Betaising the Alpha Male About the author: Franco is the founder and CEO of www.francoseduction.com of www.francoseduction.com
Franco Seduction is the Pick-up and Seduction Coaching School for Men. Franco is a consultant in the field of applied psychology. psychology. Franco Seduction is not only about getting laid. It is about helping men to build meaningful and satisfying relationships with women and making them happy. happy. Franco is the author of the best book about Pick-up and Seduction: the Manual of Seduction for Husbands, Single Men and Players. Franco has recently published in collaboration with his friends and business partners David Clare and Joseph Went South the Practical Manual of Female Psychology for the Practical Man.
Guys, here I describe the Process of Betaising the Alpha male and how to reframe it to make your woman and yourself happy in the relationship. The purpose of this article is positive. It is meant to help men to make of their relationship happier by enhancing the attraction their women feel for them.
All the tests a woman runs on men are meant to achieve only one purpose: to screen out weaker males and get for herself the Alpha dominant male. This is because this man will be the best protection for her and her children, the carrier of the best genes.
When she achieves her purpose: to shoot down weaker males and get for herself the Alpha male a process starts. It is the Process of Betaising the Alpha Male.
This process is largely unconscious for most of the women but there are exceptions. For example gold diggers are women who consciously use this process to gain power on a man with lot of money. If you listen to bar discussions between women you will find out that they speak all the time about this s ubject: how to catch a powerful man and control him.
There are things women never tell to their men, not even to their most beloved husbands.
Anyway we assume that - in most of the cases - the Process of Betaising the Alpha Male is unconscious to the woman herself. It is an instinct, a very strong instinct.
Why a woman would try to make weaker exactly that Prince she wanted so much as companion? Well there are several reasons:
- She wants to own him exclusively. The simplest reason in the world. - Female competition: in the deep of their hearts women know that the most Alpha of all the males is the one who never is exclusive to one woman. Already the fact that he is agreeing to be only with her is in a way “beta”. That´s why most of the women get so horny about the fantasy that their men could have sex with other women.
It is the so-called Social Proof: that tells to them that they made a good choice! If many women want their man that means they did a good choice.
A very sure way to loose your own woman in a relationship is to make her sure that no other woman wants you!
This does not necessarily mean to cheat on her.
Women like to fantasize about the idea that their man could potentially get other women, while being faithful to them. In a way, in the deeper of their psyche, they “sense” that if a man agrees to be only with them he is in a way agreeing to be a little bit “betaised”.
Anyway they have the deep need to make him weaker which would keep him from spreading his genes to other women.
- When she will be pregnant and for a longer period after the birth of the child she
will need protection. So if she does not have any psychological influence on him there is the risk that he will start to mess around exactly when she has the biggest need for his protection.
So what is the Process of Betaising ? It is a process starting soon after the woman has shoot down weaker males and her relationship with an Alpha male starts.
Well guys the truth is that this process lasts forever because women have in their deeper instincts:
- The need to test from times to times is their own man still Alpha.
- At the same time the need to change him into beta, to make sure he will be the only one to them.
This process is extremely dangerous for the relationship and one of the most dangerous killers of female attraction if the man does not know how to properly deal with it.
Why?
Because if the man, in a way, agrees to be betaised by her she will loose her attraction for him. So the paradox is: what a woman really wants in the process of betaising is exactly the contrary of what she is really doing to him.
The situation creates in the woman a schizophrenic conflict.
So the job of the man in a relationship is: never let her succeed in betaising you ! This does not mean necessarily to be unfaithful to her b ut it means to be aware of her betaising attempts and give her the right answers, from times to times.
In a way it means to understand that what a woman says/does in a relationship is
not always what she really wants. This is for many women largely unconscious as said, they are not really lying, they are only acting under the influence of very strong instincts, which contain the contradiction:
“I have to make weaker exactly the man I like lik e so much so I can c an be sure that he will become a Provider to me and will not spread his genes elsewhere”
Now there is a danger for the woman in this process: how could she find sexually attractive a man who agrees to be made weaker???
He would not be anymore a Man to her!
So the job of the man in the relationship is to understand that when his woman tries to make him weaker she must be dealt with by not giving her that possibility, not even once, otherwise she will loose sexual attraction and the relationship will deteriorate.
By doing this he must keep in his mind that the betaising attempts are largely unconscious from the woman.
