Treat the following texts as a stock of arrows in your quiver. When fired off, each text elicits a different response from a guy. Some are flirty, some show certainty and independence, others make you seem fun and intriguing, others create sexual desire. They aren’t all designed for the same situation. Some work better with guys you just met whilst others work best with guys you’ve been dating for a little bit. Whatever emotion each individual text is designed to trigger, all of them communicate that you are High Value. Here are your weapons. Enjoy!
1. “It’s a good thing we’re colleagues, because we would be so much trouble for each other” Guys are excited by the idea of trouble. The emotions associated with the word ‘trouble’ when it comes to attraction and desire are overwhelmingly positive, despite the literal meaning of the word. It implies fun, excitement, danger, and unpredictability, edginess – plus it makes him the one who wants to take a step forward to see what might happen.
2. When he asks you what you’re up to: “Just taking a bath…going to head out later” Most people’s response to the “what are you up to” question (a particularly uninspired text question, I might add) is to answer it with some similarly listless text. So when you send this to him – you’re implanting an exciting image in his head without being overtly sexual, which is ideal for sparking his interest. It’s said with a casual air but makes him think about you in a way that creates desire.
3. “Just bought this, thoughts?” (picture message) You take a picture in the mirror of you in the outfit (nothing sexual, just you looking cute) and send it to him with the above message. It’s a fun flirty message, and men are visual creatures. The advantage of this message is that you’ve also given him a chance to respond with something flirtatious, which makes it a great message if your relationship with him is a little on the platonic side right now. It gives him the opportunity to compliment the way you look in a way that doesn’t seem out of the blue for him.
4. “You should be here right now!” Statements are powerful. This text is great because you aren’t even asking the guy to join you. You’ve left the ball in his court. I love the ambiguity mixed with this message along with the inbuilt compliment. You haven’t actually said anything about where you are or what you are doing, which instantly builds intrigue and curiosity, but you’ve told him you want him to be there. This shows certainty whilst also making him feel desired, which is the ideal combination.
5. “I just had the most life changing burger. Almost sexual.” Men like food. If you’ve ever met one you probably know that already. So referencing something you are eating or have eaten is always a fun way to go. There’s also something primal about food, dare I say it even erotic at times. This text shows a guy that you don’t take yourself too seriously and makes you seem like someone he can hang out and relax with. Who is also sexy. Which makes you a dream woman.
6. “This jacket would look hot on you” (picture message) Take a picture of a jacket or a piece of clothing that you think would look attractive on him. Send it to him with the above message. It’s a cute way to show you are thinking about him, and using the word ‘hot’ instead of ‘nice’ shows him that you are sexually attracted to him, something that is important if you want to make sure you don’t get ‘friend-zoned’. Once again, you’re not actually asking anything. He’ll want to respond regardless. Trust me. Also, you are telling him the jacket is hot, rather than him specifically, so it doesn’t seem too forward.
7. “As hot as you are, I don’t move that fast ; ). But I’d be happy to see your pretty face if you want to take me on a date sometime this week” Some guys try to get overly sexual too quickly. This is an excellent way to put the brakes on sexually, but also shows desire for him at the same time, thus not destroying his ego. You’re not rejecting him, you’re telling him “not yet”.
8. “I’m not sure we can be friends anymore…” You can send this text as is, with no explanation, which of course makes him want to text back to find out why you can’t be friends anymore. Of course it is also a subtle, playful way of telling him that at the moment he is just a friend, with the embedded challenge for him to try to become more than that. This text is best sent in early stages, before you’ve hooked up.
9. “You, Me, pizza, lord of the rings, tonight. Be there.” This one is NOT for a first date scenario. It’s for somebody you are in the early stages of dating with, perhaps with whom you have already been intimate.
Obviously the details of this message can change. It doesn’t have to be pizza, and you can geek out on something other than Lord of the Rings (I may have over-shared about myself here…). The point of this message is its playfulness, its spontaneity, its directness, and its certainty. The worst that can happen? He doesn’t text back and you make other plans. If he likes you, he’ll definitely be texting to re-schedule, so it’s a great way to test how keen he is. Now, smart women like you realize that texting is only a tiny part of attracting Mr. Right. You also need to know... • • • • • •
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