perfect personality for college game because he would give girls the experience they wanted: Fun experiences with a cool, good looking guy. That’s what nearly all college girls are looking for. He also had a vast social network, but mostly because he went to high school close by which is a benefit of going to school in-state, which helped big time. As for his weaknesses, he never really got with sorority girls. He was a bit thirsty at times, which kind of defeats the point of a social event. He also couldn’t get the top tier girls, but that is more a matter of appearance. Player Profile #4: Yours Truly What is most astounding to me is that all the PUA stuff I had read over the years amounted to nothing. All of my successes were not some lengthy, drawn out sequence. Rather, they were lightning fast. There often weren’t slick pickup lines, witty banter, or engaging stories. I simply wanted to get laid and all my actions revolved around that desire. If you read my article “My First…Bang”, you’ll see how I lost my virginity. Nothing special. I just simply kept escalating and escalating until I was balls deep. So how about my second bang? I remember it like it was yesterday…(cue dream music): It was a chilly January night. We had just returned home from a mixer with a sorority and had brought back most of the girls to our place for an after party. I was pretty drunk and I stumbled into the front room where one of the brothers was trying to set up the music. There was some girl standing in the middle of the dance floor and I ask her what’s up? We chat briefly all the while I have my arms around her hips like we’re slow dancing. Next thing I know we’re making out. We fall down on a couch and sethroselife.com
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rather than continue I pull her upstairs. I don’t remember there being any foreplay, but next thing I knew I was jack hammering away. Winning! Unfortunately my boner subsided after about 30 seconds. It was one of my friends’ fault; I still can’t remember whether it was Jack, Jose, Johnnie, or Jim. I tried to go at it again, but my dick wasn’t having it so I just laughed it off. She ran off embarrassed and I never heard from her again. How about my next hookup? Right after having sex with that last girl I walked downstairs to enjoy the party some more. Literally within 5 minutes of the party ending I ask some girl about her outfit. We chat for a minute and then I drag her to the dance floor. Boom, make out. I grab her digits and she ends up coming over the next weekend for one of our huge parties. We dance for about three and a half minutes and then we go upstairs. Within about 20 minutes my kids were dying a slow, painful death by means of her stomach acid. I could go on and on to recount the tales of my hookups. While they’re mildly entertaining, the most important thing I learned from them was that every interaction I had with a girl who I either banged or got a BJ from followed the same pattern. Here are some excerpts from my article, “My first… three bangs” that highlights this pattern: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------For reference here is the formula I laid out in the aforementioned article: 1.) 2.) 3.) 4.)
Find DTF Girl Isolate her Relentlessly push the interaction towards sex Bang
I never consciously followed this formula; rather it just happened that way. It’s no coincidence this formula is the most effective way to GET LAID. That’s all that matters, so that’s all I’m going to discuss. I have no idea how many women I made out with between the time I lost my virginity to my 3rd bang. Nor do I have any idea how many phone numbers I got. All I know is that all the jokes and stories I told, all the drinking, all the nights going out and trying to get laid didn’t matter. All that matters were the bangs. The above formula is how I did it.
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I can’t say that every girl I’ve ever banged I followed this formula. The 4th girl I had sex was a virgin, so it took a little more time which is why I end it at my first 3 bangs. All my interactions with these girls had a few things in common: -Make out at initial meeting -At least get a BJ by the 2nd face to face interaction -Little communication between interactions except for setting up meet ups -Fast sexual escalation These are good indicators that a girl will end up riding your dick. So, how did these interactions stack up with the formula? 1.) Find DTF Girl: Check. All these girls made out with me at the initial meet; 1 was in my bed by the end of the night. Also, when following up on the number they didn’t put any obstacles to meeting up. 2.) Isolate her: Check. When they’re in my house it’s easy. At the bar it’s a bit harder, but doable. 3.) Relentlessly push the interaction towards sex: By not getting caught up telling the perfect joke or story or building comfort etc. It was just raw sexual attraction. Attraction+DTF girl= Notch in your belt: 4.) Bang: You already know cuzz…. Is getting laid all the time as easy as following this formula? No, but it can be. Again, I can’t believe how much time I wasted all for just 3 bangs. If all you want to do is get laid, then don’t beat around the bush. Here is the formula broken down: 1.) a. b. c. d. e. f.
Find DTF Girl: These girls are often dressed to impress. They’re frequently looking around to see who’s looking at them and sizing up potential suitors. She’s drinking, but not obnoxious amounts. She’s receptive to your opener. She laughs at your jokes. She holds eye contact.
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Isolate her: If she meets most of the criteria in Step 1 isolate her. You don’t have to pull right away, but at least get her away from her friends. This allows you to ramp up the sexual escalation and make out, plus it shows you if she’s willing to leave her friends. If this girl won’t leave her friends say fuck it. Remember don’t waste time if you’re just trying to bust a nut. After you make out (Not too much, she should be left wanting more) leave with her. Don’t ask, just do it. If she declines try to coax her a bit more, if not settle for a number (but don’t expect it to go anywhere.) Relentlessly push the interaction towards sex: Assuming you pulled her from the bar or you got her to meet at your place if you got a number, all your actions should lead towards sex. i. Seductive eye contact ii. Playful teasing iii. Grabbing her ass, tits, hair iv. Push her against the wall and kiss her v. Put her hand on your dick and tell her it’s her fault and she needs to fix it All of the above steps should be done in a “Two steps forward, one step back” method. This is so that the interaction will always be moving forward, but not too quickly and obviously so that it gives her an opportunity to reject your advancements. Move to the bedroom. Start making out and keep following the 2 steps forward, 1 step back until she’s in her birthday suit. If she puts up protest which is almost always inevitable, just ramp it down a bit. If she’s in your bed she is already attracted to you duh! Maybe she won’t bang, but if you’re persistent enough she will. She realizes sex is on the table and it’s just a matter of how long till you fuck her. Could be minutes, could be weeks (if it’s weeks you probably shouldn’t waste your time though). Keep pushing the interaction unless
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i. She gets up and leaves ii. She calls the cops iii. She finishes you with a BJ Bang a. You take it from here chief…
------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------That article IS my player profile. That’s how I did it. And while I can’t speak for others that is how most guys get laid in college. College girls are in the prime of their life. They’re 18-22 and although they may have shitty diets and don’t exercise, many of them still have pretty tight bodies. Their faces are youthful and their makeup only enhances it. Their revealing outfits only add to the allure. College girls also realize that they’re in college which means that they have to “experiment” and “find themselves” which is often done through hooking up. As a guy the way that you hook up with these girls is to exploit this fact. You have to be the guy that is going to step up and give her the college experience. Okay so she’s not just here to ride some cock, but she is looking for fun. That’s why all of these players I’ve highlighted were so successful. These guys always wanted to party and drink and were often the center of attention at said parties and thus the reason girls would gravitate to them. While these guys may be smooth talkers, there isn’t really any “Game” as many of us have come to understand it. I believe that game is essentially the freedom to express one’s sexual desires. All men want to bang pretty girls, but not all of us can. The ones who are most successful are the ones who are shameless and proud of their sexuality and are not afraid to show it. Women are absolutely drawn to this and it what defines a successful player, especially in college. While I am truly fucking awesome, I would be lying through my pearly whites if I said that I didn’t have flaws. When it comes to flaws, I had more than any of the other players I wrote about. In fact, I basically put myself in the worst possible position to get laid out of nearly everyone in my frat! A bold statement yes, but I think it’s true.
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You see, like I just mentioned the most successful guys are the ones who are the party animals. Problem was I wasn’t anything close to a party animal. Sure I loved to go out to bars more than anyone else, but I would baby sip (to quote Kendrick Lamar) the whole night. I rationalized this by saying to myself that, “I don’t need alcohol to get laid, I want to be able to do it on my own.” That proved to be a fatal move.
Alcohol: Everybody’s Closest Friend Keg stands, 30 packs of shitty beer, and handles of cheap vodka that taste worst than rubbing alcohol. Ahhhh college. While weed and today Molly (MDMA) play a sizeable role as drugs on the college social scene, alcohol always has and likely forever will remain king. Alcohol is a powerful drug that is perfect for social environments as it lowers social inhibitions and anxieties. From the female perspective, alcohol is one of the most significant factors in them putting out. I strongly believe that if alcohol was completely removed from bars and clubs, one night stands would nearly cease to exist. Not only does alcohol blunt some of the social programming women have that tells them not to put out right away, but also it gives them an excuse the next day to rationalize why they fucked some rando from the bar. As you can see, banging a girl when drunk is significantly easier than when sober. So does that mean I am encouraging you to hit on drunk girls? You bet your ass I am. “Omg you’re so immoral saying to take advantage of drunk girls blah blah blah…” Shut up pussy! While alcohol does lower inhibitions, unless you drink absurd amounts drinking alcohol won’t make you do something you don’t want to do. Yes, it will fuck with your judgment, but you don’t see people jumping off rooftops when drunk (at least that often). While I have stated my opinion, the court of law sees it differently. If a girl has sex with you and she is drunker than you, that’s considered rape. Even if she’s bouncing on your cock like it’s the last fuck of her life, moaning and screaming out your name. If she regrets that decision or thinks that you “took advantage” of her it’s rape. This is an ongoing thing on college campuses today with innocent men being kicked out of school or worst thrown in jail.
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Also, remember to wear a condom. I’m terrible at taking my own advice, but the first time I hook up with a girl I do my best to put a jimmy on my schlong. Look, no one likes wearing condoms, but it’s the smart thing to do. I think STD’s are commonly exaggerated, but why take the risk? And of course babies are the worst disease of all (kidding!). Plan B is pricey, and abortions are even more expensive. Remember kids: Don’t be a dummy, cum on her tummy. It’s hard to make such an awesome topic like sex with drunk college girls depressing, but I think I somehow managed to do that. Now, as for the benefits of guys being drunk, drinking alcohol gives us what is known as “liquid courage”. Liquid courage refers to the courage gained, through the loss of anxiety and inhibitions, through the consumption of alcohol. In college you’ll witness many instances of guys trying to mack on girls at the bar. This is what bothered me. I wanted to be able to approach girls without having to drink alcohol, and I was able to yes, but not drinking really hurt my chances of getting laid in college. The first reason is that no matter how good I got at approaching, alcohol would always help. Sure I didn’t want to depend on it, but a few drinks couldn’t hurt. The second reason is the big one. You see, when college kids go out they want to get drunk. While sometimes they want to drink because they had a shitty final or are feeling just down, drinking alcohol is simply how college kids socialize. So by not drinking, you’re limiting your ability to socialize. I came across a great explanation of this phenomena. It was Return of Kings article by Christian McQueen artfully entitled “How To Pull A Slut From A Vegas Pool Party”. While the purpose of the article was clear, this excerpt struck a chord with me: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------BE The Party… Now you might be wondering why it matters if people think you’re on [drugs] or not… because people do not like reminders of sobriety while in a party environment. Trust me on this. It’s a human subconscious reflex to reject the tribe member who won’t eat the buffalo tongue with the rest of the tribe.
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--------------------------------------------------------------------------Read that again. That’s what profoundly hit me. I never dreamed that an article about sluts in Vegas could resonate so hard with me, but it did. After my sophomore year I began to drink quite a bit less. After going through a relationship, followed by a 3 month internship abroad, I returned to finish my final semester with little to no desire to drink, let alone ‘get wasted’. It is no surprise that during my last semester I had the longest dry streak in college. When everyone around you is drinking to get drunk and you’re nursing your 2nd beer of the night, you don’t fit in; unless you’re naturally incredibly extroverted than it just won’t work. Like I did earlier, when I want to see what works, I look at what worked for me in the past. Almost every girl I hooked up with in college I met when I was either drunk or my energy levels were bouncing off the wall (which is a rare occurrence for me). By the time I left college my approach anxiety was lower than it had ever been. I didn’t have issues going up to girls at bars and chatting them up. I was often unsuccessful though because I came across in a rigid manner whereas I should’ve been playful. I often caught a lot of slack from my peers for not drinking. Sure they were joking, but they did it because they wanted to include me. They wanted me to be part of the tribe. Yet, I turned them away and appeared to them as a heretic, questioning their gospel. My actions should have got me burned at the stake, but rather I was doomed to miss out on getting pussy. So as you can see, drinking copious amounts of alcohol is a critical factor in getting laid if you’re not a naturally high energy person. IF you’re someone who doesn’t like to drink or is a cheapskate, how can you can reconcile this. Well you have a few options: 1.) Suck it up: 2-3 nights a week you’re going to need to drink. Friday and Saturday are definites, and then another day if you feel inclined. Have around 5 drinks or so. 2 to pregame with, and 3 at the bar. This is not too many drinks. It’s enough where it will get you a good buzz and put you in a energetic state, and if you slowly sip 'em you’ll be drinking the whole night. Also, 5 drinks won’t get you TOO drunk which is what we want to avoid.