Actually this is also a measure of psychological health of the individual woman: the more her betaising attempts are unconscious the more she is psy chologically healthy ( with some exception: for example depressed women who are afraid of sex and intimacy )
Of course gold diggers, man haters and psychologically disturbed women of any kind are exceptions to this. Many of them are largely aware of this process and use it deliberately for their either political or sick purposes.
The only rational solution with them is: never take these women seriously for a relationship !
A normal woman, who loves her husband, is generally totally not conscious of this process. In fact if you try to talk about this with a normal woman she will never admit that it is like this. Instead a gold digger - in a rare moment of honesty - will be an artist in describing how she can easily betaise an Alpha male.
I will never forget the comment of a gold digger when at our second meeting she realized she cannot reach my soul and a nd my bank account: “Franco, am I getting old?”
Now let´s analyze how the process of betaising develops itself:
- Repeating Tests Cyclically
Experts of Pick-up and Seduction know that every woman tests men at the beginning of the Mating Dance to screen for the Alpha male.
A less knows phenomenon is that a woman repeats her tests periodically in the relationship with her Alpha male. This is to make sure is that her man is still Alpha. At the same time this is also a way to control him. Being tested constantly is very tough and it drains energy.
When she does that along the relationship if the man:
1. Fails to pass her tests.
2. Lets her control him.
Her attraction starts to go down and she starts to escalate the attempts so to make him weaker and weaker psychologically and materially. At this stage the men who enter the Betaising Process make the huge cognitive mistake to believe that she will have to “support them” in their weakness.
What actually happens is the exact contrary: the process esc alates so to have the woman make them weaker and weaker.
Which are the most common tests?
- Manipulation.
Manipulation has a very bad reputation in male world but it is in woman´s world a widespread form of communication, which is not felt by women as “bad”. When a woman manipulates she feel that she is more “communicating” than doing something wrong. Anyway in the deeper of her instincts a woman knows that if her man is easily manipulated by her, he is surely not Alpha or if he was Alpha now he is not powerful anymore.
So she will repeat her manipulation attempts in the relationship periodically. You can recognize the manipulation from the structure of her approach and the use of the words we:
“What you think Darling if we would do this?”
“We should tell that person this and this.”
“I am sure we will deal with this problem together”
Or in the most extreme cases..
“This guy I am chatting with in Internet is only a friend, is it okay if I go on sharing emotions with him?” - then you find out that they were making out together a few months before in the guy`s apartment, maybe with her girlfriend they were teasing him sexually, maybe you find out that the word “friendship” for her meant that they were at night in the apartment of the guy and he was trying hard to have sex with her!
The most shocking example of the effect of female manipulation I know was a nice guy, who was bringing by car his girlfriend and her lover to the airport. Girlfriend and lover were leaving for a trip to the same hotel and same room and he was still wondering “do they have a relationship or are they just friends?”
Believe me: this really happened! This actually happens! Real world stories are better than novels sometimes.
If the woman is psychologically healthy and with a good self-esteem she will only try to feed her tests to his mind so to see how he reacts to a fake danger but she will not escalate to damaging his interests or his safety. s afety. If she is a woman with good self-esteem she will simply leave him if - along the relationship - he fails her tests and gets betaised.
A woman with good self-esteem who realizes that her guy is scared of other men will sooner or later leave him.
If the woman is psychologically sick and has h as a bad self-esteem she will almost probably escalate the testing to “acting out” and in the above example she may do things like going to the other guy`s apartment, have sex with him and let her boyfriend/husband know it. This will be often for the secret wish that he will act like a man. In these case the provocative behavior may lead to tragic consequences like him being violent to her or harming himself.
Now this process is largely unconscious and a nd innocent from the woman: she is testing her man to see if he will take her bullshit. If he does take it he is already betaised. From there she knows she will be able to control c ontrol him.
But what happens then to her attraction? Well it simply dies! Because if he a grees to be manipulated that means he is not Alpha anymore!
So it is the job of the man to never let her manipulate him so that she goes on feeling attracted to him!
In the case she would succeed in manipulating him she would harm herself on the longer term. She will loose attraction for him and their emotional life will die. So it is the responsibility of the man to keep her from manipulating, because a woman will do absolutely nothing to quit her manipulation attempts. She is driven into doing it by very deep instincts.
In the same way a violent man stops his violence only when put to face the consequences a woman using manipulation stops herself only when she understand that her own man will not let her manipulate him.
- Inducing Feelings of Guilt.