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2.) Find ways to pump yourself up: Blare music, jump up and down, do some pushups, yell for no reason. Having a fun, party vibe is critical as we know. Alcohol is perfect for that, but if you don’t want to drink you’re going to have to find ways to replicate the effects of alcohol. 3.) Don’t go out at night: Or rather, don’t expect to get laid at night. I’ll talk more about this shortly, but it’s possible to meet girls during the day time. College socializing revolves around alcohol, so if you’re not willing to drink or be high energy, don’t expect anything out of it. Like I mentioned earlier, I don’t recommend using alcohol as a crutch; many guys do in college. They drink excessive amounts and then finally muster up the courage to talk to some girl. This rarely pans out well, but sometimes it does. Regardless, needing to be drunk to get laid is not sustainable. You need to learn how to chat up bitches sober, or at most buzzed (bordering on tipsy). Having a few drinks though is not contrary to this. The main purpose of drinking is to simply fit it; to be part of the tribe. It also doesn’t hurt that it lowers inhibitions and anxiety. Warning: Never intentionally get belligerently drunk. We’ve all been there, three drinks turns into six and then twelve. Next thing you know you’re kissing the toilet seat or blacked out on the sidewalk. Drinking a ton of alcohol is terrible for multiple reasons: It’s bad for your health, it’s expensive, it makes you look like an idiot, and it will hurt your game. If you go through college and never get super drunk, you’re probably a pussy. Hell, I’ve been drunk plenty of times, although among my friends I’m the biggest lightweight. Just don’t do anything stupid okay son?
Seth’s Awesome Party Recipe For those of you that live in, or intend to live in, a decent sized house during college, throwing your own parties is a definite way to guarantee that you have an abundance of girls and fun. Here’s a basic “recipe” on how to throw a sick college party. Total Time: 8 hours Prep Time: 3 hours Cook: 5 hours Yield: 1-2 hookups, 2-3 numbers Ingredients: sethroselife.com
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-1/4 oz of marijuana -3.5 g of cocaine (8 ball) -2g MDMA -6 bottles Top-Shelf liquor -10 30 packs of beer -25 cool guys -75 cute girls -1 DJ -1 House Directions: 1.) Find a suitable location to throw a massive rager. 2.) Secure a DJ to perform at the event. 3.) Invite 20 cool guys (or less) and 50 cute girls (or more for taste) 4.) Purchase the marijuana, cocaine, and alcohol 5.) Start the party 6.) Mingle with guests 7.) Hit on girls 8.) Take girls to your room to take part in drugs and alcohol 9.) Bang Voila Pussy! Can you find what’s wrong with this recipe? Let’s hope so. Not only do I not advocate the use of illicit drugs, but following this recipe would cost a lot of $$$. There are plenty of guys in college who do follow this sort of recipe and I can guarantee two things: They most likely get laid and they have nothing going for them in life. This doesn’t sound appealing to me, and I hope it doesn’t sound appealing to you (okay it’s kind of appealing). So, we can simply make this recipe suitable to all guys by just dropping the illegal drugs. I suppose I could’ve just written up that way in the first place, but I wanted to make a point about drugs and their prevalence in the college social scene. Remember, in college you want to be the Facilitator of Fun. If you’re the one throwing the parties, then you’re going to be the one getting the most attention from the ladies. Plus having your own parties are fun! Sure they’re a mess. Sure you have to deal with the cops sometimes, but overall they’re definitely worth it.
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You don’t have to do this every weekend, and not even every month for that matter. You can also tone down the size a bit. Maybe limit it to around 15-20 people for a small party or pregame. As the Facilitator of Fun, you’re living space will serve a dual purpose as… well your living space, but also a spot to party. There is really no better way to have girls and a fun social life on lock then by having your own parties. I didn’t have to worry about this because we did it through my fraternity, but I had buddies who liked to throw down on the reg and this is exactly what they did.
College Game In Action: Tips, Techniques, Tidbits, and Titties Now it’s time for the juicy stuff right; the part where I actually tell you how to interact with these hot, young co-eds? Wrong motherfucker! What I’ve already laid out to you about the social circles, Greek life, the player profiles, alcohol, and being the facilitator of fun is much more important than any line in the whole fucking world. Period! I’d recommend reading my player profile one more time. I already laid out the specific sequence on getting laid. Remember, we’re here to get laid. You’re reading this to get laid. Sure a make out is nice, but a kiss on the lips won’t drain your sack ya dig. Keep your eyes on the prize buddy. It is absolutely critical to internalize the characteristics that you should exhibit in social settings. That will take you oh so far, but to deny that having a handful of specific lines and routines up your sleeves won’t help would be lying. Although I just used the words “lines” and “routines”, I hate using those words. It’s so PUA. Nonetheless they fit the bill. Before I do lay out any of this stuff is that these lines and routines are not meant to come across in a rigid manner, it should get to the point where they effortlessly tie into your conversation. Also, if you’re at a “ratchet” house or frat party, simply follow the outline I laid out earlier in my profile. At these environments the goal is to sexually escalate rapidly and push for the bang, these techniques are meant for bars or toned down events.
Your Night Out: Pregame No self respecting college student goes out on the town without drinking first. In relation to the themes of this book, the point of pregaming is to get yourself mentally and physically prepared for the night ahead. By having a
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few drinks, chatting with friends and girls, and listening to some music you’re going to be ready for a night of fun and meeting girls. I don’t expect you to host people every time you go out, although that would be ideal. If you so choose to do that follow my “Awesome Party” recipe, just reduce the serving sizes for everything (it really is a recipe). If you’re going to be hosting on a regular basis make sure that you let people know it is BYOB, unless you want to be emptying your pockets so others can drink. Even if it is BYOB, you’re going to want to have a little somethin-somethin in the event new girls are coming over. Pregaming for most people starts anywhere from 9-10 PM (AM on game days), so make sure that you’ve got all your tasks done for the day before you start drinking. It’s time to set up. Throw the beer in the fridge, the handle in the freezer, and grab your laptop and speakers hooked up. Throw on some good tunes that will get people in party mode. It depends on your crowd, but you really can’t go wrong with any mainstream pop, rock, or electronic, as well as any 90’s music (everyone loves 90’s music).If you want to do a power hour that’s always a good time to. People will start showing up fashionably late, the girls more so than the guys. Most people will likely already know one another as everyone is for the most part in the same social circle. People may bring a stranger or two so if you see someone you don’t recognize make it a point to not only introduce yourself, but give off a positive, fun vibe and make them feel welcome. You would think that this is just typical host behavior, but hosts are oftentimes too caught up in their own good time or petty drama and don’t even go out of their way to be friendly. Do this with a warm smile and genuine interest and I guaran-fucking-tee that this person will not forget you.
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Anything you do during your pregame should have a purpose that is to get yourself, and everyone else to get in a good mood and have the energy and desire to go out and enjoy their evening. Throwing balls back in forth to cups is an ineffective way to accomplish that goal. Games that incorporate a large group of people that are intense, competitive, but most importantly fun are what you want to go for. Flip Cup is a perfect example of this. You can get up to a dozen people playing at a time. It is always intense because games are usually quick and competitive. At my frat house when we’d have sorority girls, or any group of girls over we would always end up playing flip cup. What would happen is that guys would show up early and want to start drinking. They want to do something fun in that time so they’d set up beer pong. When the girls would arrive guys would be playing pong, and many girls would be left talking to themselves as there weren’t enough guys to talk to them (#fratboyproblems). If we knew the girls well it wasn’t really an issue, but when you have new girls over you want to make a good first impression and by having a bunch of dudes circle jerk around the pong table it makes a poor impression. Once we picked up on the vibe the girls were giving off we would whip out our massive table and play flip cup. We’d invite all the girls who were looking bored to play. There wasn’t a simpler solution to this problem. Another awesome aspect of flip cup is that you work as a team. You will likely end up playing next to a cute girl you know. Introduce yourself. Then if your team wins give her a high five (with the extended hand hold duh) or a side-hug or some shit. If you lose tell her that she ruined it for everyone (playfully of course asshole). This goes back to the idea that putting yourself in a position to meet women is what leads to success. If you just play beer pong the whole night and girls are looking bored in the corner, your odds of scoring are pretty low, but if you’re to incorporate everyone into a fun game you can literally put yourself next to a cute girl without effort and have a reason to talk to her and tease her. My favorite drinking game is boom. If you don’t know what it is Google it. I love it, bitches love it, you’ll love it. It’s more fun and intense than flip cup, and if girls have never played it then you’ll look pretty fucking cool. By now it’s probably around 1030-11 which means it is time to wind the pregame down. Since you’re the leader you call the shots and you guide the sethroselife.com
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sheep. When you want to leave you leave. If you want to finish your Natty light you damn well finish that beer; they can wait. Before you leave, know where you’re going. Don’t spend 20 minutes deciding what party to go to. On a night out you’re likely going either three places: Frat Parties, house Parties, and bars. I’ll overview each of these briefly: Frat parties: For starters I’ll be using my fraternity as an example of a typical frat party. Outside of Freshman year, maybe Sophomore year you probably won’t be going to too many frat parties, unless it is your own fraternity or a fraternity that has legendary parties. They’re a fantastic way for underage’s to drink, as well as simply providing an environment to party in for Freshman as they will likely be living in a dorm. Good frats will have guest lists. At my school all fraternities were required to have guest lists for liability purposes or something like that. Although the strictness they adhere to this will vary. At my house we were pretty strict. When we partied, we partied. We would have 1-2 big parties a semester and there was an average of about 700 people on the guest list. Now, not everyone we invited showed up, but for every person that didn’t show up there were 2 that did that weren’t on the guest list. There was no way we could let everyone in. The only way you would get in was if a.) You were on the guest list b.) You were a cute girl or c.) You knew a brother. Are you taking notes yet? Because you should be. Now there were exceptions to the rule. Let’s say you were a guy that rolls up with four girls (you fucking stud), sure we could tell you to fuck off, but it’s more likely that we, or any fraternity, would want to recruit you and thus we’d invite you in and show you a good time. If you came to a rush event and a brother recognized you we’d definitely let you in and your friends. Friends of friends would get in often, but don’t bank on it. This is why it is crucial to be the leader of the pack and know people. If we we’re going to let you in we’d have Big Mike (a former O-Lineman at our school) and his partner in crime check your ID and mark you “X” or “O” to indicate your age. Now, we did this for liability purposes and we’d pretend to give underage guys a hard time to get a beer, but you shouldn’t have any trouble getting booze at a fraternity party. As you made your way past our security guards you’d walk through the few dozen people chilling on our huge front porch. You’d then walk through the
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front door and immediately have to start squeezing your way through. Welcome to the Party! We had our bar in the middle of the house and the dance floor in the back. We usually had a brother on the 1’s and 2’s and once midnight rolled around the dance floor gets crazy. I mean fucking crazy. For reference, after parties our walls would be covered with stains from jeans. The first time I saw this I couldn’t figure out what it was for the life of me, and then it hit me. Some guy was grinding hardcore. If you’re a guest, and a Freshman who doesn’t know any brothers, your night should revolve around the dance floor. At a big party like this there isn’t too much room to have pleasant conversation. Either approach a girl on the dance floor, dance for a bit and then pull her aside to talk for a bit or do the opposite and talk to a girl and then go dance with her. Also, if you’re rolling with a few buddies, the dance floor is an easy way to make sure there are enough girls to go around. This type of party is what I refer to as “ratchet”. In this environment, don’t worry too much about being witty and charming. Your goal is to get drunk, down and dirty with some little Freshman. No one ever got laid talking about majors and study abroad at parties like these. You want to escalate quickly with a make out. Now, for me pulling at one of our parties was easy because I would just walk upstairs. If you live in the dorms and she lives in the dorms it will be a bit of a hurdle to get her to go with you, especially if she’s with a group of friends which will likely always be the case. There’s a solution to this. One night me and a buddy went up to his room to take shots with two girls I knew. As he opened the door I heard him let out a “WHAT THE FUCK!!!”. Two people were banging on his bed. He proceeded to take the guys clothes and toss them in the hallway, the girl was left crying as she was clearly an innocent little girl with no intentions of hooking up with some stranger, especially in a place like that…sure sister. Five minutes later another brother down the hall found two more people banging in his bed. Coincidentally their rooms were on each side of my room. I was smart enough to lock my door… While I don’t advocate…okay actually I do advocated banging a girl in some guys room or the bathroom, or backyard, BUT keep in mind that they may kick your ass. You’ve been warned. The reason there is so much hooking up in a frat house, even for people who aren’t, members is that it is such a sexually charged environment. With the sethroselife.com
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combination of cheap beer and loud music, Freshman girls get overwhelmed and properly lubricated which make their panties come off quite easily. Take advantage of this (within the limits of the law). When at a frat party, keep in mind that the brothers may very likely be, or come across as d-bags even if they’re not. Do your best to get to know them, they’ll likely be glad to meet you if you pretend to be interested I in rushing. Having big parties is essentially a way of showing that we’re cool. It’s fun to indulge a bit as well. I vividly remember at a party we had I got up on a desk that was on the perimeter of the dance floor. A girl was dancing and I got up and started dancing next to her. I then started fist pumping with my bottle of Ciroc Red Berry. I then motioned to some slut dancing. I told her open wide and poured my expensive, but ever so tasty vodka down her throat. Good times… House Parties: I was never a huge fan of house parties. This was because most house parties are highly social circle oriented. If I wasn’t in a groups social circle, and had no intent of entering it then I really had no reason to be there. However, house parties did appeal to me because of their more relaxed nature compared to frat parties. Being a natural introvert, it was hard to be super social twice a week, let alone once a week. Frat parties could be overwhelming in this manner, but house parties allowed for me to engage in chill conversations with other party goers. When showing up to a house party, it’s always a good idea to bring booze. Not only will you guarantee that you have something to drink, but you can pass it out to girls as well. When going to a house party where you don’t know the host, get to know them. Introduce yourself and ask them a little bit about themselves. This will make them much more apt to bring you into the fun. Maybe I’m just a narcissistic d-bag, but most guys I meet at house parties are losers, or at least come across that way. As you know most guys don’t have huge social circles in college, and when you go to a small or medium sized house party this is evident. If you come into their house and start macking on their girls they will probably get pissed. Don’t worry though, they probably won’t do shit they’re just made because they’re in the friend zone. sethroselife.com
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At a house party, run regular game. Get to know them, ask how they know the host, why is everyone here so lame, and that you two are the coolest and best looking ones there. Have fun and show her a good time. Bars: We had large frat parties 1-2 times a semester. I went to house parties every few weeks. I was at bars 2-3 times a week my last semester of school. I wasn’t even a big drinker I just loved going out. When you go out a lot, you start to really get a feel for the type of environment you’re in. I suppose this could really be applied to anything. What I have laid out is a pretty basic guide to meeting girls at college bars. Don’t get too caught up in the nitty-gritty, rather try and take away the main talking points, but most importantly TAKE ACTION.
Openers and Approaching Rarely will girls come up to you and initiate conversation. I’m a pretty good looking dude, but it was rare for me to have a girl initiate conversation with me. Oftentimes they will give you indications either through body language or positioning that they’re interested in you, but you simply cannot rely on this alone to get laid. Approaching a girl you’ve never met to solicit sex from is a daunting task. It can induce approach anxiety, which is the fear of being rejected by a girl as a result of trying to talk to them. The best way to get over a fear is to just simply do it. Easier said than done yes, but there’s just no other way around it. So let’s pretend we’re at a campus bar. You’ve preselected the bar because you know it will be a good time and there are bound to be plenty of cute girls there. You just arrived with a few buddies. It’s 11 PM on a Friday night. There’s about 60-70 people in the bar; a good amount, but not overwhelming. At this point you should have a shit eating grin on your face. It’s Friday night bitch! Time to party! Time to blow off some steam from classes and get down. This is the mindset you need to have. Don’t go into predator mode and start preying on girls.
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Make your way to the bar, grab a round of beers and post up. Shoot the shit with your bros for a bit. Don’t focus on getting laid, focus on having fun. However, if a girl happens to come within a few feet of you at the bar (which is likely) say something? “But what do I say you ask?” Good question, it’s now time to get into openers. What exactly is an opener? An opener is a statement or question that is used to initiate conversation with girls that you’re not yet acquainted with; breaking the ice. What I will lay out is not revolutionary. The lines are simply there to help you initiate a conversation. So back to the scenario at the bar, the best option here is to say something about buying drinks. This is because it is relevant to the scenario at hand. You wouldn’t ask her how her classes are or about the weather. This girl doesn’t know you; why would she want to discuss these topics with you? Here are a few examples of what to say: 1.) “What are ya buying?” When she answers make a fun comment about what she ordered. Was it tequila? Accuse her of being a wild party girl. Whiskey? Say how so few girls drink whiskey. Vodka? Tell her about last weekend when you had a little too much Stoli. 2.) “Did you get me one?” Say how you thought you we’re such good friends or that you’re disappointed because you thought she was trying to pick you up. 3.) “Are those all for you?” Playfully tease her here. 4.) “Hey there” or “How’s it going?” Simple, but effective. I would only use this if she is close to you or made eye contact. If she’s halfway across the bar it looks retarded. Don’t get too caught up in locking her in. The night is young. Usually the first approach of the night will be the hardest and most uncomfortable because you’re not in your peak social state yet. If she bites then keep the conversation fun and continue on the initial opener for a minute or two until it dies out. Now you and your friends want to go sit down at a table. You could go sit at the empty table, but that would totally ruin any possibility of talking to a girl. If you’re friends are adamant about sitting, fine, do it, but just for a bit.
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On your way over to the table you spot a group of girls sitting at the table adjacent to you. You then use one of my favorite lines: “You’re sitting at my favorite table!”
If they’re bitchy, fuck it. Don’t bother, but girls often find this funny. They’ll laugh and sometime start apologizing jokingly how they didn’t know. Go into a ramble about how you talked to the General Manager and he was supposed to have it reserved, blocked off with velvet rope with a bottle of Ciroc on ice. Keep the charade going. If they’re feeling it, try and merge your friends with the group. If not, go sit with your buddies. Approaching women sitting down can be difficult when you’re standing up. It may seem subtle, but when someone is seated they’re put in a position of power over people standing. Not a big deal, just something to keep in mind. This is why you want it to be playful. You sit for a while and then once you polish off your drink head back to the bar. Is there a girl at the bar? If so, use the lines previously mentioned. You can rinse, wash, and repeat this for a while. Let’s say a girl’s not at the bar, but rather is a few feet away from it standing alone or with a friend. You can go with the classic “Hey” or “What’s up?” Another great line is to use Roosh’s opener from Bang1: “You guys look like you’re having the most fun here”
This is almost always said sarcastically to girls who look bored out of their minds. Then you come along, the super fun guy that you are and brighten up their night. In the event they are actually having fun, compliment them and tell them how you didn’t think anyone could be having more fun than you. Remember here what you say is not what’s important, although knowing a few lines can definitely be helpful. Who you are and how you present yourself in terms of your looks, voice tone, body language, your group of friends, are important factors in getting a girl to talk to you. But I’d recommend that you think of some clever and funny ones on your own. Try them out and see how they work. 1
Bang is an exceptional book by Roosh V. It’s foundation is what I’m advocating to you here. While I don’t like to follow a rigid structure, it definitely helps out. I can’t recommend it enough.
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The Chit Chat Being a chatty guy is crucial in environments that aren’t ratchet (I fucking love that word). We’re in a chill bar on a Friday. Most girls probably aren’t grabbing your dick after a few minutes; that takes a little more time. Assuming the girl or girls bit on your opener and you’ve exhausted it to its fullest, it’s time to chit chat. The chit chat should consist of dialogue on fun and interesting topics. I do my best to not ask any personal questions such as: Where are you from? What’s your name? What are you studying? Where are you from? Oh wait I already said that… boring. You’re fucking boring! There are two instances that it is permissible to ask these types of questions: 1.) She asks you them first: Girls’ usually ask personal questions, so it makes sense to reciprocate and ask them. 2.) She’s drunk and horny: Oftentimes I find myself talking about a girl’s major or her hometown while my hand is on her ass a few minutes after I’ve met her. What matters here is that you’re sexually escalating, culminating in the make out and then the pull, but I’m getting ahead of myself. This type of scenario won’t happen often, but it’s alright to talk about whatever when she blatantly wants your dick. You should discuss all the fun stuff that is going on in your life or theirs. Here are some examples: 1.) Did you do anything fun or crazy today? Did she? 2.) Do you have any plans this weekend? Does she? 3.) It’s Friday. Is there a football game tomorrow? If so, talk about your guys’ plans for the game. 4.) Is Spring Break coming up? Talk about your plans. 5.) Is your friend doing stupid shit? Is her friend doing stupid shit? 6.) Does she look familiar? Why don’t you know her yet. This last one is important. Depending on the size of your campus, you may tend to see the same people on a regular basis. I went to one of the largest schools in the country, but at particular bars on particular nights I could count on the same few people to nearly always be there.
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If you’re at a huge state school this won’t matter too much, but it’s still important to recognize. Like I mentioned earlier, college is similar to high school just on a much larger scale. There are still the cool kids and the geeks. You want to be one of the cool kids. In fact, YOU ARE a cool kid unquestionably. So when talking to a girl you should be qualifying her to see if she’s one of the cool kids. She’ll make an effort to prove she is. If you do recognize the girl, then she may already be judging one another based on what you know about them, their sorority, their friends etc. Regardless, if she looks even vaguely familiar ask “Why don’t I know you yet?” This comes across as you being a cool guy that knows a lot of people. She’ll start to wonder why you actually don’t know her. After 5-10 minutes of your interaction, you should be making some headway. If she seems to be just being polite or bored and talking to you for those reasons, then move on. If she seems genuinely interested, then Pass Go and Collect $200.
Isolate You’re now at a crossroads. You don’t want to keep talking about random shit the whole night. Even if you did it would be counterproductive. Remember, you’re not here to entertain these girls; you’re here to fuck them. If you have a girl by herself great, but oftentimes she’ll be with another girl or in a group. If she is, then you’re going to need to isolate her. This serves two purposes: 1.) Get to know her: It helps to get to know each other a bit as it builds comfort and attraction that will ultimately allow you to bang her. 2.) Sexually Escalate: If you kiss her and her friend is there, you can bet that it won’t last much longer. If the girl is with a big group, then it’s easy to pull her aside. Just grab her hand and pull her to a table or to the patio outside. If she’s just with one
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girl, cockblocking is likely. So how to deal with the friend? Luckily your friends should still be there. Ask them to join you at your table. Your friends should take the hint which girl you’re going for and they’ll fight over the friend like a hyena on a wildebeest’s flesh. Don’t ignore the group right away. Introduce the girl and your friends. Take the lead in the conversation and make it fun and interesting. After a few minutes, turn to your girl and create a bubble between you two. Talk for a bit and then do what I said to do if you’re in a big group as you now are in a big group. While the best option is to simply find a spot where you two can chat more, if you fancy it you can go to the bar and buy a drink or go dance (if there’s a dance floor). Many guys will advise against buying a drink, but if you and the girl are having fun and you want to drink, go get one and ask her if she wants one too. Don’t make a big deal out of it. Do a shot, or grab a drink doesn’t matter. What matters is that you’ve isolated her and are continuing the interaction. If you decide to dance, excellent choice! Dancing isn’t for everyone, but there is really no easier way than to sexually escalate.