A man who takes too easily the role of the “guilty one” is not Alpha. Women know this instinctively. If he asks too easily for forgiveness for his existence he is not Alpha: he is the most beta of the men!
Real Alpha males believe in themselves and they are more prone to do decisions, lead and act, instead of being masochists and suffer s uffer the torture of the eternal guilt.
But an Alpha male without guilt can easily leave for war, hunting and maybe other women.
So one of the most widespread mean women use to betaise their men is to slowly have him into the frame: “You are the guilty one as default!”
This betaising mean is so widespread that it gets itself even into the room of professional helpers all the time tough rare professional helper really recognizes it´s importance.
A woman knows instinctively that a powerful Alpha male is always also the Alpha of the Group. If he feels all the time guilty he will be weak enough to want to protect her and her group and not another group nor leave for a war or hunting.
He will spend his energy torturing himself about his guilt instead of leaving for the forest, war or other women.
This can be done by the woman in so many ways:
- He is not choosing the right food at the supermarket.
- He does not use the slippers when walking on the floor.
- He does not fully understand her feelings.
- He is not sharing emotions with her enough.
The limits are only in the fantasy!
But this again contains ambivalence from her because - while making him feel guilty - what she really wants is exactly ex actly the opposite ! An Alpha male who is not asking for forgiveness for his behavior and his pride.
So this goes against the interest of the woman! She will lose attraction for him if he agrees to be made guilty about everything.
The job of the man - with the good effect of keeping her attraction on - is never to take the role of the guilty one!
That is not Alpha!
One interesting phenomenon to observe is how the attempts of a woman to make
her man guilty will escalate and assume a mechanical, stereotypical behavioral pattern when he is resisting them. She will tend to repeat again and again the same attempts. It is amazing to observe !
- Be Maternal To Him.
In the deep of her instincts a woman knows that if a man needs a mother too much he is not Alpha.
Anyway many women will try all what they can to be maternal to their men at different degrees! Why? Because the more he needs them the more they will control him.
Women know instinctively that need = power !
A real Alpha man reacts instinctively against this! He will never agree to get used to a too pleasant treatment, because he is used to survive in the forest or in war by eating - at need - even small, ugly animals!
This does not mean not to give her the possibility to be good to him. That would kill spiritually almost every woman. Maternal instinct is very important to women - but if the situation at home becomes so that the guy is not able to use washing machine, make food, take care of his clothes there, where a year before he was a proud warrior, able to cope with the forest and the war, then the situation is that he has been betaised !
Result: her attraction for him will die.
So the job of the man is: never get used to her being maternal to you. Her job is to be a woman to you, not a mother!
A real Alpha is not a boy he is a Man. Her maternal care is meant for the children
and not for you guys!
- Lack Of Respect.
This is not very used by healthy women but many women - especially those with a very passionate and strong instinctual world and with a s trong sexual desire - will test from times to times in the relationship how her Alpha will react if she crosses the border and lacks of respect to him.
Can be anything: flirting with someone else in front of his eyes, telling him something disrespectful, giving him orders and so on.
In the deep of her instincts a woman knows that if a guy does not react to her lack of respect he is not Alpha.
Result: if the guy does not react he is betaised and her attraction for him will die.
So women are damaging themselves in this way. Because if the guy does not react their emotional life will die!
But this is in their deepest instinct so it is the job of the man to never let her lack of respect to him!
- The dead end of the process of betaising: subservient behavior from the man.
If the woman succeeds in the process of betaising and the guy is not able to counteract in the proper way the unhappy end will be: he will become subservient to her.
When a man fails the tests of the process of betaising and is not able to be Alpha in the relationship woman’s attraction dies and the relationship dies.
Who would like to be with a man who is constantly begging, feels guilty, is easily manipulated? It is so boring and unattractive !
- Important warning.
An increasing number of women in industrialized countries started to act differently in regard to this process. They choose from the beginning of the relationship guys who are still unsure and not Alpha deliberately with the purpose to have children. This will not work on the longer-term and you will pay for it later on if you agree to this kind of arrangement.
For a guy it is a much better business to learn to become Alpha and learn seduction skills instead of even thinking to marry a woman, who controls him! These women must be detected at the first meeting avoided at any cost if you want a relationship or form a family!
Put your energy into business, pick-up, seduction and never enter a relationship where you are being made weaker !
Cheers, Franco http://www.francoseduction.com