Escalation Once you have the girl to yourself it is now time to get to know her on a deeper and more intimate level, as well as escalate sexually. Escalation means that you are moving the interaction closer and closer to sex. You two are now standing at the corner of the bar. You’re facing each other and talking about life. You ask her about her future and she tells you what she wants to do. You are truly enthralled with what she has to say and you ask her questions and make comments that are engaging and show that you really care what she has to say. She continues in a passionate matter. It seems that you two really click. You grab her by the waist as she continues to talk about her dreams. After a minute or two you go in for the kiss. You continue to kiss, but just for about 10 seconds and then go back to whatever you were talking about nonchalantly. The interaction has now been sexualized, but you’re not being needy or sloppy in your kiss and come off as cool and slick. After a few more minutes go in for another kiss and this time kiss for 30 seconds to a minute; rinse wash and repeat. After about 1020 minutes of this you will now have spent anywhere from 20-60 minutes
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with her total. Usually the longer the better, but remember quality over quantity is what’s important. The girl is clearly enchanted with you, and you to her. Sex is on both of your dirty minds, and if you wish sex to become more than just a thought you need to close.
Closing When closing always try to push the interaction as far as possible. For example, you go for sex and she turns you down, settle for a blowjob. You go for the BJ and she gives you a handsy and so on and so forth. At this point in the interaction you need to keep the momentum going. Seeing as she made out with you at the bar and has spent a good amount of time getting to know you, it is very likely that she wants you to bang her. Despite that, you’re still going to have to take the lead. Now assuming that her friend is still with your buddies, you’re going to want to bring the group back together. You then suggest heading back to your place and keeping the party going. Everyone is invited and hopefully one of your bros will take care of the cockblock. But what happens if your friends left and her friend is all by herself? At this point I would try and coax her into leaving saying that you will walk them home. If they don’t live together walk the friend home first. If they do live together even better! In the event her friend starts being a major cockblock, don’t get pissy and lose your cool. Adapt the mindset that “She is a cute little girl, who is jealous and having a temper tantrum.” Laugh it off and try and create a separate reality between you and the girl that you two are really into each other and her friend is trying to ruin a good time. No matter how stoic you are, sometimes her friend will just be too much to handle and you’re going to have to settle for a phone number; not the end of the world, but it is not ideal. When you get back to your place or her place, don’t immediately push her to the bedroom. Keep the fun going, but begin to turn the vibe from a fun one to a sexual one. The best way to transition to this is to playfully kiss or grab her. Slap her ass or push her against the wall. This will get her panties soaking. As soon as you do that, pull back and act like nothing happened. sethroselife.com
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This push/pull dynamic is something that should be employed as often as possible and should be started earlier on in the night. After you have teased her a good bit and you two have the chance to escape, do it as soon as time permits! Don’t give her a chance to second guess herself. Go to the bedroom and play it cool.
Sex Start with some kissing and then take it from there. Keep using the push/pull dynamic to keep her on edge and always wanting more. Keep it playful too as it will remove any nerves she may be having. Then it’s time to get down to business. The single best way to transition the interaction from a make out to sex is the “Hand on boner” maneuver. Yes, you must have a boner for this to work. If you don’t it’s just kind of weird… After making out for a few minutes simply grab her hand and put in on your dick. Nothing says “Let’s fuck” like an erect penis. I’m not here to give you sex tips, just take everything slow and be smooth. Also, here’s a few “safety” tips when it comes to hooking up: 1.) Wear a condom: I know, I know they suck, but the first time you’re with a girl it’s never a bad idea, especially if alcohol is involved. If it’s giving you trouble slip it off in the middle of the act (hehehe so sneaky). 2.) Know where to stop: Like I said before, keep pushing the interaction as far as it will go. It once took me 90 minutes to get a girls panties off. Was it worth? Well I had nothing better going on at the time, so yes. Check this: If a girl is in your bed sex is on the table. I’ve had girls in my bed that didn’t put out that night; it’s happened a lot actually. It’s not a big deal, as long as you did your best to seal the deal. In the event where a girl is very, very drunk or seems visibly upset about the current situation, drop it. No pussy is worth the possible legal trouble, remember that. On that note, I have never got a girl in my bed that left despite my persistence. Persistence is in fact attractive to women. It shows you’re a guy who goes after what he wants.
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There’s probably more, but screw it. It’s not fun to admit it, but I had plenty of issues when it came to hooking up for the first time with girls. Usually I was unable to keep my boner. I put too much pressure on myself before the act and my dick retracted like a frightened turtle. Shit happens. I’ve worked on this over time and have gotten a helluva lot better with it. I have an article posted on my sight for reference. If your first time sucks, no worries. It’s likely that she will tell her friends, but as long as you don’t let your performance get to you she won’t give two shits. There it is my friend, you’ve just bagged a college slut!
Day Game While men realize it’s possible to meet girls outside of bars in places like class, the grocery store, and coffee shops, I’ve only known one guy (who WAS NOT in college when we met) in my life personally who made an effort to talk to girls during the daytime, and he was pretty deep into game himself. I don’t have too much experience with Day Game as I only started employing it in my last semester of college, but I will briefly touch on what I do know. To start with, you need to go out. As obvious as this sounds, most guys don’t even get this far. Instead of sitting in your room all day, even if you are getting work done, drag your ass out of your house to a coffee shop, café, library, student union or any spot where cute girls congregate during the day. Once you arrive, simply do your work normally. In the event you “just so happen” to sit near a cute girl, strike up a conversation. Have you seen her around before? Is she wearing letters to a sorority that you know a few girls in? Is she always here? What is she reading? What is she drinking? So on and so forth. Once you’ve initiated the conversation, just simply have a regular conversation. This is easier said than done as you probably have never intentionally started a conversation with an unknown cute girl during the
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day, but hey, all good things in life don’t come easy. Over time you’ll get the hang of it. After you’ve chatted for a bit, simply grab her number. Like I’ve mentioned before, the best route to go is to invite her to a social event that you’re anticipating for the coming weekend. If you have no plans just simply say that you should hang out sometime. This is much easier said than done. I remember the first phone number I got from Day Game. As I walked out of the Starbucks I felt more giddy than a kid who just felt boob for the first time. The reason for this, at least to me, is that cold approaching a girl during the day can in itself cause a lot of anxiety, and prove a difficult challenge to overcome. So it’s not only initiating a conversation with a cute stranger during the day, but closing, which is in my opinion a significant achievement that few men will realize in their lifetime. This was a very brief overview of Day Game. For much more of an in depth overview check out Day Bang, by Roosh V. I recommended Bang earlier, and these two complement each other well. Check ‘em out.
A few last words… As for the scenario at the bar, my outline was pretty much a near perfect interaction; rarely will this happen. Do your best however to keep the interaction on course throughout its duration. You’re going to have a lot more obstacles thrown in your way: Loud music, drunk girls, drunk guys, cockblocks (cockblocks everywhere!!!), logistics, menstruation etc. The best way to get around these things is with experience! Don’t take any opportunity for granite.
Phone Numbers Here’s an excerpt from my article “Stop obsessing over phone numbers”. When I actually began approaching women on a consistent basis, I always settled for numbers. My logic was that if for example I get three numbers in one night, then I will subsequently have three future fuck buddies. A pipe dream to say the least… In fact, if I were to get one of three girls out on a
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date or even better to come over and bang, that would be solid. It doesn’t sound promising, but being realistic numbers don’t always work out. After realizing that this method is stupid, I had a paradigm shift. Instead of going for three number closes and getting one out on a date with just a possibility of getting laid, what if I were to push those same three interactions a far as possible that night. Assuming one out of three we’re DTF, then I’m likely to get a same night lay (SNL). Looking at it this way, phone numbers are almost useless. Why would I even waste my time texting girls and going on dates over a period of several days if I can get laid that night??? Yes, there is a time and place for phone number, but if you’re trying to get laid then why beat around the bush with numbers. I think that when I was starting out I enjoyed getting numbers. It was validation in the form of a small win. By settling for a number I achieved a victory. If I were to push it further and get rejected by trying to go for the bang, then my victory is moot, and am left with a stinging rejection. In order to succeed with women however, one must accept these rejections. If you’re approaching women, remember what you’re goal is: To get pussy! Don’t settle for less, don’t settle for a number. Sure, getting a number is an accomplishment, but what’s the point of getting a phone number if you don’t get laid? You could get 50 phone numbers, and bang none of them, whereas another guy could simply bang one out of those 50 and his notch count with be 1 higher than yours, without going through the physical and mental hassle of texting that many women. Guys need to realize these things and stop obsessing over numbers. While some situations will require you to get a number (pretty much always you approach during the day, she’s with a big group of friends, on her period etc.), push the interaction as far as possible, and if all you get is a number, great! Above all, don’t lie to yourself. Don’t tell yourself that you couldn’t have pushed it further. You can do it brother! -------------------------------------------------------------------This not only rings true in college, but is even further exacerbated. Think of how many guys a cute college girl meets in a week: Throw in a few trips to sethroselife.com
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the bar, classes, mixers with a fraternity, Tinder and Facebook and you’re looking at least a few dozen guys a week. Sure, she may remember you the next day or two when you text her, but that is no guarantee. Always push the interaction as far as possible. In many situations though getting a phone number is warranted. Remember though that a phone number is simply a combination of ten digits in a specific order that will allow you to communicate with someone. The keyword there is allow; nothing is guaranteed. She may never respond to your text. Even if she does respond to your text the odds of anything coming to fruition is 25-50%. So how to follow up on a phone number? Let’s say you got her number on a Friday night. Text her Sunday with something simple like, “Hey it’s Seth. What’s up”. Nothing special. Assuming she responds jump right into making plans. None of this “How was your day shit”. Don’t try to be cute and silly, get to the point. Either she likes you or she doesn’t; texting something witty won’t change that. Ask her if she wants to hang out this week. If she agrees, sweet.
“Dates” One thing I didn’t mention in the player profiles is that none of us went on dates; never. Not to my memory at least. Okay maybe a few here and there, but it was never our intention. There is no need to go on a traditional date in college. There are so many social activities going on each and every week that it is pointless. Instead of sitting in a quiet coffee shop on a Tuesday afternoon, you want to get this girl out in a party environment, similar to the one you met her in. Even better if you can get her directly to your place. Like I discussed earlier, you want to be the facilitator of fun. You should be trying to host social events or at least plan them on a weekly basis. I wouldn’t recommend throwing a party just because you want to bring a girl around a la Ted Mosby in How I Met Your Mother. If you have a pregame or party planned for Friday, invite her to it. If not, then just tell her to come out and get a drink on an off night like Wednesday. It really doesn’t matter where you meet this girl: The bar, the library, class etc. Always invite her to either a party, a bar, or your place. By doing this you get her out when she’s looking to drink, party and make bad sethroselife.com
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decisions. When you do get her out simply follow the outline presented earlier about sexual escalation. I haven’t had too much luck inviting girls directly over to “watch a movie” (i.e. Bang) on an off night. Towards the end of my last semester I decided to try out having a girl over to make dinner with. It went well. We didn’t bang just a make out, but that won’t be the case for all girls. If you can cook a decent meal this is something you may want to try out if you and/or the girl are chill people. While this is no doubt a good idea and is effective at getting her directly to your place, I still think inviting her out to a party, bar etc. is the best bet. The first time I hooked up with my ex-girlfriend I was texting her Friday night. I told her we should “meet up”. Not even at a bar or party, just meet at some predetermined location; and it worked. We met halfway down a street off-campus and then we walked hand in hand to my house where she proceeded to give me a blowjob. She was a bit promiscuous yes, but hey most college girls you meet at bars are. Aggressively pushing for sex will never cost you points. Even modest girls appreciate a guy who exudes masculine, sexual energy and is shameless in his pursuits.
Fuck Buddies Fuck buddies or Friends with Benefits (FWB) are clutch, and is a relationship that you should look to obtain; preferably more than one. To get a FWB two things need to occur: 1.) You both enjoy being in each other’s presence, virtually for the sole purpose of having sex and 2.) She needs to see a potential relationship with you down the road. While the first one is fairly obvious, the second is something that most guys wouldn’t think of. My ex in college was first my fuck buddy for a period of about 8 months. This is the length for many relationships and in this time we were just fucking. If there were events that required dates, we would take each other, but besides that there wasn’t much contact. The reason she was together with me for so long before getting into a relationship wasn’t because I was a sex stud, a super good looking guy (okay I was a bit of both), and she couldn’t get laid. The main reason was because she saw the potential for a relationship with me and saw being a FWB as a means to get me to be her boyfriend. With a bit of persistence on her end it worked. Getting a FWB is something that came naturally to me. Getting girls did not however, but when I got a girl keeping her around was a breeze. I wouldn’t say that I was ever the proverbial ‘nice-guy’ pushover, beta, but I treated sethroselife.com
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people well. I was well-rounded and interesting, and fun to be around. Another important thing was that I wasn’t judgmental, especially towards girls and their sexual escapades. Those things were important for them to see potential in me as a boyfriend, but what helped a lot was being aloof. Being aloof, non-needy, and non-judgmental are some of the most important characteristics that one must possess to keep a FWB. An excellent article on the subject is “Retention: Fuck Buddies” by Chris from Good Looking Loser. Me and him really see eye to eye on the subject, and he lays it out in a lot more depth than I wish to do in this book, although I have quite a bit more to say on the topic. I had another long term FWB and it followed the same principles as above. In fact I was seeing both these two girls at the same time, and they both showed up at my house one night; one left crying, I ended up dating the other one. This isn’t me bragging, but I think it’s important to understand female thought patterns and this situation highlights it. Both these girls saw with their own two eyes that I was hooking up with another girl (and likely other girls). Girls like guys who they know get laid. Actually seeing me with another one exacerbated that fact. This is important when it comes to FWB relationships because you need to give her the impression that you’re fucking other girls. Don’t come right out and say it, but do everything up that point. Guys think that hooking up with multiple girls would turn them off, but it’s the exact opposite. Not only does fucking other girls make you look good, but it is crucial to maintain a nonneedy attitude. By having more than one option for sex, you won’t be constantly blowing up any single girl’s phone. No girl would admit that she likes a guy who is fucking other chicks. Her friends would tell her to “Forget that loser”, but that’s not how it works. She’s just going to keep coming back for more. After the run in with the two girls, I still hooked up with them both after that night despite the one girl’s friends vehement protests. On paper it was a terrible decision on her part, but hooking up isn’t logical. Girls don’t evaluate the pros and cons of banging certain guys on paper (at least I think so). It’s an emotional one; one that is a result of thousands upon thousands of years of evolution. They have been programmed to bang the alpha male, and one of the most prominent traits of an alpha male is having multiple sexual partners simultaneously.
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While I’ve highlighted the importance of having more than one girl on lock, this doesn’t mean I’m advocating for you to go around breaking girl’s hearts. If it happens, which it most likely will, it happens. As long as you don’t go out of your way to do it that’s fine. I’ve broken a few hearts in my day, but I consider myself a real nice, stand-up guy. You should strive to be that too. There’s no reason you can’t. One last note on fuck buddies is the amount of time it takes up. A lot of guys avoid having a girlfriend because it takes up too much time, but I’ve found that seeing multiple girls can have the same effect. I recall one Thursday night Junior year we had a mixer with a sorority. I met a cute blonde girl and went home with her that night. I didn’t get very far; I only got her shirt off. It was late so I decided to spend the night anyway. The next night I went over to one of my regulars’ place and hooked up, and the night after that I brought over my main girl. Come Sunday I go over the girl’s house that I was at on Friday and then that Monday I went over to the girl’s house I met on Thursday. Confused yet? I sure was. I slept in my bed once in 5 nights. There’s much worse things in this world that I can think of than sleeping in multiple beds, but it can be a headache hooking up with these girls. I had homework to do, friends to chill with, meetings to go to and I found myself losing time by seeing these girls. So the girl I had met that Thursday I decided to stop seeing her. She wasn’t putting out anyway, and I didn’t need her. There was no point in trying to spend time getting in her pants when I was already getting ass on the reg. As you can see one benefit of seeing multiple girls is that you can drop a girl like a bad habit and not blink an eye because you have other means to drain your balls. A last note on this topic that could solve this “problem” is to not see girls too often. Once every 5-7 days should be fine. Maybe some of you guys won’t be bothered by this, but time management is something I’m a big proponent of and will take more about later in this book; just something to keep in mind.
Relationships So you brought a girl home from the bar. Turns out she’s a cool chick who’s fun in the sack too. You guys hook up for a few months and then she hits you with the ultimatum: “I want a relationship.” I used to think this was a death sentence. No more freedom. No more random girls, just one. I gave sethroselife.com
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my girlfriend in college a pretty hard time trying to tie me down. I’m an advocate of waiting a long period of time to enter an exclusive relationship (several months at least). This is to get to know the girl well and see if she’s relationship material. When I finally decided to enter into an exclusive relationship it was about 11 months after we first hooked up. Today, it sounds pretty ridiculous that I waited this long. She was my first girlfriend, so I wasn’t sure exactly how to go about doing the whole dating thing. I also thought I was so cool because I was banging a girl who I wasn’t tied down to. I then realized there’s nothing to be ashamed of when dating a girl, given she’s a level headed, good looking girl who’s enjoyable to be around. Many players in college will end up dating someone, so don’t walk around like you’re the shit because you’ve got a FWB who you’re giving the run around to. Provided you’re not whipped, still hang out with your friends, and don’t compromise who you are for this girl then your relationship should be great. College is a time for growth, and having a girl who you really like and is goal-oriented can help that process tremendously. Most relationships in college stem from a FWB relationship that then transition into a full blown relationship. The experience and amount of pussy that the guy is getting will dictate the amount of time it takes him to enter into a relationship. If a guy thinks that he will never get laid again, in a few short weeks he will likely be tied down. For a guy who is non-needy and can get girls it will be much, much longer. Aim for the latter. Also, never ever have the mindset that “you need a girlfriend.” Anytime I hear a guy say this I want to slap him upside the head. As I said, there’s nothing wrong with having a girlfriend, but I strongly believe that she needs to be a FWB first. This presents a problem for the guy who wants a girlfriend badly. They’ll take anything they can get and will usually end up dating someone who is a total bitch or not attractive, just to fill that void. Also, having the mindset of needing a girlfriend will manifest itself when talking to women as being needy, duh! If you want a girlfriend now I can guarantee you’re not rolling in pussy. If you we’re, the last thing you’d want is a girlfriend. Remember: You are the PRIZE. These girls should be chasing you for a relationship, never the other way around.
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I’m now wrapping up the section on how to get girls in college. Everything in this book ties in together, so I can’t say that the information provided to you in the rest of the book will be of no use in terms of getting laid, but it wasn’t written for that purpose. The last thing I wanted to touch on is discretion and privacy in hooking up. Like I said before, girls like guys who they know get girls. You want to communicate this through your behavior and actions, not by overtly saying it. I actually put effort into hiding my sexcapades. People talk. Mostly girls, but guys do it too, mostly those who don’t get laid though. I for one value my privacy. I hate people being up in my business. Being in a frat house of 20+ guys made that difficult, but I did my best. I preferred to not bring girls over to my place, because obviously that let’s guys know that I’m banging someone. After she leaves I’ll be presented with an onslaught of comments: “Nice!” (High-five), “She was cute!”, “Dude, she wasn’t that cute…”, “Girls got some tig ol bitties”, “What sorority is she in?”, “Where did you meet her?”, “How long have you guys been fucking?”, “Did she swallow?” and so on and so forth. Not only is taking the time to answer these questions annoying, but it’s a clear attack on my privacy. Gossip isn’t necessarily a bad thing. I hate gossip, but if other’s want to talk about me fine. The reason it can sometimes be beneficial is that when girls find out that you hooked up with some girl, it goes back to the point that girls like guys who they know get laid. I still wouldn’t go out of your way to let people know that you got laid. It makes you look insecure, conceited and just overall an asshole. Sure, some of your friends may not get laid at all, but you don’t need to rub it in their face. I suppose I’ve somewhat contradicted myself in saying that I value my privacy, but at the same time talking about the benefits of being a player. If I had to choose one, privacy or a player reputation, I’d choose privacy. Call me crazy, but privacy is important to me. I can be very open with people. This book is in part an autobiography of my college experience, but the book is anonymous. There’s something about a person knowing every facet of your life that disturbs me, and the women I sleep with is one of them. When I say people talk I mean it. I wouldn’t doubt that my ex-girlfriends close friends know exactly the exact dimensions of my penis, what my favorite position is, what kinks I enjoy, that I hate eating pussy, and that I sethroselife.com
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hate condoms as much as I hate pulling out (totally serious). You can expect the same when hooking up with girls. While getting a player reputation will contribute to a lot of bangs, I think that exuding the characteristics of a player should speak for itself, and you don’t need to rely on gossip for that. You won’t be perfect though, people will know you’re fucking girls, but hide the details. Being mysterious never hurts. On this subject, if you hook up with a girl in a sorority, how does that affect your chances at getting with one of her sisters? It helps, a lot actually. Some may be surprised by this answer, but it should be obvious. I’ll say it again, and I’ll keep saying it: Girls like guys who they know get laid. So if you’re pursuing a girl who happens to be in the same sorority as one of your past lays, it can only help your chances. This is most often the case, however, it depends how the ‘relationship’ ended. If you fucked her a few times and then dropped her that looks good (that sounds terrible doesn’t it?). If she thought you were a loser, that’s bad. As long as you exhibit the characteristics laid out in this book, you should be experiencing the former a lot more than the latter, if ever. Even if the other girl talks shit, I still think it helps. I had a fraternity brother who banged three girls in the same sorority; actually four come to think of it. This guy was short and had a tiny dick (allegedly). No problem! With the exception of the fourth girl, he was the one who ended the interactions, thus leaving the girls with a “positive” impression of him. My ex-girlfriend was in the same sorority, and then I banged one of her sisters. Was that sorority full of sluts? Probably, most sororities are. The point is though that your reputation matters. While most people think having a player reputation is bad, it’s not. It’s awesome. After my ex graduated, my frat had a mixer with her sorority. As I was talking to some of the younger, newer girls they recognized me as this girl’s ex, despite me never meeting them before. Like I told ya, this shit gets around. These girls looked up to me, starry eyed and giggling. This is what I’m talking about. This is what the player reputation gets you. Enjoy it.
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WORK Once you begin to embrace the social scene in college, you’ll nearly forget why you’re there in the first place. While partying and socializing will make up a big chunk of your time, buckling down and getting shit done needs to be your #1 priority. You (or your parents) are paying top dollar to get your degree and to waste that time and money would be an utter shame. In this section I want to discuss your major, study habits, time management, working in college, internships and future career paths. I don’t have any crazy stories about studying or career fairs, but this section should be read thoroughly and studied diligently as I will lay out advice about how to succeed during and beyond college. What do you want to be when you grow up? I’m sure they told you that you could be whatever you wanted when you grew up. Dreams of being an astronaut or cowboy were shattered for most by 8th grade. Yet, when college rolls around, most college students begin to fantasize again. They want to be politicians, Supreme Court justices, doctors, or investment bankers. When I was in middle school I wanted to be an investment banker. Yep, you read that right. It wasn’t an ordinary dream job, maybe it was because I’m Jewish. Most kids my age still dreamed of being an astronaut, or even more unrealistically the first female president (this still cracks me up, silly feminists). I knew little about the job itself, but I knew I wanted to be rich when I grew up. I wanted to have a closet full of designer suits and have a penthouse in Manhattan. As the years went by I began researching business schools. Only the best ones too: Wharton, Harvard, Stanford etc. Reality sunk in about 10th grade when I realized the challenge of getting into one of these schools. My GPA, while not terrible wasn’t too stellar and I had no extracurricular activities to speak of besides half a year of wrestling. Shit out of luck. My senior year I was dead set on attending a particular university known for their business program. While not one of the top business schools in the nation, it was an acclaimed school, especially for being a public school. I had my meal plan picked out and enrollment deposit paid.
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As fate would have it, I had a letter come to my house one day offering me some hefty scholarships to attend a different school. While money wasn’t an issue, it was intriguing. I decided to visit the school and changed my mind and ended up going there. It was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I didn’t end up studying business at this school; rather I opted for two degrees in the liberal arts. I just couldn’t bring myself to do business. While the allure of a closet full of suits was still there, my heart wasn’t in it. I couldn’t see myself sitting at a desk all day crunching numbers and doing whatever it is that I-bankers do. In fact, as I write this today I still have no idea what I want to do. Being a liberal arts major there aren’t too many prospects for people like myself. There aren’t too many employers looking to hire a journalism or history major. So what was I supposed to do? Study engineering and try and get a good job? Logically yes, but I have no interest in engineering, or the broader STEM field (Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics). I would never force myself to study, and then subsequently be employed in something I loathed. Hundreds of years ago people didn’t have much choice in their work. If you we’re born on a farm, you work on a farm. Was your dad a blacksmith? Your future would be pretty clear. In the twenty first century and with the advent of new technologies and fields there is a vast array of fields for employment and only a few appeal to me. If I could have it my way though I wouldn’t work an office job. I would make money off my website and travel the world. Live by my rules. And that’s the plan! A pipedream? Perhaps, but I’ll do my best. Most of you however are probably looking for some career advice. And as someone with no career it probably wouldn’t seem logical to offer you advice. That’s hardly the case. I had a prestigious internship during college and got good grades, but again I was a liberal arts major. After graduating I didn’t even apply to a single job! None of them sounded appealing. If I had to do it over again, I probably wouldn’t do anything different though. Although I didn’t succeed at the “real world” I know a few guys who did, and I will present to you their profiles. In addition to that, if you’re looking for a good paying, stable job I know how you can get one.
Choosing Your Major
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While it would be nice to do whatever you want when you grow up, that’s hardly the case. There aren’t too many male pornstars out there… I believe that an individual can major in whatever subject they want and be successful, but here’s the catch: Different majors have higher rates of providing good-paying jobs, if any job at all. For example, Computer Science majors will have a much higher chance of being employed after college than a psychology major. They are also likely to be paid more in the event both receive a degree. Before you decide to be an engineer, ask yourself what you want to do after your four years? I suggest reading over the last section again, to truly find out what you want to be when you grow up.
Overview of Major’s and Careers The following section briefly overviews five of the major fields of study. It will discuss the majors included, a quick glance at the subjects, the reality and day in the life of a student who studies these subjects, how to succeed in this field and a look into the future. Also, please note that the following is MY OPINION, these are not facts. They are simply observations from personal experience, anecdotal evidence, and research.
Arts & Humanities Majors Included: Art, Music, Dance, Film, History, Political Science, Languages, English, Philosophhy, Religious Studies, Sociology etc. At A Glance: For the guys interested in the humanities, a reality check is necessary. If you decide to go this route, you have to be in the top 10% (at least) in your major to have a shot at getting a job with just a bachelor’s. That takes into account internships, GPA, extracurriculars etc. It’s an uphill battle, but an admirable one in my opinion. Please, please, please take this into account. It’s not a good idea to go tens of thousands of dollars in debt to get an English degree. Sure you may make it big and publish a book, but odds are you won’t. KEEP THAT IN MIND! As a student of the humanities allow me to give you some insight. I entered school as a history major. I loved history ever since before I even entered
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school in Kindergarten. There was just something about it. When I got to school, it was a no brainer to study it. I never thought about the future though. People inevitably ask in college, “So what do you want to do with that?” Good question. Most people suspected I would be a history professor. Fuck that. There weren’t too many other options though. Work in a library? Kill me now. So halfway through my Freshman year I decided to start studying Russian as a foreign language (which was required for my major). I loved it and it opened a lot of new doors for me. I could now work the whole International Relations/Government angle. My senior year I got an internship with the State Department, which was in my opinion pretty prestigious. It was an amazing opportunity and struck me as something that I could envision myself doing full time upon graduating. Unfortunately that wasn’t going to happen. Why? Because there’s a lot of competition out there. While I’m just a 22 year old recent graduate, there are people 5+ years older than me with a Master’s or PhD, fluency in the language, and work experience that have me beat out at all levels. To be more competitive I’d need what they have if not more. This is the reality for humanities majors. Not all, if any, humanities degrees are worthless per se, it’s just that the demand for people with the knowledge and skillset that this degree provides is slim, especially when looking at the number of people with these degrees. Universities we’re founded initially to cultivate environments for studying subjects like philosophy and religion. They didn’t have the technology we do today and there were no engineering programs. Medicine wasn’t a well respected profession until a few hundred years ago. People didn’t necessarily go to college to get a job; they did it because they loved wisdom and knowledge. Of course, the world is always changing rapidly, and universities have adjusted to the moden world, which is why the humanities has not necessarily taken a back seat in colleges, but is less likely to present an individual with employment. Of course I’m biased. I believe that the world needs people with humanities degrees who have studied history, art and philosophy. These subjects have been studied for thousands of years, why stop now? Humanities degrees create intelligent, well read, literate individuals who can convey an idea effectively; these types of people aren’t going anywhere, anytime soon. Have you ever read an engineer’s paper? It’s pitiful, but don’t blame them. People are just wired differently. I could never see myself being an engineer, sethroselife.com
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and it’s a two way street. My engineering friends tell me that it’s nearly impossible for them to learn a language or to write a coherent paper. I truly believe that people are just wired differently. If you’re on my end, that’s fine, just accept the reality and make the best of what you’ve got. A Day In the Life: I was rarely overburdened with school work. Few humanities majors are. A few classes a day, with a bit of homework at night was the norm. What Humanities Majors Think: That their studies are harder than they appear. That they will be partners at law firms, politicians, or Nobel laureates. Reality: I hit the nail on the head already, but humanities majors will have an uphill battle once out of school. They can achieve success though. Keys for Success: 1.) Internships: To set yourself ahead of the rest of the pack, you need to have a stellar resume, which is best done by having internships, in the case of a humanities major, with reputable organizations and institutions related to your desired field of study. 2.) Language: I’m partial to languages, but I think learning something like Mandarin, Japanese or Russian will open a lot more doors for you in the business world. 3.) GPA: This goes with setting yourself ahead of the rest of the pack. 4.) Leadership: Being a President or Treasurer of an organization helps. Taking part, or better yet, starting a club related to finance is a good bet.
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library will vary greatly, although business majors are known for their partying antics. What Business Majors Think: Some will tell you that their degree is a joke, others take it seriously. The courseload is not too hard, but they will always tell you how hard accounting class is. If it’s so hard why are they drinking on a Wednesday afternoon? Reality: The degree of difficulty for business class can vary greatly. The workload can be tough, but it isn’t too difficult. It’s middle of the line as far as difficulty goes. As for their futures, business majors usually have it pretty good as long as they adhere to the following. Keys for Success (Similar to Humanities): 1.)
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Internships: When I saw our former Tresaurer’s resume my jaw dropped. Some of the nation’s biggest banks were on there. You can guess how his career is going. If you’re a business major your resume is key. Oftentimes companies that you intern with will give you a job right out of college. If you dick around as a business major then you can kiss that Wall St. job goodbye. Language: I’m partial to languages, but I think learning something like Mandarin, Japanese or Russian will open a lot more doors for you in the business world. Leadership: Being a President or Treasurer of an organization helps. Taking part, or better yet, starting a club related to finance is a good bet.
Future: Again, this largely depends on your resume, but most business majors do well. Nearly all the business majors I know got jobs out of school. Business majors are usually go getter types so this is not surpriseing.
Health and Medicine Majors Included: Biology, exercise science, chemistry, genetics, neuroscience, biochem, nursing, public health etc. At a Glance: It’s hard to throw all these majors together, but I’m grouping anything related to the human body and science. Most of these majors are tough and will require a lot of effort and taking some difficult classes. Many people in this major will be pre- something, looking to go to Medical or Dental school after college.
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What Health/Medicine Majors Think: Like I said, many people in this field want to go to Med school. So many people are banking on this. Reality: Only 25% of students who take the MCAT get into medical school. This is a harsh reality that not many realize. The days of slaving away at OChem will have been for naught. Keys for Success: These will for the most part only be applicable to those looking to go to med school. 1.) Internships/Lab Work: Working in a lab is a must, as well as publishing research. 2.) Leadership: A solid resume with various activities is probably the best way to distinguish yourself from your competition. 3.) Standardized Tests: A low MCAT score will no doubt compromise any chance at getting into medical school. Future: Most students pursuing med school don’t get in. This means that they may go enter a graduate school program. I’m a big advocate of dental school. They make good money and it is not as rigorous as medical school. Plus everyone loves dentist’s right? STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) Majors Included: Actuarial Science, Computer Science, Physics, Mathematics, Engineering (All) etc. At a Glance: STEM majors today are lauded as the best choice for a college student, and for good reason. While these majors will be the most challenging, they will provide the most reward. While I just discussed Health/Medicine, and biology and chemistry for instance fall under STEM, this section is more for to look at Engineers, math students, and related fields. A day in the life: Engineering students have a tough workload. While the field varies, for the most part nearly all engineers (Chemical, Civil, Mechanical, etc.) have large, difficult workloads. Engineers spend many days and nights in the library getting shit done, yet somehow some of the biggest partiers I know were engineers. How do they do it? I couldn't tell ya.
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What STEM Majors Think: Most engineers aren’t usually passionate about their studies; rather they realize the practicality of it and pursue it because of how much money they’ll make. They’re essentially the opposite of liberal arts majors who are passionate about their studies, but not overly interested in the whole making a living thing. They’ll also tell you how much they studied this week while they’re blackout drunk at the bar. Reality: STEM majors are the most likely to be employed right out of college, however, they won’t be making as much money as they think. Many engineers will make around 50-60k out of college, maxing out at around 100k. I grew up in a pretty affluent neighborhood and never met a ‘rich’ engineer. If you’re willing to work as engineer for a few decades and desire a stable, good paying job STEM is your best bet. Keys for Success: 1.) Show up: Okay that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but as long as you take classes seriously and make an effort to get a decent resume, getting a job after school is very likely simply because the demand for engineers is so high. Future: Again, STEM majors have a pretty bright future as long as they make an effort to keep themselves somewhat competitive as well as seeking jobs after school.
Finding a Home Away From Home My formula for success is: Hard Work + Time= Success It’s pretty straightforward, yet most college students can’t seem to get a handle on either. The problem is that most college kids have piss poor habits, lack discipline and can’t seem to get shit done. People wait until the night before to write a 10 page paper or to begin studying for a midterm. And boy, once finals week comes around everyone is hunkered down in the library for days to make up for lost time. The easiest solution to this is to simply find a home away from home; a spot where you feel comfortable going everyday to get work done, as well as to unwind. A coffee shop or library is a perfect choice and all campuses have at least one of each so take your pick. sethroselife.com
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The main purpose of this dojo is to get work done, however, this is college and we want to exploit the social aspects every chance we get. With that said, your choice should have a lot of social capital. A perfect example of this is Starbucks. Starbucks are ubiquitous in American culture, and there’s a good bet you can find one near you. If not, find another big name coffee shop or just something that resemebles it. The reason I’m a fan of Starbucks is not because of their coffee, which is alright, but rather because cute girls go to Starbucks and overall it’s a pleasant and relaxing environment. It’s nice to go to a place where you can sit for a few hours and get a ton of work done and once in a while taking a sip of coffee and glancing at the cute blonde sitting across from you. I’m not advocating going to these places simply so you can check girls out, rather you’re going here so you can talk to them. Use the day game model I laid out earlier to accomplish this. Once you have your spot, you should plan to go there at least 3+ times a week for several hours. This accomplishes two things: 1.) Get Shit done: Dragging your ass out of the house will force you to get work done. You can’t jerk off in the middle of Starbucks and you’ll feel guilty about web surfing if you made the effort to leave your house and are just wasting time. The longer you stay here the more you get done. 2.) “Network”: Going to the same place on a regular basis, you’re bound to see other regulars. This gives you the ability to simply say, “Hey, I see you here all the time. What’s your name?” This is so easy because it’s genuine.
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to cut it. While I was never one to have big bar tabs, even if I bought a few drinks every night I went out, that would be on average 7-8 drinks a week. If I did that every week it would come out to around $300 a semester (on the low end of the spectrum), which is pretty small compared to some of my fraternity brothers. My solution was to get a part time job. I ended up working at a coffee shop at one of the buildings on campus. I only did it for a semester, but it was not a bad experience at all. I made minimum wage and only worked ten hours a week, which covered my booze budget and then some. Working a part time job is beneficial for several reasons, not just for making money: 1.) Anxiety: Working in a job like a coffee shop forces you to interact with strangers on an everyday basis. While the interaction may last only 10 seconds, simply the act of getting out of your comfort zone and opening your mouth is a step in the right direction. Not only are you talking to strangers, but you’re working with coworkers who you’ll build somewhat of a relationship with over time just by shooting the shit with every day. 2.) Building a Social Circle: Getting a part-time job on campus will surround you with people in your same situation. Once you make friends with them, you’ll get invited to their parties and get into their social circle. Also, dealing with customers it’s likely you’re going to get recognized outside work. If you work in a coffe shop like Starbucks you’ll be face to face with cuties frequently. If you spot one another outside of work then start up a conversation.
Internships Depending on your major, internships will make or break your future. Regardless of what you study, the key to succeeding after college is to always stay one step ahead of your competition. If everyone in your major is lazy as fuck, put yourself at the top by building a kick ass resume. When it comes to internships anything counts. While some people may not want to do an internship with some no name organization it can pay off. I volunteered at a non-profit one summer. I put it on my resume and it was the only thing related to my studies. I was able to get a kick ass government internship and I attribute it to the non-profit.
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If you’re an underclassman, shoot for the stars. Apply to the best companies or organizations in your field, but also apply to some smaller ones. It’s like applying to schools: You apply to Stanford as your dream school, but also some no name state school as a safety. Try and do an internship every year. Most do it over the summer which is most convenient, but doing it during the semester means less competition although that may inconvenience you. Stay busy. Make some coin. Build your resume. Get an internship(s)!
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BMOC Lifestyle Style One of the easiest ways to distinguish yourself from your peers is to dress well. Most college guys dress like bums, absolute bums even when going out to the bar. Now fraternity guys on the other hand dress nice, but dressing nice =/= getting laid. You see dressing nice makes you look like a nice guy and nice guys don’t get laid. The typical frat attire:
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Notice the obnoxious colored button ups and polo shirts, not to mention the khaki shorts. This style looks good in my opinion (sans the short shorts). However, it should be best left to activities where you want to look nice in a relaxed environment: Class, club meetings, BBQ’s, baseball games etc. When it comes time to meet women though you don’t want to look nice, you want to look COOL. I’d be lying if I told you my closet didn’t look like an Easter basket. Brooks Brothers, J Crew, Ralph Lauren all cohabitate it my closet making it look like a rainbow of sorts. I do enjoy dressing like that because it’s presentable. It’s also fun to sometimes dress outrageous, go out and just be a total d-bag. Later on in college I started to wear less of this style, and go more towards a cool, edgy look. In fact, all the players I highlighted earlier opted for this look. It would be rare to see these players dressed like the guys above. Sure they wore polo shirts and button up’s out, but they were paired with dark jeans and nice shoes, NOT KHAKIS. Coincidence, I think not. The reason a lot of frat boys can get away with dressing like this at bars, is because they’re not looking to branch out of their social circle. Most fraternity guys will inevitably meet up in groups at a designated bar where they will know quite a few people there. They want to fit in and not stand out as to show they’re part of the group. If they do take a girl home it will be either a.) A girl they’ve already slept with or b.) A girl they wanted to sleep with in a sorority that they’re close with. There’s really no cold approaching going on in these venues. By dressing in this manner, it lets people know that you’re in a fraternity. Being in a fraternity is a status symbol to some and by dressing this way you convey that status and let people know you’re in the ‘in’ crowd. Most of these guys are literally scared to dress differently for fear of being socially ostracized. If you’re a guy who’s not in a fraternity or not in one of the top frats, you want to STAND OUT. Go against the grain. Rock a tight (not too tight) v-neck whose color stands out, dark jeans, and cool sneakers or other shoes. This is not just in this type of cliquey bar; this is in EVERY BAR. You have to stand out. Now back in the day of PUA standing out meant looking like this:
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Dress like this anywhere and I can guarantee you will be going home alone… If you’re on a budget, I can’t expect you to splurge. However, you can find some pretty cheap clothing around. Don’t buy a ton of new clothes, only buy what you need. Make sure it fits well. Simplicity is your best bet, but it should make a good outfit if that makes sense.
Gym If there is one single activity that I would recommend to any man it would be lifting weights. Lifting weights is beneficial for so many reasons. Here are some important ones and how they relate to what you’re trying to achieve as a Big Man on Campus:
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1.) Anxiety: As if going to college and being surrounded by people you don’t know isn’t hard enough, having to worry about being overweight or rail thin only adds insult to injury. By spending time in the gym doing a combination of lifting, mobility work/stretching, cardio (if and when necessary) and playing sports you will look good which in turn will help you to feel better about yourself. Also, playing sports exposes you to meeting new people. 2.) Discipline: Lifting weights is something that you have to commit to. Going to the gym to lift, and follow a lifting routine consistently builds discipline like no other. 3.) Testosterone: In College, you’re going to be young and surrounded by pretty, tight girls. You shouldn’t have too much issue wanting to fill up these biddies, but lifting weights will ramp up T production and make you want to go apeshit on some pussy. Any self respecting player puts in his dues in the weight room. If I see a skiny dude I just have to shake my head. All guys in college have access to a weight room. Use it! Find some cool dudes to go with and lift.
Reading I can easily count the number of guys I met in college who read on a regular basis on one hand. Some people just aren’t interested in reading, but I can’t discourage this mindset enough, especially when in college. College is a time of learning, and growth. Don’t take this for granite. If the only thing you come out of college with is a piece of paper you did it completely wrong. The books you should be reading are ones that will develop you and make you a better person. They should give you insight about great men and how they lived their lives. I personally own a kindle and love it, but maybe you don’t want to shell out cash. Well, there are these places called libraries which have thousands of free books. Check it out some time. Grab a book and read it either before bed to help you sleep, or use it to be productive while at your “Home away from home”.
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Cooking You’d be surprised how few guys can actually cook in college; it’s only a bit more than those that read. Knowing how to make a few decent meals will not only make your life more enjoyable, but the ladies absolutely love it. Having a girl over for dinner is one of the best dates you can do in the event you need to have a date. Ask mom and dad to borrow a few pots and pans, or go in with your roommates to get some. Buy some spices and sauces. Look up recipes online and go to the store and get what you need. Presto! Dinner. Cook the same meals over and over and you’ll get better at making them. If you want to get in shape, be healthy, feel good, and perform your best in college you can’t be filling yourself with hot pockets and Wendy’s everyday. Eat some REAL food.
Your Crib Living in a frat house is the ultimate bachelor pad in college bar none in. Living in a frat house is like having a penthouse suite of an urban metropolis. Now, unlike a penthouse suite frat houses are loud, dirty and are home to undiscovered fungal and biological strains, as well as the occasional insects and rodents. Nonetheless, in terms of social capital frat houses reign supreme. Why is this? Fraternity houses are a combination of clubs and hotels, kind of like what you would find in Vegas. You have your luxury, high class clubs inside luxury, high class hotels. Now, pretend you’re part club promoter/part hotel owner. Plus you live in the hotel. Do you think it will be difficult to get laid in this environment assuming you have your shit together? Fuck no. If you have your own apartment or house and host social events there on a regular basis, you can undoubtedly have a lot of success as well. Now, not everyone will live in a fraternity house, but when choosing you crib it should adhere to the charachterisitics of a frat house, that is: 1.) Logistics: Oh you live in an apartment is a fifteen minute walk from the bar? It’s definitely not a game changer, but it’s enough to make a girl change her mind. Get a palce that’s close to the center of the
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social scene on your campus. Now you already know you should be throwing parties at your place anywhere which makes logisitics a breeze, but you’re going to hit the bars at some point in your college career so you better make the best of that situation. 2.) Conducive to partying: Big house>small apartment. I’ve been to plenty of pregames and “house” parties at apartments; they’re definitely a lot more intimate than most other social gatherings. It’s not a bad thing, but I prefer larger gatherings. If you’d prefer to have smaller get together’s than go for an apartment, but if you like bigger events like I do than you’re going to want a decent sized house. The house doesn’t have to be anything special beyond being somewhat big, as long as there isn’t shit that’s going to interfere with a party.
Your Room I think I met one guy in college who lived by himself. Nice kid, but he was a little weird… get some roommates. I was fortunate to have my own room in my frat house every year, but that’s not always the case. I can’t tell you how much of a cock block it is to have another guy LIVING in your room. That shit should be over and done with Freshman year. I’m not going to tell you to clean your room… actually fuck that I am. CLEAN YOUR DAMN ROOM! If you bring a girl home from the bar at 2:30 AM she probably won’t care whether or not your room is dirty, but your room isn’t just for banging. You should plan on hosting people in your room for shots, mixed drinks, pregaming etc. No one will want to go to your room if it looks and smells like dog shit. Don’t be overly concerned with decorating and for the love of God don’t buy the same stupid posters everyone has in their room Freshman year. The “Pretty Boy” bought some art work for his room. Whether it was for his own pleasure or to impress girls I can’t say for sure, but it shouldn’t be the latter. No girl is going to decide to have sex with you because of a picture on your wall. Your room should simply aim to be comfortable; a place where you, your friends, and women can feel comfortable. Tip: Don’t have excessive furniture in your room. This way, when bringing a girl to your room, sit in your desk chair (assuming you have one). She’ll have to sit on the bed and it makes escalating much more efficient.
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Schedule/ Balance When you add in class, studying, a part- time job, socializing, club activities, reading, hitting the gym and more you’re going to have a lot on your plate. This is why most college students do NOT take part in most of the aforementioned activities. My good friend, roommate, and fraternity brother who is a Chemical engineer showed me this during college:
I would joke with him and tell him it doesn’t count for liberal arts majors…which is true. I was easily able to balance all three of these things over the years. Most students can’t, especially one’s with time consuming majors. So how can it be done? It comes down to things I’ve mentioned already: Discipline and building habits. If you’ve got a home away from home and aren’t wasting time with videogames and smoking weed it is quite feasible.
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this summer. He lifts regularly, and in his down time likes to read philosophy books. Oh yeah, and he’s a horny little fucker. Let’s break it down a bit. Here are things that Kyle, or any college man, should be doing every day: -Sleep: 9 hours. When you’re young you need more sleep, PERIOD, especially if you’re a lifter. Nine hours should have you covered and includes time it takes to fall asleep. -Get Ready: 1 hour. This includes various things like brushing your teeth, flossing, showering, shaving, getting dressed etc. An hour total per day should take care of it. -Classes: 5 hours. Few people have classes 5 hours a day EVERY DAY, but let’s just assume he does. This also includes time walking to class. -Studying/Work: 3 hours. This is time spent at your home away from home. Kyle will need to study, but for the remaining time he can read a book, surf the web, work on a project, work on anything that needs to get done for his Honors Society, work on his applications, and if there’s a cute girl next to him he’ll grab her number. -Exercise: 1.5 hours. You don’t need to, and shouldn’t be lifting seven days a week, but you should do some sort of physical activity every day. -Preparing/Eating Meals: 1.5 hours. For the love of God, please don’t be one of those people that eats Ramen and hot pockets. Learn to cook! Alright so that’s 21 hours right there. Now, I’m being very liberal with the time, but it’s better to overestimate than be cut short. So that’s 3 remaining hours. That time should be spent on either: Finishing up any additional studying, projects, or miscellaneous tasks, going to meetings, hanging out with friends or just relaxing/downtime. I like my schedules very rigid, because I know I’m always getting shit done. You may feel constricted by this, but it’s probably because you’re not used to staying so busy. Trust me; keeping busy will benefit you in the long run. And assuming you’re dropping wasteful habits (which actually I suppose you could still do if you wanted to do during your downtime) you’re going to have more free time that you thought.
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I’ve broken down essentially what you’ve been doing everyday, but I want to give you a few sample schedules: Monday Monday will follow the model to a near T. You have an Honors Society meeting at night however. 12 AM- 9 AM: Sleep 9-9:30: Get Ready for Class 9:30-12 PM: Class 12-12:30: Lunch 12:30-3: Class 4-5: Exercise 5-530: Dinner 530-8: Study/Work 8-9: Meeting 9-10: Study/Work 10-1130: Downtime 1130- Get ready for bed Pretty rigid huh, but those are Mondays. Let’s check out what Friday might look like: Friday For the most part it will follow the schedule, but it’s the weekend! Time to party bitch. 12 AM- 9 AM: Sleep 9-9:30: Get Ready for Class 9:30-12 PM: Class 12-12:30: Lunch 12:30-3: Class 4-5: Exercise 5-530: Dinner 530-8: Study/Work 8-9: Pregame 9-????: Drink, party, fuck bitches, HAVE FUN, pass out… It really isn’t that hard to switch up the schedule for a Friday. Opt out of doing work at night so you can get the party started. Just keep in mind that you will be making up the work over the weekend. sethroselife.com
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Friday’s are fun, but the chilliest day should be Sunday: Sundays It’s the weekend and you know what that means? No class motherfucker! Sleep in, watch some football, but make sure you get your shit DONE! 2 AM- 11 AM: Sleep 11-12 PM: Breakfast, make a nice one… 12 PM-1 PM: Exercise 1-2: Lunch 2-4: Study/Work 4-7: Downtime 7-8: Dinner 8-10: Study/Work 10-1130: Downtime 1130-12: Get Ready for bed While Sunday’s while present you with the most time it’s easy to actually not get work done. I’m a believer in momentum, and when you sit around most of the morning, your more inclined to sit on your ass the rest of the day. That’s why I’m an advocate of always doing something and always moving. Don’t stress too much. Is your favorite NFL team playing? Invite some friends over to watch the game, or go to a bar for lunch/dinner and a beer. There you have it. I’m not going to make a sample schedule for everyday of the week because it’s pretty straightforward from here. Monday-Thursdays are the same, you have Friday and Sunday which I laid out, and the Saturday which is a hybrid of Friday and Sunday because you have no class, but you’ll be going out at night. Oh yeah, and if you have a home football game Saturday don’t expect to get much done. I have a few more recommendations: 1.) Get a Calendar: Go out and buy one of those BIG ASS calendars. Hang it up somewhere in your room. Go through all of your class syllabuses and write down the due dates of major projects and papers, homework assignments and of course midterms and finals. 2.) Create an excel spreadsheet. Write out your daily schedule and insert and small assignments you have due on a weekly basis. Also, sethroselife.com
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any time something comes up like a meeting, party or a date write it down. It should look something like this:
I’m not here to tell you exactly how to live your life. If you like this setup, awesome. If not create your own and use mine to structure your schedule. Don’t skimp on this though.
Conclusion Gentleman, I have written nearly everything I know about college into this book based on my experiences and isnights, as well as the experiences and insights of close friends. There really isn’t much more to it. Even if there was I wouldn’t want to write about it. The fun of college, if not life in general, is to experience it, enjoy it; live! While being rigid and disciplined is important, the greatest moments in life are spontaneous. If an opportunity presents itself take it! There are few other times in life where you can experiment beyond college.
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To round out this book I want to talk about where I fell short and how you can learn from my mistakes. I had a pretty spectacular college experience. Sure, I didn’t fuck a hundred girls or get a kick ass job once I graduated. Nonetheless, I consider it a success because of the progress I made while in college on all levels. One of the major themes of the ‘Play’ section is to be the life of the party. To do this you need to be an extrovert, or at least summon vast amounts of energy on short notice. I’m naturally an introvert, and while that shouldn’t be an excuse for not forcing yourself out of your comfort, realistically it is difficult to be able to party hard twice, if even once a week. For me it was once, maybe twice a month if I was sober (which was pretty much always). If you’re not a natural extrovert, which I’m assuming you aren’t if you’re reading this, than getting laid via social circle will be an uphill battle especially if you don’t drink much. That’s why it is so crucial and of the utmost importance that you push yourself out of your comfort zone. It is so easy to just want to stay and hide and rest in the safety net that is your comfort zone; FUCK THAT! You can’t enjoy life like that. Push yourself and you’ll make it. I know you can. What I didn’t mention in My First…3 Bangs article was that nearly all my lays in college came on nights where I was tipsy or was just brimming with energy. If I was having an “On” night, I was getting laid that night, or at the very least a number or make out. I never even thought to explore ways to bring out this side of me that was super outgoing. Worst of all, I didn’t take advantage of the most obvious means of doing so:
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I just couldn’t get past that mental block of drinking booze in excess. I am proud that I was able to regularly cold approach sober in alcohol fueled environments, but if I really wanted to ramp up my notch count I should’ve hit the bottle more. I had a 3.3 GPA in high school. My GPA in college was a 3.6. This was probably due to the rigor of my classes, or lack thereof, that contributed to this. It was a decent improvement, but with my major’s I could’ve easily have gotten a 3.75+. I didn’t come up with the idea of the “Home away from Home” until my last semester in school. I could’ve done a lot better in school, and just have been overall more productive had I spent 2-3 hours every week day in the library or coffee shop. I also half assed studying a lot of the time. There was so much reading I had to do over the years, and I didn’t do about 80% of it. I could get by, but I can guarantee I would have done better.
All I Ask... Before I conclude this book and we enter the appendix, I want to ask three things of you: 1.)
Take Action: I really hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I did writing it; it was a great way for me to vicariously relive my college experience. However, I don’t want all my work to be for naught. Take action! Go out and meet people. Study your ass off. sethroselife.com
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Get a good job. Take the time to build habits and discipline while simultaneously eliminating clutter and negativity from your life. The time you spend doing this now, will pay off greatly down the road. 2.)
Show me some love: If you enjoyed this book, then I think you’ll really enjoy my site: sethroselife.com (if you hadn’t noticed it in any of the footers on every single page). Read the blog, follow me on twitter, send me naked pi… ahem.
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Give me Feedback: For the sake of posterity, I implore you to let me know what you thought of the book; whether you loved it or loathed it. Were there any particular sections that you find useful/not useful; sections that had too much/too little information; sections missing entirely? Etc… Hit me up at
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To conclude this book, I’ll leave you with the wise words of Rodney Dangerfield: “Hey Everybody We're All Gonna Get Laid”
Appendix Underage/Criminal Offenses If you can go through college and not get arrested, or at least a citation, hats off to you good sir. I’ve always been a pretty straight edge kid. As I’ve said numerous times, I don’t even like to drink that much. I did like the idea of going to bars though. So when I was 19 or 20, I got my older brother to give me his ID. It worked like a charm; I only got turned down once. One night I was at bar with two friends. Suddenly, a group of cops come in. FUCK! They made their way over to me and asked for ID. It was over at this point. Two weeks later I was in court. After getting a thorough shaming from the judge and a $100 fine plus court fees I was good to go. Oh yeah, it was on my record for a year and I still have yet to get it expunged (I don’t think I ever will).
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People make getting an underage to be a big deal. A ton of people get it in college. It’s not a big deal at all. I was able to get a Secret-level security clearance for an internship within 10 months of getting a citation, and still having it on my record. Don’t sweat it. I by no means condone partaking in illegal activity, but if you so choose to do so and get caught for being naughty, then it’s not a huge deal unless you commit a Felony (Don’t do that, seriously). Changing Majors You’re a year and a half into school. You always grew up wanting to be a doctor, but it turns out that the rigor of pre-med has proven to be a bit too much. You don’t want to continue this course anymore, but feel as if you’re already in too deep. In my opinion it’s really never too late to change paths. This problem can be mitigated in the first place by picking a subject that you are sure that you will not only be able to handle, but one that you will enjoy (Reread the section on changing majors). Sure, you may have wasted a lot of money taking courses you didn’t need, but you can’t really put a price on hating your job (okay that’s not entirely true, but it would have to be A LOT). Transfer The idea of going to a liberal arts school sounded really appealing during your Senior year of high school. Unfortunately, they didn’t tell you how everyone is a self righteous, bleeding heart liberal pansy who wouldn’t know a good time if the government gave it to them in the form of a welfare check. Just like changing majors, you don’t want to end up at a school that you hate. The sooner you get out of there the happier you’ll be. Now, maybe this school is close to home, you have a good scholarship, or they have a top program for what you’re studying. In that case, go over the material in this book and really make an effort to seek out happiness. Ask yourself if it’s really the school, or your lifestyle that you dislike. Roommates
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Even as an introvert, I often crave being around others just for the sake of doing so; I can’t really explain it. It is important for your well being to be around people on a regular basis, whose company you not only enjoy, but can also better your life. Alas, sometimes we’re not always so lucky. I’ve heard the horror stories… my Freshman roommate as quiet as a mouse, but towards the end of the year, he wouldn’t shut up! How does that even happen? If you’re living with a roommate you don’t like I’m guessing it’s not by choice. While you’re forced to live with them, you’re not forced to spend every waking hour with them. Remember the “Home away from home”. Find a spot and spend time there so you can escape any pestilent roommates. How about if you’re roommate is loud, obnoxious, eats your shit, is dirty etc. The best way to solve this is to be direct; none of this passive aggressive bullshit. Most guys are pussies that can’t handle confrontation. If you come at him man to man and call him out he will most likely back down. Don’t be a dick, just be assertive. No car The hindrance of not having a car will vary from campus to campus. I never had one in school and it was no big deal at all. In fact it was just one less thing to worry about. The only time I really needed a car was to get groceries in which I’d have a roommate drive me. Otherwise I would walk nearly everywhere, unless it was ridiculously far I’d take the bus. Spring Break/Road Trips I’m sure you know a thing or two about Spring Break: The beaches, the boobies, the crazy antics. Pandemonium! I told you earlier that the image of college is largely exaggerated which is true. As for Spring Break…it is EXACTLY as it is portrayed. Again, beaches, boobies and booze. The week I spent in Panama City Beach was probably the most fun week I’ve ever had in my entire life. I absolutely recommend going on at least one Spring Break during college. It is an opportunity that you will never have again. If you don’t know anyone going on Spring Break remember: Be the Facilitator of Fun. Get a group together and rent a hotel room for a few nights. I’m not a travel agent so I can’t recommend any spots besides where I went, but I’d imagine they’re all pretty fun.
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When it comes to getting laid, don’t get your hopes up. While Spring Break would seem like the perfect oppurtnity to bang girls what with all the skin showing and alcohol flowing, the logistics make it a nightmare. I didn’t get laid on my trip (quite a few make outs, which are a cakewalk on Spring Break) and I think I only know of one or two guys who did and the girls they had sex with they already knew. Hotels give you wrist bands and you can’t get into a hotel with out a wrist band which means essentially you’re going to have to hookup with a girl in your hotel. That doesn’t seem too hard, but girls tend to not leave their friends during these trips. Don’t get too caught up in getting laid, pussy is pussy wherever you go. Enjoy this week as it will be blast. If you get laid awesome, if not you still will have had an amazing time. Online Dating Since graduating school I’ve come around a bit to the idea of online dating. However, when it comes to online dating in college, I am not a fan. There are two major reasons for that: 1.) Lower Value: The common conception of online dating is that people who use it can’t get laid. Whether that’s entirely true doesn’t matter. That’s how people view it for the time being and we have to accept that. So if you decide to bang girls online in college and that gets around people will perceive you as a guy who can’t laid. Yes, I know we shouldn’t care what others think, but it’s important sometimes to consider the thoughts of others when it comes to getting laid through your social circle. If you fucked nothing but fat girls, would people perceive that positively? No. Same thing with dating online. 2.) Skill set: Online dating can be a useful tool for guys who are inexperienced with girls, or have too much anxiety to jump in the deep end of the college sex scene. I can see the value in this, but when you take into account the aforementioned point, it’s something that I don’t think should be pursued. College is a great time to develop your social skills and a feel that by pursuing online dating it will prevent them from putting in a valiant effort at building this skills. Hooking up with friends/girls you know I never had too many friends growing up, let alone friends that were girls. Even though I never had a female friend, I didn’t see any value in it. If I wanted advice, someone to go out or chill with, I’d hang out with one of my sethroselife.com
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boys. Plus, if I did ever start hanging out with a girl on a regular basis and she was cute, why would I not be fucking her? Sure she could be ugly, but I’ve found that I tend to not spend time around ugly girls… I became very close with a girl my last semester. I had known her for years, but we started hanging out a lot the last two months before I graduated. She was close with a lot of the guys in my fraternity and even dated one for a while. She was cute, but I was not attracted to her if that makes sense. Anyway, our last week together some of us went out, including her. We ended up dancing at the bar. She was getting down. Where am I going with this… anyway we ended up having sex. Surprise! It was awful. I was nearly raped haha. I only did it for the notch (thanks Roosh). It wasn’t as big of a deal as it could have been because she left for break the next day. She started texting me all the time which was annoying, but I started ignoring it. The full article is here: Amway… Look, if for some reason you end up getting close to a girl that you’re not banging first ask yourself why? Are you attracted to her, but pretending to be her “friend”? That’s pathetic and I hope you’re better than that. Maybe she’s really into you? Look at it objectively and make a decision to stick with it or move on… Summer I did take classes one semester and highly recommend it. If you don’t decide to go that route, you’re going to want to to put it to good use. Instead of working back at the Papa John’s where you worked in high school, you should look to get an internship or work in a related field. Always be building your resume!
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